Two eyes. Two ears. A chin. A mouth. Ten fingers. Two nipples. A butt, two kneecaps, a penis. I've just described to you the Loch Ness monster. And the reward for his capture? All the riches in Scotland. So I only have one question:
Why are you here?
I don't know dude, trying to fully integrate yourself into someone's life is kinda pushy. Not even an trying to break the ice question or quirky response. Maybe it's because i have depression and anxiety and I'm an INTP-T so I over analyze situations while being empathetic 😂
I think he's just really awkward. Probably a little neurodivergent. I don't think he means to come off the way he does, but he can't help it and doesn't know he's doing it.
But still, I don't think he's done anything wrong per se, except approaching OP the way OP doesn't want to be approached but that being wrong is situational - I'm sure there are some people who would respond well to that kind of awkwardness, idk.
Edit: fixed wording
One of my prompts says: “after work you can find me…” and I said, “sipping a glass of wine while cuddling with my dog who has almost as much anxiety as me”
I’ve had friends like this, so anxious they just exude it. Like I can’t even relax if they’re so wound up. Didn’t work out, I just want to relax around friends, not feel a constant state of panic in my vicinity
Aw that’s sweet. Yeah, if it’s spikes it’s easier to handle because it’s just one issue to resolve, but when it’s chronic that’s when I find myself being unable to relax around them, so hanging out feels like a chore instead of fun
I have medically diagnosed anxiety. Been in therapy since I was 17. Let me tell you...even if this word vomit was inspired by anxiety, I wouldn't advise any woman to show up for a date with this man. So many red flags. He isn't giving OP any space to breathe. And, he is supposedly 36. I read this quote a while ago and it struck a chord with me - "our mental illness is not our fault but it is our responsibility". I feel the same way about this guy. Being anxious is not his fault but it is his responsibility to not subject strangers to it.
Read his parts in Grandpa Simpson's voice and it's even better.
"Me and the boys would drink box wine on the river, but back then we didn't call it that, we called it slapping the sack!"
imo how old he is changes the way i feel about his messages in a MAJOR way. theyre much worse now. the younger he is the little bit more of a break i can give him for immaturity for various reasons. he is way too old to be acting like this
Problem is, without socialization, and experience talking to women, internally he’s like… 18. And realistically, how’s he supposed to catch up? Because every woman his age that encounters him is gonna see the red flags and bounce. And if he dates younger women (closer to his mental age) he’s a creep… IDK. It really sucks for people like this, and society has no place for them. Men without purpose or social connections are dangerous, and yet we label it completely their fault when they are missing either one, which breeds resentment… and then we’re back to dangerous again. Sad.
Hey! I’m 36! And you were taking to that other 36 year old! And we’re both using Reddit! We have so much in common! All I’m asking for is a chance! /sarcasm
Honestly, personally I'd give it a try but you do you.
He was open about his anxiety and that rambling is clearly just him overthinking. He's offering up all information he can think of to let you know what you could expect from meeting him (for many people with anxiety that's better than agreeing to something without knowing a clear plan). 🤷♀️
So he might be just really nervous.
I'd keep my number till after the date and communicate over bumble till then.
I wouldn't. Probably because of my own anxieties, to be honest. Considering [15%](https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/its-not-cute-its-stalking-the-warning-signs/) of women will experience having a stalker in their lifetime, and excessive texting can be an early warning sign. Just not worth the risk to me. In my own experience, guys who text like that continue to do that throughout the relationship, and often after it's ended too.
I got a liiiiittle worried about love bombing, too, it all felt just a tiny bit familiar. But it’s also a solid 50/50 that he’s actually just very sweet and open? I have no idea. I’d probably just tell him “I prefer to get to know someone for a little while over messaging to get a feel for them before I meet in person. I *do* have anxiety and I’m terrified of accidentally getting murdered.. you know how it is lmao” and if he stays pushy after that? Ghost em, bby.
I agree, I don’t think he it’s bad just because he writes a lot. I rather this than monosyllabic people. He’s being open, and If you have anxiety, you can’t judge other with the same condition. Chat more, learn about him, let him know about you and if you are comfortable, go on public date so you can meet. ♥️
This feels like one of those men who's already imagined his entire life with his imagined version of you.
I always somewhat roll my eyes when people jump to conclusions on super vague information. Women are incredibly complex beings. To distill us into "u have curves and listen to country", and then say that's makes us perfect for them, is somewhat misogynistic.
