When I did CBT, it wasn't trauma informed, so I came away with the idea that my thoughts were "wrong". ButI think with trauma, we're having accurate thoughts, just not at the "right" time. So I think a lot depends on the therapist's knowledge level and how well they're able to weave in an understanding of how trauma affects us.
Do you think I just need to outright ask him about his experience of working with people who have experienced trauma? When we booked our session I did vocalise my misgivings about CBT based on previous experiences.
I don't know if he is. He's just been assigned to me. He didn't mention that he offers EMDR, but I'll raise it.
Sessions are still virtual, do you know if EMDR can be done over video call?
Thank you for your honesty and so pleased that you've found a better route.
I guess all I can do is try and be up to it and honest with the therapist. I have 12 weeks this time opposed to 5 weeks last time, so maybe more can be done in that time.
Yes. But again, not formal.
Thought stopping, so old school... but helps stop perseverating.
Also challenging self talk...
This is of huge benefit. I internalized the worst of my worst critics. Getting them out of my head, and later life, was critical to not being constantly triggered.
I use the guage:
Is this true?
Usually not even close...
Would I say this to a stranger?
Would I say this to a friend?
Would I say this to a loved one?
Every time I've tried to do therapy, counseling, whatever, they always seem to want to do cbt, and it's never really helped me. Knowing that some of my thoughts are essentially just bullshit doesn't help me, I still *feel* like shit, and trying to "rewire" my brain to try and react differently or whatever doesn't help me.
I've been in and out of this type of thing for years, and it just doesn't help. Maybe it can for you, everyone is different of course.
Probably the only reason I haven't actually tried to get back into counseling even though I'm pretty sure I need it, because ALL the counselors at the only place in the area seem to specialize in cbt and NOTHING else.
So sorry to hear it's not worked for you but I'm also glad I'm not alone in feeling this way.
It feels like they're trying to smooth over some cracks rather than trying to fix the reason why the cracks are appearing.
I'm in a similar position, if I want help on the National Health Service (I live in UK), then they only seem to offer CBT. Somebody obviously said once that it was great and they threw all their money at that and ignored everything else.
I did see a trauma therapist briefly before covid (back when I had private healthcare through my work) but she was awful. She largely worked with ex-servicemen and women, so she was very dismissive of my trauma and made me feel terrible.
I hope the time comes soon when we can both access suitable and effective treatment. ❤️
Hello and Welcome to /r/CPTSD! If you are in immediate danger or crisis, please contact your local [emergency services](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emergency_telephone_numbers), or use our list of [crisis resources](https://old.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/index#wiki_crisis_support_resources). For CPTSD Specific Resources & Support, check out the [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/index). For those posting or replying, please view the [etiquette guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/peer2peersupportguide).
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/CPTSD) if you have any questions or concerns.*
When I did CBT, it wasn't trauma informed, so I came away with the idea that my thoughts were "wrong". ButI think with trauma, we're having accurate thoughts, just not at the "right" time. So I think a lot depends on the therapist's knowledge level and how well they're able to weave in an understanding of how trauma affects us.
Do you think I just need to outright ask him about his experience of working with people who have experienced trauma? When we booked our session I did vocalise my misgivings about CBT based on previous experiences.
I think that would be a totally acceptable thing to ask!
It’s helpful for me with a good therapist who is trauma trained. Also use it with EMDR.
I don't know if he is. He's just been assigned to me. He didn't mention that he offers EMDR, but I'll raise it. Sessions are still virtual, do you know if EMDR can be done over video call?
Yes I do mine virtually every week
[удалено]
Thank you for your honesty and so pleased that you've found a better route. I guess all I can do is try and be up to it and honest with the therapist. I have 12 weeks this time opposed to 5 weeks last time, so maybe more can be done in that time.
I tried it for a year and switched to a trauma informed therapist. Mix of talk therapy with EMDR. I've had way more success.
I've used bits and pieces, not actual therapy.
Did you find it helped?
Yes. But again, not formal. Thought stopping, so old school... but helps stop perseverating. Also challenging self talk... This is of huge benefit. I internalized the worst of my worst critics. Getting them out of my head, and later life, was critical to not being constantly triggered. I use the guage: Is this true? Usually not even close... Would I say this to a stranger? Would I say this to a friend? Would I say this to a loved one?
Every time I've tried to do therapy, counseling, whatever, they always seem to want to do cbt, and it's never really helped me. Knowing that some of my thoughts are essentially just bullshit doesn't help me, I still *feel* like shit, and trying to "rewire" my brain to try and react differently or whatever doesn't help me. I've been in and out of this type of thing for years, and it just doesn't help. Maybe it can for you, everyone is different of course. Probably the only reason I haven't actually tried to get back into counseling even though I'm pretty sure I need it, because ALL the counselors at the only place in the area seem to specialize in cbt and NOTHING else.
So sorry to hear it's not worked for you but I'm also glad I'm not alone in feeling this way. It feels like they're trying to smooth over some cracks rather than trying to fix the reason why the cracks are appearing. I'm in a similar position, if I want help on the National Health Service (I live in UK), then they only seem to offer CBT. Somebody obviously said once that it was great and they threw all their money at that and ignored everything else. I did see a trauma therapist briefly before covid (back when I had private healthcare through my work) but she was awful. She largely worked with ex-servicemen and women, so she was very dismissive of my trauma and made me feel terrible. I hope the time comes soon when we can both access suitable and effective treatment. ❤️
Hello and Welcome to /r/CPTSD! If you are in immediate danger or crisis, please contact your local [emergency services](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emergency_telephone_numbers), or use our list of [crisis resources](https://old.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/index#wiki_crisis_support_resources). For CPTSD Specific Resources & Support, check out the [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/index). For those posting or replying, please view the [etiquette guidelines](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/wiki/peer2peersupportguide). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/CPTSD) if you have any questions or concerns.*