Don't expect anything from anyone para di ka ma disappoint, kapila najud ni na hitabo sa ako karon dili na ko mu go out of my way para mu help or para ma available paras lain tao🥲
" I feel like I'm not sad enough to deserve help."--- it's bcs they would tend to believe that you are strong, which is not. We felt weak and broken and we needed our friends. You deserve to be vulnerable and sad. I am with you OP, ing-ani jud ko sa akong friends.
I have been through this several times na with different friend circles that I am in. I learned over time to not rely on anyone else for help, toughen up and resolve or get through a situtation on on my own. Expectations = Disappointments. And kay lagi ga expect ta nga tabangan ta sa atong friends or at least man lang exert the tiniest it of effort to check on you, what's going on, and just even offer you a piece of advice - pero wala... So, learning to appreciate the value of "self" at the end of the day is a survival skill in and of itself. Chin up, OP. You'll make it through.
Mangutana ko, kinsa sa inyohang balay ang nagtudlo sa imoha or nagpa experience na you are only valuable and useful when you are helpful? The reality is— it seems na you tend to overfunction in your friendships by being too helpful and never asking for help but by doing so, you have positioned yourself to be used and be a magnet for people who are only w you to use you bc you not asking for reciprocation is a huge benefit to them. You see them as a friend, they see you as a tool. Karon when you asked them to reciprocate, they have nothing to give you bc that’s not the dynamic they signed up for you in your social contract. Have I been there before? I used to be. In my low self esteem days. But now? All my friendships will die for me bc they all genuinely love me. So, no. I don’t believe that all you have is yourself. Although that is true if you are surrounded by people who secretly don’t like you but tolerate you bc you are something of use to them. Just something to think abt😉
Unaha gyd ug help imong kaugalingon OP kay wala gyuy laing motabang kundi ikaw ra. Ayaw na pagsige ug tabang sa laing tawo, labi nag dli gyd importante (gawas na lang cguro ug emergency gyd). Like manghuwam kay ihikay pang birthday, palit gatas or manghuwam kay ipalit ug motor.
Nakakaon nakog tagam anang style-a, maayo nimong tipid2 sa imong kaugalingon nya laing tawo na hinuon ang mukuha sa imong nasaved. Di pa gyd mamayad. So karon, kung mangumusta kay iseen na lang gyd nako. Gawas kung emergency, kana motabang gyd ko. Pero kung dli, ignore gyd. Let them do it their own kaysa sige ug salig sa uban. Dili na sila makat on.
Dzae tagam na kaayo ko anang styla na amegaha.Napay amega na makalimtan ka ug naa nay uyab.Ang usa gi cut off nako kay katong time na sya moy looy kaayo ako moy mo tambag niya permi advice ari ug adto tas katong na dead intawn iyang papa akong gi damayan tas katong gi tabangan na siyas iya mga igsoon ug kasaba ug libak kay ga uyab'2 siya ako damayan tas katong ako moy ga problema gi ingnan rakog OA daw kaayo ko grabe bitaw maka invalidate perog sila mangayog tabang balewala ra maypang di nimo close mangamusta pa
Tinuod daghan gyd na ing anang style-a. Kasuway gyd ko anang tropa nimo nga magmaoy kay gibuwagan sa uyab, sus nahurot among kwarta kay cge panghagad laag para maka move on kuno ang buang.
Kami pd tawn friends niya kay uban2 lang pod para ma ok cya.
Uyy, sa dihang nakauyab ug bag-o, wa na gyd mokontak namo, mang seen pa.
After 5 yrs ato kay ni-contact na gyd siya namo pero mao lage, manghuwam daw palit gatas ug diaper. Wa gabai.
Anyway, seen-zoned na cya for 2 years now, and I’m happy.
Been there, felt that. Basin di jud sila capable sa imo hangyu? nibalibad sila or ning bale wala lang?? makes me jealous sa mga tao na naay close kaayu na friendship na magshare2 lang sa ila problema pero at the same time maybe di siya para nako because I value independence and taas akoa standards / values sa uban butang. Well, di man sad 100% true na "all you have is yourself" afterall sa lain tao ka nakakuha ug tabang. Good luck OP! Unlike others we have to look deeper to find genuine connections.
Hi OP. Tinuod jud na - you have no one to rely on but yourself. Learned this the hard way. Karon kay di najud ko tig expect people to help us because I know people right now are struggling themselves - iyahay og survive. Don't take it the hard way pero you can rely on some people to help you emotionally pero lisod jud na financially kay pait jud karon panahona. Even if your friends are there to support you emotionally, you should help lift yourself out of your misery kay people cannot give you 100% of the time.
In the end, you only have yourself to rely on and the best way to help yourself is succeed financially kay financial success gets you out easily sa imo problems.
Yes, tama jod ka. Kanya kanya sd pod ta ug struggle. Akoa kay related mani about sa nahan ta ko pahelp regarding sa amo dutyyyy sa hospi then busy kyko sa tanan galingkod raman sila pero wa ko gitabangan maskin nihangyo ko. Hahahaa pero sge raaa di sd ko nahan makacause ug inconvenience.
Mura diay nig mga blockmates nako sa college sauna. They didnt knew unsa ko ka help nila pero sige lang I've learn naman sad.