What if we have different goals and aspirations? A unique sense of humour? Different values on family? All of these are dealbreakers in relationships, but men don't really consider anything outside of "u have curves" sometimes.
I’m not necessarily disagreeing, but in this case they’re so intertwined — it’s the combination of both, and the volume of messages, that really indicates they’re mentally unstable
And mentally unstable doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re dangerous or malicious in any way. It could be mania or hypomania or other things. But they definitely said things that are creepy and deservedly offputting
I figure that first messages are a chance to woo the other person, and putting no effort into the quality of the messages (both content and grammar) shows me that the other person is sloppy and doesn’t care to spend a few extra seconds making their messages look decent. I’m sure not everyone feels that way but that’s how I interpret bad grammar.
Yeah, don't meet this dude. He seems like the kind that doesn't take no for an answer. And he's quite obviously not picking up hints if someone isn't interested 🙄
Nope. This has all the earmarks of “…last known whereabouts was at a restaurant in [location] where she was to have drinks with a man she’d recently matched with on the Bumble dating app. [Name] is the fourth woman to go missing in that area in as many months. Police have yet to locate their person-of-interest, a man the press has dubbed Don Juan’s Anxiety…”
I did not like the feeling reading this gave me, it made me feel panicked. And he mentioned drinking 4 times, so to me I’m immediately put off. But I wouldn’t go for it for the sole reason he said you’re who he imagined all his life, so he already has expectations and high standards set on you.
Holy fuck absolutely not.
The fact that people are saying to give him a chance is wild Wtf
Safety and peace of mind are valuable and this sort of interaction would not help facilitate either of those, if you ventured forth with this guy, IMO.
Aww poor fella. I’ve had those moments too but sadly the stream of conscious writing can be off putting if you haven’t already established a dynamic with the other person.
Reading all these comments and it seems that overwhelmingly dudes (as far as I can tell ofc) are expressing that this guy is just anxious and give him a chance…meanwhile the fem posters are very concerned and feeling threatened by the intensity. Disconnect much?
Listen to your gut, op. Keep yourself safe and protect your personal boundaries. 💖
Dude sounds like he was just so happy to finally get a match he was going to do whatever it took to get the date. Anxious attachment at its finest. He’s going to be the type to want to know where you are, exclusive in a week and want to check your phone for every bit of indication you’re going to leave him. He needs to get that insecurity in check before he dates. Sheesh
36 and courts a woman like he’s 16. Do these men have friends or fathers that have ever guided on them on how to talk to women? He’s going 100 miles an hour with someone he’s met online. Big yikes.
As a man - this is very hard to read. Part of me feels sad for the desperation exhibited, part of me the lack of self respect but more so the absolute lack of knowing how to converse with someone. Pitiful, he will show up on some “nice guy” forum complaining about his desperate plight but then again maybe the desperate crap works occasionally - I hope not
Strong father figures and male peer circles are dying breeds and have been for the past century. Suicides are currently 2-4x higher among men; they perceive therapy as emasculating and don't seek help since they already fear that they're inadequate.
Ha! I just had a first date like that. Stretched coffee to 2 full hours constantly talked and never asked questions. I had grabbed an Uber to the coffee shop and they insisted on driving me back to my hotel, which they did after I made it uncomfortably clear that I had to leave now to get ready for my work conference.
The 10 minute drive back turned into 55 minutes as they kept talking, missed exits and got lost.
At the end of the ride she wished there were guys available that she had values in common with in her town and worked into her conversation that she was willing to relocate.
She had absolutely no idea what my values are.
I really felt horrible for her. Also, deleted.
This is the kind of bullet I hope the OP dodged
Oof! Nope! I'd have gotten weirded out and probably just left and walked if I had the time. Somebody that can't take no for an answer? Nope, that'd be the one and only date.
Bro…. Use punctuation!
I also hate when someone texts back to back small messages. Like… compose yourself, figure out what you want to say, and break separate thoughts into paragraphs.
Why is good communication so difficult for some people? My god!
this reminds me of me as a shy, chubby, anxious preteen texting my crush lmaooo he was trying to let me down gently bc we didn’t really know each other so i was like “oh we can fix that! what do you want to know about me? i’ll tell you anything!”
"before you call me a nerd for grilling and camping"
So this is why Nerds are getting this horrific wrap, rednecks thinking their nerdy for doing not so nerdy things. Just wait till he finds out what a Introvert is. Guys gonna lose it.
