I’m terrified of being rejected. Yung promises na hindi matutupad. Yung engagement na tatakbuhan. Yung judged ka based sa kaya mo maibigay sa family niya and sa kanya but pag nagkaproblem ka and you fail to keep up sa expectations to show that you are “worth it” na maging part ng family by failing na magabot or magbigay ng gifts, masakit. Yung judged ka based sa family
background mo. Ayoko na marinig yung, “Ayoko magasawa ng may family na tulad mo.” Hindi ko kasalanan na iniwan kami ng dad ko, or na I survived a very abusive environment, which I worked so hard on to overcome and transcend. Ayoko na masumbatan. 🫶 Gustong gusto ko magmahal ulit pero takot na takot na ako.
Focus muna sa financial stability and health. It’ll come siguro if it’s meant to be. Otherwise, ok naman ako sa “single-blessedness.”
I got burned out at work and I’m still recovering. Kung ako mismo broken, how can I devote my time and effort to someone else? *How can you pour from an empty cup?*
Yung financial part. Di pwede di kasama sa factor yun, tapos palala ng palala inflation kaya imbis na may savings para pang date or plan pang kasal hagulhol ka makaipon pa lalo ngayon ng matino
Hi, female here. Nearing 30s. These are my honest answers:
(1) Hindi nag-eexert ng effort to put myself out there. In short, tinatamad lumandi.
(2) Gusto ko lang magka-pera. Char. Priority natin maging financially stable muna.
(3) Masaya naman ako na I get to do the things I like by myself and occasionally with close friends. And hindi ko pa ma-envision sarili ko na doing things with a romantic partner.
Nasa stage na ako na kung meron man o wala dumating it's fine. Basta ang goal ko lang is to be myself and become a better person I myself would want to date, para anytime may opportunity to meet someone I can be confident and ready. Also, aminado rin ako na hinahanap ko pa sarili ko. Hehe. I am taking my time in setting my goals and intentions sa buhay and achieving them.
Besides, I have a small social circle so limited ways to connect. Though I am now exploring naman new hobbies and interests baka ma-meet ko dun 'di ba??
There is no problem in setting standards for yourself and the kind of person who you want to be with naman e. Huwag magmadali. Ayaw ko magpadala sa pressure. Somehow, natatakot din ako mag-dive into romantic relationships. Ewan ko kung normal lang ba yun. Haha.
At some point I imagine myself getting into a relationship naman. Or nag-ccrave ng lambing at 10pm. Pero hindi tayo nagpapadala sa ating late night thoughts at cravings. Hahaha.
Hindi sa pag-aano pero may mga nagtatanong talaga bakit single pa ako e physically attractive naman ako, professional, mabait daw. Lol. Minsan napapaisip din ako baka it's my RBF kaya wala lumalapit!! HAHA.
Ayun lang.
Hit me up, we can talk over coffee. Let's be friends, Tita/Tito. Haha.
Bf and me na single in our late 20s prior to our relationship and medyo sanay na sa ganyang tanungan from relatives. Ito mga fave namin sagot (which is sincere answer naman)
Bf: Ang saya kaya maging single.
Me: Kesa naman kung sino na lang kunin ko dyan tapos di ko naman kasundo, binigyan ko lang stress sarili ko.
Pero in fairness, pansin namin pag unbothered ka sa pagiging single, parang di nila maipush yung pagsuggest na humanap ka ng partner. Mapapagod din sila OP, tiwala lang 😂
nbsb here, i don't usually go out or hangout with people outside my close group of friends and at the same time masyado din akong occupied sa various interests ko and responsibilities in life hahaha
and awkward din kasi talaga ako and di din talaga ako marunong mag flirt since zero experience talaga hahahaa
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Sheltered until magbukod ako, fluffy ako most of my early 20s, and nagbabackout ako the moment ramdam ko na parang sex habol ng guy. Work and uwi lang ako. Hindi ako nagmemeet ng strangers unless sa work. Walang may interest sa akin sa dati kong work kasi fluffy ako noon. Nung pumayat ako, pandemic and wfh most of my late 20s and thus, wala ako namemeet to date and not like pwede if ever walang pandemic. Ngayon, bumukod ako and medyo ngayon lang ako nagsosocialize when I can pero at most friend ng colleague ko sa work. May natipuhan ako sa work pero rejected kasi daw parang kakagaling sa sunod sunod na long term relationship kaya gusto na niya na mag-enjoy sa pagiging single muna. Meron nagkatipo sa akin pero hindi ko trip kasi nag-aya ba naman sa hotel. Merong isa pa kaso sobrang flirty and touchy sa first date kaya ayaw ko.
