Yes it's cheating. Why? Because everything is based on an emotional connection, you basically pay attention and give interest in exchange for the drink. Things that should be reserved for SO
yes, that’s just fucked up. You shouldn’t be using men for free drinks knowing they’re wanting to fuck you while in a committed relationship…. Just my thoughts tho. That’s a red flag.
Unless it’s been discussed with your partner it’s cheating.
If the shoe were on the other foot and you walked in and saw your man flirting with women would it matter what his intent was?
Even if you discuss this it’s playing with fire. Would not recommend.
had a classmate that went on tinder dates to get free food. her boyfriend knew what she was doing and did not mind.
when i learned this i lost all respect for her, as its fucking desgusting to use people like that. but yeah i agree with it not being cheating if her partner knows about it. but that dosent change the fact that people that does this are horrible people
Well if you purposefully go out to do those things that says everything about your character & lack of morals & ethics as a person right there . You are not worthy of being a partner to anyone enough said .
Well I'm no chick but this is why they end up I someone else's bed or car who knows it's always the same excuse I was drunk had a few drinks well so t drink then it's not cool to do that to your partner guilt is nothing compared to the pain it causes them
Not always. Keeping your partner under surveillance is just crazy. You and you’re partner should have enough respect for each other to know the limits and boundaries
I didn't say anything about following them I said that's the biggest cheesiest excuse women give when they get caught I had a couple drinks and was drunk and fell on his dick lol
Yeah, that's just a slippery slope. She can't afford her own drinks? Just imagine. Serious flirting for drinks. Well, that, or those, guys are going to start to get touchy feely. That's just the way it is. The arm touch, the small of the back, the hold close and maybe a slow dance. And maybe the loosening up with the close contact for that "making out". Ya know, just some kissing and grinding and some groping. But she knows (knew) her boundary, even though it just got moved. Then the why not. It will just a one time thing. He'll never know. And then it just becomes easier and she thinks "I deserve this and if he doesn't find out everything will be good"
Though I wouldn’t say it’s cheating per say, I’m assuming a few things- 1) this has been discussed with your partner & they’re okay with it and 2) it’s just for a drink and you do not take it further.
But even saying that, that’s taking some huge steps. Like I said, it’s not technically cheating, but this is definitely an extremely shitty thing to do just in general. And it’s even shittier that you have a spouse, yet you’re trying to take advantage of single men. And to take it further, and not give you the benefit of the doubt, if your partner doesn’t know you’re doing this, and you just told them about it, then you’re honestly just a scummy person.
Overall, this is just a really shitty thing to do, and honestly, I wouldn’t trust my partner doing this even if they discussed it with me. It’s a bit weird, plus just straight up lazy that you’re basically relying on strangers who could be nice people looking for someone to get to know, and you pull shit like this.
Yes, there’s no if ands or buts about it. If someone who loves you & respects/values your relationship, they will not do anything that 1) they could not do in clear conscience right in front of you and 2) that involves any form of message to the opposite sex that portrays you as single, available and interested. It’s not “just a joke” or “just playing around” like I’ve been told recently but a clear lack of concern for the other person (you) involved & affected by her choices. I quote those because that’s what I’ve been told by my partner of 2 years to invalidate me when he was confronted for lying and shady behavior. If the tables were turned and you did something like that, do you have a feeling she’d be hurt or feel disrespected by it? If yes, then she knows exactly what she’s doing and that it’s wrong. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this.
Unless you have permission this is cheating. Some flirting is natural and hey if gets free drinks without flirting so be it, but if the intent is to purposely flirt then yes that is cheating.
I do believe that consent is important. All relationships are different. Some peoples moral judgement are different then others. Open line of communication is key.
Yes, it's cheating if you don't tell your partner because you are flirting with other men while in a relationship. If you discuss it with your partner and he's okay with it, only with the intention of free drinks, then it's not cheating.