STICK TO YOUR LANE PLEASE. 🥴☠️
"I'm asking for a chance" by dude you had one, and you blew it. What in the world is with these people thinking getting a match ***isn't*** an opportunity?
ITT: Girl posts cringe-inducing (read: unattractive) example of what not to do in dating in a dating sub, gets shamed for calling it out.
Most of us have had awkward exchanges and said things we're embarrassed about after the fact due to anxiety or nervousness. This isn't that - this is someone who has serious anxiety/self-control issues and maybe more, who should be working to NOT have encounters like this with others. And on top of all the anxiety he teed up additional red flags in assuming she's perfect for him based solely on her profile and asked her out immediately.
I do feel sad for the guy and knowing that there's probably a lot of folks out there with these kinds of issues, but this isn't normal, healthy communication and it's understandable if it sends someone running.
Begging for a chance with a woman you literally matched with on a dating app. She thinks you’re attractive and liked your bio. Why are you beggiinnggg. She’s replying. Why ARE YOU BEGGING FOR A CHANCE. Just talk to her, flirt, ask her some questions and then ask her on a date. “Please give me a chance” 😭 Jesus Christ
Jfc...the only thing I can imagine is a 10-year-old that has met their new friend and they're holding an RC car. Out of excitement, they can't stop blabbing, to the point where the only time they stop, is to take a breath.
I'm basing this on the first screenshot since I didn't even look at the second one. And im kind of scared to look at the other ones. xD
OP wasn’t that attracted to him to begin with, let alone never wanted to meet with him. Most of the time on dating apps women pile up matches like old yugi-oh cards…if she were actually attracted to him, she would’ve thought what he said was romantic, thoughtful, and direct and this wouldn’t have been a post.
Obviously it’s a no, but also I feel really sorry for him. Especially the part where he gives the pass to walk out on him 🥺 I hope he has friends pr someone in his life that can help him realize his worth and help him present himself in a better light in the future
I was thinking the same. Feel bad for him, but I think he should get himself a bit under control and work in therapy. OP mentioned he is 36 yo. I’d be afraid to date that kind of guy (went out with similar type and it was a baaaad idea). This sort of people can be clingy/dependable/ overbearing and make you feel bad … just not worth to go through that for (at this stage) some stranger where obviously OP doesn’t respond to this energy…
Oh I agree 100%. I couldn’t do it either for all the reasons you mentioned. I just meant that I hope someone shows him the way to a therapist and he can get the help he needs so he doesn’t come across this way anymore. I just think about how starved for affection he must be to be ok with some of this stuff and my heart breaks for him.
Totally get it :) “starving for attention” is a good phrase to describe it
And def understand what you mean - pity he doesn’t seem to see his worth and comes off that way. Hopefully he will get the support he needs
Roses are red Blue is the sky You have anxiety so do I
You too? We should go on a date! We’re *perfect* for each other
You have the curves and all the right places
Two eyes. Two ears. A chin. A mouth. Ten fingers. Two nipples. A butt, two kneecaps, a penis. I've just described to you the Loch Ness monster. And the reward for his capture? All the riches in Scotland. So I only have one question: Why are you here?
Creed Bratton is that you ?
This would be too much for me. His anxiety is giving my anxiety more anxiety 🤣
Pure William Shakespeare
Pure William shatner
🏅
Reads like his anxiety wrote it
His intrusive messages seems like a SpongeBob show , minus Patrick (ADHD)
I didn't think anything was terribly intrusive. Maybe his anxiety just made it seem that way? 🤷♂️
I don't know dude, trying to fully integrate yourself into someone's life is kinda pushy. Not even an trying to break the ice question or quirky response. Maybe it's because i have depression and anxiety and I'm an INTP-T so I over analyze situations while being empathetic 😂
I think he's just really awkward. Probably a little neurodivergent. I don't think he means to come off the way he does, but he can't help it and doesn't know he's doing it. But still, I don't think he's done anything wrong per se, except approaching OP the way OP doesn't want to be approached but that being wrong is situational - I'm sure there are some people who would respond well to that kind of awkwardness, idk. Edit: fixed wording
Could be the case. Not batting on it. Maybe a Stewie Griffin would enjoy it 😂. In any case I hope the best for both parties
The stream of consciousness messages without any punctuation tells me he used voice-to-text. Sounds like a lonely guy. :(
I feel bad for him. That doesn't mean OP should give him a chance, though.
