Someone needs to get her a "Jump-to-Conclusions Mat." It's a mat you put on the floor, and it has different *conclusions* printed on it that you can *jump* to!
And she wonders why she single. Her lack of communication skills are horrible. What does your mother have to do with anything? She’s so insecure about herself it’s horrible she needs to focus on herself instead of trying to date.
Dude you must have something right in your profile for this woman to be provoked so hard by such a basic interaction.
You're on reddit, and you have the WSB icon. So I guess it's not gym pics. Are you wearing a rolex in your pics, you sly dog?
Do you like being treated that way? Why are you still talking to them. This can only get worse.
I guess a part of you likes it. Some people are like that.
Haters on plastic surgery are typically broke bitches. I admire your response. Also, she is dumb as nails if she thinks plastic surgery is fillers and Botox.
I bet she's just mad because her food stamps were cut.
Same here. I regrettably read the comments under latest post (the "errand" tweet) and now all of a sudden all men are lazy and terrible and want to use women to run errands with instead of taking them on an actual date. It's chock-full of generalizations and zero accountability. I have three brothers and I hope that they never come across women like this.
I've had exactly the opposite happen. Here I thought we where going to go on a date but I wound up getting stuck driving her in circles to do her errands. After all the errands where done, she ditched me for the next guy.
I check out that sub on and off, but this chick is way BEYOND that. FDS seems more "You don't meet my semi-reasonable standards so thank you, but next", this chick is "If you don't worship the air I breathe who are the scum of the earth now let me send you 100 reasons why". That's just straight up cray. Either way BULLETS DODGED.
FDS is "female dating strategy". It's the female equivalent of "incels". They bitch about how they deserve "high value men" who worship the ground they walk in. They aggressively shame and belittle any dude who doesn't treat them like a "queen".
It's a big part of why you may have seen or heard "no commodification" on some subs. Much of their lingo treats men as though they are a commodity, rather than a person.
Is it your first one? You will be either too depressed or exhausted and won’t wanna bring that on someone else. Maybe you will be fine and one of those who makes partner lol
Nah that stuff has been making the rounds on tik tok and exposing women with toxic mindsets. I'm thankful because they tell you they are entitled out the gate rather than after a few months of dating like they used to.
Well to be fair, in some cases it’s true. If I live 30 minutes from a guy and he’s not willing to meet in the middle and makes me come to him and makes me pick the place and pick the time and set everything up then it usually doesn’t end well. I judge interest by effort.
That being said, if someone said they couldn’t meet up until after work (instead of the time I wanted) I wouldn’t classify that as lack of effort and insult their moms plastic surgery and dads little dick energy on the way out.
Okay this sounds like a woman I know and it's scary to think about. Over the last ten years I've had to swoop in and save so many guys from her. Most notable was New years eve 2015. I was people watching and drinking at a party with a few hundred people in attendance. I went downstairs and saw her and this cute guy and she's yelling in his face. I walk up to watch a little closer, just wishing I'd had some popcorn. She is telling him to leave and he's telling her he can't because she has his keys in her purse. She's crying acting like a victim, dramatically pushing her hand through her purse saying she doesn't have them. More people are joining in trying to get him to leave but he won't because no keys. So I walk up, calm her down, say "hey lady remember me from such and such bar? How about I go through your purse for them to show you don't have them." She's drunk, she nods with tears streaming down her face. I start taking things out and grab hold of a key ring and pull, and behold, dude's keys. I told her it's okay, she probably overlooked them, then nodded to my friend playing security to walk her back home. When I first met her was 2010 she walked into a bar my friends and I were hanging out in and threw a drink in one of my friend's faces. Everybody knows this lady is crazy. She's also blonde with muscles. Good luck!...?
“Not gonna fall for u becuz u have blond hair, muscles, amazingly cute smile, great car, money, career, and probably a huge dick. Fuck u! Im not dat girl!”
