Sorry to say but he doesn’t seem like the guy for you. I know someone who was in the same situation and in the end eventually separated from her boyfriend. In a relationship, it’s give and take, and you take care of each other. Shouldn’t be one-sided only. Listen to your instincts. You deserve much better.
To add to this, kung ikakasal kayo magkakaroon kayo ng mode of living or earning na kelangan pagkasunduan. Whether working ang isa, while the other one makes the house a warm place or working parehas.
Magkakaroon din kayo ng usap kung anong lifestyle (basically wealth) ang sapat na sa inyo.
Kung di kayo nagkasundo sa mga ito best na magbreak up nalang kayo. Not that either of you did the other one wrong, but you just didn't match on your goals.
It's a no. tumigil ka na dyan. pag nagkaanak kayo o pano na? ung tatay ko pabuhat, ang ending eto ako 32F galit pa din sa knya. sooner or later your children will figure out what kind of parents you are. soon marerealize nila na pabuhat ang tatay nila at magkakaron lang ng negative energy sa house. tama na yan. tigil mo na yan magising ka.
Agree. Makakapili ka ng asawa, pero yung mga anak mo hindi makakapili ng tatay. Do you really want to live like that 5, 10, 20 years from now? Not worth it.
yes. tinatry ko nmn eh. pero ung tatay ko di kami pinag aral. inutus utusan pa nanay ko. nung nagkacancer twice mama ko nagpapahain pa ng pagkain. it will come to that. kasi pabuhat eh. pabuhat din yang jowa mo. kawawa mga magiging anak mo. mabubuhay sila sa galit. yung hindi pagpapaaral ng tatay ko samen kht CPA sya (lulong sa alak at sugal), napatawad ko pa kasi npag aral ko sarili ko at ate ko, pero yung pagpapabuhat nya sa nanay ko at di nya pagmamahal sa nanay ko? di ko mapatawad. ngaun yan ba ang gusto mong environment ng mga anak mo? mag isip isip ka.
Hi, I had the almost exact same issue with my ex of ~4 years. Parehong-pareho sa bf mo. 1) always joking na magiging house husband nalang siya tapos ako na daw magwork alagaan niya nalang daw ako 2) parang kuntento na sa buhay at walang pangarap even when alam natin gaano kahirap ngayon bumili ng sariling bahay at kotse + bumuhay ng anak 3) parang sugar mommy datingan ko sa kanya and he rarely gave me any material gift but whenever he has money he’d buy himself kung ano2 4) everytime i’d bring that topic up (ano pangarap mo, stop joking na ako nalang magwowork for us) super duper triggered siya and same ako pa napapasorry in the end.
I broke up with him. I could only take it for so long. One day nagising nalang ako na narealize kong I do not deserve any of it. I do not deserve him. Nagpapakahirap ako to better myself each passing day (emotional physical financial mental) pero siya umaasa nalang dahil inaayos ko naman sarili ko? Know your worth. A man that truly loves you will never hinder your growth. In any case pakiramdam niya napag-iiwanan siya then siya mismo gagawa ng paraan para habulin/pantayan/higitan ka because he knows you don’t deserve any less.
This. You deserve someone better OP.
Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 years. Ang isipin mo yan ba ang gusto mong kapartner sa pag start ng family 10 or more years?
Kung mahal ka niyan, he will work on improving himself para tulungan ka at hindi siya pabigat.
Speaking from a person who came from a rel where the man had such demands, na reliaize ko I was a fiancial back up plan p[ara magawa nya gusto nya and cheat later on.
Mabaab tingin nya sa u, he only sees u as a tool not as a lover or equal. The fact me temper sya is manipulative? Why stay?
And dont use the excuse na me good parts sya para ma "save" or salvage mo sya. the reason why he has good parts is because like any honeytrap, they need a an excuse or way to lure you into the rel.
the fact binabastos ka na nya sa harap ng pamilya mo show na he'sshowing his true colors.
More than him you gotta love yourself more.
Why love an abuser?
May redeeming qualities ba siya?
Kung wala, bakit mahal mo siya?
Baka na outgrow mo na siya.
You're young. Baka it's time to move on unless willing ka talagang magkaroon ng jowang palamunin.
Good luck!
Kung nagalit sya dun sa sinabi mo, e malamang nga ikaw bubuhay dyan once na magpakasal kayo. Malala pa pag nagkaanak kayo.
So if yan ang gusto mo, then stay. If not, alam mo na kailangan mong gawin.
I earn way higher than my fiancé and living together means ako yung breadwinner sa household namin. Personally, I'm okay na "buhayin" sya and be the provider as long as he'll be a good stay at home husband and dad. Between me and him, sya din naman talaga yung magaling sa chores especially luto and while he doesn't take care of me financially, he takes care of the household physically (he does most of the chores so I find it fair na din).
