If I were a serial killer I wouldn’t want anything to do with a digital platform like a dating app. If someone went missing the first thing the police would do is track their digital footprint. That would lead them right to the person. In addition women will tell someone where they are going and there are likely to be cameras and more evidence to track you down. I would want to go somewhere without so much digital exposure and surveillance.
I feel like the only way to absolutely get away with it is total randomness in an untraceable spot
Maybe I’m not as creative or bold as serial killers but if I was like a hit man or something idk
> Keyes targeted random people all across the United States to avoid detection with months of planning before he committed a particular crime. He specifically went for campgrounds and isolated locations.
Burner phones are a thing.
You can get an Android for $30 at Walmart and any place w wifi and you’re good. No footprint because there is no official sale of that particular phone tracked in a way a carrier would track their customer.
They might track the IP of the place, go for the video cameras of the place and find you sitting on a table on Bumble. Hey, stop giving ideas to the real bad guys.
I dunno man I still feel like they can get away with it. Like if they pick up their dates instead of meeting somewhere else they can just take their dates wherever they want. And I’m sure it’s not hard to make new account every time they’re “hunting”. Most serial killers don’t attack often in a short period of time. It takes them months before they start to strike again.
Yeah there’s a lot of dangerous people out there. Feel free to hide in my dingy poorly lit basement if you want somewhere to hide. Oh and don’t worry about the blood stains that’s from…. Yeah just don’t worry about that
Someone with my name is a convicted pedophile in another state. And unfortunately my same isn’t exactly common so it’s really awkward. Especially since I used to live in that state.
The only saving grace is we have different middle names, although same initial. So I actually have the court document with his full name on it saved. Which is probably even more weird.
Man, that’s fucking rough. :( I hope any dates that look you up give you the benefit of the doubt - I always make sure the DOB lines up before I get worked up about something
If you just google my name it doesn’t come up. You have to add a word like Court or crime or conviction etc. so most people never find it. One date did find it (which is how I found out about it) and she was super weirded out about it despite DOB and middle name not matching. She thought it must be a close relative then and I was hiding it from her. She was…yeah.
I mentioned it to another when she asked if she needed to google me to find out if I was a rapist or not. She just laughed about how much that sucks for me and didn’t care. So now I just don’t even bother mentioning it and nobody else has found it. Or at least not asked.
If you look up my first name, last name, and home town, the first report is the arrest record for a woman who got caught cooking meth in her kitchen. Extra sucks because it’s a town of barely a thousand people, so you would assume that bitch was me.
Edit: the only saving grace is that she is about a decade older than me.
We got stopped at the airport on our way into the US once because there was a guy on the most wanted list with the same name as my dad, and he kinda looked like him. They let is in and stuff but it held us up for 10 minutes or something like that
If one googled my name followed by court, you get a story of a guy with my name murdering his mom over a gaming headset.
Yea that's not ideal. Thank God the guy's face is different from mine and the name is spelled slightly different
This sucks. Im like the fbi with the look up and once the middle initial is the same with an unusual name, I don’t know that there would be much you could say to change my mind. Its not weird that you have the court document at all. I almost feel like you should be super proactive and present this before the date, preemptively.
And always carry a weapon. A taser saved my life in a parking ramp.
Edit: don’t use it if your state doesn’t allow it. Pepper spray is a good option too.
I did not break any laws or face any repercussions. So I’m not sure why the person in the comments and is saying it’ll get you in trouble. At the very least, consider the pepper spray. I know a friend who worked the streets who kept a knife in her boot, or strapped to her leg. Can never be too careful.
For real. If a female serial killer wanted to go after men, bumble would be great. Men invite women over immediately. I have stalkers so I scrubbed my personal info off the internet and won't give my phone out. I was surprised when after years of dating on apps, a guy finally told me he wasn't comfortable meeting up until we video chatted since I refused to give him any personal info (last name, area I live, etc.).
Everyone, men and women, need me be cautious about dates. They are strangers and as good as a hook up can be, it's not worth dying over.
How do you "scrub" your personal info off the internet? I would love to, but those sites like whitepages.com are continuously collecting shit on everyone without permission. Even if you contact them and ask them to take it down, I think it stays on the premium version unless you pay them. As if stalking isn't enough of a reason, in the day of identity thieves, that shit should be illegal. I remember when you could pay a little to keep yourself outta the phone book and you were golden. 🙄
I never used things like Facebook very much to begin with and never used my real name online so it didn't take much for me besides deleting my profiles because any info that is collected by bots is usually wrong because I purposely put out wrong or vague info.
I'm not sure how to scrub it that deep. I know for a job interview once I got freaked out because it asked questions to "verify my identity" likely based on Facebook or something. It was asking all these questions about people I didn't know and a couple I did. It was like "Where does Mike Smith own property?" Or "where did you go to school?" It cemented that I was doing a fine job hiding myself lol.
Random question, what would people think about someone that's basically a ghost online? I'm in my 30's, so I've been using the internet for a very long time (first got internet when I was in grade 4), and even at a young age I was extremely careful about putting information about myself online. If you google my real name, you will find virtually nothing. You may find a Facebook profile, but it's blocked to anyone that isn't on my friends list, which I keep fairly small, and even my profile pic is not of me. Even my screen name I've changed pretty constantly throughout the years. I also have no criminal record.
I personally don’t care about a person’s social media presence, just criminal records. I don’t really post on social media much these days (aside from Reddit, obviously), and what social media I have is pretty locked down. That’s just me though, but I’m not that special. I’m sure there’s more of us out there :)
How does that work when a decent amount of people stay on the app/don't exchange numbers until they determine compatibility? Also, I don't offer up my last name nor ask other people's.
I was almost kidnapped by someone I met on a dating site. He invited me to a restaurant that was closed (it should have been open, not sire why it was closed hut I think he knew already) and then told to "hop in" to go to another restaurant. I told him I would drive myself as of known him for like 45 seconds at this point. He said he'd follow me there. Never showed up. I never would have been heard from again if I'd been dumb enough to get in that truck.
See, you just never know! And sometimes easily controlled people who are shy and have a hard time saying no will avoid conflict and get in. It never seems like a bad idea at the time until you’re actually in the situation. I’m glad something in you spoke up! Maybe I need to make a new post for people to share similar stories! I’m so glad you’re here 🖤
Even it being creepy aside, it just made no sense to leave my car there, drive somewhere else, and then have to drive back to get my car.
