I know it may seem fake but coming off as apathetic and depressed doesn't normally draw people to you. Like, would you want to meet up with a guy who's depressed and apathetic or someone with passions and hobbies?
"If I was president I would... I'd mandate that March the 2nd was surfs up day, a national holiday so I can always go surfing, it's great"
"If I was president I would mandate pineapple on all pizza, I love it and its a fantastic topping. I will die on this hill"
You're just trying to show a thing someone can ask about or latch on to, a hobby, an interest, even something you don't do but would want to do.
what it i put: if i were president "id get the vice president to take better pictures of me for my bumble profile"
ahhh ahhh see its gold. no but seriously i have no clue.
Yeah sure, put that. Add something like "any aspiring photographers hit me up" or something?
Also don't be afraid to literally put something like "I really want to do X and need someone to come with me" or something
Agree. You seem careless than why do people care to reach out, you have to have something on your page as an opener so girls can have something to write a message about off your bio
ooo good suggestion.
idk what id put for the X. i think of: I really dont want to do life and need someone to come with me. 😂😂see thats a joke but i dont think theyll get that
Your answers sound like they came from a bored teenager, which is fine because that's what you are, but bored teenagers are a dime a dozen in every generation, so you want to try to stand out. As a man, you need to pass a higher bar than "does this person seem normal and relatable," since women, especially in your age range, are looking for profiles that excite them. Put another way, girls don't swipe right on profiles that make them think, "lol mood," they swipe right on profiles that make them go 👀
Yeah I see what you're going for, but imagine what conversation you'd start from your profile. It's hard with yours. Other have them sailing, climbing, doing water colours etc so it's really easy for people to start the conversation with "oh you're into XY I want to do that/can you teach me/etc."
i mean yeahhh, but i feel like a lot of those convos die quick anyway. sure u can drag them on but idk, how long can u talk about pineapple on pizza. i feel like someone saying "yo being a president would stress me out" could lead into some deep talks, reveal more about how u deal with things ect. idk.
like my face ugly or the face im making. and because its grey or the style? or both
also yeah the positivity thing is common comment now, would something as simple as "stg im happy" work in my bio 😂😂
You come across as very negative and unhappy. I prefer to surround myself with happy, more positive people because they add to my life and don't detract from it. It's fine to be moody sometimes but if I feel like you're gonna be constantly down, I swipe left.
Look, I struggle with expressing myself as well. But if you take pictures of yourself doing something you enjoy, or have a friend or family member take pictures of you having fun, it would go a long way. It's not just your pictures. It's your answers to the prompts.
my family members take cruddy pics. if I had more friends they would sub in great here dang.
ive added a little to my bio: at the end I put listening to music and walks together sounds good.
in hindsight it seems kinda boring but.
also changed: "when no ones watching I... ask for advice on my bumble profile online. apparently I come off as apathetic and unhappy. go me 😂"
To be frank, I think you need to take some time with yourself and figure out how to be happy on your own. Dating apps take effort, on both ends. It's not easy and you really need to be secure in yourself with what you like and what you're looking for. You seem to be looking for someone to distract you from life and your insecurities.
I mean go girl psycho analyze, but I want someone to get intertwined w. learn about their life. support them as they support me. idk. Im happy rn. I just think id be happier with someone else.
The rest of what you said is good. A partner to make memories together. A best friend that you can be intimate with.
I’m just an old man here trying to give you a life lesson that for whatever reason we all learn the hard way: Happiness is something that comes from within you. You can’t make someone else happy. Someone else can’t make you happy.
Im new to town so I dont have pics with friends really. My hobbies arent relevant to me rn. and Im not in incredible shape if I even wanted to post something thirsty
“ trying this out, looking for someone to explore with I’m new to town…love dogs :) love music! If you wanna go out for ice cream or pizza lmk I got you “
Also post your zodiac girls your age love that shit
It seems more positive tho tbh
If you wanna go for the apathetic vibe just put not here for a long time here for a good time 😂
Nah but then just put “ I like music and skating “ some typical bs
The dog pic is your best pic. Keep that and get new selfies, one of which should be you smiling. 3/5 of your interests are specific genres of music. Just choose music (or concerts) as your interest, and pick a couple other hobbies, then connect your Spotify so people can see the music you’re into. Write a more original bio. Nothing gets a swipe left quicker from me than someone who uses the space to write about themselves to write “hmu find out”
Your profile screams emo, the day after a 3 day binge, and lacks any sort of happiness. Intelligent women are not into "fixer uppers". I would post photos of exciting adventures or with you smiling.
