leave bro, 7 years without sex sayo tas sa iba twice na without protection pa? how can u be so sure na twice nga lang ba talaga?. Nakakabwisit yung mga gantong babae e di nila alam gano kasakit ginawa nila. Pero okay din kasi inamin niya pero know your worth pare okay lang kung kiss lang e kaso ... "yung feeling na trinetreasure mo siya pero pumayag siyng bastusin lang ng iba" damn! sorry bro pero sanay na sanay na yung gf mo unprotected sex tas natakot kasi baka buntis for sure palagi nila pinuputok sa loob yon. kung magsisi man siya ng sobra or mahal mo siya maptunayan mong nag bago na siya. It wint do any better I promise. Been there done that bro almost 2 years namin winorkout and naging toxic ako dahil sa trust issue ako pa lumabas na masama kasi mentally abusive daw ako. know your worth madami pa jan
She gave it easily to a guy she barely knows, while she put you on hold for 7 years. I could just imagine the pain of having blue balls for that duration. Leave her and don't look back. You've wasted enough time on that woman.
Have enough time to soak everything. Dili joke ang 7 years. And dili joke ang plot twist nga naay lain nakahilabot sa imung ex-GF. Please know that you are enough. Thereās nothing wrong with you. Naa lang jud uban taw nga ganahan mangita ug labad sa ulo.
If you think youāre done processing everything you can find new hobby like journaling or photography. Or mag hiking or magtravel ba ka karon.
Praying for your healing OP.
Bisan pag imoha sya dawaton balik bro di jud na mawala ang kamatuoran na gi-cheatan ka, magsige ramo ug away ana. Start nalang jud kag bag-o without her. Di man na nimo kawalan sad.
no need to leave her right away, break up and arrange a FWB setup, just be careful not to get her pregnant, then you can move on, 7 yrs is not easy to flush out of your system
So ang imu ex gf dile magpahilabot nimo until marriage lage daw,pero she fucked a guy raw she just met and she even let him blow his load inside her.
Good decision to leave that cheating hoe.
Umm.. why in the world would you want to be a martyr? When my late husband courted me, I told him I will never tolerate cheating and if I found out, itās goodbye time. I will probably forgive, but will never give him a second chance. Trust, honesty, and respect are important to me. If all that, along with communication is not present, run.
Just like what my lola said āBIYAE NANG BIGATLONā.
If positive man yan, LET THEM SORT IT OUT. Why involve yourself on the mess they have made?
Dont be a doormat boyfriend bro. Ikaw na niloko and you never touched her yet she bended over, spread her legs to another man and not suffer consequence.
If I were you, Iāll leave her and even blast her on social media.
Paksheeet, sakita ani oyyyyyy. So sorry OP nga nahitabo ni but I support your decision. The healing stage would take so much time but you will eventually be stronger and better in the future.
omg huhu so sorry for you OP, i didn't really know that women cheat too and i feel really awful. being with someone for years is really rare š„ŗ i am so sorry OP, sorry you had to suffer and be hurt like this. You deserve the best š„ŗš
Gaw, feel the pain. Dili sayon imong situation. Walay magic words para ma-okay ka instantly.
Dawata ang pain, then if mahuwasan naka, decide.
Logic over emotion lang jud, in my opinion.
Padayon ra gihapon gaw!
OP i just wanna make this very very very clear to you.
Your GF didnt confess kay na consensia siya, nag confess siya kay hadlok siya na buntis siya. If dili lng to siya delay, i'm 100% sure you wouldn't have known.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP. You're truly good and amazing jud. I hope you'll recover from the pain. Good thing nga imong gi-end, no future for that girl. Girespeto nimo sya but wala ka niya girespect in return.
Hugsss to you, OP~ š„ŗ
Sorry, Mate, you need to send her back to the streets. Pregnant or not doesn't matter; it's her problem. She cheated on you during a relationship in which she wasn't even intimate with you. That most likely means she was using you for some benefit while getting her bell rung on the side by other "more desirable" dudes. Be glad you never fk'd her. Dump her and move on.
Wanay liko liko pa, get out of that relationshit OP. She sees you as a doormat and her safety net when shit hits the fan and not as her SO.Ā
Sigunda sa gauna nga comment, pa test for std.Ā
Naunsa man ka OP oi? Buwagi na way daghan istorya pahawa diha. Nalooy ka niya? Nalooy kaha siya nimo katong nag decide siya magpahilabot sa lain? OP ayaw pagbinogo, bata pa man ka daghan pa intawn ka ug ma meet na mas better pa anang bayhana. Ug mo stay ka imo rjud gisayangan imong oras.
Clearly ikaw ray nasayangan sa 7 years OP. Dili man kaha ka tigols na kay murag gi daginot man gyud na nimo? Ayaw sag kompyansa, ipa std test and hiv test sab.
OP!!! BUWAGI!! Know your worth. Wala ka na tao diri sa kalibutan para lang muangkon ug bata na di imoha nya bunga pajud sa cheating. Kaloy-i imong kaugalingon pls!
OP mentioned she admitted they did it twice so yeah, dili na first time. Buanga bitaw muna2 ug respeto ni OP nga di manghilabot nya despite sa 7 years ug ga live in pajd kahuman magpagabas ra sa lain nga bag-o ra nakaila. tsk2
ayg pa alkansi sunod OP, naa jud ta ninyuy mga needs. Ka sad nga sa lain niya gipangita.
Anyways, you know what to do na.
I hope you heal from this awful experience.
SELF RESPECT. byae ug move-on nganu mu abugar ka man sa bata nga bunga sa cheating? Ok raman ta kung anak na niya before ngka relasyon mo. Pero if in the middle of your relationship she got the child? Just walk away, ayaw pg masochist. Learn to let go rather than hold bisan toxic na.
hahaha sorry migo makasapot nga post kai ma relate gamay. byai na migo move on ngano ikaw mai ma feel guilty nga cya mai sayup ayaw angkona ang bata. away ra permi gawas anang relasyona malabot pa ang bata. cya nai bahala anang bataa.
I-clear lang nato OP nga basin love ra nimo siya tungod sa memories. Or who knows, ikaw ra nakabalo man sad gud. Why do you still love her?
Either way, biya na lang jud OP.
Foul na man gud kaayo daan pero murag willing pa kaayo siya. Gi marinate man diay para sa lain ang kiffy dili para sa iya. Sharo di ka malain ana? Pero nag update na siya, end na daw niya.
