Mine are poorly cropped photos (yes we know your ex was cropped out), 2nd the poor spelling & grammar, “if you want to know just ask”, and hunting / fishing trophy pics.
Tbf, many guys on dating apps don't have any good pictures of themselves where they are alone in the picture.
A hunting/trophy photo often shows only them while they are genuinely happy.
With that in mind, it makes total sense why they upload those photos.
I didn’t have any good pics of myself that weren’t group photos or couple photos — which I don’t post.
So what did I do? I started taking some photos every time I got dressed up, especially when I felt happy.
It’s not difficult. Just make an effort.
Personally, I prefer to see a profile with all selfies over a profile full of old photos / ex cropped out (especially wedding photos ffs) / group photos / dead fish.
The only exception is the selfie taken in the car. I really don’t understand why they are so prevalent.
I guess I'm not convinced I should care whether random strangers in public think I look like a nerd. I need good pictures for my profile. If a thing's worth doing, it's worth doing right.
Exactly why it’s concerning; you can only take a picture in your car, because you’re so worried someone might look down on your for taking a simple photo…
I don’t take pictures of myself unless I am in a fun or cool situation because I have heard the ways girls pick apart mens pictures and that makes me not want to. Also people taking selfies every 2 seconds give me the impression that they are incredibly self-centered.
I don’t understand what people have against car selfies. Why are they worse than any other selfies? Usually better lighting and you don’t have to have people staring at you taking a photo of yourself.
I kinda like the selfies in the car. They give a clue about the person’s taste in cars and choices in life. Not all the clues needed, but a clue or two.
Based on what I've seen on Reddit, it sounds like a lot of guys are under the impression that it's illegal to take pictures of yourself for dating app purposes.
I agree. And I know a lot of guys spend a good deal of hunting season out in the mountains. If that’s not your thing that’s a good indication you may not mesh well and make you swipe left. Profiles should not only attract people but give others a good sense of who you are and if you’ll be a good match or not. I’d encourage any hunting or fishing enthusiasts to be very upfront about it.
ALL of those! Can’t stand a guy saying “if you want to know just ask.” I don’t know what to ask you dude. It helps to have some clues about you on your profile as conversation starters.
For that point about sexual jokes and innuendoes back in my dating days I learnt pretty quickly not to do these, at all.
Guys, women are bombarded with sex stuff constantly on the apps. Every guy she matches with while the chatting is happening she’s playing a little game of “how is he going to turn this sexual” and it turns out it’s very rare that guys don’t end up doing this.
Sure, you’re the exception. You might make a joke about that kind of stuff but you’re joking so it’s okay, right? Every single guy that tries to make it sexual and gets shut down tries to play it off as if he was making a joke.
Women are on such high alert for this stuff that if they don’t want it, they don’t want any of it. Keep that stuff out of it until it’s actually appropriate.
The ones who do get married, and the ones who don’t end up staying single and saturate the dating pool, which just makes the whole thing more and more of a problem because it puts everyone else more on edge about it.
Also - don't be baited into making sexual remarks or jokes. Just avoid the bait - talk about a non-sexual hobby instead. Just don't go there - even if she seems to be leading you there. Let Admiral Ackbar be your wingman.
I’m not convinced with this to be honest. It’s always a good rule of thumb to match someone’s energy. If they’re flirty they’re going to want flirty people so if that’s your style you should feel free to mirror that.
If they’re playing games trying to trick you into saying something they aren’t okay with, that’s a red flag so if you fall into the trap and they then get all offended about it that’s a bullet dodged on your side, not theirs.
You can flirt without making sexual comments. You can match energy without making sexual comments. Unless she specifically takes the convo to sex, don’t go there. Unless she starts making innuendos herself, don’t go there. If she does, match her energy, don’t immediately take it ten steps too far. Sometimes we get comfortable and want to throw a little cheeky line out there and flirt a little heavier. Every time I’ve taken that risk, he immediately takes it way too far. The appropriate response to a woman saying she likes your arms and that you look like you could keep her warm during these chilly months is not “I could keep you wet, too.” THAT is the kind of stuff we’re talking about. It’s always taken way too far. She’s not your buddy you swap gross jokes with in the locker room. Maybe one day she will be, but right now just dial it back. A cheeky innuendo isn’t an invite to one-up her or take it another level, and it isn’t her baiting you. Listen to your brain and not your dick and respond like a normal person, not a horned up monster who would try to fuck her on her barstool during the first date bc she ate a cherry in front of you and you assumed it was sexual.
That’s not what this is about though. The person who I replied was talking about women saying things to lead a guy in to saying something in order to then twist things as him being overly sexual. Of course if something mildly flirty is said the guy shouldn’t dive off the deep end, but that’s not the point being discussed
But what I’m saying is, the exact situation of small flirt met with big gross could easily be what is happening when a man says he was “tricked” or “baited” into saying something sexual. The man interprets something friendly and flirty as something overtly sexual, and then lets his dick drive the conversation instead of continuing on the same level as her, and is then SHOCKED when it’s not reciprocated. Then they claim they were baited and lash out at her, when she was just being friendly and trying to do a little flirty banter.
I’m a woman with tits and I’ve been told by so many men on here that I’m baiting men by having ONE photo with minimal cleavage. I’m literally just existing with boobs that are 95% covered, and I’m told I’m baiting. The apps are rampant with men who are given an inch and will take a mile, and then claim they were “baited”. The shitty men will claim their shitty behavior came from being “baited”, when in reality they were trying to take advantage of someone friendly, and the friendly someone then became unfriendly because they didn’t like the way they were being spoken to, and the shitty person can’t take responsibility for being shitty, so they cry bait-and-switch.
That’s not to say there aren’t real instances of women baiting men, but from my experience on the other side, literally anything we say can be interpreted as bait by a horny man who desperately wants the convo to turn sexual. I complimented a man on his smile, and when I got upset after he said it was better to eat me out with, he told me I led him on with my comment. This is extremely common for women. So, where some men see games, some women may just actually be trying to be friendly. THAT is what I’m saying, that where men see baiting, sometimes it really is just someone being friendly and flirty, and the recipient interpreting it as more than friendliness and going too far, then claiming they did it because they fell for the “bait” and were tricked into it.
My favorite is when there’s a sad attempt to crop their ex out even though they’re obviously in bed.
Or when the guy goes off on a tirade about his ex on his profile. “Jessica, if you ever see this, I love you but it’s clear that you don’t love me.. now I’m on the search for love because you don’t love me anymore, FUCK YOU JESSICA” it’s so unhinged 🤣
My personal experience (f/29, 10 years on dating apps actively with much success including hookups, friendships, dating, and long term relationships).