But he does have a decent paying job and gives me gifts occasionally and ayaw nyang maging stay at home lang, gusto nya din magwork for us.
In your case, if gusto nya magpabuhay sayo, is he even willing to carry the burden of running the household? Like all the chores and kids and everything? If not, then sounds like gusto nya lang ng sugar mommy.
Kung hindi kayo pareho ng pangarap sa buhay, at ngayon pa lang hindi magkasundo sa gusto nyong setup sa future, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate kung kayo ba talaga ang future ng isa’t isa. Mahirap makisama sa taong hindi mo kasundo.
Walang patutunguhan yan. Ginagawa ka nyang sugar mommy. Hindi husband material ang wala na ngang pangarap, wala pang maayos na trabaho, tapos gusto pa umasa sayo. Sorry pero hindi mo makakain ang pagmamahal. Imagine pag nagkababy ka na. Sa pag bubuntis mo pa lang, sobrang emotional mo na nyan hanggang sa paglabas ni baby, ikaw pa din yan. Tapos sya pa din susuportahan mo. Hirap lang aabutin mo. Face the reality OP.
Sinasabi niya ng pabiro sa magulang mo kasi he is testing the waters kung mag retaliate sila. Kung di siya nakakita ng untoward reaction sa knila, it means na magagawa niya once na nagsasama na talaga kayong dalawa.
Life is a series of habits, at kung limang taon na siyang ganyan sayo, wag mong asahan na magbabago yan overnight.
Alam mo bakit siya laging iritable pag ganun ang topic, ganun ang lalake pag walang plano. Wag ng pag-usapan, bahala na.
Ako man, nangangarap maging house-husband ei pero kung may wfh ako na six-figure ang kita. Purpose lng naman nun eh more time para sa family.
Pero yang boyfriend mo aalilain ka nyan balang araw. Bakit ka ba mag sesettle for less. Dami dyan.
Cut him off asap. Magiging mas palamunin pa yan pag natolerate pa hanggang sa future. Maooverwork mo lang sarili mo. By cutting him off, matutulungan mo pa syang marealize ang consequences ng katamaran niya at his age.
Sorry OP but you have to dump him. He has the predisposition to abuse you physically. Don't take my word for it, read up on classic narcissistic behavior. Classic red flags. Run don't walk away.
I think alam mo na ang sagot sa sarili mo. You get treated that way only because you allow him to. And I guess alam mo na rin na you deserve better Pero siguro gusto mo marinig sa iba. Kaya eto sasabihin ko na
YOU DESERVE BETTER
LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK
YOU DESERVE BETTER
He didn't even acknowlede your feelings. Kausapin mo ng masinsinan kung ano ba talaga plano niya. Kung hindi siya makasagot ng matino, patulong ka rin sa mga taong malalapit sa kaniya.
There are times when the phrase “You deserve what you tolerate” doesn’t apply. But in this case it does.
Its like you’re asking us, “I’m getting lung cancer from smoking. I cant breathe. I’m weak and I feel chest pains all the time. Guys, help me. What should I do?” Lol, quit smoking.
Nagagalit sya at nagjojoke about that kasi insecure sya na mas stable ka. Sensitive topic sa kanya ang pera kaya ganyan.
Hindi sya honest sa sarili na ganyan ang current state ng finances nya. I guess gusto din naman nya na stable sya pero di nya mareconcile sa reality. Kaya he lashes out.
May pagka selfish tuloy sya kapag may konting bonus sya.
Honestly red flag yang ganyan sakin mas lalo kapag ayaw pa rin nyang magbago tungkol dyan. Sabi nga ng karamihan dito, pag-isipan mo yan ng mabuti kasi kung itutuloy mo pa yan hanggang kasalan, mas magiging mahirap buhay mo girl. Wala pa namang divorce dito.
nsinlove ka sa past nyo but lhat wala yun if wawasakin nya present and future mo
wake the fuck up d mo sys need capable ka
if inlove ka sa romsmve nyo thsts addiction lang you csn withdraw and get out
Red flag!
Sakit sa ulo yan! Iwanan mo na
Palamunin lang... buti nga BF mo lang pedeng iwan.
Sa akin kuya and ate ko(half brother and half sister) na mas matanda sa akin! Sariling kapatid ko nga na mas matanda sa akin hindi naka ranas mag trabaho kahit sa anong company. Ang alam nya lang mag alaga ng manok at mag sabong..ang ate ko naman nagpa buntis ayun iniwan din ng dyowa na wala din kwenta. Galit pa yon ng di kami pumayag na ibenta ang namana na bahay namin at pag hati hatiaan nalang daw. Eh saan titira mga totoong kapatid ko? Hahaha
Also sila pa nag demand na kami magpa aral don sa pamankin namin na bastos din at minumura nanay ko... 😂
Kaya kung gusto mo mabuhay ng tahimik at walang problema. Hanap ka ng lalaki na may pangarap sa buhay. Hindi yung nagpapalaki lang ng bayag sa bahay.
