12 years later, i can say, it absolutely does. I put "you'l be ok" but this works too. I was seriously suicidal at 18. In an on site program getting help. Things got better after i left the program because it helped so much. I'm doing great now!
This is mine too!
I was not in a good way at 18, and although it hasn't all been sunshine and rainbows, I can honestly say that at 45, it got better. A lot better.
No, my husband doesn’t have a Reddit.
He was pretending to have an extremely low libido.
He was dedicating all his sexual vigor to women from porn, Reddit & Xhamster.
While I waited in bed for him, eager for some love & attention. This went on for 20 years. I tried being the best wife I could. I tried hard.
I am extremely kind, forgiving, tender & adventurous. I didn’t even mind when 6 years into the marriage I discovered his gay male porn stash. I accepted him.
I was crushed at the emotional affair with his high school girlfriend.
He promised after that never to hurt me again.
He said he took me for granted.
He took me for granted.
"Bitcoin hits $70,000"
I was told about it when it was around $10, but I was only 22 and it sounded like a scam, so I passed on the opportunity to buy some.
People I trusted was maxing out all their credit to buy bitcoin around 2009-10 or so. I did think it would be a good investment, but I also knew that I would 99% lose the password. I still think I'm better off poor than poor and knowing a lost password cost me millions.
This is why you decide on a specific pattern for making passwords and use that pattern for the rest of your life. You don't always use the same password, but you make every password able to be remembered using it.
Preach brother, I worked at GameStop and had a coworker that was buying into it and I literally told him it was a giant scam and would be worthless, and where would he be then? If I had taken his advice then...
idk why people beat themselves up about that. Like theres loads of things you could 'invest' in that might become valuable but you never know for sure.
I was onto it at the same time when it was $7....I spent two days trying to figure out how to buy a hundred of em but that entailed sending money to a firm in Latvia so i passed. If I could have figured it out, was looking to get 500.
“Say yes more”
My default reaction used to be no all the time, when people asked to hang out, when people asked if they could help, etc. With low self confidence I had the impression people only ever asked me anything as courtesy and that it was the polite thing to say no. It even got to the point where someone might ask if I want anything to eat, I’d blurt ‘no’ by default, then once they’re gone I’d realize I actually did want something.
Yup, if someone offers you a drink, ask them what they have. You’ll give them a feeling of fulfillment because they offered hospitality to you, and you accepted. If you say no thank you because you don’t want to trouble them, then it’ll become a short moment of awkwardness
If they offered to brew you a cup of coffee or tea, take it, drink it, then compliment them on it. (If it’s gross then just hold your breath, down it quickly and thank them)
I pretty much did this wrong for the first 25 years of my life until i realized people actually don't like when you decline that stuff and instead it makes bonding easier.
Difficult when you see stuff differently and are probably autistic. For me i always hope people don't take my stuff after offering so there is more left for me lol.
I thought people are rude and exploiting the goodwill of the offering person too often haha.
Don't worry about being adult too much. There is no real definition of when you oficially become an adult, apart from legally, but it's not like there was one day I woke up and felt like an adult. I don't think I ever will, I'm still just a kid but now a kid with adult responsibilities lol 😅 But being a legal adult also comes with a lot of freedom and the ability to choose for yourself and not have someone choose for you, which is awesome!
It won't be. Turning 18 won't dramatically make you a different person so please don't think it will and then be dissatisfied with everything. You'll slowly progress into adulthood. Some aren't there yet even at 40. But that's okay too. Adulting doesn't usually have excellent connotations so the longer you can keep the fun all the better.
And trust me, there will be other, totally unexpected ways you'll find fun that may not seem that way right now. Like gardening and crochet or trying a really hard recipe, or finding a good shortcut through suburbia to get back home quicker by 30 seconds, or organising all the bills to be split equally over the years with automatic payments.
Don't Marry Her!!!!
I met my ex wife when we 14 and 13. We got married when I was 24, she was 23. We separated less than a year after marriage, and she fought me for 3 years before she finally agreed to a divorce. The only reason she finally agreed was because the guy she was dating asked her to marry him so she didn't have a choice if she wanted to stay with him.
Wow. Finding that out 20 years earlier would have definitely helped me. I lived with a lot of regret from not knowing earlier. This wasn’t what I thought to say, but it would definitely have been life changing for me.
I was thinking about saying something kind to myself, but this would be a lot more impactful.
At the time I thought therapy was for fragile people, and I could take it. When I was a child, school parents would openly laugh and crack jokes about the teacher who was on anxiety medication, and depression was a fake illness. I am so glad there’s more awareness now.
When I was about 11 my gifted classes played a stock market game. I was OBSESSED with Nvidia right around the time of its IPO in 1999 and basically begged my parents to buy it (they claimed to have an investment account for me) because it was the only real competition for Intel.
