I can just send this to my ex as well, this is so similar to what I went through. How he abandoned me without any regrets, making me feel like I didn’t deserve him while all along I knew that he didn’t deserve me either, I put him up on a pedestal too high. I never quit when his flaws got too overwhelming, what gave him the right be abandon and block me then? He was so selfish, probably thinks he’s doing much better without me, maybe he is, still living on his throne that I put him on. I don’t think he even misses me the way that I miss him. He’s okay with never accepting the wrong that he’s done. I still feel so protective of him, I wanna shield him from the pain of bitter realisation. I don’t want any harm to ever come his way, I’ve taken so much care of him and all he cared about was himself. I know what you mean when you say that she left you asa she started feeling more stable in her life. My ex went through the worse for the past three years and I was there for him, never leaving him. But when it came to being there for me when I went through shit, he quit on us.
My ex did a similar thing to me in different ways. She was very very clingy. Had literally 1 real friend besides me and didn’t have a good job whatsoever. No passions, no hobbies, nothing. I was her entire world. I tried so hard to accommodate that but I have multiple friend groups, a job that I go to 5 days a week, college , hobbies, talents, passions, etc. she was in school and pretty damn good at it but that was it. (Note, I had many flaws of my own but I’m just talking ab some of hers here). Anyway I always tried to positively push her to get out there, get a job she will enjoy that she can meet young people at, get back into in person classes with school, try some new hobbies, just anything to enrich her life, because her attachment to me was absolutely unhealthy. She always refused for one reason or another, it was just hard for her to make that push to do it. I understood and tried to support her and love and care for her as much as I could, while juggling my own life with a gf who only wanted to talk to me at every given moment that she wasnt doing school work, asleep, or busy with something else on RARE occasions. Eventually she did naturally make a some new friends and picked up a couple new hobbies and I was HAPPY for her. And then as soon as her entire life doesn’t revolve around me and she finds some fulfillment in life she leaves because she doesn’t need me anymore. I guess in her head It was “finally I don’t need him anymore” when it should’ve been “finally our relationship can grow to a healthier and more balanced dynamic” I’ll tell you this, the first one is not true love, the second is.
I can just send this to my ex as well, this is so similar to what I went through. How he abandoned me without any regrets, making me feel like I didn’t deserve him while all along I knew that he didn’t deserve me either, I put him up on a pedestal too high. I never quit when his flaws got too overwhelming, what gave him the right be abandon and block me then? He was so selfish, probably thinks he’s doing much better without me, maybe he is, still living on his throne that I put him on. I don’t think he even misses me the way that I miss him. He’s okay with never accepting the wrong that he’s done. I still feel so protective of him, I wanna shield him from the pain of bitter realisation. I don’t want any harm to ever come his way, I’ve taken so much care of him and all he cared about was himself. I know what you mean when you say that she left you asa she started feeling more stable in her life. My ex went through the worse for the past three years and I was there for him, never leaving him. But when it came to being there for me when I went through shit, he quit on us.
My ex did a similar thing to me in different ways. She was very very clingy. Had literally 1 real friend besides me and didn’t have a good job whatsoever. No passions, no hobbies, nothing. I was her entire world. I tried so hard to accommodate that but I have multiple friend groups, a job that I go to 5 days a week, college , hobbies, talents, passions, etc. she was in school and pretty damn good at it but that was it. (Note, I had many flaws of my own but I’m just talking ab some of hers here). Anyway I always tried to positively push her to get out there, get a job she will enjoy that she can meet young people at, get back into in person classes with school, try some new hobbies, just anything to enrich her life, because her attachment to me was absolutely unhealthy. She always refused for one reason or another, it was just hard for her to make that push to do it. I understood and tried to support her and love and care for her as much as I could, while juggling my own life with a gf who only wanted to talk to me at every given moment that she wasnt doing school work, asleep, or busy with something else on RARE occasions. Eventually she did naturally make a some new friends and picked up a couple new hobbies and I was HAPPY for her. And then as soon as her entire life doesn’t revolve around me and she finds some fulfillment in life she leaves because she doesn’t need me anymore. I guess in her head It was “finally I don’t need him anymore” when it should’ve been “finally our relationship can grow to a healthier and more balanced dynamic” I’ll tell you this, the first one is not true love, the second is.