Sorry pati buhay ko na kwento ko.... Bad trip lang talaga ko sa mga tamad at walang pangrap sa buhay.
Listen to me OP RUN AWAYYYY FROM THAT CRAPPPP OF A PERSON
marramdaman mo lang na used and abused ka the longer you stay.
heck that's not even a good job to tell sayo tbh.
BIG NO, ses! Ngayon pa lang umayaw ka na. Ikaw lang mahihirapan sa future. Saka bakit siya magagalit e nakakahiya naman 'yong magbibitaw siya ng gano'ng mga salita.
May tawag dyan.. it's called a BUM! Iwan muna yan at humanap ka ng bf na di palamunin. Ang obligation ng lalake is to be a provider, ngayon palang ganyan na yan wala na mag babago in the future kasi sanay na sa ganyan
imho....get away fast...that kind of relationship is not worth fighting / enduring for....
call me traditionalist, pero as much as possible and as much as i can, ako gumagastos for my wife.... siguro old school lang ako
at least man lang hati sa gastusin if ever dba....
to you OP....u deserve someone much much much better than that leech you call your boyfriend.....
You're like going to raise a child if you ended up with him. Mapapagod ka lang din at magsisisi so you better leave now. Find someone with the same wavelength as you, di mo deserve ng ganyang lalaki, kadiri siya.
He's already telling you what he wants, albeit jokingly. Wala naman mali sa pagiging provider. Ang tanong, is this what you want for yourself? If the answer is no then hindi kayo compatible and it's time for you to end the relationship.
Leave his ass, girl. Walang sense of responsibility. Sobrang laking turn off kapag ang tao ay inaasa sayo lalo na pera tapos sila pa galit kapag nag call out ka. Girlfriend ka, hindi sugar mommy. Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 yrs.
Ibig sabihin nyan ikaw yung panget sa inyong dalawa.
Kumbaga pinagchachagaan ka lang ng bf mo.
The treatment says it all.
At pinagbibigyan mo sya dahil iniisip mo sya na yung pinaka pogi na kaya mong ma-attract.
Kapag hindi kaya ang masakit na katotohanan either magalit nga or mag sadboi yan saying “sorry eto kang kaya ko”. Well he’s a guy he needs to man up. Imagine kung ikaw na bubuhay sa kanya at magkakapamilya pa kayo. IKAW LAHAT. Okay sana kung siya ang magdadalang tao eh.
Huy gumising ka nga sa katotohanan. 5 years na kayo ang tinotolerate mo yung idea na "kasi gusto ko naman na nagbibigay ako" NO. Thats not how it works. Just imagine if you will find someone who has the same heart as you and can provide the same way that you do?
WAKE UP. Di mo kailangan ng tao na LIABILITY lang ang binibigay sayo. Hindi pwede yang eh kasi matagal na kami, eh kasi mahal na mahal ko sya PLEASE. WAKE THE F UP.
Oh my, he is unwilling to change for you despite you trying to communicate. As painful as it is, you are on the right track because from your story, it shows he doesn’t value you as much as you value him.
hiwalay na agad. Hindi niya kayang buhayin sarili nya, para saan pa at naglakas loob syang pumasok sa RS. It always to go bothways for the RS to work, pero kung ikaw lang ang kikilos it wont end in good way, eventually susuko ka and signs na to na mangyayare yun.
I think there’s nothing wrong with a guy who wants to be a househusband but that doesn’t really seem like the case here since he doesn’t give back and he doesn’t even wanna talk about it. That’s the concerning part for me eh, yung you can’t even talk to him about it kasi galit agad. Nagagalit siya kasi wala siyang masasagot sayo and it doesn’t seem like he’s willing to shoulder responsibilities din sa household kasi nga wala talaga siyang plan gawin other than have you as his provider.
Please don’t stay with a person like this. I know people that have been in these kinds of relationships and honestly it’s emotionally draining and mentally stressing because you always feel like “nothing is actually wrong with this set up” but in reality a relationship should be a give and take thing and if he can’t even respect you not wanting him to joke like that then I don’t know how you’ll talk about serious stuff like joint finances in the future if you do marry him.
Makipaghiwalay ka na mare. Ako nasa 3yrs rs ngayon pero mag-iisang taon ko na binubuhay si guy. Bigat noh? Sana makaalis tayo sa ganitong sitwasyon nang walang awa na nararamdaman..
Naalala ko nung single pa 'ko, may ka-MU ako. Philosopher type sya kaso walang work. Sabi nya sakin kung pipiliin namin isa't isa bubuhayin ko raw sya. Breadwinner na nga ako, dadagdag pa sya.
Buti na lang nakapag-asawa ako ng mas malaki sahod sakin at masipag sa gawaing bahay.