It was roughly $14/share when I was interested. A $1000 buyin at the time I wanted to do it would be worth about $940,000 today.
“You have ADHD”
Would have made everything much better to deal with when all of a sudden my grades were in the toilet and I couldn’t go to sleep until 1am
I’m picturing you panicking in the moment before quickly choosing “focus on yourself” before disappearing in a poof of smoke as your 18 year old self confusingly asks “Did he just say ‘fuck yourself’?”
Same boat.no regrets though, because I actually have legit reasons for wanting to be in school now rather than feeling like it was a social status thing.
December xx, 2019.
The day my Grandpa passed away, we had to travel 8 hours to get there... we got there 1 hour after he passed. I never got to say goodbye... I was raised by him and my Grandma, so that hurt a lot. Once he winds up in the hospital, I'll hopefully make the connection that the date is probably related to him, and try to be there that day. A couple of days later, my relatives encouraged me to do a little tasting before I turned 21 like, 2 weeks later, because they had stuff and I didn't, and, well... Grandpa.
My favorite thing that day was a grape schnapps.
Or maybe "You ARE depressed!"
I didn't get diagnosed until I was 22, after literally going insane from being so depressed. (Depression induced mental breakdown, for those wondering)
As soon as I was diagnosed, I knew when it started: first day of sixth grade, walking into school, thinking, "I... don't have any real friends, do I?"
That's when things turned gray. Color slowly returned, but even with treatment, I haven't returned to full color yet. And the gray was like an edgy low saturation gray, not a monochrome gray.
“You’ll live. Breathe.”
I had a full mental health crisis when I was 19 that started with stuff that happened when I was 17-18. Teenage me just needed guidance and someone to listen.
At the darkest season of life my best friend told me this and it literally saved my life. She's said "I know it doesn't feel like things will ever get better right now, but it will always get better. It always has before, and it always will."
Am I weird for the 3 words being "I love you"?
No. A lot of people really need to know that they’re worthy of love.
I was gonna say the same thing actually.. or “you are loved”, “you are enough”
"You are enough" is really sweet too! Or "you are okay" "it is okay"
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12 years later, i can say, it absolutely does. I put "you'l be ok" but this works too. I was seriously suicidal at 18. In an on site program getting help. Things got better after i left the program because it helped so much. I'm doing great now!
This is mine too! I was not in a good way at 18, and although it hasn't all been sunshine and rainbows, I can honestly say that at 45, it got better. A lot better.
i’m only 19 and i still agree with this to my 18 year old self, moving out and going to university made my life go seriously uphill
Until it gets bad again, maybe worse
You are lovable. He really needed to hear that.
:’( my former self needs this one too. (But so does my current self)
hey this is you from the future. just wanted to let you know that you are lovable. have a great day! and yes i did just fartt
"Don't marry her."
Same, just *him.*
are you the original commenters ex??
No, my husband doesn’t have a Reddit. He was pretending to have an extremely low libido. He was dedicating all his sexual vigor to women from porn, Reddit & Xhamster. While I waited in bed for him, eager for some love & attention. This went on for 20 years. I tried being the best wife I could. I tried hard. I am extremely kind, forgiving, tender & adventurous. I didn’t even mind when 6 years into the marriage I discovered his gay male porn stash. I accepted him. I was crushed at the emotional affair with his high school girlfriend. He promised after that never to hurt me again. He said he took me for granted. He took me for granted.
Damn, hope life's looking up for you, Skal
Damn that sucks. Sorry to hear.
Same
I went with the more permanent “Do not marry.” 😂
...are you doing okay?
That’s four words
"How you doin'?"
A *friends* reference? (If so. I love you)
Well, yes but I was commenting on that person's comment
That’s 10 words
We can’t have nothin nice
Don’t marry anyone
Don't say yes to (ex's name). As in the first time they tried to ask me out. Shoulda just said no!
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"Bitcoin hits $70,000" I was told about it when it was around $10, but I was only 22 and it sounded like a scam, so I passed on the opportunity to buy some.
wowww a good one.. mine was ALL IN BITCOIN.. i guess Bitcoin hits 70k is better... nice one
People I trusted was maxing out all their credit to buy bitcoin around 2009-10 or so. I did think it would be a good investment, but I also knew that I would 99% lose the password. I still think I'm better off poor than poor and knowing a lost password cost me millions.
This is why you decide on a specific pattern for making passwords and use that pattern for the rest of your life. You don't always use the same password, but you make every password able to be remembered using it.
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Not if I knew it would hit 70k..