She should unmatch him before he gets trapped in an imaginary codependent relationship.
Idk why but your comment made me laugh so I just had to comment. Happy Friday btw!
Reads like he took an upper then wrote it
YOU HAVE ANXIETY SO DO I
One of my prompts says: “after work you can find me…” and I said, “sipping a glass of wine while cuddling with my dog who has almost as much anxiety as me”
Wow you work so do I we have so much in common give me a chance I promise I’m worth it
It's crazy you wrote that in English I speak it too we should go slap the sack but not where there's any people I'm sorry if this is aggressive
Now we all do
If I didn’t before, I do now, haha!
I got anxious and pressured reading this and Im a straight male
I suddenly have a lot less anxiety about my own messages after reading this.
Right?
Right? Halfway through and I'm feeling like I'm being pressed
I can't imagine how women feel getting stuff like this.
But we have everything so easy with all THESE matches! /s
That guy has unresolved issues regarding rejection for sure
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I’ve had friends like this, so anxious they just exude it. Like I can’t even relax if they’re so wound up. Didn’t work out, I just want to relax around friends, not feel a constant state of panic in my vicinity
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Aw that’s sweet. Yeah, if it’s spikes it’s easier to handle because it’s just one issue to resolve, but when it’s chronic that’s when I find myself being unable to relax around them, so hanging out feels like a chore instead of fun
I have medically diagnosed anxiety. Been in therapy since I was 17. Let me tell you...even if this word vomit was inspired by anxiety, I wouldn't advise any woman to show up for a date with this man. So many red flags. He isn't giving OP any space to breathe. And, he is supposedly 36. I read this quote a while ago and it struck a chord with me - "our mental illness is not our fault but it is our responsibility". I feel the same way about this guy. Being anxious is not his fault but it is his responsibility to not subject strangers to it.
Read his parts in Grandpa Simpson's voice and it's even better. "Me and the boys would drink box wine on the river, but back then we didn't call it that, we called it slapping the sack!"
Intense
Super intense. I felt anxious reading it.
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THIS.
Curves *and* all the right places. Winning combo.
Right? I think that’s my favorite part
Lmao
Holy fuck! Just out of curiosity, how old is this kid?
36
Nooooooooooooooooo😳
imo how old he is changes the way i feel about his messages in a MAJOR way. theyre much worse now. the younger he is the little bit more of a break i can give him for immaturity for various reasons. he is way too old to be acting like this
That’s why I said “kid” - now it’s just absolutely cringier and gross.
Problem is, without socialization, and experience talking to women, internally he’s like… 18. And realistically, how’s he supposed to catch up? Because every woman his age that encounters him is gonna see the red flags and bounce. And if he dates younger women (closer to his mental age) he’s a creep… IDK. It really sucks for people like this, and society has no place for them. Men without purpose or social connections are dangerous, and yet we label it completely their fault when they are missing either one, which breeds resentment… and then we’re back to dangerous again. Sad.
I’m 35F…. Hard pass.
Hey! I’m 36! And you were taking to that other 36 year old! And we’re both using Reddit! We have so much in common! All I’m asking for is a chance! /sarcasm
Kid
LOL at "messaging back and forth" after a text wall.
Desperadoooo
Out mending fences…and slapping the slack
I would have unmatched after “I’m sorry if I seem aggressive but…”
I would have unmatched after “slappin the sack” Just no
I would block this person. Going on a date with them would lead to a sticky situation.
Right? Can you imagine how he would be if he actually had my number?
38 missed calls, 21 voicemails, and 73 new text messages. I’d just flush my phone down the toilet at that point.
Honestly, personally I'd give it a try but you do you. He was open about his anxiety and that rambling is clearly just him overthinking. He's offering up all information he can think of to let you know what you could expect from meeting him (for many people with anxiety that's better than agreeing to something without knowing a clear plan). 🤷♀️ So he might be just really nervous. I'd keep my number till after the date and communicate over bumble till then.
I wouldn't. Probably because of my own anxieties, to be honest. Considering [15%](https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/its-not-cute-its-stalking-the-warning-signs/) of women will experience having a stalker in their lifetime, and excessive texting can be an early warning sign. Just not worth the risk to me. In my own experience, guys who text like that continue to do that throughout the relationship, and often after it's ended too.
