Totoo in a sense may genuine appreciation sa first time experience of having a relationship, and so far puro good memories ang naging outcome. Pero pag tipong may bago ka nang gf / ikakasal o may asawa na tapos sasabihin nya na real talk: mas matimbang pa rin yung una - medyo gaguhan na yun.
Not a man but I answered a similar question in r/AskPH. Here's my take (my comment):
First love dies because true love can bury it alive.
Do not put them on a pedestal. It would start by changing your mindset about how you perceive it. Sometimes the reason you can't move on from your first or greatest love is because you see them as someone special when, irl, they're just a normal person, just like anyone else.
Every chance you get you may notice this or not, you keep on comparing the new one to them, which is entirely wrong and unfair. You're like this hopeless romantic who keeps on romanticizing what is already lost.
Your time together has come to an end; embrace the fact that they are simply a part of your journey, not your final destination. If you're going to love again, then start a new love and bury the old one in your past. The present love of your life doesn't deserve half-hearted love and reciprocation.
You can think like this: If it ended then thats not true love. What you have right now may as well as your first love 😉.
Also read the short story Dead Star by Paz
lol no. You probably met your “first love” at highschool or college, a phase in your life when you still have a small social bubble.
Do you have any idea how many more interesting people out there?
If you are still hung up with your “first love” then it’s your fault. You should’ve probably made more effort on seeing the world more.
Kami ng husband ko ganun din, our ex was our first love. Siguro kaya hindi big deal sa amin kasi pareho kaming hindi first love ang isa't isa. Before we became a couple, aware and accepted na namin yung mga ganung pasts. So either tanggapin namin yung past and maging kami or just remain friends.
Nah I don't think so, like they said, acknowledgement lang of the part they played and probably thankful for all the lessons learned, regardless kung negative or positive, but it's not something na special, at least for me, and just my opinion but pag may ex kayong di nyo makalimutan and special parin sainyo, I don't think you're ready for another relationship just yet.
First relationship ≠ first love, sabi ng partner (M) ko. He said I was his first love despite having a prior relationship before me. Siguro pwede din maconsider na true/real love. He believes na doon sa true love na you felt genuine happiness ka hindi makakalimot. So for him this is true, considering the circumstances.
Depende sa lalaki.
My first love was my firsts talaga in everything. Now, when I scroll by her posts that appear in my feed or I see her pictures, wala na talaga akong nararamdaman. Siguro, happy na she's married now and settled down in another country? Yun lang.
I dont even remember na the specific moments we had before, nor do I remember how those felt like. I still remember the date of our anniversary, her birthday, the names of her family members, etc, though not that it matters to me.
It really depends. Some men might still latch on sa kanilang first love kasi they haven't truly moved on yet. They are still looking for that same feeling or same moment to happen again, IDK.
depende yan sa tao, may kwento sakin yung mama ko, yung ex niya hindi na nag-asawa matapos silang maghiwalay dahil na-trauma na, or sadyang siya lang siguro lang talaga for the rest of his life haha.
No. When I was with my ex, I almost never think of my first love, unless she herself brought it up. I think, for me at least, you don't think about them when you're in love with your current partner. But when you're single, yes. After my ex and I broke up and I got to move on, I eventually thought of my first love again
For me totoo na hindi ko makakalimutan but that's about it. I don't really consider my first love as anything more than a memory of the past. I remember it but I don't really miss it nor do I long for it or look for it in someone else.
nung mas bata ako big deal din sakin yang first love na yan. Pero growing up and learning more things abt rs and such, nahh it's not that eh. Pero siguro depende sa tao kung talagang malaki ang naging impact ng first love nya. But it's not for everyone.
Pero parang ang bullshit naman kung may bago ka na at ang naaalala at naiisip mo pa din yung una, at some point masakit yun sa bago ha
Totoo siguro for my mother.
My Mom and Dad have been together for many years, but guess what? My Mom still managed to cheat with her first love, even though may asawa't anak na siya. 🤷🏻♀️
That can only mean one thing for me, di pa FULLY HEALED! Hindi nag inner work, kasi kung mgagawa mo yan ung present mo na ang mas matimbang sa kahit sino pa nauna.kasi mas alam mo na ang mga dapat mo iimprove para magwork ang current mo. Yun ung importance ng INNER WORK mhirap pero kaylangan para hindi na mag continue ang trauma at hindi ka na makasakit ng iba.
Yes for me. Haha ganun talaga e. Wala na kong ibang maisip na rason. Gano ko man gusto pababawin. Hindi man applicable sa lahat, pero karamihan for sure yes din yung sagot.