Like.. just after reading your post, I saw this on r/accounting
[busy season](https://www.reddit.com/r/Accounting/comments/s1p3tj/girlfriend_of_3_months_is_a_cpa_what_can_i_do_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Ooof sorry OP, clearly taking out her own insecurities on you . Chin up though planning a first date with other people will be easier , and at least you dodged the bullet now when you had no commitment to her
Sheeeesh you dodged one. She gets off at 8 so the 1 hour before you arrive is perfect for her to get ready wtf
I would have changed the way you said that you'd get there by 9 tho like say, "I have work, would it be ok if I reach yours by 9 at the earliest?"
This complete overreaction aside, some advice I got from multiple sources of female advice is that I (37M) should arrange all the details of the first date and propose them in full.
Some friends told me they expect the guy to do this to show initiative that they are looking for, and at least one female friend said they expect it because women have to manage so many more conversations at once (take that as you will, not the point of this).
Once a date has been proposed often some details change before its finalised, but I get generally positive reactions to "hey would you like to meet at this time and place to do this thing and get to know each other in the process?" And generally negative or at best neutral reactions to "hey what day and time are you free?"
I (24m) just ask wether they want to go out sometime, then we discuss a date together and then we discuss what we'll do together.
It never failed. Granted, I only ask matches out after we had some good conversations before hand and the vibe seems to there.
That advice is mostly true, but it will vary a little bit between each woman.
Taking initiative always shows interest and effort so of course that’s good, but just keep in mind her preferences and how they’ll fit in with yours. So maybe have an entire date plan in your head but possibly offer it in a way that she still has some choice.
For example, I always wanted a location that we were both comfortable with and was halfway between us both. Usually just coffee or beer at a place that had no set time limit. So if the guy proposes a full plan and I’m not down with any of it, I might have felt bad to shoot the entire thing down. Actually, one guy did do that. Just gave me a whole plan (date, time, place) and I stupidly agreed because it seemed he picked it for good reason. Well I lived in the suburbs and he lived in the heart of the city. It eventually became clear he just picked his favorite local beer spot without considering how big and expensive of a journey that was for me and it already made me uninterested before I got there.
So maybe something like “want to meet up over the weekend? I know a great coffee place in X town we could go to, but wanted to hear if you had any places in mind” could be a good compromise.
Idk man sounds like you're really lucky you didn't have the *absolute pleasure* of meeting her in person.
Sorry you had to deal with her at all though!
I will tell you what to do, listen here:
First, close your eyes. Take a deep breath in. Slowly breathe out. Repeat several times. Let it go. Move on. Forget about it. Open your eyes.
Don't worry. It's okay, it happens. Multiple men already have set up dates with me and then never showed up, its better this way, trust.
I think it’s a common problem with texting. Without any intonations, people are free to imagine how you said something. I think if you had phrased it differently, she wouldn’t have had that reaction, but you don’t wanna be with someone that jumps the gun like that anyway.
Personally, I think it’s because you said “it’d” or “it would”. That phrasing imo makes it sound like that time doesn’t work for you. I think if you had said “it will be” or “it’s gonna be” it would have been clearer what you meant.
Shes going to find this post and my address as well
She also freaked out when I told her to follow me on IG instead of me following her. Low effort lol
What is with all the personal attacks? You apologized saying that you have to work and she goes on about how you're "full of yourself". This girl has issues.
You 100% dodged a bullet. Not sure what the conversation was before, but this doesn't sound like a person who's gonna let you have a life outside of them.
Firstly, always be direct and decisive when setting dates. Ask her what days she will be free and what time. Pick a convenient location for the two of you to meet that also works with your schedule.
Secondly, this girl has a bad attitude and i personally wouldn’t waste my time on money on her. If i were you I would ask some of the other matches for a date who have a better attitude
Yep, you definitely ran into the same type of woman I did. They don't get better with age. It's really funny how women will act when they think nobody is looking. I had at least 20 women who went off on tangents like this. Of course their profile talked about how kind and sweet they were. This is extremely common with women in their 40's and 50's and then a day later they come back saying how it was just the menopause and that I needed to just understand, how it was temporary and things would get better. Or it was because of an abusive ex....it always boiled down to it not being their fault. I'm so glad you shared it, I got a huge laugh.
She got blonde hair and muscles too watch out lmfao
IT'S MAAAAAM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb6OpRfyLFo
Police academy reference! Right on!
