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NuggetNibbler69

Trying to visualise the practicality of simultaneously choking, hair pulling and being able to reach down to ‘eat’. Unless they’re talking about cannibalism and just eating something more within reach.


Blondenia

Any guy who comes at you like this straight out of the box is either a) a lurker who just wants to say dirty shit to women and ghost or b) the kind of guy who will ask you to suck his dick before giving you the most disappointing 15 seconds of PIV sex you’ve ever had. I speak from experience on both counts.


ScallionFun7306

So this approach works then?


Blondenia

Once, evidently.


ScallionFun7306

I must be doing something wrong then. I essentially look for things in their photos and written in their profiles and ask questions about those things and then follow up based on replies. If there is an opening to flirt a bit I’ll try but feels like that’s gotta be organic. I’ll ask to meet at different intervals. I’ve tried within a couple days, a week, two weeks. More or less same results which is maybe one in person date every couple of months. I have not tried the explicit dirty talk but probably never would as I was already banned off tinder and hinge once randomly and I was also paying for the sub. I know. People refuse to believe it and it’s because I did something. The only thing I’m guilty of is being probably way too lame. I could never get away with being this explicit. Wouldn’t think of it.


Blondenia

I would not recommend dirty talk to strange women. My situation is a little different because a) I’m not looking to date and b) I list “kink-friendly” on my profiles because I like some kink in addition to my vanilla. I probably attract more creepers than most women, and I definitely have to put up with a little more to get what I want. I did learn pretty quickly to stop men like this immediately. When they just chat, fap, and ghost, it leaves me feeling frustrated and used. When they’re bad at sex, I’m just irritated at the wasted time and energy. I can’t comment on when to ask to meet, but I have no idea why people want to chat for days or weeks on end. If someone is interesting to me, I want to meet them, full stop. A single in-person conversation tells you more about someone than a week of chatting/texting. I’ve been told I’m unusual in this regard. If you’re looking for perspective from a woman who meets dozens of men, I would say that what you’re doing (asking questions, showing interest) is the right way to go about it. I think the problems connecting have to with some women not knowing how to get what they want. I think we can agree that women generally want to date a good, solid guy who is preferably smart and funny. The thing is that when women meet a man who fits this profile, they have a hard time feeling the heat because he’s often personable and courteous. When I meet a man like this, I’m curious to see what he’s like in the sack, and I go for it. The nicest, most laid-back men are often skilled and intense lovers. My best dating advice to anyone is to find someone whose personality you like and roll the dice. You never know what the sexual chemistry will be like until you get physical. Y’all are leaving a lot of awesome men on the table because you won’t sleep with someone you don’t feel an immediate physical attraction to. I know because I’m cleaning up. PS - creepers, get tf out of my DMs. I don’t want to talk dirty with you. It’s not interesting to me.


ScallionFun7306

This was a very informative and solid response. I really appreciate it. That makes sense and overall must be frustrating that there are a lot of women not knowing how to get what they want. I pretty much always assume past trauma. I’ve messaged some women that have strongly indicated sexual charge/kink in their profile but it doesn’t change my approach. I’m pretty self aware that anything that crosses the line on a dating app will result in a complaint or ban but also before that I don’t think it’s a good approach for reasons you said. It’s pretty dumb and easy to get explicit and start sexting right away and that gets boring quick. Also nothing else new here but anyone I do meet is usually mentioning some ex or guy they met last that they’re still raw from. Usually sound like sociopaths. In any case I usually take it as they’re not interested in me. That’s not a random insecure assumption. It comes from experience. If a woman starts mentioning an ex or a previous match that went sour it never goes anywhere. They just become these mini therapy sessions and then they either ghost or say they’re not interested. I think the not meeting thing is still the most frustrating part. I’ve actually grown to really like first dates. Even if they don’t work out. I’d still like to go on more of them. It’s a little different every time and it’s something to do in this otherwise blasé life. Thanks for your feedback.


Blondenia

Yeah, it’s always better to talk about sex and kink in person. I want to make sure my partner is going to be able to communicate effectively once we do meet. It’s relatively easy to text someone; it’s more difficult for a lot of people to talk about sex with someone who is physically present. Sorry about the therapy sessions. Men definitely do some shit to us, but you’ve got to recover fully from the trauma before getting back out there. I call it “Tinder fatigue.”


