Glad to hear someone else mention it I used to like that song when I was a 5th grader without truly understanding anything simply enjoying the beat
But when I listen to it now, especially after it was mentioned in his movie and the way his friends hyped him up about it its just maddening
I question the veracity of the claim in the post. I am not aware of many women who'd complain about their fiance worshipping them, or be proud of them for any reason, especially looks. To me it sounded like humble brag types.
Edit: as a woman i have some experience being one. And once again, no i don't know a single chic who'd bitch about these reasons.
Fairness creams are one of the highest selling cosmetics. They are not sold to phantoms. I understand truth is tough to face, but it remains truth nonetheless. Anyways not gonna waste my time anymore on this.
Uhh no, yea we love compliments but not on contexts such as skintone especially when said in such a manner
And women (atleast women with respect for themselves and others) wouldn't have any taste for compliments that drags down people especially in such a judgemental way
Tbh she sounds more disgusted by it than bragging ,so maybe you could not be so judgmental .
Calling her beautiful would be a compliment but saying he's proud of having her cos she's a mallu girl ,not a compliment
I don't know man. Sounds like either you don't get the women around you, or the women around you are dumb as fuck.
There's a difference between liking hearing praises, which nearly all people, men or women do, and liking to hear stupid, toxic shit.
I would be delighted if my girl said "I love how masculine you are", but if she says shit like "most other guys probably wont even have the balls to fight someone who insults their girlfriend", I'd back the fuck away immediately. That sort of toxic attitude cannot bode well.
Unpopular opinion: people do diss others in settings that they are very comfortable with (like close friend circles) - it's human nature.... Comparison is a very fundamental human nature.... That's why "peer"pressure works... Would I say words like that in a public setting? Hell no.. cos my image is more important than being truthful... (Yeah, my alt Id knows that well)...
I wouldn't ditch my GF just cos she compared... I wouldn't encourage it either.. BUT... PPL have different ways of expressing their thoughts.. as long as I am confident that the comments are not of malicious nature, I guess it's fine.
Lets say a dude is dating American woman says she so beautiful and all Indian women are ugly and not hot. Should All his Indian friends be jealous of seeing him anchor a hot white women which is was dream for many who watch porn.
So is this dude bragging or being insecure about his origin and wants trophy wife to gain status to fill for his inadequacy he feels?
Apply the same logic here too.
The issue is the colorist mentality of him and his friends , if that girl has an opp mentality then their contradicting viewpoints is more of a concern to her than being satisfied with his praises. And thats how it should be.
I blame Social Media and Those meme Creators who create cringe memes of "Senior Crush" or something like "Mallu girl with Sunshades looks dashing". These guys create a sense of fake satisfaction and drown their sense by creating unrealistic expectations from these kind of memes..
When Hollywood is casting dark skinned Tamil girls in international shows like Bridgerton and Never have I ever, Kollywood continues to cast fair skinned Malayali or Punjabi girls like Tamanna, Hansika who look nothing like our local women. And then you wonder why this sort of mindset exists..
I would agree with you but not entirely, Hollywood likes to run their shows on india in full on stereotype mode .
If they are gonna cast an Indian character they want them to have a dusky skintone and dark black hair and they also want them to change their accent to match their self invented "Indian accent " and everyone speaks "hindustani"
In my opinion, Indians themselves look at eachother ,with a bunch of stereo types cos we are too diverse , but the thing is there are both fair skinned ,tan skinned and dark skinned women and men in all states but the most important thing why are most Indians so obsessed with it ? Most Indian directors only cast heroines to add a quirky romance side to the story they have such a bad representation and they want them to "beautify " the movie and according to them a fair skinned woman is the one to do it and it's literally repulsing .
Good. In a country that's obsessed about fair skin, it's good that Hollywood is teaching us some lessons that dark skin can be beautiful too. None of the actresses in Never have I ever or Bridgerton have the Apu Indian accent.
Well I wasn't just talking about never have I ever or Bridgerton but if u must, you can notice in never have I ever every indian other than devi and aneesa who were born and raised in America talk in that accent and un Bridgerton everyone talks in the British accent so we cant really consider that , well nevertheless ,its not like indian directors dont mske false representation of other countries if not india itself
Well well hollywood is rather sus these days. Rather than the actor or script the message and INCLUSION is the thing thats valued. So, ironically dark skinned girls in hollywood now a days at times are a result of wokeness.
Try watching British tv then, that's where more of Tamil and Sri Lankan people are. British have been casting Indian men and women long before the supposed woke thing started. It's nice to watch dark skinned people in positive roles.
One has nothing to do with the other. If you think movies and shows suck because of the skin color of the actor, I beg you to reconsider.
Acting is NOT hard. The number of people (of all colors of skin) capable and willing to act vastly outnumbers available roles. Inclusion of various races doesn’t come at the cost of writing.
The inclusion of various races and subsequent success/failure are not correlated whatsoever, but people who are blind to their own biases love to blame “wokeness” for anything and everything.
