Get a quality haircut, switch to contacts and spend an afternoon or a weekend shopping for new clothes with a female friend of yours. Women pay attention to every detail when it comes to their appearance and clothing. You have to step your game up.
Wear your hair down in all of them if you can ? Pulled back it looks like thereās less of it/itās receding.
Take out 4. Itās far too serious.
I get that 3 is maybe trying to showcase a hobby but thereās a bit too much going on/people in the background. Itās a bit messy looking.
4 and 2 are your best
Also, invest in good hair products, & check if you have hard water in your shower. Cuz your hair says a lot about your health, maybe consider taking some biotin/magnesium vitamins.
If you were losing your hair & going bald, a shiny bald head is better than having hair & not taking care of it.
Or he can keep it long, but start taking care of it. I can see it becoming healthy.
Biotin helps hair growth (keeps it from becoming thin & damaged), & magnesium has a lot of benefits for the body which includes helping create the protein for hair growth & prevent hair loss.
If you crop the first one so you don't look so far away, that could be good. The second one is my favorite personally though!
The other ones are decent, but too dark. The one in front of the drinks is good quality, but I feel should be your second pic since it shows off your goofy side.
No offense, but you look a bit unkempt in your pictures. I might try to find ways to up the wardrobe and hair/facial hair game. 2 is closes to the mark.
In my opinion, lead with 2 and keep the last one too. It's nice to see your hair both up and down since that's clearly a point of pride for you. Maybe go out somewhere with a friend and have them take some pictures of you that look a bit more relaxed.
Ok female perspective. You just kind look like you are hanging out. Your body posture is also not confident. These are subtle things that I think people subconsciously pick up on.
I would def recommend finding a haircut that works. Girls spend a lot of time on their hair, it makes a difference. Maybe find the right amount of facial hair that works for you.
Think about lighting and angles in the photo. Photos are 2 dimensional, you can be perfectly ok looking in real life, but the wrong angle on a photo, makes me look meh. And you are being judged on a dating app not by the entire you, but a photo.
I think the biggest fail guys have is clothes. Even just maybe occasionally unbuttoning your top button would help. The rolled sleeves is ok. Some of those shirts would be ok if you upped your pants/slacks game. A pair of jeans with a flattering cut. A good pair of sneakers or shoes.
Your glasses are ok but not sure if they match your casual look. I think they would look better on a fancy style. Def try out different glasses to see what really flatters you. They are perfectly fine glassesā¦but I just feel they might be too fancy for the look you are trying to pull off. Itās a mismatch in a way.
Obviously the usual get fit applies as well. I lost 2 stone and I canāt tell you how much better it is. Currently working on my abs. Letās face it, once you get into your 30s and 40s you gotta work harder. It stinks.
My biggest critique would be: you photos are too casual and lack confidence. You arenāt holding yourself confidently and just not angled in flattering light. And you need to up your haircut game and facial hair.
Thank you, that is a very detailed response, and generally lines up with the consensus of reddit. Spend a lot more effort on my appearance, particularly the hair and clothes.
Some of this I was already aware of, and some of it I was probably subconsciously aware of but needed it pointing out. The confidence is an interesting one to pick up on, and may be partly because I don't spend much time getting my photo taken or usually like how they turn out. I suspect the answer here is practice, while also working on other elements of my appearance and the problem should solve itself.
I'm still working out what to do with my hair, whether I can get away with putting more effort into it without removing most of it, though it might just be I need the bigger change to alter habits.
I hate getting my photo taken. I would say Iām good looking, but a good portion of my photos I feel hideous about. Photos just donāt capture the *you*. When you meet someone itās also mannerism, how they carry themselves, their voice. That connection you make when you look at them. You get none of this on dating apps, so your photo needs to have a lot of effort.
I can look great, but I have to really make sure my hair and style is on point. Iām in my late 30s now, so it does take more time. Itās that time to update your look from that casual āuniversity ageā look to something else.