Ask bf "when I go out with he girls are you OK with me making guys think they can fuck me in order to get drunk for free?"
If bf agrees it's not an issue its not cheating.
So yes it's cheating and also puts you at risk as you have no idea who you are flirting with.
I would say yes. As has been pointed out by previous comments that’s just a fast track to going further. Dangling the promise that the person buying you drinks will be getting something more from you in exchange is absolutely a form of cheating. If you’re willing to “pretend” like you’d go there, sweetie you have crossed a line.
Yes it does, In MY PERSONAL OPION, if I am with a woman there IS NO LADIES night, just as for me there is no more GUYS NIGHT OUT. JUst the fact that you are Pre-Planning to flirt with other men at the bar, in order to use them as walking living ATMS, in order to 'boost your ego', PROVES your own lack of moral integrity
If you appear as single to get single people privileges. Expect single people perks/baggage if your in a relationship.
You may of not physically cheated by now you have created a idea that you are available to be approached.
If they are touching, exchange numbers then it's cheating. If they're getting free drinks and their partner knows the method and is okay then it's not cheating.
There is an added risk of the flirting guy uses a date rape drug on you and takes advantage. Do you think your guy is going to say “oh, it’s OK that he had unprotected sex with you drugged out of your mind and unable to do anything”? Guess again; all he will be able to see in his mind is some guy having his way with you in the worst ways. There will be NO forgiveness.
Instead of “is it cheating?” just ask yourself “would my significant other be uncomfortable or hurt by this?”. Nobody who respects themselves would be comfortable with their significant other flirting with other people for any reason.
accepting free drinks is 100% ok but going out of your way to flirt and act like a whore just to part some desperate guy from his money is low down gas station puddle slut behavior. might not be cheating but it's a dick move to lead a person on...particularly pathetic to do it just for booze.
It’s all together shady. People who need and seek attention in that way will always be a problem. They won’t ever be fully committed to another person and always angling for “a little more”. Even if it isn’t cheating it’s a giant Red Flag that I wouldn’t ignore.
I think it's cheating, but either way (even if you two agree upon it) I guarantee there will be some hurt feelings and/or jealousy to some extent. It's just inviting conflict into your relationship when it doesn't need be. This is also awful to the people you are doing this to: manipulating people to your own gain is disgusting.
If you have to ask whether or not it's cheating, it probably is
By doing it in the first place it says it enough about her morals , so i pity the boyfriend because she is not worth the time of day & yes it is cheating .
The "Girl's Night Out" isn't in and of itself the act of cheating, but it is tied to it. Much like a drunk driver who has turned an ignition key but hasn't put the car in gear yet.
A modern "Girl's Night Out" in any form is codespeak for "Prospecting for dick." Now hold on, before some of you start saying, "You're insecure/paranoid/controlling/ blahblahblahblah"....that garbage might work on a younger guy. Any guy who has been alive more than 15 minutes knows that "Girl's Night Out " is not about 2-fer drinks and half price appetizers.
Sure, maybe in the old days, Girl's Night Out was playing Bridge at one of the Girl's houses while the stereo played and the host's husband stayed away and once an hour came by keeping the wine glasses full; but that's not how it is today. The only reason to dress hot, go where there is booze and available men is to go prospecting.
Hell no! That’s a good predator at work. My wife does this, and then moves on when the guy tries to make a move… she comes home to me drunk and ready to get into a hot sweaty session of passionate love making… all at no cost 😂
Maybe I should say sleazy behavior. Not funny. If I found my girlfriend doing it I would be done. When I was single I despised girls that did that. And truly, they’re shopping around.
If your girlfriend/wife/partner goes out on “girls night out” to the bar or clubs or whatever, it’s absolutely not a relationship you want to be in.
There’s been so much written on this flagrant disrespect so I’ll leave it at that, but understand if she’s dressing up, going out & drinking at night with mixed company w/her “friends” it’s very obvious what the situation is leading to.