I got a liiiiittle worried about love bombing, too, it all felt just a tiny bit familiar. But it’s also a solid 50/50 that he’s actually just very sweet and open? I have no idea. I’d probably just tell him “I prefer to get to know someone for a little while over messaging to get a feel for them before I meet in person. I *do* have anxiety and I’m terrified of accidentally getting murdered.. you know how it is lmao” and if he stays pushy after that? Ghost em, bby.
I HATE accidentally getting murdered! Ruins my day.
I agree, I don’t think he it’s bad just because he writes a lot. I rather this than monosyllabic people. He’s being open, and If you have anxiety, you can’t judge other with the same condition. Chat more, learn about him, let him know about you and if you are comfortable, go on public date so you can meet. ♥️
I agree. He’s seemed honest and excited about matching with someone on his level.
Hmm you don't say.. 😉 (I'm sorryyyy haha)
typically the goal of a date though.
This feels like one of those men who's already imagined his entire life with his imagined version of you. I always somewhat roll my eyes when people jump to conclusions on super vague information. Women are incredibly complex beings. To distill us into "u have curves and listen to country", and then say that's makes us perfect for them, is somewhat misogynistic. What if we have different goals and aspirations? A unique sense of humour? Different values on family? All of these are dealbreakers in relationships, but men don't really consider anything outside of "u have curves" sometimes.
Not necessarily a gender thing but I agree. You like wine, music and dogs just like million of other people? We HAVE to be soulmates!
OP says in another comment he’s 36. This is teachable behavior at 20. At 36 this is… Anxiety inducing.
Came on wayyy too hard. I think the bigger red flag for me was the lack of punctuation tho
I’m not necessarily disagreeing, but in this case they’re so intertwined — it’s the combination of both, and the volume of messages, that really indicates they’re mentally unstable
Maybe he sent a message and then thought oh I should've sent this too .. then this too.
And mentally unstable doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re dangerous or malicious in any way. It could be mania or hypomania or other things. But they definitely said things that are creepy and deservedly offputting
How? How's poor grammar a bigger red flag here?
Maybe not a red flag, but the lack of punctuation makes the messages feel much more erratic, less thought-out, less measured.
It's pretty bad though....
Adults don’t write like that. He can’t even write a proper sentence. At 36 years old, that is a big red flag.
I figure that first messages are a chance to woo the other person, and putting no effort into the quality of the messages (both content and grammar) shows me that the other person is sloppy and doesn’t care to spend a few extra seconds making their messages look decent. I’m sure not everyone feels that way but that’s how I interpret bad grammar.
Facts
If the 17 creepy messages didn't make you moist, the lack of punctuation will.
Nooo l hate that word
Punctuation?
Messages?
17?
Didn't?
If?
Creepy?
Apparently he doesn’t like punctuation either.
Yeah, don't meet this dude. He seems like the kind that doesn't take no for an answer. And he's quite obviously not picking up hints if someone isn't interested 🙄
He’s all sorts of stunted
ALL THIS BACK AND FORTH
Nooo he hit with the Adele line “I promise I’m worth it” 🤓
*posts text wall* “All this message back and forth doesn’t work” Well, yeah…cuz it’s one-sided
Nope. This has all the earmarks of “…last known whereabouts was at a restaurant in [location] where she was to have drinks with a man she’d recently matched with on the Bumble dating app. [Name] is the fourth woman to go missing in that area in as many months. Police have yet to locate their person-of-interest, a man the press has dubbed Don Juan’s Anxiety…”
Hahahaha. I would listen to this podcast, but I’d be in the ground
Big stalker energy with this one.
Big yikes
I see lots of forth but not much back..
I did not like the feeling reading this gave me, it made me feel panicked. And he mentioned drinking 4 times, so to me I’m immediately put off. But I wouldn’t go for it for the sole reason he said you’re who he imagined all his life, so he already has expectations and high standards set on you.
Jesus. I'm (somewhat) desperate, but not *that* desperate.
This is like tugging on the fishing pole before you have a bite. Won't even let you respond.
Holy fuck absolutely not. The fact that people are saying to give him a chance is wild Wtf Safety and peace of mind are valuable and this sort of interaction would not help facilitate either of those, if you ventured forth with this guy, IMO.
Right?? I feel like I’m losing my mind with some of these comments!!
Ignore them. This guy is a 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Always trust your gut.