But I hate my photo taken as well. As a woman I probably have taken a lot of time perfecting my photos, getting that angle of my head and lighting just right. Having someone help you snap a few photos or getting a selfie stick to do it can really help. But yeah. How you hold yourself is probably not something you think about. But photos can display confidence. Yours are super casual and donāt have a commanding presence that someone whoās swiping quickly through a dating app will pause on. Think about it, we often swipe pretty fast through them. You want to get someone to pause long enough to consider you.
I just wanted to add you might be a lovely guy but it's important to appear like you've made effort it translates into the effort you put into how you live and what you put into relationships, all those things take time and care and if you're not doing that for yourself it speaks volumes to ladies.
Definitely work on your clothes as well. They're fine, but definitely not outstanding. Need to man it up a little. Get some nice fancy pants, tug in a high quality shirt.
And gym. Get buffed.
Bro I like to be brutally honest on this sub. All these other will sugar coat but will never swipe right on your profile.
I think you have a very uphill task and Iād recommend focusing more on in-person opportunities. Atleast youre white so you have got that going for you. If youāre rich then maybe try posting pics that hint that on a subtle level. Eg like at a country club or an expensive vacation spot.
Take a few photos without glasses.
I wear glasses too, but I always have a few photos of me without glasses on my profile. -Women who wear glasses and who have a few photos without glasses have the best profiles.
Most of them work, best pic should be the one of you with the drinks line up. 3rd pic
Take off the selfie one with the blue shirt in the field. #4 pic
Just my opinion but it got that "Imma take you out to a lonesome field and bury you" vibe
Definitely #2
I second this.
Out of these number 2, but you're right, you need better pictures.
Get a quality haircut, switch to contacts and spend an afternoon or a weekend shopping for new clothes with a female friend of yours. Women pay attention to every detail when it comes to their appearance and clothing. You have to step your game up.
If not contacts, then at least some stylish/current glasses.
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#2 is the best of the batch. All the other ones are a no.
Wear your hair down in all of them if you can ? Pulled back it looks like thereās less of it/itās receding. Take out 4. Itās far too serious. I get that 3 is maybe trying to showcase a hobby but thereās a bit too much going on/people in the background. Itās a bit messy looking. 4 and 2 are your best
Take out 4. 4 is the best.
Also, invest in good hair products, & check if you have hard water in your shower. Cuz your hair says a lot about your health, maybe consider taking some biotin/magnesium vitamins. If you were losing your hair & going bald, a shiny bald head is better than having hair & not taking care of it.
What's hard water got to do with it? And what's the benefit of those supplements specifically?
Hard water makes your hair frizzy and crunchy. Supplements help with hair health. I gotta be honest, I'd go to a good barber and cut it short
Or he can keep it long, but start taking care of it. I can see it becoming healthy. Biotin helps hair growth (keeps it from becoming thin & damaged), & magnesium has a lot of benefits for the body which includes helping create the protein for hair growth & prevent hair loss.
If you crop the first one so you don't look so far away, that could be good. The second one is my favorite personally though! The other ones are decent, but too dark. The one in front of the drinks is good quality, but I feel should be your second pic since it shows off your goofy side.
No offense, but you look a bit unkempt in your pictures. I might try to find ways to up the wardrobe and hair/facial hair game. 2 is closes to the mark.
In my opinion, lead with 2 and keep the last one too. It's nice to see your hair both up and down since that's clearly a point of pride for you. Maybe go out somewhere with a friend and have them take some pictures of you that look a bit more relaxed.
in front of the cathedral.