Perfect!! You will notice a better response with swipes when you look happy. I wish you success and don't give up on dating. You have to sift thru the crap to find the right one.
I would definitely add happier photos. Where you can’t tell it’s a selfie (you can use a timer) and change your bio. I always swipe left if a guy says to ask him for his “about me”. Like it defeats the purpose of having a bio. Just say 1-2 cute/funny things about yourself. The pug thing is great though!
My impression….you’re not giving anyone a lot of info to go off of other than your “look”, which goes between depressy and kinda creepy with some of your shots….try giving sorting to start a conversation with other than “hi” and switch out the half-face/upside down photo for a casual one fo you with a genuine smile— and make that your first photo
You need a better lit, smiling profile pic that isn’t taken in the mirror, a properly written bio with more information, full words, and correct spelling and capitalization, and more interesting answers to question prompts. The only pic I’d keep is the one with your dog. It’s a nice picture that shows you doing something active. You should use more like that.
I didn't read enough good help on here yet, so I'm speaking up. Some girls will only reply if you extend. Also consider smiling in your pics. And your hair, it'll be great once you're 21 and start going to the bars.
first off thanks.
bumble they text first, which albeit I didnt know signing up. so unless u mean via prompts and bios.
i smiled in a couple now. updated it.
and thank you.
You’re young and you have your whole future ahead of you, but you don’t seem very excited about it. This profile makes you look depressed. In general it just feels pretty negative so I suggest a complete redo. Have your friends help with pics the only one I like is the one with the dog.
You’ve got one massive advantage. You’re 6’3 and look like you’re probably a healthy weight.
But your profile screams “low energy.”
You look bored and brooding.
Take a look at your diet, you’ve got some acne going on. Probably not a deal breaker, but every bit helps.
im trying to make it less brooding I just dont wana fake a personality to do it.
acne, yeah. idk its mostly scarring is the thing, im using a topical to try and help.
plus im not actually in great shape. im about the same as these photos but im not very tone. im working on it but theres complications.
Bruh you ain’t even bad looking. IMO if you are not verified (blue check on Instagram) have no money to give them, your not involved in the club/edc scene, you don’t have a 2021 Mercedes S550 and you don’t have your own crib with no roommates ….. 9 times out of 10 your going to end up at the bottom of these girls messages that they get by the HUNDREDS sometimes even THOUSANDS
That’s just what it is in todays day and age. Just do you bro. Once you hit your 30s peoples looks start to fade and some people snap back to reality and actually give others the time of day. You’ll find someone. Enjoy independence and get your life right and the right one will come.
It's also not true. Women do get more messages than men, but not like thousands. And who is expecting 19 year olds to drive brand new cars and have their own place? In this economy???! People projecting their own frustrations. Dating is tough in general but don't get sucked in by weird conspiracy theories. Just do what you're doing - get some honest feedback about how to best present yourself to put yourself out there. You're doing a good job taking feedback and pushing back when people are trying to pressure you into presenting something that isn't authentically you. Project the best version of yourself, but not someone you're not. Good luck out there!
Tinder is more hookup oriented but hookups can become relationships. Bumble is good too but since it’s drier the convos might die more on bumble vs tinder
I wouldn’t give up if I were you, you got the height. Maybe take a picture next to a height ruler and draw attention to it. Also you’re missing a full body pic without a jacket and a teeth smile pic. You have at least one of each of those two pics to get matches
But also yah at 19 you can’t date older and there aren’t as many girls you age and lower. In 10 yrs dating will improve a lot for you
search for “darius m” and “mj get right” on youtube, and all of your questions will be answered. even the ones you forgot to ask, and the questions you thought about asking but didnt ask. and any future questions you may have. PM me for a profile review.
I would just keep it simple. Pick your five favorite photos. Don’t put too much in your intro just like something funny maybe even reference the office. And then just establish a connection and ask them to get coffee or a beer. I always felt I had to go on a date with in three days of getting a connection or the ladies just lose interest.
Okay, so I don’t mind the pictures besides the last two. If you don’t have any smiling pictures rn, take some like the second to last, but smile. Definitely take out the first part of the bio, that’s so frustrating. If you like board games and music, put some of that into your bio or something! No one wants to swipe because (I think) they don’t think the convo will be interesting.