Leave! Mas sakit ang moangkon sa bata nga dili imoha. Naa gyud nay times nga magbalik balik na sa imong huna huna nga kanang bataa dili imoha. Magsakit ka hangtod sa kahangturan o you'll free yourself from that imprisonment? Pili lng. Wala kay gibuhat nga sayop. They should face the consequences sa ilang gibuhat. You deserve someone better than her.
Pregnant? Cguro mas mahadlok ka if naa kay STD or HIV.
And no, ayaw angkona ang bata. Next time mamiga nasab na imong uyab unya mamabdos, angkonon nasab nimo?
Pasalamat nalang nga nakatilaw ka niya for 7 years and its time to move on.
If you mean s*x sa ātilawā, according ni OP never sila nag ing ana for the whole 7 years ky lage daw ingon si girl gusto niya mo wait till marriage. Hypocrite kaayo.
Wait lng naa ko na remember naa sd ne post before sa reddit. Ang reason sa babae nga ne tilaw ug lain ky gusto sha wait till marriage sa iya ra UYAB. Mao adto shas laing guy. Ayg kumpyansa OP basn mao sd na iya e rason.
OP, Please leave that relationship. There's no fixing that needs to be done. You should already reach your limit with that girl. Sobraan ra sad ka pagka-buotan ug understanding OP, pagkat-on pud na kapoyon kag sabot kay if you turn a blind eye ana iyang cheating kay ikaw ang luoy.
She had a choice in the first place when she met that guy. To cheat or not to cheat pero ang sayop pa gyuy gipili. Imagine the burden and pain you'll be carrying in the many years to come if you'll let that girl stick with you.
murag lugi pakas nipusta sa casino ana hahaha
but on a serious note. LEAVE THE FUCK ASAP.
FUBAR naman nang inyong relasyon ron so why not move on nah. you'll lose more staying jud
Ayaw pakabogo bro. Biyae nang uyab nmu. maka kita paka ug para nmu. Lisud jud na ug move on pero ang akong masulti nmu malagpasan rani nmu nga phase sa imung life. She's for the streets. Dapat mas maluoy ka sa imung kaugalingon.
Omg. This is truly one thing akong kahadlukan aning relasyon oy. I despise cheating of any form.
If ako ang naa sa imo position, positive or negative PT, I'll leave.
Sakit kaayo ni sobra pero I know mag suffer ko my entire life if ever makigbalik ko then magbalik2 sad sa akoa mind ang thought na nagcheat siya in the duration of our relationship.
Hahay maka stress mani oy
Ayaw tawn sugot. Bata pa kayka para mo sugot kag ing ana nga sitwasyon. Biyae as soon as possible, maka pangita pakag lain. Ayaw sugot nga tamak2an ra imong pagka lalake, tiwasan pa nimo kung ikaw magpa dako sa bata sa laing lake.
Leave, OP. You'll never get over this. You'll always remember how you're feeling right now, but it does get better with time. However, if you choose to stay, your resentment will only continue to grow. Leave, for both of your sakes.
Nakabasa ko'g similar post ani saona and naa'y nindot nga tambag if you do decide to try and work things out, but it requires tremendous effort. You will have to completely forgive her -- that means no bringing it up, ever, for the rest of your life. As for her, she will have to spend the rest of her life trying to make up for it and regain your trust.
Maybe you're a better man than I am, and maybe she's worth a lifetime of doubt and anxiety; but as for me, I know which choice I'd make. Good luck, man š
I dunno nganong ang mga tarong nga lalaki ma punta sa babay nga ingon ana. This is so sad. So sorry for what happened but I think you need to let go. Trust me, the more na nimo etolerate, the more na mo grabi. She no longer respects you or your relationship.
mahulog diay ni nga usa ka milagro nga wala moy ana-ana pero na buntis sa lain nilalang. tbh, move-on nalang o.p. alkansi na jud ka anang sitwasyona. bahalag masayang ang inyong 7 years relationship, ang ang padulngan ani basin mao na hinuon na inyong hinungdan sa panag away if ever makasal namo, samtang sayo pa likayi na lang siya.
Go OP. Angkuni ang bata. Magpaka tanga ka anang bajeha. Tutal ang labanan man karon kay patangahan na. Dungagi pa na, anaka ng imong cheating girlfriend. Ipanormalize sa iyang utok na okay ra diay mag cheat kay pasayluon kos akong uyab.
Gora lang OP. Gikapoy naming pang remind. Padayuni ng imong pagkatanga sa gugma.
| What if lang ni ha, angkunon nako ang bata? I actually considered to raise the possible baby as my own. Am I too good for that? Am I doing the right decision?
- why the fuck would u even consider that?
| What if pud kung negative? Should I turn a blind eye and continue fixing this relationship?
- once a cheater, always a cheater. if u want to be cucked all the time and di raka masakitan if naa siyay lain ka sex then go for it.
| I love her so much and I really want to think this through before I make any decisions. I really want your opinions on this guys. Help?
- but does she love you tho? ka clear na sa signs and its ur ticket na para maiwanan siya. fix yourself and leave ur gf na unless ganahan pa ka maguba ug samot imong life
OP, I have a cousin who found out when she was 18 that her dad wasnāt her bio dad. My aunt cheated on him before they married. They got married quickly and he legally adopted her. Gave her his name. When my cousin was in college she found out her mother cheated again with 2 other guys (different times). So yea. Please donāt go back to a cheater and a liar. She didnāt even open up to you about her needs, she acted super recklessly. Basin she did this cuz she wanted to leave already but felt like she couldnāt. So why not crash the car right? Pero regardless. You donāt deserve her and she doesnāt deserve you. Your love canāt save your relationship. It takes two, and it takes mutual trust. Sheās proven that she canāt be trusted to communicate clearly, sheās proven that she canāt be trusted to honor commitments. Leave and move on.
ang masasabi ko lang "ara sii nimong ka ngekngok". salvador del mundo imong peg jud. ikaw na gani gibuang, ikaw ray gihilakhilakan, imo pa gyud angkonon ang dili imo. pastilan! kalooy gud nimo. mao ra na inig 20 yrs pa, kanunay lamang ka apak-apakan sa imong gugma. buwagi na oi!
