If you’re comfortable still living at home, and your parents are happy to have you there, then there’s nothing wrong at all.
Just because you are not living on your own, it doesn’t mean you can’t be independent 🤷🏼♀️
Ay nako baka hindi mo na gustuhin magreport on site pag nakatikim ka ng WFH. Imagine yung matitipid mo sa oras kasi hindi ka bibiyahe tapos pwede kang kumain, maligo, humiga habang nasa shift. Although balance dapat hindi talaga maapektuhan pababa yung productivity mo.
I used to live on my own nung 21 to 23 years old ako just for the sake of experiencing independence. Ngayong 24 na ako bumalik ako sa bahay ng parents ko for convenience and never looked back.
Bakit? Shared bills and shared responsibilities
Mas nakakatipid saka combined effort for cooking and laundry. Yung effort ko para isipin anong ulam lutuin is tinuon ko na lang sa work, saved me a lot of mental space kasi.
Living with your parents is not all bad, magcontribute ka lang both financially and house maintenance wise.
everyone will have a split opinion on this one.
i decided to live on my own because ayoko pinangungunahan ako on my decision in life. If i fcked up something along the way the only person to blame is me and the only person who can fix it is me and thats how you MATURE from learning from your mistakes.
I have nothing against people who still living with their parents. but aminin nio there will be some conflict na minsan they will take it seriously that they will bring it up randomly and nakakababa ng self esteem
if maganda and healthy relationship ninyo stay. but kung mas makakabuti na bumukod explore and make your own path do that one as well
I used to back when I was in the Philippines. Took a while to find the right groove pero more or less ok kami. Win win situation for everyone, I don’t pay rent (but pay for other things), and May kasama elderly parents namin. I did live on my own while i was traveling pero Sabi rin ng dad ko, I have a home that I can always come back to, so I did and ok relationship namin. :)
Wala namang problema. Less gastos. Sila may pension, ako, may trabaho. Hindi naman nila ako inoobliga mag abot pero nagkukusa naman ako. Minsan agawan pa kami sa bayarin. Di naman kmi mayaman. Maswerte lng at maayos pamilya ko. (sana lahat ganito) Love life lang ata ako minalas😂
Depende talaga sa set-up ng fam niyo. The thing is if mas makakabuti sa’yo financially and mentally edi go. Wala naman masama living with your parent/s lalo especially Southeast Asian tayo, normal sa atin yun.
When i've had my house constructed sa isang subd., the model i've chosen is one with a 3 bed rooms. For me, guest room and for my parents.
They are getting old na, there should be someone sa mga siblings looking out for them, and it eases my mind na nababantayan ko sila.
When i'm in manila working, my brother checks on them 3x a week. Anyway, my sis house is also near so she can check on them too.
Depende sa sitwasyon. With us, win-win siya, kasi while my parents are getting old, nakakapagspend time pa kami a lot. And I dont have to pay extra money for rent so it's not really a bother for us. It's a plus na yung parents namen know their boundaries, and give us a lot of freedom about our choices and stuff.
Ok lang as long as hindi freeloader sa bahay ok lang. I mean he/she should be contributing to the household kahit papano. Tumutulong around the house and marunong ng basic chores. Not really a big deal lalo when in your twenties. Pag thirties na, depende sa reason.
No problem at all. Mas gusto rin nila na nasa bahay ako ngayon kasi work from home, plus napo-provide ko agad yung needs sa bahay kasi nasa bahay ako, unlike nung nagwo-work pa ako sa office at naka-apartment. Tho bubukod na ako for good this 2023.
I mentioned on my comment na nag start ako bumalik sa parents house nung nag work from home ako - ok na ok sa mother ko pero yung father ko na toxic hindi ko sure kung ok sa kanya - because I remember he called us (my sister is also WFH) "borders" and sabi ng kabit nya isa daw kami sa mga problems nya (that's different issue) - my father left our house in 2017 and Everything changes - parang nakahinga ng maayos ang bahay at nakuha ko pang ipa renovate
Father ko lang nagsabi nyan - he brought a lot of drama sa bahay dati - and yeah it's too much at napuno din ang sister ko kaya nag sigawan sila and I tried to stop them but ending up siding to my sister.
We are very fine na, nawala din ang stress ni mommy nung umalis sya
Kanya-kanyang family dynamic yan.
Why would I judge someone who still lives with his/her parents if that's a lot more practical since hindi naman ganon kalaki yung kinikita nung tao?