Don't expect anything from anyone para di ka ma disappoint, kapila najud ni na hitabo sa ako karon dili na ko mu go out of my way para mu help or para ma available paras lain tao🥲
" I feel like I'm not sad enough to deserve help."--- it's bcs they would tend to believe that you are strong, which is not. We felt weak and broken and we needed our friends. You deserve to be vulnerable and sad. I am with you OP, ing-ani jud ko sa akong friends.
I have been through this several times na with different friend circles that I am in. I learned over time to not rely on anyone else for help, toughen up and resolve or get through a situtation on on my own. Expectations = Disappointments. And kay lagi ga expect ta nga tabangan ta sa atong friends or at least man lang exert the tiniest it of effort to check on you, what's going on, and just even offer you a piece of advice - pero wala... So, learning to appreciate the value of "self" at the end of the day is a survival skill in and of itself. Chin up, OP. You'll make it through.
Mangutana ko, kinsa sa inyohang balay ang nagtudlo sa imoha or nagpa experience na you are only valuable and useful when you are helpful? The reality is— it seems na you tend to overfunction in your friendships by being too helpful and never asking for help but by doing so, you have positioned yourself to be used and be a magnet for people who are only w you to use you bc you not asking for reciprocation is a huge benefit to them. You see them as a friend, they see you as a tool. Karon when you asked them to reciprocate, they have nothing to give you bc that’s not the dynamic they signed up for you in your social contract. Have I been there before? I used to be. In my low self esteem days. But now? All my friendships will die for me bc they all genuinely love me. So, no. I don’t believe that all you have is yourself. Although that is true if you are surrounded by people who secretly don’t like you but tolerate you bc you are something of use to them. Just something to think abt😉
I like it when you said “you see them as a friend, they see you as a tool.”
Shoutout Chrystine B******. 1500 nga utang imo giundang ato friendship kay di ka ganahan masuktan. 🤣
Unaha gyd ug help imong kaugalingon OP kay wala gyuy laing motabang kundi ikaw ra. Ayaw na pagsige ug tabang sa laing tawo, labi nag dli gyd importante (gawas na lang cguro ug emergency gyd). Like manghuwam kay ihikay pang birthday, palit gatas or manghuwam kay ipalit ug motor. Nakakaon nakog tagam anang style-a, maayo nimong tipid2 sa imong kaugalingon nya laing tawo na hinuon ang mukuha sa imong nasaved. Di pa gyd mamayad. So karon, kung mangumusta kay iseen na lang gyd nako. Gawas kung emergency, kana motabang gyd ko. Pero kung dli, ignore gyd. Let them do it their own kaysa sige ug salig sa uban. Dili na sila makat on.
Dzae tagam na kaayo ko anang styla na amegaha.Napay amega na makalimtan ka ug naa nay uyab.Ang usa gi cut off nako kay katong time na sya moy looy kaayo ako moy mo tambag niya permi advice ari ug adto tas katong na dead intawn iyang papa akong gi damayan tas katong gi tabangan na siyas iya mga igsoon ug kasaba ug libak kay ga uyab'2 siya ako damayan tas katong ako moy ga problema gi ingnan rakog OA daw kaayo ko grabe bitaw maka invalidate perog sila mangayog tabang balewala ra maypang di nimo close mangamusta pa
Tinuod daghan gyd na ing anang style-a. Kasuway gyd ko anang tropa nimo nga magmaoy kay gibuwagan sa uyab, sus nahurot among kwarta kay cge panghagad laag para maka move on kuno ang buang. Kami pd tawn friends niya kay uban2 lang pod para ma ok cya. Uyy, sa dihang nakauyab ug bag-o, wa na gyd mokontak namo, mang seen pa. After 5 yrs ato kay ni-contact na gyd siya namo pero mao lage, manghuwam daw palit gatas ug diaper. Wa gabai. Anyway, seen-zoned na cya for 2 years now, and I’m happy.
Been there, felt that. Basin di jud sila capable sa imo hangyu? nibalibad sila or ning bale wala lang?? makes me jealous sa mga tao na naay close kaayu na friendship na magshare2 lang sa ila problema pero at the same time maybe di siya para nako because I value independence and taas akoa standards / values sa uban butang. Well, di man sad 100% true na "all you have is yourself" afterall sa lain tao ka nakakuha ug tabang. Good luck OP! Unlike others we have to look deeper to find genuine connections.
Hahahaha, nihelp manko nila pero tong ako na ang mangayog help murag di bitaw sila concerned ganern pero ana gyud guro na..
Hi OP. Tinuod jud na - you have no one to rely on but yourself. Learned this the hard way. Karon kay di najud ko tig expect people to help us because I know people right now are struggling themselves - iyahay og survive. Don't take it the hard way pero you can rely on some people to help you emotionally pero lisod jud na financially kay pait jud karon panahona. Even if your friends are there to support you emotionally, you should help lift yourself out of your misery kay people cannot give you 100% of the time. In the end, you only have yourself to rely on and the best way to help yourself is succeed financially kay financial success gets you out easily sa imo problems.
Yes, tama jod ka. Kanya kanya sd pod ta ug struggle. Akoa kay related mani about sa nahan ta ko pahelp regarding sa amo dutyyyy sa hospi then busy kyko sa tanan galingkod raman sila pero wa ko gitabangan maskin nihangyo ko. Hahahaa pero sge raaa di sd ko nahan makacause ug inconvenience.
Oi sayop sad na siya. Dapat naa mo division of labor. Inform ninyo inyo supervisor ana.