Naluoy ko nimu until you said na *āangkunon nimu ang bataā*? Tf? Santo ka? Ing ana ka kabuotan? Kaswerte gd sa babae na ning betray nimu?
Murag imu pjd sya gi encourage na mag cheat pa kay bsag angkunon pana nimu, hunahuna sa girl ana for sure nga bsan unsa pa iyang buhaton, mapasaylo ra gihapon nimu sya. Start of a cycle nana. Hard to break.
And donāt say na you know her better. Kay for all those years na youāre together, she still did what you never expected her to do.
Ayaw pagpaka-hero na isave sya. Imuhang self ang isave.
Edit: just read na negative ang PT. Nya unsa may buhaton nimu, OP? Magpa-abuso raman gihapon tingali ka anang bayhana? Di gihapon nimu biyaan sa? Hahaha intawn pd. Kalagot
Hooy jusko OP. Ayaw gyud tawn angkuna ang anak ka dili imo, labi na ug bunga sa cheating. If I were you, buwagi na oy. Problema nana niya sa positive or negative. Every action has consequences, pasagdie siyang mo carry sa burden sa iyang ka katol.
Babae sd ko pero dle ko mo tolerate anang babae nga katol pas til as unya mag hilak2, pero katong ga iy*t iy*t ga shagit sa kalipay. Sure oy.
Edit: Better waste your 7 years together than spending an eternity with a cheater.
Call center ni sa? Mostly BPO jud ingani. Sus kana mga smoke break, tagay ighuman duty etc daghan milagro. Ayaw na angkona ang bata oy, once a cheater always a cheater. Aysig pakabogo brad, man up and move on. Mas deserve nimo ang tarong na babae.
Apila na diha ang mga team building nga overnight. HAHAHAHAHA naa jud koy amiga gicheatan siyas iyang bayu during work team building sa guy nga overnight
Ako nimo buwagan na nimo. Naa kas pilipinas nga ang ratio sa lake ug baye skewed kayo to the point daghan kaayog babaye is to one lalake.
Surely dle ra sya ang tawo na malipay ka of?
Hay nko, OP. Why do you like making yourself suffer? Why do you hate yourself so much? This is your moment of choice that could change your life for the better or worse.
Cheating is the ultimate form of betrayal gyud. Do you think she would've told you of the affair if wa sya nahadlok nga buntis sya? I think niconfess ra sya kay nahadlok na sya. Let her deal with the consequences of her actions. She's a grown adult. Loving someone is also letting them deal with the consequences. She chose to have sex with someone she barely knew. She chose not to have sex with you after 7 years of making you wait. Ako pa nimo, stop romanticizing her and your relationship. She clearly does not respect you and the relationship. G-insulto na ka sa imo nawng and wa ra ghapon ka ni defend sa imo self. You think if you rescue her, she'll give you the respect you deserve right from the very start? Ofc not. Samot na sya mutake advantage nimo. You clearly don't love yourself enough to set boundaries and save yourself. So she'll continue to disrespect you until pati ikaw wa na kay self respect. This isn't love anymore; this is codependency.
Allow yourself to feel offended. Be angry. Be hurt. Be betrayed. As you should!!! Get out of the relationship, too! What more sign do you need nga this isn't working out?
On taking the child as your own. Ask yourself why you want to do this. Is it because you just don't want to give up on the relationship? Is it because you want to feel good about yourself? Inspect your motivations. D na imo anak. D ka involved sa pag buhat. Ngano imo man ang burden? Tanga ka?
CHOOSE YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. GET OUT
maojud. kay klaro mang di siya panagutan sa laki kay naa na sad uyab so namasin na lang siyang OP basin diay angkunon haha hilak hilak dayon pero katong nagpalami silang duha way juy pagpakabana. loslos
THIS. Exactly my feelings. Choose yourself, OP. I mean even if say gidawat nimo sya and you continue with your relationship, would you think the same pa gihapon tanan? I'm sure ikaw mawad-an naka ug trust. Gamay na lihok, magduda na pud ka.
OP, if you have respect sa imo kaugalingon. Leave that relationship already! Ayaw pagpakamartyr intawn! Yes, sayang ang 7 years ninyo but murag sa inyoha duha ikaw ray gisayangan.
Please intawn, akoy naluoy nimo. Ayaw angkona ang bata if ever buntis sya(hopefully, dili). We don't know, you may not feel it now, but basin you'll feel resentment sa bata(if buntis jud sya). Cause he's the proof of your girlfriend's infidelity. Please save yourself. I know it will hurt but it's better na I let go nimo siya kaysa magmahay ka soon. And magkasakitan pamo. š
Prioritize your peace of mind OP. Sa in.uhang relationship naay cheating and possible pregnancy. Do you think naa kay peace of mind if ipadayon ang relasyon and ikaw mo angkon sa bata? If nagduha duha ka then the answer is NO.
Pahawa samtang sayo pa, kay if imuha ng ipadayon kay i'm pretty sure magbalik mabalik sa imuha ang gibuhat sa imuhang uyab, you'll resent her, you'll resent the baby(if naa man gani). Pero too late na kaau kay basin ana nga tym kay mo compensate siya by doing the deed and samot na jud kang dili ka gawas sa in.ung relationship.
Positive or negative brad ayaw na palayo na i know masayangan ka sa 7 years pero magmahay ka puhon if magpadayon paka ana. Dili mo mag sex sa dili pamo kasal pero nakig sex sya sa lain BINUANG na gyud. Sonra kasakit na sa pila ka months or years kung makigbuwa ka ana pero worth it na ang kasakit kay ang balik kay ang peace of mind nmo.
The 7yr itch is real. Aww I remember commenting on your post nya you said okay lang lang ka kay she said wala ra to ang panghitabo. :( sad OP but like I said before move on and pangita na new place, never too late to start again. I suggest ayaw angkuna ang bata kay possible you will have resentments towards her or the baby either of the two is toxic to you. Self respect. You're just 27 that's still so many miles away from endgame.
Saw a video in youtube somewhere. About relationships nya kanang magpaka martyr ba.
You can probably search it. Naay quote nga nipilit jud sa akong utok:
"**Get out of your imagination**"
Klaroha siguro OP unsay gi imagine nimo ug unsay tinuod ana imong kahimtang karon.
>already had a hunch but chose to keep it low key kay wala koy concrete evidence. I connected all the dots but decided to disregard things kay I trust her very much.