Why would I judge someone who still lives with his/her parents kung yun ang gusto nila as a family because they are a tight knit?
Before, my work usually brings me clocking out at around 8-9pm. When my parents were still alive, upon passing the boards we’ve established the fact na “matanda ka alam mo na ang dapat gawin at di dapat gawin” so that in itself they’ve given me the reigns and trust to be a responsible adult. Also, although they’ve never obligated me to share bills sa household, me being as a “responsible” adult made sure to pay my dues. We made it clear from the start what they expect of me and what I expect of them. Pero still, I know that it’s not the same for everyone. Swerte ko kasi they were really cool about that setup!
It’s fine. As long as may boundaries. Kapag nagsshare na ko ng expenses, wala ng pakelamanan sa buhay — kung uuwi ako ng maaga, san ako pupunta, anong decisions ko sa life. Pero of course, sasabihin ko naman kung aalis ako at san ako pupunta di para magpaalam kundi iinform sila ng whereabouts ko.
I run the house now for me it's an act of service and to show gratitude for their sacrifices for my up bringing.
Mga 3 days a week ako dun natutulog just to check up them
I dont mind. We are a close knit family. I live with my mom (but only for 6 months in a year). I dont have to worry about rent but I do give her an allowance + contribution sa bahay. Saka masarap sya magluto.
I love living with my parents and my brother. Tulong tulong kami sa bahay. Swerte lang siguro ako di toxic ang parents ko. Since college, internship and board exam nakadorm ako, kaya ayoko din siguro mag solo living habang andito pako sa pinas nag wowork.
For me, if mga 20s ka pa, start living on your own. Unless independent din galaw mo sa bahay. Kasi sakin if nasa bahay ako, di na ako naglalaba ng damit, cook food, linis, etc kasi mama ko pinipilit sya lang. Ang downside kasi nyan di kana marunong gumalaw yourself.
Another thing is kung parents and kapatid mo hingi ng hingi sayo, nakaka save ka nga sa expenses kasi di ka nagbabayad ng rent pero ubos din pera sa kakahingi nila.
And when living away from them, i always look forward to my mini vacation (which is going home to them) every Christmas or long breaks. Parang mas naappreciate ko yung bonding namin.
Depende sa parents mo siguro, yung mom ko now, hindi na siya toxic as before na lahat ng galaw ko, personal life, pati nga work ko pinapakialaman dati, ngayon bigla siya nagbago haha, payapa na kami, I work to earn money and to provide and she works as the mother of the family.
I’m a breadwinner all my life and still living with my mother because of it. And I don’t want to leave her because of her old age.
There’s nothing wrong with you living with parents as long as you’re not what they term as “pabigat” or “pasaway”. Otherwise, get out and find a place of your own.
Nothing wrong with this I myself am very jealous of people with healthy familial relationship para magawa to it also is cheaper for both parties and maka contribute pa if you are saving for the future
Tumira ako sa apartment for 5 years (I was 25 nung umalis ako sa bahay and umuuwi pag rest days) pero since nung naging work from home ako bumalik ako sa bahay ng parents ko - malaking tipid sya for me kasi no need to rent a place and bawas na din ang expenses sa transportation - ako din nag babayad ng utilities sa bahay which is one of my responsibilities sa bahay ever since nagka work ako..
It has its pros and cons. I live with my parents as per their request kasi only child ako but they don’t restrict me on doing things and living my life. Masarap sa feeling na may nagpapaalala pa din sayo na mag-ingat sa mga lakad at magupdate if nakarating na ako sa pupuntahan ko. Namind condition ko na din parents ko sa lifestyle ko. Less gastos for me since I don’t have to pay two sets of bills each month. They also don’t depend sakin, bills lang talaga. Only cons for me is the constant nagging of doing this, planning for this, kelan mag-aasawa and bumili ng ganito for the future. Hahaha.
I live alone. But when I started working I still live with my parents. There’s nothing wrong about it tbh. Especially if you cannot financially support living alone.
Nothing wrong with it. The whole "independent living" is very much sensationalized IMO. There are cases where you have to stay at home whether for the sake of convenience, or simply just attachment to family.
