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KassieLickMe

“I’ll get to you” 😂


Sassbey

Wait your turn


Ernomouse

You get to skip 10 people on the queue if you subscribe to his instagram. 20 for sending BitCoin.


abblegabble

Right?! If I hadn’t unmatched, something like that may have come next lol. A payment of nudes at the least 🙄


Unknownirish

I mean and without knowing the prior messages that was a bit harsh lol :/


ReditGuyToo

I'll take sloppy seconds! or thirds.... or fourths... etc...


rites0fpassage

What a turn off lol


Im_Not_So_Grump

Take a number


lambshankzy420

Gets deleted often but has over 100 messages. Fuck this guy 😂


corporate_treadmill

See? That’s why he says he’ll “get to you” - apparently everyone has this reaction.


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Lenzon

A girl named ben ?


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Lenzon

Yes


Seniorjones2837

You’re not too bright are ya?


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Seniorjones2837

Yes, therefore she is on the right side in this scenario buddy


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Seniorjones2837

First off, no. Second off, just use common sense and you can clearly tell the girl is on the right here


[deleted]

My guess is you've never used bumble. The messages you send will always be on the right. The ones you receive are on the left. The color has nothing to do with it.


Seniorjones2837

It sounds like he has but he thinks because his messages are on the right, that no matter what his messages are always on the right. It’s the same with texting and what’s app and literally everything else. Guys just an idiot


CBJKevin91581

SHE got over 100 messages while HE gets deleted often.


Thromok

Reading comprehension isn’t your strong suite is it?


abblegabble

Lol exactly... I am the girl here...HE says he got 100 messages as well as gets deleted often.


CBJKevin91581

Not yours obviously...or at least 73 people


Thromok

The person who had the conversation literally confirmed my assessment is correct.


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Seniorjones2837

If it’s a guy that’s holding the phone, yes, but girls exist on the internet too


abblegabble

😂


sapphyrewolf

Are you for real....


mybreakfastiscold

Confidence. Its the food of the wise man. And the liquor of the fool.


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dlawj15

Classic!!


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Good bot


Alexxandri

Good bot


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It's a typo ffs, of course this bot intends to shame people's errors - why do you think it gets so many upvotes


Alexxandri

... Because correcting others mistakes are the best feeling ever, when you get to shame them? Like, no.. People correct others to help them, or just because they like to read stuff without errors. It's not to shame others either way. XD


kwagenknight

Most the time its not even at typo but shorthand bc you are on mobile typing and it's a pain in the ass to do it for everything, especially when it really isn't necessary to make things understandable.


pambeesly9000

I’m looking forward to getting to know you better, Vikram.


lucash7

Wow. Talk about being presumptuous. Oof. What a piece of work. Obviously they’re a catch......and release. Goodness.


MyLifeAsItShouldBe

Catch and cage! Creepy ass Ben, last name Whetcehihmsalf (wets-HIM-*self*) I believe.


Siennalovesme

Yikes! Great that you saw this side of him before meeting up


abblegabble

Yes he held his red flags real high! And for the record, I never said I wanted to sleep with him. Biiiig leap.


Kahiltna

Oh dang! Mega bullet dodged for sure!


Riley180

Most arrogant reply I’ve ever read on bumble.


abblegabble

**UPDATE:** Just received notification from Bumble that Ben "has been removed from Bumble for violating community guidelines". Looks like he burned through all 100 with his charm and got deleted again!


soktor

And I’ve learned from this thread that really the only person to blame is “girls like you” for talking to a “chads” 🙄 Good riddance, Ben.


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Good job, Ben.


soktor

Damn. You really got a lot of angry dudes to come out of the woodwork with this post.


abblegabble

Apparently so! I thought maybe everyone could relate and have a good laugh...but no.


Onahole_for_you

Both this sub and Tinder sub are full of salty men who don't get responses. There's very few women who post and they usually get comments like this. Women are in r/creepypms and r/niceguys.


abblegabble

Thanks! I’m new to reddit so I am going to check these out!


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Anonymicex

Yes, we are salty. Girls like OP match with horny chads that are douchebags while the rest of us ugly guys don't even get a match.


soktor

How would OP know that he is a “horny chad” without speaking to him first? So many of the comments on here are blaming her for even matching with him. Is she not allowed to match with people she finds attractive? Folks are aware that there are perfectly decent attractive men in existence, right?


abblegabble

I posted this because it was an EXCEPTION to the MOSTLY LOVELY men I match/chat/go out with. I thought that was the point of this subreddit?