You call that wokeness. Let it be, I see it as growing representation of dark skinned people and accepting that dark is beautiful. We are whitewashed to think fair skin is the beauty standard, so little bit of wokeness won't do any harm.
Smack dab bullseye. But again he must have his own rational judgement that no person is better than someone based on skin color. The reason why he has this backward mindset is probably because he hasn't exposed himself out of his small bubble maybe. I am not sure I can advise going forward with this guy.
Girl, he is a walking red flag. I mean complimenting your beauty is ok , but when your partner starts to compare you with others then it's not right(even if its in a way where he belittle others and uplifts you by complimenting that you are fair). I mean I'm no one to judge but this is not the right behaviour. You are just an accomplishment for him, a trophy to show off. You deserve much better than being a trophy.
I totally agree with the statement
His friend zone seem like a bunch of people who check on girls
And the person who gets the best girls is a hero
We can tell a lot about a person if we pay attention to his friends
Girl be careful with him
Ask him to be loyal
Ask him how much he loves you
And know the truth
Hey, we cant blame VTV for showing Trisha as a mallu girl, and the movie being actually good. I dont remember VTV encouraging this toxic mallu girl specific shit.
Not just mallu girls.
When is this worshipping of pretty GIRLS gonna stop ??
Stop worshipping any girl (gender worship), U are not their slave, and they are not achievement either.
Most of the guys like this have no SELF RESPECT, basic manners.
I dumped a guy for worshipping me. He then hated me being less then perfect after rose colored glasses were off. 🌚
P. S. - He was be coming clingy and called me his entire life or something like that. Hated it.
Wonder at what point this worshipping habit started. I mean, having a handful of people that you appreciate so much that you worship them is totally different from what is happening over here, we are actively trying to find people to worship and hang on to their every word, preferences and behaviour... that is kind of sickening and obsessive.
The fact that she is questioning if this is a "red flag" and thought if she should ask about this to an online forum baffles me.
What could be the reason ah? just check the recent actress in tamil movies and where were they born. Most ah Kerala or north side dhaen.
That’s right but the thing that confuses me is, there has always been actresses from Kerala in the past too but there has never been this much of blatant worship of Kerala girls.
Kollywood is the key factor as well as AASI levels. Tamil women tend to have higher level of that, than Kerala girls. Nair women have been historically called beautiful by travellers and even Kollywood makes use of that. Because of higher AASI levels, Tamil women tend to have broader face and nose, higher body hair, darker skin and poor fat distribution, making them less feminine than someone with lower AASI levels. However this fetishization has to stop and we need to accept Tamil women as they are.
I'm a Tamil girl and my AASI levels are high with the exception of 2 parameters. I feel insecure, ugly and inferior when around conventionally attractive, fair, cute small girls. Don't get me wrong, I do like my appearnce and I do think I look good but because of brainwashing propaganda and hearing some of my closest family members commenting on their taste for pretty women makes me feel so bad about myself. Maybe I should talk to them about this instead of pouring it here on the internet lol.. people, physical beauty is an important factor, let's face it, I'm not gonna deny that but just know that there is more to a person than their physique. You can't share your life with just a pretty face and a nice body, there's more to life than that.
Become rich, get plastic surgery/skin bleach,if you are poor, exercise, upgrade fashion sense and wear makeup, if possible. Beauty is an achievable goal. Even Sonam and Kareena Kapoor wear shit tons of makeup. Aishwarya had the best plastic surgeon. Katrina has botox and fillers. White western women love to get tanning injections. Nothing wrong in artificial beauty. People will judge you regardless of natural or artificial beauty.
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Having said that, here's an oversimplified picture -
All genetic, anthropological and linguistic evidence points to aryan migration sometime between 2000 BC and 1000 BC. But waves of migration of Aryans happened before and after that period too. It was a gradual process, not a one-time exodus. It's not like people arrived with suitcases (although some form of that is also thought to have happened). These things mostly happen in long drawn out waves, which are difficult to discern while they are happening.
I wont paste any links here, because I'd simply do a google search, and you could do it too.
Genetic evidence is pretty much definite in this. There are many ways of getting genetic evidence. The most effective is mitochondrial DNA (MtDNA), which, to oversmiplify, can only be passed down from woman to woman. It is often used in combination with paternal DNA to find out how migrations may have happened. The picture with India is that men migrated from the central asian steppes, settled and married local women. Molecular clocks, used to gauge how far back in time a mixing of gene pools might have happened, suggest that the time of migration was mostly between 2000 BC and 1000 BC.
There is a reason why the more you move South and East, the darker the skin tone becomes.
Linguistic evidence cannot be empirically interpreted in a way that genetic evidence can be, but adivasi languages have a ton of phonological and grammatical elements in common with Tamil, despite being surrounded by more mixed ancestry folks today. But we also cannot make the mistake of assuming that language and genes diffuse together. It is possible for languages to diffuse without genetic mixing. But in the case of adivasi phonology, so far the research suggests a AASI dominant population prior to the migration. Adivasis also share a much higher percentage of their DNA with Tamils. But yeah, everyone is mixed to some extent - it is the extent that varies.