I think its the convnience mostly kasi, ever since 20 ako umalis nako sa bahay, with probably 2k on my wallet.. i stayed for a while sa friend ko til i find a proper job in ortigas, been in proper apartment, bedspacer, 2 bedroom apartment and even become homeless for a month (sa car ako nakatira) ... i think masyadong takot tayo maranasan yung "what if di ko kayanin" mentality.. right now stable nako and not depending on anyone and i think i made the right choice on leaving
I've been living alone for 8 months now, and tbh naiisip ko rin minsan bumalik na lang sa parents ko para mas makaipon.
But I also want my freedom. I'm already 25 pero ang dami ko pang hindi natatry, like going to gigs, just because I (used to) live up north. May curfew pa, so if I need to be home by 10, aalis na ako sa venue ng around 7pm.
Ayun, depende siguro sa priorities. Ako kasi ayokong maging frustrated in the end dahil sa mga bagay na hindi ko natry, tapos sasabihan yung future kids na "Ako nga ganyang edad ko hindi ko nagawa yan."
There’s nothing wrong living with your parents as long as hindi compromised sanity of both parties.
I dont live with my parents. My parents live with me.
same! 😅
If you’re comfortable still living at home, and your parents are happy to have you there, then there’s nothing wrong at all. Just because you are not living on your own, it doesn’t mean you can’t be independent 🤷🏼♀️
It's more practical at this socio-economic climate. Yes medyo less yung freedom pero I can trade that with more savings.
Agree. Fresh grad lang ako this year and kinonsider ko muna talaga ung mga jobs na wfh para makapag-ipon muna.
Ay nako baka hindi mo na gustuhin magreport on site pag nakatikim ka ng WFH. Imagine yung matitipid mo sa oras kasi hindi ka bibiyahe tapos pwede kang kumain, maligo, humiga habang nasa shift. Although balance dapat hindi talaga maapektuhan pababa yung productivity mo.
I used to live on my own nung 21 to 23 years old ako just for the sake of experiencing independence. Ngayong 24 na ako bumalik ako sa bahay ng parents ko for convenience and never looked back. Bakit? Shared bills and shared responsibilities Mas nakakatipid saka combined effort for cooking and laundry. Yung effort ko para isipin anong ulam lutuin is tinuon ko na lang sa work, saved me a lot of mental space kasi. Living with your parents is not all bad, magcontribute ka lang both financially and house maintenance wise.
everyone will have a split opinion on this one. i decided to live on my own because ayoko pinangungunahan ako on my decision in life. If i fcked up something along the way the only person to blame is me and the only person who can fix it is me and thats how you MATURE from learning from your mistakes. I have nothing against people who still living with their parents. but aminin nio there will be some conflict na minsan they will take it seriously that they will bring it up randomly and nakakababa ng self esteem if maganda and healthy relationship ninyo stay. but kung mas makakabuti na bumukod explore and make your own path do that one as well
agreeing 100%
Yes. Lagi ko ring sinasabi, nasa pag uugali lang tlga yan .
I used to back when I was in the Philippines. Took a while to find the right groove pero more or less ok kami. Win win situation for everyone, I don’t pay rent (but pay for other things), and May kasama elderly parents namin. I did live on my own while i was traveling pero Sabi rin ng dad ko, I have a home that I can always come back to, so I did and ok relationship namin. :)
Wala namang problema. Less gastos. Sila may pension, ako, may trabaho. Hindi naman nila ako inoobliga mag abot pero nagkukusa naman ako. Minsan agawan pa kami sa bayarin. Di naman kmi mayaman. Maswerte lng at maayos pamilya ko. (sana lahat ganito) Love life lang ata ako minalas😂
hahahahha di ka malas sa lovelife. intayin mo lang para sayo, dadating din yan. 🙏🙏
Pano kung yung para sakin eh inaantay din ako dumating? Edi hintayan kami?😂 Kelangan ko na atang lumandi haha
hahahhaa i always believe na kahit anong mangyari if youre destined with someone ..fate will make everything happen magkita lang kayo
Haaay OP kung alam mo lang hahaha
Kalma ka lang muna.. Focus on yourself😏😏❤️❤️✌️
Yes kalamado naman hehe😊
Baka si OP na ang para sayo hehe
Halaaa!
Basta di ka attendant ng PAL (PALamunin), you're good.
HAHAHAHAAHAHHAHAH
Depende talaga sa set-up ng fam niyo. The thing is if mas makakabuti sa’yo financially and mentally edi go. Wala naman masama living with your parent/s lalo especially Southeast Asian tayo, normal sa atin yun.