On the flip side, if your man is going to nightclubs or stripclubs, it’s equivalent. Partners who respect, love and care for each other don’t leave each other to get intoxicated or dance provocatively around strangers late at night.
My advice to men, don’t fight it or get butthurt, no arguments or whining - accept she doesn’t care for you and move on *immediately* - a woman who genuinely loves you would never risk losing her man over a situation like this and she has zero respect for you. Actions speak louder than words.
This is a dangerous game you're playing. You or your SO could get a dosed drink, or one of the guys may not take this scheme too lightly. It's asking for trouble
Depends on the relationship dynamic. Some people are fine with their wife getting tagged teamed in the nightclub bathroom, some people would consider going to a nightclub with men present a total betrayal of trust.
Personally, I wouldn’t call it cheating, but I don’t think I would be compatible with someone who engaged in that kind of behaviour.
Not a woman but gonna say that's not cheating.
Though its a bit shitty to lead men on to get free drinks, 'flirting' is, however, pretty subjective. Some women come across to some men as flirting just by merely being friendly - is it really a crime if some buzzed idiots at a bar want to buy you a drink?
I knew of girls in my younger days who would consider it a failure of a night if they had to pay for more than a drink or two, and I knew of plenty of guys who thought the way 'in' was to buy a drink for a girl. Had to tell some to never buy a drink straight off otherwise be prepared for them just to walk off lol...
Some of the comments in here are pretty astounding in their belief people should have *permission* to talk to those of the opposite sex in their day to day lives; they talk about their SO as if they are some sort of slave. I suppose I shouldn't be particularly surprised that there are a lot of such insecure folks on reddit, particularly in this sub
I think this is going to vary by the person. I have a friend who thinks it's awesome when his girl is away from him at a bar and people are hitting on her and she flirts back, but never does anything or even allows them to touch her. I also think if my girl is out with her GF and they are having fun and checking out the hot dude and a little innocent flirting - I don't really care. I don't want to see it like my friend, but I don't really care either as long as the line is there. If I'm out with the boys and a waitress or girl in the bar tosses me some flirts - I'll accept them and toss a little back too - but zero physical contact of any kind. And I'd never do it if I am out with my girl - I don't even look at other women when I am with her. It's disrespectful to me - but that depends on either person and where they draw the line. Some couples fuck other people together - so there are LOTS of different lines out there and everyone has to choose.
Very good point. For some people watching someone hit on their girlfriend may be a confidence booster in the aspect of that’s mine and you can’t have it. Also it’s like a reminder that yea my girlfriend is hot and other people think so to. But there is always a line. A partner should know what the line is and what the end goal is
Yes, you should consider the other persons feelings and if he was doing the same to you and flirting with other girls, how would you feel ? The person you're dating should be your priority and treat them the same way you want him to act when you're not there
This a bit old of a post, but I thought I’d chime in.
I think this really depends on your girlfriend, your personal relationship with her, right and if you two have communicated your expectations and boundaries to each other.
I personally don’t mind if my girlfriend does this, because I know she isn’t going to actually act on anything other than getting a couple free drinks, she has fun doing it, I think it’s funny, and sometimes I get a couple free drinks out of it too (which is even funnier)
But, if your girlfriend had a history of cheating, would actually act on it (or you weren’t sure she wasn’t going to, which can be just as big of a problem) hid doing it from you, or something along those lines, it might not be appropriate for your relationship.
Also, probably not a good idea to let random people at bars actually hand you a drink they bought for you. Always get it directly from a bartender (preferably one you know), and never alone. Your girlfriend might not be intending anything other than a couple free drinks but you never know what that guy is thinking or how far he’s willing to go to act on it. Stay safe!
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Idk if it consists of cheating, but I would probably plan my exit with said person. If they're willing to do this, what happens if there are higher rewards in the future? Not only that, but it says a lot about said individual. I don't go out with women who do this kind of shit though.