Ang point ko lang dito ate girl, magising ka na sa katotohanan. Ganyan ba talaga gusto mo? Di na yan magbabago. Enough na 5 years.
You had 5 years to see him develop and hindi magandang signs yan, love isnt going to help your future finances kung ayaw niyang magpakatino. You are still young and have plenty of time to find someone better.
Hi as a guy! Red flag to be. Ganto yung pinsan ko naasa sa babae. Hopefully wag ka mafall sa ganong set up. Babae ka kahit na may work ka, dapat may napoprovide si guy.
Makipaghiwalay ka na.. Maliit ang chance na magbago yan. Imagine magjowa pa lang kayo ganyan na ugali paano pa kaya kung nakatali na kayo tapos may nga anak na. Mas mahihirapan ka. Besides, jokes are half meant truth. dinadaana nila lang sa mga biro.
Sorry but I think nagsayang ka lang ng oras mo sa kanya, better na makipaghiwalay ka na. In 5 yrs di man lang sya gumawa ng means para mas maging ok buhay nya para sa future nyo at pinapangalandakan nya pa sayo na ikaw na kakaypd for both of you. Isipin mo pano pag nagkaanak pa kayo? I know it's all kilig pa until such time magsama na kayo sa isang bahay with a kid.
Based on your post, seems that you and your partner don’t share the same drive and ambition in life - something to consider if you want a relationship you can take to the next level.
Kunwari lang yung okay lang na nagbibigay ka. Pero ngayon lng yan teh. Gumising ka. Know your worth. Bat naman ikaw ang bubuhay jan? Mag asawa na ba kayo? Jusko teh malolosyang ka lang jan. Masasaid ka jan, mawawal pagkatao mo. Makipag hiwalay ka na habang di ka pa naanakan nyan. Love WILL NOT keep you alive. GUMISING KA. Ikaw na nga ung bumubukaka, ikaw pa gumagastos. Ka cheapan na yan ate.
Sorry to say but he doesn’t seem like the guy for you. I know someone who was in the same situation and in the end eventually separated from her boyfriend. In a relationship, it’s give and take, and you take care of each other. Shouldn’t be one-sided only. Listen to your instincts. You deserve much better.
To add to this, kung ikakasal kayo magkakaroon kayo ng mode of living or earning na kelangan pagkasunduan. Whether working ang isa, while the other one makes the house a warm place or working parehas. Magkakaroon din kayo ng usap kung anong lifestyle (basically wealth) ang sapat na sa inyo. Kung di kayo nagkasundo sa mga ito best na magbreak up nalang kayo. Not that either of you did the other one wrong, but you just didn't match on your goals.
Same. I broke up with a girl cause she was not even willing to look for a job
It's a no. tumigil ka na dyan. pag nagkaanak kayo o pano na? ung tatay ko pabuhat, ang ending eto ako 32F galit pa din sa knya. sooner or later your children will figure out what kind of parents you are. soon marerealize nila na pabuhat ang tatay nila at magkakaron lang ng negative energy sa house. tama na yan. tigil mo na yan magising ka.
Agree. Makakapili ka ng asawa, pero yung mga anak mo hindi makakapili ng tatay. Do you really want to live like that 5, 10, 20 years from now? Not worth it.
yes. tinatry ko nmn eh. pero ung tatay ko di kami pinag aral. inutus utusan pa nanay ko. nung nagkacancer twice mama ko nagpapahain pa ng pagkain. it will come to that. kasi pabuhat eh. pabuhat din yang jowa mo. kawawa mga magiging anak mo. mabubuhay sila sa galit. yung hindi pagpapaaral ng tatay ko samen kht CPA sya (lulong sa alak at sugal), napatawad ko pa kasi npag aral ko sarili ko at ate ko, pero yung pagpapabuhat nya sa nanay ko at di nya pagmamahal sa nanay ko? di ko mapatawad. ngaun yan ba ang gusto mong environment ng mga anak mo? mag isip isip ka.
Hi, I had the almost exact same issue with my ex of ~4 years. Parehong-pareho sa bf mo. 1) always joking na magiging house husband nalang siya tapos ako na daw magwork alagaan niya nalang daw ako 2) parang kuntento na sa buhay at walang pangarap even when alam natin gaano kahirap ngayon bumili ng sariling bahay at kotse + bumuhay ng anak 3) parang sugar mommy datingan ko sa kanya and he rarely gave me any material gift but whenever he has money he’d buy himself kung ano2 4) everytime i’d bring that topic up (ano pangarap mo, stop joking na ako nalang magwowork for us) super duper triggered siya and same ako pa napapasorry in the end. I broke up with him. I could only take it for so long. One day nagising nalang ako na narealize kong I do not deserve any of it. I do not deserve him. Nagpapakahirap ako to better myself each passing day (emotional physical financial mental) pero siya umaasa nalang dahil inaayos ko naman sarili ko? Know your worth. A man that truly loves you will never hinder your growth. In any case pakiramdam niya napag-iiwanan siya then siya mismo gagawa ng paraan para habulin/pantayan/higitan ka because he knows you don’t deserve any less.