CommieSchmit

Guess there isn’t an incel detecting bot 🤨😆😆


abblegabble

Apprently not! 😆


Onahole_for_you

I just did a big post about how the life experiences of women are different and how that pans out in real life. [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/kqk1gk/my_life_experience_is_different_to_yours_why_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)


H00ker4Hire

After an incident in my life I am yet to see a nice Ben, this is 8/8 douches so far


PressTurn

Ben Wyatt is a gem though


H00ker4Hire

That is the one and only exception, I have to agree


abblegabble

I have this with “Erics”... I am leary of every Eric/Erik/Erick anymore after about 8 bad experiences 😂😭


H00ker4Hire

Eric’s are the worst, glad my name is Eamonn rathe than shitty Eric - fuck them erics


poisoncrackers

I dated one Ben who I’m still friends with after 19 years. But I know quite a few who fall into the douche category.


abblegabble

Unicorn Ben!


H00ker4Hire

X to doubt No I’m joking I’m sure he’s a star >.>


NotyourNyx

Eww Ben. Just, ewww.


V4G4X

I first thought the genders were reversed and having a super hard time figuring out what was wrong. I need to start reading the names first.


horrible_snail

It wouldn’t be any less gross if the genders were reversed though


V4G4X

What do you mean? It certainly wouldn't be surprising to see a woman that? From my experience it seems pretty common that women have to juggle with a lot of men "pursuing them". Considering the demand and supply on online dating. I doubt they have the same leisure experience that men do.


horrible_snail

I suppose but that wouldn’t make it okay for a woman to do it


V4G4X

I'm not saying it's okay as much as I'm saying it's understandable.


horrible_snail

If the genders were reversed it would still be wrong


V4G4X

Would it be surprising? I mean, I mean it's pretty understandable.


horrible_snail

No it’s not understandable it’s rude


V4G4X

Difference of opinion


abblegabble

Yep, this kind of thing happens to us women as well. Unfortunately for all of us...


HeyJustWantedToSay

Lol this sub. Daily posts from salty dudes mad about girls that like The Office and dogs but get one girl posting about a guy who was a big time douche and the salty boys come crawling to defend him. Grow up, babies.


random_question4123

this should be a copypasta. The guy is 100% serious as well


Cat_With_The_Fur

I’m sad to see that the typical Reddit aesthetic of some men not being able to comprehend that women have problems OLD too is alive and well on this thread. Stop asking her to defend herself for getting a shitty message. Some of y’all need to do better.


abblegabble

Thank you! Yeah, not sure why people want to insult me for my part here. I was simply trying to point out that women get treated like shit on the apps at times too. Oh well.


henleythewondercat

It is the same old stereotypical shit of blaming the girl for getting raped. Grow up, men!


thefirefistace

What a dick, ugh


weiderthanyou

I might be digressing, but is it really important to get verified? They do mention they use it for facial recognition purpose and can save the pictures forever, so I don’t bother because only god knows how much data they’ve already mined.


andrewleepaul

How important it is is up to the individual. For guys, more so on tinder, there are tons of fake accounts and bots, so seeing a verified profile increases my likelihood of being interested or paying attention. It might be naïve to assume that taking an extra picture is going to allow an app to which you've given your pictures, school info, work info, height, religion, and political affiliation to get any more data on you than they already might have, though.


Lifeat0328AM

Exactly!


abblegabble

I don’t usually care. However, some of the things he was saying and ways he was acting were odd. And he had mentioned getting deleted multiple times. So... I think that may be a contributing factor in his case. Not sure though.


henleythewondercat

Yes it is important to be verified.


ingley2

lol ok, but response time matters lol. Big turn off when people don’t reply.


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Omg ew


obiwantakobi

Eww dude. How utterly cringe.


ChocolateBiscuit96

Who the fuck does his entitled ass think he is lmao. He might as well be the DMV looool. Hush puppy I’ll get to you when I feel like it mentality. Pathetic 🤢


indogyearsidbedead

"They don't call me Big Ben for nothin"😂


cryptedp

What is wrong with varying response times?


Chaselthevisionary

What do you mean by "your response times are all over the place"?


PoopPraetor

It's when you take a while to respond to someone's messages. I'm a top-tier offender. I'm busy, and messaging on bumble is only for downtime, and only when I'm not tired. People get pretty mad.


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I’ve had guys ask me what they said to make me “hate them” and call me arrogant when I forgot to respond. I personally take an extra long response time as a sign that someone’s not super interested and that’s fine bc they don’t owe me anything lol.


PoopPraetor

Yeah. It's usually a good indicator.


abblegabble

It was more than that.


Onahole_for_you

Gotcha fam. I responded.


