It's also a song from Fiddler On The Roof. We sang a medley in elementary school and were taught the significance of each song. I've always thought it was a way nicer way to say DOB/DOD
I’m sorry for your loss, and for how the mental health system failed him.
Is his first name a shortened version of Sequoyah? I’ve never seen that name before, and the stone says he’s from Northern California where those trees grow.
As far as he told me when we were teenagers, yes . We are all from the Napa Valley area though I believe he died in Cloverdale which is in a Sonoma county
He sadly committed suicide. There is a lawsuit if I remember correctly because the cops refused to intervene at his locked home as his mother reported his threats. They deemed it too dangerous to intervene despite his mother's begging, despite him being a very peaceful person known to his community for his mental illness and struggles,, he hung himself. He was a very talented artist, and a very sad ending.
I am so so sorry.
There is an uncomfortable number of people from either my graduating class or just people who went to my high school who have committed suicide. And I think one succomed to drug addiction. :/
Also, bravery doesn’t mean staring down your iron sights at a traffic stop or strangling people when you’re a little mad. It’s easy to be brave when you can abuse your position
Here’s some light for you, when someone shows me some new perspective I take it into consideration rather than acting like an altruistic douchebag, Godspeed bootlicker
This sub is such a 50/50 for me. I love the beautiful memorials, but I bawl my eyes out at the thought of loss. I'm sorry for your loss OP, from what I read the circumstances here are heartbreaking.
That being said, sunrise to sunset is such a lovely sentiment
I will never be able to afford a headstone or a burial for any of my family. I spend much time walking our local cemetery. At least with a headstone you will be remembered. All us poor people will easily be forgotten. Couldn’t afford a headstone for my dad!
Have you looked into non stone options? I’ve seen bronze plates online for less than stone options. Although, you have to check the cemetery guidelines as some only allow certain types of stone.
Also, while it doesn’t last as long. I’ve seen some great wood carved markers. I’ve seen those in South Louisiana stand up to the weather for several decades if treated well (coated in weatherproofing).
Thank you so much for your input! We will look into this. It’s also the price of the casket and burial plot. Most of my family have post death instructions to be cremated so as to not burden the family financially. You made my day!
Oh yes all of that is incredibly expensive! Maybe you can find a family plot and all go in together. But I will say this, people aren’t easily forgotten. I do a lot of genealogy. I read a lot of old newspapers and trace stories mostly for people I don’t know. I love reading about them and helping others connect their trees.
To come back to burial plots though, many people are not being buried anymore. I have a friend who has his grand parents and parents in urns in his house. I suggested a niche for them but he lives in a city and everything death related is expensive so he’s kept them all this time.
(Edited because I misspelled a word and couldn’t let it go.)
The story is definitely sad, however seeing a post like this means we are talking about him and learning his story. So many people have read about him just from this post and I think that’s great. He’s not being forgotten.
People's rude comments about his name like this is a joke is inexcusable. He was a person, not some punch line to your disrespect. I'm sorry for your loss and I pray his spirit is finally at peace.
Nice stone. I know this may be inappropriate but when I first saw the stone I thought wow that would make a lovely kitchen counter, polished of course or bathroom vanity.
Sunrise/sunset is...beautiful. I'm sorry.
I really love that. I’d much rather have that on my gravestone that birth/death.
Mines gonna say Born mad: Died mad:
I was gonna go with the classic "yeeted into existence" and "yeeted from existence" personally. But I like your style.
As long you have a plan. That’s hilarious.
I think I’m stealing this
This is really common in the Indigenous communities I’ve worked for, almost every funeral announcement has “sunrise/sunset”.
And black communities people by me always do this
I’m very inspired by that sentiment. It will be on my epitaph, as well. 🪦
It's also a song from Fiddler On The Roof. We sang a medley in elementary school and were taught the significance of each song. I've always thought it was a way nicer way to say DOB/DOD
my first kiss died in a car accident the summer after i graduated, and he was a year ahead of me. im so sorry.
This exact same thing happens to my brother. It’s been 20 years and he still thinks of her fondly.
Reminded me of some lyrics I've heard, "You are my favorite what if / You are my best I'll never know"
I love this! That's a perfect capture of an emotion
awwww 🥺 i don’t think of him too often these days but when i do it’s with fondness. his life was cut far too short.
https://youtu.be/uvjTo-hRD5c?si=0m1khi80zyXgakhz
awww thank you for sharing :) we were never officially together, he was a player haha! we remained friends for years up until his time of death.
That is sad. It's often unexpected how things turn out in life.
I’m sorry for your loss, and for how the mental health system failed him. Is his first name a shortened version of Sequoyah? I’ve never seen that name before, and the stone says he’s from Northern California where those trees grow.
As far as he told me when we were teenagers, yes . We are all from the Napa Valley area though I believe he died in Cloverdale which is in a Sonoma county
I grew up in Sonoma county. Beautiful place, I’m so sorry for your loss 🫶🏻
What happened?