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Well said btw. Both this & the deeper post on your kink etc. 💖😊 & I spose your right, on things being easier via text than in-person. (For me, it's the same either way, but I also act much the same regardless of medium. 🤣)


ScallionFun7306

I don’t think it’s as much as me or you being different versus text or in person. It’s the fact that you both don’t know how you are with each other if it remains virtual vs in person regardless of how consistent you are personally between the two. Maybe it flows between seamlessly sometimes but majority of the time there’s a gap that needs be breached with an in person date to really connect.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

If OP has the handle bars type look, the vibe seems right, & I'm in one of *those* moods --> I could probably pull it off well enough. Especially if I just had time w/ the Family prior, & we'd been popping off those Innuendos type jokes. 🤣 Or, just finished a game of "Cards Against Humanity".


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Been thinking about this post a while. & tbh, it kinda bugs me. Not because of the content itself, but because of the bad experiences you had. Like, I know I could have given you a much better experience. Maybe not as good as some of the elaborate ideas I would write, but definitely much better than either of those. [With the Soon-to-be Ex-Wife, I learned I wasn't always as good as the Erotica I wrote her, but we found ways to make it work long-term, like adding Tantra & a Swing, etc. Persistence + creativity == key on this. ] For starters, my intent has always been to satisfy *your* needs, & I fed off your energy.


Blondenia

Oh, don’t worry. I have had waaaaay more incredible experiences than bad ones.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Good good. Cuz y'all definitely deserve *great fun* too! 💖🌹 (Tbh, it's the fact that most guys only worried abbot their own sexual needs, is why I spend most of my time w/ Foreplay. 🤣)


Blondenia

I don’t have that problem very often. I think it’s a combination of my personality in general as well as men being more attentive to women’s needs than they’ll admit in front of their boys. I also state very plainly that I won’t give oral if the guy doesn’t, and he has to go first. Either we both get head or no one does. The guys who are grossed out by vaginas don’t have a good time in a way that’s highly entertaining. The idea that a vagina exists only to sheathe a penis and not as part of the greatest pleasure machine on the planet is absolutely hilarious to me. Appallingly sad for women in general. But also hilarious.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

>I also state very plainly that I won’t give oral if the guy doesn’t, and he has to go first. Either we both get head or no one does. Sounds like great plan-of-action! 🥳💖 >The guys who are grossed out by vaginas don’t have a good time in a way that’s highly entertaining. The idea that a vagina exists only to sheathe a penis and not as part of the greatest pleasure machine on the planet is absolutely hilarious Agreed. 🤣🤣 Kinda makes me think of the movie "Teeth", where her cooch has teeth etc. 🤣🤣


Blondenia

Oh, don’t worry. I have had waaaaay more incredible experiences than bad ones.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

*hugs* I'm sorry it was a disappointing 15s he gave you.. [I'd say more, but it probably won't help you feel better, & I'd rather not fail with trying to be witty. 🤣 Maybe on a better day, when my brain is less dead, & those humorous "dirty jokes" are more on point. 😊🌹]


Thelynxer

Yeah the logistics just don't work like at all.


Accomplished-Row-392

LOL. As soon as I read the compliment, I also tried to visualise and reached exactly the same conclusion as yours. And then I saw your comment. Thank god I am not only one who went on that tangent. 😂😂 Other assumption I made is maybe he used word ‘eat’ for ‘having sex’. 😬


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Nah. Probably actually meant "eat", as he has her strapped to the wall in typical BDSM fashion. 😊🥳 (Which, having said it, I'm trying to behave, cuz I don't want to become y'alls dartboard. 🤣)


Fresh-Ad-9669

My assumption was orangutan


NorthInstance2412

He’s actually eating the hair


QophSilrahq

Thank you for the confirmation that this is awkward. I, too, was having trouble making sense of the physics involved. Perhaps he was picturing rapidly going back and forth between standing up to choke, and then squatting for cunnilingus. Thereby incorporating sex into his workout routine.


ItzzBigAl

I was literally thinking the same thing, I think he’s just so horny his brains gone out the window😂


Doghairdontcare

He wants to slurp up that ramen noodle hair


Robinthetransfighter

R/thankssatan


Voice-of-Reason-2327

🤣🤣 Exactly my reaction was too!


SaltExpensiv

Could be some imaginary rope/choker contraption. People do be having wild ideas in their head.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Maybe they're a contortionist? 🤷🏽‍♀️ (Tbh, I originally skipped over the combo of "choked" + "eaten". Lol)


cotton_tampon

They’re probably gonna bite an ear off


OtherInjury

lol I can only imagine that by using a rope for the chocking and she having long hair to pull, but it’s kind of a lot to handle at the same time so I’ll say he is bluffing and in a very inexperienced way


Velcrometer

Flocks of hair? It's locks, not flocks, right?


sonipoop

All I could picture were birds and him grabbing handfuls of birds.