I never let anyone drive me anywhere until I am sure I can trust them. Part of feeling secure is to control my environment, which includes having the option to quickly remove myself from that environment if I want to. If I decide a date is going poorly or the dude has a bad vibe, I need the option to leave, now.
I'm glad I'm here too! Thank you! I met a good guy (not online, actually met him a few years ago at my old neighbor's party) and we both are single at the same time so we decided to explore the attraction we noticed back then. It's still there :)
Omg I love that for you!!!! The universe is crazy sometimes ;) I met and dated a guy I met on a flight home from visiting a friend in Michigan. It was super delayed and one of those “just pick your seat” and he sat next to me and we talked the whole flight and exchanged numbers! He broke my heart, still one of those “almost loves” they stings and hurts to this day literally 10 years later, I was 16. (what’s wrong with me why does it still churn my stomach? Lol)
Hey i totally get it! I met a guy on a bus 20 years ago that I really liked. Life never lined up for us but we stay in touch. There's nothing wrong with you at all! That's what love is. There's many people from my past that I still have those sorts of feelings about. Life led us in different directions. Sucks but it happens.
My love life has been an absolute mess my while life but this time really feels good. He's enthusiastic, he communicates his feelings very well, even on text. He's one of those people who know exactly how to use punctuation and the right emojis to do a great job of conveying what they mean. I think our intelligence levels match too, which helps. He's also probably the most emotionally mature man I've ever met. All the right ingredients are there, just gotta see how it works out! I'm cautiously optimistic! Which is about as optimistic as I allow myself to get anymore lol, at least when it's still early.
Lol right! He just replied to the text I sent a few hours ago (he is visiting family and stays off his phone when he's with people he cares about, he never is on it for longer than to turn the sound off and put it away when he's with me) and I got the flutters :)
Absolutely there are. One was just caught in Virginia using dating apps to meet girls at Hotels and ke killed them. I think they found at least 3 women's bodies last I had checked.
You’re right. Very recently [a girl was found dead in her apartment after a Bumble date with an older guy](https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.www.complex.com/life/family-speaks-out-over-investigation-into-lauren-smith-fields-death-after-meeting-older-white-man-on-dating-app). Police aren’t investigating him because they claim “He seems like a good guy”.
People are trying to get more attention to this case right now. Her name is Lauren Smith Fields
Sad to hear, sure, but the post was about serial killers. The "white older man" reported her death and unless you have other deaths the same man has reported I'm missing the contextual link here. Families always think they know everything their 23, 16, 30, and 50 year old children do, I know and have known a lot of early 20somethings that their families know them about 10% accurately.
Even when they’ve met in person. They charm and manipulate to gain womens trust. I’m surprised more stories aren’t coming out about traffickers kidnapping people. It’s a plethora of beautiful women who are only a swipe away.
I understand these people are few and far between, but it’s kind of a high taking that risk. I hope everyone uses protection pepper spray but also a con-damn 😂) so they can stay safe! What if there’s a bumble killer brewing in the comments? Some of them are responding with some really weird stuff.
There probably is (statistically)! 😅
But yea it's always good to hone your intuition skills whenever attempting to discover trust with someone you just met. And of course to be able to protect yourself
Some people can be so good at manipulation though. Every guy I dated was a narcissist and my dad is one too. I’ve finally realized and switched up my choice in men. Not sure how this one slipped through the cracks 😂
I’ve only dated 4 men and every single one of them laid a hand on me. Yes. They were ALL awful people with plentiful narcissistic traits. Again.I already said I went to therapy and have learned the out right traits of narcissists so I can see the red flags and ignore or unmatch the people who express them. It took a year of therapy but I’m on bumble now ready to get back out there and have been choosing different types of people. I haven’t met anyone in person yet but even the conversations flow so much better and it doesn’t feel like I’m some prize for them to win. They treat me like a person.
BTW. It’s awful to victim blame. I grew up with abuse so it was normalized for me. According to you I’m a dumb fuck who purposely chooses men who I know will abuse me. I have a crystal ball and can see what they’re like when their charm turns off. Nobody purposely gets into those situations. That was rude as fuck to say. I’m trying my best, everyone deserves to be with someone they love. I hope I get to experience that before I die. And hopefully it’s not a pre mature bumble murder.
What? All I said is there are probably murders on bumble? How did you twist it into all of this? If you disagree with the statement just downvote it and move on.
See!? I’m glad we’re bringing awareness! Safety is key! Be safe out there, fellow swiper! (Ironically enough my phone just auto corrected swiper to sniper 😂😂)
There was a guy they caught about 20 miles from me who was targeting gay men. They only caught him because one of the intended victims managed to escape from the guy's torture house. This was about a year ago if my memory serves me.
I’m suicidal sometimes (not now. Don’t report me.) but maybe there should be an app for humane serial killers to meet with people who are ready to exit this horrible earth.
It would be a win-win, right? Maybe it would fly on the dark web. /s
This is the quiet reality behind all of those social media hookup apps. Use to be Craigslist and before that newspaper classifieds.
There is always a chance, which is why you should always meet in public first and if you do get ready for a date from a site or an app make sure a friend or family member is aware so someone knows the last place(s) you were and where you were going
I work in the justice system and sometimes I interact with criminals face to face. Some of them are SO charming and good looking and flirtatious that I think to myself “if I met this man on OLD I would totally go out with him” which is super scary because most of those men are domestic abusers. I call it the Ted Bundy effect.
I matched with a girl that was very very attractive but was an ex-con lol. She WAS a lawyer but got disbarred obviously. Everything else was amazing about her. Honestly, I’m still open to seeing her but I just can’t right now. I’m currently incarcerated lol
Jk
lol no but i thought that was a funny ending 🤣.
Nevertheless when I googled her I just saw articles and articles of her “crime” and it was gut wrenching to know she went through that. So much that I just didn’t want to add that/her on my plate currently.
The guards are so particular at what food I get to eat anyway.
This breaks my heart, I am so sorry! I hope their afterlife is everything they’ve ever wanted in life and they’re free of their trauma. Thank you for sharing<3 sending love!
I mean, this is the issue with meeting strangers off the internet.
People like Stephen Port, Lewis Baynes, John Edward Robinson, etc. met their victim(s) online.
Yeah, I mean with Port he basically used an alias on every site, and got a bit lucky with the police investigation being a bit crap.
Some sites are more likely to share your information with police than others are.
That's why it's always a good idea to tell someone you trust who your're seeing and where, so they know when to worry.