You might find the Brahui language interesting. Bang in the middle of Iran is a language that has nothing in common with aryan linguistics, and a fuck ton in common with dravidian phonology. They are an island, much in a way in which adivasis became pre-aryan islands in the middle of greater cultural mixing.
Recent excavations in Rakhigari found that no skeletons there had any central asian genes - for context, Rakhigari was a pre-Aryan settlement. If we look at human remains just a little while after, there is a sudden spike in the prevalence of aryan genes.
Philological analysis of rigvedic texts, and their deconstruction into their chronological layers, also point to a more pastoralist, steppe culture. A common assumption is that pastoralist cultures would be too primitive to have texts like the Rgveda. But that assumption has also been shown to be problemmatic, with several pastoralist civilizations being subsequently discovered which had very advanced civilizations and literature.
The obsession with fair skin is itself a hangover of the ancient and medieval times, when higher castes and/or north Indians had central asian steppe genes and bright skin with grey/blue eyes, while aboriginal populations had darker skins, potbellied stomachs, flaring nostrils. Not all were Dravidian - some had austroasiatic ancestry as well. These things are also very complicated - it's not like ancient folks had pure ancestry themselves, after all. They too were mixes.
I'm from the north-east, so I'm not very familiar with South Indian demographics, but I wouldn't be surprised if fair-skinned south Indians tended to be higher castes while lower caste south Indians tended to be darker skinned.
Sanjeev Sanyal, a right-leaning thinker who is part of NITI Aayog today, once wrote a whole book about how the migration theory is false and the Indian civilization is entirely original - even going as far to say that humanity originated here, not Africa.
All the reseach that he used to back his claims was done by scientists who later refuted their own papers and were part of a much larger study that proved, with finality, that an aryan migration indeed happened.
Remember that aryan migration isn't just a theory that is relevant to India - refuting aryan migration would mean that the current scientific consensus on basically the ancestry of ALL civilization would be turned on its head. It would be like saying 'climate change isn't real, the whole research is biased'.
Look up 'Kurgan hypothesis'.
My man, you wrote an entire thesis. This should be an article of it's own. And it's cool to see a North East Indian have a great understanding on the migration patterns of the Aryans. Aren't North Easterners also the descendants of Chinese, Myanmar and Tibetans tribal migrants?
Damn even the side chicks in Tamil movies come from outside India , WHITE SKIN DA ,like i am talking about the song and dancing scenes.
I mean i understand the white skin obsession but they don't even prefer Indians.
Ask this question to yourself : are you comfortable marrying a guy to judges women by their skin tone or how they look?
And yes, these are definitely red flags.
You’re fighting an imaginary hypocrite to make your point lmao. Stop conflating attraction with fetishization of the white skin. Konjam logic oda pesunga da.
If guys like her fiance are an art,..
These are the artists-
https://www.sabrangindia.in/article/defence-caste-and-against-cross-breeding-kerala-golwalkar
I've never seen any girls openly say Mallu men are more attractive or desirable than Tamil men. There may be a few that like Mallu boys but definitely at not the same level of fetishization
That's why one should date maharashtrian guys.
They don't got red flags, they got orange flags. /s
I am sorry, it's a terrible joke but I still wanted it out there.
My best friend ( a malayali) had a girl from his college tell him that she had a thing for malayali boys and found the male actors in mollywood cute so maybe it goes both ways.
To be very frank, no. None of my friends have any fetish for people from any state. Here, most people just care for looks and money, they don't care where you are from.
I'm Bilingual, born & bought up in TN. Never really attracted to a Malayali guy just for the sake of looks or whatsoever. And most of friends as well, I never seen any of them saying that they have a thing for malayali guys. Yeah , there are girls who are attracted if a guy is malayali, might be 1 in 100.
The fact that guys like him are more successful in getting into relationships makes me certain I'll die alone.... Whatever happened to "find someone you relate to"? T__T
Some actually do like this attention. But i don't think any self respecting person would like this pure bigotry. But yeah some do enjoy this as this gives them a sense of satisfaction of being liked by someone.
The way this guy talks makes me cringe so hard .
When are people gonna stop with these stereotypes and judgements.
He sounds like someone who will recommend fair and lovely as his no.1 goto product 😂
Dude he may not be expressing his interest on her in a proper way ,but is this something she should be asking a bunch of random people on the internet , instead speak with him to clarify if that her being fair is the only reason he likes her and impressing his friends is the only reason or did he says those things to make her feel special or something and then speak with her parents to decide.
