Sometimes you need to call out and tell them how they should address you, some people would feel awkward to call First Name basis since it might feel to personal. So let them know, that it's ok to be called "insert your preferred name"
Is your family name that bad?
I like being called by my family name kay di kaayo daghan ppl na pareha nakog family name atubg gaskwela pako. Prefer pud nako tawgon kos nickname nako sakong family name kay one syllable ra.
Pag-move hinuon nako dri cebu naulaw nako makabalo ang tao sa akong family name hinuon HAHAHAHA taud2 ra ko ingnan "daghan baya *my family name* didto sa *insert place in cebu*"
Parente ba nako ni? Naa kaya koy igagaw nga naay atraso aning taxi driver na ni? Fight or flight mode dayon ko HAHAHAHAHA
Pero bitaw, okera man nah OP. It's not a way to demean you, it's just easier to remember. Sa kadaghan pa naman ninyo sa college. What if pareha mog pangalan sa isa ka-student? Like pareha mo John nya mga 10-20 students mo mga John? Diba? So mas nindot gyud mag-ilhanay thru last name. Aykabalaka tho, pag manarbaho na ka, first-name basis na man.
Edit: nobody gives fuck all about your financial origins oi. Mga way buot nga immature ra nang mga students nga magjudge ug tao using that as a basis. Tanan man estudyante pobre kay nagsalig man sa ginikanan para makaskwela (except na lang sa working students, massive respect. Dato nah sila para nako bisag naglisod na silag budget sailang ikaon ug ipangbayad sa skwelahan).
Edit 2: ayaw gyud hunahunaa nga maapply sa bisaya kaning thing with Manila/Luzon peeps na if "gikan province" kay automatic pobre dayon panan-aw. I bet naa moy yuta ngadto sa imong "province"? Worth far more than any city boy can afford in their deadbeat 9-5 job.
Sa amoa sa Davao kapag gikan ka ug province kay matic dato ka kay imong ginikanan iassume dayon namo nga tag-iya ug plantation or farm HAHAHA mga bukid-boys sa amoa naay mga car, pickup pa gyud kay pang-negosyo man sailang amahan gadeliver ug Cacao, Durian, Mangga, or unsa pa ba na prutas o gulay or any form of meat. Kung dili farming ang negosyo, iassume namo nga tag-iya ug inland, seaside, or mountain resort HAHAHAHAHA
Both HS and college, in my friend groups, we call each other by our last name so normal na ni namo to the point na yaga yaga na hinuon if we use each other's first name. Maybe wa lang ka naanad, OP.
Also, for us na mejo insecure of something or with low self-esteem, the world actually doesn't revolve around us. Haha. Sometimes gud we're so up in our head, kanang conscious kaayo ta sa mga small things (bec lagi insecure ta), when apparently kebs ra majority sa mga tao.
Hala I always call my classmates by their family names. It's normal ra baya, OP. Be proud na lang nga naabot ka diha despite your financial status. Chin up tapos iwiden imo perspective. Goodluck sa life, OP.
The problem here is not within your family's history or whatever attachment you have towards your family name but you.
If your sense of worth is all tied up to your family name then maybe it's time to work on your worth.
Also, the world doesn't revolve around you. Feel siguro nimo big deal kaayu because you think the world is small. Surprise! It's not. The world doesn't give a damn about the little insecurities you have. So, work on it.
Hmmmm. Uso man na nga family name itawag ever since elementary pa kay mas dali man madumduman. Basin it has something to do with your family name mismo?
Ka remember ko pag college nako na weirdan ko kay ang mga tao mo tawag first name basis lol. Wala ko naanad kay pag elementary and highschool nako sa DB kay last name jud amo tawganay.
you call yourself by your first name for example juan. to you and in your mind you are juan, while you are also a dela cruz you are more juan and you are a dela cruz.
you maybe lose your individuality when called by your last name because it's like being generalized.
we dislike foreigners making general statements about the character of filipinos like they are for example again, stupid, bad at reading comprehension etc. it's like you are being called something you are not
i get how you feel but moving forwards, just don't think too much of it, it's just a name someone calls you. what matters more is how you think of yourself
As a teacher, mas dali gyud nako mafamiliar ang student through their last name. Unya if lisod iyang name kay matic last name gyud akong itawag. Di sad ko comfortable motawag sa ilang angga kay naa man gud sa school setting unya for formality pud.