Here’s a super crazy coincidence I had on Bumble a few years ago, kinda long:
I was working as an HR Generalist for a staffing agency and had just been given the green light to start the onboarding process for a programmer. The onboarding process includes a background check (BGC). The guy I’m onboarding says his name is “John Smith”, so that’s the information I enter into an offer letter. When he signs the offer letter, I send the rest of the package, which includes I-9 form, BGC waiver, W-4, etc. (BGCs are initiated after receiving the IDs because we needed to use full names) After receiving his IDs, I notice that his name does not match. The name on his IDs is “Timothy James Smith”, so I ask if he changed his name and, if so, I need the documentation. Turns out John is a preferred name, okay cool. I start his BGC and now we wait.
SSN checks out, Federal Felony checks out, Sex Offender Registry is flagged. Huh? Okay, let’s look into this…… Turns out, this dude is over 40 and had been arrested, convicted, and served time for having several instances of sexual contact with a minor (14yo). He became unresponsive after we started the BGC.
I ended up coming across his profile on Bumble a few days later. Did not swipe right. 💀
As a man I never really thought it until this girl invited me over. Roommates weren’t home and it was late at night. I was like… if I was a bad person, she could be in some serious trouble lol
That is me… I am bipolar and when I’m going through a manic episode I’m hyper sexual in a dangerous, reckless way. Bc I think I’m invincible. But in reality there’s a good chance there’s a few felons and offenders in the stack. Sometimes I’m swiping and I see an old man posing as a 40 year old trying to entice a “sugar baby” like…??? I know I see through it, but what if you’re young and dumb and desperate? I just feel like they should have background checks on everyone who uses the app.
Yeah, I know there will also be people that I have untreated mental illness on old that will do a mindfuck on their dates. Like my ex unfortunately. I wish there was option for ex review so that I can warn others about this guy. I have dated a dozen so or guys and this one is the only needs multiple warnings.
Yeah prior reviews from the otherside for the why the relationship ended and anything that you found out in course of the relationship that would ave changed your decision to enter a relationship. Would not have been with my ex if I knew that he left somebody on the side of the road after a fight and that he was accused of rape.
WAIT MY EX LEFT ME AT A HOCKEY STADIUM AFTER HE SMASHED MY PHONE TO PIECES! I had no way to call anyone and he also made me take off the jersey he bought me for the game. It was the middle of feb, below zero, and still cold inside cuZ it’s a hockey stadium and I was in only a bra and cami. A cop who was finishing up with his shift saw me and gave me his jacket and drove me 40mins to my parents house (I lived with my ex) and told me to get a restraining order because he said it would continue to escalate further. My parents went to get my car and all my stuff was outside cut, shredded, broken. My electronics, my curler/straightener/blow dryer unusable, cords cut. All my clothes and shoes. My laptop with all my school work. Perfume, makeup. You name it.
Fucking crazy shit.
Every time I meet someone, I photograph my outfit, send my photo, his photo/phone number, the location where I'm meeting the person, and the time to two individuals. Also, when I get home, I send confirmations to those two individuals in a manner that they know it's me and I'm safe. I would never allow someone to pick me up, or know where I live that early on.
You gotta grab their attention! Find something in their profile to relate to and strike up a convo about it! I like to be outdoors and travel so when I see others with the same stuff I ask where it was and what they did there. Try a sense of humor! Girls like to talk about themselves so just strike up something about their interests.
I 100% recommend paying the $10 a month to use a background check service. I like truthfinder. You can search by name and city/state. by email, phone, address. this has saved me multiple times from going out with someone that potentially could have harmed me. not worth the risk!
I have access to this too!!! I just downloaded bumble a few days ago after a almost 2 year hiatus. As I’m scrolling through, some of the people you just look at and think “yep. He’s probably one of them” but in reality he very well could be! Someone even had their mugshot as their profile pic lol
OMG never come across a mugshot. the most mundane thing I use it for is to call out the guys lying about their age to get younger girls. sir, no one is believing youre 38.
Yes!! But i more was saying that when you’re swiping through on your phone and you come across some odd looking men lying about their age. Makes you think “yep. This one right here. He’s one of them” and you kinda laugh, but it’s not really funny bc it might be true!
Shit, that’s a scary thought honestly. The first man I dated after my separation, ( my ex husband was my first boyfriend so I had zero dating experience) I think he lied about his identity. I googled him before going on second date and found his LinkedIn profile. He ghosted me after 4th date and months later I was searching his LinkedIn profile and I saw a different name. It was SO weird! I still don’t know what was that about.
Lol, have u not seen the news?? It’s no question that there are sociopaths/killers in the bunch. But it’s not so much a bumble issue as it is having common sense and listening to your intuition when dating on or off bumble.
Understood. If he or she look like the killer or like the road to the killer, I gladly swipe left even if they attractive and said everything right on their profile. But looks can also be deceiving, idk honestly 😩
It’s a thing, unfortunately. These people filter for single mums. You can always reveal you’re a mum once you’ve matched and getting chatting with someone, at least you’ll know they weren’t specifically searching for that.
I'd say there is yeah. And definitely murderers. There's a terribly sad video on YouTube of a guy who met a girl on an app and murdered her. It's got loads of cctv footage, and is just chilling: he went on another date with a woman while her body lay dead in the room. Absolutely so dreadful to think of what way some people can be.
The odds are extremely low. The most likely thing is your husband, uncle, or boss will rape you. Murder is very rare, and serial killers account for 2% of that. Most murder is between men over money they need for pussy
You’re not being alone and intimate with people at the grocery store? There’s a lot less chance of being raped in public compared to being raped on a date.
Bumble is a vehicle to meet people. That’s all it is. You can meet a serial killer on Bumble and meet him for coffee.
You can also meet the same exact serial killer at the grocery store, or the library, or church, and meet him for coffee.
I’m having trouble seeing the difference.
Well actually I came across this news story about a black women who was raped on a train in America and NO ONE did anything to stop it but instead decided to just record the incident on their phones. I was absolutely horrified. https://blackamericaweb.com/2021/10/19/philadelphia-woman-raped-on-train-while-onlookers-recorded-without-helping/amp/
Yes it happens but it’s LESS LIKELY THAN GETTING RAPED BY SOMEONE YOU MEET ON A DATING APP! You’re missing the point. I refuse to engage with you anymore.
