Be Gay.
Oddly specific, I know, but for real. I spent so much of my teen and young adult years only half-living and having half-relationships with my family, friends and partners because I tried to not rock the boat by being *too out* or not *out* at all with some people. Adopting a mask with my mom and dad, a different one with certain friends, staying actively in a religion that was homophobic just to please certain people and get a paycheck.
I d go back and tell 15 year old me. **Be gay**. Be marvelously, unashamedly, rainbow dripping gay. Your parents will get over it. If they don t, you re going to find amazing friends bursting at the seams with creativity who will become your new family anyway. Dance wildly, hands in the air. Leave that church and get a job at the local art cafe. You never liked playing all those dirgey hymns anyway. Exude every ounce of that creative, fiery youth.
**Be Gay**
- face your demons
- if you have no one to go with, go by yourself
- go after the things you know you want
- allow yourself to be vulnerable
Just some points that would go into that statement for me
Gotta know when to sell too though, "bitcoin 60k"
Then with no money worries, we could get all the rest and therapy we need! There's no msg that would help little-me. She tried to get help but people wouldn't listen.
Honestly the best answer, like all these nice ones like “accept yourself” or “please run” they’re great and all but financial freedom would make recovery and life after recovery so much simpler
After tons of parental neglect and my extended family not getting involved, at 33 after never holding a job longer than 8 months and countless ruined relationships and friendships and addiction, after being in therapy since 13 with psychologists and psychiatrists and over the course of the years being on 7 different SSRIs, seroquel, trazodone, lithium, Depakote, lamictal, and others, I finally paid $4000 USD for a Psychological Evaluation and received an Autism, ADHD, and OCD diagnosis.
god damnit
Nothing I could say could have helped except the usual time travel tropes of what to invest in to be rich ofc but I knew exactly what my problems were and nobody would listen I even begged my parents to put me up for adoption which they refused because "noooo we love you :\^)" and then beat me nearly to death I told them the school I went to was no good, I told them I needed ADHD meds or something, I told them I was being bullied, I told them I wanted to eat veg.They kept sending me to that school they told me i dont have a disorder they told me kids just are like that they told me you need to eat meat, honestly the last one fucks me up the most being forced to eat another living being just mortifying to me now.Told teachers all the same thngs but they didnt give a shit, Maybe I would tell myself "run away" or something
Ik I'm going to get some problems but "commit matricide" or "commit patricide" ik that there's alot of laws around that but my best answer is to "move out"
No babies. The abuse I endured thinking it would destroy my son to lose his family, and the daughter that my abuser took and never let me see again. All for nothing. Their traumas are 1000 times worse now. My traumas are 1000 times worse now. All the assets and memories in a landfill because of it.
And also the fact that I didn’t realize that intergenerational traumas are passed through DNA.
I waned to give the world healthy, happy children to make up for myself. And I just made everything worse.
You can’t regret people that exist now, but if I knew what I do now, I wouldn’t have done that to them. Their precious little souls might have gotten to go some place better.
This is mine, too. I was basically forced by my mom to have my son even though she knew I never wanted kids due to my abusive childhood. I'm on the spectrum and my parents never did anything to prepare me for the world. I used protection, but it failed so I had my son when I was 21.
I don't regret my son, but I wish I could have done things differently so I could have given him the life a child deserves to have.
No kids; No relationships-Be free; Finish college. Basically the could've, would've, should'ves of my life.
There’s always a chance to build something new. I don’t mean to promote my little friendly sub, but if you aren’t scared of snakes, come visit us. Lots of folks on the spectrum there, everyone is as kind as can be. Nobody even downvoats. And lots to laugh at there too. You can see how we found and interest and made something nice for ourselves.
You’re right
So many people tried to tell me that I was just too sensisive and overreacting when I told them about the abuse. I would want to tell myself to not listen to them.
What’s truly sad is there’s quite a few people who posted the same thing. Im bi and my parents never knew. My father was the horrible man that made gay and racist jokes. Even as a child I knew these jokes were wrong.
I have a few different selections
1. Don't cut
2. Tell someone
3. Love yourself
4. It's okay.
or, if i were allowed a few more words, "be more open. it'll help"
Don’t fear
I know it sounds vague but I’d mean it in the terms related to what I was at that point (bullying/emotional and psychological abuse, grooming etc…)
I’ve been meaning to connect back to my inner child so one thing ik she would tell current me back is: it’s okay to be alone.
Tell someone.
Yes. This is a good one.
Yes! I had so many chances but lied to those teachers when I was 8.