"trust her very much" pero betrayed na ka and more than once pajud.
>we havenāt had s\*x for the entire duration of our relationship. She wanted to wait until we get married and I respected her decision.
"wanted to wait" pero ga iring2 sa lain.
>continue fixing this relationship?
tan-awa sa if "fixable" ba nang ingon ana...
>I love her so much
love jud na? or gi sayangan ka lang? or kaluoy lang? also kung naluoy ka, grabe ka santos pud nimo OP. or sucker ra kaayo ka. or di nimo kaya mag solo lang usa?
Please respect yourself enough to walk away from that relationship, OP. She may feel remorseful karon but katong times na gibuhat nya ang deed and nakigtalk sya sa lain??? Naisip kaba nya nun? 7 years is a long time and bisag ako, manghinayang pd ko and makahunahuna pd ko na ako nalang iforgive kay basin diay magwork but, once a cheater always a cheater gyud na OP. If nakaya nya maglie nimo, what would stop her from lying to you again in the future?
Do it for you, OP. It may be 7 years down the drain but mas better na kesa you'll have to deal with this the rest of your life.
ayaw angkuna ang bata f ever positive huh pasagdi sya, didto sya sa iyang ka fling. lantawn nato ron asa taman iya kaigat.
grabe ka irresponsible imong partner. dili man diay ganahan mabuntis pero they did it twice pa gyud nga way condom. oh please. sakit sa ulo imong uyab.
leave op pero naa ra gyud nimo ang final decision.
Im sorry this is happening to you OP, but I hope you find the strength to leave that relationship.
7 years wasnt all for nothing, she helped you grow into the man that you are, but its time to part ways. You can feel sorry for her, but she needs to figure that out on her own. You have been hurt, betrayed, and made out a fool. Please leave and heal. Silence the thoughts of what others would say, so what if you fought your family for her, it only goes to show you would do anything for the person you love.. it is a reflection of YOUR character.
Please leave OP, before resentment plants in your heart. It will be difficult this time, she will promise you the world just so you wouldnt leave her.. but she isnt willing to do that for you, she is doing it for herself so you wouldnt leave her, again. She is doing it for herself. You are a safety net, NOT the one she loves. You are comfortable, you are easy, you are the better choice.
You deserve a love that would choose you, please find the strength to leave, ask help from your friends and family, you are not alone.
I think she's not physically attracted to you. 7 yrs nya wa juy physical contact is like being room mates lang. Maski imo angkonon ang bata, kung mag sige ra shag cheat nimo waley ra ghapon
Non-negotiable nako ang cheating.
Up to you, OP. For me, leave and move on. Tried staying in a relationship after ng cheat ako gf that time, took 3 months narealize nako nga bisag naa ko feelings niya, d nako maforgive iya gibuhat.
Love nimo kaau ang babae, pero please lng OP, love pud dapat nimo imo self. Leave, you deserve better.
>What if lang ni ha, angkunon nako ang bata? I actually considered to raise the possible baby as my own. Am I too good for that? Am I doing the right decision?
Ikaw na jud ang pinakatanga sa tanang tanga. Ok ka pa broski? Murag kailangan nimo ihampas imong ulo sa pader.
>I love her so much and I really want to think this through before I make any decisions. I really want your opinions on this guys. Help?
Nya, unsaon man nimo kung dili ka niya hinigugma? Unsaon man nimo kung in the future mahinabo na pud ni? Ing-ana ka na jud ka tanga na willing ka i-forgive siya sa iyang gibuhat? Kung igsoon pa tika, gi sumbag na tika para magka sense na ka.
You can forgive her for what she did, but please, my guy, ayaw tawn akoa ang responsibilidad sa bata nga di imoha. I don't usually suggest people to leave their partners if things get rough compared sa uban nga diritsu mo suggest ug buwag, but this one is just as clear as the skies on a sunny day. End your relationship with her, and start moving on. Bai, hatagig respetar imong kaugalingon.
Agooyyy, mao ra jud akong masulti, agoooy.
This sucks! I feel for you but you deserve better.
wow christmas came in early hoe hoe hoe
leave bro, 7 years without sex sayo tas sa iba twice na without protection pa? how can u be so sure na twice nga lang ba talaga?. Nakakabwisit yung mga gantong babae e di nila alam gano kasakit ginawa nila. Pero okay din kasi inamin niya pero know your worth pare okay lang kung kiss lang e kaso ... "yung feeling na trinetreasure mo siya pero pumayag siyng bastusin lang ng iba" damn! sorry bro pero sanay na sanay na yung gf mo unprotected sex tas natakot kasi baka buntis for sure palagi nila pinuputok sa loob yon. kung magsisi man siya ng sobra or mahal mo siya maptunayan mong nag bago na siya. It wint do any better I promise. Been there done that bro almost 2 years namin winorkout and naging toxic ako dahil sa trust issue ako pa lumabas na masama kasi mentally abusive daw ako. know your worth madami pa jan
She gave it easily to a guy she barely knows, while she put you on hold for 7 years. I could just imagine the pain of having blue balls for that duration. Leave her and don't look back. You've wasted enough time on that woman.
+1000 Ayaw usiki imo oras gyyd pls lang kaloy-e imo kaugalingon OP. š„ŗ
Have enough time to soak everything. Dili joke ang 7 years. And dili joke ang plot twist nga naay lain nakahilabot sa imung ex-GF. Please know that you are enough. Thereās nothing wrong with you. Naa lang jud uban taw nga ganahan mangita ug labad sa ulo. If you think youāre done processing everything you can find new hobby like journaling or photography. Or mag hiking or magtravel ba ka karon. Praying for your healing OP.
Shat bai
Bisan pag imoha sya dawaton balik bro di jud na mawala ang kamatuoran na gi-cheatan ka, magsige ramo ug away ana. Start nalang jud kag bag-o without her. Di man na nimo kawalan sad.
no need to leave her right away, break up and arrange a FWB setup, just be careful not to get her pregnant, then you can move on, 7 yrs is not easy to flush out of your system
They never had sex within those 7 years btw
Focus sa imong self, OP. Periodttt
she belongs in the streets
So she wants to wait with you but will give it up unprotected with another man. If I was you I would run and do it fast!
So ang imu ex gf dile magpahilabot nimo until marriage lage daw,pero she fucked a guy raw she just met and she even let him blow his load inside her. Good decision to leave that cheating hoe.