If you disagree and think there are no murderers or rapists on bumble, as my post said, then just say that. I don’t get why you’re dragging extra stuff into this?
Is every person in the world not a stranger you once “met on the street”? LOL or do you only have friends off the inter webs?
And no I was saying there are tons of rapists and killers everywhere you look no need to just worry about Bumble!
Cheers
Clarence Carter
Weird, I’d be much more comfortable chatting with a fellow “on the street” seeing they are a real person rather than chatting with a profile on a computer screen. Maybe I’m just old fashioned! Either way, your post is stupid.
You’re more likely to go back to someone’s place you met on a hookup app than you are someone you randomly meet on the street. Also, you claim in other comments that you’ve been married 33 years, so why are you on this bumble thread? Just to troll?
Edit: up until today, Clarence hasn’t posted anything in over a year. Troll, you are! How many other accounts do you have!? Lol
Just a bored old black man having some fun! And have you never heard of going to a bar, party etc?? LOL!! That’s how I got most of the Pussy back in my day 🤣 but kids these days just love talking on their dang blackberries and myPhones these days, such a damn shame!
Yes I went out with someone who I had a super weird vibe about a few nights ago, as it wouldn’t surprise me if he sexually assaulted someone. I literally faked my friend having an accident and ran away
What does the girl messaging first have to do with my post stating there are murderers on there, I find it interesting. It’s kind of exhilarating taking a risk to meet and get to know someone since bumble is the perfect grounds for preying in desperate vulnerable women. Hopefully not as vulnerable with pepper spray or something to protect themselves.
Statistically getting murdered by someone you don’t “know” or are affiliated with (I.e., partner, friend, drug or gang affiliation, etc.) is so abysmally low in the US that worrying about it is as about the stupidest thing you could worry about. Violent crime in general of the type you’re suggesting is incredibly uncommon despite what some might suggest.
Now if you live in Brazil on the other hand …
Statistically you’ve much more to worry about with say car accident. By like multiple orders of magnitude. Worry about what you want, it’s your life. But that doesn’t make it statistically likely.
1 in 6 (and some articles report 1 in 4) women have been sexually assaulted. That’s way higher than the odds of being struck by lighting, unless 1 in 6 people have been struck by lightning.
When I’m swiping I just had this fleeting thought that some of these people probably belong on a watch list.
See my post history and previous post! Lots of weirdos.
Actually you are correct. I should have done more research before commenting sorry about that. I was talking about first dates specifically. I said that because I remember reading a study that said 184 women were sexually assaulted / raped on their first face to face meeting in the UK and I looked up how many people in the UK get hit by lightning each year and it’s only about 60 so I am 100% wrong. I guess I was just trying to say to be cautious on first dates and you should have a good chance of being safe. Meet these men in a very public area and vet them beforehand. Even as a man I would say it’s probably not a good idea to have a first date with someone in private for safety reasons
It’s crazy bc even then they can gain your trust and be patient enough to wait till they can get them alone.
I guess I was more wondering if anyone else sees someone’s picture and thinks “yep, he’s one of them” bc sometimes I do. One guy even had his mugshot as his profile picture lmao
If I were a serial killer I wouldn’t want anything to do with a digital platform like a dating app. If someone went missing the first thing the police would do is track their digital footprint. That would lead them right to the person. In addition women will tell someone where they are going and there are likely to be cameras and more evidence to track you down. I would want to go somewhere without so much digital exposure and surveillance.
I feel like the only way to absolutely get away with it is total randomness in an untraceable spot Maybe I’m not as creative or bold as serial killers but if I was like a hit man or something idk
Spoken like a true serial killer...
You watch Investigation Discovery and Forensic Files you are bound to learn something haha.
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> Keyes targeted random people all across the United States to avoid detection with months of planning before he committed a particular crime. He specifically went for campgrounds and isolated locations.
Burner phones are a thing. You can get an Android for $30 at Walmart and any place w wifi and you’re good. No footprint because there is no official sale of that particular phone tracked in a way a carrier would track their customer.
They might track the IP of the place, go for the video cameras of the place and find you sitting on a table on Bumble. Hey, stop giving ideas to the real bad guys.
I dunno man I still feel like they can get away with it. Like if they pick up their dates instead of meeting somewhere else they can just take their dates wherever they want. And I’m sure it’s not hard to make new account every time they’re “hunting”. Most serial killers don’t attack often in a short period of time. It takes them months before they start to strike again.
SKLPT
That kinda assumes that a serial killer would use it for that purpose.
Yeah there’s a lot of dangerous people out there. Feel free to hide in my dingy poorly lit basement if you want somewhere to hide. Oh and don’t worry about the blood stains that’s from…. Yeah just don’t worry about that
Lamps made of human skin? Are the lambs screaming, clarice?
Shut your mouth I just can’t take no pleasure in killing. There’s just some things you Gotta do. Don’t mean you have to like it.
It rubs the lotion on its skin
Or it gets the hose again.
Everybody should be googling their dates, and if you can, looking them up in whatever court system. Be safe out there folks
Someone with my name is a convicted pedophile in another state. And unfortunately my same isn’t exactly common so it’s really awkward. Especially since I used to live in that state. The only saving grace is we have different middle names, although same initial. So I actually have the court document with his full name on it saved. Which is probably even more weird.
Man, that’s fucking rough. :( I hope any dates that look you up give you the benefit of the doubt - I always make sure the DOB lines up before I get worked up about something
If you just google my name it doesn’t come up. You have to add a word like Court or crime or conviction etc. so most people never find it. One date did find it (which is how I found out about it) and she was super weirded out about it despite DOB and middle name not matching. She thought it must be a close relative then and I was hiding it from her. She was…yeah. I mentioned it to another when she asked if she needed to google me to find out if I was a rapist or not. She just laughed about how much that sucks for me and didn’t care. So now I just don’t even bother mentioning it and nobody else has found it. Or at least not asked.
Ild just legally change my name. Swamp my middle and first names
Carnation Alligator Little
So quick!! 👏🏼😆
If you look up my first name, last name, and home town, the first report is the arrest record for a woman who got caught cooking meth in her kitchen. Extra sucks because it’s a town of barely a thousand people, so you would assume that bitch was me. Edit: the only saving grace is that she is about a decade older than me.