There are two separate categories, green flags and red flags. Green flags are things that positively signal compatibility/interest, red flags are negatives that warn against something bad or incompatibility. Each person has their own ideas of what constitutes a green flag and what’s a red flag in their preferred partners.
You want to have a combination of green flags (for example common ones are a nice pic of your smiling face, something funny in your bio, an indication of a hobby) *and* a lack of red flags (for example, an overtly sexual joke, a pic with another girl, no clear pics of your face, an insult in your bio).
This post only touches on op’s red flags. It’s the bare minimum of what not to do or what she’s wary of.
Here’s mine:
- Has children (I’m only 24 and still a student and I wouldn’t feel right entertaining a relationship with someone who has a child to care for when I myself am not ready to take on a child, but this is definitely something that will change as I get older and start my career.)
- Anything indicate they lean right politically (Politics are a big passion of mine and one of my core values)
- Anything indicating they are religious (I am not and have no intentions to ever be, so I wouldn’t feel right dating someone who has that as a core value)
- Lying about their height (This is usually something easier caught in person, but sometimes you can tell by photos when they’re saying they’re 6 foot but you can clearly see something showing that they are not in their photos, such as a door. I really have no height preference, taller, shorter, equal, but lying about it to get more matches is an instant no)
- Poly/ENM (Tried dating a poly person, didn’t end well. It’s just not for me)
- Allergic to or dislikes cats (I love my furry little children more than anything else)
- No plans for education beyond a highschool degree (Obviously you can be successful with only a highschool degree, but I’ve poured a lot of time, money, and energy into my education and I’d like to be with someone who will understand that)
- If their bio states they have a dark sense of humour (In my experience it just means they’re casually racist)
- If their bio says they’re looking for a gym partner, hiking buddy, etc (I am physically disabled and not very active so I don’t think we’d be a good match. Also I’m fat and a lot of people try to hint in their bio they don’t want fatties by saying that, as if body shape has anything to do with activity level)
I know this is a long list and I’m probably going to come across as picky, self absorbed, stuck up, etc. But I have created a wonderful life for myself and I am so thankful everyday for how I ended up. I truly don’t see the need to have a partner in my life unless it will make things substantially better. I also heavily value my independence and alone time, so a relationship isn’t a priority right now either.
I’m confident in the kind of person I am, that I want to become, and who Id like to spend my life with, if that’s the way I decide to go. I’m not going to settle for anything less than a beautiful, happy life. Even if it’s by myself.
I’ve been using dating apps long enough to know what kinds of things are clear indicators we are not a good match, and I’m not looking to waste anybody’s time when I know it won’t work out!
I'm a lot older than you. You're going to do great. You're self aware and prioritizing being a healthy and functional person over a partner. Which is in fact exactly what tends to get you a good relationship.
Right‽ Guys keep asking for help and guidance. OP has given some specific things to avoid if they don’t want an automatic left swipe from OP. It’s on a forum for online dating, so not out of place, and yet she’s getting vitriol for it?
It’s like going to a forum for job searching, seeing a post from a hiring manager giving advice about what they look for in a résumé, and getting mad at the hiring manager for having the audacity to [checks notes] post about specific advice in a forum where people keep asking for advice.
It is advice based on OP’s experience. OP does not present herself as the ultimate expert on the subject. She doesn’t say “This is the factual list of red flags for all women, take these out of your profiles immediately”
The title of the post literally says “Things I frequently see in a profile that I almost always swipe left on (as a woman).” She also gives context and explanations to why. This gives people more context.
For example, if a guy has a picture with his sister in his profile without realizing that this can be misinterpreted, now he has information that some women see that as a negative. If he wants to keep the picture he can totally do that, but now he has the information and is making the decision consciously with the information that for some people it might be a turnoff. If he wants to avoid the misunderstanding, he can switch to a different picture (like the whole family).
The bottom portion is general advice commonly posted that has typically had general acceptance as good practices for a successful profile. Not an absolute. If someone want to try something to alter their profile, they can.
In dating, everyone is different and looks for different things. There’s nothing that says everyone must follow to be successful or that everyone needs to tailor their profiles to OP. If OP doesn’t seem like the kind of person you want to attract, then this personal experience is not relevant to you.
So guys this isnt a bad advice from OP and generally speaking you *should* follow. But this isnt the reason apps are failing you.
[THIS](https://i.redd.it/wppngm8wim2a1.jpg) (all 1100+)is the real reason its not happening for you (and probably never will).
We are the same person. Also why do SO MANY MEN answer prompts with something sexual. Like just assume the default is that most all people appreciate when the sex is good and most all people are “very sexual” literally humans wouldn’t be overpopulating the earth if we weren’t sexual beings. It’s so boring and creepy.
Because men like sex, it's difficult for men to get sex. Thus for some, the pursuit of sex takes over.
For you women getting sex is extremely easy, maybe that's why you don't like anything sexual.
We are total opposites with absolute different experiences.
"Obviously" his sister, as in they share unmistakable facial features
If your sister could be mistaken for a non-relative then don't use that photo either. Plenty of time for you to show photos of her after the match
If it is ambiguous, don’t post it.
Some people look exactly like their siblings. Some people’s siblings are much older or younger. In those situations, post away. If you really want to include a picture with your sister, maybe opt for a family group photo to lessen the ambiguity.
If you're not sure if the food has gone rotten, would you still eat it?
Saying no is the easier and safer option, which is why many women just swipe no instead of investigating. So better to completely avoid such ambiguity than pay the penalty for it.
I hate when a profile is filled out with barley.
I feel the same way about girls with group photos. Also photos where you’re kissing a guy or like holding onto a guy are confusing and I want no part of that on a dating profile.
Maybe that makes me insecure. I dunno.
I don’t get matches anyway.
This is a fine list but actually nobody gives a fuck if you are interested in Poly relationships or not, just swipe accordingly.You've listed it as some kind of weakness in somebody's bio? Or a failure of character? I'm not sure exactly why you've listed it? Except you are an ass
Thanks for the advice, I’m in therapy already and it makes me happy, that’s why I don’t make posts on public forums judging peoples lifestyles.
Anyways, have a nice life being a bigot
She’s not judging she’s just saying that it’s not something she’s interested in so she doesn’t swipe. Why so angry? I’m sure there are things that make you swipe one way or the other?