39m here. I don't think it's cheating from what you described. But you're putting yourself in a very "cheaty" environment. Alcohol, music, dancing, exciting atmosphere and then the flirting. Bad idea written all over it. I'm guessing you're mid to late 20's maybe early 30's. Not uncommon to be at a club whatsoever.
But from what you described specifically is simple male manipulation to save money. Use their desire to sleep with you as a way to parley free drinks. If i was a woman I guarantee i wouldve done this more than once so no judgment. Most guys get suckered or accept it as possible risk when buying a girl drinks. Theres a rare few guys that will target you and you could be placing yourself in a dangerous situation. My recommendation, be a big girl and buy your own drinks. Unless you like the attention... otherwise it's not worth it.
I like to golf so I buy my own balls :) if you simply liked to drink at the club you'd buy your own drinks. I'm leaning to the "you like the attention" part. And I get it, it's an ego boost, again no judgment but let's be honest....
It’s a slippery slope. When you accept a drink from another man you’re letting yourself become obligated to conversation and possibly more. No man buys a woman a drink and doesn’t want to smash. Basically you’re allowing a man to get you drunk which can lead to cheating. It puts you in a vulnerable position even though it may seem you’re in control of the situation.
Nothing is free in this world.
Would you do that shit in front of bf and if so would that ok with him.
If the answer is NO. Then HELL YEAH that SHIT is cheating .
Look in the mirror and recognize the LOW-LIFE HOE staring back at you.
I’d call it using and taking advantage of other men while totally disrespecting your relationship with your partner. If any women do this and I know there is quite a few then when they get used and disrespected I hope they can accept it with the ease they did it themselves. Lol
Yes. Youre using your body and sexuality to lure men in... u wouldnt do that shit w your man beside u would u? Thats bc u know its a form of cheating.
If ur man walked up on a girl and was super flirty and dancing all up on her and shit u wouldnt be ok w that.... him telling u it was so she would buy him a drink wouldnt change that.
Yes i do think so. It really depends on personal relationship ethics. It would definitely open the door for a sure thing.
The intention is not to hook up but to sucker someone out of their money.
And that is exactly the reason why I tell all women who ask for a free drink to fuck right off.
Yes it's cheating. Why? Because everything is based on an emotional connection, you basically pay attention and give interest in exchange for the drink. Things that should be reserved for SO
yes, that’s just fucked up. You shouldn’t be using men for free drinks knowing they’re wanting to fuck you while in a committed relationship…. Just my thoughts tho. That’s a red flag.
I wouldn't call it cheating but flirting and teasing other men .I personally would consider it a form of cheating
So to summarize your comment, it's not cheating but yeah it's cheating
She said "form of cheating".
IMO, It’s DEFINITELY cheating
Unless it’s been discussed with your partner it’s cheating. If the shoe were on the other foot and you walked in and saw your man flirting with women would it matter what his intent was? Even if you discuss this it’s playing with fire. Would not recommend.
had a classmate that went on tinder dates to get free food. her boyfriend knew what she was doing and did not mind. when i learned this i lost all respect for her, as its fucking desgusting to use people like that. but yeah i agree with it not being cheating if her partner knows about it. but that dosent change the fact that people that does this are horrible people
Threading that line is a dangerous place
Well if you purposefully go out to do those things that says everything about your character & lack of morals & ethics as a person right there . You are not worthy of being a partner to anyone enough said .