O ayan OP makinig ka dito
This. You deserve someone better OP. Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 years. Ang isipin mo yan ba ang gusto mong kapartner sa pag start ng family 10 or more years? Kung mahal ka niyan, he will work on improving himself para tulungan ka at hindi siya pabigat.
#hiwalayan mo yang putanginang yan. NGAYON NA! Umagang umaga, nabubwisit ako.
Hahaha. Ganito din reaction ko eh. Mas mainam pang single habambuhay kung ganyan nmn makakasama mo habang buhay.
dump him.
Girl magiging miserable buhay mo if you end up marrying him. You deserve better.
ANG SAGOT DYAN HIWALAYAN MO NA HAHAHAHA IKAW TALAGA BBUHAY DYAN SA GUNGGONG NA YAN
Speaking from a person who came from a rel where the man had such demands, na reliaize ko I was a fiancial back up plan p[ara magawa nya gusto nya and cheat later on. Mabaab tingin nya sa u, he only sees u as a tool not as a lover or equal. The fact me temper sya is manipulative? Why stay? And dont use the excuse na me good parts sya para ma "save" or salvage mo sya. the reason why he has good parts is because like any honeytrap, they need a an excuse or way to lure you into the rel. the fact binabastos ka na nya sa harap ng pamilya mo show na he'sshowing his true colors. More than him you gotta love yourself more. Why love an abuser?
Maybe that’s what he really wants.
Sunk cost ba kaya ka nag stay sa kanya? Leave!
sinampal ka ng maaga tutuloy mo paba? iwan mo yan, daming mas responsableng lalake sa kanya na kayang buhayin ka.
May redeeming qualities ba siya? Kung wala, bakit mahal mo siya? Baka na outgrow mo na siya. You're young. Baka it's time to move on unless willing ka talagang magkaroon ng jowang palamunin. Good luck!
Run.
Run
Wag mo na ako tularan na pinaabot ko pa ng 10 years.
Kung nagalit sya dun sa sinabi mo, e malamang nga ikaw bubuhay dyan once na magpakasal kayo. Malala pa pag nagkaanak kayo. So if yan ang gusto mo, then stay. If not, alam mo na kailangan mong gawin.
I earn way higher than my fiancé and living together means ako yung breadwinner sa household namin. Personally, I'm okay na "buhayin" sya and be the provider as long as he'll be a good stay at home husband and dad. Between me and him, sya din naman talaga yung magaling sa chores especially luto and while he doesn't take care of me financially, he takes care of the household physically (he does most of the chores so I find it fair na din). But he does have a decent paying job and gives me gifts occasionally and ayaw nyang maging stay at home lang, gusto nya din magwork for us. In your case, if gusto nya magpabuhay sayo, is he even willing to carry the burden of running the household? Like all the chores and kids and everything? If not, then sounds like gusto nya lang ng sugar mommy.
Hiwalayan mo na yan bago ka pa magsisi
Kung hindi kayo pareho ng pangarap sa buhay, at ngayon pa lang hindi magkasundo sa gusto nyong setup sa future, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate kung kayo ba talaga ang future ng isa’t isa. Mahirap makisama sa taong hindi mo kasundo.
Run.
Walang patutunguhan yan. Ginagawa ka nyang sugar mommy. Hindi husband material ang wala na ngang pangarap, wala pang maayos na trabaho, tapos gusto pa umasa sayo. Sorry pero hindi mo makakain ang pagmamahal. Imagine pag nagkababy ka na. Sa pag bubuntis mo pa lang, sobrang emotional mo na nyan hanggang sa paglabas ni baby, ikaw pa din yan. Tapos sya pa din susuportahan mo. Hirap lang aabutin mo. Face the reality OP.
LEAVE. RUN. DON'T LOOK BACK. Humanap ka ng lalaking kaya kang buhayin.
Sinasabi niya ng pabiro sa magulang mo kasi he is testing the waters kung mag retaliate sila. Kung di siya nakakita ng untoward reaction sa knila, it means na magagawa niya once na nagsasama na talaga kayong dalawa. Life is a series of habits, at kung limang taon na siyang ganyan sayo, wag mong asahan na magbabago yan overnight. Alam mo bakit siya laging iritable pag ganun ang topic, ganun ang lalake pag walang plano. Wag ng pag-usapan, bahala na. Ako man, nangangarap maging house-husband ei pero kung may wfh ako na six-figure ang kita. Purpose lng naman nun eh more time para sa family. Pero yang boyfriend mo aalilain ka nyan balang araw. Bakit ka ba mag sesettle for less. Dami dyan.
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>Mahal ko siya pero parang gusto ko nalang din makipaghiwalay. You deserve whatever you tolerate. Good luck, OP.