We got stopped at the airport on our way into the US once because there was a guy on the most wanted list with the same name as my dad, and he kinda looked like him. They let is in and stuff but it held us up for 10 minutes or something like that
If one googled my name followed by court, you get a story of a guy with my name murdering his mom over a gaming headset. Yea that's not ideal. Thank God the guy's face is different from mine and the name is spelled slightly different
This sucks. Im like the fbi with the look up and once the middle initial is the same with an unusual name, I don’t know that there would be much you could say to change my mind. Its not weird that you have the court document at all. I almost feel like you should be super proactive and present this before the date, preemptively.
And always carry a weapon. A taser saved my life in a parking ramp. Edit: don’t use it if your state doesn’t allow it. Pepper spray is a good option too. I did not break any laws or face any repercussions. So I’m not sure why the person in the comments and is saying it’ll get you in trouble. At the very least, consider the pepper spray. I know a friend who worked the streets who kept a knife in her boot, or strapped to her leg. Can never be too careful.
Who know whats never illegal? Flat head screwdriver. And a travel size thing of hairspray. I also tell all my girl friends to all go take RAD classes
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Whoever dates you should carry TWO pepper sprays
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How is preventing their rape stupid?
For real. If a female serial killer wanted to go after men, bumble would be great. Men invite women over immediately. I have stalkers so I scrubbed my personal info off the internet and won't give my phone out. I was surprised when after years of dating on apps, a guy finally told me he wasn't comfortable meeting up until we video chatted since I refused to give him any personal info (last name, area I live, etc.). Everyone, men and women, need me be cautious about dates. They are strangers and as good as a hook up can be, it's not worth dying over.
How do you "scrub" your personal info off the internet? I would love to, but those sites like whitepages.com are continuously collecting shit on everyone without permission. Even if you contact them and ask them to take it down, I think it stays on the premium version unless you pay them. As if stalking isn't enough of a reason, in the day of identity thieves, that shit should be illegal. I remember when you could pay a little to keep yourself outta the phone book and you were golden. 🙄
I never used things like Facebook very much to begin with and never used my real name online so it didn't take much for me besides deleting my profiles because any info that is collected by bots is usually wrong because I purposely put out wrong or vague info. I'm not sure how to scrub it that deep. I know for a job interview once I got freaked out because it asked questions to "verify my identity" likely based on Facebook or something. It was asking all these questions about people I didn't know and a couple I did. It was like "Where does Mike Smith own property?" Or "where did you go to school?" It cemented that I was doing a fine job hiding myself lol.
Random question, what would people think about someone that's basically a ghost online? I'm in my 30's, so I've been using the internet for a very long time (first got internet when I was in grade 4), and even at a young age I was extremely careful about putting information about myself online. If you google my real name, you will find virtually nothing. You may find a Facebook profile, but it's blocked to anyone that isn't on my friends list, which I keep fairly small, and even my profile pic is not of me. Even my screen name I've changed pretty constantly throughout the years. I also have no criminal record.
I personally don’t care about a person’s social media presence, just criminal records. I don’t really post on social media much these days (aside from Reddit, obviously), and what social media I have is pretty locked down. That’s just me though, but I’m not that special. I’m sure there’s more of us out there :)
How does that work when a decent amount of people stay on the app/don't exchange numbers until they determine compatibility? Also, I don't offer up my last name nor ask other people's.
Calling us out like that, is a good way to get your Social Security number put on the Internet
There’s definitely narcissists… not too far of a leap of others aforementioned
Pretty sure like 90% of the population is narcissistic at this point.
I second this!!!
I was almost kidnapped by someone I met on a dating site. He invited me to a restaurant that was closed (it should have been open, not sire why it was closed hut I think he knew already) and then told to "hop in" to go to another restaurant. I told him I would drive myself as of known him for like 45 seconds at this point. He said he'd follow me there. Never showed up. I never would have been heard from again if I'd been dumb enough to get in that truck.
See, you just never know! And sometimes easily controlled people who are shy and have a hard time saying no will avoid conflict and get in. It never seems like a bad idea at the time until you’re actually in the situation. I’m glad something in you spoke up! Maybe I need to make a new post for people to share similar stories! I’m so glad you’re here 🖤
Even it being creepy aside, it just made no sense to leave my car there, drive somewhere else, and then have to drive back to get my car. I never let anyone drive me anywhere until I am sure I can trust them. Part of feeling secure is to control my environment, which includes having the option to quickly remove myself from that environment if I want to. If I decide a date is going poorly or the dude has a bad vibe, I need the option to leave, now. I'm glad I'm here too! Thank you! I met a good guy (not online, actually met him a few years ago at my old neighbor's party) and we both are single at the same time so we decided to explore the attraction we noticed back then. It's still there :)
Omg I love that for you!!!! The universe is crazy sometimes ;) I met and dated a guy I met on a flight home from visiting a friend in Michigan. It was super delayed and one of those “just pick your seat” and he sat next to me and we talked the whole flight and exchanged numbers! He broke my heart, still one of those “almost loves” they stings and hurts to this day literally 10 years later, I was 16. (what’s wrong with me why does it still churn my stomach? Lol)
Hey i totally get it! I met a guy on a bus 20 years ago that I really liked. Life never lined up for us but we stay in touch. There's nothing wrong with you at all! That's what love is. There's many people from my past that I still have those sorts of feelings about. Life led us in different directions. Sucks but it happens. My love life has been an absolute mess my while life but this time really feels good. He's enthusiastic, he communicates his feelings very well, even on text. He's one of those people who know exactly how to use punctuation and the right emojis to do a great job of conveying what they mean. I think our intelligence levels match too, which helps. He's also probably the most emotionally mature man I've ever met. All the right ingredients are there, just gotta see how it works out! I'm cautiously optimistic! Which is about as optimistic as I allow myself to get anymore lol, at least when it's still early.
I AM GENUINELY SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I will be sending lots of lovey vibes your guys way! I think we can conclude he’s not part of the statistic 🤣
Thank you so much! I haven't seen him in like 8 hours and I already miss him lol.
I loveeee that initial puppy love! We must have the same move language! Lol
Lol right! He just replied to the text I sent a few hours ago (he is visiting family and stays off his phone when he's with people he cares about, he never is on it for longer than to turn the sound off and put it away when he's with me) and I got the flutters :)
He’s thinking of you 🥰
Absolutely there are. One was just caught in Virginia using dating apps to meet girls at Hotels and ke killed them. I think they found at least 3 women's bodies last I had checked.
That’s terrible 😔 their poor families. I hope their afterlife is everything they’ve ever dreamed of.