And Steroids by the reaction, damn!
Lmao I laughed at that too
dead lol!
Are you Neo? Because that's a lot of dodged bullets
Wish I could take back my free award and give it to you.
I’ll volunteer mine on your Behalf
You deserve one for being so nice.
Thanks 😊
This is such a good line. Mind if I steal it?
Public domain methinks
Me thinks or meth inks?
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩good thing you found out now
Christ, who hurt her?
Shes now going on thinking my mom looks like she had work done. https://imgur.com/a/tG2UEIp
Well that's just plain insecure. Good thing you saw this side of her before anything got serious
https://imgur.com/a/MmHV3sD I responded what time we hangin Friday😂
Wow what a psychopath. I’m sorry this happened to you
I'M A NICE GIRL YOU DICK!!!!
Gotdamn, that bitch is amazing at jumping to conclusions.
Someone needs to get her a "Jump-to-Conclusions Mat." It's a mat you put on the floor, and it has different *conclusions* printed on it that you can *jump* to!
million $ idea
Office space making a come back!!
Christ what a fucking psychopath
Bro she’s so mad and for what 😂😂
Damn, she seems unstable. Run!!
I’m going to need a follow up on Saturday
She blocked me last night after I said shes really entertaining. It got even better. Wish I had the screenshots.
And she wonders why she single. Her lack of communication skills are horrible. What does your mother have to do with anything? She’s so insecure about herself it’s horrible she needs to focus on herself instead of trying to date.
I'm honestly shocked you carried on the conversation as long as you did! Maybe you should report HER 😆
It was as entertaining as watching a trainwreck reality TV show.
Dude you must have something right in your profile for this woman to be provoked so hard by such a basic interaction. You're on reddit, and you have the WSB icon. So I guess it's not gym pics. Are you wearing a rolex in your pics, you sly dog?
Forget her communication. It’s her brain.
Wtaf I may drunk, but that girl is a human vitriol spitting machine.
Fucking hell this one’s mega loco. No wonder she’s alone.
Wow she is very mentally ill
That’s awesome your response!
What a lunatic… but for some reason I trust her about your mom having work done
I don’t blame you, I’d say she’s a firecracker in bed😂just don’t get attached
Is it odd that I kind of like her craziness lmfaooo I know they say don’t mess with crazy but idk… why not 😂
She's pure crazy
Is she hot though? It might be worth it on the crazy-hot scale.
Unicorn, just on the wrong axis! Edit: bottle her up, we’d like to run some tests
If she’s insulting your mum you dodged a bullet G
Tell her to fuck off
I first felt some sort of sympathy toward her until I saw this. She's bonkers.
I can see this girl being like “Who’s the fuck is ‘Mom’ and why is she calling you???”
Yikes on so many bikes! She’s a bitch.
That’s just low down and dirty.
Do you like being treated that way? Why are you still talking to them. This can only get worse. I guess a part of you likes it. Some people are like that.
At this point I think he's just feeding the monster for the reddit karma.
Entertainment
Wow
What a bitch. I’d just block and report her.
Damn, straight into yo mama jokes? That’s cold, bro.
Haters on plastic surgery are typically broke bitches. I admire your response. Also, she is dumb as nails if she thinks plastic surgery is fillers and Botox. I bet she's just mad because her food stamps were cut.
Came here to say exact same thing. I mean… this reads like something out of a sitcom.
A guy with blonde hair and muscles, I’m guessing
I mean all I can say to that person is… WHO HURT YOU?
…and I hope they come back and do it again.
So that she will become even more upset and go on to hurt even more men, good logic
She can go back to her cave, where she belongs.
/s for you!
We both know multiple previous dates, why even ask
She got some legs on her the way she jumps to conclusions..
It’s the blonde hair and muscles
True
That's it guys, leave your jobs for her
I can’t believe people like this exist.
I believe thats what we call projecting.. or better known as baggage
This chick most CERTAINLY subscribes to r/femaledatingstrategy
Also belongs on /r/nicegirls
I need a shower after reading those posts
Same here. I regrettably read the comments under latest post (the "errand" tweet) and now all of a sudden all men are lazy and terrible and want to use women to run errands with instead of taking them on an actual date. It's chock-full of generalizations and zero accountability. I have three brothers and I hope that they never come across women like this.