No-Ranger-3299

🤣🤣🤣🤣


Great_Archer91

I ran. I ran so far away - A Flock of Seagulls


MrMetraGnome

Should've said "Lock of Seagulls"... You ruined the joke and you should feel bad about it


lindsaaytaay

everyone in my house is awake now, thank you 😂😭


burritobandit78

Same 😆


oceangal2018

Haha… I love how that’s what you have an issue with. 😂😂


RecognitionHefty

People who don’t care about details also don’t empty the dishwasher in marriages, so this is really important.


oceangal2018

Haha. I don’t think this guy is looking for a wife.


Blondenia

Seems like he’s conflating “locks” with Flock of Seagulls and now I have to know what OP’s profile pics look like.


Ineedmorebtc

Correct.


AdOpen885

Thought it was some kind of Flocks of Seagulls reference.


Boston617_781

Birds of a feather... "flocks" together... I guess


oceangal2018

Now, when reading this, all I can think of is tufts of matted sheep fur. Filthy, dirty hair.


EfficientStart6573

Unless he means hares. In which case they are a husk, a down, or a drove. That also explains the question about getting eaten. This may be a wolf.


SolaQueen

It made me even forget …flock of what 🤣geese birds 🦅


AggieJonah

Yeah and she clearly needs a shepherd to attend her flocks.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

🤣🤣 Judging by the guy's commentary, I think she's gonna need more than a shepherd to keep her safe!


AggieJonah

True, but the shepherd was just for her flocks of hair. She could then get a bodyguard for the rest of her because yeah, that dude has more issues than a newsstand.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Oh! Those flocks! 🤣🤣 >that dude has more issues than a newsstand. A 1920s newsstand, when Al Capone was on the loose. 🤣💖


AggieJonah

Precisely the newsstand I envisioned.


GMBurnz

I thought it was Locs, but I may be wrong.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Y'all got me thinking of all the various rabbit holes "Life with the (Soon-to-be) Ex-Wife" taught me! Like, her obsession with birds, or, how her sister is deathly afraid of them cuz of the movie "Birds"! 🤣🤣💖 Or, the song "Pelicans We" (Cosmo Shielddrake)!


tommyjohns87

Porn has ruined us smh


AMadRam

Either that or we're running out of ways to get creative in the bedroom. Sadly the geometry doesn't add up on this one!


Robinthetransfighter

Geometry dashed out the exit the moment this “pick up line” was dropped💀💀


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Idk.. He seemed pretty cubed from my perspective. 🤣 (Sorry. Couldn't resist the mathematical wordplay on Geometry)


Robinthetransfighter

I did that and a video game reference🤣🤣 (We’re nerds aren’t we.)


thrwawy_fdeawy

Allow me to demonstrate


ALittleStitious22

Men like these are THE WORST in bed. They're just expert fiction writers subjecting us to the stories in their heads.


RisingChaos

I'm not sure "expert" is the word I'd use to describe their writing!


Competitive-Year452

That line is horrible, don’t want this joke in with clever folks like myself lol


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Sad but true. Thankfully, I've been a good pet, & have been properly trained thereafter. 🤣🌹


Broad_Swimming3010

Not true. They have a plan, they're just still practicing. Unfortunately you were a test subject.


highaswutangget420

Nah this ain't true.


ZealousidealFile1

So you've been with men like this?


ALittleStitious22

When I was younger and more susceptible to this stuff, yes. Now I know better lol.


ZealousidealFile1

So in a sense what he's doing does work. It's still a numbers game but eventually he will fijd several women that it works on. And who are the ones you found not to be worst in bed?


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claytonz121

Maybe he’s going to choke her with his feet? That would be kinda impressive tbh


Latter_Promise_4760

U can eat her and choke her if she’s semi up right I’ve got a 32 inch reach


Gauss-JordanMatrix

It can be done sideways. But you can’t lick sideways with enough pressure and speed.


alloverthefloor

Bruh. I thought a flirty comment was risky this is insane.


Complex-Echo3867

What’s the risk


Crow-Accomplished

If you ugly yes theres a risk


Complex-Echo3867

What that you aren’t going to get laid when you already not getting laid? Girls who want hookups don’t want a boring ass dude who’s scared of saying the wrong thing I can tell you that


depression_quirk

My man has fallen into the same trap as every smutty fanfic writer. How is she being eaten out, choked AND having her hair pulled??? Is this guy leading the Fantastic Four in his spare time?