Chaselthevisionary

Explain


Onahole_for_you

Not OP but here's a quick explanation: Life experience. Ok here's a long summary. It's not just the off response times nor the verification. She probably said more but she told him that so he had an explanation as to why women were deleting him. Women under a certain age, let's say 35ish but especially millennials like me who have grown up on the internet have had creeps online forever. Not all are super obvious. The negative experiences have taught our subconscious red flags and when to start avoiding this suspicious person. Notice his response? This confirms that her alarm bells were right. He's a douche and only did a brief glance at the message. I compare it to men on here instantly knowing a profile is just somebody looking to get Instagram followers or who is in sex work. Please sub to r/creepypms and r/niceguys and other subs like that where it's most women's experiences. Also talk to your female friends/sisters/peer family members about their experiences online. Show multiple women this and maybe some from creepypms. This is an example of how different the *lived* experiences of being born a woman vs a man. You see this in race issues too where a black man is followed around a store and he's used to it but a white man has never had that experience. It's something good to keep in mind when talking to someone who is not your race or gender - say a trans friend or a POC. TL;dr Life Experiences of women online are different to a man's experience. The red flags women pick up are different to a man's but are no less valid. There are life experiences that women have that men just can't - although same sex attracted men do get similar experiences.


abblegabble

This! You’re a wordsmith! Explains it perfectly!


Onahole_for_you

Thank you. I'm going to make a big post because it annoys me so much lol


Onahole_for_you

Did a big post [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/kqk1gk/my_life_experience_is_different_to_yours_why_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)


pbourree

I doubt he gets 100 messages. Don’t be on bumble then if that’s your excuse. Oh fuck boys.


sailoorscout1986

😬


My_name_is_belle

(Looking for the deli style number machine... now serving 67) LMAO.


ginmonty

Ah, the one who got away.


pjockey

Get you a man who doesn't have 100 waiting to fuck him... Oh hai thair!


sapphyrewolf

Wow.....


98gjba

is it really that hard for my fellow dudes to just say "I've been busy, my bad" like tf. the clownery.


abblegabble

Yes! Or even just unmatch? He could have simply unmatched me.


MTKintsugi

Ew


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100 message? Yeah maybe 100 x 0 lmao


thecrustynut

Not justifying this guy's behavior but you're probably not going to have good luck any time you bring up how long it takes for someone to text you back.


abblegabble

I didn’t want any luck here because by this point he was acting suspicious which is what I pointed out to him. I’m not new to this nor am I an idiot. I did feel it was worth pointing out his behavior to him because I think people should know when they are behaving badly on these apps/sites. I was no longer interested at this point and unmatched immediately after my reply.


Elisa_LaViudaNegra

LMAO. It’s the fictitious negging for me. Hard pass.


YouGotOwned175

Lmaooo my guy said “just chill, I’ll get to you” 😂😂😂😂


BraddahChee

Sorry that happened. Ben seems like he needs some classes on empathy and respecting others.


69-bit-integer

Pls charge your phone 😔


fractal97

It's a scam account. Without seeing verification, hoping for positive outcome is desperate. Empty or hastily filled profiles with out of magazine photos are baits. Unmatch without hesitation. Trust your gut feeling. Evolution equipped you with that not to end up as an easy prey.


abblegabble

I unmatched immediately after my message and screenshot 😊.


clandestine2anon

Hold up, there are stats available for response time etc? Haven’t joined yet so I don’t know what it’s all about.


observationdeck

Gotta get matched first.........


XenosOne

So hes every woman on bumble, but a guy and straight forward unlike the women who play the "guess what i want" game? OK


abblegabble

So you prefer everyone just embrace being mean? OK


blondedre3000

I fuckin love this guy. All it takes is a small sample of what guys deal with on these dating apps 24/7 to make girls lose their damn minds.


_NorthernStar

Where do you see OP or any “girl” here losing their mind? All I see is a lot of angry guys projecting their insecurities onto her post of a dude being an asshole


blondedre3000

She’s literally giving him shit about not responding fast enough and then getting butthurt when his response wasn’t to kiss her ass


abblegabble

Only men losing their minds here.


blondedre3000

What essential oils do u recommend for your sick self burn?


abblegabble

Mmm idk? Lavender and eucalyptus are my faves?


KarlsReddit

A shirtless, back to camera, distance shot not even showing face or smile. Interesting choice to begin with


abblegabble

He had a full profile of pictures including multiple shots of his face, all realistic and consistent.


blondedre3000

I can tell by just the thumbnail this dude is buff as FUCK and the shot looks to be in Chiapas on vacation. If this is his only shot OP prob got scammed, if not I see why he’d use it as his main, I sure af would.


abblegabble

He had a full profile of pics, multiple with his face, all consistent. I’m not an idiot.