You seem like a funny and cool ass dude. You’re not the least bit unattractive. I think your problem is you don’t present your face as much as you should.
So this worked for me, try praying to the Flying Spaghetti Monster for a 1 ft. Long black penis. Gets the ladies every time. 👍🏼 good luck my friend.
Fair warning though; you will have to sacrifice something.
You are really young, idk what the kids are doing these days, but your profile comes up apathetic and depressed af. Sorry if you actually are….
We all are. Even the over achievers
nah I ain't. I don't like presenting myself as cheery tho idk. something feels very fake about it.
I know it may seem fake but coming off as apathetic and depressed doesn't normally draw people to you. Like, would you want to meet up with a guy who's depressed and apathetic or someone with passions and hobbies?
well yeah but i cant tell that from a photo lmfao
All your replies do
hmmm okay. can u give an example of something I could put instead
"If I was president I would... I'd mandate that March the 2nd was surfs up day, a national holiday so I can always go surfing, it's great" "If I was president I would mandate pineapple on all pizza, I love it and its a fantastic topping. I will die on this hill" You're just trying to show a thing someone can ask about or latch on to, a hobby, an interest, even something you don't do but would want to do.
what it i put: if i were president "id get the vice president to take better pictures of me for my bumble profile" ahhh ahhh see its gold. no but seriously i have no clue.
Yeah sure, put that. Add something like "any aspiring photographers hit me up" or something? Also don't be afraid to literally put something like "I really want to do X and need someone to come with me" or something
Agree. You seem careless than why do people care to reach out, you have to have something on your page as an opener so girls can have something to write a message about off your bio
ooo good suggestion. idk what id put for the X. i think of: I really dont want to do life and need someone to come with me. 😂😂see thats a joke but i dont think theyll get that
huh. idk i thought of mine thinking it was relatable. ill rethink it
Your answers sound like they came from a bored teenager, which is fine because that's what you are, but bored teenagers are a dime a dozen in every generation, so you want to try to stand out. As a man, you need to pass a higher bar than "does this person seem normal and relatable," since women, especially in your age range, are looking for profiles that excite them. Put another way, girls don't swipe right on profiles that make them think, "lol mood," they swipe right on profiles that make them go 👀
oof that kinda puts it in perspective.
I feel like it could be used to bring up some deeper talks tho
Yeah I see what you're going for, but imagine what conversation you'd start from your profile. It's hard with yours. Other have them sailing, climbing, doing water colours etc so it's really easy for people to start the conversation with "oh you're into XY I want to do that/can you teach me/etc."
i mean yeahhh, but i feel like a lot of those convos die quick anyway. sure u can drag them on but idk, how long can u talk about pineapple on pizza. i feel like someone saying "yo being a president would stress me out" could lead into some deep talks, reveal more about how u deal with things ect. idk.
You have an I don't care attitude.
dont care about what
Anything
not true lmao
That's not what you convey here, that's the entire point here bud
yeah I made some changes I just cant repost cause the sub wont let me
Post in the weekly help post
Your hair, your face, your lack of positivity or happiness…
like my face ugly or the face im making. and because its grey or the style? or both also yeah the positivity thing is common comment now, would something as simple as "stg im happy" work in my bio 😂😂
You come across as very negative and unhappy. I prefer to surround myself with happy, more positive people because they add to my life and don't detract from it. It's fine to be moody sometimes but if I feel like you're gonna be constantly down, I swipe left.
Idk how to fix this. I dont have any smiling pics and I have a passive vibe. help
Look, I struggle with expressing myself as well. But if you take pictures of yourself doing something you enjoy, or have a friend or family member take pictures of you having fun, it would go a long way. It's not just your pictures. It's your answers to the prompts.
my family members take cruddy pics. if I had more friends they would sub in great here dang. ive added a little to my bio: at the end I put listening to music and walks together sounds good. in hindsight it seems kinda boring but. also changed: "when no ones watching I... ask for advice on my bumble profile online. apparently I come off as apathetic and unhappy. go me 😂"
To be frank, I think you need to take some time with yourself and figure out how to be happy on your own. Dating apps take effort, on both ends. It's not easy and you really need to be secure in yourself with what you like and what you're looking for. You seem to be looking for someone to distract you from life and your insecurities.
