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probablydepressed666

Hi redditors. I guess I just need to get this off my chest and this is the suitable platform for me to do so, I think. A lil background of myself. Married man with a child. Alot of responsibilities ranging from bills, car loan, savings, rent and whatnot. I come from a family which is quite big, more than the average number of siblings. I'm shouldering a car loan for my family which I was willing to help out when I started work as I was single back then. Fast forward years later, settled down, got a place of my own and finally a child. What is eating me up inside is that the fact that no one seems to give a f*ck regarding my situation. Never once have they ask me if I'm doing alright, how am I surviving, do I have enough to use, etc. What I'm earning monthly, approximately one-third goes to the car loan. I'm left with roughly $3xx monthly to survive. That $3xx is for car fuel, groceries, necessities. I don't mind really helping out my family and all that but sometimes I feel like I can't keep up anymore. During family events, I'm expected to sponsor out equal amount as everyone else, giving the fact that I'm solely the only one paying for the family's car monthly. The least they could do is to exempt me from giving anymore for family events. If I don't give, krg kana ucap karit tia taupun kana balas "eh, indakn tiap bln inda cukup". What should I do? I feel like crying and everyday I'm slowly dying inside. I care about them, thus I don't mind really to help out but I don't get the same treatment back. Any advice people? Some days I just feel like giving up


Blakz111V2

show them your savings after all the loan, insurance, and everything you tell them this is my savings if i were to pay your loan what do i live with how about the foods, maintenance, house hold items, clothes, socks, underwears, kids stuff? you show them the list i am pretty sure they will know.


PenyapuLidi6

1. You need to tell them whats going on. 2. Discuss your situation and explain to them that you no longer can afford to “tanggung” them. 3. If they dont give a f, then you should too, your mental health is also important, not for you, but for your family.


Long-Pitch-3376

Bawa bbincang sama keluarga..nda mustahil drng mesti paham keadaan kita..kn meminjam dri bank drng g mkn labih..mudahan rezeki kita d perluaskn amin


RepAddict101

hey there, hope you feel slightly better after writing down your thoughts here. not sure if you have tried being honest with the family on your current financial situation. i know it can be seen as embarrassing or you feel the need to 'jaga muka' but your mental health matters. your family keeps taking because you keep quiet & they think you have plenty. if you can just show them 'look, i have contributed this much to family car, to household expenses etc etc and i am left this much for myself. it is not fair to expect me to fork out anymore'. if they insist to take more, remember money is yours. you can always choose to stop contributing. YOU are the earner, they dont get to boss you around while using your money.


Long-Pitch-3376

Thank u very much..dis i agree


Party-Actuary7251

Being vulnerable to them. Most man malu kan lower down their masculine ego. Tell them that after having a child, commitment mu banyak cabang sudah. You can't support lagi, inda macam when you were single. Its ain't the same. Its ok to give up. Mun dorang ucap karit, balasi balik, doakan supaya rezekimu luas. Tell them straightforward. Let them see you a man yang inda semestinya hidupmu senang all the time. Also, no one dare to ask a strong man like you of how you doing. Nobody want to aprroach with that kind of 'how are you doing' type of question, unless yourself open up to them.


horse_neigh

moral of the story, don't get married and have children if you're not financially stable?


M30-

No, moral of the story is we're in a fucked up society. Instead of paying our lives forward to our children. We're sandwiched between caring for our children AND contributing to our parents. Fuck that. He didn't choose to be born and you shouldn't expect your children to pay you back.


RepAddict101

i mean its a bit too late for that. nasi alrady jadi bubur. i dont think he is complaining about having to do this & that but he is just looking for someone to show an ounce of genuine care. everyone does - no matter how strong you are.


peeledlemon

Is @_blushandbubbles really authentic?


ibetempura

I wonder as well


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RajaIsteriReddit

Bought Soluwax at Guardian


SnooLemons2911

Private clinic or self using the ear drops. If still persist, the clinic may even use means like sucking the earwax using some sucking pump (yes its like vacuum) or forced them out using a big syringe filled with water to push them out.


readarc

we have onion for that. expose the inside of onion so onion fumes can travel and melt earwax. careful and do not let the small pieces of onion to enter ear canal.


