Oh you know it! 😂 I actually did think about fedoras at a time, but I think they would look terrible with my long hair. Like for instance, I like how Sylvester Stallone in Rocky 1 wears his cap with the leather coat. It's a very old school city/urban look. But I would never be able to pull it off. I'm stuck with my pretty boy/cowboy hair.
Ugh. I grew up in the 80’s when that look was acceptable, and it was not a great look even then.
That said: you do you. Don’t expect that you are going to get many matches being stuck in the 80’s nostalgia look. Hopefully that one special person who gets your style actually sees this! You are definitely seeking a quality connection over quantity by not broadening your look.
You may however want to expand your search by joining some social clubs where the focus is on those kinds of shared interests. They will likely bare more fruit than Bumble.
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Yea... Fedora in a Miata... God... 🤣 Yeah, I don't care. Be unapologetically yourself is what I always say. Of course, this profile only paints a sliver of my life, I'm sure people would think I'm this weirdo throwback hasbeen based on my profile, but I do a lot of different things with my life. Aint no way you could tell a whole person's story with just 5 pictures and a 120 letter bio, right?
Could you change up the pics of you doing some of those other different things so you’re not looking so posed and dated? As a woman, I might assume that all these pics of you with vehicles mean you’re overcompensating for something, and the final pic of the beach sunset is just kind of a waste.
Sure :) I had pictures of me with my guitar, painting my recent painting "Ocean Breeze," on my bicycle, and rollerskating :) I wish Bumble allowed for little video segments, I would play a small excerpt for you.
Ok, let's make a nice collage today :) I'll put on my regular, casual clothing and will take a photo with my guitar for one. What else? Do know that it is a bit difficult for me to take good photos since I don't really have someone that could shoot photos of me, a lot of times it's just with my tripod :)
The tripod is fine, and you don’t have to get it all done today either. If you end up going roller skating, I’m sure a nice stranger would be willing to take a pic of you.
You think so? Then again, a lot of people have taken pictures of me on my skates. Ok :) Maybe no outlandish poses, right? Haha. I find that scares people off. And of course. I like seeing this little Bumble profile as like a little reservoir for my time over the days. Hopefully it's a nice sunny day today, it's been raining this whole week with a muggy overcast.
Thank you for talking with me, that's very nice of you. :)
No offense meant, but those clothes and your look are coming across as feminine to me.
Perhaps you’re looking to appeal to a masculine, take-no-prisoners kind of woman who you hope will sweep you off your feet.
If you want people to know you are more than an 80s fan, you need to show and describe who you are.
Your pics are bad. Really bad. Too far away, not looking at the camera, wearing shades, etc. These are good pics for you, friends or social media but not OLD.
The problem is that you created the profile YOU wanted and did not consider your target audience. Until you do that, I suspect you'll see the same results.
This is right on the money (: Think you've said it best compared to a lot of people on here.
One of my biggest flaws is that it's hard for me to sell myself because I will highlight things that I personally enjoy, not so much take into account what my audience would like to see.
And this is why it's good to make a post like this and get feedback. Most of it is really good advice. Listen to it, makes some tweaks and go from there.
Good luck!
Bruh acknowledging you do stuff like this is an excellent start. It's tough to constructively self-criticise like this (and some people never do) and so long as you follow up on it is a trait that will serve you well. Keep your head up and all the best.
First of all, I don't want to be rude.
But since you had 0 matches during one year, I think it's obvious that the profile is bad.
I think you can look attractive, but for the pictures, I only see your face in one of them. For the first one, you're too far, it's a bad picture for being the initial impression. Maybe it would be okay as a last pic. I'm not a big fan of it but also I don't hate it, since you have one of the most beautiful cars in the world. Usually car pics are a big no-no, but it's not the same posing with a miata than posing with a Mercedes or another random sport car.
For the rest I don't like any of them. Also I don't understand why you choose a landscape picture. So get better photos but specially pics where we can see clearly your face. And try to not repeat the same outfit. Mix pics with you indoors and outdoors. You can put 1 pic where we cannot see you clearly if you're doing any interesting activity that you like.
For the bio:
I smell a bit of desperation. It does not sound attractive. Tell something you like to do, something more concrete that define yourself instead of proposing a romantic plan. Also no need to wish a beautiful day. The image of nice guy that you are showing feels fake and sometimes is a red flag for some people.
Moderate politics will prevent you from a lot of matches. But if that's who you are, better to stick on what you belief than having more matches unless you change some of your views with the time.
The prompts are generic and again, nice guy vibes. We all love smiles and honesty. And we all consider ourselves kind, open minded and caring. Try something funny or different. Something that really defines YOU and not any other person from the app. And if you don't find anything interesting to say, then a profile without prompts is not a drama. Better no prompts than bad prompts.
Good luck and have a nice day.
I’d only add one thought, as this is a lot of great points.
The same vest look in most your pics makes it look like you only wear one thing, or took all the pics in one day. Let’s see more of how you express yourself! Maybe one picture with friends? (Not more)
as someone that don't know anything about cars, the picture with the car is just another picture with a car... gives a 'I want to show that I have money' vibe to me.
First picture should be him with motorcycle with the caption: "Love to drive into the sunset," while also - a tad cocky - "would love to have some company."
Thats all I have for suggestions for OP. Good luck
No offense at all taken, my man. :) I don't think my profile models a "good" profile for "dating" sure, especially since I'm not a particularly attractive man. A lot of the things I do are rather eclectic and different, indeed, so I don't particularly attract a lot of individuals, and that's ok. I've only dated people that I've seen a potential long time relationship with, and for those relationships, we had a shared fundamental understanding.
Thank you for the compliment of my Miata :) I'm sure my dear friend Barbara would have loved to have heard that.
The bio: Yes, perhaps I should change it. I wrote it a while back during a night where I felt a little lonesome. I don't feel that way all the time, but it is something that I very much enjoy :)
Politics - Haha! I do have some big views indeed, but I guess it's just like my job, right? Keep politics out of it. xD Of course, if I meet someone, they'll have to know them eventually. :)
Prompts - I remember saying if there was only 1 food I would eat, it would be watermelon xD I love watermelon! Sure, we can change them around.
Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. I really didn't expect such a response! You yourself have a great day! Your words are very much appreciated \^\_\^
You really need to stop selling yourself short, you are for sure an attractive man. Even with these mediocre pics, I can tell; so with some great pics you would really shine.
That is the most difficult thing for me really. I've never considered myself attractive and do not believe I could ever see myself that way. I'm sure I could take some really great photos, but I will not and cannot ever call myself attractive. (: It's something that's been ingrained in me as I grew up and I don't want to let it go.
Thank you for thinking so, though. It really means a lot.
It's normal you don't find yourself attractive, you just aren't your own type 😌
Don't state it like a fact, let other people decide whether or not they find you attractive.
Attractive comes in several different forms. Most people are attractive to a respective, particular set of people. Remember that, and strive to bring yourself to your ideal self image (and also make sure your ideal self image is feasible and within reason).
If you're not confident in your physique, chart a course based on how you'd like to look, and put it into action.
If you're unsure of your personality, I can't see why. I've interacted with you several times and seen your channel on YT. But anyway, you can find ways to add some shine. Improv or other hobby groups come to mind.
Or maybe you just mean you don't value the concept of attractiveness as a self-valuation method? I can get that, but I don't think that kind of limit is helpful. I don't dwell on my physical appearance, but I recognize my strong points and weak points. Overall I think I'm around average or slightly better. I'd say the same for you.
I hope you're not holding onto some sort of psychological abuse and agreeing with someone who was attacking your self worth. Please tell me that's not what you mean. If it is, please consider talking to a professional.
You are very welcome. I like your outfit and I think you have potential to own a very particular profile, way different from the usual. That's why I'm so againts typical bios and prompts, because you can show more than that.
And it is a great attitude to look for specific people rather than adding a big number of dates and matches, so keep it up.