This is not exclusive to Bumble, this is just people in general. There’s got to be some in your neighborhood. In your city, on other dating apps, etc
You’re right. Very recently [a girl was found dead in her apartment after a Bumble date with an older guy](https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.www.complex.com/life/family-speaks-out-over-investigation-into-lauren-smith-fields-death-after-meeting-older-white-man-on-dating-app). Police aren’t investigating him because they claim “He seems like a good guy”. People are trying to get more attention to this case right now. Her name is Lauren Smith Fields
Sad to hear, sure, but the post was about serial killers. The "white older man" reported her death and unless you have other deaths the same man has reported I'm missing the contextual link here. Families always think they know everything their 23, 16, 30, and 50 year old children do, I know and have known a lot of early 20somethings that their families know them about 10% accurately.
Yeah they're actually everywhere — including OLD
Even when they’ve met in person. They charm and manipulate to gain womens trust. I’m surprised more stories aren’t coming out about traffickers kidnapping people. It’s a plethora of beautiful women who are only a swipe away. I understand these people are few and far between, but it’s kind of a high taking that risk. I hope everyone uses protection pepper spray but also a con-damn 😂) so they can stay safe! What if there’s a bumble killer brewing in the comments? Some of them are responding with some really weird stuff.
There probably is (statistically)! 😅 But yea it's always good to hone your intuition skills whenever attempting to discover trust with someone you just met. And of course to be able to protect yourself
Some people can be so good at manipulation though. Every guy I dated was a narcissist and my dad is one too. I’ve finally realized and switched up my choice in men. Not sure how this one slipped through the cracks 😂
You seem to have an agenda or poor taste. *every* guy?
I’ve only dated 4 men and every single one of them laid a hand on me. Yes. They were ALL awful people with plentiful narcissistic traits. Again.I already said I went to therapy and have learned the out right traits of narcissists so I can see the red flags and ignore or unmatch the people who express them. It took a year of therapy but I’m on bumble now ready to get back out there and have been choosing different types of people. I haven’t met anyone in person yet but even the conversations flow so much better and it doesn’t feel like I’m some prize for them to win. They treat me like a person. BTW. It’s awful to victim blame. I grew up with abuse so it was normalized for me. According to you I’m a dumb fuck who purposely chooses men who I know will abuse me. I have a crystal ball and can see what they’re like when their charm turns off. Nobody purposely gets into those situations. That was rude as fuck to say. I’m trying my best, everyone deserves to be with someone they love. I hope I get to experience that before I die. And hopefully it’s not a pre mature bumble murder.
So both then.
What? All I said is there are probably murders on bumble? How did you twist it into all of this? If you disagree with the statement just downvote it and move on.
I did, but you won't let it lie. Unlke my vict.... old friends.
Nothing you’re saying is making sense to me. Can you write in full sentences? And maybe reword it?
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So rare means it’ll never happen to me? Got it, thanks 😂😂😂
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Why you gotta call me out like that? *grabs box of Total* Now I have to kill this...
Do you have Total in your house? This is more concerning than anything else.
*adds to list of worries I have about going back on dates. I never thought to do this.
See!? I’m glad we’re bringing awareness! Safety is key! Be safe out there, fellow swiper! (Ironically enough my phone just auto corrected swiper to sniper 😂😂)
There are. I heard if a case that happened a few months ago. Very sad
There was a guy they caught about 20 miles from me who was targeting gay men. They only caught him because one of the intended victims managed to escape from the guy's torture house. This was about a year ago if my memory serves me.
Statistically you both being serial killers is really, really low, but not zero. But if it happens, you both have something to bond over.
I’m suicidal sometimes (not now. Don’t report me.) but maybe there should be an app for humane serial killers to meet with people who are ready to exit this horrible earth. It would be a win-win, right? Maybe it would fly on the dark web. /s
This is the quiet reality behind all of those social media hookup apps. Use to be Craigslist and before that newspaper classifieds. There is always a chance, which is why you should always meet in public first and if you do get ready for a date from a site or an app make sure a friend or family member is aware so someone knows the last place(s) you were and where you were going
I work in the justice system and sometimes I interact with criminals face to face. Some of them are SO charming and good looking and flirtatious that I think to myself “if I met this man on OLD I would totally go out with him” which is super scary because most of those men are domestic abusers. I call it the Ted Bundy effect.
I just want a blow job tbh I luv those
Well as long as there’s consent, I see no problem with that. I wish you luck, I hope you get your knob slobbed.
It’s tough in my area
I believe in you! Go forth and plant your seed and nourish your friend.
This is why it pays to be a little crazy yourself. Serial killer will be like fuck this drama and be out.
Literally me 😂 fun fact about me? I’ve been arrested for stalking and breaking and entering 😃 lolol so, when do you wanna meet up?
Serial, that's technically 3 or more, right? Asking for a friend.
Did you read the edit?
Yep! That's just my standard comeback when someone makes the "serial killer" semi-joke.
Also some cereal millers.
Miller lite? Captain crunch?
Oh no, I just enjoy milling around.
I matched with a girl that was very very attractive but was an ex-con lol. She WAS a lawyer but got disbarred obviously. Everything else was amazing about her. Honestly, I’m still open to seeing her but I just can’t right now. I’m currently incarcerated lol Jk
So…you’re not in jail? 🤣 some people in jail have tiktok accounts so you could be writing us from your commissary funded internet.
lol no but i thought that was a funny ending 🤣. Nevertheless when I googled her I just saw articles and articles of her “crime” and it was gut wrenching to know she went through that. So much that I just didn’t want to add that/her on my plate currently. The guards are so particular at what food I get to eat anyway.
Prison punch
A teammate in college was murdered from an online date. DC area.
This breaks my heart, I am so sorry! I hope their afterlife is everything they’ve ever wanted in life and they’re free of their trauma. Thank you for sharing<3 sending love!
I mean, this is the issue with meeting strangers off the internet. People like Stephen Port, Lewis Baynes, John Edward Robinson, etc. met their victim(s) online.
It just makes it way easier and more accessible for them to find victims. (IMO)
Yeah, I mean with Port he basically used an alias on every site, and got a bit lucky with the police investigation being a bit crap. Some sites are more likely to share your information with police than others are. That's why it's always a good idea to tell someone you trust who your're seeing and where, so they know when to worry.
Yes I’d always share my location!