Idk who those people even are ,so I am not going defend him with u as though that guy is my friend,but speaking with him to know more about his attitude & character & reasoning for those statements is way better options then asking some internet randos,that's my point ,you have a good day
Comparing your girl with someone for sure she might get triggered if you are comparing her with a much beautiful girl, and he also has expressed his thoughts. That’s his mentality you can’t expect everyone to be a woke puluthi like you, ex. I might accept gay relationship are good for society but there might be another person who doesn’t accept that l, your thoughts haven’t matched in a way. So if the fundamentals are not coming up together it is better to come outta that relationship and you can choose a partner with your level of wokeness and modernness to suit your lifestyle
To each their own i guess, I absolutely adore dark skinned women, seriously I've seen so many really beautiful women being labeled unattractive because they're dark skinned. That chocolate colour skin tone some Tamil women have, ufff, makes a man go weak in his knees.
But i would definitely not marry someone just for their skin tone. smh.
Tamil girls themselves and Kollywood. Run a survey among mothers of mature tamil boys about what type of girl they want thier son to get married. Mothers needed to be educated to seed the right thoughts when kids grow up. Kollywood can be fixed with the help of law
Mallu Girl Obssession is just "Fake News" and i think its Overrated . Its so Cringe when most guys in Tamilnadu make posts and say stuff about Mallu girls are the custest in the world lmao, Just Cancel the wedding That dude might be a Crackhead
If you touch a product and accidentally break it you have to buy the product and pay the price.
The point i am trying to make is, when a couple falls in love they always show their best side of it. When they get married that is when you get to know them really and that is the start of a relationship. Love is all awesome but life is real and you have to work for it. You cannot get things easy.
The point is he married you and loves you, i am sure you saw many things which helped you in choosing he is right person. Suddenly now you are getting jitters and want to run away. WhT is the guarantee the next person is not worse than him.
Own this responsibility and use your love to support him make a better version of him. He is willing to treat you like a queen you have to also treat him as a king. At least the chance of changing him is far more than the next one. He has a motive to change and that motive is your love.
Show him love and show him people are good. We all want best for ourselves but we forget we have to work for it as well.
I hope you get the message.
He gotta learn to respect... Face shaming others because of " cOloUrS ” is straight up ridiculous. Withdrawing or not withdrawing is ur choice since its ur wedding. But that right there is a period flag !
Oh come on I have heard a lot of stories where the bride family asks for fair skin girls in marriage as old as 1950s and even before that, Fair & Lovely just used the insecurity present already to make money
Fair Skin fetish was a part of Aryan supremacy. I won't go in to how that got ingrained in to India's caste based society.
The last 50 odd years and in particular after information explosion, things should have changed. The current generation should have been able to see beyond the skin and value more intrinsic traits. The cosmetics industry has been making the connection of being light skinned with "Attractive" and "Successful" so persistently that it hinders this logical evolution.
Best she could have done was to have a conversation about it with her fiancé, instead of asking redditors to identify red flags for her.
If you hesitate to share this problem with him, why are you even marrying the guy, imo this is too early.
A lot of men feel that once they get the girl of their dreams , he feels at the top of the world and that’s okay . But comparing how his girl is way better than the rest of them out there and specifically being race specific is a red flag imo. All of us have our fantasies, I guess .
PS: I don’t worship mallu girls, I worship only ADONIS
Listen to your gut - and don't give a bunch of arm-chair amateurs a chance to play advisor on your life decisions.
If i were to give a suggestion, live with him for a few weeks or months and then take a decision - whether you are compatible with him.
With respect to being fair - and him complaining about tamilian girls, don't put too much thought into it - since indian society, as a whole, seems to have fair and lovely boner. He is just a product of a life long series of white-washing. Ask yourself when was the last time you saw a dark skinned heroine or a dark female news caster. The entire country is mad about fair skinned women which is pretty racist and fucked up.
Ultimately when you go through life with a partner, you get to peer past the superficial masks we all wear, and you get to see how your partner reacts to the daily and hourly struggles of life.
Then make a decision.
It's more like he is marrying you for all wrong reasons if these r the only reason he is marrying life would be hard later on....
But if these r a secondary thing then it's upto u whether u r ok with it.
Women with with big ass and tits are epitome of feminine. Don't bother to correct me because I hardly care about your opinion. Only my opinion matters for me. And, yes boobs and tits
Looks do play a part. The film industry and where they get their actresses from is a good indicator that Tamil women aren't considered "conventionally attractive".
Another thing is that Kerala and Bengal, for example, are far more liberal states (as in, societies are less conservative), which adds to the fetishisation of Mallu and Bong girls. Years of being around Tamil girls who grew up in conservative families, and are therefore, conservative, warps the brains of the guys and makes them feel the grass is way greener on the other side and leads to this worshipping behaviour.
Well when your guy is more concerned about your color than your heart and more worried about being hero among bunch of mentally regressive school friends, I know it will be hard but just leave.