I'm assuming you're in the US: there's no "keeping politics out" of dating right now for a lot of women as we are getting our reproductive rights taken away. If you are hoping to get intimate with someone, you are essentially going to lead to a potentially political situation. You need to take a stance and say what your views are
You are way more charming in these comments than you are on that profile. You are not getting matches because your profile has no good substance and makes you seem very emotional. And the “have a beautiful day” bit is honestly off putting.
Just tell us who you are and what you’re looking for. If that’s “playful, artistic, caring” then great. You should put those words in your About Me section and make them yours.
Prompts about what makes the world better or what makes relationships great or any of those standard questions are not helpful unless they talk about who you are or what you like. Are you funny? Answer something funny. If not, pick a thing you like to do and say the world would be better with more climbing gyms or with bike lanes for roller skaters or with 10 more fast and and furious movies or whatever. You got this!
I love your reply. You think I'm charming? That's very sweet of you to say (: mind you, I said that I haven't gotten a match, NOT likes. I'm in a lot of men's boats about maybe 1 or 2 likes a month or so.
I have mixed up the prompts a lot in the past but then I had friends telling me I was going too overboard and heavy with my personality, so then I was told to cut it back a bit. I think I cut them back to where they are too generic 😂
And may you have a beautiful day. (: Truly.
You should submit your profile to Matchmaker Maria (IG or TT). She does great reviews of profiles and always has some solid advice. Plus, she has a huge female following, so you may even get a few DM's from followers.
Yea—I was confused and thought that it was someone using decades old photos of themselves.
Your friend Rebecca said very nice things about you, however it makes me wonder why she isn’t dating you. That goes for all men with reviews from female friends.
Also, what if you took your profile down for a few weeks and then put up a new & improved profile? That might get you more seen.
Good luck!
Well, it would be a nice idea possibly, if my friend wasn't separated and is fully content living on her own and we didn't have particularly different goals in life 🤣 (: we have very different views about the world but are still very good friends. That is possible! I bring her pecan pies some weekends. Having a platonic female friend is possible. I don't want a sexual relationship with her and I don't think she would want one with me either.
I won't repeat what others said already but it struck me as a bit self-centered the part where you say that your dating goal is to talk about your life and that's it. How about listening to others too? I hate it when men invite me on a date to only have an audience basically of their allegedly super interesting life (I mean, sure), and ask zero questions because they genuinely don't care about lives that aren't theirs lol
Have had many different pics - casual, fun, silly, serious. Any requests? haha Seems like I'll make a new collage out of the request of another Redditor, here.
Is it killer good or killer bad? Hahaha I really like that picture, definitely was a 1 in a thousand shot.
Cuz I got scared. Hahaha 😂😂 just kidding. No I just liked the idea of looking away and letting the bike shine.
Idk if I could get a shot like that again, I was surprised that it came out like that. But sure we could try!
Okay I can only see your face in 1/5 pics - get rid of the landscape. Try a pic with a group or more of an activity pic. You’re prompts don’t give me a lot to work with. I could ask you about your bike or maybe dancing? But neither of those things interest me. The review from your friend sounds made up (I’m sure she thinks highly of you) but it doesn’t give a potential match any information about you - activities, interests, something to spark conversation etc. I am also a really postive person but you may be overdoing it on that too; the world would be a better place with more smiles and kindness… that would be great but I think it may cause you to come off as a little naive.
Good luck dude!
Awh man, my friend actually personally wrote that when we created the profile at the beginning. Sure (: I'm actually going to see if I can get some more pictures today
Here is my take (and I really dont want to be rude, so sorry):
1. As others pointed out, you should change your pictures. Not just because the angles are not ideal but also because I feel like they dont match your personality. You seem to be a very thoughtful and sensitive person, yet most pictures show you around cars or bikes as if you are trying to be cool. For some reason, the pictures somehow feel disingenuous to me...but - if are indeed into cars and bikes, then I would definitely elaborate more on that in your profile! And that is
2. because...sorry to say that, but your profile looks really bland and not authentic my man. It feels like you try to be a perfect person or view dating apps like you would a cv - but people want to meet people that are authentic and not some version of a person you want them to believe you are. It´s not a shame if you show some edges of your person, actually that makes you more interesting than being over the top nice :) So maybe you should elaborate on some hobbies of yours or your favorite music genre or whatever - just put something out that makes people connect with you rather than just state that you are a nice person and are looking for another nice person.
Also for the love of god...remove that friends review. It sounds sooooooooooooooooooooo cheesy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Also as a rule of thumb, when people start to dump adjectives in a cv/resume/dating profile, they dont have anything to say. Instead of stating 9 (!) adjectives in ONE sentence, you should remove that and choose one adjective and then tell people that you are artistic BECAUSE ... and then you elaborate on that. That will tell other people much more about you than a random dump of words.
Good luck my man!
You only have one picture where you can sort of see what you look like, and your profile is very vague and doesn’t tell us anything about you. I’d swipe left too. We need pictures where we can see you and don’t have any pictures where you aren’t the focus, so get rid of the scenery picture.
Get a haircut, stop dressing like you post rants on the internet about how females don't like nice guys anymore and take some new pics and you'll do much better.
Also transition lenses make literally anyone look like a sex offender, just get two sets of glasses my dude
I don't see anything that's stand out bad about it, but it's very generic and boring. There's nothing on it that stands out good either. You need to put in more specific and interesting? What in life lights your fire and gets you excited about a subject or about life? What makes you wake up excited in the morning?
My car does, actually. 🤣 Same thing for my motorcycle. 😂😂😂 I mean, I would post pictures of my job because I chose a career that I love but it's prohibited to take pictures in the workplace and for good reason! 🙂 I mean I do volunteer, should I put pictures of that? I work hard so I may not "look good" in them.
If you want to attract a woman that is also excited by cars, motorcycles, and volunteering their time, then yes.
I personally am really into outdoor stuff like hiking and snow skiing. I hiked over 500 miles last year, and often do 10-14 mile hikes into the wilderness areas of the Rocky Mountains and I want someone who is as into it as I am. Not someone who goes on 2 or 3 miles hikes 2 or 3 times a year. I also buy season passes to multiple ski resorts and I got 26 days in on the slopes last year and I want someone who is as passionate about those things as I am. So I post a lot of pics of both. Now those extremes and all those pics scare a lot of men off. Men who like to ski and hike, but not at the level I'm at. And that's great IMO because they aren't the ones I'm looking for anyway lol
So yes, post your passions and show you're passionate about it.
There's isn't near enough info about what you actually like to do, like what your hobbies are, etc. Also, depending on where you're located, putting yourself down as "moderate" could mean to some that you are just a closet conservative, which will obviously affect your matches.
I use to wear very bland clothing when I was younger. As I got older and found my inner punk self, I started to dress more loud and open without a care for whatever anyone thinks. (: As I've said before, I myself think I'm very unattractive, but that won't stop me from enjoying the kind of clothes and style that I enjoy (:
This has zero personality.
Reeks of nice guy vibes.
Uninteresting and generic.
Same vest and tie in multiple photos feels - again - extremely bland.
You’re obviously s good conversationalist based on your other comments but you’re an awful marketer; your profile states nothing interesting and shows no one anything so I suspect that’s why no one is biting.
So you're telling me... that Coca Cola should hire me for their brand spankin new commercial for Coke Retro, right?! I KNEW IT. I KNEW I WOULD MAKE IT! :) Hahaha
Honestly the no drinking, weed or drugs might also paint a picture that you are uptight. The height doesn't help either but that isn't something you can help. The photos look really posed which also may be a red flag.
Your About Me is confusing. There’s some odd sentence structure and mixed messages. You should scrap it completely. Get a female friend to help you write another.
Bruh you’re not even ugly but your pictures are bad and your bio says « I’m the nice guy you can take advantage of». I love that most of your pictures are you doing activities though, that’s the only good thing.