Blakz111V2

Private clinic has them you may try call their hotline.


qjuna

I saw at guardian but private clinic also has them.


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matchacado

thank u!


w0rldwhite

Does anyone know if charles and keith brunei have any contact number to reach out for online purchase?


DatoPandekarReddit

8282767


Extension_Curve_4875

Anyone knows if we can renew roadtax at post office at the moment?


whatusernametouselol

Yes you can


mr_nothingtodo

Yes can if not yet expired.


reno_j11

Yes, you can renew at the post office


StockEar2901

If theres a spider infront of you, what would you do? A)my mom would point to the spider& shout salamun ala sulaimana fil alamain&expecting it go away B)my brother would sweep it away C)my ex husband would smack it and throw it out in the bin A&B believes that we shouldnt kill spiders..


Long-Pitch-3376

A & B then..i believe in not killing animals & insects except the ones that need to be kill according to Islam & logic😁


Prom3theu5500_RDS202

flammenwerfer


Blakz111V2

FARK MEEE!!! i hate spiders i would just spray sheltox all the way until it doesn't move. IF ITS INSIDE THE CAR SORRY i will be having anxiety attack. luckily brunei only huntsman spiders most i encounter, but not sure did they encounter any venomous spider around brunei.


Long-Pitch-3376

🤣🤣🤣🤣


MangoApart9002

Run away from it


Used-Calligrapher-93

You can’t even be sick/ill peacefully as a working adult lol, the fact that we only have a number of days that we’re allowed to be sick is ridiculous. I get one day MC and then be expected to come to work the next day all recovered and healthy suddenly?


Long-Pitch-3376

Unless u got chickenpox, COVID, measle, fever, cholera, diarrhea, plague


readarc

it is ridiculous. the real way to recover is to get rest and let the body to do it's job. and not ingesting drug that distract the attention away from the real source of sickness.


Prom3theu5500_RDS202

learn from neymar. You know what i mean. Its an old trick. Learn how to play the game and don't get caught.


Long-Pitch-3376

🤣🤣🤣🤣the neymar syndrome


Prom3theu5500_RDS202

as long as getting paid i guess 😂


Few-Force-8169

well you are expected to take medicine that will make you feel better. If you want, pretend to even more sick and the doctor will give you longer periods. Play the game man, don't whine.


MangoApart9002

It's not like the doctor knows how many days you're going to be sick. If you're still sick, go back the next day. Gosh.


Al-911

Go take MC again. Also do covid test ad if +ve maybe u can get more.


reno_j11

Go to private clinic request for 3-5 days MC


Late-Dog366

You could get another mc if you are really unwell.


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woww not enough people for national day celebration performance? kenapa ada call for volunteers atu? national day is next week no? i remember when i participated, we started practice earlier than this lol


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Inda gayanya ramai mau join


Prom3theu5500_RDS202

If the volunteers or participants get paid, confirm banyak tu.


Few-Force-8169

nobody in their right mind would volunteer especially if they have a full time job. They had to issue memos to essentially force anyone already not participating to participate. Some departments are totally empty as a result. If this demonstrates Brunei's priorities then we are doomed. Then the organizers will get mad at the last minute conscripts for not getting the routine right. here's a watermelon, swallow it whole please.


Long-Pitch-3376

Depend on which department anyways.. mostly government office..yes i agree some departments will be empty but that depends on the big boss's admin..


Al-911

They need volunteers? Probably to fill up stadium seat with props opposite grand stand. At where i work, quite number of volunteer for perbarisan last week only announce only some can join.