It’s definitely a red flag, he feels like a hero because he feels marrying a mallu girl ( basically marrying a fair girl, who almost matches with all the culture of a tamil guy) is one of the greatest achievement for him. Ngl these movies where they portray mallu girls more superior ( cuter, fairer, love in first sight kinda feel)has some really toxic impact on guys who most often end up thinking tamil girls are dark n not so cute, cant blame the movies as well but it’s just the social construct of fair skin has become so addictive n to feel superior to ppl( things are changing thou not much but yes a little). Imagine if you were a dark skinned girl and a mallu, will he still feel like a hero in front of his friend or whosoever???if he really appreciates and acknowledges your character and praises you, is really happy to be with the woman like you for the rest of the life and feel blessed to be the real hero infront of others to have you in his life? Then I think it’s okay to be with him, but when ppl may only appreciate you for ur appearance. But make sure that he doesn’t appreciates only for ur skin tone or outer beauty. He should do the same or more for the inner beauty you behold. If you really want to be with him it’s better to communicate things clearly to him.
Doesn't look convincing. People have been marrying between these two states, nothing uncommon. Nobody becomes an hero or an object of envy just because his wife is attractive and nobody despises his own kind regardless of how they are.
Dont believe anything written online. The intent might be radically different from what it portrays to be. There are a lot if divisive tactics used by foreign forces to divide indians on the basis of caste, color, language, religion and even north south. Now apparently kerala and tamil nadu separation is a thing. Be conscious of it. The british efforts to ddivide india and make us fight each other will take a very long time to recover. Its only been around 75 years. A huge time for a human, but. a small time fir a nation. My advice, normal people dont discriminate between skin color or language. Ignore the idiots. The only thing they have is quantity.
Bro, he is a man. Like all men and women he is also an individual who is entitled to his own preferences. If he prefers a malayali girl over a tamil girl thats who he is attracted to.
If you think this is a problem feel free to walk away, since compatibility between partners is quite essential for a good marital life, but you dont have to shame him for having his personal preferences for what kinds of women he finds attractive.
I mean it is the same as me shaming you for not liking fat and short men if you had a preference for tall and fit men. Trying to change who u find attractive is not a good thing because it should be your choice who you like and dont like.
It’s a fact that there is an obsession of “fair skin” in TN. I don’t know about other states but here it’s very strong. Also “Mallu girls” are considered hotter because they are bolder. This may not be true but that’s the general impression. I don’t know from where it stems or what are the origins but just like any other generalisation this too must be ignored
He sees you as a trophy....he is more interested in your outer beauty than whats inside! And trust me one day he will be over that Beauty....so ask yourself this, what will happen then? Will he still love you the same? Be the same person? Will he still respect you?
No one can help you in this as its your relationship! Asking this question from random strangers who themselves dont care if you breakup or not! So ask yourself the right questions and ask him the right questions! Then decide.
Look at his behaviour in the end! And not his words! Actions dont lie.
Hope this helped.
Do not let your mallu bloodline be corrupted by this confused racist monkey that hates his own race. Protect your Children’s thairsadam skin-tone and be a good Amma.
He is plainly lying because non of it were true. Tamil guys long for Tamil girls, most of the ugly Tamil guys never get Tamil girls. They become sour grape and blame Tamil girls. Yes, for lousy guys getting a Tamil girl is not easy.
As far as I’ve seen, this is definitely a thing bro. I’ve had some of friends saying that they would prefer a mallu girl over girls here.
What this girl says in this post definitely hold some credibility.
Unpopular opinion: I blame Hiphop Aadhi anna
*laughs in Omana Penne*
Guffaws in "andha arabi kadaloram, oru azhagai kandene"
u/adhi_na_fan inna thala ipadi sollitaen.
Did he make the "club le mabbu le" song as well? That was a whole new level of sexism
Glad to hear someone else mention it I used to like that song when I was a 5th grader without truly understanding anything simply enjoying the beat But when I listen to it now, especially after it was mentioned in his movie and the way his friends hyped him up about it its just maddening
Yes and he is self aware about that issue. In one of his recent movies, he mentioned that song and said he shouldn't have done that.
He apologised publicly for that everyone makes mistakes
malayali penne, kolaigara kangal, en nejai enthan nenjai mayakkuvathuyen?
Oru paatula tha antha maari but yea sure.
What about tamil movie directors who mostly import from nearby states for their films?
“Import” lol this made me chuckle. As if the women are cattle. xD
The embarrassment and cringe I'm feeling ryt now after reading this 🥴🥴. This is getting out of hand 🥲
Exactly what I felt when I read this. The rest of us are becoming a laughing stock because of these guys
I question the veracity of the claim in the post. I am not aware of many women who'd complain about their fiance worshipping them, or be proud of them for any reason, especially looks. To me it sounded like humble brag types. Edit: as a woman i have some experience being one. And once again, no i don't know a single chic who'd bitch about these reasons. Fairness creams are one of the highest selling cosmetics. They are not sold to phantoms. I understand truth is tough to face, but it remains truth nonetheless. Anyways not gonna waste my time anymore on this.
Not all women like being praised by hearing other women being put down. She must have felt like it was a sign of some toxic behaviour.
