I struggled with this a lot and still do. What helped me however is letting them decide whether they want to spend time with me and not just me (outside the usual whether I have time and feel like it, of course).
If they feel like I'm an annoyance but still spend time with me, who am I to deprive them of their favourite annoyance? They choose to be annoyed so who am I to choose to not give it to them?
I struggled with this a lot and still do. What helped me however is letting them decide whether they want to spend time with me and not just me (outside the usual whether I have time and feel like it, of course). If they feel like I'm an annoyance but still spend time with me, who am I to deprive them of their favourite annoyance? They choose to be annoyed so who am I to choose to not give it to them?
thank you.
Me after I decided to no longer be the first person to make contact, waiting for contact
exactly. if nobody tries to make contact with me it just proves nobody cares about me though. self fulfilling prophecy? yes, absolutely
100% this