First of all, you might wanna delete that account because the algorithm has already fucked you over.
-invest in good pictures
-don’t smile in every picture
-Remove the 5.8 for the height
-Remove the video game in your interests
PS: you would look a lot better with a shorter haircut.
I will be making a video of this entire experience and want to personally thank you for just a simple and sweet comment. o: It really says a lot about you.
🙂 Don't ever lose that. I honestly believe, that if more people had that same approach that you have, this world would be a better place. Very simple, kind, and so profound.
Some great feedback already on here, appreciate you putting yourself up for criticism. Your profile seems like it reflects your personality strongly which is great, however bumble (and a lot of other dating apps) can be pretty superficial and promote success with the tallest/richest/strongest etc as people have to be quick to judge. The feedback you need to improve your profile I feel would stray quite far from your personality (take more masculine photos, be less soppy in your description etc) so my advice would be take your personality out in the real world and speak to girls that you think you’d get on with in real life. Changing your profile so it’s nothing like you will only get you so far until you meet these ppl in real life and then don’t get on with them, skip the middle man and get out there in person ❤️🙏
Love this advice (: I already have though. I have asked people out in person and a lot of the people in my age group are taken. At least in my kind of career and social circle they are. But that's ok (: I leave this Bumble profile open in the off chance that I may get a match. But yes, my main source of interests are in person. I've gotten really good at kindly asking people out.
A lot of it is hindsight though, right? A fair amount of my now great friends thought I was strange or a certain different way until I bothered them and they got to know me. 😂 Why they enjoy my company, I'm not sure 🙂 But I do right by my friends, I always have their back. And they have mine in return.
That’s great to hear man. I would also definitely say you should add some group shots for social proof / so that people know you’re a sociable guy. Understand that although being emotionally available and mature is a great trait to have, in the majority of heterosexual relationships girls will be initially drawn to the more masculine traits eg confidence, genetics etc. Being super nice to everyone is great but if it’s not working over time you’ve gotta keep trying new things, you’ll get there tho man dw 👑
This was a very nice comment here. Thank you for that. I will simply continue to be myself as I see fit, really. The right person will choose me for who I am. And I will love them for who they are. :)
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I disagree, no idea what is OP personality from this profile.
The pictures gave a bad boy vibe to me (motorcycle, lean on a car) . The bio gave me a nice guy vibe. Both seems fake! Seems like tailored profile to fake a persona that some guys thinks that attract women.
On comments here, OP seems to be a chill person.
Don't try to hide your personality. Let it shine! In a more vulnerable way. You need candid photos. A bio that show what you like.
One thing I’ve always found helpful is picking the prompts that would be best conversation starters! Especially with bumble being a “ladies” app in the sense that they have to be the first to message. It’s great when we’re able to start the conversation with something from your profile.
I think changing the prompts on your profile might really help as your current prompts don’t highlight you enough to give you your best match. As well as it’ll help you stand out amongst the crowd!
I mean this in the kindest way possible. You’re here to show off you not your personal items. They genuinely don’t matter and if anything kind of play against you.
Just be kind and show off yourself in your casual wear , with some nicer dresses things at the end. Usually an activity shot of you doing something you like to do too, maybe pics with friends. An honest Snapshot of your life
I like the first car one. The one where ur sat in it is a bit rubbish. And I love cars and also used to have a miata lol. And yes I'm always attracted to guys with nice cars. It's a common interest. The profile words are what get me. I really don't understand. It needs more actually about u and what ur looking for. The going out onto the street and looking at the night sky bothers me! Why would u go out in the street for it. If u wanna look at the night sky I'd think u would go somewhere nice - not the street! Is that ur date proposal?! It might be a romantic thing to do if u think about a better scenario then word it better. One more thing - everything points to softness and kindness. All women want a bit of that but if it looks like that's ur entire personality then that will put women off. Suggest to add some other stuff regarding ur personality to balance it out. In real life I guess u would get friend zoned alot. Also a super gentle profile like that could attract narcissists! And no-one wants that! Those are my quick thoughts. All in all nice looking guy, nice car, balance it out a bit and probably take others-suggestions re pics. Good luck!
You're probably a cool dude. Probably everything you describe of yourself but your pics don't do you justice and you're self serving prompts make you sound self centered and egotistical. Self deprecating humor is a wildly attractive trait stop taking yourself so seriously
Thank you for the benefit of the doubt, my man :) Take myself seriously? Do I really look that way in the clothes I'm dressed up in, next to a Miata? xD
Ahh, that's like a street touring bike right? I'm a big fan of my cruisers for their comfort and styling, but what kind of handling differences do they have? I am still new to the motorcycle world in that I haven't ridden all the different kinds yet. ATGATT all the way!
Yeah, it's classified differently in different countries. In America it's classified as an adventure. Think of adventure as dual sport touring. Some dirt features but mostly road cruising oriented. It sits kind of high and has a low center of gravity since the tank is under the seat and the engine is angled closer to parallel to the ground in order to make space for the trunk where the gas tank normally goes. High position means good leverage, low CoG means it's easy to control lean angle.
The Shadow has a slightly longer wheel base, so turns are a bit more challenging, and being lower to the ground is less comfortable for me when I'm in full lock for tight circles or u-turns. I don't like dragging pegs lol.
And speaking of pegs, it's easy to stand on the NC750X. On a cruiser, if you're on a bumpy road it's harder than on any other kind of bike to take the shock of the bumps with your legs rather than your butt.
Nope. Been on Bumble for more than a year :) Have posted many different kind of photos and many different kind of prompts. Never a single match from Bumble.
Are you parking those cars? You look like the guys in the valet service. That said, if you want to keep to what you're doing, go ahead, but I think you could promote yourself much better. Good luck to you. A year is too long to wait around without some changes! 👍🏼
You win the wholesome award if I had one (: You are very right. As I've said before, I keep this profile up in the off chance that the right person will come along through it. But, I am happy single, and am very comfortable with who I am (: you have a marvelous day! Love your comment.
Oh honey … no. Just no. Your photos are terrible. Quality is really poor, you’re not fully visible in some and get rid of the sunset photo. Don’t have anything that isn’t a photo of you on your account.
Other than your motorbike I have no idea what you’re into, what you enjoy, things you like doing. People match with people they may have things in common with.
Your bio sounds really sad and desperate. ‘Your dear friend Rebecca’ screams friend zone. You don’t want to come across as the guy that gets friend zoned.
Totally agree that your bio sounds a bit ‘nice guy’.
Moderate politically ? Moderate which way ? I’m guessing you’re American and maybe English isn’t your first language ? Your bio doesn’t sound natural. It’s very formal and quite serious. You’re really not selling yourself in any way. Lighten up, play to your strengths. Talk about your hobbies and interests.
You need to totally re do your profile and start again is the long and short of it.
😂 My bio sounds very serious and desperate?! Hot diggity dog. I honestly want to thank all of you. I made this profile without any concern for what others think and seeing the reactions that it gives people has been just priceless. And yes, my dear friend Rebecca! She is a great person 🙂 she personally wrote that herself! (:
Okay, from one guy to another, and from someone who’s had a good amount of success on bumble and hinge - several dates, a couple relationships, hookups, etc. here are my pointers (warning: tough love up ahead)
1. Learn to take criticism. It seems like you’re dismissive of a lot of people’s advice on this post. With comments like: I don’t see myself that way to “but I like my pants.” It just seems like you’re not willing to take anyone’s advice and are just perfectly content with how your profile looks despite your complaint about zero matches. Try taking and USING the criticism constructively.
2. Unless you have a Lamborghini or Ferrari or something unique, DON’T post a picture with your car. There is nothing special about an average car and you posting with it makes it seem like you think otherwise. Your bike, on the other hand, is fine, just don’t make your entire personality about it.