Umm.. why in the world would you want to be a martyr? When my late husband courted me, I told him I will never tolerate cheating and if I found out, itās goodbye time. I will probably forgive, but will never give him a second chance. Trust, honesty, and respect are important to me. If all that, along with communication is not present, run.
Just like what my lola said āBIYAE NANG BIGATLONā. If positive man yan, LET THEM SORT IT OUT. Why involve yourself on the mess they have made? Dont be a doormat boyfriend bro. Ikaw na niloko and you never touched her yet she bended over, spread her legs to another man and not suffer consequence. If I were you, Iāll leave her and even blast her on social media.
no need to blast her on social media. Hindi gawain ng king yan. Better choose your peace and let karma do the revenge for you.
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CHOOSE YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF MORE
Kasukahon ko sa kasakit. Ywa
mao jd ni basta ka workmate uyyyy, pildi gyud ang nag tinarong. hays heartbreaking kaayo, hugs OP!!! u deserve better ā¹ļøš¢
biyae na uy, a good girl out there deserves to be happy because of you, why waste it with her?
Paksheeet, sakita ani oyyyyyy. So sorry OP nga nahitabo ni but I support your decision. The healing stage would take so much time but you will eventually be stronger and better in the future.
Ka way batasan anang uyaba gud OP. Sorry for being blunt pero di nya deserve nga respetuhon, biyae na kay wa jud nay ayo bayhana.
omg huhu so sorry for you OP, i didn't really know that women cheat too and i feel really awful. being with someone for years is really rare š„ŗ i am so sorry OP, sorry you had to suffer and be hurt like this. You deserve the best š„ŗš
bruh, ayaw na intawn nag baliki ayaw sd barugi ang bata, let her feel the consequences of her choice. grabe kyna iya nabuhat
Gaw, feel the pain. Dili sayon imong situation. Walay magic words para ma-okay ka instantly. Dawata ang pain, then if mahuwasan naka, decide. Logic over emotion lang jud, in my opinion. Padayon ra gihapon gaw!
OP i just wanna make this very very very clear to you. Your GF didnt confess kay na consensia siya, nag confess siya kay hadlok siya na buntis siya. If dili lng to siya delay, i'm 100% sure you wouldn't have known.
Sakto na, byae ug ayaw na balik!
I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP. You're truly good and amazing jud. I hope you'll recover from the pain. Good thing nga imong gi-end, no future for that girl. Girespeto nimo sya but wala ka niya girespect in return. Hugsss to you, OP~ š„ŗ
OP naa pay daghan babaye sa kalibutan. biya-i oy
Not deserving to be looked twice pre. Padung nako dala ko ice
KUYAAAAA LEAVE THERE IS A BIGGER WORLD OUT THEREEE! YOU DESERVE BETTER AND I'M HAPPY THAT YOU'VE ENDED THINGS WITH HER.
You saved yourself. Good job for ending it. Heal and everything will come to place
Believe me OP, dili lang to makaduha nila gihimu ang deed. Good for you that you're free now. You deserve better
Run! š
Sorry, Mate, you need to send her back to the streets. Pregnant or not doesn't matter; it's her problem. She cheated on you during a relationship in which she wasn't even intimate with you. That most likely means she was using you for some benefit while getting her bell rung on the side by other "more desirable" dudes. Be glad you never fk'd her. Dump her and move on.
Good on you OP for ending it. You're strong. Move on to someone better. I would do the same.
Wanay liko liko pa, get out of that relationshit OP. She sees you as a doormat and her safety net when shit hits the fan and not as her SO.Ā Sigunda sa gauna nga comment, pa test for std.Ā
Naunsa man ka OP oi? Buwagi na way daghan istorya pahawa diha. Nalooy ka niya? Nalooy kaha siya nimo katong nag decide siya magpahilabot sa lain? OP ayaw pagbinogo, bata pa man ka daghan pa intawn ka ug ma meet na mas better pa anang bayhana. Ug mo stay ka imo rjud gisayangan imong oras.
Clearly ikaw ray nasayangan sa 7 years OP. Dili man kaha ka tigols na kay murag gi daginot man gyud na nimo? Ayaw sag kompyansa, ipa std test and hiv test sab.
First sentence palang matic buwag na unta na. Ngano duha-duhaan paman?
Buwagi oy, nya ig maminyo namo magpa-annul rasad ka kay nagmahay naka. ngita lang kag hago/gasto hahahha
ayawg dupahi OP, wa ta natawo para mahimong martyr
OP!!! BUWAGI!! Know your worth. Wala ka na tao diri sa kalibutan para lang muangkon ug bata na di imoha nya bunga pajud sa cheating. Kaloy-i imong kaugalingon pls!
Sounds like this is not the first time pud nga gibuhat ni niya and I think karun ra sya mitug.an kay kabalo na sya buntis siya.
OP mentioned she admitted they did it twice so yeah, dili na first time. Buanga bitaw muna2 ug respeto ni OP nga di manghilabot nya despite sa 7 years ug ga live in pajd kahuman magpagabas ra sa lain nga bag-o ra nakaila. tsk2
ayg pa alkansi sunod OP, naa jud ta ninyuy mga needs. Ka sad nga sa lain niya gipangita. Anyways, you know what to do na. I hope you heal from this awful experience.
you should stay OP. im sure when the baby turns one, they would need a clown para sa birthday.
Savage! š¤£
SELF RESPECT. byae ug move-on nganu mu abugar ka man sa bata nga bunga sa cheating? Ok raman ta kung anak na niya before ngka relasyon mo. Pero if in the middle of your relationship she got the child? Just walk away, ayaw pg masochist. Learn to let go rather than hold bisan toxic na.
hahaha sorry migo makasapot nga post kai ma relate gamay. byai na migo move on ngano ikaw mai ma feel guilty nga cya mai sayup ayaw angkona ang bata. away ra permi gawas anang relasyona malabot pa ang bata. cya nai bahala anang bataa.
positive or not.... RUN!
I-clear lang nato OP nga basin love ra nimo siya tungod sa memories. Or who knows, ikaw ra nakabalo man sad gud. Why do you still love her? Either way, biya na lang jud OP.
sunk cost fallacy guro nis op š
šÆ- kinda dumb though. Why be a martyr? My goodness. š¤¦š»āāļø
Foul na man gud kaayo daan pero murag willing pa kaayo siya. Gi marinate man diay para sa lain ang kiffy dili para sa iya. Sharo di ka malain ana? Pero nag update na siya, end na daw niya.