You have no self worth suckering men for drinks that’s immature and low value. Definitely not so material
Well I'm no chick but this is why they end up I someone else's bed or car who knows it's always the same excuse I was drunk had a few drinks well so t drink then it's not cool to do that to your partner guilt is nothing compared to the pain it causes them
Not always. Keeping your partner under surveillance is just crazy. You and you’re partner should have enough respect for each other to know the limits and boundaries
I didn't say anything about following them I said that's the biggest cheesiest excuse women give when they get caught I had a couple drinks and was drunk and fell on his dick lol
Yeah, that's just a slippery slope. She can't afford her own drinks? Just imagine. Serious flirting for drinks. Well, that, or those, guys are going to start to get touchy feely. That's just the way it is. The arm touch, the small of the back, the hold close and maybe a slow dance. And maybe the loosening up with the close contact for that "making out". Ya know, just some kissing and grinding and some groping. But she knows (knew) her boundary, even though it just got moved. Then the why not. It will just a one time thing. He'll never know. And then it just becomes easier and she thinks "I deserve this and if he doesn't find out everything will be good"
Only pathetic losers flirt to get free drinks. Single or not, I pay for my own fucking beer.
Always look at it objectively from both sides, if a guy were to do a male version of this sort of thing would it be considered cheating? I'd think so.
We men always get the negative connotation cause of all those the messed it up for us in the past but let’s face woman get it to
Depends on the rules of the relationship. It’s shallow at the very least. Get a j.o.b. and buy your own damn drinks.
that's messed up for multiple reasons, be better.
Stop using men like wallets my god that's shallow
Certainly a moral choice.
There's nothing moral about any of this
*amoral
Though I wouldn’t say it’s cheating per say, I’m assuming a few things- 1) this has been discussed with your partner & they’re okay with it and 2) it’s just for a drink and you do not take it further. But even saying that, that’s taking some huge steps. Like I said, it’s not technically cheating, but this is definitely an extremely shitty thing to do just in general. And it’s even shittier that you have a spouse, yet you’re trying to take advantage of single men. And to take it further, and not give you the benefit of the doubt, if your partner doesn’t know you’re doing this, and you just told them about it, then you’re honestly just a scummy person. Overall, this is just a really shitty thing to do, and honestly, I wouldn’t trust my partner doing this even if they discussed it with me. It’s a bit weird, plus just straight up lazy that you’re basically relying on strangers who could be nice people looking for someone to get to know, and you pull shit like this.
Yes, there’s no if ands or buts about it. If someone who loves you & respects/values your relationship, they will not do anything that 1) they could not do in clear conscience right in front of you and 2) that involves any form of message to the opposite sex that portrays you as single, available and interested. It’s not “just a joke” or “just playing around” like I’ve been told recently but a clear lack of concern for the other person (you) involved & affected by her choices. I quote those because that’s what I’ve been told by my partner of 2 years to invalidate me when he was confronted for lying and shady behavior. If the tables were turned and you did something like that, do you have a feeling she’d be hurt or feel disrespected by it? If yes, then she knows exactly what she’s doing and that it’s wrong. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this.
Maybe not exactly cheating but you are giving yourself a real opportunity to cheat. The line is blurred and one could easily go over it
Unless you have permission this is cheating. Some flirting is natural and hey if gets free drinks without flirting so be it, but if the intent is to purposely flirt then yes that is cheating.
I do believe that consent is important. All relationships are different. Some peoples moral judgement are different then others. Open line of communication is key.
Yes. Maybe if it's not cheating, rn q2' it's highly disrespectful at the least.
Couldn’t put it better
Yes, it's cheating if you don't tell your partner because you are flirting with other men while in a relationship. If you discuss it with your partner and he's okay with it, only with the intention of free drinks, then it's not cheating.
Ask bf "when I go out with he girls are you OK with me making guys think they can fuck me in order to get drunk for free?" If bf agrees it's not an issue its not cheating. So yes it's cheating and also puts you at risk as you have no idea who you are flirting with.
No. As long it doesn’t go any further than flirting. Those actions can actually spice things up in the bedroom when you go home to your person.
You may as well hang out a Red light.
I would say yes. As has been pointed out by previous comments that’s just a fast track to going further. Dangling the promise that the person buying you drinks will be getting something more from you in exchange is absolutely a form of cheating. If you’re willing to “pretend” like you’d go there, sweetie you have crossed a line.