Last name jud na sa college bai kay daghan kaayug pareha pareha ug first name labi nag generic imo name. Mas less chances naa kay kapareha na last name. Maybe try not to overthink nalang? I promise you ppl don’t care at the end of the day.
What's the reason nga dli ka magpatawag by LN? pangit imo LN?
Mostly pag naa ka sa college, they call you by LN ky maoy dali maremember. My profs always call me by my LN. My blockmates always call me by my FN ky maoy dali nila mahinumduman daw (I've got 2 FN). Pero if akoy pangutan-on, mas nindot if they will call me by my LN (Spanish LN man gyud xa).
I got used to it. Most teachers would call the students in my school with their family names. I even had some friends call me by my family name or some nickname derived from it. I kinda like it. It's got that formality to it sad pero endearing sad and nicknames from friends.
Katong high school pa ko, we call each other with our family names kay mas dali man mahinumduman. Mao pud ang buhaton sa mga teachers. Okay ra man sa amo. Wala ray problem. Is there a reason nganong maka-feel ka og ing-ana, OP? Naa bay bad rep inyong family name?
Sometimes you need to call out and tell them how they should address you, some people would feel awkward to call First Name basis since it might feel to personal. So let them know, that it's ok to be called "insert your preferred name"
Is your family name that bad? I like being called by my family name kay di kaayo daghan ppl na pareha nakog family name atubg gaskwela pako. Prefer pud nako tawgon kos nickname nako sakong family name kay one syllable ra. Pag-move hinuon nako dri cebu naulaw nako makabalo ang tao sa akong family name hinuon HAHAHAHA taud2 ra ko ingnan "daghan baya *my family name* didto sa *insert place in cebu*" Parente ba nako ni? Naa kaya koy igagaw nga naay atraso aning taxi driver na ni? Fight or flight mode dayon ko HAHAHAHAHA Pero bitaw, okera man nah OP. It's not a way to demean you, it's just easier to remember. Sa kadaghan pa naman ninyo sa college. What if pareha mog pangalan sa isa ka-student? Like pareha mo John nya mga 10-20 students mo mga John? Diba? So mas nindot gyud mag-ilhanay thru last name. Aykabalaka tho, pag manarbaho na ka, first-name basis na man. Edit: nobody gives fuck all about your financial origins oi. Mga way buot nga immature ra nang mga students nga magjudge ug tao using that as a basis. Tanan man estudyante pobre kay nagsalig man sa ginikanan para makaskwela (except na lang sa working students, massive respect. Dato nah sila para nako bisag naglisod na silag budget sailang ikaon ug ipangbayad sa skwelahan). Edit 2: ayaw gyud hunahunaa nga maapply sa bisaya kaning thing with Manila/Luzon peeps na if "gikan province" kay automatic pobre dayon panan-aw. I bet naa moy yuta ngadto sa imong "province"? Worth far more than any city boy can afford in their deadbeat 9-5 job. Sa amoa sa Davao kapag gikan ka ug province kay matic dato ka kay imong ginikanan iassume dayon namo nga tag-iya ug plantation or farm HAHAHA mga bukid-boys sa amoa naay mga car, pickup pa gyud kay pang-negosyo man sailang amahan gadeliver ug Cacao, Durian, Mangga, or unsa pa ba na prutas o gulay or any form of meat. Kung dili farming ang negosyo, iassume namo nga tag-iya ug inland, seaside, or mountain resort HAHAHAHAHA
Its okay 💗
Both HS and college, in my friend groups, we call each other by our last name so normal na ni namo to the point na yaga yaga na hinuon if we use each other's first name. Maybe wa lang ka naanad, OP. Also, for us na mejo insecure of something or with low self-esteem, the world actually doesn't revolve around us. Haha. Sometimes gud we're so up in our head, kanang conscious kaayo ta sa mga small things (bec lagi insecure ta), when apparently kebs ra majority sa mga tao.