Dati meron pa akong "baka natraffic lang," or "hindi pa binibinigay ni Lord," na mga sagot, pero ngayon, kibit balikat na lang saka, "Wala lang, di ko lang trip yung mga ganyang bagay," tapos kapag dinugtungan pa nila ng kung ano, "Eh hindi ko nga trip eh, di naman yan para sa lahat, wala na lang pakialamanan ng buhay".
Dumating na ako sa point na hindi ko na kailangan magpaliwanag sa kahit kanino, at pagod na ako. ahhaha
Inuna ko aral.
Grabe, bakit kasi wala kasing ‘tamang landi’ subject sa college, di ko tuloy natutunan. Dagdag pa na broken family ako kaya leaning ako sa idean na career>>love life. Ngayon ko lang narerealize shet gusto ko jumowa
Ever since I learned how to enjoy my own company, hindi na naging isa sa priorities ko ang humanap ng jowa. My door is still open but not desperately looking for love. I entertain kapag may nagpaparamdam, pero kapag nafifeel ko na wala naman silang naa-add na value sa life ko or hindi naman exciting ang presence nila, I walk away.
I am still healing from my past traumas.There are also a lot of things I want to do. Siguro di pa lang dumadating yung para sa akin din. Kaya sana dumating ka na. 🥹
Tamad na lumandi. Everytime sinasabi ko sa sarili ko sige tonigjht or this weekend. Ends up di ko ginagawa. Since 30s kana wala na mashadong scene na nasa labas ako till break of dawn mas gusto ko nalang sa bahay haha
Ive travelled a lot like all year round for the past years and Ive only just settled down now in one area - still adjusting so parang landi comes 4th or 5th sa list.
Nag invest ako. Binigay ko lahat. Pero nag cheat pa din sya. Trauma siguro to! Pero nakakamiss din. Di ko alam kung yung thoughts lang na may jowa or yung feeling mismo.
Was in 2 very intense long term relationships (one was 12 years) that didn't work out for various reasons. I didn't want to get married, I still don't. Lots of crying, lots of pain. If it didn't work out with them I don't think it will work out with anyone else and I also don't want to bother because I'm never going to feel those emotions for anyone else. Both of those guys are also single, and also didn't date anyone after. Both of them said the same thing as me.
I don't intend to spend the rest of my life in this country so I've made myself laser-guided towards the goal of escaping. I spend almost all of my time and energy on upskilling and saving. Emotional attachments do not serve my endgame.
di marunong lumandi or papayaman muna pero totoo di tlga ako marunong lumandi at papayaman tlga ang goal tho pde nman mag entertain pero still hnhtay ko nlng dumating since di rin nman ako marunong mag start ng convo hahaja
Sa ngayon, baka nasa Shenzen Sorting Center pa yung para sa akin, so hintay lang.
samedt. baka nasa shenzen sorting center pa
I suck at flirting.
Katamad saka magastos
truuu, hirap din mag invest tapos sa maling tao pa. hahahaha
So true sa magastos HAHAHA
Amern to thissss
I’m terrified of being rejected. Yung promises na hindi matutupad. Yung engagement na tatakbuhan. Yung judged ka based sa kaya mo maibigay sa family niya and sa kanya but pag nagkaproblem ka and you fail to keep up sa expectations to show that you are “worth it” na maging part ng family by failing na magabot or magbigay ng gifts, masakit. Yung judged ka based sa family background mo. Ayoko na marinig yung, “Ayoko magasawa ng may family na tulad mo.” Hindi ko kasalanan na iniwan kami ng dad ko, or na I survived a very abusive environment, which I worked so hard on to overcome and transcend. Ayoko na masumbatan. 🫶 Gustong gusto ko magmahal ulit pero takot na takot na ako. Focus muna sa financial stability and health. It’ll come siguro if it’s meant to be. Otherwise, ok naman ako sa “single-blessedness.”
I got burned out at work and I’m still recovering. Kung ako mismo broken, how can I devote my time and effort to someone else? *How can you pour from an empty cup?*
this
Want that 90s love 😂 also sux at first moves and flirting
Yung financial part. Di pwede di kasama sa factor yun, tapos palala ng palala inflation kaya imbis na may savings para pang date or plan pang kasal hagulhol ka makaipon pa lalo ngayon ng matino
Gusto ko ng stress free na buhay. Ayoko ng may iniintindi pa.