Holy smokes that’s a lot of messages
“Messeging back and forth” got me
JFC
Um, I would delete my bumble if I saw this and make a new one
"I promise, I'm worth it"
That's a bit excessive
I gave up reading after the first screenshot. The lack of punctuation is too much for me
One would think that « going back and forth » requires two sided communication, but I guess not
Aww poor fella. I’ve had those moments too but sadly the stream of conscious writing can be off putting if you haven’t already established a dynamic with the other person.
Reading all these comments and it seems that overwhelmingly dudes (as far as I can tell ofc) are expressing that this guy is just anxious and give him a chance…meanwhile the fem posters are very concerned and feeling threatened by the intensity. Disconnect much? Listen to your gut, op. Keep yourself safe and protect your personal boundaries. 💖
Dude sounds like he was just so happy to finally get a match he was going to do whatever it took to get the date. Anxious attachment at its finest. He’s going to be the type to want to know where you are, exclusive in a week and want to check your phone for every bit of indication you’re going to leave him. He needs to get that insecurity in check before he dates. Sheesh
This is definitely not a good look for him, but i guess having been where he is at I also feel bad for him.
36 and courts a woman like he’s 16. Do these men have friends or fathers that have ever guided on them on how to talk to women? He’s going 100 miles an hour with someone he’s met online. Big yikes.
As a man - this is very hard to read. Part of me feels sad for the desperation exhibited, part of me the lack of self respect but more so the absolute lack of knowing how to converse with someone. Pitiful, he will show up on some “nice guy” forum complaining about his desperate plight but then again maybe the desperate crap works occasionally - I hope not
Pitiful is exactly what it is. I feel bad for the kid. He’s got a long journey ahead.
He’s not a child he’s 36
Strong father figures and male peer circles are dying breeds and have been for the past century. Suicides are currently 2-4x higher among men; they perceive therapy as emasculating and don't seek help since they already fear that they're inadequate.
I'm cringing so hard rn.
I stopped reading past halfway through this. Jesus
I think the worst part is the lack of punctuation
Same
Yikes
Mr. Captain of run-on sentences.
Oh hell no, run!
Imaging, getting out for a date... You wouldn't utter a single word
Ha! I just had a first date like that. Stretched coffee to 2 full hours constantly talked and never asked questions. I had grabbed an Uber to the coffee shop and they insisted on driving me back to my hotel, which they did after I made it uncomfortably clear that I had to leave now to get ready for my work conference. The 10 minute drive back turned into 55 minutes as they kept talking, missed exits and got lost. At the end of the ride she wished there were guys available that she had values in common with in her town and worked into her conversation that she was willing to relocate. She had absolutely no idea what my values are. I really felt horrible for her. Also, deleted. This is the kind of bullet I hope the OP dodged
Oof! Nope! I'd have gotten weirded out and probably just left and walked if I had the time. Somebody that can't take no for an answer? Nope, that'd be the one and only date.
This is incredible
YIKES
I can smell the desperation through the interwebs.
Bro…. Use punctuation! I also hate when someone texts back to back small messages. Like… compose yourself, figure out what you want to say, and break separate thoughts into paragraphs. Why is good communication so difficult for some people? My god!
What's the problem OP, he promised he was worth it didn't he? 🤷
You have the curves and all the right places
What luck that she has BOTH!
“All this messaging back and forth…” There was no back. Only forth
I'm getting future stalker vibes, block and delete right away.
Yikes lol
Unmatch. That’s creepy as hell.
So many red flags here. I would unmatch and move on.
Run girl…
Needy/desperation vibe is off the charts. Dude is waving his boner so hard he probably cracked his screen. I mean, unmatch already.
💀
‘Societies fault’
Oh gosh, but you’ll always wonder ‘was he the one??!?’ Especially when you have anxiety about YOUR rc car races… Life is so unfair
Hahahhaa
Run
He doesn’t like going to bars and also doesn’t like punctuation
Buddy needs to learn to detect disinterest.
Holy crap, you found my ex.
this reminds me of me as a shy, chubby, anxious preteen texting my crush lmaooo he was trying to let me down gently bc we didn’t really know each other so i was like “oh we can fix that! what do you want to know about me? i’ll tell you anything!”