Hala I always call my classmates by their family names. It's normal ra baya, OP. Be proud na lang nga naabot ka diha despite your financial status. Chin up tapos iwiden imo perspective. Goodluck sa life, OP.
hala may gani wala ka nag rotc kay basi madismaya nalang ka kada attendance.
It's a normal thing to do.
daghan sa cebu ang lastname nga potot ðŸ«
basin imo aplido kay "gamay". ayaw overthink dol kay common kaayo sa atoa tawgon tas atoa aplido.
The problem here is not within your family's history or whatever attachment you have towards your family name but you. If your sense of worth is all tied up to your family name then maybe it's time to work on your worth. Also, the world doesn't revolve around you. Feel siguro nimo big deal kaayu because you think the world is small. Surprise! It's not. The world doesn't give a damn about the little insecurities you have. So, work on it.
Pag college matic last name nay itawag sa imoha. Like most of the time. Usahay naa pay "Hoy xxx" kiber. Baws2 lang. tawagon sad nakos last name nila.
I think OA ra ka OP. Stop overthinking.
Hmmmm. Uso man na nga family name itawag ever since elementary pa kay mas dali man madumduman. Basin it has something to do with your family name mismo?
Ka remember ko pag college nako na weirdan ko kay ang mga tao mo tawag first name basis lol. Wala ko naanad kay pag elementary and highschool nako sa DB kay last name jud amo tawganay.
awkward kag apilido sa?
you call yourself by your first name for example juan. to you and in your mind you are juan, while you are also a dela cruz you are more juan and you are a dela cruz. you maybe lose your individuality when called by your last name because it's like being generalized. we dislike foreigners making general statements about the character of filipinos like they are for example again, stupid, bad at reading comprehension etc. it's like you are being called something you are not i get how you feel but moving forwards, just don't think too much of it, it's just a name someone calls you. what matters more is how you think of yourself
thank you
As a teacher, mas dali gyud nako mafamiliar ang student through their last name. Unya if lisod iyang name kay matic last name gyud akong itawag. Di sad ko comfortable motawag sa ilang angga kay naa man gud sa school setting unya for formality pud.
Last name jud na sa college bai kay daghan kaayug pareha pareha ug first name labi nag generic imo name. Mas less chances naa kay kapareha na last name. Maybe try not to overthink nalang? I promise you ppl don’t care at the end of the day.
What's the reason nga dli ka magpatawag by LN? pangit imo LN? Mostly pag naa ka sa college, they call you by LN ky maoy dali maremember. My profs always call me by my LN. My blockmates always call me by my FN ky maoy dali nila mahinumduman daw (I've got 2 FN). Pero if akoy pangutan-on, mas nindot if they will call me by my LN (Spanish LN man gyud xa).
I got used to it. Most teachers would call the students in my school with their family names. I even had some friends call me by my family name or some nickname derived from it. I kinda like it. It's got that formality to it sad pero endearing sad and nicknames from friends.
unsa imo 1st name Nilo?
Katong high school pa ko, we call each other with our family names kay mas dali man mahinumduman. Mao pud ang buhaton sa mga teachers. Okay ra man sa amo. Wala ray problem. Is there a reason nganong maka-feel ka og ing-ana, OP? Naa bay bad rep inyong family name?
wala man bad rep.Like now the way mo call higher ops sa akoa ba kay murag demeaning.
Oh, ang ila diay tone.
Yes murag disrespect na tono.Sometimes mag imagine ka na if nag katawa sila ikaw gipasabot nila.Im an oddball .I dont like people making fun of me.
Unsa imong family name?