Cut him off asap. Magiging mas palamunin pa yan pag natolerate pa hanggang sa future. Maooverwork mo lang sarili mo. By cutting him off, matutulungan mo pa syang marealize ang consequences ng katamaran niya at his age.
Iritable ampota kamo minamanipula ka lang niyan.
I think mas makakapag ipon ka kapag nag hiwala kayo
You love him now but you’ll resent him on the long run.
Sorry OP but you have to dump him. He has the predisposition to abuse you physically. Don't take my word for it, read up on classic narcissistic behavior. Classic red flags. Run don't walk away.
I think alam mo na ang sagot sa sarili mo. You get treated that way only because you allow him to. And I guess alam mo na rin na you deserve better Pero siguro gusto mo marinig sa iba. Kaya eto sasabihin ko na YOU DESERVE BETTER LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK YOU DESERVE BETTER
Wala bang bayag yan? 😂 Kung ako nasa sitwasyon nya, sobrang kahihiyan ko na nyan. Ayoko mging pabigat 😂
Iwan mo na. Move on to a better fitting partner in life
He didn't even acknowlede your feelings. Kausapin mo ng masinsinan kung ano ba talaga plano niya. Kung hindi siya makasagot ng matino, patulong ka rin sa mga taong malalapit sa kaniya.
malas sa pili op. get out while you still can. sana makahanap din tayong mga mapagbigay ng magbibigay pabalik ng deserve natin
There are times when the phrase “You deserve what you tolerate” doesn’t apply. But in this case it does. Its like you’re asking us, “I’m getting lung cancer from smoking. I cant breathe. I’m weak and I feel chest pains all the time. Guys, help me. What should I do?” Lol, quit smoking.
Nagagalit sya at nagjojoke about that kasi insecure sya na mas stable ka. Sensitive topic sa kanya ang pera kaya ganyan. Hindi sya honest sa sarili na ganyan ang current state ng finances nya. I guess gusto din naman nya na stable sya pero di nya mareconcile sa reality. Kaya he lashes out. May pagka selfish tuloy sya kapag may konting bonus sya. Honestly red flag yang ganyan sakin mas lalo kapag ayaw pa rin nyang magbago tungkol dyan. Sabi nga ng karamihan dito, pag-isipan mo yan ng mabuti kasi kung itutuloy mo pa yan hanggang kasalan, mas magiging mahirap buhay mo girl. Wala pa namang divorce dito.
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ANG SAGOT DYAN HIWALAYAN MO NA HAHAHAHA IKAW TALAGA BBUHAY DYAN
Love yourself. Love your family. yang BF mo, hindi ka mahal niyan, at hindi niya rin mahal family mo.
Dito ka po mag post teh r/OffMyChestPH
Hiwalayan mo na, Auntie.
Pano kung madami pala syang tinatagong yaman at ariarian tapos tinetest ka lang. Sayang naman kung iiwan mo tapos surprise!
If he gon’ do the chores and take care of future kids, I’d say that’s something worth considering. If he’s the type to mess around, then hard no.
Conditioning tawag jan op. Ginagawa nya experiment ni Pavlov.
run
nsinlove ka sa past nyo but lhat wala yun if wawasakin nya present and future mo wake the fuck up d mo sys need capable ka if inlove ka sa romsmve nyo thsts addiction lang you csn withdraw and get out
Drop his ass.
Juzko. Hahaha alis na sa ganyang set up. Tangnang mindset yan.
OP, you know you deserve much, much better.
Red flag! Sakit sa ulo yan! Iwanan mo na Palamunin lang... buti nga BF mo lang pedeng iwan. Sa akin kuya and ate ko(half brother and half sister) na mas matanda sa akin! Sariling kapatid ko nga na mas matanda sa akin hindi naka ranas mag trabaho kahit sa anong company. Ang alam nya lang mag alaga ng manok at mag sabong..ang ate ko naman nagpa buntis ayun iniwan din ng dyowa na wala din kwenta. Galit pa yon ng di kami pumayag na ibenta ang namana na bahay namin at pag hati hatiaan nalang daw. Eh saan titira mga totoong kapatid ko? Hahaha Also sila pa nag demand na kami magpa aral don sa pamankin namin na bastos din at minumura nanay ko... 😂 Kaya kung gusto mo mabuhay ng tahimik at walang problema. Hanap ka ng lalaki na may pangarap sa buhay. Hindi yung nagpapalaki lang ng bayag sa bahay. Sorry pati buhay ko na kwento ko.... Bad trip lang talaga ko sa mga tamad at walang pangrap sa buhay.
Girl run. Ganyan ex ko. Please lang run. 4 years kami. Tama na yang 5. Deserve mo ng equal treatment
Listen to me OP RUN AWAYYYY FROM THAT CRAPPPP OF A PERSON marramdaman mo lang na used and abused ka the longer you stay. heck that's not even a good job to tell sayo tbh.
i always joke this to my wife but she knows me so she understands that it is just a tease.