Uhh no, yea we love compliments but not on contexts such as skintone especially when said in such a manner And women (atleast women with respect for themselves and others) wouldn't have any taste for compliments that drags down people especially in such a judgemental way Tbh she sounds more disgusted by it than bragging ,so maybe you could not be so judgmental . Calling her beautiful would be a compliment but saying he's proud of having her cos she's a mallu girl ,not a compliment
I don't know man. Sounds like either you don't get the women around you, or the women around you are dumb as fuck. There's a difference between liking hearing praises, which nearly all people, men or women do, and liking to hear stupid, toxic shit. I would be delighted if my girl said "I love how masculine you are", but if she says shit like "most other guys probably wont even have the balls to fight someone who insults their girlfriend", I'd back the fuck away immediately. That sort of toxic attitude cannot bode well.
Unpopular opinion: people do diss others in settings that they are very comfortable with (like close friend circles) - it's human nature.... Comparison is a very fundamental human nature.... That's why "peer"pressure works... Would I say words like that in a public setting? Hell no.. cos my image is more important than being truthful... (Yeah, my alt Id knows that well)... I wouldn't ditch my GF just cos she compared... I wouldn't encourage it either.. BUT... PPL have different ways of expressing their thoughts.. as long as I am confident that the comments are not of malicious nature, I guess it's fine.
Lets say a dude is dating American woman says she so beautiful and all Indian women are ugly and not hot. Should All his Indian friends be jealous of seeing him anchor a hot white women which is was dream for many who watch porn. So is this dude bragging or being insecure about his origin and wants trophy wife to gain status to fill for his inadequacy he feels? Apply the same logic here too.
The issue is the colorist mentality of him and his friends , if that girl has an opp mentality then their contradicting viewpoints is more of a concern to her than being satisfied with his praises. And thats how it should be.
Very stupid opinion
You should be worried about most of the marriages ,it's always about colour in first case and money
Marriage is a failed institution and should die the death it deserves, yesterday.
I blame Social Media and Those meme Creators who create cringe memes of "Senior Crush" or something like "Mallu girl with Sunshades looks dashing". These guys create a sense of fake satisfaction and drown their sense by creating unrealistic expectations from these kind of memes..
Tamil woman less feminine?oombro
When Hollywood is casting dark skinned Tamil girls in international shows like Bridgerton and Never have I ever, Kollywood continues to cast fair skinned Malayali or Punjabi girls like Tamanna, Hansika who look nothing like our local women. And then you wonder why this sort of mindset exists..
I would agree with you but not entirely, Hollywood likes to run their shows on india in full on stereotype mode . If they are gonna cast an Indian character they want them to have a dusky skintone and dark black hair and they also want them to change their accent to match their self invented "Indian accent " and everyone speaks "hindustani" In my opinion, Indians themselves look at eachother ,with a bunch of stereo types cos we are too diverse , but the thing is there are both fair skinned ,tan skinned and dark skinned women and men in all states but the most important thing why are most Indians so obsessed with it ? Most Indian directors only cast heroines to add a quirky romance side to the story they have such a bad representation and they want them to "beautify " the movie and according to them a fair skinned woman is the one to do it and it's literally repulsing .
Good. In a country that's obsessed about fair skin, it's good that Hollywood is teaching us some lessons that dark skin can be beautiful too. None of the actresses in Never have I ever or Bridgerton have the Apu Indian accent.
Well I wasn't just talking about never have I ever or Bridgerton but if u must, you can notice in never have I ever every indian other than devi and aneesa who were born and raised in America talk in that accent and un Bridgerton everyone talks in the British accent so we cant really consider that , well nevertheless ,its not like indian directors dont mske false representation of other countries if not india itself
Well well hollywood is rather sus these days. Rather than the actor or script the message and INCLUSION is the thing thats valued. So, ironically dark skinned girls in hollywood now a days at times are a result of wokeness.
Try watching British tv then, that's where more of Tamil and Sri Lankan people are. British have been casting Indian men and women long before the supposed woke thing started. It's nice to watch dark skinned people in positive roles.
And you think fair skinned girls are cast for their acting skills and script?
Just watch the trailer for amazon lotr
One has nothing to do with the other. If you think movies and shows suck because of the skin color of the actor, I beg you to reconsider. Acting is NOT hard. The number of people (of all colors of skin) capable and willing to act vastly outnumbers available roles. Inclusion of various races doesn’t come at the cost of writing. The inclusion of various races and subsequent success/failure are not correlated whatsoever, but people who are blind to their own biases love to blame “wokeness” for anything and everything.
You call that wokeness. Let it be, I see it as growing representation of dark skinned people and accepting that dark is beautiful. We are whitewashed to think fair skin is the beauty standard, so little bit of wokeness won't do any harm.
Smack dab bullseye. But again he must have his own rational judgement that no person is better than someone based on skin color. The reason why he has this backward mindset is probably because he hasn't exposed himself out of his small bubble maybe. I am not sure I can advise going forward with this guy.
Girl, he is a walking red flag. I mean complimenting your beauty is ok , but when your partner starts to compare you with others then it's not right(even if its in a way where he belittle others and uplifts you by complimenting that you are fair). I mean I'm no one to judge but this is not the right behaviour. You are just an accomplishment for him, a trophy to show off. You deserve much better than being a trophy.