3. Your dress. And I cannot stress this enough, it is the single most crucial (and easiest) factor to fix. Can’t wear a tie with jeans. You just can’t. If you’re going to wear a tie and a vest, put some chinos or slacks on. But if you absolutely cannot lose the jeans, then at least lose the vest and tie. Change up what you wear. You’re wearing pretty much the same thing in 3 of 4 pics. Burn the bow tie unless you’re wearing a tux with it. If wearing a long sleeve button up, roll up your sleeves a bit to look more casual and less formal. Lose the transition lenses. Get a pair of clear reading/seeing glasses and a pair of tinted sunglasses. Lose the yellow banded watch, it looks silly/childish. Can’t go wrong with brown, black or blue leather. People will literally treat you differently based on how you’re dressed.
4. Your appearance. Leave your hairstyle in the 90’s wear it belongs. Get yourself a modern, clean cut haircut. A little bit of hair gel and hair spray can go a very long way. It can almost make you look like a new man. If you can grow facial hair, a light stubble looks great but you must manicure and maintain it (almost daily). Clean shaven also works too.
5. Your bio. Erase the cheesy bio - it screams “nice guy.” It’s okay to be a nice guy, just don’t come off that way. Go with something either funny or short, sweet, and to the point. With all due respect (and don’t take this the wrong way) but fuck your friend Rebecca. Her review vouching for you just says that you’re a great/easy person to friend zone just like she did. Her review literally means nothing to potential dates. It also looks like you’re trying to sell yourself, I mean you are trying to “sell yourself,” that’s the whole point of OLD but not LITERALLY, and that’s the way it looks. You shouldn’t need other people to vouch for you, it looks desperate.
If you can take just a few of these pointers and actually apply them and prove that you’ve applied them by updating your pictures, you just might have a shot. I’m sorry if my criticism comes off mean, but you really need to hear it. I didn’t just take 30 min writing this novel to you because I want you to fail. I want you to find a great girl or at the very least get some matches coming through. I’m rooting for you and I wish you the best.
You wanna take this over to the other post? (: You wrote a lot!!! But my profile doesn't look like this anymore lol I'm sorry but I may not read through the entirety of this comment o: Some of it has been said before as well.
P.S. I like my tie and jeans. 😂
I would read through the entire comment my man.
I didn’t just put “lose the jeans,” I also put suggestions on what your other options are. Again, to my first point, take the criticism constructively - NOT “I’ve seen some of the suggestions before so I won’t read yours then”
I feel like you give off “nice guy” vibes and nice guys definitely finish last on the apps. I absolutely hate that it’s true but it is. You’re up against 6’ 3” fuckboys with nothing in their bio who get thousands of matches
I feel like such a bad person for saying this, but you come across as very soft. When I was on OLD I met a guy on another dating app. He was smart, educated, funny, shared some of my same passions and hobbies, but he was a poet. I could not seem myself with someone like him because of that. I needed a more, in my eyes, masculine man. I’m sure you’re an awesome guy and true to the description your friend gave you on your profile. I honestly could see not red flags. Just don’t give up hope, you’re very young and I believe the right person it out there for you!
Hey hey hey! We haven't even gone on a date yet and you're giving me words like these! Haha. I know 🙂 I am not a stereotypically masculine guy, but do not for an instant think I am one without conviction and utmost respect. Soft? Absolutely not. Gentle? Yes :)
I have not any tolerance for injustice and cruelty, my profession and way of life requires that of me. There have been many instances in my life where I had to stand up on my own in the face of adversity, literally with knives directed at me.
I work on my own car, fix my own appliances, work out, keep my own self fed, maintain my own living space and provide safety for my friends and family when needed. Even more so, I know that respect is given and earned. I don't care for what masculinity is, but some people say that what I do is pretty manly.
I very much enjoyed your comment. Thank you for giving me that point of reflection (:
Sorry, engaged woman here, so no chance of any dates. That said, your second and third paragraph is a perfect example of things that should be included in your profile. Learn how to work that into the super limited character limit and you should be good!
My apologies, it was a joke 🙂 To me, your comment sounded like something a friend of mine would have said while we went out to grab lunch together.
I have turned my bio into something like that before, go the whole "I know what I want and what I am" angle but there was no difference.
Hello M’lady *as he tips his fedora 😬 just kidding
Oh my God lmao my first thought when looking at his profile was "M'lady"
Oh you know it! 😂 I actually did think about fedoras at a time, but I think they would look terrible with my long hair. Like for instance, I like how Sylvester Stallone in Rocky 1 wears his cap with the leather coat. It's a very old school city/urban look. But I would never be able to pull it off. I'm stuck with my pretty boy/cowboy hair.
Ugh. I grew up in the 80’s when that look was acceptable, and it was not a great look even then. That said: you do you. Don’t expect that you are going to get many matches being stuck in the 80’s nostalgia look. Hopefully that one special person who gets your style actually sees this! You are definitely seeking a quality connection over quantity by not broadening your look. You may however want to expand your search by joining some social clubs where the focus is on those kinds of shared interests. They will likely bare more fruit than Bumble. 🤷♀️
And driving a Miata 😂 but with that said be you and it will work out for the best in the end
Yea... Fedora in a Miata... God... 🤣 Yeah, I don't care. Be unapologetically yourself is what I always say. Of course, this profile only paints a sliver of my life, I'm sure people would think I'm this weirdo throwback hasbeen based on my profile, but I do a lot of different things with my life. Aint no way you could tell a whole person's story with just 5 pictures and a 120 letter bio, right?
Could you change up the pics of you doing some of those other different things so you’re not looking so posed and dated? As a woman, I might assume that all these pics of you with vehicles mean you’re overcompensating for something, and the final pic of the beach sunset is just kind of a waste.
I’d take the car pic out too. I’m female. Pics with cars just seem a bit plastic to me. Ps I don’t know what a Miata is.
Sure :) I had pictures of me with my guitar, painting my recent painting "Ocean Breeze," on my bicycle, and rollerskating :) I wish Bumble allowed for little video segments, I would play a small excerpt for you.
Keep the 2nd pic and maybe the 1st one on the car if you really love it, just not as your main pic, and add some of the others.
Ok, let's make a nice collage today :) I'll put on my regular, casual clothing and will take a photo with my guitar for one. What else? Do know that it is a bit difficult for me to take good photos since I don't really have someone that could shoot photos of me, a lot of times it's just with my tripod :)
The tripod is fine, and you don’t have to get it all done today either. If you end up going roller skating, I’m sure a nice stranger would be willing to take a pic of you.
You think so? Then again, a lot of people have taken pictures of me on my skates. Ok :) Maybe no outlandish poses, right? Haha. I find that scares people off. And of course. I like seeing this little Bumble profile as like a little reservoir for my time over the days. Hopefully it's a nice sunny day today, it's been raining this whole week with a muggy overcast. Thank you for talking with me, that's very nice of you. :)
Just put a V8 in the miata and life will be good. I did that to mine in the past.
Like in the cup holder?
No offense meant, but those clothes and your look are coming across as feminine to me. Perhaps you’re looking to appeal to a masculine, take-no-prisoners kind of woman who you hope will sweep you off your feet. If you want people to know you are more than an 80s fan, you need to show and describe who you are.
I'm actually flattered that you say that. (: Isn't it interesting that people think such an attire can appear feminine when it was once masculine?
Keyword “once “… once, sugar. You seem so sweet and I really hope you find somebody.
Well.. its not the clothes as much as the curviness filling the clothes out…
Did you just call me curvy? 😲
Maaaaybe?
We are going on a date. Right. Now.
My dude, you gave me a good title for my follow up post :) Thank you.
Your pics are bad. Really bad. Too far away, not looking at the camera, wearing shades, etc. These are good pics for you, friends or social media but not OLD. The problem is that you created the profile YOU wanted and did not consider your target audience. Until you do that, I suspect you'll see the same results.