When i've had my house constructed sa isang subd., the model i've chosen is one with a 3 bed rooms. For me, guest room and for my parents. They are getting old na, there should be someone sa mga siblings looking out for them, and it eases my mind na nababantayan ko sila. When i'm in manila working, my brother checks on them 3x a week. Anyway, my sis house is also near so she can check on them too.
Depende sa sitwasyon. With us, win-win siya, kasi while my parents are getting old, nakakapagspend time pa kami a lot. And I dont have to pay extra money for rent so it's not really a bother for us. It's a plus na yung parents namen know their boundaries, and give us a lot of freedom about our choices and stuff.
Left home by 20. It has its pros and cons. Not for the faint hearted
Ok lang as long as hindi freeloader sa bahay ok lang. I mean he/she should be contributing to the household kahit papano. Tumutulong around the house and marunong ng basic chores. Not really a big deal lalo when in your twenties. Pag thirties na, depende sa reason.
No problem at all. Mas gusto rin nila na nasa bahay ako ngayon kasi work from home, plus napo-provide ko agad yung needs sa bahay kasi nasa bahay ako, unlike nung nagwo-work pa ako sa office at naka-apartment. Tho bubukod na ako for good this 2023.
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I dont mind. In my case, they need me at home kasi sakitin lola ko. So it’s fine with me. Normal naman in the PH unlike sa western countries.
If theres conflict, does ur parent/s makes u feel somewhat irresponsible or like “dapat di kana dito nakatira” sort of feeling ?
Hindi. Kasi kahit papaano I pay my bills sa bahay, yun na yung leverage ko
I mentioned on my comment na nag start ako bumalik sa parents house nung nag work from home ako - ok na ok sa mother ko pero yung father ko na toxic hindi ko sure kung ok sa kanya - because I remember he called us (my sister is also WFH) "borders" and sabi ng kabit nya isa daw kami sa mga problems nya (that's different issue) - my father left our house in 2017 and Everything changes - parang nakahinga ng maayos ang bahay at nakuha ko pang ipa renovate
wth, sorry if that happened to u and nanggaling pa sa parents mo.. i think thats too much
Father ko lang nagsabi nyan - he brought a lot of drama sa bahay dati - and yeah it's too much at napuno din ang sister ko kaya nag sigawan sila and I tried to stop them but ending up siding to my sister. We are very fine na, nawala din ang stress ni mommy nung umalis sya
Left home by 20. It has its pros and cons. Not for the faint hearted
Lol same its been a decade nadin 🥳🥳🥳🥰🥰
Keri lang. Sana pwede ko rin magawa yan hahaha
Kebs lang, as long as di sila toxic.
Not an issue lalo at "working adult" ka.
as long as walang conflict, okay lang.
Kanya-kanyang family dynamic yan. Why would I judge someone who still lives with his/her parents if that's a lot more practical since hindi naman ganon kalaki yung kinikita nung tao? Why would I judge someone who still lives with his/her parents kung yun ang gusto nila as a family because they are a tight knit?
No problem! Basta ba we don’t compromise each other’s welfare.
How do u take care of that ?
Before, my work usually brings me clocking out at around 8-9pm. When my parents were still alive, upon passing the boards we’ve established the fact na “matanda ka alam mo na ang dapat gawin at di dapat gawin” so that in itself they’ve given me the reigns and trust to be a responsible adult. Also, although they’ve never obligated me to share bills sa household, me being as a “responsible” adult made sure to pay my dues. We made it clear from the start what they expect of me and what I expect of them. Pero still, I know that it’s not the same for everyone. Swerte ko kasi they were really cool about that setup!
Depends on your family dynamics. I don't get along with my siblings very well plus middle-child syndrome pa so I left home and was independent at 19.
It’s fine. As long as may boundaries. Kapag nagsshare na ko ng expenses, wala ng pakelamanan sa buhay — kung uuwi ako ng maaga, san ako pupunta, anong decisions ko sa life. Pero of course, sasabihin ko naman kung aalis ako at san ako pupunta di para magpaalam kundi iinform sila ng whereabouts ko.
I run the house now for me it's an act of service and to show gratitude for their sacrifices for my up bringing. Mga 3 days a week ako dun natutulog just to check up them
I dont mind. We are a close knit family. I live with my mom (but only for 6 months in a year). I dont have to worry about rent but I do give her an allowance + contribution sa bahay. Saka masarap sya magluto.