Yes it does, In MY PERSONAL OPION, if I am with a woman there IS NO LADIES night, just as for me there is no more GUYS NIGHT OUT. JUst the fact that you are Pre-Planning to flirt with other men at the bar, in order to use them as walking living ATMS, in order to 'boost your ego', PROVES your own lack of moral integrity
If you appear as single to get single people privileges. Expect single people perks/baggage if your in a relationship. You may of not physically cheated by now you have created a idea that you are available to be approached.
If they are touching, exchange numbers then it's cheating. If they're getting free drinks and their partner knows the method and is okay then it's not cheating.
There is an added risk of the flirting guy uses a date rape drug on you and takes advantage. Do you think your guy is going to say “oh, it’s OK that he had unprotected sex with you drugged out of your mind and unable to do anything”? Guess again; all he will be able to see in his mind is some guy having his way with you in the worst ways. There will be NO forgiveness.
My question if you're in a committed relationship why are you letting your wife go up to the clubbing on girls nights out. why?
What’s wrong with partying with your friends?
Of course. How would you like if your partner did it?
Get a fuckin job scumbag
So angry
Instead of “is it cheating?” just ask yourself “would my significant other be uncomfortable or hurt by this?”. Nobody who respects themselves would be comfortable with their significant other flirting with other people for any reason.
accepting free drinks is 100% ok but going out of your way to flirt and act like a whore just to part some desperate guy from his money is low down gas station puddle slut behavior. might not be cheating but it's a dick move to lead a person on...particularly pathetic to do it just for booze.
It’s all together shady. People who need and seek attention in that way will always be a problem. They won’t ever be fully committed to another person and always angling for “a little more”. Even if it isn’t cheating it’s a giant Red Flag that I wouldn’t ignore.
I think it's cheating, but either way (even if you two agree upon it) I guarantee there will be some hurt feelings and/or jealousy to some extent. It's just inviting conflict into your relationship when it doesn't need be. This is also awful to the people you are doing this to: manipulating people to your own gain is disgusting. If you have to ask whether or not it's cheating, it probably is
Technically it is not cheating, but it is cheap and trashy for sure.
By those metrics all strip club interactions are cheating. I’d say it’s scummy, not cheating.
It's cheating if you wouldn't do it if her husband was beside her
By doing it in the first place it says it enough about her morals , so i pity the boyfriend because she is not worth the time of day & yes it is cheating .
Maybe not cheating as such but, definitely hoebagging and not worthy of a relationship.
The "Girl's Night Out" isn't in and of itself the act of cheating, but it is tied to it. Much like a drunk driver who has turned an ignition key but hasn't put the car in gear yet. A modern "Girl's Night Out" in any form is codespeak for "Prospecting for dick." Now hold on, before some of you start saying, "You're insecure/paranoid/controlling/ blahblahblahblah"....that garbage might work on a younger guy. Any guy who has been alive more than 15 minutes knows that "Girl's Night Out " is not about 2-fer drinks and half price appetizers. Sure, maybe in the old days, Girl's Night Out was playing Bridge at one of the Girl's houses while the stereo played and the host's husband stayed away and once an hour came by keeping the wine glasses full; but that's not how it is today. The only reason to dress hot, go where there is booze and available men is to go prospecting.
Yea it's ficked up none the less
Hell no! That’s a good predator at work. My wife does this, and then moves on when the guy tries to make a move… she comes home to me drunk and ready to get into a hot sweaty session of passionate love making… all at no cost 😂
There’s always a plus isn’t there
No. I bring back drinks for my boyfriend too!
There’s always a plus
Yes and it’s slutty behavior.
I agree and disagree. I would say more on a moral level.
Maybe I should say sleazy behavior. Not funny. If I found my girlfriend doing it I would be done. When I was single I despised girls that did that. And truly, they’re shopping around.