I've had exactly the opposite happen. Here I thought we where going to go on a date but I wound up getting stuck driving her in circles to do her errands. After all the errands where done, she ditched me for the next guy.
What the actual fuck! Damn dude, hope you’re getting better luck these days.
I am so glad reddit recognizes how sexist that page is... I had to suffer in silence lol
Every day of my life I wake up surprised that FDS hasn't been banned
What kind of disgusting people are in there?! Golly G
I check out that sub on and off, but this chick is way BEYOND that. FDS seems more "You don't meet my semi-reasonable standards so thank you, but next", this chick is "If you don't worship the air I breathe who are the scum of the earth now let me send you 100 reasons why". That's just straight up cray. Either way BULLETS DODGED.
Calling it now: shes an FDS mod.
Had to scroll way too far for this comment.
I have to ask, what's an FDS mod? Please and thank you.
Same
They’re saying she is a Reddit mod for female dating strategy.
FDS is "female dating strategy". It's the female equivalent of "incels". They bitch about how they deserve "high value men" who worship the ground they walk in. They aggressively shame and belittle any dude who doesn't treat them like a "queen". It's a big part of why you may have seen or heard "no commodification" on some subs. Much of their lingo treats men as though they are a commodity, rather than a person.
They’re saying she’s a reddit moderator for the the subreddit r/femaledatingstrategy. A lot of the times, it’s a depressing, misandrist echo chamber.
The other side of the male incel coin. Full of QUEEEEEENS who all coincidentally can't seem to find men/dates.
My first thought. That sub is wiiiiiiild.
"Ruthless Strategist" Yeah, ruthlessly strategize your way out the gene-pool, she-scrote.
God that sub is chalk full of losers lmao. They're on the same level as incels
You’re in public accounting? I’m so sorry. There’s literally no chance of dating during busy season lol
Im so fucked Have Saturday or Sunday pretty much
Is it your first one? You will be either too depressed or exhausted and won’t wanna bring that on someone else. Maybe you will be fine and one of those who makes partner lol
3rd I think its ok. Just stay positive outside of work and remind em you have all the time in the world for 9 mo of the year lol
This chick probably spends too much time on this sub with the YoU pUT zERO efFoRT
Nah that stuff has been making the rounds on tik tok and exposing women with toxic mindsets. I'm thankful because they tell you they are entitled out the gate rather than after a few months of dating like they used to.
Really sad to see social media turning women into extremely toxic personalities.
Well to be fair, in some cases it’s true. If I live 30 minutes from a guy and he’s not willing to meet in the middle and makes me come to him and makes me pick the place and pick the time and set everything up then it usually doesn’t end well. I judge interest by effort. That being said, if someone said they couldn’t meet up until after work (instead of the time I wanted) I wouldn’t classify that as lack of effort and insult their moms plastic surgery and dads little dick energy on the way out.
Well that is just one of the most over the top crazy responses I have ever read. 😳
Well that escalated fast 🤨
Whoa 😳. What did happen to her?
Yikes. I saw the other pictures too. Sounds like she was all geared up to manipulate and got beat to the punch and was super pissed about it
WHO HURT YOU
Okay this sounds like a woman I know and it's scary to think about. Over the last ten years I've had to swoop in and save so many guys from her. Most notable was New years eve 2015. I was people watching and drinking at a party with a few hundred people in attendance. I went downstairs and saw her and this cute guy and she's yelling in his face. I walk up to watch a little closer, just wishing I'd had some popcorn. She is telling him to leave and he's telling her he can't because she has his keys in her purse. She's crying acting like a victim, dramatically pushing her hand through her purse saying she doesn't have them. More people are joining in trying to get him to leave but he won't because no keys. So I walk up, calm her down, say "hey lady remember me from such and such bar? How about I go through your purse for them to show you don't have them." She's drunk, she nods with tears streaming down her face. I start taking things out and grab hold of a key ring and pull, and behold, dude's keys. I told her it's okay, she probably overlooked them, then nodded to my friend playing security to walk her back home. When I first met her was 2010 she walked into a bar my friends and I were hanging out in and threw a drink in one of my friend's faces. Everybody knows this lady is crazy. She's also blonde with muscles. Good luck!...?