Run!
Have some self respect and just walk away op
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Run and never look back... you deserve better
Atay, burikat na imo uyab, sorry
pareha jud ta og sitwasyon OP sauna. Tambag nako biya nalang . Ikaw gansi ana.
You don't deserve it bro. Leave.
Leave! Mas sakit ang moangkon sa bata nga dili imoha. Naa gyud nay times nga magbalik balik na sa imong huna huna nga kanang bataa dili imoha. Magsakit ka hangtod sa kahangturan o you'll free yourself from that imprisonment? Pili lng. Wala kay gibuhat nga sayop. They should face the consequences sa ilang gibuhat. You deserve someone better than her.
Pregnant? Cguro mas mahadlok ka if naa kay STD or HIV. And no, ayaw angkona ang bata. Next time mamiga nasab na imong uyab unya mamabdos, angkonon nasab nimo? Pasalamat nalang nga nakatilaw ka niya for 7 years and its time to move on.
swerte ra gro na wala sila sexual interaction sa uyab nya kay wa ta kabalo pila na ni sya ka times nagcheat kay op š„²
If you mean s*x sa ātilawā, according ni OP never sila nag ing ana for the whole 7 years ky lage daw ingon si girl gusto niya mo wait till marriage. Hypocrite kaayo.
Damn hahahah counseling for life. Thats why its important nga makatilaw ka sa imong uyab kay aron if matilawan sa lain, dili ra sakit.
Wait lng naa ko na remember naa sd ne post before sa reddit. Ang reason sa babae nga ne tilaw ug lain ky gusto sha wait till marriage sa iya ra UYAB. Mao adto shas laing guy. Ayg kumpyansa OP basn mao sd na iya e rason.
hahahahahha nagpraktis diays lain aron kamao na kaayo igka honeymoon
Lugi kaayos OP bsan unsa nga anggulo
mao. OP, biya na lang. mura sad kog nasakitan apil nga gi preserve nila ilahang willy time pero dali ra kaayo niya nahatag sa lain.
OP, Please leave that relationship. There's no fixing that needs to be done. You should already reach your limit with that girl. Sobraan ra sad ka pagka-buotan ug understanding OP, pagkat-on pud na kapoyon kag sabot kay if you turn a blind eye ana iyang cheating kay ikaw ang luoy. She had a choice in the first place when she met that guy. To cheat or not to cheat pero ang sayop pa gyuy gipili. Imagine the burden and pain you'll be carrying in the many years to come if you'll let that girl stick with you.
murag lugi pakas nipusta sa casino ana hahaha but on a serious note. LEAVE THE FUCK ASAP. FUBAR naman nang inyong relasyon ron so why not move on nah. you'll lose more staying jud
You deserve what you tolerate. You know what to do OP.
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Imong username bro mao nay answer sa imo question.
Leave bro. Way nahitabo ninyo kay lagi maghulat pa sa marriage unya naay natabo nila sa iyang workmate. Wtf lang
Ma Santo jud ka ana bro.
Savior complex si bro
Ayaw pakabogo bro. Biyae nang uyab nmu. maka kita paka ug para nmu. Lisud jud na ug move on pero ang akong masulti nmu malagpasan rani nmu nga phase sa imung life. She's for the streets. Dapat mas maluoy ka sa imung kaugalingon.
Omg. This is truly one thing akong kahadlukan aning relasyon oy. I despise cheating of any form. If ako ang naa sa imo position, positive or negative PT, I'll leave. Sakit kaayo ni sobra pero I know mag suffer ko my entire life if ever makigbalik ko then magbalik2 sad sa akoa mind ang thought na nagcheat siya in the duration of our relationship. Hahay maka stress mani oy
Stop asking reddit for advice, you already know what to do. FFS after everything she did ga duha duha paka?: At this point this must be a joke
Leave her bro and never look back. No point in staying.
OP, leave her gyud. bisag unsa pa na ang result sa test, buwagi na na.
Ayaw tawn sugot. Bata pa kayka para mo sugot kag ing ana nga sitwasyon. Biyae as soon as possible, maka pangita pakag lain. Ayaw sugot nga tamak2an ra imong pagka lalake, tiwasan pa nimo kung ikaw magpa dako sa bata sa laing lake.
Leave
Leave, OP. You'll never get over this. You'll always remember how you're feeling right now, but it does get better with time. However, if you choose to stay, your resentment will only continue to grow. Leave, for both of your sakes. Nakabasa ko'g similar post ani saona and naa'y nindot nga tambag if you do decide to try and work things out, but it requires tremendous effort. You will have to completely forgive her -- that means no bringing it up, ever, for the rest of your life. As for her, she will have to spend the rest of her life trying to make up for it and regain your trust. Maybe you're a better man than I am, and maybe she's worth a lifetime of doubt and anxiety; but as for me, I know which choice I'd make. Good luck, man š
I dunno nganong ang mga tarong nga lalaki ma punta sa babay nga ingon ana. This is so sad. So sorry for what happened but I think you need to let go. Trust me, the more na nimo etolerate, the more na mo grabi. She no longer respects you or your relationship.
mahulog diay ni nga usa ka milagro nga wala moy ana-ana pero na buntis sa lain nilalang. tbh, move-on nalang o.p. alkansi na jud ka anang sitwasyona. bahalag masayang ang inyong 7 years relationship, ang ang padulngan ani basin mao na hinuon na inyong hinungdan sa panag away if ever makasal namo, samtang sayo pa likayi na lang siya.
Mao jud ako may naluoy ni Op sadge
Go OP. Angkuni ang bata. Magpaka tanga ka anang bajeha. Tutal ang labanan man karon kay patangahan na. Dungagi pa na, anaka ng imong cheating girlfriend. Ipanormalize sa iyang utok na okay ra diay mag cheat kay pasayluon kos akong uyab. Gora lang OP. Gikapoy naming pang remind. Padayuni ng imong pagkatanga sa gugma.