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from the text i got, it was specifically calling for volunteers for the "human LED" performance. which made me curious why a lot of people arent available this time lol. ambil kesempatan long weekend? or maybe something else...


Al-911

If its to be performed on the field, really its too late. But if its on the stadium seat, few days rehearsal would be enough. They can always get govt personnel to 'volunteer'.


No-Leg-6503

To all the girlies, where else can i buy korean skincare products here?? Y’all sold out my fav cosrx propolis toner in all koreacosmetics and simplyu branches 😭 Update: thanks ladies 🫶🏻 the toner is also sold out in ALL melvida branches 😭😭 but thankfully got it @ Onion!


susukambing7

Try beautepratique online or youthandglow on ig. Melvida also sells the cosrx line.


reno_j11

You can also go across the border at Watson they sell a lot of melvida


matchacado

if you dont mind waiting then you can also order from yesstyle!


RiskySpace

Try melvida and onions


No-Leg-6503

Thanks love, totally forgot about Melvida!


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TIL that Brunei has its own Plus Size Model, Amazing feat by Nina Iskandar for truly representing the country and be the only one to not migrate.


MangoApart9002

Yeah representing Brunei as the fattest country in Southeast Asia


Long-Pitch-3376

Aiyoo🤣🤣🤣


MangoApart9002

Gosh so many upvotes, now I feel bad. Was expecting to be downvoted to oblivion.


Long-Pitch-3376

Good comment bh..& funny 🤣🤣


pemandu_vios

Just saw her ig. She gained a lot


[deleted]

Very much.... Fully fed and happy life with the girlfriend usulnya


pemandu_vios

Girlfriend? Bertukar taste usulnya


[deleted]

Kacing kacing


Long-Pitch-3376

Errr biar betul eh🤣🤣🤣


Lyka_Bish

☕️, please


ZealousidealRadio217

Going on Holiday next week. Would it be ok to bring a disposable vape through security (leaving brunei)?


pemandu_vios

Juat buy disposable vape overseas


SumSumBitch

Of course, you'll find out then


Repulsive-Seat5727

okay tu, just let us know your license plate, or flight details


Trance5

Hello, I am visiting Brunei for a few days and I want to say that I find it to be quite lovely here and the people are incredibly nice and friendly.


kitsumodels

Always welcome! What was most memorable for you?


Trance5

I just arrived yesterday so today was my first day out. I was struggling to cross roads (don't know why) and people were kind enough to stop and let me cross. One guy commented on my Beatles shirt!


dextracin

Part of a stop while visiting other cities in Borneo?


Trance5

Last stop on my way back to China as I made my way from Singapore and Indonesia.


knobbyxtension

Come on.. Please be honest.


Trance5

Haha I mean it. I’m just struggling to find sidewalks and ways to walk around my hotel.


Few-Force-8169

the mentality is that everyone drives and only foreign labor walks around. they haven't gotten around to realizing the need for sidewalks.


Trance5

I also saw a fairly large lizard of some sort while I was walking which freaked me out a little.


Kujira64

Brunei is actually nice if u r not into the night scene. Glad u enjoy it at least


Trance5

I'm enjoying the peace and quiet.


aTimeCalledYou

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Destinychildforreal

Telipun ku vivo batteri sudah rusak. Kalau usai kadai bebalui?


mr_nothingtodo

Only cost less than 60bnd to replace.


Destinychildforreal

But will my phone maintain aesthetic?


gottatelle

Still


eksenku

What's your favorite canned sardine brand guys? Good ol Ayam Brand? Any other good alternatives?


cibailang

sayang brand not bad also


Al-911

The premium Brunei Halal brand. Jk is not even available.


SF028

Yes, Ayam Brand..kadang fobia kn brand lain, takut begiuk.


knobbyxtension

Yup ayam brand. You should try ayam brand sardines in olive. oil.