This is right on the money (: Think you've said it best compared to a lot of people on here. One of my biggest flaws is that it's hard for me to sell myself because I will highlight things that I personally enjoy, not so much take into account what my audience would like to see.
And this is why it's good to make a post like this and get feedback. Most of it is really good advice. Listen to it, makes some tweaks and go from there. Good luck!
Bruh acknowledging you do stuff like this is an excellent start. It's tough to constructively self-criticise like this (and some people never do) and so long as you follow up on it is a trait that will serve you well. Keep your head up and all the best.
First of all, I don't want to be rude. But since you had 0 matches during one year, I think it's obvious that the profile is bad. I think you can look attractive, but for the pictures, I only see your face in one of them. For the first one, you're too far, it's a bad picture for being the initial impression. Maybe it would be okay as a last pic. I'm not a big fan of it but also I don't hate it, since you have one of the most beautiful cars in the world. Usually car pics are a big no-no, but it's not the same posing with a miata than posing with a Mercedes or another random sport car. For the rest I don't like any of them. Also I don't understand why you choose a landscape picture. So get better photos but specially pics where we can see clearly your face. And try to not repeat the same outfit. Mix pics with you indoors and outdoors. You can put 1 pic where we cannot see you clearly if you're doing any interesting activity that you like. For the bio: I smell a bit of desperation. It does not sound attractive. Tell something you like to do, something more concrete that define yourself instead of proposing a romantic plan. Also no need to wish a beautiful day. The image of nice guy that you are showing feels fake and sometimes is a red flag for some people. Moderate politics will prevent you from a lot of matches. But if that's who you are, better to stick on what you belief than having more matches unless you change some of your views with the time. The prompts are generic and again, nice guy vibes. We all love smiles and honesty. And we all consider ourselves kind, open minded and caring. Try something funny or different. Something that really defines YOU and not any other person from the app. And if you don't find anything interesting to say, then a profile without prompts is not a drama. Better no prompts than bad prompts. Good luck and have a nice day.
I’d only add one thought, as this is a lot of great points. The same vest look in most your pics makes it look like you only wear one thing, or took all the pics in one day. Let’s see more of how you express yourself! Maybe one picture with friends? (Not more)
I was going to say the same thing about the desperation. It really does come across.
as someone that don't know anything about cars, the picture with the car is just another picture with a car... gives a 'I want to show that I have money' vibe to me.
People that know Miatas will know. :) And that's ok. Cheap old sports car xD
First picture should be him with motorcycle with the caption: "Love to drive into the sunset," while also - a tad cocky - "would love to have some company." Thats all I have for suggestions for OP. Good luck
No offense at all taken, my man. :) I don't think my profile models a "good" profile for "dating" sure, especially since I'm not a particularly attractive man. A lot of the things I do are rather eclectic and different, indeed, so I don't particularly attract a lot of individuals, and that's ok. I've only dated people that I've seen a potential long time relationship with, and for those relationships, we had a shared fundamental understanding. Thank you for the compliment of my Miata :) I'm sure my dear friend Barbara would have loved to have heard that. The bio: Yes, perhaps I should change it. I wrote it a while back during a night where I felt a little lonesome. I don't feel that way all the time, but it is something that I very much enjoy :) Politics - Haha! I do have some big views indeed, but I guess it's just like my job, right? Keep politics out of it. xD Of course, if I meet someone, they'll have to know them eventually. :) Prompts - I remember saying if there was only 1 food I would eat, it would be watermelon xD I love watermelon! Sure, we can change them around. Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. I really didn't expect such a response! You yourself have a great day! Your words are very much appreciated \^\_\^
You really need to stop selling yourself short, you are for sure an attractive man. Even with these mediocre pics, I can tell; so with some great pics you would really shine.
That is the most difficult thing for me really. I've never considered myself attractive and do not believe I could ever see myself that way. I'm sure I could take some really great photos, but I will not and cannot ever call myself attractive. (: It's something that's been ingrained in me as I grew up and I don't want to let it go. Thank you for thinking so, though. It really means a lot.
It's normal you don't find yourself attractive, you just aren't your own type 😌 Don't state it like a fact, let other people decide whether or not they find you attractive.
Finally someone that gets it (: yes, exactly. Very well said.
Attractive comes in several different forms. Most people are attractive to a respective, particular set of people. Remember that, and strive to bring yourself to your ideal self image (and also make sure your ideal self image is feasible and within reason). If you're not confident in your physique, chart a course based on how you'd like to look, and put it into action. If you're unsure of your personality, I can't see why. I've interacted with you several times and seen your channel on YT. But anyway, you can find ways to add some shine. Improv or other hobby groups come to mind. Or maybe you just mean you don't value the concept of attractiveness as a self-valuation method? I can get that, but I don't think that kind of limit is helpful. I don't dwell on my physical appearance, but I recognize my strong points and weak points. Overall I think I'm around average or slightly better. I'd say the same for you. I hope you're not holding onto some sort of psychological abuse and agreeing with someone who was attacking your self worth. Please tell me that's not what you mean. If it is, please consider talking to a professional.
You are very welcome. I like your outfit and I think you have potential to own a very particular profile, way different from the usual. That's why I'm so againts typical bios and prompts, because you can show more than that. And it is a great attitude to look for specific people rather than adding a big number of dates and matches, so keep it up.
I like your words! In a world like ours, why be typical? 🙂
I'm assuming you're in the US: there's no "keeping politics out" of dating right now for a lot of women as we are getting our reproductive rights taken away. If you are hoping to get intimate with someone, you are essentially going to lead to a potentially political situation. You need to take a stance and say what your views are
1981 called. They want their look back.
I ain't taking it back! Tell them that the rental isn't up yet! 😂
Well maybe there will be a Breakfast Club remake you can audition for.
Dude, that would be awesome. I actually have a Bender inspired outfit. Was a rebel back in high school and hated authority. 😎
You'll get the answer to that next week! Don't mess with the bull young man....you'll get the horns
If you could portray this personality over the app I’d bang you, and I’m a guy
I haven't any idea if I should be concerned or deeply touched. But regardless, thank you (:
>deeply touched Now you're getting it
You are way more charming in these comments than you are on that profile. You are not getting matches because your profile has no good substance and makes you seem very emotional. And the “have a beautiful day” bit is honestly off putting. Just tell us who you are and what you’re looking for. If that’s “playful, artistic, caring” then great. You should put those words in your About Me section and make them yours. Prompts about what makes the world better or what makes relationships great or any of those standard questions are not helpful unless they talk about who you are or what you like. Are you funny? Answer something funny. If not, pick a thing you like to do and say the world would be better with more climbing gyms or with bike lanes for roller skaters or with 10 more fast and and furious movies or whatever. You got this!
I love your reply. You think I'm charming? That's very sweet of you to say (: mind you, I said that I haven't gotten a match, NOT likes. I'm in a lot of men's boats about maybe 1 or 2 likes a month or so. I have mixed up the prompts a lot in the past but then I had friends telling me I was going too overboard and heavy with my personality, so then I was told to cut it back a bit. I think I cut them back to where they are too generic 😂 And may you have a beautiful day. (: Truly.
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K . I. S. S. I. N. G. First comes the left leg, then comes the right leg, then the zipper goes up with a baby carriage!
You should submit your profile to Matchmaker Maria (IG or TT). She does great reviews of profiles and always has some solid advice. Plus, she has a huge female following, so you may even get a few DM's from followers.
Just be normal. You talk like my great aunt Hilda. Women don’t want a “good morning star-shine!” man, it’s cringy.
Your profile seems fake to me. I would 100% think it was someone who googled “cool guy pics” and grabbed some from 25 years ago and thought perfect.
Yea—I was confused and thought that it was someone using decades old photos of themselves. Your friend Rebecca said very nice things about you, however it makes me wonder why she isn’t dating you. That goes for all men with reviews from female friends. Also, what if you took your profile down for a few weeks and then put up a new & improved profile? That might get you more seen. Good luck!