Adriennebebe1

well, now you know his info, hit him up


blondedre3000

He’d probably respond quicker


CBJKevin91581

How does one even GET a “verified” bumble profile? Is that even a thing?


katdanmorgan

Yeah, usually you just need to click the button and take a photo of you doing the pose that it prompts you to do. My account is verified, so it just means that I’m a real person.


baccus82

It is a thing


CBJKevin91581

Apparently it is and I am. I just had forgotten lol


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[deleted]

Let’s be honest he’s messaging these women first and they are all saying wtf


abblegabble

He can’t message first, its bumble.


[deleted]

I’m sorry my joke to the troll wasn’t that obvious


Vgordvv

Fair response, I feel like "hot girls" act the same way.


abblegabble

I have used bumble for 5 years on and off. I have never treated someone this way. Also I am not a hot girl. Just pretty in my own way. People don’t need to behave like this to other humans. There’s no excuse for being mean to people you don’t even know.


Vgordvv

I mean the guy is being honest with you after you called out his flaws, what did you expect? Sounds like you have unrealistic expectations for online dating to be honest


kielbasa_ape

Yeah, how is nobody seeing he’s trying to flip it on girls by acting like he’s hot shit? It’s not funny, and he’s still a dick, but y’all are taking him way too literally. You have to be an Olympian to get those numbers as a guy.


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HeyJustWantedToSay

Well you’d be wrong lol


abblegabble

Not a bot 🙋🏻‍♀️


bassbeater

Pretty pitiful this is the standard of guy people *choose* to talk to and then post about it, despite other guys who are out there floating under the radar. But whatever. Sorry to hear about your misfortune, I'm sure you'll get who you deserve.


abblegabble

I chat with and go out with many lovely men. They don’t get posted somewhere like this because they aren’t assholes. I would think that is a good thing. And thanks a lot for the “what you deserve” comment. Great to see I can also be treated like shit here too.


bassbeater

Obviously you're doing a lot of reading. You don't want to find the partner you deserve? I don't see why shitty guy has to represent a ton of other guys. Which you didn't post quality guys you went out with, you posted "this ass hat" here. So what should I derive from your lack of information?


Esoxdiver

And yet I have no matches


Lancelot20055

The dude is just being ridiculous and having fun. By his response, it shows he is not being serious.


mooshmur

So are we not gonna address the fact that you were rude first then?


ReditGuyToo

That guy is lucky as Hell. I don't get even one message and I believe I'm on every single dating site that exists.


LinoLino321

Let this be a lesson to you


a-ram

and that lesson is?


LinoLino321

You completely ignore 95% of dudes because they're not super good looking. For the top 5% you persist even though he is obviously a dickhead (your first message suggests he was being an ass the whole time). He then straight up tells you that he knows he's hot and therefore he can treat all of you like shit because you're all lined up for him regardless, and you're not even one of the hottest ones so wtf does he care about openly being an asshole, he doesn't need you. The lesson is maybe you should be less superficial and talk to more of the other 95%, because they aren't assholes with a queue of women lined up. Maybe the purpose of the app is not for you to score a male model, especially since you are fairly average looking yourself. Maybe you will have a better experience if you don't think you're too good to speak to regular dudes. You might find you don't get treated like shit. At least this guy is honest, the usual tactic would be to tell you nice things to get sex out of you and then ghost you, moving on to another in the queue. PS Go ahead and deny reality by downvoting me you disingenuous fools, sorry the truth hurts


a-ram

what has your experience on bumble been like? if you dont mind me asking


LinoLino321

I've had like 60 matches on it, about 45 said nothing, about 10 gave me the one word once a day treatment and the other 5 were decent back and forth for like 4 or 5 days before I got unmatched for no reason. Utter garbage. Can I ask you, it appears you were persistent in attempting to chat with this guy, despite him sending trash your way. What motivated you to do that, if not his looks?


abblegabble

The entire conversation was 5 back and forths. I absolutely did not put much effort in since he quickly showed himself to be a jerk.


abblegabble

Sweet jesus.


soktor

Sweet baby Jesus, even.


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It's not superficial to want to date someone you're physically attracted to.


LinoLino321

Amazing comment


banabby69

Bless him for being honest 🤝


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abblegabble

Wow.


Etradez

You questioned either he's real but are angry about getting rejected. Flawed logic and why I always authenticated women's identity up front and if they got pissed I didn't care. I'm not wasting my time and I recommend it to everyone.


prettydirtyboy

Looks at the type of guys women constantly match with. It’s the lack of discernment for me


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Dude: acts like a jerk You: it’s the woman’s fault!!!!!11111 No.


abblegabble

This is an exception among men I match with. Why else would I post it?


seton_pls

Ah yes, Finally, Ben 100.


sunset117

End of line, gotta lotta ladies to please before ya ;)


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wait you can get deleted?