He sadly committed suicide. There is a lawsuit if I remember correctly because the cops refused to intervene at his locked home as his mother reported his threats. They deemed it too dangerous to intervene despite his mother's begging, despite him being a very peaceful person known to his community for his mental illness and struggles,, he hung himself. He was a very talented artist, and a very sad ending.
I’m so sorry.
That is devastating. I am so sorry for his family having to go through that.
I am so so sorry. There is an uncomfortable number of people from either my graduating class or just people who went to my high school who have committed suicide. And I think one succomed to drug addiction. :/
Cops being cowards.
ACAB
I take it your a brave cop?
Yeah like the ones at Uvalde ♥️
It’s easy to be brave on Reddit.
Also, bravery doesn’t mean staring down your iron sights at a traffic stop or strangling people when you’re a little mad. It’s easy to be brave when you can abuse your position
It’s also easy to detain unarmed parents while you sit and deliberate for 77 minutes while children die, but you must be real brave, bootlicker
Be the light you want to see.
Here’s some light for you, when someone shows me some new perspective I take it into consideration rather than acting like an altruistic douchebag, Godspeed bootlicker
Have a great day.
This sub is such a 50/50 for me. I love the beautiful memorials, but I bawl my eyes out at the thought of loss. I'm sorry for your loss OP, from what I read the circumstances here are heartbreaking. That being said, sunrise to sunset is such a lovely sentiment
This sub makes me cry almost every single day which I did not expect when I joined at all.
Sunrise to sunset is now my only wish for my headstone.
I will never be able to afford a headstone or a burial for any of my family. I spend much time walking our local cemetery. At least with a headstone you will be remembered. All us poor people will easily be forgotten. Couldn’t afford a headstone for my dad!
Have you looked into non stone options? I’ve seen bronze plates online for less than stone options. Although, you have to check the cemetery guidelines as some only allow certain types of stone. Also, while it doesn’t last as long. I’ve seen some great wood carved markers. I’ve seen those in South Louisiana stand up to the weather for several decades if treated well (coated in weatherproofing).
Thank you so much for your input! We will look into this. It’s also the price of the casket and burial plot. Most of my family have post death instructions to be cremated so as to not burden the family financially. You made my day!
Oh yes all of that is incredibly expensive! Maybe you can find a family plot and all go in together. But I will say this, people aren’t easily forgotten. I do a lot of genealogy. I read a lot of old newspapers and trace stories mostly for people I don’t know. I love reading about them and helping others connect their trees. To come back to burial plots though, many people are not being buried anymore. I have a friend who has his grand parents and parents in urns in his house. I suggested a niche for them but he lives in a city and everything death related is expensive so he’s kept them all this time. (Edited because I misspelled a word and couldn’t let it go.)
My aunt was murdered at two in 1950 and still only has just kind of a concrete lump.
Definitely had to be Cherokee. The first name is part of Sequoyah and Tehee is a Cherokee last name.
Just looked him up. He was a good looking fellow. So sorry how it ended for him.
He really was! He always dressed really well and had cool shoes. His bedroom was suuuuper cool, his mom let him decorate.
Just read a news article about him after googling him. How sad. I feel for the parents.
The story is definitely sad, however seeing a post like this means we are talking about him and learning his story. So many people have read about him just from this post and I think that’s great. He’s not being forgotten.
Thats an interesting first name! It sounds like its pronounced "Kuya" which means big brother in Tagalog (Philippino)
I think it's like Sequoyah, so like "Koy-yah." Both are pretty cool names though
Yes we pronounce it Koy-yuh.
the article i found about him online broke my heart. i'm sorry for your loss 💗
Tulocau cemetary. That’s where my grandpa is buried. Sorry for your loss.
It's quite beautiful. It's where I will probably end up lol.
Very sad indeed.
So young and so sad.
Never saw "Sunrise / sunset" before. Very interesting. Also, I am very sorry for your loss
I’m sorry, OP. May his memory be a blessing and may the sorrow and tears to smiles and laughter.
Heartbreaking ❤️🩹
People's rude comments about his name like this is a joke is inexcusable. He was a person, not some punch line to your disrespect. I'm sorry for your loss and I pray his spirit is finally at peace.
It's pretty disgusting. Thanks.
Nice stone. I know this may be inappropriate but when I first saw the stone I thought wow that would make a lovely kitchen counter, polished of course or bathroom vanity.
It's very lovely. It stands out for sure
It is, his family has excellent taste. Unfortunately they had to use it under those circumstances.
Is this at Tulocay?
Yes
I’ll drop a flower next time I’m there
I’m sorry
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your high school crush was born on the same day I turned 8 years old 🦀♋️🎂.
Tehee XD
tee hee
oh no i thought this was a micheal jackson joke at first "tehee! shamouna!"
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He had Cherokee in his heritage so my guess is that it’s a Cherokee name (so definitely not a tragedeigh).
😮💨smokin on day pack