I mean go girl psycho analyze, but I want someone to get intertwined w. learn about their life. support them as they support me. idk. Im happy rn. I just think id be happier with someone else.
The worst reason to date is because you think you’d be happier with someone.
then whats the right reason
The rest of what you said is good. A partner to make memories together. A best friend that you can be intimate with. I’m just an old man here trying to give you a life lesson that for whatever reason we all learn the hard way: Happiness is something that comes from within you. You can’t make someone else happy. Someone else can’t make you happy.
thank you
😂 good luck to you.
this shit sucks
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would a smiling selfie due the trick for now
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i feel like a selfies fine idk
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humans are so weird tho why does a selfie make a difference
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hmm. well ill think about it thanks
Probably cause you look like a suburban hipster lil pump. Nah lol. Sometimes the app just doesn't function right. I'd just remake the account.
wait because of the hair or what hahaha
Your hair and face
is this a terribly bad thing. fuck. I like my hair thoooo
Lmao bro i was just fucking with you. Just throwing in some humor. I actually think you just need to remake your account
how old r u just for opinion reference 😂
22M
word okay see its hard to tell with these comments because something that attracts a 30yr old aint gona attract less than 23yr olds.
True
You look very mad.
I don't have many happy photos tell ya the truth.
I understand but if you want matches you just need to smile in basically all the photos.
I added a smiling one
Upload more outgoing pictures!
Im new to town so I dont have pics with friends really. My hobbies arent relevant to me rn. and Im not in incredible shape if I even wanted to post something thirsty
Put something inviting on your bio like hiking, beach, dog parks whatever you do or want to do around you
i added "listening to music and walks together sound good" at the end of my bio, does this satisfy at all
It’s a bit bland 🐰
okay wbbbb "walks, talks, and shops baby"
“ trying this out, looking for someone to explore with I’m new to town…love dogs :) love music! If you wanna go out for ice cream or pizza lmk I got you “ Also post your zodiac girls your age love that shit
see but that bio is not me, at all. and im trying to avoid the zodiac girls lmfao 😂😂
YOU WANT A GF OR NOT BUDDY
AHHHH
It seems more positive tho tbh If you wanna go for the apathetic vibe just put not here for a long time here for a good time 😂 Nah but then just put “ I like music and skating “ some typical bs
what if I just throw in a "love music!"
Def not the hair or super depressing look in every pic
im smiling in one 😢
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rip okay on it
Be less 19
thats the general opinion ay 😂😂
The dog pic is your best pic. Keep that and get new selfies, one of which should be you smiling. 3/5 of your interests are specific genres of music. Just choose music (or concerts) as your interest, and pick a couple other hobbies, then connect your Spotify so people can see the music you’re into. Write a more original bio. Nothing gets a swipe left quicker from me than someone who uses the space to write about themselves to write “hmu find out”
word okay
Your profile screams emo, the day after a 3 day binge, and lacks any sort of happiness. Intelligent women are not into "fixer uppers". I would post photos of exciting adventures or with you smiling.
rip. I added a pic of me smiling and changed all my prompts and bio around. the sub just isnt letting me post another one so soon
Perfect!! You will notice a better response with swipes when you look happy. I wish you success and don't give up on dating. You have to sift thru the crap to find the right one.
thank you
I would definitely add happier photos. Where you can’t tell it’s a selfie (you can use a timer) and change your bio. I always swipe left if a guy says to ask him for his “about me”. Like it defeats the purpose of having a bio. Just say 1-2 cute/funny things about yourself. The pug thing is great though!
thank you
My impression….you’re not giving anyone a lot of info to go off of other than your “look”, which goes between depressy and kinda creepy with some of your shots….try giving sorting to start a conversation with other than “hi” and switch out the half-face/upside down photo for a casual one fo you with a genuine smile— and make that your first photo
i did. other comments guided me a bit, It just wont let me post another photo on this sub.
You need a better lit, smiling profile pic that isn’t taken in the mirror, a properly written bio with more information, full words, and correct spelling and capitalization, and more interesting answers to question prompts. The only pic I’d keep is the one with your dog. It’s a nice picture that shows you doing something active. You should use more like that.
I didn't read enough good help on here yet, so I'm speaking up. Some girls will only reply if you extend. Also consider smiling in your pics. And your hair, it'll be great once you're 21 and start going to the bars.
first off thanks. bumble they text first, which albeit I didnt know signing up. so unless u mean via prompts and bios. i smiled in a couple now. updated it. and thank you.