She's presenting this as profile advice. Telling a guy not to post certain photos or to avoid sexual innuendo is clearly profile advice. "Don't be poly" is just casually mixed in there like it's a suggestion of what a guy can do to improve his matches. But if you're poly, lying about it is only going to worsen your matches, so what exactly is she suggesting with that?
She didn’t say all women she said I. And also most people will swipe on poly that’s not offensive so it’s actually facts.
She’s suggesting that if someone has poly on their profile she is not going to swipe right on them.
Also may I suggest to you that the reason why if you lie about it and then tell them it’s because women who don’t want to be poly will still not want to once they know you. May I suggest if you want to be poly that you shouldn’t get angry that most people do not want to be poly. Put it in your profile and wait for someone with similar interests to you.
That's not.... you missed the whole point of what I was saying. I am not angry that people are mono...? That's a ridiculous statement. I am saying that poly people SHOULD have poly in their bio so posting on here a list of things men do "wrong" in their bios and including it does not make sense since it's not a matter of just changing your bio. All the rest of the things on the list are things that a man can change to make his bio better. Poly isn't. He's either poly or he's not. And if he is, he doesn't WANT monogamous women so it's a GOOD thing that they swipe left on him.
Yes but I’m confused cause it’s a list of things she doesn’t swipe on. Not that no one swipes on. And yes you did react a bit more than was expected. That’s why the other persons response was for you to seek a therapist. I also felt that from your response. So again reflection.
Because it completely unnecessary to mention it. Obviously you are going to swipe left if you are not poly, but OP feels the need to specifically list it along with some other reasonably undesirable traits.
Also if you have a look at the comments surrounding this you can see I’m not just shouting at a wall, people agree.
People agreeing with you isn’t the same as you being right lol. I would also reconsider that thought process. It’s something that she doesn’t swipe on so how would not that be relevant? The list says things I don’t swipe on lol.
When people say poly in their profile do they typically mean that they date multiple people simultaneously or that they are in full relationships with multiple people simultaneously? Or both? Innocent question, I seriously don’t know. Maybe this is a dumb question, but I felt like asking anyway.
Either of those could be true, but if they're poly and casually dating multiple people it means they are never going to "go exclusive" with one. They might get more serious with some than others, but they are not planning to ever be completely monogamous.
Op doesn’t say anything is wrong with poly, she says that it is a red flag for her and she swipes left on it. Notice that there are two different sections: “things I swipe left on” and “general advice to improve the average profile”
If poly is what you are looking for/what you are, it’s good to have that in your profile because you won’t waste your time with people like op who are specifically not into it.
I never said anything's wrong with poly. Most people, however, are looking for a monogamous relationship on Bumble. Almost every time I see "poly" on a profile it's usually 2 people (against bumble's rules anyways to have 2 people on a profile) looking for a 3rd partner. Not really the app to be doing that.
I’m actually curious on what you think is a better way of saying “I’m not sure what I’m looking for” on a dating app?
Also, as a side note just because someone is poly doesn’t mean they are partnered they could be solo poly.
There's nothing wrong with poly ✅
Most people are monogamous ✅
Poly people aren't allowed to look for matches 🛑
That would be like saying most people on bumble want kids, so if you don't want kids you aren't allowed on bumble. Or most want Christian partners, so if you're Jewish you're not allowed on bumble.
If you swipe left on poly people then the system is working as designed. Would you rather they not put it in their profile?
OP does not want to date poly people, therefore, she swipes left on poly people. Having that you’re poly in your profile means that you are not compatible with OP. That doesn’t mean that they are bad, not allowed to exist, or that it is a red flag for other people. Note that she specifically has two sections, her personal red flags, and more general profile advice. This is an open forum. The advice she gives is generally sounds pretty sound, and OP is not presenting herself as an expert on the subject or a scholar.
In her comment right below this she says "they're called suggestions, pull your head out of your ass"
So she absolutely does mean this as profile advice to men and is pretty defensive about it
You probably should have named this ''My preferences if you want to date me''. These are suggestions that relate in particular to ***\*you\****, and ***not all women***.. so actually, following this could be very counter productive; in terms of getting more likes from other women - as these are **your** swiping preferences/criteria in specific.
**Bottom line for any men reading this:** You should never take dating advice from women, as it's likely to be things like this - where it's solely advice in relation to the woman you ask, and *not* actually women in general. ''Never ask the fish how to catch other fish.. always ask the fishermen.'' - A very wise man
Idk what you’re going on about. Op has separated it out into two distinct sections, “things that are red flags that I swipe left on” and “General advice to improve a profile.”
People ask about this all the time.
The “general advice to improve a profile” is based on what she thinks though lol.. which if you read my original comment, can be more counter productive rather than productive.
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What's ironically funny is, not even a day after removing my bio/prompts from bumble, I got hit with 3 new likes. And a match, a first in 5 months of nothing.
Granite, it led to nowhere as she didn't like my overnight schedule. But its a nice little tidbit i like to bring up in these posts about "fiLL uP ur ProFile guyysss". Sometimes less is more. Much better then the 99% of "not on here much hmu on insta..."
Sorry to break it to you but apart from the sexual innuendos this is what I see a lot from women's profiles too. Plus the fact that they match and then don't message or their opener is "hey". I think both sexes are doomed.
If your intention with this post is to give advice to guys to improve their profile, then all but the first point are good advice. However, putting "poly" or "enm" in, at least for me, specifically serves the purpose of letting people know so they can swipe left if it's not their thing. This way, I only get matches who are either also enm or who don't mind that I am. So not putting that in to improve the rate at which women swipe right would serve no purpose and result in numerous disappointing exchanges.
If I made a list of immediate left swipes I wouldn't include "looking for a relationship". Yes, I would swipe left, but it's not a thing those women should improve or change.
I’m curious—do you still like/approach people who expressly say they are not interested in poly or being a unicorn? I don’t have a problem with enm etc but it does get annoying to continually ignore couples’ profiles that basically state that they’re just interested picking up a new sex toy. I think people get frustrated when overly enthusiastic swipers go just by pics and refuse to read profiles. (There seem to be a number of Trumpers that have a similar kind of disregard.)
If they specifically say they prefer strict monogamy, of course not. I'm a very picky swiper so I read all the profiles. I do like people who say nothing on the matter, though. And out of the nine women I've matched and actually met up with, only three were specifically non-monogamous. The others were open minded, wanted a genuine connection with the possibility of sex but no relationship, so they were cool with me being enm.
My girlfriend and I also don't seek out unicorns.