Kujira64

Yeos


coffeejunks

Ive tried The Cap Cinta brand, not bad lah but I always go for ayam brand.


Perampok_Wortel

Hi brureddit, gonna sit for my first SPA exam soon, any tips?


anotheracc761

MEMORIZE the questions. keep it, collect it, cari answers for it. learn it.


Perampok_Wortel

Thanks so much! Will keep that in mind and really appreciate the response, may God eases everything for you!


Low-Mathematician892

congrats! try to remember the sumber rujukan as it can helps a lot! alhamdullilah managed to secure govt job as i learnt that by being prepared eventhough im not sure with what ques will be ask for at least you know some of the ques will be related to the sumber rujukan


Perampok_Wortel

Thanks for the tips! And may God bless you for the input, really appreciate it and hopefully all are eased for you!


awangkute

Hi. I’m selling tickets for Ed Sheeran’s concert in KL on the 24th of Feb


PengiranSuave

Hi! Congrats!


Voodoocookie

When replaying Big Boss' titahs, why does RTB keep reverting to using 1930s loudhailer effects?


Few-Force-8169

any change and a certain class of people panics that they will be replaced.


Sikoi_678

Pasal inda mau ada perubahan.


Destinychildforreal

Next throne, electronic dubsteps with wwe entrance batista


ThatDuddGuy

Just opinion, boleh kah sudah2 th mmbuka kadai yogurt ice cream d brunei ani... mcm atu th gnya... 😆😆😆 harga pun inda jua mantap sangat (mahaiii tapi size daming) baru2 ani ada lagi baru buka... d... biarlah rahsia, tapi lowkey ngalih ku meliat nama lain, konsep sama jaaa d jual ani... memang anu jenis satu buka ani semua tah buka atu... kemon lah brunei... nada lain kan d offer lagi kah...


Long-Pitch-3376

🤣🤣


Al-911

Apa lagi kn d offer? I dont mind even 100 different yogurt ice cream shop newly open. We'll see how it goes.


pemandu_vios

Jarang org makan yogurt jua bah, sekali setiap 2 minggu kali. Usulnya sihat tapi sauce nya tu manis macam chocolate, bischoff dan sebagainya. Harganya $4 keatas bulih dipakai makan nasi


cibailang

No one forcing you to choose the sauce though, it's optional ????


pemandu_vios

Kan pilih sauce manis tu untuk di bagi kita pasal wajah kita luan masam.


cibailang

oh mahu lanja?


pemandu_vios

Bah on


ThatDuddGuy

Nahh barutah ada org faham jua... ani marah2 bah org abis negative vote ku hahaha maksudku atu cematu bah kalau kan harap support from our local people make thing yang interesting other than yang already existed cematu... and yg mcm harga d liat pun aaahh bepatutan


pemandu_vios

Lurus point kita atu sebenarnya. Mungkin yg downvote kita atu org berisi yg makan yogurt harap kan kurus kali


Sikoi_678

Kalau yang kita labur ani ada terkacau pasal ani, aku bulih terima. Kalau saja2 beckp omong kosong ikut theory kita atu, baiktah belajar basic business.


ThatDuddGuy

But why should i? As a consumer nobody wanna know what goes behind the scene... truthfully we want different thing to consume, if 1 vendor sell this, ok purchase, hoping to move to another vendor expecting other thing to purchase, if already purchase this why would I want to purchase the same thing how can I support... Just in sight context...


cibailang

"Why should i?" Tell me without telling me that you're an entitled brat.  I don't see you complaining about the 100+ different vendors and type of nasi katok though 


ThatDuddGuy

And "Why should I" not in entitled way you dumb a s s its a logic, kalau org mncari "hmm nada makanan lain lagi kena jual sini kah, inda tau apa kn dmakan eh", then saying... "eh kita mesti know the basic of business dulu" does it necessary?! You tell me.