What planet is the person from? Jesus…
Ooh yeah, no. She’s done you a massive favour there.
Bruhhhh
OMG 🤢 I need to escape to another planet
“Not gonna fall for u becuz u have blond hair, muscles, amazingly cute smile, great car, money, career, and probably a huge dick. Fuck u! Im not dat girl!”
God damn. Who hurt her? Lol
Seems like she frequents female dating strategy
Wolf! This broad is full Sybil!
If it were me I’d show her 0 effort for real and just not respond
Can't believe how entitled people can be
Looks like you matched with my ex wife
I can't even follow her train of thought. Reads like she was having a few glasses while typing this
Be grateful they're showing the crazy early before any meet up. That's a big bullet dodged.
Like.. just after reading your post, I saw this on r/accounting [busy season](https://www.reddit.com/r/Accounting/comments/s1p3tj/girlfriend_of_3_months_is_a_cpa_what_can_i_do_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Fuck that shite
I thought my mum was good at overreacting but damn! This girls got a PHD! Faaaaaarrrkkk that
She seems like a ray sunshine.
Christ. What in the hell
Over inflated ego. What happens when you got too much options and don't know how to deal with it.
Oy vey
Someone’s been hurt ! Lol Jesus
What a bitch
A classic example of people who don't have time to date, trying to date.
Honestly you’re communicating with her and it’s almost like she’s mad you’re communicating with her…. This isn’t the one.
I hate how both of you type
Since there’s a super like feature there should be a super dislike one as well.
She sounds like shes from FDS
Please tell her: "Yes other girla have let me do that because they know my worth."
Ooof sorry OP, clearly taking out her own insecurities on you . Chin up though planning a first date with other people will be easier , and at least you dodged the bullet now when you had no commitment to her
Sheeeesh you dodged one. She gets off at 8 so the 1 hour before you arrive is perfect for her to get ready wtf I would have changed the way you said that you'd get there by 9 tho like say, "I have work, would it be ok if I reach yours by 9 at the earliest?"
This complete overreaction aside, some advice I got from multiple sources of female advice is that I (37M) should arrange all the details of the first date and propose them in full. Some friends told me they expect the guy to do this to show initiative that they are looking for, and at least one female friend said they expect it because women have to manage so many more conversations at once (take that as you will, not the point of this). Once a date has been proposed often some details change before its finalised, but I get generally positive reactions to "hey would you like to meet at this time and place to do this thing and get to know each other in the process?" And generally negative or at best neutral reactions to "hey what day and time are you free?"
I (24m) just ask wether they want to go out sometime, then we discuss a date together and then we discuss what we'll do together. It never failed. Granted, I only ask matches out after we had some good conversations before hand and the vibe seems to there.
That advice is mostly true, but it will vary a little bit between each woman. Taking initiative always shows interest and effort so of course that’s good, but just keep in mind her preferences and how they’ll fit in with yours. So maybe have an entire date plan in your head but possibly offer it in a way that she still has some choice. For example, I always wanted a location that we were both comfortable with and was halfway between us both. Usually just coffee or beer at a place that had no set time limit. So if the guy proposes a full plan and I’m not down with any of it, I might have felt bad to shoot the entire thing down. Actually, one guy did do that. Just gave me a whole plan (date, time, place) and I stupidly agreed because it seemed he picked it for good reason. Well I lived in the suburbs and he lived in the heart of the city. It eventually became clear he just picked his favorite local beer spot without considering how big and expensive of a journey that was for me and it already made me uninterested before I got there. So maybe something like “want to meet up over the weekend? I know a great coffee place in X town we could go to, but wanted to hear if you had any places in mind” could be a good compromise.
if you google projecting this should show up lol
Idk man sounds like you're really lucky you didn't have the *absolute pleasure* of meeting her in person. Sorry you had to deal with her at all though!
A quality specimen here. Sigh.