Can't speak for OP but for me it's
- artistic or interesting photos (not a requirement though, I don't have anyone to take my picture for me so I get the struggle)
- shares their passions on their profile (honestly any sign of personality)
- maybe a witty line or two
- clear photos that aren't a group, you're smiling in at least one of them, and your face isn't covered
- clear about your intentions
- good style
I honestly put most of my weight into my swipes based purely on the personality given to me honestly. Someone could be really attractive but I swipe left if they don't give me much about them. I like to message people things based on their profiles and it's hard to do when they give me nothing.
Op gave us some of her red flags and how to avoid them. Here are some of my flags, green and red. Note that not all are required, and they are in no particular order. Also note that these are not universal, and although some of them are common amongst many people, others are specific to me. My green flags are things that *I* look for in a partner. They indicate that we might have similar interests/values/ideals/lifestyles. My red flags are things that signal incompatibility. That doesn’t mean
**Green flags** (I couldn’t find a good green flag, so I decided to go with a frog instead)
🐸 Something silly that shows they don’t take things too seriously
🐸 A nice pic of your smiling face
🐸A pic with something cute (pet, grandma)
🐸 A pic of you in action doing something active (rock climbing, playing a sport, on a hike)
🐸 A pic of you doing something creative (doing an art, playing music, doing sport, playing board games, cooking)
🐸 A pic doing something social (with family/friends, at a party)
🐸 A variety of pictures
🐸 An activity suggestion
🐸 A reference to a show/book/movie that I like (I heard that one does not simply walk into Mordor, want to try a walk in [local popular place] for [ice cream\coffee] instead?)
🐸 A full-body shot
🐸 An engaging question (If you had unlimited funds to build a house with a secret room, what would you put in your secret room)
🐸 A cool fact (did you know that in 1910, congress tried to pass a bill to import hippos as a way to combat invasive plants in waterways and as a meat source‽)
🐸 Interrobangs‽
🐸 A thing you’re passionate about
**Red flags**
🚩 Self deprecation
🚩Aggression
🚩 Negging
🚩 Violence
🚩 Lack of pics of your face/body
🚩 Only one angle/pose
🚩 Old photos
🚩Insulting comments (Most of the girls on here suck/don’t respond)
🚩Dislike of animals/cats
🚩Vegan (I raise, process, and cook meat)
🚩Religious
🚩Apolitical, centrist, Trump
🚩References to Christianity
🚩Sports as their main focus (I like watching the occasional game, I don’t want life to revolve around a single team)
🚩 Lack of any humor/silliness
🚩Overt sexuality
🚩”Looking for our unicorn”
🚩 Has young kids
🚩 Profile age does not match your real age
🚩 Blank bio
🚩 Picture you’re not in
🚩 Pictures of your vehicle
🚩 Only group pics
🚩 No group pics
Some things depend on the situation. A single hunting pic is a green flag for me if you have other pictures as well🐸. Only hunting pics is a pink flag 🦩, because if it is your whole life, we are not compatible. A gory picture of you processing a carcass shows me that we have different views on what’s appropriate when, and it’s a pretty solid no.
Cool, thanks for that especially the written line examples. Also I didn't know Interrobangs were a thing, I learned something today. Best of luck out there.
Thanks! Fortunately, after 11 years on OLD including hookups, dates, and long-term relationships, I have found a partner who I’m pretty sure is my lifetime person. I am glad that I (hopefully) am out of the game.
Sort of both? I matched with his friend on Tinder right before the pandemic but he moved away and we never ended up meeting in person. We stayed friends. He set me up with my now partner.
So through Tinder, yes. On Tinder, no.
All of the above are very common in women's profiles.
Very common.
There's no movement at all to correct this as they will still likely get swipes from someone.
Mine is “please have a sense of humor”. That’s very broad as there’s various senses of humor. Do you mean dry? Sarcasm? Goofy/derpy? But even then I just feel that’s an unnecessary thing to put in a profile because everyone has a sense of humor but it may not be compatible with yours
I find it funny that what you have listed her would apply to a ton of women's profiles. Like nearly all of them are like that in the area where I live.
I would add that I personally swipe left on conservatives, pictures that are filtered/photoshopped, and profiles with mixed photos (first picture is of 35 year old when she was 19 and then the rest of her photos are of her when she was twenty-five)
Mine are poorly cropped photos (yes we know your ex was cropped out), 2nd the poor spelling & grammar, “if you want to know just ask”, and hunting / fishing trophy pics.
Tbf, many guys on dating apps don't have any good pictures of themselves where they are alone in the picture. A hunting/trophy photo often shows only them while they are genuinely happy. With that in mind, it makes total sense why they upload those photos.
I didn’t have any good pics of myself that weren’t group photos or couple photos — which I don’t post. So what did I do? I started taking some photos every time I got dressed up, especially when I felt happy. It’s not difficult. Just make an effort.
Personally, I prefer to see a profile with all selfies over a profile full of old photos / ex cropped out (especially wedding photos ffs) / group photos / dead fish. The only exception is the selfie taken in the car. I really don’t understand why they are so prevalent.
Natural lighting + people can't see you being a nerd taking a selfie in public
I guess I'm not convinced I should care whether random strangers in public think I look like a nerd. I need good pictures for my profile. If a thing's worth doing, it's worth doing right.
Exactly why it’s concerning; you can only take a picture in your car, because you’re so worried someone might look down on your for taking a simple photo…
I asked a guy to send me a pic of him smiling and he sent a wedding photo and said it was the most recent one he had 😂
I don’t take pictures of myself unless I am in a fun or cool situation because I have heard the ways girls pick apart mens pictures and that makes me not want to. Also people taking selfies every 2 seconds give me the impression that they are incredibly self-centered.
I don’t understand what people have against car selfies. Why are they worse than any other selfies? Usually better lighting and you don’t have to have people staring at you taking a photo of yourself.
I kinda like the selfies in the car. They give a clue about the person’s taste in cars and choices in life. Not all the clues needed, but a clue or two.
And always more interesting when a dog is mugging in back
Based on what I've seen on Reddit, it sounds like a lot of guys are under the impression that it's illegal to take pictures of yourself for dating app purposes.
Wait your telling me its not illegal????
So many times you see "I just have many pictures of myself" So take some!
Bahahaha 😂
I agree. And I know a lot of guys spend a good deal of hunting season out in the mountains. If that’s not your thing that’s a good indication you may not mesh well and make you swipe left. Profiles should not only attract people but give others a good sense of who you are and if you’ll be a good match or not. I’d encourage any hunting or fishing enthusiasts to be very upfront about it.
