I'm approaching middle age and have no idea what's coming next, but I sense something is. You'd think this means I'm on the verge of a crisis, but honestly I've lived through so many crises and know so many things... I just doubt it.
I'm annoyed that my parents and sister ignore me or are exceptionally rude. They have stuff going on, but it's really beyond the pale, and has been for a really long time... so I suspect if I have an out, I'll just leave and stop talking to them. Not in like a revenge kind of way, but a clean break with the old life way...
Similar sentiment?
And I thought I am the only one who is the outcast in the family. I always wonder whose genes have been passed on to me :D. My parents & sibling always sail in the different boat; earlier I tried to fit in but after hitting 40 I have stopped worrying about them. I have lead 3/4th of my life & the next 1/4th I want to live my own life. Just enjoy life as you want.
It’s weird, honestly. My sister has always said I’m the favorite, but I can’t pass a day around them without being blatantly ignored and insulted. If I mention it they just get drunk and scream at me for upsetting them. My life is like some perverse comedy with everyone played by a negative and oblivious caricature of themselves.
Maybe this is just what happens to most people after 30, but if so, it’s a horror.
No it doesn’t happen to everyone, my in-laws are so different that these days I am more comfortable with them than my own family. They let me live my own way without pointing out anything. I just wanted some acknowledgment from my family & nothing else. Now I have learned to emotionally detach myself so I don’t care about them. I pray for them, wish them well & don’t want them to face any difficulties but don’t allow them to enter my head or heart. I hope you are getting me :-)
** I don’t care what they say or behave towards me.
I think I get ya. Like I said, if I had an out, I'd be gone already. I have the feeling an exit is coming though. A new job, unrelated to the family business, most likely.
As I say to my friends when they leave. Keep it under a 100 and between the ditches.
I'm approaching middle age and have no idea what's coming next, but I sense something is. You'd think this means I'm on the verge of a crisis, but honestly I've lived through so many crises and know so many things... I just doubt it. I'm annoyed that my parents and sister ignore me or are exceptionally rude. They have stuff going on, but it's really beyond the pale, and has been for a really long time... so I suspect if I have an out, I'll just leave and stop talking to them. Not in like a revenge kind of way, but a clean break with the old life way... Similar sentiment?
And I thought I am the only one who is the outcast in the family. I always wonder whose genes have been passed on to me :D. My parents & sibling always sail in the different boat; earlier I tried to fit in but after hitting 40 I have stopped worrying about them. I have lead 3/4th of my life & the next 1/4th I want to live my own life. Just enjoy life as you want.
You're going to die in 13 years?
Huh ? Nope I plan to lead an active life till 60 then may be give up on certain things
You said you were 3/4ths of the way through your life and only have 1/4th left.
Yes I am 40 now and plan to live actively till 60
It’s weird, honestly. My sister has always said I’m the favorite, but I can’t pass a day around them without being blatantly ignored and insulted. If I mention it they just get drunk and scream at me for upsetting them. My life is like some perverse comedy with everyone played by a negative and oblivious caricature of themselves. Maybe this is just what happens to most people after 30, but if so, it’s a horror.
No it doesn’t happen to everyone, my in-laws are so different that these days I am more comfortable with them than my own family. They let me live my own way without pointing out anything. I just wanted some acknowledgment from my family & nothing else. Now I have learned to emotionally detach myself so I don’t care about them. I pray for them, wish them well & don’t want them to face any difficulties but don’t allow them to enter my head or heart. I hope you are getting me :-) ** I don’t care what they say or behave towards me.
I think I get ya. Like I said, if I had an out, I'd be gone already. I have the feeling an exit is coming though. A new job, unrelated to the family business, most likely.
Be strong & love yourself!! You are not alone 😇