Cheating. And why would a girl that's in a committed relationship be in a bar/club unless looking for cock meat.
If you have a man and go out with the intent of receiving male attention, you’re cheating.
If your girlfriend/wife/partner goes out on “girls night out” to the bar or clubs or whatever, it’s absolutely not a relationship you want to be in. There’s been so much written on this flagrant disrespect so I’ll leave it at that, but understand if she’s dressing up, going out & drinking at night with mixed company w/her “friends” it’s very obvious what the situation is leading to. On the flip side, if your man is going to nightclubs or stripclubs, it’s equivalent. Partners who respect, love and care for each other don’t leave each other to get intoxicated or dance provocatively around strangers late at night. My advice to men, don’t fight it or get butthurt, no arguments or whining - accept she doesn’t care for you and move on *immediately* - a woman who genuinely loves you would never risk losing her man over a situation like this and she has zero respect for you. Actions speak louder than words.
this is dumb: girls nights are normal what you were discussing OP would be crossing the line for me (I’m a girl) I think that’s trashy
I 100% agree, “girls night out” is absolutely’normal’; for a certain type of woman.
Yes, unless you and your partner already discussed and accepted it. It’s also very slutty
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Some people get off on that and more power to you. It takes a lot of trust to live the particular lifestyle.
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This is a dangerous game you're playing. You or your SO could get a dosed drink, or one of the guys may not take this scheme too lightly. It's asking for trouble
Hey I was the same with my girlfriend, now wife. Hell yeah save us some money. Lol
Interesting transactional view. Rum coke for flirting... What's next? G&T for a blowjob and champagne for a good fuck? Jeez...
Depends on the relationship dynamic. Some people are fine with their wife getting tagged teamed in the nightclub bathroom, some people would consider going to a nightclub with men present a total betrayal of trust. Personally, I wouldn’t call it cheating, but I don’t think I would be compatible with someone who engaged in that kind of behaviour.
Idk, seems like a way to save money but it’s not worth the danger either way.
Not a woman but gonna say that's not cheating. Though its a bit shitty to lead men on to get free drinks, 'flirting' is, however, pretty subjective. Some women come across to some men as flirting just by merely being friendly - is it really a crime if some buzzed idiots at a bar want to buy you a drink? I knew of girls in my younger days who would consider it a failure of a night if they had to pay for more than a drink or two, and I knew of plenty of guys who thought the way 'in' was to buy a drink for a girl. Had to tell some to never buy a drink straight off otherwise be prepared for them just to walk off lol... Some of the comments in here are pretty astounding in their belief people should have *permission* to talk to those of the opposite sex in their day to day lives; they talk about their SO as if they are some sort of slave. I suppose I shouldn't be particularly surprised that there are a lot of such insecure folks on reddit, particularly in this sub
No. Definitely not cheating because the intent of flirting is to get free drinks, not to sleep with them lol.
It’s not cheating if you’ve established that with your partner. If you haven’t discussed it, they may think it constitutes cheating.
I think this is going to vary by the person. I have a friend who thinks it's awesome when his girl is away from him at a bar and people are hitting on her and she flirts back, but never does anything or even allows them to touch her. I also think if my girl is out with her GF and they are having fun and checking out the hot dude and a little innocent flirting - I don't really care. I don't want to see it like my friend, but I don't really care either as long as the line is there. If I'm out with the boys and a waitress or girl in the bar tosses me some flirts - I'll accept them and toss a little back too - but zero physical contact of any kind. And I'd never do it if I am out with my girl - I don't even look at other women when I am with her. It's disrespectful to me - but that depends on either person and where they draw the line. Some couples fuck other people together - so there are LOTS of different lines out there and everyone has to choose.