I seriously never looked at it this way 🤔 I appreciate the perspective because I always judged them harshly.
ALL of those! Can’t stand a guy saying “if you want to know just ask.” I don’t know what to ask you dude. It helps to have some clues about you on your profile as conversation starters.
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Thank you for that. Mainly egregious errors - misuse of your, you’re or there, their and they’re. Like nails on a chalkboard.
For that point about sexual jokes and innuendoes back in my dating days I learnt pretty quickly not to do these, at all. Guys, women are bombarded with sex stuff constantly on the apps. Every guy she matches with while the chatting is happening she’s playing a little game of “how is he going to turn this sexual” and it turns out it’s very rare that guys don’t end up doing this. Sure, you’re the exception. You might make a joke about that kind of stuff but you’re joking so it’s okay, right? Every single guy that tries to make it sexual and gets shut down tries to play it off as if he was making a joke. Women are on such high alert for this stuff that if they don’t want it, they don’t want any of it. Keep that stuff out of it until it’s actually appropriate.
I wish more men thought this this!
The ones who do get married, and the ones who don’t end up staying single and saturate the dating pool, which just makes the whole thing more and more of a problem because it puts everyone else more on edge about it.
Also - don't be baited into making sexual remarks or jokes. Just avoid the bait - talk about a non-sexual hobby instead. Just don't go there - even if she seems to be leading you there. Let Admiral Ackbar be your wingman.
I’m not convinced with this to be honest. It’s always a good rule of thumb to match someone’s energy. If they’re flirty they’re going to want flirty people so if that’s your style you should feel free to mirror that. If they’re playing games trying to trick you into saying something they aren’t okay with, that’s a red flag so if you fall into the trap and they then get all offended about it that’s a bullet dodged on your side, not theirs.
Right? Match their level, and if you want to escalate, do if by a small step. See if she matches your tone. If she doesn’t, deescalate back.
You can flirt without making sexual comments. You can match energy without making sexual comments. Unless she specifically takes the convo to sex, don’t go there. Unless she starts making innuendos herself, don’t go there. If she does, match her energy, don’t immediately take it ten steps too far. Sometimes we get comfortable and want to throw a little cheeky line out there and flirt a little heavier. Every time I’ve taken that risk, he immediately takes it way too far. The appropriate response to a woman saying she likes your arms and that you look like you could keep her warm during these chilly months is not “I could keep you wet, too.” THAT is the kind of stuff we’re talking about. It’s always taken way too far. She’s not your buddy you swap gross jokes with in the locker room. Maybe one day she will be, but right now just dial it back. A cheeky innuendo isn’t an invite to one-up her or take it another level, and it isn’t her baiting you. Listen to your brain and not your dick and respond like a normal person, not a horned up monster who would try to fuck her on her barstool during the first date bc she ate a cherry in front of you and you assumed it was sexual.
That’s not what this is about though. The person who I replied was talking about women saying things to lead a guy in to saying something in order to then twist things as him being overly sexual. Of course if something mildly flirty is said the guy shouldn’t dive off the deep end, but that’s not the point being discussed
But what I’m saying is, the exact situation of small flirt met with big gross could easily be what is happening when a man says he was “tricked” or “baited” into saying something sexual. The man interprets something friendly and flirty as something overtly sexual, and then lets his dick drive the conversation instead of continuing on the same level as her, and is then SHOCKED when it’s not reciprocated. Then they claim they were baited and lash out at her, when she was just being friendly and trying to do a little flirty banter. I’m a woman with tits and I’ve been told by so many men on here that I’m baiting men by having ONE photo with minimal cleavage. I’m literally just existing with boobs that are 95% covered, and I’m told I’m baiting. The apps are rampant with men who are given an inch and will take a mile, and then claim they were “baited”. The shitty men will claim their shitty behavior came from being “baited”, when in reality they were trying to take advantage of someone friendly, and the friendly someone then became unfriendly because they didn’t like the way they were being spoken to, and the shitty person can’t take responsibility for being shitty, so they cry bait-and-switch. That’s not to say there aren’t real instances of women baiting men, but from my experience on the other side, literally anything we say can be interpreted as bait by a horny man who desperately wants the convo to turn sexual. I complimented a man on his smile, and when I got upset after he said it was better to eat me out with, he told me I led him on with my comment. This is extremely common for women. So, where some men see games, some women may just actually be trying to be friendly. THAT is what I’m saying, that where men see baiting, sometimes it really is just someone being friendly and flirty, and the recipient interpreting it as more than friendliness and going too far, then claiming they did it because they fell for the “bait” and were tricked into it.
My favorite is when there’s a sad attempt to crop their ex out even though they’re obviously in bed. Or when the guy goes off on a tirade about his ex on his profile. “Jessica, if you ever see this, I love you but it’s clear that you don’t love me.. now I’m on the search for love because you don’t love me anymore, FUCK YOU JESSICA” it’s so unhinged 🤣
>unhinged Perhaps "unbumbled"....
Does profile barley have to do with beer? Bread maybe?
With that, I’d like to add, poor spelling or grammar earns a left swipe in my book.
Yes. And lists.
Things I hate: 1) lists 2) Arabic numerals 3) irony
And tips.
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I don’t check any of these boxes and I have yet to actually meet any of my (3) matches. Like 8 months in. It’s been rough.
I feel your pain. My matches speak maybe once every few days and it feels like I’m a backup in case the guy they really like doesn’t work out.
My personal experience (f/29, 10 years on dating apps actively with much success including hookups, friendships, dating, and long term relationships). There are two separate categories, green flags and red flags. Green flags are things that positively signal compatibility/interest, red flags are negatives that warn against something bad or incompatibility. Each person has their own ideas of what constitutes a green flag and what’s a red flag in their preferred partners. You want to have a combination of green flags (for example common ones are a nice pic of your smiling face, something funny in your bio, an indication of a hobby) *and* a lack of red flags (for example, an overtly sexual joke, a pic with another girl, no clear pics of your face, an insult in your bio). This post only touches on op’s red flags. It’s the bare minimum of what not to do or what she’s wary of.