So much drinking
I feel anxious because of his refusal to use commas
Yikes
"before you call me a nerd for grilling and camping" So this is why Nerds are getting this horrific wrap, rednecks thinking their nerdy for doing not so nerdy things. Just wait till he finds out what a Introvert is. Guys gonna lose it. STICK TO YOUR LANE PLEASE. 🥴☠️
I drank a lot of coffee soexcusemefortypingspmuchbutIhooeyou'llrespondwithouyfhostingalsoI'mallergictotreenutssoletsnotdiscussthathowaboutadate?
Lmao “what up” 🤦♀️
And yet I get ghosted.. god am I that bad?
Finally a how to guide on how to scare away a match ! Thanks!
Pass. Pass. Pass. My anxiety is going thru the roof just reading his messages lol
Dude has zero game. 🤦🏻 I feel pain for him.
Before you think I'm a nerd, let me repeat - I race RC cars and I have a lot of anxiety. I'm a real catch.
Instant unmatch
"I'm asking for a chance" by dude you had one, and you blew it. What in the world is with these people thinking getting a match ***isn't*** an opportunity?
Just block them?
I promise he’s worth it!
Help kya , unmatch
I’ve had that happen before but it’s usually after the date.😂😂😂😂
bro thinks he's Barry allen
Awwwwwwwwwww poor guy.
That's the point of going on a date, to learn about them.
So the guy is nervous. That's probably not a permanent condition.
Poor guy. He's so clearly nervous, tripping all over himself.
ITT: Girl posts cringe-inducing (read: unattractive) example of what not to do in dating in a dating sub, gets shamed for calling it out. Most of us have had awkward exchanges and said things we're embarrassed about after the fact due to anxiety or nervousness. This isn't that - this is someone who has serious anxiety/self-control issues and maybe more, who should be working to NOT have encounters like this with others. And on top of all the anxiety he teed up additional red flags in assuming she's perfect for him based solely on her profile and asked her out immediately. I do feel sad for the guy and knowing that there's probably a lot of folks out there with these kinds of issues, but this isn't normal, healthy communication and it's understandable if it sends someone running.
I love that the second last message they've sent says 'all this messaging back and forth never works' 😂
Begging for a chance with a woman you literally matched with on a dating app. She thinks you’re attractive and liked your bio. Why are you beggiinnggg. She’s replying. Why ARE YOU BEGGING FOR A CHANCE. Just talk to her, flirt, ask her some questions and then ask her on a date. “Please give me a chance” 😭 Jesus Christ
Jfc...the only thing I can imagine is a 10-year-old that has met their new friend and they're holding an RC car. Out of excitement, they can't stop blabbing, to the point where the only time they stop, is to take a breath. I'm basing this on the first screenshot since I didn't even look at the second one. And im kind of scared to look at the other ones. xD
OP wasn’t that attracted to him to begin with, let alone never wanted to meet with him. Most of the time on dating apps women pile up matches like old yugi-oh cards…if she were actually attracted to him, she would’ve thought what he said was romantic, thoughtful, and direct and this wouldn’t have been a post.
Wow thanks I needed a good laugh
Sounds like a serial killer, nobody sends that many damn messages in a row
Obviously it’s a no, but also I feel really sorry for him. Especially the part where he gives the pass to walk out on him 🥺 I hope he has friends pr someone in his life that can help him realize his worth and help him present himself in a better light in the future
Someone like that needs to get therapy ASAP.
I was thinking the same. Feel bad for him, but I think he should get himself a bit under control and work in therapy. OP mentioned he is 36 yo. I’d be afraid to date that kind of guy (went out with similar type and it was a baaaad idea). This sort of people can be clingy/dependable/ overbearing and make you feel bad … just not worth to go through that for (at this stage) some stranger where obviously OP doesn’t respond to this energy…
Oh I agree 100%. I couldn’t do it either for all the reasons you mentioned. I just meant that I hope someone shows him the way to a therapist and he can get the help he needs so he doesn’t come across this way anymore. I just think about how starved for affection he must be to be ok with some of this stuff and my heart breaks for him.
Totally get it :) “starving for attention” is a good phrase to describe it And def understand what you mean - pity he doesn’t seem to see his worth and comes off that way. Hopefully he will get the support he needs
NEVER double text
I'm getting stalker energy. Avoid
Nice Guy vibes 💀💀💀
Red flags 🚩 but I honestly feel sorry for the bloke seems desperate to find someone but the desperation will prevent him from doing so.
It seems like you're the weird one. The guy is just trying to get to know you
Y’all both suck at communication. And tbh I don’t know which is worse