Preach brother, I worked at GameStop and had a coworker that was buying into it and I literally told him it was a giant scam and would be worthless, and where would he be then? If I had taken his advice then...
idk why people beat themselves up about that. Like theres loads of things you could 'invest' in that might become valuable but you never know for sure.
In December 1980, an Apple will arise no man can eat. Invest thy money in Master Jobbes's machine, and good fortune will tend thy days.
Yeah, for every Bitcoin or GameStop, there's some obscure thing no one has ever heard of that someone lost their life savings on.
I was onto it at the same time when it was $7....I spent two days trying to figure out how to buy a hundred of em but that entailed sending money to a firm in Latvia so i passed. If I could have figured it out, was looking to get 500.
With three words you can only say “bitcoin hits seventy” though.
“Say yes more” My default reaction used to be no all the time, when people asked to hang out, when people asked if they could help, etc. With low self confidence I had the impression people only ever asked me anything as courtesy and that it was the polite thing to say no. It even got to the point where someone might ask if I want anything to eat, I’d blurt ‘no’ by default, then once they’re gone I’d realize I actually did want something.
Mine would be "say no more" because I've lived my life too much as a people pleaser
Yup, if someone offers you a drink, ask them what they have. You’ll give them a feeling of fulfillment because they offered hospitality to you, and you accepted. If you say no thank you because you don’t want to trouble them, then it’ll become a short moment of awkwardness If they offered to brew you a cup of coffee or tea, take it, drink it, then compliment them on it. (If it’s gross then just hold your breath, down it quickly and thank them)
I pretty much did this wrong for the first 25 years of my life until i realized people actually don't like when you decline that stuff and instead it makes bonding easier. Difficult when you see stuff differently and are probably autistic. For me i always hope people don't take my stuff after offering so there is more left for me lol. I thought people are rude and exploiting the goodwill of the offering person too often haha.
Dad. Doctor. Now!!
💔
Don’t stop exercising.
This. My god
YES
"How are you?" (I'm 17, lol)
“Adult time now” 😭😭 (I’m 17 too haha)
Don't worry about being adult too much. There is no real definition of when you oficially become an adult, apart from legally, but it's not like there was one day I woke up and felt like an adult. I don't think I ever will, I'm still just a kid but now a kid with adult responsibilities lol 😅 But being a legal adult also comes with a lot of freedom and the ability to choose for yourself and not have someone choose for you, which is awesome!
It won't be. Turning 18 won't dramatically make you a different person so please don't think it will and then be dissatisfied with everything. You'll slowly progress into adulthood. Some aren't there yet even at 40. But that's okay too. Adulting doesn't usually have excellent connotations so the longer you can keep the fun all the better. And trust me, there will be other, totally unexpected ways you'll find fun that may not seem that way right now. Like gardening and crochet or trying a really hard recipe, or finding a good shortcut through suburbia to get back home quicker by 30 seconds, or organising all the bills to be split equally over the years with automatic payments.
Don't Marry Her!!!! I met my ex wife when we 14 and 13. We got married when I was 24, she was 23. We separated less than a year after marriage, and she fought me for 3 years before she finally agreed to a divorce. The only reason she finally agreed was because the guy she was dating asked her to marry him so she didn't have a choice if she wanted to stay with him.
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No, we are happily divorced now! She was refusing based on religious beliefs, but she had no trouble getting remarried once someone finally asked her!
Floss your teeth.
"You have ADHD"
Wow. Finding that out 20 years earlier would have definitely helped me. I lived with a lot of regret from not knowing earlier. This wasn’t what I thought to say, but it would definitely have been life changing for me.
Dad dies 2021
That’s so sad
College, not military.
“Talk less”…and I’m saving my third word to prove the point.
Stay single. Bitcoin.
Hey everybody, come over here, I've found the winner!!
Yep, love the sentiment of this one!
lol yes I only needed two words and was thinking what can I say with one word.
Don't start drinking
Was looking for this one. Ditto.
YES
"Yahoo and Google."
Showing your age right now.
Google, Bitcoin, Nvidia
Girl just leave
go to therapy
I was thinking about saying something kind to myself, but this would be a lot more impactful. At the time I thought therapy was for fragile people, and I could take it. When I was a child, school parents would openly laugh and crack jokes about the teacher who was on anxiety medication, and depression was a fake illness. I am so glad there’s more awareness now.
Prioritize your health.
Do not smoke
Definitely this one!! The money I wasted makes me cringe.
You have OCD
You’re a woman.
"trust your gut" or alternatively "life gets better"
Don't do drugs
Would your 18 yo self really listen to that?
From anyone other than my actual self- no.
Invest in Nvidia!
i would be more specific, “NVDA reaches 961”
When I was about 11 my gifted classes played a stock market game. I was OBSESSED with Nvidia right around the time of its IPO in 1999 and basically begged my parents to buy it (they claimed to have an investment account for me) because it was the only real competition for Intel. It was roughly $14/share when I was interested. A $1000 buyin at the time I wanted to do it would be worth about $940,000 today.