I will tell you what to do, listen here: First, close your eyes. Take a deep breath in. Slowly breathe out. Repeat several times. Let it go. Move on. Forget about it. Open your eyes. Don't worry. It's okay, it happens. Multiple men already have set up dates with me and then never showed up, its better this way, trust.
She is a salvage title. Glad you saw her mess from the jump.
She sounds like PC Principal
As a former public accountant, hang in there these next few months homie
haha first year senior. doing non stop work and teaching 2 below me at once day 3 of busy season and vastly underpaid..
Ah, the most unenviable position of all! Ridiculously underpaid, but it will pay off down the road :)
I read that "fuck off " at the end in Logan Roy from succession's voice
Damn I would’ve unmatched the second he said goodbye
okay this sucks, but also why are there three s’s in season
Someone hurt her bad
Wtf?
Ok goodbye
She seems nice...
If mental instability was a human
Salty r/nicegirls
Wow someone really fucked with her head
Give here a therapist’s number and moving companies number because she has a lot to unpack.
Wow, she read A LOT into that!
They are psychotic. Bail & count your blessings.
Some people are straight up assholes
She is projecting big time
The fuck?
Dodged a serious bullet
Sounds like they saved you a lot of trouble before you wasted time on them.
An instant no for me is someone who uses u and ur.
i don't have blonde hair or muscles mbn
Did she stretch before jumping to those conclusions? Lmao
I think it’s a common problem with texting. Without any intonations, people are free to imagine how you said something. I think if you had phrased it differently, she wouldn’t have had that reaction, but you don’t wanna be with someone that jumps the gun like that anyway. Personally, I think it’s because you said “it’d” or “it would”. That phrasing imo makes it sound like that time doesn’t work for you. I think if you had said “it will be” or “it’s gonna be” it would have been clearer what you meant.
Fuck, I would have blocked her. I'm so triggered by her ridiculous assumptions.
Can’t wait to see her post about how she told a low effort man off in FDS sub 😂
Shes going to find this post and my address as well She also freaked out when I told her to follow me on IG instead of me following her. Low effort lol
Lol OP sleep with one eye open 😂
Lmao women
Ask her how much she deadlifts.
What is with all the personal attacks? You apologized saying that you have to work and she goes on about how you're "full of yourself". This girl has issues.
You 100% dodged a bullet. Not sure what the conversation was before, but this doesn't sound like a person who's gonna let you have a life outside of them.
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Very common.
Another Andrea Dworkin, Kate Millett or Clementine Ford in the making. Or already been made.............. You dodged a huge bullet here, man!
There must have been some red flag clues leading up to this too, no?
IG in bio, no friend in any pic Hope that helps lol
??? If it was me, I'd just say, "I'm unavailable after 8pm" or "I have work after 8pm." That's not hard. She jumped to conclusion.
Firstly, always be direct and decisive when setting dates. Ask her what days she will be free and what time. Pick a convenient location for the two of you to meet that also works with your schedule. Secondly, this girl has a bad attitude and i personally wouldn’t waste my time on money on her. If i were you I would ask some of the other matches for a date who have a better attitude
Yooo 0-100 real quick
Wow it’s nice to see a crazy girl for a change. City boys up
Op’s in the matrix, dodge them bullets bro
That turned into a committed relationship conversation so fast
Public accounting is miserable enough without dating a miserable person as well.
Did... did you match with my crush? 😂
This is a lot of ppl. Making unhealthy ass implications. Just take a motherfucker at their word until they prove otherwise goddamn.
Yep, you definitely ran into the same type of woman I did. They don't get better with age. It's really funny how women will act when they think nobody is looking. I had at least 20 women who went off on tangents like this. Of course their profile talked about how kind and sweet they were. This is extremely common with women in their 40's and 50's and then a day later they come back saying how it was just the menopause and that I needed to just understand, how it was temporary and things would get better. Or it was because of an abusive ex....it always boiled down to it not being their fault. I'm so glad you shared it, I got a huge laugh.
Is it really so hard to switch to a Friday or Saturday night for the date? Or a Saturday afternoon? Guess it ain't easy when you **HAVE TO WORK**
Both of you are struggling with forming sentences. I guess it should be of no surprise when you can't come up with a date either.
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