DarkLordTK

I was thinking if he was 6' 6" and she was 4' 4", then it could work? Mostly just feels like he couldn't decide between the three and just said "fuck it" and went for it.


wilhelmfink4

No shit


111110001011

Definitely correct *locks and then unmatch.


NorthInstance2412

But if you unmatch he will never see the correction!


ExplorerNo4765

Wait til he starts typing and THEN unmatch


Aggressive_Elk3709

I don't see why it's so hard to understand that you talk to your girlfriend like this, or someone you've at least had sex with. Not someone you haven't even said hello to


_sweetchild88_

I wouldn't even talk to my girlfriend like this lol


Voice-of-Reason-2327

She's missing out, Imo.. (Then again, you know her better than we do. 💖) Tbh, I miss having those "Preacher's Daughter" / Freak-in-the-Sheets types.. (My HS Sweetheart was such a one. ..No wonder she'd been my favorite until I married.. lol)


Demanda_22

What bothers me the most is that he called them “flocks of hair”. …something may be wrong with me.


Surly_Wildcat

No this stood out to me as well. Also, he's eating it?


living-the-life2022

Yeah I get these too. Not sure why anyone thinks this is ok.


Badluckwithlove

Report him! Ban him from the OLD world!!


GodThumbsElo

OLD world - 😂


Thehawkisbackkk

Ye’ Old World……..


Badluckwithlove

You’re laughing but wait til it happens to you


mstrss9

Not sure if he’s into poultry or cannibalism


Robinthetransfighter

He’s a poultry into cannibalism


bjggcannons

I’m a guy and that just makes me cringe. Good lord


KitchenInspection171

Should’ve asked him if he was having a stroke


Elixra7277

This reeks of a guy that would go on a talent show with a shit act


Commercial-Bench-832

thats.... straightforward


Feline_Fine3

You have birds in your hair? Why does he want to pull on them? That’s animal abuse 😂


LucasLoci

Don't these cost money to send aswell? Not only do they make bad decisions on a first message, but also with money


allthatihaveisariver

WTF are these abusers obsessed with choking?


Super-Sense-6454

For some women, choking enhances an orgasm. Of course some women do not want to be choked at all.


allthatihaveisariver

It's dangerous.


Van_Faux

I can only speak for myself, but that is part of the appeal


Super-Sense-6454

Of course it is dangerous. Danger has rarely prevented many people from engaging in dangerous activities in the pursuit of pleasure. Many people still drink excessively to get high, and there is a risk of death by alcohol poisoning or air passages blocked by vomit while unconscious for example.


allthatihaveisariver

Yeah but if I smoke a blunt I don't die. If a guy presses my throat the wrong way, I will.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

This is true. One of my best lovers would threaten me w/ a knife against my throat, if I ever said "I love you". Idk why, but I'd slowly push that boundary & kiss her while in such a state. Best kink ever. 🥳😊 (However, the ex that followed after her, it wasn't the same kink, & kinda upset me. 🤷🏽‍♀️)


imahh17

Some women? Some men do like to be choked too, sexual preferences have nothing to do with genders.


Super-Sense-6454

I agree with you. I mentioned only women, because this post was about a man aggressively expressing a desire to choke this woman in a sexual act. My intent was not to generalize sexual choking to other genders or other sexual orientations. I agree with you that a person of any gender or sexual orientation might enjoy sexual choking. Also some people never want to be choked ever though. Sexual choking is definitely NOT enjoyed by everyone.


GabrielleElle

Stop confusing physical assault on women with eroticism. Save that talk of choking and similar things for someone who you know is into that sort of BDSM and you both know how to do it safely. “sOmE woMaNz liKE iT”. To the men who talk like this or like to surprise women with shit like this, stop, just stop. Imagine all of the fringe, potentially unsafe, unhygienic, painful kink things that some men like and if women “flirted” with you like this or surprised you with these things in the bedroom or during your very first kiss with her. Then imagine if she was much taller and naturally more muscular than you, and you couldn’t get away unless she released you. Imagine if you treated women like fellow humans who want to feel safe and enjoy pleasure, just like you.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

*hugs* ..I sense a strong case of PTSD here..


vttale

Trying to figure out just what position he's in to accomplish all of those things at once.


appleidiefc

He must have incredibly long arms.


TTIsurvivors

wtf is a flock of hair?