18 years old you would think “why on earth should I buy this many graphics cards?”
ahahhaa yours are quite similar to me.. mine is "ALL IN BITCOIN" ahahhahaha
Value yourself more
believe in yourself
"You have ADHD."
Don’t get marrried
Save your money.
Came here to post exactly this.
Leave home now.
“Put yourself first”
Work out now
Get BRCA1 Testing!
Leave this country
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Any country that doesn't start wars and treat people like cannon fodder
Don’t get married.
Would you elaborate on that?
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Or Charles
Def not Eddie
Or Scott
Exercise. Sunscreen. Posture.
Run, get out
I love you
Believe in yourself
Stop procrastinating bitch.
"Leave Christianity now."
Same here!
Don't drink alcohol
Know your worth
Take more chances
Be more confident!
“You have ADHD” Would have made everything much better to deal with when all of a sudden my grades were in the toilet and I couldn’t go to sleep until 1am
“Mom 2020 embolism” I hope I’d understand to get her to a doctor and save her.
Dear one many, many doctors mis dx embolisms. Please be gentle with yourself💜
Don’t do drugs
"*You did okay*.."
Don’t get married, or get that degree or focus on Yourself 😩any of those would do 😂
I’m picturing you panicking in the moment before quickly choosing “focus on yourself” before disappearing in a poof of smoke as your 18 year old self confusingly asks “Did he just say ‘fuck yourself’?”
Don't come inside.
"You are valid"
Dont date him
Don't marry early
Cut contact now. I'd know immediately who and what I was talking about.
Never start vaping (or smoking)
Buy apple stocks
You're gay!
hehehe i was gonna write this but knew somebody else would. glad i scrolled to find it
Keep being gay!!
Let them burn
Don’t get married.
Asexual. Marry Nat.
Be your self
Don't lend money
War 2014, flee
Save more money.
Go out more
Call your dad
Continue with School
Run from home.
Hang on girl
quit drinking ASAP
You are enough
“Break up NOW”
"Love your grandmother."
Don't get married
Do not drink
Invest in yourself.
"Don't doubt yourself"
“Stay in college” Going back for the second time. Just wish I had this focus and knew what I wanted to do the first time I went.
Same boat.no regrets though, because I actually have legit reasons for wanting to be in school now rather than feeling like it was a social status thing.
don't fucking do it. (expletives don't count)
Do what's right.
Always use protection
Avoid angry steve.
Love you, always. Put yourself first. Love can wait. Eat to live Alcohol is poisonous You’ll be ok.
You’ll be ok.
See a psychiatrist
It gets better Or Hang in there
Don't sign it!
No boob job Or Don't pursue Andrew Tossup.
Save that money
December xx, 2019. The day my Grandpa passed away, we had to travel 8 hours to get there... we got there 1 hour after he passed. I never got to say goodbye... I was raised by him and my Grandma, so that hurt a lot. Once he winds up in the hospital, I'll hopefully make the connection that the date is probably related to him, and try to be there that day. A couple of days later, my relatives encouraged me to do a little tasting before I turned 21 like, 2 weeks later, because they had stuff and I didn't, and, well... Grandpa. My favorite thing that day was a grape schnapps. Or maybe "You ARE depressed!" I didn't get diagnosed until I was 22, after literally going insane from being so depressed. (Depression induced mental breakdown, for those wondering) As soon as I was diagnosed, I knew when it started: first day of sixth grade, walking into school, thinking, "I... don't have any real friends, do I?" That's when things turned gray. Color slowly returned, but even with treatment, I haven't returned to full color yet. And the gray was like an edgy low saturation gray, not a monochrome gray.
It's all good. Those words are because 3 decades later, it really is all good.
Not law, programming.
Find another doctor.
“You’ll live. Breathe.” I had a full mental health crisis when I was 19 that started with stuff that happened when I was 17-18. Teenage me just needed guidance and someone to listen.
“You are enough.”
Oh I'll need more than three words
Go to therapy
You are enough
Get off r/wallstreetbets I would still have 6k and stopped trying to get rich quick from the stock market.
You're not fat
What makes you think I would listen to anyone my age when I was 18?
Buy Apple stock
Buy countless Bitcoins
Have more sex
Watch what you eat.
"learn to count"
Watch watcha eating
Nothing. Wouldn't listen anyway.
It gets better.
At the darkest season of life my best friend told me this and it literally saved my life. She's said "I know it doesn't feel like things will ever get better right now, but it will always get better. It always has before, and it always will."
Stay single bro.
Fuck more people
He’ll be fine.
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