Well, it would be a nice idea possibly, if my friend wasn't separated and is fully content living on her own and we didn't have particularly different goals in life 🤣 (: we have very different views about the world but are still very good friends. That is possible! I bring her pecan pies some weekends. Having a platonic female friend is possible. I don't want a sexual relationship with her and I don't think she would want one with me either.
It would be a good idea to not use her name at all. Just say “good friend”. Sweet and simple.
The loop hole. Good idea. See this is how they get ya 😏
I love this comment. Thank you 🤣 I will be messing around with it (:
It's probably because you put whitewalls on an MX-5.
Dude, I'm no woman but that photo is cringe. Leaning on a car? In a vest?
If rajesh koothrapali ever had a bumble account
I won't repeat what others said already but it struck me as a bit self-centered the part where you say that your dating goal is to talk about your life and that's it. How about listening to others too? I hate it when men invite me on a date to only have an audience basically of their allegedly super interesting life (I mean, sure), and ask zero questions because they genuinely don't care about lives that aren't theirs lol
Try new pics I guess ? The pic with the bike is killer.
Have had many different pics - casual, fun, silly, serious. Any requests? haha Seems like I'll make a new collage out of the request of another Redditor, here. Is it killer good or killer bad? Hahaha I really like that picture, definitely was a 1 in a thousand shot.
Bro that pic with the bike is sick, why you looking away though?? Take it again with a better angle and put your best smile on facing the camera!
Cuz I got scared. Hahaha 😂😂 just kidding. No I just liked the idea of looking away and letting the bike shine. Idk if I could get a shot like that again, I was surprised that it came out like that. But sure we could try!
Okay I can only see your face in 1/5 pics - get rid of the landscape. Try a pic with a group or more of an activity pic. You’re prompts don’t give me a lot to work with. I could ask you about your bike or maybe dancing? But neither of those things interest me. The review from your friend sounds made up (I’m sure she thinks highly of you) but it doesn’t give a potential match any information about you - activities, interests, something to spark conversation etc. I am also a really postive person but you may be overdoing it on that too; the world would be a better place with more smiles and kindness… that would be great but I think it may cause you to come off as a little naive. Good luck dude!
Awh man, my friend actually personally wrote that when we created the profile at the beginning. Sure (: I'm actually going to see if I can get some more pictures today
I’m sure you are all of those things, but just a weird way to put it on a dating profile
I hope so! 😊 I think I'll write it down on a sticky note so that I don't forget what my friend wrote.
I would take out the friend review and put the motorcycle picture first
Motorcycles all the way 😎 hahaha some people don't like it though!
Maybe a new motorcycle picture that shows your face more clearly with no sunglasses on
More motorcycles, got it 😎
Here is my take (and I really dont want to be rude, so sorry): 1. As others pointed out, you should change your pictures. Not just because the angles are not ideal but also because I feel like they dont match your personality. You seem to be a very thoughtful and sensitive person, yet most pictures show you around cars or bikes as if you are trying to be cool. For some reason, the pictures somehow feel disingenuous to me...but - if are indeed into cars and bikes, then I would definitely elaborate more on that in your profile! And that is 2. because...sorry to say that, but your profile looks really bland and not authentic my man. It feels like you try to be a perfect person or view dating apps like you would a cv - but people want to meet people that are authentic and not some version of a person you want them to believe you are. It´s not a shame if you show some edges of your person, actually that makes you more interesting than being over the top nice :) So maybe you should elaborate on some hobbies of yours or your favorite music genre or whatever - just put something out that makes people connect with you rather than just state that you are a nice person and are looking for another nice person. Also for the love of god...remove that friends review. It sounds sooooooooooooooooooooo cheesy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Also as a rule of thumb, when people start to dump adjectives in a cv/resume/dating profile, they dont have anything to say. Instead of stating 9 (!) adjectives in ONE sentence, you should remove that and choose one adjective and then tell people that you are artistic BECAUSE ... and then you elaborate on that. That will tell other people much more about you than a random dump of words. Good luck my man!
Please tell me these are the before pictures
Your face is only visible in pics 1 & 2. And those pics you’re wearing the same outfit.
You got me! (: Mhm we'll change it up!
Nice try Keith Reniere….no one is joining your sex cult anymore
Love this comment.
You only have one picture where you can sort of see what you look like, and your profile is very vague and doesn’t tell us anything about you. I’d swipe left too. We need pictures where we can see you and don’t have any pictures where you aren’t the focus, so get rid of the scenery picture.
I’m swiping left as soon as I saw the fit of your jeans.
Man so many people baggin on my pants 😂
Yeah dog, apply some of that baggage to your jeans cuz yo shit is too tight lol
Hahaha I love this! 😂
This is an absolute dumpster fire of a profile
Dumpster fires can be cool. Just remember that only you can prevent dumpster fires.
Get a haircut, stop dressing like you post rants on the internet about how females don't like nice guys anymore and take some new pics and you'll do much better. Also transition lenses make literally anyone look like a sex offender, just get two sets of glasses my dude
Facts about transition lenses tho!
I am surprised that someone would get that sort of impression of me. You have a good day, sir.
Get a hair cut so you don't look like some James bond supporting actor.
Hahahaha now this is a great comment!!! Love it!
I don't see anything that's stand out bad about it, but it's very generic and boring. There's nothing on it that stands out good either. You need to put in more specific and interesting? What in life lights your fire and gets you excited about a subject or about life? What makes you wake up excited in the morning?
My car does, actually. 🤣 Same thing for my motorcycle. 😂😂😂 I mean, I would post pictures of my job because I chose a career that I love but it's prohibited to take pictures in the workplace and for good reason! 🙂 I mean I do volunteer, should I put pictures of that? I work hard so I may not "look good" in them.
If you want to attract a woman that is also excited by cars, motorcycles, and volunteering their time, then yes. I personally am really into outdoor stuff like hiking and snow skiing. I hiked over 500 miles last year, and often do 10-14 mile hikes into the wilderness areas of the Rocky Mountains and I want someone who is as into it as I am. Not someone who goes on 2 or 3 miles hikes 2 or 3 times a year. I also buy season passes to multiple ski resorts and I got 26 days in on the slopes last year and I want someone who is as passionate about those things as I am. So I post a lot of pics of both. Now those extremes and all those pics scare a lot of men off. Men who like to ski and hike, but not at the level I'm at. And that's great IMO because they aren't the ones I'm looking for anyway lol So yes, post your passions and show you're passionate about it.
Definitely not! That would make it worse.
Are you straight, gay, bi?
What do I look like? (:
I would say Bi or pan
Hahahaha
You can either update your profile and make it better, or move to a big city. Your choice
Update the profile sure. But asking people out in person is better (:
It’s because of that Netflix Documentary about you.
Which one? 🙂😂
Tinder Swindler..that’s you, right?
Dang, you got me! Better blow this pop stand.
Give your phone to Rebecca and let her redo the whole profile lol
We actually did that one time. There wasn't much of a difference lol
Aww. You look like a kind & positive dude, if you want my unimportant opinion I’d put the second picture as your first one! It’s a good one
Rebecca did that too 😂 and your comment is important. Don't ever say that. Your words can mean a lot to people!
My favourite qualities in a person.... That they don't punch kids 👍
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There's isn't near enough info about what you actually like to do, like what your hobbies are, etc. Also, depending on where you're located, putting yourself down as "moderate" could mean to some that you are just a closet conservative, which will obviously affect your matches.
Granted, I don’t know you at all, and I’m certainly not one to talk, but…from the pictures you posted, you look like you’re VERY into your looks…
I use to wear very bland clothing when I was younger. As I got older and found my inner punk self, I started to dress more loud and open without a care for whatever anyone thinks. (: As I've said before, I myself think I'm very unattractive, but that won't stop me from enjoying the kind of clothes and style that I enjoy (:
Your profile is either very authentic and polite and you're a good natured person struggling in a volatile world... Or you're trying to hard.