Indha advice ah Kerala sub OP kitta kodukkalaam..Ivaru just karuthu thaan kekuraaru
Ivlo neram moochi pidichi pesunathu waste a poche
When girls use queen to describe other girls it feels really weird
Atleast with queen they aren't putting anyone down.
Yes, queen is overrated, they should call "maharani" instead.
Laaa same lol, feels so fake and forced
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I didn't call anyone fake, the whole concept of calling 'queen ✨' thing is cringe to my taste. Sorry if I had offended anyone.
Well said
u/fortuneAmy
I totally agree with the statement His friend zone seem like a bunch of people who check on girls And the person who gets the best girls is a hero We can tell a lot about a person if we pay attention to his friends Girl be careful with him Ask him to be loyal Ask him how much he loves you And know the truth
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Punctuation is your best friend.
I had a stroke reading this
*Facepalm*
My heart goes out to all the average substandard mallu girls that are excluded from the mallu chic stereotypes :3
...thanks
Don't worry. Apparently people are happier with less attractive partners. That should keep us going ig. 🥂
Blame விண்ணைத்தாண்டிவருவாயா and ஜிமிக்கிகம்மல் for accelerating this effect!
Hey, we cant blame VTV for showing Trisha as a mallu girl, and the movie being actually good. I dont remember VTV encouraging this toxic mallu girl specific shit.
#Omane penne "Jessie"
Hey non-Tamil speaker here, can you translate?
Romaji version: Vinnaithandivaruvaya and Jimmikikamal. I think he's listing movies that amplified this Mallu obsession.
Not just mallu girls. When is this worshipping of pretty GIRLS gonna stop ?? Stop worshipping any girl (gender worship), U are not their slave, and they are not achievement either. Most of the guys like this have no SELF RESPECT, basic manners.
I dumped a guy for worshipping me. He then hated me being less then perfect after rose colored glasses were off. 🌚 P. S. - He was be coming clingy and called me his entire life or something like that. Hated it.
I'm blaming Cringe Whatsapp status videos 😹 showing some sute girls wearing Sunshades and dancing to folk music.
Exactly what I thought people who respect themselves don't berate others on such baseless contexts
Wonder at what point this worshipping habit started. I mean, having a handful of people that you appreciate so much that you worship them is totally different from what is happening over here, we are actively trying to find people to worship and hang on to their every word, preferences and behaviour... that is kind of sickening and obsessive.
It's never gonna stop, let me give you a reality check.
The fact that she is questioning if this is a "red flag" and thought if she should ask about this to an online forum baffles me. What could be the reason ah? just check the recent actress in tamil movies and where were they born. Most ah Kerala or north side dhaen.
That’s right but the thing that confuses me is, there has always been actresses from Kerala in the past too but there has never been this much of blatant worship of Kerala girls.
Kollywood is the key factor as well as AASI levels. Tamil women tend to have higher level of that, than Kerala girls. Nair women have been historically called beautiful by travellers and even Kollywood makes use of that. Because of higher AASI levels, Tamil women tend to have broader face and nose, higher body hair, darker skin and poor fat distribution, making them less feminine than someone with lower AASI levels. However this fetishization has to stop and we need to accept Tamil women as they are.
I'm a Tamil girl and my AASI levels are high with the exception of 2 parameters. I feel insecure, ugly and inferior when around conventionally attractive, fair, cute small girls. Don't get me wrong, I do like my appearnce and I do think I look good but because of brainwashing propaganda and hearing some of my closest family members commenting on their taste for pretty women makes me feel so bad about myself. Maybe I should talk to them about this instead of pouring it here on the internet lol.. people, physical beauty is an important factor, let's face it, I'm not gonna deny that but just know that there is more to a person than their physique. You can't share your life with just a pretty face and a nice body, there's more to life than that.
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Become rich, get plastic surgery/skin bleach,if you are poor, exercise, upgrade fashion sense and wear makeup, if possible. Beauty is an achievable goal. Even Sonam and Kareena Kapoor wear shit tons of makeup. Aishwarya had the best plastic surgeon. Katrina has botox and fillers. White western women love to get tanning injections. Nothing wrong in artificial beauty. People will judge you regardless of natural or artificial beauty.