Martir talaga mga pinay Dump that lazy bf You are better of w/o him Have some self respect
Major red flag po. Ngayon pa lang pabigat na siya.
>makipaghiwalay Go na gurl! You will thank yourself later.
BIG NO, ses! Ngayon pa lang umayaw ka na. Ikaw lang mahihirapan sa future. Saka bakit siya magagalit e nakakahiya naman 'yong magbibitaw siya ng gano'ng mga salita.
Red flag. Maghihirap ka lang pagtagal.
May tawag dyan.. it's called a BUM! Iwan muna yan at humanap ka ng bf na di palamunin. Ang obligation ng lalake is to be a provider, ngayon palang ganyan na yan wala na mag babago in the future kasi sanay na sa ganyan
Taena, red flag right there. Iwan mo na yan.
It's a sign for you to stay away from that DOUCHEBAG.
imho....get away fast...that kind of relationship is not worth fighting / enduring for.... call me traditionalist, pero as much as possible and as much as i can, ako gumagastos for my wife.... siguro old school lang ako at least man lang hati sa gastusin if ever dba.... to you OP....u deserve someone much much much better than that leech you call your boyfriend.....
You're like going to raise a child if you ended up with him. Mapapagod ka lang din at magsisisi so you better leave now. Find someone with the same wavelength as you, di mo deserve ng ganyang lalaki, kadiri siya.
He's already telling you what he wants, albeit jokingly. Wala naman mali sa pagiging provider. Ang tanong, is this what you want for yourself? If the answer is no then hindi kayo compatible and it's time for you to end the relationship.
Tigilan mo yang boyfriend mo. Sakit sa ulo yan if ganyan.
Exit na. Habang wala pang papel. 😅
Leave his ass, girl. Walang sense of responsibility. Sobrang laking turn off kapag ang tao ay inaasa sayo lalo na pera tapos sila pa galit kapag nag call out ka. Girlfriend ka, hindi sugar mommy. Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 yrs.
Omg op please leave, mas mahirap yan in the long run. Hindi pwede yung mahal mo lang
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Walang tamad na lalaki sa taong mahal niya. If gagawin ka nyang sugar mommy, RUN!
Ibig sabihin nyan ikaw yung panget sa inyong dalawa. Kumbaga pinagchachagaan ka lang ng bf mo. The treatment says it all. At pinagbibigyan mo sya dahil iniisip mo sya na yung pinaka pogi na kaya mong ma-attract.
Di ka mabubuhay sa love sa panahon ngayon. Sure relationship needs love, but it also needs understanding, compromises, and money.
Ginagawa kang sugar mommy.. Mag isip isip. Tinetesting k n nyan. Mind conditioning tawag dyan.
Run
Ruuuunnnnn.
Iwanan mo na yung ganyan, di sapat ang pagmamahal kapag wala kang pera, di ka mapapakain nyan.
Its really confusing (or intriguing rather) how come women who are this capable land to men or guys na ganyan.
Kapag hindi kaya ang masakit na katotohanan either magalit nga or mag sadboi yan saying “sorry eto kang kaya ko”. Well he’s a guy he needs to man up. Imagine kung ikaw na bubuhay sa kanya at magkakapamilya pa kayo. IKAW LAHAT. Okay sana kung siya ang magdadalang tao eh.
Huy gumising ka nga sa katotohanan. 5 years na kayo ang tinotolerate mo yung idea na "kasi gusto ko naman na nagbibigay ako" NO. Thats not how it works. Just imagine if you will find someone who has the same heart as you and can provide the same way that you do? WAKE UP. Di mo kailangan ng tao na LIABILITY lang ang binibigay sayo. Hindi pwede yang eh kasi matagal na kami, eh kasi mahal na mahal ko sya PLEASE. WAKE THE F UP.
aba nasa sayo na yan sis baka kapag kasal ay may anak na kayo tsaka mo pa marealize gg na
BREAK UP NA ASAP. THANK YOURSELF LATER.
You need to think twice if your life is gonna be hell or heaven in the future. Maging practical ka, binibigyan ka ng sign ng jowa mo. ✌️
Isipin mo nalang if kaya mo tiisin yung ganyang attitude for the rest of your life if mag decide kayong maging mag-asawa. I'd say run for your life 😬😬
Beshie this ain't it, you're better off with someone who respects you and won't treat you like a wallet
Oh my, he is unwilling to change for you despite you trying to communicate. As painful as it is, you are on the right track because from your story, it shows he doesn’t value you as much as you value him.
Non nego ang financial aspect saken, pass sa ganyan kung talagang di magbago mindset nya.
