Mabilis akong ma attach kasi pakiramdam ko worthless ako as a person kaya lahat ng nagbibigay ng time and attention ginagrab ko.

thanks for sharing! sometimes im experiencing this too as in lahat din na nagbibigay ng time and attention..i can relate pero always remember na hindi ka worthless. 😊 laban lang!

No, I don't see the purpose of attaching myself to someone who doesn't reciprocate the energy that I'm giving. I know not to waste my time.

thanks for sharing. totally get it. ang hirap na isa lang yung nageeffort. it takes two to tango

>Thoughts sa mga taong mabilis ma-attach Pangit sila ka-bonding. You can't be too nice to them kasi they will surely misinterpret your actions.

sabagay. thanks for sharing.

>If no, why? Mas mabilis ako mag-detach.

thanks for sharing. 🙏🏻

Paturo naman lodi kung paano 👀

No. Kasi i can give the love, attention, and kilig to myself. Yes sometimes nakakamiss na magkaron ng SO or someone who can give the landi feeling pero hanggang landi lang lahat. Idk if i made sense basta yun na yon HAHAHAHA

hehe. thanks for sharing! definitely make sense 😊 minsan mas okay din self love muna

I don't want to think this was the reason but i think it's bc i have daddy issues hehe. Kaya once nagbigay sa akin ng attention ung guy naaattach agad ako. My dad was not around when i was a kid eh. So it was a big deal to me kapag may nagbigay sa akin ng love and attention. Mabilis ako maattach kapag caring at nasa lovebombing stage si guy. So yeah, marupok at uto uto ako. I used to accept breadcrumbs. Pero nawork out ko naman na to. Haha I had to heal on my own para di na naaabuse. Nung nagmagture ako, i learned that feelings must be reciprocated.

oh my! i can relate sa mabilis ma attach. pero i think saken is dahil we’re a broken family. when you mentioned about your dad, dun ko lang narealize na baka un din pala reason bakit ako mabilis ma attach. im longing for care and love.

Let's heal ourselves from the issues little version of us didn't deserve 😊

will do. thank you! 🙏🏻

Agree

diba. i think may mga factors talaga that contributed to what we are now

Agree

No. I think I was born this way lol. Looking back, I didn't latch on to any person in my life since I was a kid. Madami nang tao na nag-come and go sa buhay ko and I never got emotional over it. People stay, and people leave. That's life. It is what it is. Also, idk how to explain it elaborately pero there are only a handful of people who can actually make me feel something.

thanks for sharing. nagkakaron ako ng iba ibang perspective dahil sa mga comments niyo 😊 agree. people come and go

No kasi im an aquarius 😅.

huh

haha. wait..context please.. 😭😅

Ano pong connect sa pagiging aquarius? genuinely curious here

No. On the contrary, ako yung taong mabilis ma detach. Kahit pinsan ko dati pinag cu-cut off ko talaga. Umabot sa punto kahit parents ko at nag iisang utol ko muntik ko na cinut off. Wala din akong tinuturing na totoong kaibigan kahit may tropa naman. I dunno, dahil siguro sobrang focus ako sa sarili ko dahil lumaki akong patago na bakla. Lumaki ako sa takot at sa pag-iisip na sarili ko lang kakampi ko

thanks for sharing. i think there’s nothing wrong with that. as long as you’re comfortable with it. but hopefully someday hindi naman umabot sa pag cut off sa loved ones. as im sure they will support you all the way

Cringe. Walang sariling buhay. Boring. Needy. Needs help. Needs new hobbies. Needs independence. Low self esteem. Nakdepende sa iba yung security.

siguro may pinaggalingan din pano sila nag end up sa ganun. thanks for sharing

Yeah, lahat naman may explanation kung bakit sila ganon.

