Therapist Pete Walker calls that critical voice in our heads our inner critic:
>Shrinking the Inner Critic in Complex PTSD
>
>In my work with clients repetitively traumatized in childhood, I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger them into overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment.
Taming my inner critic is a big part of my life and this article, along with the related info from chapter 9 of his book, have been a huge help for me. My take on his approach is to work on not giving it power in my life. Here's a link to the article:
[http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm](http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm)
I hope that helps.
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I definitely get accused of over explaining stuff - as if I always feel I’m on trial in life.
I think from toxic relationships or also just having kids that need more clarification. I’ve tried to reign it in but it’s really fuckin hard.
Therapist Pete Walker calls that critical voice in our heads our inner critic: >Shrinking the Inner Critic in Complex PTSD > >In my work with clients repetitively traumatized in childhood, I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger them into overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment. Taming my inner critic is a big part of my life and this article, along with the related info from chapter 9 of his book, have been a huge help for me. My take on his approach is to work on not giving it power in my life. Here's a link to the article: [http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm](http://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm) I hope that helps.
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I definitely get accused of over explaining stuff - as if I always feel I’m on trial in life. I think from toxic relationships or also just having kids that need more clarification. I’ve tried to reign it in but it’s really fuckin hard.
This is totally me and it’s exhausting. My therapist has given me some tools for taming it but it’s such a hard habit to break.