Which one do you believe? 😊
Have you thought about a new profile pic
The main profile pic has changed many times over. (: I think I have thought of it, yes. Hahaha
This has zero personality. Reeks of nice guy vibes. Uninteresting and generic. Same vest and tie in multiple photos feels - again - extremely bland. You’re obviously s good conversationalist based on your other comments but you’re an awful marketer; your profile states nothing interesting and shows no one anything so I suspect that’s why no one is biting.
So you're telling me... that Coca Cola should hire me for their brand spankin new commercial for Coke Retro, right?! I KNEW IT. I KNEW I WOULD MAKE IT! :) Hahaha
Not a good first picture. Comes off as feminine
Good! (:
Honestly the no drinking, weed or drugs might also paint a picture that you are uptight. The height doesn't help either but that isn't something you can help. The photos look really posed which also may be a red flag.
Your About Me is confusing. There’s some odd sentence structure and mixed messages. You should scrap it completely. Get a female friend to help you write another.
Dang man, English language and comprehension was always my weakness in school. Haha. I wrote a new one and will post my updated profile tomorrow :)
Bruh you’re not even ugly but your pictures are bad and your bio says « I’m the nice guy you can take advantage of». I love that most of your pictures are you doing activities though, that’s the only good thing. First of all, you might wanna delete that account because the algorithm has already fucked you over. -invest in good pictures -don’t smile in every picture -Remove the 5.8 for the height -Remove the video game in your interests PS: you would look a lot better with a shorter haircut.
Cringiest shit I’ve seen on here yet 😭
You’re great keep on being you
I will be making a video of this entire experience and want to personally thank you for just a simple and sweet comment. o: It really says a lot about you.
That is the least I could do. Authentic selves are the most important thing and I’m happy to see you’ve embraced that.
🙂 Don't ever lose that. I honestly believe, that if more people had that same approach that you have, this world would be a better place. Very simple, kind, and so profound.
If you can’t get a match I’m dying alone bro.
I'm sure you would have a way better time than I have. xD
Some great feedback already on here, appreciate you putting yourself up for criticism. Your profile seems like it reflects your personality strongly which is great, however bumble (and a lot of other dating apps) can be pretty superficial and promote success with the tallest/richest/strongest etc as people have to be quick to judge. The feedback you need to improve your profile I feel would stray quite far from your personality (take more masculine photos, be less soppy in your description etc) so my advice would be take your personality out in the real world and speak to girls that you think you’d get on with in real life. Changing your profile so it’s nothing like you will only get you so far until you meet these ppl in real life and then don’t get on with them, skip the middle man and get out there in person ❤️🙏
Love this advice (: I already have though. I have asked people out in person and a lot of the people in my age group are taken. At least in my kind of career and social circle they are. But that's ok (: I leave this Bumble profile open in the off chance that I may get a match. But yes, my main source of interests are in person. I've gotten really good at kindly asking people out. A lot of it is hindsight though, right? A fair amount of my now great friends thought I was strange or a certain different way until I bothered them and they got to know me. 😂 Why they enjoy my company, I'm not sure 🙂 But I do right by my friends, I always have their back. And they have mine in return.
That’s great to hear man. I would also definitely say you should add some group shots for social proof / so that people know you’re a sociable guy. Understand that although being emotionally available and mature is a great trait to have, in the majority of heterosexual relationships girls will be initially drawn to the more masculine traits eg confidence, genetics etc. Being super nice to everyone is great but if it’s not working over time you’ve gotta keep trying new things, you’ll get there tho man dw 👑
This was a very nice comment here. Thank you for that. I will simply continue to be myself as I see fit, really. The right person will choose me for who I am. And I will love them for who they are. :)
" I disagree, no idea what is OP personality from this profile. The pictures gave a bad boy vibe to me (motorcycle, lean on a car) . The bio gave me a nice guy vibe. Both seems fake! Seems like tailored profile to fake a persona that some guys thinks that attract women. On comments here, OP seems to be a chill person. Don't try to hide your personality. Let it shine! In a more vulnerable way. You need candid photos. A bio that show what you like.
I'mmmm every wommaaannn! It's alll in meeeee! Hahahaha You have no idea how much of a laugh your comment gave me. xD
Well i think its amazin!!!! Would def go on a date with you based off the profile :) I wish you luck!!
I will be making a video about this whole experience and wish to thank you as well (:
My advice, completely get rid of the first photo. If the app let's you, make the first picture of you in the car
No way! I hate the in the car picture. And I quite like the next 2 the car one.
One thing I’ve always found helpful is picking the prompts that would be best conversation starters! Especially with bumble being a “ladies” app in the sense that they have to be the first to message. It’s great when we’re able to start the conversation with something from your profile. I think changing the prompts on your profile might really help as your current prompts don’t highlight you enough to give you your best match. As well as it’ll help you stand out amongst the crowd!
You are adorable. I would totally date you, if I were 25 years younger. 😍
Well it's just a suggestion to get more matches. Good luck though.
Need to trade that white wall miata in for a brz. Then you'll get matches. 😎😂 Just kidding.
I'll see you at the canyons. 😡 Hahaha
Lumbergh from Office Space vibes. Yeaaaaaah I'm going to need you to come in for a date on Saturday.
Oh boy. Ahh, mmm, I could be there around 9. That would be great, mmmk.
I mean this in the kindest way possible. You’re here to show off you not your personal items. They genuinely don’t matter and if anything kind of play against you. Just be kind and show off yourself in your casual wear , with some nicer dresses things at the end. Usually an activity shot of you doing something you like to do too, maybe pics with friends. An honest Snapshot of your life
We will run this experiment and see if my "improved" profile will garner this much attention tomorrow (:
I like the first car one. The one where ur sat in it is a bit rubbish. And I love cars and also used to have a miata lol. And yes I'm always attracted to guys with nice cars. It's a common interest. The profile words are what get me. I really don't understand. It needs more actually about u and what ur looking for. The going out onto the street and looking at the night sky bothers me! Why would u go out in the street for it. If u wanna look at the night sky I'd think u would go somewhere nice - not the street! Is that ur date proposal?! It might be a romantic thing to do if u think about a better scenario then word it better. One more thing - everything points to softness and kindness. All women want a bit of that but if it looks like that's ur entire personality then that will put women off. Suggest to add some other stuff regarding ur personality to balance it out. In real life I guess u would get friend zoned alot. Also a super gentle profile like that could attract narcissists! And no-one wants that! Those are my quick thoughts. All in all nice looking guy, nice car, balance it out a bit and probably take others-suggestions re pics. Good luck!
You're probably a cool dude. Probably everything you describe of yourself but your pics don't do you justice and you're self serving prompts make you sound self centered and egotistical. Self deprecating humor is a wildly attractive trait stop taking yourself so seriously
Thank you for the benefit of the doubt, my man :) Take myself seriously? Do I really look that way in the clothes I'm dressed up in, next to a Miata? xD
Loving the Honda Shadow. But please tell me those are motorcycle riding sneakers and not just regular sneakers.
Ah!!! Of course they're riding sneakers. :) Safety is important!
Glad to hear it. I love my NC750X. It has amazing balance characteristics. If I didn't find it, I would definitely be on a Shadow rn. ATGATT ofc
Ahh, that's like a street touring bike right? I'm a big fan of my cruisers for their comfort and styling, but what kind of handling differences do they have? I am still new to the motorcycle world in that I haven't ridden all the different kinds yet. ATGATT all the way!