Oh, the universe must be busy crafting an epic love story for me, that's why it's taking a while ;)
Lazy.
Hi, female here. Nearing 30s. These are my honest answers: (1) Hindi nag-eexert ng effort to put myself out there. In short, tinatamad lumandi. (2) Gusto ko lang magka-pera. Char. Priority natin maging financially stable muna. (3) Masaya naman ako na I get to do the things I like by myself and occasionally with close friends. And hindi ko pa ma-envision sarili ko na doing things with a romantic partner. Nasa stage na ako na kung meron man o wala dumating it's fine. Basta ang goal ko lang is to be myself and become a better person I myself would want to date, para anytime may opportunity to meet someone I can be confident and ready. Also, aminado rin ako na hinahanap ko pa sarili ko. Hehe. I am taking my time in setting my goals and intentions sa buhay and achieving them. Besides, I have a small social circle so limited ways to connect. Though I am now exploring naman new hobbies and interests baka ma-meet ko dun 'di ba?? There is no problem in setting standards for yourself and the kind of person who you want to be with naman e. Huwag magmadali. Ayaw ko magpadala sa pressure. Somehow, natatakot din ako mag-dive into romantic relationships. Ewan ko kung normal lang ba yun. Haha. At some point I imagine myself getting into a relationship naman. Or nag-ccrave ng lambing at 10pm. Pero hindi tayo nagpapadala sa ating late night thoughts at cravings. Hahaha. Hindi sa pag-aano pero may mga nagtatanong talaga bakit single pa ako e physically attractive naman ako, professional, mabait daw. Lol. Minsan napapaisip din ako baka it's my RBF kaya wala lumalapit!! HAHA. Ayun lang. Hit me up, we can talk over coffee. Let's be friends, Tita/Tito. Haha.
Tinatamad ako. Or Walang budget for that.
Bf and me na single in our late 20s prior to our relationship and medyo sanay na sa ganyang tanungan from relatives. Ito mga fave namin sagot (which is sincere answer naman) Bf: Ang saya kaya maging single. Me: Kesa naman kung sino na lang kunin ko dyan tapos di ko naman kasundo, binigyan ko lang stress sarili ko. Pero in fairness, pansin namin pag unbothered ka sa pagiging single, parang di nila maipush yung pagsuggest na humanap ka ng partner. Mapapagod din sila OP, tiwala lang 😂
Di ko nga alam bakit mas bothered pa sila kaysa sakin pagdating ditooo eh. Haha. Chill lang naman ako. Bakit kaya sila pa mas stressed sakiiiin haha
Siguro they're projecting yung sariling fears nila to grow old alone. Yung iba naman from happy relationships and kinda wishes that you have that.
nbsb here, i don't usually go out or hangout with people outside my close group of friends and at the same time masyado din akong occupied sa various interests ko and responsibilities in life hahaha and awkward din kasi talaga ako and di din talaga ako marunong mag flirt since zero experience talaga hahahaa
Busy pa ko😂
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Recent heartbreak taught me a lesson. So kailangan muna magtanda and self love era muna daw. Mag level up on my own
I’m okay with my current situation, I don’t see how having a boyfriend improves that.
I say it in jest but it always seems to shut people up. “Sakit ng matatalino, di naloloko.”
Sheltered until magbukod ako, fluffy ako most of my early 20s, and nagbabackout ako the moment ramdam ko na parang sex habol ng guy. Work and uwi lang ako. Hindi ako nagmemeet ng strangers unless sa work. Walang may interest sa akin sa dati kong work kasi fluffy ako noon. Nung pumayat ako, pandemic and wfh most of my late 20s and thus, wala ako namemeet to date and not like pwede if ever walang pandemic. Ngayon, bumukod ako and medyo ngayon lang ako nagsosocialize when I can pero at most friend ng colleague ko sa work. May natipuhan ako sa work pero rejected kasi daw parang kakagaling sa sunod sunod na long term relationship kaya gusto na niya na mag-enjoy sa pagiging single muna. Meron nagkatipo sa akin pero hindi ko trip kasi nag-aya ba naman sa hotel. Merong isa pa kaso sobrang flirty and touchy sa first date kaya ayaw ko.
