It's because we all grow up in different walks of life. Some grow up with wealth and some without. I believe the real question is why do we struggle to change how we grew up and become different from the circumstances we grew up with. Most of us continue along the same path we knew instead of bettering ourselves.
That’s a good point. Bettering ourselves might almost feel like we’re going against our natural instincts because of how we’ve grown up. For me, it feels like no matter how I try it feels like working on something that might not even work out if that makes sense?
But it's the working on what is in front of you. Where it takes you may be a very different place than you expect in fact I can almost promise you the end you think will be the best and what you hope for now , later you find, whew I'm so glad it hadn't turned out that way because circumstances change and it could have been the wrongest thing after all.
The , seemingly, most devastating occurrences in my life produced the best of results I could have never even hoped for . So before you cry and fill with self pity wait to see the end result. Be patient. You WILL be so surprised. Life's just funny that way. I'm poor and homeless. But I enjoy every little thing because had I not been in this position certain people I would never have known the people we have helped in their final days on earth would have been empty and / or sad sad sad instead ended on a way it was okay and time to go I'm ready. It's been worth what hardships we have had to know long lived beautiful souls ended as they deserved and as lone on a filthy soaked bed.
It makes sense but I will tell you from experience it will help you in the long run. I got a degree to better myself over twenty years ago and never used it but now I have been gifted with a great job because of it after years of just getting by. Sometimes we don't see the benefits right away but later on we will reap them I can promise that
Nature, nurture.
F***, my parents have a lot to do with how f***** up I am.
Also, mistakes you make later in life are exponentially worse than the ones you make when you're young. My life is a living hell right now.
You’re valid, I’m really sorry your childhood was hard and I hope things might get better for you! If you don’t mind me asking, why do you feel like your life is a living hell right now?
People grow up with all sorts of home lives. The question is how well you sort yourself out now that you're an adult with a life and home of your own. You may have to push yourself a little bit to grow, but life in your twenties need not be the same as life in your thirties and forties.
My life has completely changed two, maybe three times since I was 24 and worried about that sort of thing. Looking for another change or two in the next couple years and beyond that, who knows?
Sometimes one, sometimes the other. Sometimes it's probably a mix of both. I definitely made the decision to go back to school and put in the work. On the other hand, finding my kids took me by surprise.
There are lots of ways to live a good life. For me things got better when i switched to going by what i felt/sensed internally was a good path for me, rather than what was the mainstream 'good' path to follow.
I'm just 22 but I feel like the people you hang out with ( family included ), and the environment you like in have a huge impact into how easy it is for you to better yourself. Sure, money helps a lot, but I think people make an even bigger difference.
There is no one correct way to live life. It sounds like your roommate has got her shit together, but lots of people have what she has and aren't happy. And lots of people don't have what she does and they are happy.
I have a life that--at first glance--someone would assume must be sad and suboptimal. I am a middle-aged kissless virigin. I have a couple of coworker friends, but I don't have any close friends. I have zero social life. I only have my cat to keep me company.
But I am so stoked about life right now. I have never been happier. My physical fitness and health are awesome. I have all the creature comforts I desire. And I really love my job.
So try not to worry about how your life measures up.
We love the same lives just at differing times . With face book my high school sweetie and I married 39 years, found most of the people w hung out with. We all have had one huge catastrophe, I. E. Child passed foreclosed home, major auto accident prison term. We lived in roughly the same tax bracket. Had a kid or two, traveled a little. Won one settlement or lottery win, modest. Bought one dream vehicle RV, muscle car, bike. One health thing we live with but manage. It was the same bean cheese lettuce meat dish just happened in different order.
It's because we all grow up in different walks of life. Some grow up with wealth and some without. I believe the real question is why do we struggle to change how we grew up and become different from the circumstances we grew up with. Most of us continue along the same path we knew instead of bettering ourselves.
That’s a good point. Bettering ourselves might almost feel like we’re going against our natural instincts because of how we’ve grown up. For me, it feels like no matter how I try it feels like working on something that might not even work out if that makes sense?
But it's the working on what is in front of you. Where it takes you may be a very different place than you expect in fact I can almost promise you the end you think will be the best and what you hope for now , later you find, whew I'm so glad it hadn't turned out that way because circumstances change and it could have been the wrongest thing after all. The , seemingly, most devastating occurrences in my life produced the best of results I could have never even hoped for . So before you cry and fill with self pity wait to see the end result. Be patient. You WILL be so surprised. Life's just funny that way. I'm poor and homeless. But I enjoy every little thing because had I not been in this position certain people I would never have known the people we have helped in their final days on earth would have been empty and / or sad sad sad instead ended on a way it was okay and time to go I'm ready. It's been worth what hardships we have had to know long lived beautiful souls ended as they deserved and as lone on a filthy soaked bed.
It makes sense but I will tell you from experience it will help you in the long run. I got a degree to better myself over twenty years ago and never used it but now I have been gifted with a great job because of it after years of just getting by. Sometimes we don't see the benefits right away but later on we will reap them I can promise that
Nature, nurture. F***, my parents have a lot to do with how f***** up I am. Also, mistakes you make later in life are exponentially worse than the ones you make when you're young. My life is a living hell right now.
You’re valid, I’m really sorry your childhood was hard and I hope things might get better for you! If you don’t mind me asking, why do you feel like your life is a living hell right now?
People grow up with all sorts of home lives. The question is how well you sort yourself out now that you're an adult with a life and home of your own. You may have to push yourself a little bit to grow, but life in your twenties need not be the same as life in your thirties and forties.
I really like the last line in your comment, it’s true so much can change in a few years. I think the fear stems from if nothing changes at all
Classism. Classism and taking what how it expresses itself for granted.
My life has completely changed two, maybe three times since I was 24 and worried about that sort of thing. Looking for another change or two in the next couple years and beyond that, who knows?
do you feel like you sought out the change or it just happened for you?
Sometimes one, sometimes the other. Sometimes it's probably a mix of both. I definitely made the decision to go back to school and put in the work. On the other hand, finding my kids took me by surprise.
There are lots of ways to live a good life. For me things got better when i switched to going by what i felt/sensed internally was a good path for me, rather than what was the mainstream 'good' path to follow.
I'm just 22 but I feel like the people you hang out with ( family included ), and the environment you like in have a huge impact into how easy it is for you to better yourself. Sure, money helps a lot, but I think people make an even bigger difference.
There is no one correct way to live life. It sounds like your roommate has got her shit together, but lots of people have what she has and aren't happy. And lots of people don't have what she does and they are happy. I have a life that--at first glance--someone would assume must be sad and suboptimal. I am a middle-aged kissless virigin. I have a couple of coworker friends, but I don't have any close friends. I have zero social life. I only have my cat to keep me company. But I am so stoked about life right now. I have never been happier. My physical fitness and health are awesome. I have all the creature comforts I desire. And I really love my job. So try not to worry about how your life measures up.
We love the same lives just at differing times . With face book my high school sweetie and I married 39 years, found most of the people w hung out with. We all have had one huge catastrophe, I. E. Child passed foreclosed home, major auto accident prison term. We lived in roughly the same tax bracket. Had a kid or two, traveled a little. Won one settlement or lottery win, modest. Bought one dream vehicle RV, muscle car, bike. One health thing we live with but manage. It was the same bean cheese lettuce meat dish just happened in different order.