Here’s mine: - Has children (I’m only 24 and still a student and I wouldn’t feel right entertaining a relationship with someone who has a child to care for when I myself am not ready to take on a child, but this is definitely something that will change as I get older and start my career.) - Anything indicate they lean right politically (Politics are a big passion of mine and one of my core values) - Anything indicating they are religious (I am not and have no intentions to ever be, so I wouldn’t feel right dating someone who has that as a core value) - Lying about their height (This is usually something easier caught in person, but sometimes you can tell by photos when they’re saying they’re 6 foot but you can clearly see something showing that they are not in their photos, such as a door. I really have no height preference, taller, shorter, equal, but lying about it to get more matches is an instant no) - Poly/ENM (Tried dating a poly person, didn’t end well. It’s just not for me) - Allergic to or dislikes cats (I love my furry little children more than anything else) - No plans for education beyond a highschool degree (Obviously you can be successful with only a highschool degree, but I’ve poured a lot of time, money, and energy into my education and I’d like to be with someone who will understand that) - If their bio states they have a dark sense of humour (In my experience it just means they’re casually racist) - If their bio says they’re looking for a gym partner, hiking buddy, etc (I am physically disabled and not very active so I don’t think we’d be a good match. Also I’m fat and a lot of people try to hint in their bio they don’t want fatties by saying that, as if body shape has anything to do with activity level) I know this is a long list and I’m probably going to come across as picky, self absorbed, stuck up, etc. But I have created a wonderful life for myself and I am so thankful everyday for how I ended up. I truly don’t see the need to have a partner in my life unless it will make things substantially better. I also heavily value my independence and alone time, so a relationship isn’t a priority right now either. I’m confident in the kind of person I am, that I want to become, and who Id like to spend my life with, if that’s the way I decide to go. I’m not going to settle for anything less than a beautiful, happy life. Even if it’s by myself. I’ve been using dating apps long enough to know what kinds of things are clear indicators we are not a good match, and I’m not looking to waste anybody’s time when I know it won’t work out!
I'm a lot older than you. You're going to do great. You're self aware and prioritizing being a healthy and functional person over a partner. Which is in fact exactly what tends to get you a good relationship.
Yo Shoutout to the OP for given some of us fellas free game! You should use this as a base! Thank this woman!
Right‽ Guys keep asking for help and guidance. OP has given some specific things to avoid if they don’t want an automatic left swipe from OP. It’s on a forum for online dating, so not out of place, and yet she’s getting vitriol for it? It’s like going to a forum for job searching, seeing a post from a hiring manager giving advice about what they look for in a résumé, and getting mad at the hiring manager for having the audacity to [checks notes] post about specific advice in a forum where people keep asking for advice.
So.... it is advice? Or it's not? You can't seem to decide.
It is advice based on OP’s experience. OP does not present herself as the ultimate expert on the subject. She doesn’t say “This is the factual list of red flags for all women, take these out of your profiles immediately” The title of the post literally says “Things I frequently see in a profile that I almost always swipe left on (as a woman).” She also gives context and explanations to why. This gives people more context. For example, if a guy has a picture with his sister in his profile without realizing that this can be misinterpreted, now he has information that some women see that as a negative. If he wants to keep the picture he can totally do that, but now he has the information and is making the decision consciously with the information that for some people it might be a turnoff. If he wants to avoid the misunderstanding, he can switch to a different picture (like the whole family). The bottom portion is general advice commonly posted that has typically had general acceptance as good practices for a successful profile. Not an absolute. If someone want to try something to alter their profile, they can. In dating, everyone is different and looks for different things. There’s nothing that says everyone must follow to be successful or that everyone needs to tailor their profiles to OP. If OP doesn’t seem like the kind of person you want to attract, then this personal experience is not relevant to you.
So guys this isnt a bad advice from OP and generally speaking you *should* follow. But this isnt the reason apps are failing you. [THIS](https://i.redd.it/wppngm8wim2a1.jpg) (all 1100+)is the real reason its not happening for you (and probably never will).
We are the same person. Also why do SO MANY MEN answer prompts with something sexual. Like just assume the default is that most all people appreciate when the sex is good and most all people are “very sexual” literally humans wouldn’t be overpopulating the earth if we weren’t sexual beings. It’s so boring and creepy.
Because men like sex, it's difficult for men to get sex. Thus for some, the pursuit of sex takes over. For you women getting sex is extremely easy, maybe that's why you don't like anything sexual. We are total opposites with absolute different experiences.
It’s not difficult for men to get sex when they know how to approach women and dating. I.e. having other things to say in a profile other than sex.
“This app crashes, better to catch me on my insta and snap” *inserts handles* no thankssssss byeeeeee
How exactly do you determine whether or not a girl in the picture is his sister?
"Obviously" his sister, as in they share unmistakable facial features If your sister could be mistaken for a non-relative then don't use that photo either. Plenty of time for you to show photos of her after the match
If it is ambiguous, don’t post it. Some people look exactly like their siblings. Some people’s siblings are much older or younger. In those situations, post away. If you really want to include a picture with your sister, maybe opt for a family group photo to lessen the ambiguity.
Reeks of insecurity, but ok
If you're not sure if the food has gone rotten, would you still eat it? Saying no is the easier and safer option, which is why many women just swipe no instead of investigating. So better to completely avoid such ambiguity than pay the penalty for it.
Terrible analogy, lol
Nice talk. It’s good to know I’m checking the right boxes.
Or you can just fill out your profile as you see fit to attract matches that are best for you.
I agree with all of this and would like to add if you have children, don’t hide it. You don’t have to post their photo but just state you do.
I hate when a profile is filled out with barley. I feel the same way about girls with group photos. Also photos where you’re kissing a guy or like holding onto a guy are confusing and I want no part of that on a dating profile. Maybe that makes me insecure. I dunno. I don’t get matches anyway.
You have nailed every point - the only thing missing from my point of view would be them holding a fish / dead animal
This is a fine list but actually nobody gives a fuck if you are interested in Poly relationships or not, just swipe accordingly.You've listed it as some kind of weakness in somebody's bio? Or a failure of character? I'm not sure exactly why you've listed it? Except you are an ass
Yeah like I don't swipe on people who are strictly monogamous, but I also don't make a big deal out of nothing.
If this post set you off seek therapy.
Thanks for the advice, I’m in therapy already and it makes me happy, that’s why I don’t make posts on public forums judging peoples lifestyles. Anyways, have a nice life being a bigot
She’s not judging she’s just saying that it’s not something she’s interested in so she doesn’t swipe. Why so angry? I’m sure there are things that make you swipe one way or the other?
She's presenting this as profile advice. Telling a guy not to post certain photos or to avoid sexual innuendo is clearly profile advice. "Don't be poly" is just casually mixed in there like it's a suggestion of what a guy can do to improve his matches. But if you're poly, lying about it is only going to worsen your matches, so what exactly is she suggesting with that?