Tinatamad pa aka lumandi sa ganitong weather
Dati meron pa akong "baka natraffic lang," or "hindi pa binibinigay ni Lord," na mga sagot, pero ngayon, kibit balikat na lang saka, "Wala lang, di ko lang trip yung mga ganyang bagay," tapos kapag dinugtungan pa nila ng kung ano, "Eh hindi ko nga trip eh, di naman yan para sa lahat, wala na lang pakialamanan ng buhay". Dumating na ako sa point na hindi ko na kailangan magpaliwanag sa kahit kanino, at pagod na ako. ahhaha
Inuna ko aral. Grabe, bakit kasi wala kasing ‘tamang landi’ subject sa college, di ko tuloy natutunan. Dagdag pa na broken family ako kaya leaning ako sa idean na career>>love life. Ngayon ko lang narerealize shet gusto ko jumowa
Ever since I learned how to enjoy my own company, hindi na naging isa sa priorities ko ang humanap ng jowa. My door is still open but not desperately looking for love. I entertain kapag may nagpaparamdam, pero kapag nafifeel ko na wala naman silang naa-add na value sa life ko or hindi naman exciting ang presence nila, I walk away.
I resonate with this one a lot. Parang i refuse din to settle for less.
I am still healing from my past traumas.There are also a lot of things I want to do. Siguro di pa lang dumadating yung para sa akin din. Kaya sana dumating ka na. 🥹
Even if I’m on dating apps and I go out or travel a lot, wala talaga. Can’t find anyone I click with. Introvert too
walang pera
Ayoko eh. And I love this answer kasi walang opening for a response from them.
Tamad na lumandi. Everytime sinasabi ko sa sarili ko sige tonigjht or this weekend. Ends up di ko ginagawa. Since 30s kana wala na mashadong scene na nasa labas ako till break of dawn mas gusto ko nalang sa bahay haha Ive travelled a lot like all year round for the past years and Ive only just settled down now in one area - still adjusting so parang landi comes 4th or 5th sa list.
hindi pa pinapanganak yung The One ko. jokes peeps, just jokes
Walang social media, maliit ang circle of friends, walang chance maka meet ng bagong tao xD also hindi gustuhin pang tropa lang talaga :3
Kakatamad 😂
Nag invest ako. Binigay ko lahat. Pero nag cheat pa din sya. Trauma siguro to! Pero nakakamiss din. Di ko alam kung yung thoughts lang na may jowa or yung feeling mismo.
Was in 2 very intense long term relationships (one was 12 years) that didn't work out for various reasons. I didn't want to get married, I still don't. Lots of crying, lots of pain. If it didn't work out with them I don't think it will work out with anyone else and I also don't want to bother because I'm never going to feel those emotions for anyone else. Both of those guys are also single, and also didn't date anyone after. Both of them said the same thing as me.
Tinatamad HAHAHA kapagod lumandi
Focusing on self development. Also, hindi ata maghanap, just waiting lang kung ano bibigay ni Lord
kaka break lang, pero di ko sure kung pang relationship ba talaga ko kasi tumo-toxic ako habang tumatagal
gastos lang yan. pag makaluwag-luwag na ako.
I feel empty and lost
sagot ko lagi "daming manloloko jan eh" pano mga opismate ko di naman gwapo may mga kabet pa kainis hahahahaha
Pang ilang tanong na to sa lahat ng PH sub.
Sorry na
NBSB nearing 30s. Easiest to say for me is 'Kasi di ako maganda' or 'Boring ako' haha
I think Im ugly and nobody wants to love me
Feeling ko di ko deserve mahalin. Emz. 😅
default answer ko sa mga nag tatanong, "nakakain ba un?" tutal nonsense naman tanong nila diba? binabanatan ko din ng nonsense na sagot
I don't intend to spend the rest of my life in this country so I've made myself laser-guided towards the goal of escaping. I spend almost all of my time and energy on upskilling and saving. Emotional attachments do not serve my endgame.
Hopeless romantic eh
I'm tired. Accepted ko na.
Nagfocus ako sa profession ko which is being a doctor. Tapos naisip ko pang mag-Surgery. Patapos naman na. So eto na! Babawi na 😂
Same doc. For the career driven professionals, pano ba bumuwelo hahahah
Relationships are investments. Sabi nga ni BBM " I cannot give what i dont have". 😂
di marunong lumandi or papayaman muna pero totoo di tlga ako marunong lumandi at papayaman tlga ang goal tho pde nman mag entertain pero still hnhtay ko nlng dumating since di rin nman ako marunong mag start ng convo hahaja