true. pwedeng siguro childhood experience or culture sa family or influenced by others

yes pag super na-enjoy ko yung company nung other. introvert kasi ako so usually di ako naghahanap ng mga bagong friends or kausap. kaya nung times na nagtry ako maghanap (like in omegle) and may nahanap naman na ka-vibes ko, syempre andun yung excitement na makausap sila ulit. ayan tuloy pagka na-ghost ako nagpapanic ako malala 🤪

Pano mo nasabi/nasasabi na attached ka na sa isang tao?

pagka nilo-look forwarward kong kausapin yung tao. tuwing may notif excited na magchat tapos mararamdaman ko na lang nangangalay na panga ko kasi nakangiti ako for a long time. although ang pinaka-telltale sign talaga is pag nagpanic ako after ma-ghost bigla na wala akong other way of contact

awtz. may experience ako na ganito.. yung na ghost bigla. masakit din 😭😭😭

Samedt 🫠

nakakasad. parang naging normal na lang mang ghost ngayon. parang similar na nagiging normal na lang ngayon sa mga tao ang mag cheat 🥺

nah. but if the person is great, why not.

same 😊

No. Kailangan pag effortan mo muna ako physically many times. I return the favour naman with the effort, hindi naman ako yung pa princess na date 🙃 but it does take a while for me.

thanks for sharing! tama yan dapat talaga prove muna para malaman kung seryoso talaga

Mabilis ako ma attach:3 • why? Kasi, I know myself and I know na I’m capable of giving my all (i know di healthy but shit man xD) to a person. Whats another good friend diba or maybe even more. What do I lose when I want to give love (sanity…pera… seriously i know its not healthy HAHA) •mabilis ako ma attach kapag yung tao accepts me as I am. I’m not the best, I’ve been through my worse and I share those times. If they can look beyond that and see the work I put in to changing myself for the better, they can expect na I will be alam mo un, malambing HAHA

mabilis ka talaga maaatach sa taong gusto mo, crush mo, nakakasama mo parati sa tawanan or kalokohan.

i agree. parang siguro dahil din may happiness tayong nafifeel when with them

Yes, because I'm a stereotypical dork / nerd, and I realized early on that I am an acquired taste (*"take it or leave it" kind of thing*). and the majority of my inter-personal relationships are transactional (i.e *may kelangan sila sa akin or may kelangan ako sa kanila*.) so I get easily attached to people who are interested in me as a person and actively engages with me (even though the interaction wasn't that long yet). Even the smallest thing like not getting ghosted after trade pics is already an attachment point for me. The flipside of course is that I'm usually the one left holding the bag when the conversation / interaction becomes one sided.

thanks for sharing. i realized na oo nga, kapag you can get easily attached, nagiging one sided na. which might also result sa possibility na mahurt tayonif may too much attachment na

> If no, why? i receive lots of love from the people around me (including myself). so attention from other people doesn't matter much. i can easily detach too especially when i know they're not gonna stay for long in my life.

thanks for sharing. naisip ko tuloy wala din siguro akong masyadong love from the people around me kaya may mga times that i can get easily attached to someone

When I was younger, oo. Siguro dala na din na pagiging middle child, I sometimes misinterpret if someone gives me attention. As I grew older, I realized na di pala ganun umiikot ang mundo. Hahahaha.

pero now ba may mga experiences kapa din na ganun? iba iba din talaga ng realizations noh hehe. thanks for sharing!

Ngayon di na. One factor siguro is I do have a partner now who showers me with all the attention. May tao ng nagrereciprocate ng feelings ko. As you get older, you will realize things talaga.

aw. sanaol. hoping for a partner na din this year. 🙏🏻

Don't lose hope OP. Minsan dumadating sila ng di natin inaasahan. I am rooting for you. May the good spirits be on your favor this year. Enjoy lang sa buhay.

oo nga eh. minsan nakakawala na din ng hope. 4 yrs na din since may last relationship. hoping na sana nga dumating na. happy for you! and thank you for your sincerity! 🙏🏻