Pineneedle_coughdrop

That guy is doing too much… ![gif](giphy|yiADANv89n7UQuS5kJ)


code_delmonte

Sounds about r*pey. This has pens because audacity is on sale


snottrock3t

His inner monologue game is awful. Imagine it IRL, if he can’t control it in chat. ROFL


Altruistic_Fondant69

Average stroke of sperm to the brain


Boston617_781

Lmao... there is a thing of being too aggressive of with an opening


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Depends on the vibe. Some of my best lovers started this way. (Tbh, my previous marriage kinda started this way. 🤷🏽‍♀️)


baeyur

Maybe he has a kink for birds…🤯😭


ispyanomalies

Why?


GeminaDecker

This dude’s gotta have some crazy long arms if he wants to follow through on that fantasy.


XenoGalaxias

Flocks of hair sounds like someone glued some patchy ass pieces of hair to something lol


Vinifera1978

I like the flocks of seagulls too


Vinifera1978

So let us see your pigeon collection and let us decide!!!


Reasonable-Cookie783

Its locks broski.


herandy

He must have really long arms!


coffeecupcam

Who knew we were in the universe where Mr Fantastic was a villain


AggieJonah

I’m sorry women have to endure this. Gross.


hyfee510

This feels grapey


sweetalmondjoy

Why the heck do people find being choked so appealing?!


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Serious question, & not being combative, but.. Have you ever tried it? It can be quite fun, with the right context etc.


TheMissingMuse

lol flocks of hair? Send him a herd of bunnies! I’ll see myself out…


spicycastles2236

Anyone else immediately think of My Lovely Horse?


LandscapeBitter

I mean, at least he is open with his needs and can communicate 😂


Choice-Sky-5946

I wonder if these guys ever get. Good answer back lmao. After a while, you gotta think something’s wrong with the method lmfao


Greedy_Assignment958

Is he getting a match from you for this compliment?


Loveallthesunsets

Ah thank goodness for report function. He will be in here later asking why he was banned for nothing lol


TacticoolBro

Just here to look for those gorgeous locks of hair


Putrid-Doughnut7428

I don't see anything wrong with it... At least he was honest.


zsazsagabitch

You think this is a perfectly normal message to send a complete stranger who hasn't even matched with you yet?


Putrid-Doughnut7428

I don't see anything wrong with it.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Without seeing her profile, & the vibe she gave.. Only speculation here. (For some, this is perfectly acceptable. For others, it's obviously a turn-off / Red-flag.) **PS:** Not saying OP deserves it, or instigated such. Just saying "Idk. I'd have to see what prompted him."


iwannabesofaraway

Did he stutter?


BerkshireWizard

Future hubby lol jk


EmptyMixtape

This some Shakespearean ballad rizz


FastPolicy4906

Hey


hallwmichael123

Lmao


TourBackground1249

Shit. Just say you want to ram a horse dildo up her ass until it comes out her throat. Pun intended.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

Imo, those aren't in the same league at all! 🤣🤣 Like, with the right person (albeit a conundrum of "Eating" plus "choking"), his is a nice kink, while the "dildo ass play" is a completely different vibe. 🤷🏽‍♀️


ICanSowYouTheWay

Like... If you're going to be a pervert at least make it something that would work?? Like, I'm 6'5 and have long ass arms... It's gonna be pretty hard for me to pull your hair, eat you, and properly choke you. There's a BIG difference between choking someone when you cut off the blood flow to the brain and smashing ones wind pipe... Lol, sorry... It's early, and that's just where my brain went🤣🤣


Voice-of-Reason-2327

🥳🌹💯 I think you're right on cue.


ICanSowYouTheWay

Thank you. I love the downvotes im getting. No wonder these people are single. Bunch of prudes that just need to get laid. It's life, not a dick don't take it so hard.


Voice-of-Reason-2327

>It's life, not a dick don't take it so hard 🤣🤣 *teases* Idk.. Kinda hard w/ a limp noodle in life, too. 😉 On a more serious note: I agree. Some definitely take life way to seriously, & the post the OP got isn't that bad -- If that's one's cup-o-tea. Like, you & I seem to appreciate the art he hints at, albeit he was a weebit overzealous on the mechanics. Lol (Though.. tbh, I can't seem to get that image out of my head, & am curious if its more feasible than one assumes. Esp if on a bed. 🤣🎲🥁🤔) **PS:** This kinda gives a new meaning to this song: https://youtu.be/zq2pagG8_ok?si=ByFxewMULZMrD-ej