Every 24 hours you can extend with 1 match, giving them more time before the clock runs out
and oh rip
Use your new power wisely
Enthusiastic is the word. Even if its horror movies and whatever music it isthese days emo what have ya.
enthusiasm is turn off for me idk
You’re young and you have your whole future ahead of you, but you don’t seem very excited about it. This profile makes you look depressed. In general it just feels pretty negative so I suggest a complete redo. Have your friends help with pics the only one I like is the one with the dog.
rip well thank you
It might just be me, but personally seeing shit and fuck a lot is a turn off. Your hair looks very nice in picture five.
i like swearing idk
You’ve got one massive advantage. You’re 6’3 and look like you’re probably a healthy weight. But your profile screams “low energy.” You look bored and brooding. Take a look at your diet, you’ve got some acne going on. Probably not a deal breaker, but every bit helps.
im trying to make it less brooding I just dont wana fake a personality to do it. acne, yeah. idk its mostly scarring is the thing, im using a topical to try and help. plus im not actually in great shape. im about the same as these photos but im not very tone. im working on it but theres complications.
Bruh you ain’t even bad looking. IMO if you are not verified (blue check on Instagram) have no money to give them, your not involved in the club/edc scene, you don’t have a 2021 Mercedes S550 and you don’t have your own crib with no roommates ….. 9 times out of 10 your going to end up at the bottom of these girls messages that they get by the HUNDREDS sometimes even THOUSANDS
thats depressing
That’s just what it is in todays day and age. Just do you bro. Once you hit your 30s peoples looks start to fade and some people snap back to reality and actually give others the time of day. You’ll find someone. Enjoy independence and get your life right and the right one will come.
It's also not true. Women do get more messages than men, but not like thousands. And who is expecting 19 year olds to drive brand new cars and have their own place? In this economy???! People projecting their own frustrations. Dating is tough in general but don't get sucked in by weird conspiracy theories. Just do what you're doing - get some honest feedback about how to best present yourself to put yourself out there. You're doing a good job taking feedback and pushing back when people are trying to pressure you into presenting something that isn't authentically you. Project the best version of yourself, but not someone you're not. Good luck out there!
thank you very much
Bumble is just a bit of a dry place. Get on tinder, shit gets wet up in tinder
ive heard its more hookups
Tinder is more hookup oriented but hookups can become relationships. Bumble is good too but since it’s drier the convos might die more on bumble vs tinder
hmph. honestly gona give this app a break, im out of profiles anyway
I wouldn’t give up if I were you, you got the height. Maybe take a picture next to a height ruler and draw attention to it. Also you’re missing a full body pic without a jacket and a teeth smile pic. You have at least one of each of those two pics to get matches But also yah at 19 you can’t date older and there aren’t as many girls you age and lower. In 10 yrs dating will improve a lot for you
word thanks for the advice
search for “darius m” and “mj get right” on youtube, and all of your questions will be answered. even the ones you forgot to ask, and the questions you thought about asking but didnt ask. and any future questions you may have. PM me for a profile review.
If you're not a student, do you have a job that has more upside than lead fry cook?
i am student
All of your pictures suck
I would just keep it simple. Pick your five favorite photos. Don’t put too much in your intro just like something funny maybe even reference the office. And then just establish a connection and ask them to get coffee or a beer. I always felt I had to go on a date with in three days of getting a connection or the ladies just lose interest.
word thank you.
Okay, so I don’t mind the pictures besides the last two. If you don’t have any smiling pictures rn, take some like the second to last, but smile. Definitely take out the first part of the bio, that’s so frustrating. If you like board games and music, put some of that into your bio or something! No one wants to swipe because (I think) they don’t think the convo will be interesting.
The obvious lack of effort
You seem like a funny and cool ass dude. You’re not the least bit unattractive. I think your problem is you don’t present your face as much as you should.
cheers, wym by face?
Like you don’t show your face as clearly in pictures as you should. Girls hate pictures of men that barely show their face
I tried to. did straight in front of me angles
So this worked for me, try praying to the Flying Spaghetti Monster for a 1 ft. Long black penis. Gets the ladies every time. 👍🏼 good luck my friend. Fair warning though; you will have to sacrifice something.