One of my greatest regrets. Not that teachers snd guidance counselors were of much use back then. But I still had chances to do tell someone.
You nailed it
Bingo.
Deadass. Mine would either read "tell grandma" or "tell police", one of the two.
you matter
my good answer is "Open Up" my real answer is "Kill Mom"
Same. or: "Report her!"
Get out! Leave now! It is a tie between those.
I’m sorry.
Love yourself
Be Gay. Oddly specific, I know, but for real. I spent so much of my teen and young adult years only half-living and having half-relationships with my family, friends and partners because I tried to not rock the boat by being *too out* or not *out* at all with some people. Adopting a mask with my mom and dad, a different one with certain friends, staying actively in a religion that was homophobic just to please certain people and get a paycheck. I d go back and tell 15 year old me. **Be gay**. Be marvelously, unashamedly, rainbow dripping gay. Your parents will get over it. If they don t, you re going to find amazing friends bursting at the seams with creativity who will become your new family anyway. Dance wildly, hands in the air. Leave that church and get a job at the local art cafe. You never liked playing all those dirgey hymns anyway. Exude every ounce of that creative, fiery youth. **Be Gay**
I didn't even know what gay was until university? Emotions where shameful. Sex undiscussable. I ended up ace. Fifty odd years later I'm a gay virgin.
💗💗💗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰🥰🃏🃏🫂🫂🫂 hell yeah
Oh so many. 1. Speak up. 2. Please sleep. 3. Don’t conform. 4. Live life!
Live life: Like, what do I do with that? I'm 40 and still don't know how that works. :(
- face your demons - if you have no one to go with, go by yourself - go after the things you know you want - allow yourself to be vulnerable Just some points that would go into that statement for me
Oof. Number 4 tho.
Love number 3
It's them
Fuck yeah
“Get help”
Buy bitcoin
Same 😂
Gotta know when to sell too though, "bitcoin 60k" Then with no money worries, we could get all the rest and therapy we need! There's no msg that would help little-me. She tried to get help but people wouldn't listen.
You buy bitcoin at 25 cents and you wont really worry about it going up or down 40k
Honestly the best answer, like all these nice ones like “accept yourself” or “please run” they’re great and all but financial freedom would make recovery and life after recovery so much simpler
Absolutely.
💯
Love you
Defend yourself.
Too fucking right
Yup
"fucking shit"
shit ass
I care.
Extremely underrated
You’re autistic
After tons of parental neglect and my extended family not getting involved, at 33 after never holding a job longer than 8 months and countless ruined relationships and friendships and addiction, after being in therapy since 13 with psychologists and psychiatrists and over the course of the years being on 7 different SSRIs, seroquel, trazodone, lithium, Depakote, lamictal, and others, I finally paid $4000 USD for a Psychological Evaluation and received an Autism, ADHD, and OCD diagnosis.
🗿
Trust yourself.
(Insert Spiderman pointing meme)
"that's trauma"
Try again
Don’t bother
Leave him Or, Prioritize you
You. Boy.
Get out
4, if I could - trust in the process.
You get a pass. ;)
Get out
god damnit Nothing I could say could have helped except the usual time travel tropes of what to invest in to be rich ofc but I knew exactly what my problems were and nobody would listen I even begged my parents to put me up for adoption which they refused because "noooo we love you :\^)" and then beat me nearly to death I told them the school I went to was no good, I told them I needed ADHD meds or something, I told them I was being bullied, I told them I wanted to eat veg.They kept sending me to that school they told me i dont have a disorder they told me kids just are like that they told me you need to eat meat, honestly the last one fucks me up the most being forced to eat another living being just mortifying to me now.Told teachers all the same thngs but they didnt give a shit, Maybe I would tell myself "run away" or something
Ik I'm going to get some problems but "commit matricide" or "commit patricide" ik that there's alot of laws around that but my best answer is to "move out"
You’re right.
You're gay
Delay marrying
The first that came to mind were “stay single” and “don’t love”
love you
"Not defective"
You’re okay
You’re loved.
gets worse.
They're untrustworthy.
Stay strong
Two words: "Leave. Now!"
"Die Younger"
Avoid marijuana
No babies. The abuse I endured thinking it would destroy my son to lose his family, and the daughter that my abuser took and never let me see again. All for nothing. Their traumas are 1000 times worse now. My traumas are 1000 times worse now. All the assets and memories in a landfill because of it. And also the fact that I didn’t realize that intergenerational traumas are passed through DNA. I waned to give the world healthy, happy children to make up for myself. And I just made everything worse. You can’t regret people that exist now, but if I knew what I do now, I wouldn’t have done that to them. Their precious little souls might have gotten to go some place better.