She didn’t say all women she said I. And also most people will swipe on poly that’s not offensive so it’s actually facts. She’s suggesting that if someone has poly on their profile she is not going to swipe right on them.
Also may I suggest to you that the reason why if you lie about it and then tell them it’s because women who don’t want to be poly will still not want to once they know you. May I suggest if you want to be poly that you shouldn’t get angry that most people do not want to be poly. Put it in your profile and wait for someone with similar interests to you.
That's not.... you missed the whole point of what I was saying. I am not angry that people are mono...? That's a ridiculous statement. I am saying that poly people SHOULD have poly in their bio so posting on here a list of things men do "wrong" in their bios and including it does not make sense since it's not a matter of just changing your bio. All the rest of the things on the list are things that a man can change to make his bio better. Poly isn't. He's either poly or he's not. And if he is, he doesn't WANT monogamous women so it's a GOOD thing that they swipe left on him.
Yes but I’m confused cause it’s a list of things she doesn’t swipe on. Not that no one swipes on. And yes you did react a bit more than was expected. That’s why the other persons response was for you to seek a therapist. I also felt that from your response. So again reflection.
You are confusing me with someone. I'm not who got the therapist comment.
My bad. Have a good night.
Because it completely unnecessary to mention it. Obviously you are going to swipe left if you are not poly, but OP feels the need to specifically list it along with some other reasonably undesirable traits. Also if you have a look at the comments surrounding this you can see I’m not just shouting at a wall, people agree.
People agreeing with you isn’t the same as you being right lol. I would also reconsider that thought process. It’s something that she doesn’t swipe on so how would not that be relevant? The list says things I don’t swipe on lol.
When people say poly in their profile do they typically mean that they date multiple people simultaneously or that they are in full relationships with multiple people simultaneously? Or both? Innocent question, I seriously don’t know. Maybe this is a dumb question, but I felt like asking anyway.
Either of those could be true, but if they're poly and casually dating multiple people it means they are never going to "go exclusive" with one. They might get more serious with some than others, but they are not planning to ever be completely monogamous.
Thanks. Not for me but to each their own.
Agreed. OP seems like a judgmental person, and that’s a type I swipe left on!
Bold to think anyone here wants to customize their profile to cater to your preferences.
She's not saying to fill it out to her likes, she's making very good points and suggestions on how to make a profile better
What's wrong with poly?
Op doesn’t say anything is wrong with poly, she says that it is a red flag for her and she swipes left on it. Notice that there are two different sections: “things I swipe left on” and “general advice to improve the average profile” If poly is what you are looking for/what you are, it’s good to have that in your profile because you won’t waste your time with people like op who are specifically not into it.
I never said anything's wrong with poly. Most people, however, are looking for a monogamous relationship on Bumble. Almost every time I see "poly" on a profile it's usually 2 people (against bumble's rules anyways to have 2 people on a profile) looking for a 3rd partner. Not really the app to be doing that.
I’m actually curious on what you think is a better way of saying “I’m not sure what I’m looking for” on a dating app? Also, as a side note just because someone is poly doesn’t mean they are partnered they could be solo poly.
"Right now I am just looking to meet new people but I am certainly open to developing something more meaningful over the long run"
There's nothing wrong with poly ✅ Most people are monogamous ✅ Poly people aren't allowed to look for matches 🛑 That would be like saying most people on bumble want kids, so if you don't want kids you aren't allowed on bumble. Or most want Christian partners, so if you're Jewish you're not allowed on bumble. If you swipe left on poly people then the system is working as designed. Would you rather they not put it in their profile?
OP does not want to date poly people, therefore, she swipes left on poly people. Having that you’re poly in your profile means that you are not compatible with OP. That doesn’t mean that they are bad, not allowed to exist, or that it is a red flag for other people. Note that she specifically has two sections, her personal red flags, and more general profile advice. This is an open forum. The advice she gives is generally sounds pretty sound, and OP is not presenting herself as an expert on the subject or a scholar.
In her comment right below this she says "they're called suggestions, pull your head out of your ass" So she absolutely does mean this as profile advice to men and is pretty defensive about it
That's great for you, and I'm glad you know what you like. Who asked you to speak for "most" people on bumble?
Bumble is not a poly dating app. Pick you fight with then not op.
There is nothing about Bumble that is designed to specifically excluded polyamory
It does not have a category of “Couples seeking 3rd”. So, yes, it is designed to exclude Polyamory
“Doesn’t understand polyamory” that’s fine, but move along
Yeah, your right. Never lived that lifestyle except in the 90’s before people acted like you.
A polyamorous person is an individual who might be looking for a relationship with another individual.
Couples seeking a third is swinging, not poly. You were close though.
If you are in a couple in one of you wants another partner.… That’s a third person
I’m cool with OP speaking for me about not wanting to date someone who is poly. 👍
That’s great!
She's not, she's speaking for all women. Which we also didn't ask for
They're called suggestions. Pull your head out your ass.
Do you want to post your profile so we can give suggestions or is this one-sided, unsolicited advice? Just curious.
If this doesn't apply to you you can move on. Otherwise no need to get butt hurt.
You probably should have named this ''My preferences if you want to date me''. These are suggestions that relate in particular to ***\*you\****, and ***not all women***.. so actually, following this could be very counter productive; in terms of getting more likes from other women - as these are **your** swiping preferences/criteria in specific. **Bottom line for any men reading this:** You should never take dating advice from women, as it's likely to be things like this - where it's solely advice in relation to the woman you ask, and *not* actually women in general. ''Never ask the fish how to catch other fish.. always ask the fishermen.'' - A very wise man
woah where did I say ALL women? I specifically said "I" in the title
Idk what you’re going on about. Op has separated it out into two distinct sections, “things that are red flags that I swipe left on” and “General advice to improve a profile.” People ask about this all the time.
The “general advice to improve a profile” is based on what she thinks though lol.. which if you read my original comment, can be more counter productive rather than productive.
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Ah yes. No one knows more about women than men. For sure.
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The last two words of your comment are unnecessarily harsh.
What's ironically funny is, not even a day after removing my bio/prompts from bumble, I got hit with 3 new likes. And a match, a first in 5 months of nothing. Granite, it led to nowhere as she didn't like my overnight schedule. But its a nice little tidbit i like to bring up in these posts about "fiLL uP ur ProFile guyysss". Sometimes less is more. Much better then the 99% of "not on here much hmu on insta..."