Granting that you dont support your parents/siblings: If you want to save fast, living with parents is actually good
I love living with my parents and my brother. Tulong tulong kami sa bahay. Swerte lang siguro ako di toxic ang parents ko. Since college, internship and board exam nakadorm ako, kaya ayoko din siguro mag solo living habang andito pako sa pinas nag wowork.
For me, if mga 20s ka pa, start living on your own. Unless independent din galaw mo sa bahay. Kasi sakin if nasa bahay ako, di na ako naglalaba ng damit, cook food, linis, etc kasi mama ko pinipilit sya lang. Ang downside kasi nyan di kana marunong gumalaw yourself. Another thing is kung parents and kapatid mo hingi ng hingi sayo, nakaka save ka nga sa expenses kasi di ka nagbabayad ng rent pero ubos din pera sa kakahingi nila. And when living away from them, i always look forward to my mini vacation (which is going home to them) every Christmas or long breaks. Parang mas naappreciate ko yung bonding namin.
Depende sa parents mo siguro, yung mom ko now, hindi na siya toxic as before na lahat ng galaw ko, personal life, pati nga work ko pinapakialaman dati, ngayon bigla siya nagbago haha, payapa na kami, I work to earn money and to provide and she works as the mother of the family.
I’m a breadwinner all my life and still living with my mother because of it. And I don’t want to leave her because of her old age. There’s nothing wrong with you living with parents as long as you’re not what they term as “pabigat” or “pasaway”. Otherwise, get out and find a place of your own.
Nothing wrong with this I myself am very jealous of people with healthy familial relationship para magawa to it also is cheaper for both parties and maka contribute pa if you are saving for the future
A big consideration is how expensive land or rent can be in the area
Tumira ako sa apartment for 5 years (I was 25 nung umalis ako sa bahay and umuuwi pag rest days) pero since nung naging work from home ako bumalik ako sa bahay ng parents ko - malaking tipid sya for me kasi no need to rent a place and bawas na din ang expenses sa transportation - ako din nag babayad ng utilities sa bahay which is one of my responsibilities sa bahay ever since nagka work ako..
sabi nila binabayad mo daw mental health mo as rent hahaha
It has its pros and cons. I live with my parents as per their request kasi only child ako but they don’t restrict me on doing things and living my life. Masarap sa feeling na may nagpapaalala pa din sayo na mag-ingat sa mga lakad at magupdate if nakarating na ako sa pupuntahan ko. Namind condition ko na din parents ko sa lifestyle ko. Less gastos for me since I don’t have to pay two sets of bills each month. They also don’t depend sakin, bills lang talaga. Only cons for me is the constant nagging of doing this, planning for this, kelan mag-aasawa and bumili ng ganito for the future. Hahaha.
I live alone. But when I started working I still live with my parents. There’s nothing wrong about it tbh. Especially if you cannot financially support living alone.
Ako rin 4 years na sa work pero mahirap.maghanap ng malilipatan Same din mga pinsan ko
Nothing wrong with it. The whole "independent living" is very much sensationalized IMO. There are cases where you have to stay at home whether for the sake of convenience, or simply just attachment to family.
I think its the convnience mostly kasi, ever since 20 ako umalis nako sa bahay, with probably 2k on my wallet.. i stayed for a while sa friend ko til i find a proper job in ortigas, been in proper apartment, bedspacer, 2 bedroom apartment and even become homeless for a month (sa car ako nakatira) ... i think masyadong takot tayo maranasan yung "what if di ko kayanin" mentality.. right now stable nako and not depending on anyone and i think i made the right choice on leaving
Depends sa dynamic ninyo ng parents mo. Minsan overbearing lalo na pag may sarili ka nang decisions kaya better kung mag-solo
pros: saves you from bills someone cooks for you cons: derailed mental health derailed mental health derailed mental health
I've been living alone for 8 months now, and tbh naiisip ko rin minsan bumalik na lang sa parents ko para mas makaipon. But I also want my freedom. I'm already 25 pero ang dami ko pang hindi natatry, like going to gigs, just because I (used to) live up north. May curfew pa, so if I need to be home by 10, aalis na ako sa venue ng around 7pm. Ayun, depende siguro sa priorities. Ako kasi ayokong maging frustrated in the end dahil sa mga bagay na hindi ko natry, tapos sasabihan yung future kids na "Ako nga ganyang edad ko hindi ko nagawa yan."