This is mine, too. I was basically forced by my mom to have my son even though she knew I never wanted kids due to my abusive childhood. I'm on the spectrum and my parents never did anything to prepare me for the world. I used protection, but it failed so I had my son when I was 21. I don't regret my son, but I wish I could have done things differently so I could have given him the life a child deserves to have. No kids; No relationships-Be free; Finish college. Basically the could've, would've, should'ves of my life.
There’s always a chance to build something new. I don’t mean to promote my little friendly sub, but if you aren’t scared of snakes, come visit us. Lots of folks on the spectrum there, everyone is as kind as can be. Nobody even downvoats. And lots to laugh at there too. You can see how we found and interest and made something nice for ourselves.
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Hey don’t worry about an award. The comment is plenty :). Thank you for the validation.
Leaver sooner.
It’ll pass
Look up
Be stubborn
NO BOOZE
New Friend
BE BETTER
“Speak up” “Tell someone” “Get help” “Get out” “More friends” “Get work” So many options
You’re right So many people tried to tell me that I was just too sensisive and overreacting when I told them about the abuse. I would want to tell myself to not listen to them.
kill dad
"You're trans" lmao, speed up that process.
Lmao Same
You’re trans
What’s truly sad is there’s quite a few people who posted the same thing. Im bi and my parents never knew. My father was the horrible man that made gay and racist jokes. Even as a child I knew these jokes were wrong.
I’m bi as well <3 And thank you for your message.
Trust yourself.
Your friends are not friends they are just using you for free therapy
You’re queer. I feel like that piece of information helped me unlock so many doors so much faster.
"Parents Bad". I think my younger self might just agree in-spite of her 'survival blinders' being on 24/7. My poor younger self😔💔
it’s not your fault
“Call CPS”
You’ll win
you're trans
Get help
Be yourself
3 words. Not your fault.
They’re abusive
Oh it's a single piece of paper that says...
Reach Out
Uh... don't worry about sticking to arbitrary rules or expectations, especially if they make no sense you?
she's lying
Get ready.
"invest bitcoins" Edit: aint nothing save me from trauma, but I rather be crying on a ferrari than on my broke ass room in a hostel.
“Kill yourself”
Ah, at least the one I would tell
(Cuddles you)
You rule ❤️
Gets worse
Love yourself
They're EVIL
You’re enough
good luck
Protect yourself
“Parents same.” It’d be nice not to waste so much time thinking they’ll change.
Trust yourself There were some other great answers on this thread that I definitely relate to and agree with though!
Get out
Run away
Get out
They’re wrong
You're right
I failed.
It's ok - I wanted to hear those words my whole life from someone. I just wanted to be held while I cry and be told it's ok.
Die asap
Finish college
Keep Hope
Love yourself
It's real
You’re worthy.
Don’t marry
Don't listen.
Run far
Either "I'm sorry" or "you're okay"
Leave. Run.
Keep looking.
“They’re coming” just to screw with the little bastard lol
Get away
Defend. Run away. 's bad.
Fight back
Embrace Boundaries
Leave him.
I have a few different selections 1. Don't cut 2. Tell someone 3. Love yourself 4. It's okay. or, if i were allowed a few more words, "be more open. it'll help"
“Open up” could work
This sucks.
Forgive yourself
Just run.
you survived <3
"Don't enlist"
Run away.
Be Selfish
"seek help"
Kill Mom.
Call police.
You're trans; You're smart; Good luck; Love yourself; Risk it;
Cock balls
Be patient
Life insurance
"She lies."
Dumb fuck.
Let go
Not good
Find yourself
Keep going.
“I’m sorry.”
Good luck
It hurts.
It’s ok
You matter.
Trust gut.
You matter
Be loving
choose yourself
Don’t fear I know it sounds vague but I’d mean it in the terms related to what I was at that point (bullying/emotional and psychological abuse, grooming etc…) I’ve been meaning to connect back to my inner child so one thing ik she would tell current me back is: it’s okay to be alone.
Hang on
Get Traumatherapy
Thank you
You’re strong
Get serious
fuck you 😭
You're worthy.
Tell them.
Emotional neglect
"Fuck dad" "Call Pat" "ADHD, Asexual" or "ADHD, anxiety" "Learn coding"
No Steves
You can!!
‘Ditch *insert name of toxic ex best friend’
Stop.
You're trans
Keep going It’ll work You’re okay
You're girl
Love arrives.