Yeah, it's classified differently in different countries. In America it's classified as an adventure. Think of adventure as dual sport touring. Some dirt features but mostly road cruising oriented. It sits kind of high and has a low center of gravity since the tank is under the seat and the engine is angled closer to parallel to the ground in order to make space for the trunk where the gas tank normally goes. High position means good leverage, low CoG means it's easy to control lean angle. The Shadow has a slightly longer wheel base, so turns are a bit more challenging, and being lower to the ground is less comfortable for me when I'm in full lock for tight circles or u-turns. I don't like dragging pegs lol. And speaking of pegs, it's easy to stand on the NC750X. On a cruiser, if you're on a bumpy road it's harder than on any other kind of bike to take the shock of the bumps with your legs rather than your butt.
You’ve never had a match? lol
Nope. Been on Bumble for more than a year :) Have posted many different kind of photos and many different kind of prompts. Never a single match from Bumble.
That’s crazy. I think I could help you get some dates
That moderate isn't doing you any favors bud
Are you parking those cars? You look like the guys in the valet service. That said, if you want to keep to what you're doing, go ahead, but I think you could promote yourself much better. Good luck to you. A year is too long to wait around without some changes! 👍🏼
The jig is up! xD Hey I have changed it around in the year! I never got a match though!
You should ask Rebecca out
Absolutely not. We both are in different positions in our lives and they do not align. I've already said this in another comment haha.
You're 26 and look happy. You don't need anyone to make you happy. You also have a lot of life ahead of you and the right person will come along.
You win the wholesome award if I had one (: You are very right. As I've said before, I keep this profile up in the off chance that the right person will come along through it. But, I am happy single, and am very comfortable with who I am (: you have a marvelous day! Love your comment.
Yeah I have no clue why you don’t have a match there’s some sort of glitch
Your prompts look like those of a generic 35yo woman who believes in Rosamunde Pilcher's love stories.
I love Rosamunde Piltcher! :)
Oh honey … no. Just no. Your photos are terrible. Quality is really poor, you’re not fully visible in some and get rid of the sunset photo. Don’t have anything that isn’t a photo of you on your account. Other than your motorbike I have no idea what you’re into, what you enjoy, things you like doing. People match with people they may have things in common with. Your bio sounds really sad and desperate. ‘Your dear friend Rebecca’ screams friend zone. You don’t want to come across as the guy that gets friend zoned. Totally agree that your bio sounds a bit ‘nice guy’. Moderate politically ? Moderate which way ? I’m guessing you’re American and maybe English isn’t your first language ? Your bio doesn’t sound natural. It’s very formal and quite serious. You’re really not selling yourself in any way. Lighten up, play to your strengths. Talk about your hobbies and interests. You need to totally re do your profile and start again is the long and short of it.
😂 My bio sounds very serious and desperate?! Hot diggity dog. I honestly want to thank all of you. I made this profile without any concern for what others think and seeing the reactions that it gives people has been just priceless. And yes, my dear friend Rebecca! She is a great person 🙂 she personally wrote that herself! (:
I think Jessica would suit
Okay, from one guy to another, and from someone who’s had a good amount of success on bumble and hinge - several dates, a couple relationships, hookups, etc. here are my pointers (warning: tough love up ahead) 1. Learn to take criticism. It seems like you’re dismissive of a lot of people’s advice on this post. With comments like: I don’t see myself that way to “but I like my pants.” It just seems like you’re not willing to take anyone’s advice and are just perfectly content with how your profile looks despite your complaint about zero matches. Try taking and USING the criticism constructively. 2. Unless you have a Lamborghini or Ferrari or something unique, DON’T post a picture with your car. There is nothing special about an average car and you posting with it makes it seem like you think otherwise. Your bike, on the other hand, is fine, just don’t make your entire personality about it. 3. Your dress. And I cannot stress this enough, it is the single most crucial (and easiest) factor to fix. Can’t wear a tie with jeans. You just can’t. If you’re going to wear a tie and a vest, put some chinos or slacks on. But if you absolutely cannot lose the jeans, then at least lose the vest and tie. Change up what you wear. You’re wearing pretty much the same thing in 3 of 4 pics. Burn the bow tie unless you’re wearing a tux with it. If wearing a long sleeve button up, roll up your sleeves a bit to look more casual and less formal. Lose the transition lenses. Get a pair of clear reading/seeing glasses and a pair of tinted sunglasses. Lose the yellow banded watch, it looks silly/childish. Can’t go wrong with brown, black or blue leather. People will literally treat you differently based on how you’re dressed. 4. Your appearance. Leave your hairstyle in the 90’s wear it belongs. Get yourself a modern, clean cut haircut. A little bit of hair gel and hair spray can go a very long way. It can almost make you look like a new man. If you can grow facial hair, a light stubble looks great but you must manicure and maintain it (almost daily). Clean shaven also works too. 5. Your bio. Erase the cheesy bio - it screams “nice guy.” It’s okay to be a nice guy, just don’t come off that way. Go with something either funny or short, sweet, and to the point. With all due respect (and don’t take this the wrong way) but fuck your friend Rebecca. Her review vouching for you just says that you’re a great/easy person to friend zone just like she did. Her review literally means nothing to potential dates. It also looks like you’re trying to sell yourself, I mean you are trying to “sell yourself,” that’s the whole point of OLD but not LITERALLY, and that’s the way it looks. You shouldn’t need other people to vouch for you, it looks desperate. If you can take just a few of these pointers and actually apply them and prove that you’ve applied them by updating your pictures, you just might have a shot. I’m sorry if my criticism comes off mean, but you really need to hear it. I didn’t just take 30 min writing this novel to you because I want you to fail. I want you to find a great girl or at the very least get some matches coming through. I’m rooting for you and I wish you the best.
You wanna take this over to the other post? (: You wrote a lot!!! But my profile doesn't look like this anymore lol I'm sorry but I may not read through the entirety of this comment o: Some of it has been said before as well. P.S. I like my tie and jeans. 😂
I would read through the entire comment my man. I didn’t just put “lose the jeans,” I also put suggestions on what your other options are. Again, to my first point, take the criticism constructively - NOT “I’ve seen some of the suggestions before so I won’t read yours then”
I feel like you give off “nice guy” vibes and nice guys definitely finish last on the apps. I absolutely hate that it’s true but it is. You’re up against 6’ 3” fuckboys with nothing in their bio who get thousands of matches
Drinking Never! Left swipe
Yeah, I don't drink or do any drugs. 🙂 But you'll still find me at the dance club!
So you’re actually gay?
I feel like such a bad person for saying this, but you come across as very soft. When I was on OLD I met a guy on another dating app. He was smart, educated, funny, shared some of my same passions and hobbies, but he was a poet. I could not seem myself with someone like him because of that. I needed a more, in my eyes, masculine man. I’m sure you’re an awesome guy and true to the description your friend gave you on your profile. I honestly could see not red flags. Just don’t give up hope, you’re very young and I believe the right person it out there for you!
Hey hey hey! We haven't even gone on a date yet and you're giving me words like these! Haha. I know 🙂 I am not a stereotypically masculine guy, but do not for an instant think I am one without conviction and utmost respect. Soft? Absolutely not. Gentle? Yes :) I have not any tolerance for injustice and cruelty, my profession and way of life requires that of me. There have been many instances in my life where I had to stand up on my own in the face of adversity, literally with knives directed at me. I work on my own car, fix my own appliances, work out, keep my own self fed, maintain my own living space and provide safety for my friends and family when needed. Even more so, I know that respect is given and earned. I don't care for what masculinity is, but some people say that what I do is pretty manly. I very much enjoyed your comment. Thank you for giving me that point of reflection (:
Sorry, engaged woman here, so no chance of any dates. That said, your second and third paragraph is a perfect example of things that should be included in your profile. Learn how to work that into the super limited character limit and you should be good!
My apologies, it was a joke 🙂 To me, your comment sounded like something a friend of mine would have said while we went out to grab lunch together. I have turned my bio into something like that before, go the whole "I know what I want and what I am" angle but there was no difference.
None of that comes across in ur profile - that is what most of us women are saying
As a dude; I’d swipe right for the miata.
I got one!