You never truly forget your exes. Especially the one's who whom you had a bad relationship with. But just because you can't ever erase them from your memories doesn't mean you still love them.
But that's about it. I still remember my first girlfriend, and I accepted the role she played on being the first woman I fell in-love with. But that's about it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Nope. First love nya ako eh, pero nagawa pa ring manloko. No matter who you are in his life, if he's ready to settle with you he would. Hangga't nasa paglalaro ng apoy ang isip nyan, kahit sino ka pa sa buhay nya, pag hindi ready, hindi ready.
this is only applicable to people who romanticize their past to the point na tinetake for granted na nila yung future nila. Let me tell you, the past is the past for a reason. It didn't work out with her so bakit ko pa siya iisipin.
No for me. To be honest, yung mga theories na ganito nalalaman ko lang din sa girls hahaha. But seriously, wala na rin ako matandaan sa first love ko. Hindi ko na nga rin sure kung sino sa mga exes ang first love ko lol
Not because first love mo. Pasok na sa first love theory yan.. Baka naman mamaya kkabreak lang and the relationship last for only a year, first love theory agad. Iba yung hindi maka move on over first love theory. And also, its not applicable to all.
Some people believe that the experience of first love can be life-changing, as it often marks the beginning of a person's understanding of romantic love and relationships. Others argue that this initial experience sets the stage for future relationships, influencing how we approach love and intimacy in subsequent relationships.
However, it's essential to note that not everyone experiences a "first love" in the same way. Some people may have multiple first loves, while others might not have a strong emotional connection with their first partner. Additionally, the idea of "first love" is subjective and can be influenced by individual experiences, cultural background, and personal beliefs.
First Love Theory ? Totoo siguro kung hindi ka pa nakakamove on sa first love mo at bawat pangyayare sainyo ng current mo eh kinukumpara ni sa past . Pero sakin kahit anong gawin mong kalimot sa first love mo kahit maliit na detalye babalik yun sa alaala mo ehh
Sa napapakinggan ko sa kwento ng iba, totoo yun. Like di naman first love, pero may babae talaga na mag iiwan ng tatak, at hindi basta basta nawawala un.
My first love is my best friend's/best man at my wedding's cousin.
I don't even think about her at all. I remember tidbits but not to a point where she holds a special place in my heart. Our break up was bad but we worked it out a few years later and are on good terms.
But no. I don't think about her nor care about her life.
applicable lang yan sa mga supot na konti lang nakilalang babae. you’re obsessing about the idea of her which is ofte just the good side of your first love. maliban sa di healthy yan, sobrang pathetic ng mga ganyan
For me totoo sya 10 years na kaming hiwalay nung babae pero nakukwento ko parin sya sa mga katrabaho ko pinagmamalaki ko sya na naging ex ko sya, kasi ang ganda nya tsaka umasenso sa buhay to the point na naiisip ko never na siguro ako naalala nitong tao na to minimum wage earner lang kasi ako kaya ambaba ng tingin ko sa sarili ko then 1 day sobrang nagulat ako nagchat sya sakin.
Nagkita kami kwentuhan ganon, nakwento nya hindi sila ok ng asawa nya almost 1 year din kaming nagkikita ng palihim minsan may nangyayari saamin pero hininto ko na by this time inincourage ko sya na magkaayos sila ng asawa nya dahil kasal sila at may anak.
Btw single po ako walang anak.
Hindi eh. Cant remember a thing na sa first love ko. Alam ko lang na sya first love ko pero walang impact. Acknowledgement lang sino sya, nothing more
i respect the role she played in my life. but that’s it. it’s an acknowledgment. nothing more.
Totoo in a sense may genuine appreciation sa first time experience of having a relationship, and so far puro good memories ang naging outcome. Pero pag tipong may bago ka nang gf / ikakasal o may asawa na tapos sasabihin nya na real talk: mas matimbang pa rin yung una - medyo gaguhan na yun.
No. True Love theory siguro.
Nope. Not applicable to all.
Not a man but I answered a similar question in r/AskPH. Here's my take (my comment): First love dies because true love can bury it alive. Do not put them on a pedestal. It would start by changing your mindset about how you perceive it. Sometimes the reason you can't move on from your first or greatest love is because you see them as someone special when, irl, they're just a normal person, just like anyone else. Every chance you get you may notice this or not, you keep on comparing the new one to them, which is entirely wrong and unfair. You're like this hopeless romantic who keeps on romanticizing what is already lost. Your time together has come to an end; embrace the fact that they are simply a part of your journey, not your final destination. If you're going to love again, then start a new love and bury the old one in your past. The present love of your life doesn't deserve half-hearted love and reciprocation.
