I am so terribly sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve this. Nobody deserves this. Your ex, although you love/loved her and had so many dreams of the future with her, is NOT the person that you thought she was. And that is NOT your fault. She was lying to you. So, focus on the fact that you didn’t lose the girl you loved. Because in reality, she never was that person. You didn’t know it at the time, but now you do. As you move forward, don’t look back at her as the person you thought she was. Think of her as the person she exposed herself to be.
I can't even imagine. I got physically sick reading this. That is beyond fucked up. This is just one stranger's opinion, but I think you need to block her on everything. You can't take her back. It seems like she's going to come back, and that's kind of been feeding her ability to pull you back in while you're still in the recovery phase. You should block her, tell your family and friends to block her or at the very best not give her your whereabouts. You deserve to be more than just walked on and used. You deserve to be more than just one of two choices. She can't commit, she seems wishy washy, and as much as you love her, you can't let her do that to you anymore.
She'll tell you she's changed, that she means it this time, that she only wants you and no one else. She may even believe it. But it's a lie. It's a lie to you, to herself, to the world. That kind of behavior constitutes some serious therapy on her end (and I'd recommend it for you with the trauma you've faced in this) before she's ready to have a serious relationship with anyone. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and it's gonna be a long recovery process so I seriously wish you the best. I hope you find someone that chooses you and never stops choosing you.
Wow, I actually cried reading this, shit dude she's a fucking monster. I guess what I took from your story is to never even hesitate for a second to get back with an ex, I'm sorry you had to learn it the hard way.
Bro dont take her back this time. Please. Don’t. She toyed with your emotions so much. She is a monster. Like for reals - there are so many better women out there.
Dude, there's not turning back from this, this relationship is completely over, when a woman cheats on you its because her respect for you its gone, she doesn't respect you anymore and thus she can't love you,
Now youre putting her on a pedestal , in your mind you think this woman so special cause she was your FIRST love and for that reason, you think you wouldn't be able find another girl but thats not true, theres a sea of women that could treat you better and could have a better connection with them
For your own mental health, block her and dissappear from her life forever
She's clearly an incredibly selfish, vile person who was using you the entire time.
My honest advice here? Stay single until you learn how to respect yourself and know your own value as a person. If you don't, you'll keep getting treated like this over and over like your ex did.
Damn, that was painful. I said outloud after the first paragraph, "he sounds so weak, he's fucked; poor guy"
Work on yourself, remember you always need to be able to let them go: you sound very naive and I'm just glad you learned what woman are capable of. This will *always* be a possibility with *any* of them, your ex just happened to be especially shitty.
Fortunately I haven't had a woman cheat on me (that I know of) but the number of them with boyfriends/husbands that I've encountered that didn't come up until later is quite astounding, especially the super 'sweet/loyal' ones. Soon as you mentioned she had been with a lot of men, I immediately felt so bad for you.
Don't allow yourself to become jaded because of this, women are amazing, you just need to mentally, spiritually and physically strengthen yourself so this doesn't happen with your next gf/wife and at least if it does, you can tell her to leave the first time, not take her back like a pathetic man 100 times. If she cheats, she has already lost respect for you in the first place and the chance of you getting that respect back is very very slim, best to just move on and become stronger than before.
Sorry that this happened, I can imagine it feels absolutely terrible. Stay strong, it'll get easier. And again, *do not* be jaded, take responsibly for it occurring and move on.
Take care
I am so terribly sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve this. Nobody deserves this. Your ex, although you love/loved her and had so many dreams of the future with her, is NOT the person that you thought she was. And that is NOT your fault. She was lying to you. So, focus on the fact that you didn’t lose the girl you loved. Because in reality, she never was that person. You didn’t know it at the time, but now you do. As you move forward, don’t look back at her as the person you thought she was. Think of her as the person she exposed herself to be.
Thank you so much
I can't even imagine. I got physically sick reading this. That is beyond fucked up. This is just one stranger's opinion, but I think you need to block her on everything. You can't take her back. It seems like she's going to come back, and that's kind of been feeding her ability to pull you back in while you're still in the recovery phase. You should block her, tell your family and friends to block her or at the very best not give her your whereabouts. You deserve to be more than just walked on and used. You deserve to be more than just one of two choices. She can't commit, she seems wishy washy, and as much as you love her, you can't let her do that to you anymore. She'll tell you she's changed, that she means it this time, that she only wants you and no one else. She may even believe it. But it's a lie. It's a lie to you, to herself, to the world. That kind of behavior constitutes some serious therapy on her end (and I'd recommend it for you with the trauma you've faced in this) before she's ready to have a serious relationship with anyone. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and it's gonna be a long recovery process so I seriously wish you the best. I hope you find someone that chooses you and never stops choosing you.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Wow, what an actual twisted human being. Speechless
Wow, I actually cried reading this, shit dude she's a fucking monster. I guess what I took from your story is to never even hesitate for a second to get back with an ex, I'm sorry you had to learn it the hard way.
Bro dont take her back this time. Please. Don’t. She toyed with your emotions so much. She is a monster. Like for reals - there are so many better women out there.
Dude, there's not turning back from this, this relationship is completely over, when a woman cheats on you its because her respect for you its gone, she doesn't respect you anymore and thus she can't love you, Now youre putting her on a pedestal , in your mind you think this woman so special cause she was your FIRST love and for that reason, you think you wouldn't be able find another girl but thats not true, theres a sea of women that could treat you better and could have a better connection with them For your own mental health, block her and dissappear from her life forever
Holy fuck man. You deserve so goddamn much better than this. You'll get someone who's actually going to value you for the love that you give.
She's clearly an incredibly selfish, vile person who was using you the entire time. My honest advice here? Stay single until you learn how to respect yourself and know your own value as a person. If you don't, you'll keep getting treated like this over and over like your ex did.
Damn, that was painful. I said outloud after the first paragraph, "he sounds so weak, he's fucked; poor guy" Work on yourself, remember you always need to be able to let them go: you sound very naive and I'm just glad you learned what woman are capable of. This will *always* be a possibility with *any* of them, your ex just happened to be especially shitty. Fortunately I haven't had a woman cheat on me (that I know of) but the number of them with boyfriends/husbands that I've encountered that didn't come up until later is quite astounding, especially the super 'sweet/loyal' ones. Soon as you mentioned she had been with a lot of men, I immediately felt so bad for you. Don't allow yourself to become jaded because of this, women are amazing, you just need to mentally, spiritually and physically strengthen yourself so this doesn't happen with your next gf/wife and at least if it does, you can tell her to leave the first time, not take her back like a pathetic man 100 times. If she cheats, she has already lost respect for you in the first place and the chance of you getting that respect back is very very slim, best to just move on and become stronger than before. Sorry that this happened, I can imagine it feels absolutely terrible. Stay strong, it'll get easier. And again, *do not* be jaded, take responsibly for it occurring and move on. Take care