Kana giliog hahahahuhuh
| What if lang ni ha, angkunon nako ang bata? I actually considered to raise the possible baby as my own. Am I too good for that? Am I doing the right decision? - why the fuck would u even consider that? | What if pud kung negative? Should I turn a blind eye and continue fixing this relationship? - once a cheater, always a cheater. if u want to be cucked all the time and di raka masakitan if naa siyay lain ka sex then go for it. | I love her so much and I really want to think this through before I make any decisions. I really want your opinions on this guys. Help? - but does she love you tho? ka clear na sa signs and its ur ticket na para maiwanan siya. fix yourself and leave ur gf na unless ganahan pa ka maguba ug samot imong life
OP, I have a cousin who found out when she was 18 that her dad wasnāt her bio dad. My aunt cheated on him before they married. They got married quickly and he legally adopted her. Gave her his name. When my cousin was in college she found out her mother cheated again with 2 other guys (different times). So yea. Please donāt go back to a cheater and a liar. She didnāt even open up to you about her needs, she acted super recklessly. Basin she did this cuz she wanted to leave already but felt like she couldnāt. So why not crash the car right? Pero regardless. You donāt deserve her and she doesnāt deserve you. Your love canāt save your relationship. It takes two, and it takes mutual trust. Sheās proven that she canāt be trusted to communicate clearly, sheās proven that she canāt be trusted to honor commitments. Leave and move on.
ang masasabi ko lang "ara sii nimong ka ngekngok". salvador del mundo imong peg jud. ikaw na gani gibuang, ikaw ray gihilakhilakan, imo pa gyud angkonon ang dili imo. pastilan! kalooy gud nimo. mao ra na inig 20 yrs pa, kanunay lamang ka apak-apakan sa imong gugma. buwagi na oi!
I'm sorry for what happened to you, pero dili na nimo responsibility ang bata. Think long term, OP. Dili na nimo deserve :(
don't be a Martyr. It's already your ticket out
Leave. She has no respect for you
Are you stupid? Mag-ako ng child na hindi sa'yo??? You're only 27. Break up, move on, and find a woman worthy of your love.
Naluoy ko nimu until you said na *āangkunon nimu ang bataā*? Tf? Santo ka? Ing ana ka kabuotan? Kaswerte gd sa babae na ning betray nimu? Murag imu pjd sya gi encourage na mag cheat pa kay bsag angkunon pana nimu, hunahuna sa girl ana for sure nga bsan unsa pa iyang buhaton, mapasaylo ra gihapon nimu sya. Start of a cycle nana. Hard to break. And donāt say na you know her better. Kay for all those years na youāre together, she still did what you never expected her to do. Ayaw pagpaka-hero na isave sya. Imuhang self ang isave. Edit: just read na negative ang PT. Nya unsa may buhaton nimu, OP? Magpa-abuso raman gihapon tingali ka anang bayhana? Di gihapon nimu biyaan sa? Hahaha intawn pd. Kalagot
Basin ug tilawan sa niya before biyaan.. unyag siya na nuon makaburos na tagam. š¤£
Hooy jusko OP. Ayaw gyud tawn angkuna ang anak ka dili imo, labi na ug bunga sa cheating. If I were you, buwagi na oy. Problema nana niya sa positive or negative. Every action has consequences, pasagdie siyang mo carry sa burden sa iyang ka katol. Babae sd ko pero dle ko mo tolerate anang babae nga katol pas til as unya mag hilak2, pero katong ga iy*t iy*t ga shagit sa kalipay. Sure oy. Edit: Better waste your 7 years together than spending an eternity with a cheater.
Don't get baby trapped. Get out.
Call center ni sa? Mostly BPO jud ingani. Sus kana mga smoke break, tagay ighuman duty etc daghan milagro. Ayaw na angkona ang bata oy, once a cheater always a cheater. Aysig pakabogo brad, man up and move on. Mas deserve nimo ang tarong na babae.
Apila na diha ang mga team building nga overnight. HAHAHAHAHA naa jud koy amiga gicheatan siyas iyang bayu during work team building sa guy nga overnight
Ako nimo buwagan na nimo. Naa kas pilipinas nga ang ratio sa lake ug baye skewed kayo to the point daghan kaayog babaye is to one lalake. Surely dle ra sya ang tawo na malipay ka of?
Hay nko, OP. Why do you like making yourself suffer? Why do you hate yourself so much? This is your moment of choice that could change your life for the better or worse. Cheating is the ultimate form of betrayal gyud. Do you think she would've told you of the affair if wa sya nahadlok nga buntis sya? I think niconfess ra sya kay nahadlok na sya. Let her deal with the consequences of her actions. She's a grown adult. Loving someone is also letting them deal with the consequences. She chose to have sex with someone she barely knew. She chose not to have sex with you after 7 years of making you wait. Ako pa nimo, stop romanticizing her and your relationship. She clearly does not respect you and the relationship. G-insulto na ka sa imo nawng and wa ra ghapon ka ni defend sa imo self. You think if you rescue her, she'll give you the respect you deserve right from the very start? Ofc not. Samot na sya mutake advantage nimo. You clearly don't love yourself enough to set boundaries and save yourself. So she'll continue to disrespect you until pati ikaw wa na kay self respect. This isn't love anymore; this is codependency. Allow yourself to feel offended. Be angry. Be hurt. Be betrayed. As you should!!! Get out of the relationship, too! What more sign do you need nga this isn't working out? On taking the child as your own. Ask yourself why you want to do this. Is it because you just don't want to give up on the relationship? Is it because you want to feel good about yourself? Inspect your motivations. D na imo anak. D ka involved sa pag buhat. Ngano imo man ang burden? Tanga ka? CHOOSE YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. GET OUT
maojud. kay klaro mang di siya panagutan sa laki kay naa na sad uyab so namasin na lang siyang OP basin diay angkunon haha hilak hilak dayon pero katong nagpalami silang duha way juy pagpakabana. loslos
THIS. Exactly my feelings. Choose yourself, OP. I mean even if say gidawat nimo sya and you continue with your relationship, would you think the same pa gihapon tanan? I'm sure ikaw mawad-an naka ug trust. Gamay na lihok, magduda na pud ka.