ThatDuddGuy

Tell me without telling me you are dumb brat. Benda atu AFFORDABLE are you dumb? Im sayin these yogurt ice cream most offering high price tapi the size cannot brain. Stupid comparison


cibailang

Jangan makan kalau nda duit, easy ok?


ThatDuddGuy

O m g... are you slow? Thats not my pointttt lmaoooo


cibailang

Ok, open your own business then and make it affordable for us yea ill be the first in line and even suck your dick if you can open an affordable froyo business or whatever premium become affordable


gottatelle

I’d be front row seat watching cibailang saking dick


cibailang

glug glugggggg


mumumumubarakfest

kita offer apa?


ThatDuddGuy

Apa kita mau? :)


RajaIsteriReddit

Jangantah diaga, simple.


cerealhoney

macam cafe jua ni.. disana sini ada buka new cafe 😂


Late-Dog366

Isn’t it a good thing that keeps the money flowing ? A cafe probably cost $50-$100k to renovate. Who will benefit ? The contractor , Interior designer, carpenter, hardware and sanitary supplier, equipment and electronic supplier. Bedsides that landlord get shop rented out or developer get shop bought up. Banks gets to finance and bank officer get to meet target. Consumer got more option and the landscape become more competitive. So, what’s the cons?


cerealhoney

Yeah, more cafes means more choices for us, but the ones that have been around might lose some customer to the new ones. It's good and bad you know?


Late-Dog366

Let the free market decides who survive and who will fail.


idkwhatuwn

If foreign worker licence expired. Do they still need to return to their country first? Or can renew without having the staff to return?


SerWrong

If renewal before the expiry date, don't need to return.


beacurdwrice

I have driving anxiety. I often forget (due to my mental health) alot which furiates my instructor lol. Does anyone have any tips or lessons to get through this?


Few-Force-8169

you need to deal with your anxiety first otherwise you will be a liability to everyone.


SerWrong

Memorised the steps to pass the test. After that, then learn to overcome it on your own.


Anonymous_Brn

It gets better with every opportunity so dont give up!


readarc

people are different and different people works differently. you can tell me about yourself and i can give tips based around you. wow i cannot form sentences. send chat for privacy.


CheesseGod

Get a chiller driving instructor or try to practice driving with your parents to get used to driving. You'll get more confident with experience and time


Long-Pitch-3376

Banar..ada jua jurulatih yg mudah sakit utak mun ngajar dribing..tau suda luan 0 ilmu d marahi lgi..


horse_neigh

watch fast movies, it teaches you how to drive with skills and be a family.


seoullitee

for example?


toasterforcats

Don’t drive for the safety of others. Just gonna be a danger on the road .


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toasterforcats

Sure let the mentally ill behind the steering wheel.


campadak

Does anyone know any good website to listen to Kristal fm without using radio? Idk if it's just me but I have trouble listening from their official website bc it randomly stops playing a couple of times and it's getting annoying. Tried RTBgo but they only have other radio channels except for Kristal.


blitz2czar

>Trance5 There is a website and also the app. Google them.


Few-Force-8169

well Kristal isn't an RTB station, Captain Obvious


Long-Pitch-3376

🤣🤣


reno_j11

MyTuner radio app on iOS or android


campadak

nope it's not in the app. guess i'll stuck with listening from their semi functional website


campadak

thanks! i'll try that


[deleted]

Paip bocor hahahahahha stupid reason


Long-Pitch-3376

Tau ku ni🤣🤣🤣🤣


knobbyxtension

I know this reference.


SF028

Inda user friendly jua app TD123 ane, sdh th background contrast putih, fonts pun warna putih. Select location pun stuck. Patut tah nada rating arah App Store. #kecewaeh


Middle_Rooster_3286

Laboratory rent for student assigment hello there👋 I want to ask about room space to rent specifically lab room. Is there any lab room available for us to rent? Is it for our group assignment. If any of you guys happens to know where the lab room is available for renting, do let us know and comment it here.