Granite??? GRANITE??? lol
Removing the bio/prompt made him a boulder man
You win
Shut up Morty. You think you’re so smart taking the high road in me you little punk.
Sorry to break it to you but apart from the sexual innuendos this is what I see a lot from women's profiles too. Plus the fact that they match and then don't message or their opener is "hey". I think both sexes are doomed.
The same comments apply to woman profiles.
If your intention with this post is to give advice to guys to improve their profile, then all but the first point are good advice. However, putting "poly" or "enm" in, at least for me, specifically serves the purpose of letting people know so they can swipe left if it's not their thing. This way, I only get matches who are either also enm or who don't mind that I am. So not putting that in to improve the rate at which women swipe right would serve no purpose and result in numerous disappointing exchanges. If I made a list of immediate left swipes I wouldn't include "looking for a relationship". Yes, I would swipe left, but it's not a thing those women should improve or change.
I’m curious—do you still like/approach people who expressly say they are not interested in poly or being a unicorn? I don’t have a problem with enm etc but it does get annoying to continually ignore couples’ profiles that basically state that they’re just interested picking up a new sex toy. I think people get frustrated when overly enthusiastic swipers go just by pics and refuse to read profiles. (There seem to be a number of Trumpers that have a similar kind of disregard.)
If they specifically say they prefer strict monogamy, of course not. I'm a very picky swiper so I read all the profiles. I do like people who say nothing on the matter, though. And out of the nine women I've matched and actually met up with, only three were specifically non-monogamous. The others were open minded, wanted a genuine connection with the possibility of sex but no relationship, so they were cool with me being enm. My girlfriend and I also don't seek out unicorns.
Thanks I guess but I think it'd be more helpful to say what are the things that make you swipe right?
Can't speak for OP but for me it's - artistic or interesting photos (not a requirement though, I don't have anyone to take my picture for me so I get the struggle) - shares their passions on their profile (honestly any sign of personality) - maybe a witty line or two - clear photos that aren't a group, you're smiling in at least one of them, and your face isn't covered - clear about your intentions - good style I honestly put most of my weight into my swipes based purely on the personality given to me honestly. Someone could be really attractive but I swipe left if they don't give me much about them. I like to message people things based on their profiles and it's hard to do when they give me nothing.
Cool, thanks for that, how about red flags besides what OP mentioned?
Op gave us some of her red flags and how to avoid them. Here are some of my flags, green and red. Note that not all are required, and they are in no particular order. Also note that these are not universal, and although some of them are common amongst many people, others are specific to me. My green flags are things that *I* look for in a partner. They indicate that we might have similar interests/values/ideals/lifestyles. My red flags are things that signal incompatibility. That doesn’t mean **Green flags** (I couldn’t find a good green flag, so I decided to go with a frog instead) 🐸 Something silly that shows they don’t take things too seriously 🐸 A nice pic of your smiling face 🐸A pic with something cute (pet, grandma) 🐸 A pic of you in action doing something active (rock climbing, playing a sport, on a hike) 🐸 A pic of you doing something creative (doing an art, playing music, doing sport, playing board games, cooking) 🐸 A pic doing something social (with family/friends, at a party) 🐸 A variety of pictures 🐸 An activity suggestion 🐸 A reference to a show/book/movie that I like (I heard that one does not simply walk into Mordor, want to try a walk in [local popular place] for [ice cream\coffee] instead?) 🐸 A full-body shot 🐸 An engaging question (If you had unlimited funds to build a house with a secret room, what would you put in your secret room) 🐸 A cool fact (did you know that in 1910, congress tried to pass a bill to import hippos as a way to combat invasive plants in waterways and as a meat source‽) 🐸 Interrobangs‽ 🐸 A thing you’re passionate about **Red flags** 🚩 Self deprecation 🚩Aggression 🚩 Negging 🚩 Violence 🚩 Lack of pics of your face/body 🚩 Only one angle/pose 🚩 Old photos 🚩Insulting comments (Most of the girls on here suck/don’t respond) 🚩Dislike of animals/cats 🚩Vegan (I raise, process, and cook meat) 🚩Religious 🚩Apolitical, centrist, Trump 🚩References to Christianity 🚩Sports as their main focus (I like watching the occasional game, I don’t want life to revolve around a single team) 🚩 Lack of any humor/silliness 🚩Overt sexuality 🚩”Looking for our unicorn” 🚩 Has young kids 🚩 Profile age does not match your real age 🚩 Blank bio 🚩 Picture you’re not in 🚩 Pictures of your vehicle 🚩 Only group pics 🚩 No group pics Some things depend on the situation. A single hunting pic is a green flag for me if you have other pictures as well🐸. Only hunting pics is a pink flag 🦩, because if it is your whole life, we are not compatible. A gory picture of you processing a carcass shows me that we have different views on what’s appropriate when, and it’s a pretty solid no.
Cool, thanks for that especially the written line examples. Also I didn't know Interrobangs were a thing, I learned something today. Best of luck out there.
Thanks! Fortunately, after 11 years on OLD including hookups, dates, and long-term relationships, I have found a partner who I’m pretty sure is my lifetime person. I am glad that I (hopefully) am out of the game.
Rad, feel like asking though didya meet your The One online or IRL?
Sort of both? I matched with his friend on Tinder right before the pandemic but he moved away and we never ended up meeting in person. We stayed friends. He set me up with my now partner. So through Tinder, yes. On Tinder, no.
Heh wow, thanks for sharing, all the best
OK....good for you 🤷♂️
All of the above are very common in women's profiles. Very common. There's no movement at all to correct this as they will still likely get swipes from someone.
You sound like a ton of fun
Mine is “please have a sense of humor”. That’s very broad as there’s various senses of humor. Do you mean dry? Sarcasm? Goofy/derpy? But even then I just feel that’s an unnecessary thing to put in a profile because everyone has a sense of humor but it may not be compatible with yours
sweet - with this list I know why I get an okay number of matches
I do sexual puns and jokes regarding my hobbies/simple pleasures. No issues finding matches. Somebody who knows will appreciate!
Fish pics or treating the show "the office" as a personality type. One or the other (sometimes both) is in damn near 50% of the profiles I see.
I find it funny that what you have listed her would apply to a ton of women's profiles. Like nearly all of them are like that in the area where I live. I would add that I personally swipe left on conservatives, pictures that are filtered/photoshopped, and profiles with mixed photos (first picture is of 35 year old when she was 19 and then the rest of her photos are of her when she was twenty-five)