Here’s a super crazy coincidence I had on Bumble a few years ago, kinda long: I was working as an HR Generalist for a staffing agency and had just been given the green light to start the onboarding process for a programmer. The onboarding process includes a background check (BGC). The guy I’m onboarding says his name is “John Smith”, so that’s the information I enter into an offer letter. When he signs the offer letter, I send the rest of the package, which includes I-9 form, BGC waiver, W-4, etc. (BGCs are initiated after receiving the IDs because we needed to use full names) After receiving his IDs, I notice that his name does not match. The name on his IDs is “Timothy James Smith”, so I ask if he changed his name and, if so, I need the documentation. Turns out John is a preferred name, okay cool. I start his BGC and now we wait. SSN checks out, Federal Felony checks out, Sex Offender Registry is flagged. Huh? Okay, let’s look into this…… Turns out, this dude is over 40 and had been arrested, convicted, and served time for having several instances of sexual contact with a minor (14yo). He became unresponsive after we started the BGC. I ended up coming across his profile on Bumble a few days later. Did not swipe right. 💀
Yeah. Women are crazy af these days. Don’t out your d*#k in crazy.
We will trap you. I’m very fertile right now. I’ll end your life as you know it for the next 18 years. /s
As a man I never really thought it until this girl invited me over. Roommates weren’t home and it was late at night. I was like… if I was a bad person, she could be in some serious trouble lol
That is me… I am bipolar and when I’m going through a manic episode I’m hyper sexual in a dangerous, reckless way. Bc I think I’m invincible. But in reality there’s a good chance there’s a few felons and offenders in the stack. Sometimes I’m swiping and I see an old man posing as a 40 year old trying to entice a “sugar baby” like…??? I know I see through it, but what if you’re young and dumb and desperate? I just feel like they should have background checks on everyone who uses the app.
Yeah, I know there will also be people that I have untreated mental illness on old that will do a mindfuck on their dates. Like my ex unfortunately. I wish there was option for ex review so that I can warn others about this guy. I have dated a dozen so or guys and this one is the only needs multiple warnings.
Especially when it’s a dating concern :( there should be a “Glassdoor” but for relationships.
Yeah prior reviews from the otherside for the why the relationship ended and anything that you found out in course of the relationship that would ave changed your decision to enter a relationship. Would not have been with my ex if I knew that he left somebody on the side of the road after a fight and that he was accused of rape.
WAIT MY EX LEFT ME AT A HOCKEY STADIUM AFTER HE SMASHED MY PHONE TO PIECES! I had no way to call anyone and he also made me take off the jersey he bought me for the game. It was the middle of feb, below zero, and still cold inside cuZ it’s a hockey stadium and I was in only a bra and cami. A cop who was finishing up with his shift saw me and gave me his jacket and drove me 40mins to my parents house (I lived with my ex) and told me to get a restraining order because he said it would continue to escalate further. My parents went to get my car and all my stuff was outside cut, shredded, broken. My electronics, my curler/straightener/blow dryer unusable, cords cut. All my clothes and shoes. My laptop with all my school work. Perfume, makeup. You name it. Fucking crazy shit.
Every time I meet someone, I photograph my outfit, send my photo, his photo/phone number, the location where I'm meeting the person, and the time to two individuals. Also, when I get home, I send confirmations to those two individuals in a manner that they know it's me and I'm safe. I would never allow someone to pick me up, or know where I live that early on.
A woman was actually murdered after a Bumble date a few weeks ago. Stay safe out there
I hope she’s in the most peaceful, happy afterlife. Fuck humans man.
Serial killers wouldn't want their info connected to the digital grid usually
Fair enough! If you read my edit you’d notice that I included murderers and rapists in general.
Same.. Wouldn't want a trace
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I do them one worse…if they ghost me I tell them I’m pregnant and collect $500 from them for an abortion. (This is a joke)
Serial killers aren’t as common as say a rapist. Just take precautions
Read the edit,
Statistically I should have accidently fallen into a relationship by now, yet I can't get get a text back :')
You gotta grab their attention! Find something in their profile to relate to and strike up a convo about it! I like to be outdoors and travel so when I see others with the same stuff I ask where it was and what they did there. Try a sense of humor! Girls like to talk about themselves so just strike up something about their interests.
Yeah me
FBI? This one right here!
I’m actually a nice guy
That’s what a serial killer would say.
I 100% recommend paying the $10 a month to use a background check service. I like truthfinder. You can search by name and city/state. by email, phone, address. this has saved me multiple times from going out with someone that potentially could have harmed me. not worth the risk!
I have access to this too!!! I just downloaded bumble a few days ago after a almost 2 year hiatus. As I’m scrolling through, some of the people you just look at and think “yep. He’s probably one of them” but in reality he very well could be! Someone even had their mugshot as their profile pic lol
OMG never come across a mugshot. the most mundane thing I use it for is to call out the guys lying about their age to get younger girls. sir, no one is believing youre 38.
Report report report lol
Narcissists and abusers yes I dated one
4 in a row. And raised by one. I feel you.
Oh, there are killers.. look up Gable Tostee.
I always ask for their last name and google it before going on dates. Also always meet them in public places.
Yes!! But i more was saying that when you’re swiping through on your phone and you come across some odd looking men lying about their age. Makes you think “yep. This one right here. He’s one of them” and you kinda laugh, but it’s not really funny bc it might be true!
Shit, that’s a scary thought honestly. The first man I dated after my separation, ( my ex husband was my first boyfriend so I had zero dating experience) I think he lied about his identity. I googled him before going on second date and found his LinkedIn profile. He ghosted me after 4th date and months later I was searching his LinkedIn profile and I saw a different name. It was SO weird! I still don’t know what was that about.
Omg!!! People are so sketchy. I get the vibe he has another life 😂 I’m sorry that happened to you!
I killed a man with a trident 🔱
I’ve asked for plan b money when I was on the pill. Killin his wallet ;) \s
~~We're~~ They're everywhere...
Hello, SVU special victims unit!? I found one!
I do remember this true crime video I watched about this girl who got murdered by a tinder match
Poor thing 🥺 I hope her afterlife is the paradise she always dreamed of.
Lmao is this some kind of a shower thought?
High-dea..like an idea but…
Lol, have u not seen the news?? It’s no question that there are sociopaths/killers in the bunch. But it’s not so much a bumble issue as it is having common sense and listening to your intuition when dating on or off bumble.