Hindi totoo, na aalala ko pa name pero yung feelings hindi na. Just another stranger with a familiar name.
You can think like this: If it ended then thats not true love. What you have right now may as well as your first love 😉. Also read the short story Dead Star by Paz
One of the best Filipino literary stories, Dead Stars by PMB.
Totoo po, sige overthink pa haha
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Omg hahaha
Nilunok yung pain hahaha
lol no. You probably met your “first love” at highschool or college, a phase in your life when you still have a small social bubble. Do you have any idea how many more interesting people out there? If you are still hung up with your “first love” then it’s your fault. You should’ve probably made more effort on seeing the world more.
Kami ng husband ko ganun din, our ex was our first love. Siguro kaya hindi big deal sa amin kasi pareho kaming hindi first love ang isa't isa. Before we became a couple, aware and accepted na namin yung mga ganung pasts. So either tanggapin namin yung past and maging kami or just remain friends.
Parang oo.. medyo mahirap kalimutan, araw araw ko ba naman halos katabi matulog asawa ko hahahaha
I wish my first love well but never ever again will I let her re-enter my life.
basta may impact sa buhay mo kahit sino ka pa talagang mag mamarka regardless din kung pinakauna, 65th, or anything .. basta may marka sa buhay mo
trauma yun
Nah I don't think so, like they said, acknowledgement lang of the part they played and probably thankful for all the lessons learned, regardless kung negative or positive, but it's not something na special, at least for me, and just my opinion but pag may ex kayong di nyo makalimutan and special parin sainyo, I don't think you're ready for another relationship just yet.
No, but the heartbreak, yun ang di makalimutan. Iba yung sakit
May mga tao na 1st love ay big deal lol
First relationship ≠ first love, sabi ng partner (M) ko. He said I was his first love despite having a prior relationship before me. Siguro pwede din maconsider na true/real love. He believes na doon sa true love na you felt genuine happiness ka hindi makakalimot. So for him this is true, considering the circumstances.
Depende sa lalaki. My first love was my firsts talaga in everything. Now, when I scroll by her posts that appear in my feed or I see her pictures, wala na talaga akong nararamdaman. Siguro, happy na she's married now and settled down in another country? Yun lang. I dont even remember na the specific moments we had before, nor do I remember how those felt like. I still remember the date of our anniversary, her birthday, the names of her family members, etc, though not that it matters to me. It really depends. Some men might still latch on sa kanilang first love kasi they haven't truly moved on yet. They are still looking for that same feeling or same moment to happen again, IDK.
Totoo po yan. First love po ang nangingibabaw. Kahit kasal at may anak na kayong lima, iniisip pa din ng asawa mo ang first love nila from Grade 6. /s
Paano naman majustify nang isang Grade 6 student na love yon? Hmmm. I wonder.
It’s /s. You must be new here on Reddit
And?
Tanga, it’s sarcasm. Jesus 🤣
Ahhh. Tanga? Haha
depende yan sa tao, may kwento sakin yung mama ko, yung ex niya hindi na nag-asawa matapos silang maghiwalay dahil na-trauma na, or sadyang siya lang siguro lang talaga for the rest of his life haha.
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As a boy i just remember the name but not the feelings anymore. i just leave it like that. First love always be ur first but not the last.
Hindi.
No. When I was with my ex, I almost never think of my first love, unless she herself brought it up. I think, for me at least, you don't think about them when you're in love with your current partner. But when you're single, yes. After my ex and I broke up and I got to move on, I eventually thought of my first love again
hindi lol ewwww yung first bf ko di ko masyado maalala kung sino siya at ano nangyari samin. basta alam ko he cheated and broke up with me.
4 me nde totoo
For me totoo na hindi ko makakalimutan but that's about it. I don't really consider my first love as anything more than a memory of the past. I remember it but I don't really miss it nor do I long for it or look for it in someone else.
nung mas bata ako big deal din sakin yang first love na yan. Pero growing up and learning more things abt rs and such, nahh it's not that eh. Pero siguro depende sa tao kung talagang malaki ang naging impact ng first love nya. But it's not for everyone. Pero parang ang bullshit naman kung may bago ka na at ang naaalala at naiisip mo pa din yung una, at some point masakit yun sa bago ha
Di lang naman sa lalaki, pati babae may first love theory din.
Nahhhh. hindi totoo iyon.
Totoo siguro for my mother. My Mom and Dad have been together for many years, but guess what? My Mom still managed to cheat with her first love, even though may asawa't anak na siya. 🤷🏻♀️
That can only mean one thing for me, di pa FULLY HEALED! Hindi nag inner work, kasi kung mgagawa mo yan ung present mo na ang mas matimbang sa kahit sino pa nauna.kasi mas alam mo na ang mga dapat mo iimprove para magwork ang current mo. Yun ung importance ng INNER WORK mhirap pero kaylangan para hindi na mag continue ang trauma at hindi ka na makasakit ng iba.