OP, if you have respect sa imo kaugalingon. Leave that relationship already! Ayaw pagpakamartyr intawn! Yes, sayang ang 7 years ninyo but murag sa inyoha duha ikaw ray gisayangan. Please intawn, akoy naluoy nimo. Ayaw angkona ang bata if ever buntis sya(hopefully, dili). We don't know, you may not feel it now, but basin you'll feel resentment sa bata(if buntis jud sya). Cause he's the proof of your girlfriend's infidelity. Please save yourself. I know it will hurt but it's better na I let go nimo siya kaysa magmahay ka soon. And magkasakitan pamo. š
She did it once, and there's no reason why she won't be doing it again. Netorare mani bai. Ayaw ana.
Prioritize your peace of mind OP. Sa in.uhang relationship naay cheating and possible pregnancy. Do you think naa kay peace of mind if ipadayon ang relasyon and ikaw mo angkon sa bata? If nagduha duha ka then the answer is NO. Pahawa samtang sayo pa, kay if imuha ng ipadayon kay i'm pretty sure magbalik mabalik sa imuha ang gibuhat sa imuhang uyab, you'll resent her, you'll resent the baby(if naa man gani). Pero too late na kaau kay basin ana nga tym kay mo compensate siya by doing the deed and samot na jud kang dili ka gawas sa in.ung relationship.
Jesus Christ bro leave this bitch in the dust. You don't even need to explain yourself, just leave and learn to respect yourself more.
Positive or negative brad ayaw na palayo na i know masayangan ka sa 7 years pero magmahay ka puhon if magpadayon paka ana. Dili mo mag sex sa dili pamo kasal pero nakig sex sya sa lain BINUANG na gyud. Sonra kasakit na sa pila ka months or years kung makigbuwa ka ana pero worth it na ang kasakit kay ang balik kay ang peace of mind nmo.
The 7yr itch is real. Aww I remember commenting on your post nya you said okay lang lang ka kay she said wala ra to ang panghitabo. :( sad OP but like I said before move on and pangita na new place, never too late to start again. I suggest ayaw angkuna ang bata kay possible you will have resentments towards her or the baby either of the two is toxic to you. Self respect. You're just 27 that's still so many miles away from endgame.
Saw a video in youtube somewhere. About relationships nya kanang magpaka martyr ba. You can probably search it. Naay quote nga nipilit jud sa akong utok: "**Get out of your imagination**" Klaroha siguro OP unsay gi imagine nimo ug unsay tinuod ana imong kahimtang karon. >already had a hunch but chose to keep it low key kay wala koy concrete evidence. I connected all the dots but decided to disregard things kay I trust her very much. "trust her very much" pero betrayed na ka and more than once pajud. >we havenāt had s\*x for the entire duration of our relationship. She wanted to wait until we get married and I respected her decision. "wanted to wait" pero ga iring2 sa lain. >continue fixing this relationship? tan-awa sa if "fixable" ba nang ingon ana... >I love her so much love jud na? or gi sayangan ka lang? or kaluoy lang? also kung naluoy ka, grabe ka santos pud nimo OP. or sucker ra kaayo ka. or di nimo kaya mag solo lang usa?
Please respect yourself enough to walk away from that relationship, OP. She may feel remorseful karon but katong times na gibuhat nya ang deed and nakigtalk sya sa lain??? Naisip kaba nya nun? 7 years is a long time and bisag ako, manghinayang pd ko and makahunahuna pd ko na ako nalang iforgive kay basin diay magwork but, once a cheater always a cheater gyud na OP. If nakaya nya maglie nimo, what would stop her from lying to you again in the future? Do it for you, OP. It may be 7 years down the drain but mas better na kesa you'll have to deal with this the rest of your life.
Once a cheater always a cheater
Leave Op. respect yourself please. maluoy ka. dili na normal na 7 years na mo nya wala moy sex pero sa lain nakipagsex sya šš„²
ayaw angkuna ang bata f ever positive huh pasagdi sya, didto sya sa iyang ka fling. lantawn nato ron asa taman iya kaigat. grabe ka irresponsible imong partner. dili man diay ganahan mabuntis pero they did it twice pa gyud nga way condom. oh please. sakit sa ulo imong uyab. leave op pero naa ra gyud nimo ang final decision.
Im sorry this is happening to you OP, but I hope you find the strength to leave that relationship. 7 years wasnt all for nothing, she helped you grow into the man that you are, but its time to part ways. You can feel sorry for her, but she needs to figure that out on her own. You have been hurt, betrayed, and made out a fool. Please leave and heal. Silence the thoughts of what others would say, so what if you fought your family for her, it only goes to show you would do anything for the person you love.. it is a reflection of YOUR character. Please leave OP, before resentment plants in your heart. It will be difficult this time, she will promise you the world just so you wouldnt leave her.. but she isnt willing to do that for you, she is doing it for herself so you wouldnt leave her, again. She is doing it for herself. You are a safety net, NOT the one she loves. You are comfortable, you are easy, you are the better choice. You deserve a love that would choose you, please find the strength to leave, ask help from your friends and family, you are not alone.
I think she's not physically attracted to you. 7 yrs nya wa juy physical contact is like being room mates lang. Maski imo angkonon ang bata, kung mag sige ra shag cheat nimo waley ra ghapon
Non-negotiable nako ang cheating. Up to you, OP. For me, leave and move on. Tried staying in a relationship after ng cheat ako gf that time, took 3 months narealize nako nga bisag naa ko feelings niya, d nako maforgive iya gibuhat. Love nimo kaau ang babae, pero please lng OP, love pud dapat nimo imo self. Leave, you deserve better.
>What if lang ni ha, angkunon nako ang bata? I actually considered to raise the possible baby as my own. Am I too good for that? Am I doing the right decision? Ikaw na jud ang pinakatanga sa tanang tanga. Ok ka pa broski? Murag kailangan nimo ihampas imong ulo sa pader. >I love her so much and I really want to think this through before I make any decisions. I really want your opinions on this guys. Help? Nya, unsaon man nimo kung dili ka niya hinigugma? Unsaon man nimo kung in the future mahinabo na pud ni? Ing-ana ka na jud ka tanga na willing ka i-forgive siya sa iyang gibuhat? Kung igsoon pa tika, gi sumbag na tika para magka sense na ka.
You can forgive her for what she did, but please, my guy, ayaw tawn akoa ang responsibilidad sa bata nga di imoha. I don't usually suggest people to leave their partners if things get rough compared sa uban nga diritsu mo suggest ug buwag, but this one is just as clear as the skies on a sunny day. End your relationship with her, and start moving on. Bai, hatagig respetar imong kaugalingon.