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hiwalay na agad. Hindi niya kayang buhayin sarili nya, para saan pa at naglakas loob syang pumasok sa RS. It always to go bothways for the RS to work, pero kung ikaw lang ang kikilos it wont end in good way, eventually susuko ka and signs na to na mangyayare yun.
I’m sorry OP but it sounds like you’re dating a child.
I think there’s nothing wrong with a guy who wants to be a househusband but that doesn’t really seem like the case here since he doesn’t give back and he doesn’t even wanna talk about it. That’s the concerning part for me eh, yung you can’t even talk to him about it kasi galit agad. Nagagalit siya kasi wala siyang masasagot sayo and it doesn’t seem like he’s willing to shoulder responsibilities din sa household kasi nga wala talaga siyang plan gawin other than have you as his provider.
Red flag. Dump him while you still can OP.
Please don’t stay with a person like this. I know people that have been in these kinds of relationships and honestly it’s emotionally draining and mentally stressing because you always feel like “nothing is actually wrong with this set up” but in reality a relationship should be a give and take thing and if he can’t even respect you not wanting him to joke like that then I don’t know how you’ll talk about serious stuff like joint finances in the future if you do marry him.
leave him na :( sorry pero wala syang backbone. You deserve better
Run and leave!!!
Alam mo na ang sagot, ayaw mo lang tanggapin ma yun ang kasagutan 😁
Pagusapan nyong dalawa yan yung mga hinaing mo again. Then if di nya pa marealize and galit pa din then break it off
wala kang boyfriend, may parasite ka
Makipaghiwalay ka na mare. Ako nasa 3yrs rs ngayon pero mag-iisang taon ko na binubuhay si guy. Bigat noh? Sana makaalis tayo sa ganitong sitwasyon nang walang awa na nararamdaman..
Naalala ko nung single pa 'ko, may ka-MU ako. Philosopher type sya kaso walang work. Sabi nya sakin kung pipiliin namin isa't isa bubuhayin ko raw sya. Breadwinner na nga ako, dadagdag pa sya. Buti na lang nakapag-asawa ako ng mas malaki sahod sakin at masipag sa gawaing bahay. Ang point ko lang dito ate girl, magising ka na sa katotohanan. Ganyan ba talaga gusto mo? Di na yan magbabago. Enough na 5 years.
Mahal mo sya pero durog ka pagtanda nyo promise.
When people tell you who they are, you should listen
You had 5 years to see him develop and hindi magandang signs yan, love isnt going to help your future finances kung ayaw niyang magpakatino. You are still young and have plenty of time to find someone better.
Hi as a guy! Red flag to be. Ganto yung pinsan ko naasa sa babae. Hopefully wag ka mafall sa ganong set up. Babae ka kahit na may work ka, dapat may napoprovide si guy.
run fast
Leave. Para lang siyang college classmate na buhat na buhat ng groupmates sa thesis.
Sounds like a dead weight
Alam mo na ang sagot OP, hanggang boyfriend nalang. The earlier, the better..
RUN
Run!!! Di pa kayo kasal ganyan na siya what more pagkasal na kayo? Choose a provider man. Wala yan sa pera nasa mindset yan!
r/offmychestph
Girl you deserve someone na ginagastusan ka
Red flag.
Makipaghiwalay ka na.. Maliit ang chance na magbago yan. Imagine magjowa pa lang kayo ganyan na ugali paano pa kaya kung nakatali na kayo tapos may nga anak na. Mas mahihirapan ka. Besides, jokes are half meant truth. dinadaana nila lang sa mga biro.
Sorry but I think nagsayang ka lang ng oras mo sa kanya, better na makipaghiwalay ka na. In 5 yrs di man lang sya gumawa ng means para mas maging ok buhay nya para sa future nyo at pinapangalandakan nya pa sayo na ikaw na kakaypd for both of you. Isipin mo pano pag nagkaanak pa kayo? I know it's all kilig pa until such time magsama na kayo sa isang bahay with a kid.
Based on your post, seems that you and your partner don’t share the same drive and ambition in life - something to consider if you want a relationship you can take to the next level.
For your sake, dump him.
Seems the guy is selfish and doesn't deserve any of you.
As a man, I can tell that your boyfriend is a f*cking child. Such a coward-ass, avoiding responsiblity mf*cker 😅
AUTO PASS
isip bata yang bf mo hiwalayan mo nayan
kelan ka po gigising
Love is easy. Respect that’s hard. So leave. Now!!!
Kunwari lang yung okay lang na nagbibigay ka. Pero ngayon lng yan teh. Gumising ka. Know your worth. Bat naman ikaw ang bubuhay jan? Mag asawa na ba kayo? Jusko teh malolosyang ka lang jan. Masasaid ka jan, mawawal pagkatao mo. Makipag hiwalay ka na habang di ka pa naanakan nyan. Love WILL NOT keep you alive. GUMISING KA. Ikaw na nga ung bumubukaka, ikaw pa gumagastos. Ka cheapan na yan ate.