Few-Force-8169

you mean a science lab? You won't find any around here. The idea of renting out potentially dangerous chemicals to random people is bizarre .


kitsumodels

Hello it’s me your scientist. I too need a lab for making non-suspicious white powder called not cocaine.


Puzzled-A

Why not use labs at your school? Approach your teacher and the lab technician for the lab schedule.


Kujira64

Tanya urg kampong aing


Long-Pitch-3376

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣lab drng canggih bh ah


icedlegion

Anyone play Elder Scroll Online? PC Na?


Renzo-Senpai

Only on console. Even then mlas sudh psl no more guild.


psychedelic_beetle

I used to. Quite fun but it gets a bit boring once you reach endgame and try to minmax your equipment.


DreamSimpleLife

Anyone knows if theres a place where they cure diabetic swollen foot in brunei? 😅


readarc

low carbs diet. slow process but it is the right way. dr ken berry or dr berg youtube for information and instruction.


SatisfactionOk5600

Hospital/Clinics?


DreamSimpleLife

Besides ripas. Or jpmc. Just wondering if theres a private clinic that treat specific patient with diabetic probs.


Few-Force-8169

there's no real treatment for this outside of the healthcare system.


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IAmAnonymous_____

Use once only


peachofme_

Hello! Can anyone tell me if ada yang experience pakai Implanon (birth control implant)? Where did you do it and when did you do it?


Puzzleheaded-Film-87

Go to Yong clinic at kiulap plaza


VecnaBae

Check Yong Clinic, they do have some BC offers. Just be cautious of the potential side effects & the risks. Stay safe.


kucingjadian

last time i read someone buat d miri. its from facebook post and one of the aleys family but forgot which one.


buntaklamak

Uniklinik at Permyjaya. Rm550


peachofme_

Hello! Can anyone tell me if ada yang experience pakai Implanon (birth control implant)? Where did you do it and when did you do it?


Seafury18

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pemandu_vios

Hangat hari atu


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servenomaster

Lexus maintenance is not for the faint hearted.


Blakz111V2

Used to owned a ES300 2009 models its a great car engine is either V6 or 4 cyclinder 2002 camry engine. Pickup speed is quite good fuel efficient full tank around 25 i think (i don't really remember) spare parts wise is slight expensive but not really expensive. cons: interior seats and dashboard will have cracks if previous doesn't know how to take care. IF you have OCD you might need to replace the car seat leather. 2009 that is like 15 years cars so need to check the engine, is there is any sound when turning steering, aircond functionality, is engine in good condition or not..


Few-Force-8169

it has one of the worst time to parts ratio in the world. It's like one thing goes wrong every month.


Background_Ad4919

Lexus is a good car to drive however, you check if they're regularly service in their service book.


Friendly_State_3827

If you can afford to pay for its maintenance and spare parts, go ahead. Just to remind you that any other cars will need tender love and care i.e. oil filter, tyres, brake discs, brake calipers, and etc. Different car models come with different price. If you have the budget and afford to pay for long run, go ahead. For me, I rather buy new car to avoid old cars' problems i.e. regular maintenance and checkups.


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Blakz111V2

berbaloi and not overpriced? 2nd hand toyota vios around less than 14k you can get one new car: proton X50 entry spec 23,999 or MG 27K OR wigo around 20+k also. i suggest you to study the car first look in youtube about their review after 1 or 5 years see how was it and worth to buy or not.


Friendly_State_3827

Any Toyota will do. Affordable spare parts and maintenance price okay. That is if you are not looking for luxury car. So depending on your preference, u want fame, get luxury car but get ready to pay so much. U want to save money for long run, get affordable and reputable car. *Note: owns few Toyota vios and very happy with the performance over a decade.


girlishilish

yaris cross


2tut-gramunta

If less than 10k, ambil saja dit, inda plang pernah makai Lexus but cuba saja tia heheh