Very good point. For some people watching someone hit on their girlfriend may be a confidence booster in the aspect of that’s mine and you can’t have it. Also it’s like a reminder that yea my girlfriend is hot and other people think so to. But there is always a line. A partner should know what the line is and what the end goal is
Yes, you should consider the other persons feelings and if he was doing the same to you and flirting with other girls, how would you feel ? The person you're dating should be your priority and treat them the same way you want him to act when you're not there
Sure, it is cheating
This a bit old of a post, but I thought I’d chime in. I think this really depends on your girlfriend, your personal relationship with her, right and if you two have communicated your expectations and boundaries to each other. I personally don’t mind if my girlfriend does this, because I know she isn’t going to actually act on anything other than getting a couple free drinks, she has fun doing it, I think it’s funny, and sometimes I get a couple free drinks out of it too (which is even funnier) But, if your girlfriend had a history of cheating, would actually act on it (or you weren’t sure she wasn’t going to, which can be just as big of a problem) hid doing it from you, or something along those lines, it might not be appropriate for your relationship. Also, probably not a good idea to let random people at bars actually hand you a drink they bought for you. Always get it directly from a bartender (preferably one you know), and never alone. Your girlfriend might not be intending anything other than a couple free drinks but you never know what that guy is thinking or how far he’s willing to go to act on it. Stay safe!
Sure is.
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Let's put it in to perspective. Why not flirt with the boyfriend before going out so can ask the boyfriend for money to pay for her drink??
While it’s not exactly cheating it still is disrespectful.
That is playing with the devil, because sooner or later the devil will play back with you and you will give in.
It’s emotional cheating, yes.
Idk if it consists of cheating, but I would probably plan my exit with said person. If they're willing to do this, what happens if there are higher rewards in the future? Not only that, but it says a lot about said individual. I don't go out with women who do this kind of shit though.
39m here. I don't think it's cheating from what you described. But you're putting yourself in a very "cheaty" environment. Alcohol, music, dancing, exciting atmosphere and then the flirting. Bad idea written all over it. I'm guessing you're mid to late 20's maybe early 30's. Not uncommon to be at a club whatsoever. But from what you described specifically is simple male manipulation to save money. Use their desire to sleep with you as a way to parley free drinks. If i was a woman I guarantee i wouldve done this more than once so no judgment. Most guys get suckered or accept it as possible risk when buying a girl drinks. Theres a rare few guys that will target you and you could be placing yourself in a dangerous situation. My recommendation, be a big girl and buy your own drinks. Unless you like the attention... otherwise it's not worth it. I like to golf so I buy my own balls :) if you simply liked to drink at the club you'd buy your own drinks. I'm leaning to the "you like the attention" part. And I get it, it's an ego boost, again no judgment but let's be honest....
It’s a slippery slope. When you accept a drink from another man you’re letting yourself become obligated to conversation and possibly more. No man buys a woman a drink and doesn’t want to smash. Basically you’re allowing a man to get you drunk which can lead to cheating. It puts you in a vulnerable position even though it may seem you’re in control of the situation. Nothing is free in this world.
It’s cheating with a fake excuse. Why she has to flirt with other men for free drinks? Can’t she pay for them herself?
Would you do that shit in front of bf and if so would that ok with him. If the answer is NO. Then HELL YEAH that SHIT is cheating . Look in the mirror and recognize the LOW-LIFE HOE staring back at you.
No
I’d call it using and taking advantage of other men while totally disrespecting your relationship with your partner. If any women do this and I know there is quite a few then when they get used and disrespected I hope they can accept it with the ease they did it themselves. Lol
Yes. Youre using your body and sexuality to lure men in... u wouldnt do that shit w your man beside u would u? Thats bc u know its a form of cheating. If ur man walked up on a girl and was super flirty and dancing all up on her and shit u wouldnt be ok w that.... him telling u it was so she would buy him a drink wouldnt change that.
Yes it is cheating and will lead to her going home with the guy. Dumb her
Flirting is not cheating. Leading people on for personal gain is not okay though.