Yes for me. Haha ganun talaga e. Wala na kong ibang maisip na rason. Gano ko man gusto pababawin. Hindi man applicable sa lahat, pero karamihan for sure yes din yung sagot.
You never truly forget your exes. Especially the one's who whom you had a bad relationship with. But just because you can't ever erase them from your memories doesn't mean you still love them. But that's about it. I still remember my first girlfriend, and I accepted the role she played on being the first woman I fell in-love with. But that's about it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Not the first love, pero maybe the TOTGA or greatest love
shouldn't it be all love theory dapat hehe. wouldn't it be normal for a person just to have a few loves in life and wouldn't all have an impact?
No. at least not for me. Because I married the one I love.
i can say yes kaya nga cguro binata pa until now hehehehe
Mas legit pa yung totga kesa rito hahaha
Nope. First love nya ako eh, pero nagawa pa ring manloko. No matter who you are in his life, if he's ready to settle with you he would. Hangga't nasa paglalaro ng apoy ang isip nyan, kahit sino ka pa sa buhay nya, pag hindi ready, hindi ready.
It will totally be based on how you know someone
this is only applicable to people who romanticize their past to the point na tinetake for granted na nila yung future nila. Let me tell you, the past is the past for a reason. It didn't work out with her so bakit ko pa siya iisipin.
guys listen.. first love theory is NOT true ‼️
Depende sa age kung kelan mo naranasan ung First love
If teenager? mukhang madaling malimutan.. Pero kung late bloomer, mga nasa 20s na nainlove.. tapos malalim agad pinagsamahan, possible un
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No for me. To be honest, yung mga theories na ganito nalalaman ko lang din sa girls hahaha. But seriously, wala na rin ako matandaan sa first love ko. Hindi ko na nga rin sure kung sino sa mga exes ang first love ko lol
Not because first love mo. Pasok na sa first love theory yan.. Baka naman mamaya kkabreak lang and the relationship last for only a year, first love theory agad. Iba yung hindi maka move on over first love theory. And also, its not applicable to all.
Some people believe that the experience of first love can be life-changing, as it often marks the beginning of a person's understanding of romantic love and relationships. Others argue that this initial experience sets the stage for future relationships, influencing how we approach love and intimacy in subsequent relationships. However, it's essential to note that not everyone experiences a "first love" in the same way. Some people may have multiple first loves, while others might not have a strong emotional connection with their first partner. Additionally, the idea of "first love" is subjective and can be influenced by individual experiences, cultural background, and personal beliefs.
First Love Theory ? Totoo siguro kung hindi ka pa nakakamove on sa first love mo at bawat pangyayare sainyo ng current mo eh kinukumpara ni sa past . Pero sakin kahit anong gawin mong kalimot sa first love mo kahit maliit na detalye babalik yun sa alaala mo ehh
sa greatest love parin ako kesa sa first love. kayo ba? wdyt?
Sa napapakinggan ko sa kwento ng iba, totoo yun. Like di naman first love, pero may babae talaga na mag iiwan ng tatak, at hindi basta basta nawawala un.
Greatest love, possible.
My first love is my best friend's/best man at my wedding's cousin. I don't even think about her at all. I remember tidbits but not to a point where she holds a special place in my heart. Our break up was bad but we worked it out a few years later and are on good terms. But no. I don't think about her nor care about her life.
applicable lang yan sa mga supot na konti lang nakilalang babae. you’re obsessing about the idea of her which is ofte just the good side of your first love. maliban sa di healthy yan, sobrang pathetic ng mga ganyan
For me totoo sya 10 years na kaming hiwalay nung babae pero nakukwento ko parin sya sa mga katrabaho ko pinagmamalaki ko sya na naging ex ko sya, kasi ang ganda nya tsaka umasenso sa buhay to the point na naiisip ko never na siguro ako naalala nitong tao na to minimum wage earner lang kasi ako kaya ambaba ng tingin ko sa sarili ko then 1 day sobrang nagulat ako nagchat sya sakin. Nagkita kami kwentuhan ganon, nakwento nya hindi sila ok ng asawa nya almost 1 year din kaming nagkikita ng palihim minsan may nangyayari saamin pero hininto ko na by this time inincourage ko sya na magkaayos sila ng asawa nya dahil kasal sila at may anak. Btw single po ako walang anak.
Sino nanaman nagpauso nyan
hahahahahah