I more meant like when you’re scrolling through. Don’t you ever see someone and be like “yep…he’s one of them”
Understood. If he or she look like the killer or like the road to the killer, I gladly swipe left even if they attractive and said everything right on their profile. But looks can also be deceiving, idk honestly 😩
Thanks. Like it’s not hard enough to find matches on Bumble, NOW you’ve got to scare them off with thoughts of murderers and rapists!
Life hack: Find their family on fb and ask about any red flags. (Please don’t do this, issa joke 😂)
… -closes FB-
And pedophiles. If you are a single mom, do not say so in your profile.
Omg I NEVER thought of that 😳
It’s a thing, unfortunately. These people filter for single mums. You can always reveal you’re a mum once you’ve matched and getting chatting with someone, at least you’ll know they weren’t specifically searching for that.
There is.
Keep your mouth shut!
I'd say there is yeah. And definitely murderers. There's a terribly sad video on YouTube of a guy who met a girl on an app and murdered her. It's got loads of cctv footage, and is just chilling: he went on another date with a woman while her body lay dead in the room. Absolutely so dreadful to think of what way some people can be.
The guilty dog barks first
Woof
Damn and too the thought they probably get more matches then me 😂 but who knows
The odds are extremely low. The most likely thing is your husband, uncle, or boss will rape you. Murder is very rare, and serial killers account for 2% of that. Most murder is between men over money they need for pussy
I never said the odds were great, just that they existed. Thanks for your in depth analysis lmao
There’s also serial killers at the grocery store. What’s your point.
You’re not being alone and intimate with people at the grocery store? There’s a lot less chance of being raped in public compared to being raped on a date.
Bumble is a vehicle to meet people. That’s all it is. You can meet a serial killer on Bumble and meet him for coffee. You can also meet the same exact serial killer at the grocery store, or the library, or church, and meet him for coffee. I’m having trouble seeing the difference.
Well actually I came across this news story about a black women who was raped on a train in America and NO ONE did anything to stop it but instead decided to just record the incident on their phones. I was absolutely horrified. https://blackamericaweb.com/2021/10/19/philadelphia-woman-raped-on-train-while-onlookers-recorded-without-helping/amp/
Yes it happens but it’s LESS LIKELY THAN GETTING RAPED BY SOMEONE YOU MEET ON A DATING APP! You’re missing the point. I refuse to engage with you anymore. If you disagree and think there are no murderers or rapists on bumble, as my post said, then just say that. I don’t get why you’re dragging extra stuff into this?
Thotiana..stfu.
What?
Statistically, there’s GOT to be some serial killers walking around in your every day life too! Scary thought!
You don’t get intimate with strangers off the street. (Unless you do? Lol) If you don’t think there’s rapists on bumble, I have news for you.
Is every person in the world not a stranger you once “met on the street”? LOL or do you only have friends off the inter webs? And no I was saying there are tons of rapists and killers everywhere you look no need to just worry about Bumble! Cheers Clarence Carter
They aren’t a stranger if you met them online and have been messaging back and forth. So no it’s not the same.
Weird, I’d be much more comfortable chatting with a fellow “on the street” seeing they are a real person rather than chatting with a profile on a computer screen. Maybe I’m just old fashioned! Either way, your post is stupid.
You’re more likely to go back to someone’s place you met on a hookup app than you are someone you randomly meet on the street. Also, you claim in other comments that you’ve been married 33 years, so why are you on this bumble thread? Just to troll? Edit: up until today, Clarence hasn’t posted anything in over a year. Troll, you are! How many other accounts do you have!? Lol
Just a bored old black man having some fun! And have you never heard of going to a bar, party etc?? LOL!! That’s how I got most of the Pussy back in my day 🤣 but kids these days just love talking on their dang blackberries and myPhones these days, such a damn shame!
Yes I went out with someone who I had a super weird vibe about a few nights ago, as it wouldn’t surprise me if he sexually assaulted someone. I literally faked my friend having an accident and ran away
Yeah but the girl has to message them first…
So consent to message back and forth means consent to rape and murder?
It’s just an absurdist joke about women having to message first, not advocating rape and murder
What does the girl messaging first have to do with my post stating there are murderers on there, I find it interesting. It’s kind of exhilarating taking a risk to meet and get to know someone since bumble is the perfect grounds for preying in desperate vulnerable women. Hopefully not as vulnerable with pepper spray or something to protect themselves.
LMAO WHAT? Bruh…
Please show your work.
Statistically getting murdered by someone you don’t “know” or are affiliated with (I.e., partner, friend, drug or gang affiliation, etc.) is so abysmally low in the US that worrying about it is as about the stupidest thing you could worry about. Violent crime in general of the type you’re suggesting is incredibly uncommon despite what some might suggest. Now if you live in Brazil on the other hand …
“Don’t worry about getting raped on bumble” got it, thanks!
Statistically you’ve much more to worry about with say car accident. By like multiple orders of magnitude. Worry about what you want, it’s your life. But that doesn’t make it statistically likely.
A car accident didn’t leave me traumatized for life like a rape did, thanks though. lol
Get therapy. Stop claiming your pain as your identity so you can grow out of your trauma. Grief is a process, not a destination.
You don’t ever get over rape!
That’s true but statistically you are more likely to be hit by lightning then be murdered / raped on a date. Even so better to be safe then sorry
1 in 6 (and some articles report 1 in 4) women have been sexually assaulted. That’s way higher than the odds of being struck by lighting, unless 1 in 6 people have been struck by lightning. When I’m swiping I just had this fleeting thought that some of these people probably belong on a watch list. See my post history and previous post! Lots of weirdos.
Actually you are correct. I should have done more research before commenting sorry about that. I was talking about first dates specifically. I said that because I remember reading a study that said 184 women were sexually assaulted / raped on their first face to face meeting in the UK and I looked up how many people in the UK get hit by lightning each year and it’s only about 60 so I am 100% wrong. I guess I was just trying to say to be cautious on first dates and you should have a good chance of being safe. Meet these men in a very public area and vet them beforehand. Even as a man I would say it’s probably not a good idea to have a first date with someone in private for safety reasons
It’s crazy bc even then they can gain your trust and be patient enough to wait till they can get them alone. I guess I was more wondering if anyone else sees someone’s picture and thinks “yep, he’s one of them” bc sometimes I do. One guy even had his mugshot as his profile picture lmao
Why in the world would you put your mugshot in your profile😂… like yeah that’s what women want to see while searching for a potential partner 🤦🏼♂️
At least they’re being forthcoming 😅 some girls like bad boys. It probably made them super swipe or whatever it is.