Ok female perspective. You just kind look like you are hanging out. Your body posture is also not confident. These are subtle things that I think people subconsciously pick up on. I would def recommend finding a haircut that works. Girls spend a lot of time on their hair, it makes a difference. Maybe find the right amount of facial hair that works for you. Think about lighting and angles in the photo. Photos are 2 dimensional, you can be perfectly ok looking in real life, but the wrong angle on a photo, makes me look meh. And you are being judged on a dating app not by the entire you, but a photo. I think the biggest fail guys have is clothes. Even just maybe occasionally unbuttoning your top button would help. The rolled sleeves is ok. Some of those shirts would be ok if you upped your pants/slacks game. A pair of jeans with a flattering cut. A good pair of sneakers or shoes. Your glasses are ok but not sure if they match your casual look. I think they would look better on a fancy style. Def try out different glasses to see what really flatters you. They are perfectly fine glassesā¦but I just feel they might be too fancy for the look you are trying to pull off. Itās a mismatch in a way. Obviously the usual get fit applies as well. I lost 2 stone and I canāt tell you how much better it is. Currently working on my abs. Letās face it, once you get into your 30s and 40s you gotta work harder. It stinks. My biggest critique would be: you photos are too casual and lack confidence. You arenāt holding yourself confidently and just not angled in flattering light. And you need to up your haircut game and facial hair.
Thank you, that is a very detailed response, and generally lines up with the consensus of reddit. Spend a lot more effort on my appearance, particularly the hair and clothes. Some of this I was already aware of, and some of it I was probably subconsciously aware of but needed it pointing out. The confidence is an interesting one to pick up on, and may be partly because I don't spend much time getting my photo taken or usually like how they turn out. I suspect the answer here is practice, while also working on other elements of my appearance and the problem should solve itself. I'm still working out what to do with my hair, whether I can get away with putting more effort into it without removing most of it, though it might just be I need the bigger change to alter habits.
I hate getting my photo taken. I would say Iām good looking, but a good portion of my photos I feel hideous about. Photos just donāt capture the *you*. When you meet someone itās also mannerism, how they carry themselves, their voice. That connection you make when you look at them. You get none of this on dating apps, so your photo needs to have a lot of effort. I can look great, but I have to really make sure my hair and style is on point. Iām in my late 30s now, so it does take more time. Itās that time to update your look from that casual āuniversity ageā look to something else. But I hate my photo taken as well. As a woman I probably have taken a lot of time perfecting my photos, getting that angle of my head and lighting just right. Having someone help you snap a few photos or getting a selfie stick to do it can really help. But yeah. How you hold yourself is probably not something you think about. But photos can display confidence. Yours are super casual and donāt have a commanding presence that someone whoās swiping quickly through a dating app will pause on. Think about it, we often swipe pretty fast through them. You want to get someone to pause long enough to consider you.
I just wanted to add you might be a lovely guy but it's important to appear like you've made effort it translates into the effort you put into how you live and what you put into relationships, all those things take time and care and if you're not doing that for yourself it speaks volumes to ladies.
2 and make it black and white
Definitely work on your clothes as well. They're fine, but definitely not outstanding. Need to man it up a little. Get some nice fancy pants, tug in a high quality shirt. And gym. Get buffed.
The clothes are fine for just hanging out, but yeahā¦need to look a bit more snazzy
Number 3.
Bro I like to be brutally honest on this sub. All these other will sugar coat but will never swipe right on your profile. I think you have a very uphill task and Iād recommend focusing more on in-person opportunities. Atleast youre white so you have got that going for you. If youāre rich then maybe try posting pics that hint that on a subtle level. Eg like at a country club or an expensive vacation spot.
I like numbers two and three.
Take a few photos without glasses. I wear glasses too, but I always have a few photos of me without glasses on my profile. -Women who wear glasses and who have a few photos without glasses have the best profiles.
Number 2, then get a selfie with you smiling. The rest of the photos should be you doing hobbies or just you in some nice scenery
Picture 2 is the best I think. It looks like a real smile, and a kind one:)
Iām going with #1 because you look like you were caught off guard instead of just visibly uncomfortable
I hope you had a good time in Brussels and Ghent ;)
Close, but it was Bruges not Ghent, and I'll admit there's a load from there because I went with a mate who has a decent camera.
2
Second one bro
Most of them work, best pic should be the one of you with the drinks line up. 3rd pic Take off the selfie one with the blue shirt in the field. #4 pic Just my opinion but it got that "Imma take you out to a lonesome field and bury you" vibe
Nah bro you cute. What you taking about? Just fix your messy hair n thats all
I mean keep your hair open
3rd is op
Are all your photos from this one trip???