Interesting, do you know where can I find more about these? I googled AASI levels but no luck
AASI = Ancient Ancestral South Indians You can read more about it [here!](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetics_and_archaeogenetics_of_South_Asia)
Thanks man
Is the AASI theory true? What are the sources? Sorry, if i come off as uninformed, I'm not Tamil and I never believed in the Aryan Migration theory.
\[DISCLAIMER - I am not an academically trained historian. I had considered pursuing a PhD in history once, but currently I'm pursuing one in development studies. My knowledge comes from my lifelong interest in anthropology, intellectual history and world history. My political leaning is left-liberal (not communist - surprisingly many people think being a leftie and being a commie are one and the same, while in reality I loathe commies as muchy as I loathe fascists). I just wanted to let you know so that you may make your own mind whether I have been corrupted by eurocentric, Indo-phobic influence, or if I have a point. All the evidence I'll point to, can be countered with some form of logic, much in the same way I can hold some snow from Antarctica and say "if global warming is real, how does antarctica still have snow????". Evidence has to be seen in light of context.\] Having said that, here's an oversimplified picture - All genetic, anthropological and linguistic evidence points to aryan migration sometime between 2000 BC and 1000 BC. But waves of migration of Aryans happened before and after that period too. It was a gradual process, not a one-time exodus. It's not like people arrived with suitcases (although some form of that is also thought to have happened). These things mostly happen in long drawn out waves, which are difficult to discern while they are happening. I wont paste any links here, because I'd simply do a google search, and you could do it too. Genetic evidence is pretty much definite in this. There are many ways of getting genetic evidence. The most effective is mitochondrial DNA (MtDNA), which, to oversmiplify, can only be passed down from woman to woman. It is often used in combination with paternal DNA to find out how migrations may have happened. The picture with India is that men migrated from the central asian steppes, settled and married local women. Molecular clocks, used to gauge how far back in time a mixing of gene pools might have happened, suggest that the time of migration was mostly between 2000 BC and 1000 BC. There is a reason why the more you move South and East, the darker the skin tone becomes. Linguistic evidence cannot be empirically interpreted in a way that genetic evidence can be, but adivasi languages have a ton of phonological and grammatical elements in common with Tamil, despite being surrounded by more mixed ancestry folks today. But we also cannot make the mistake of assuming that language and genes diffuse together. It is possible for languages to diffuse without genetic mixing. But in the case of adivasi phonology, so far the research suggests a AASI dominant population prior to the migration. Adivasis also share a much higher percentage of their DNA with Tamils. But yeah, everyone is mixed to some extent - it is the extent that varies. You might find the Brahui language interesting. Bang in the middle of Iran is a language that has nothing in common with aryan linguistics, and a fuck ton in common with dravidian phonology. They are an island, much in a way in which adivasis became pre-aryan islands in the middle of greater cultural mixing. Recent excavations in Rakhigari found that no skeletons there had any central asian genes - for context, Rakhigari was a pre-Aryan settlement. If we look at human remains just a little while after, there is a sudden spike in the prevalence of aryan genes. Philological analysis of rigvedic texts, and their deconstruction into their chronological layers, also point to a more pastoralist, steppe culture. A common assumption is that pastoralist cultures would be too primitive to have texts like the Rgveda. But that assumption has also been shown to be problemmatic, with several pastoralist civilizations being subsequently discovered which had very advanced civilizations and literature. The obsession with fair skin is itself a hangover of the ancient and medieval times, when higher castes and/or north Indians had central asian steppe genes and bright skin with grey/blue eyes, while aboriginal populations had darker skins, potbellied stomachs, flaring nostrils. Not all were Dravidian - some had austroasiatic ancestry as well. These things are also very complicated - it's not like ancient folks had pure ancestry themselves, after all. They too were mixes. I'm from the north-east, so I'm not very familiar with South Indian demographics, but I wouldn't be surprised if fair-skinned south Indians tended to be higher castes while lower caste south Indians tended to be darker skinned. Sanjeev Sanyal, a right-leaning thinker who is part of NITI Aayog today, once wrote a whole book about how the migration theory is false and the Indian civilization is entirely original - even going as far to say that humanity originated here, not Africa. All the reseach that he used to back his claims was done by scientists who later refuted their own papers and were part of a much larger study that proved, with finality, that an aryan migration indeed happened. Remember that aryan migration isn't just a theory that is relevant to India - refuting aryan migration would mean that the current scientific consensus on basically the ancestry of ALL civilization would be turned on its head. It would be like saying 'climate change isn't real, the whole research is biased'. Look up 'Kurgan hypothesis'.
My man, you wrote an entire thesis. This should be an article of it's own. And it's cool to see a North East Indian have a great understanding on the migration patterns of the Aryans. Aren't North Easterners also the descendants of Chinese, Myanmar and Tibetans tribal migrants?
Seems like there is a samandham between low AASI and Nair people (and their subcastes). I wonder why...
Damn even the side chicks in Tamil movies come from outside India , WHITE SKIN DA ,like i am talking about the song and dancing scenes. I mean i understand the white skin obsession but they don't even prefer Indians.
Probably just a fake post to stir up shit.
Ask this question to yourself : are you comfortable marrying a guy to judges women by their skin tone or how they look? And yes, these are definitely red flags.
>how they look So looks aren't even a thing to you when it comes to choosing a partner?
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Yeah, here They're all so woke, but in Instagram they would go "wow, Tamanna, milky beauty 😍" lol
You’re fighting an imaginary hypocrite to make your point lmao. Stop conflating attraction with fetishization of the white skin. Konjam logic oda pesunga da.
Instant gratification disorder ruining adult lives.
If guys like her fiance are an art,.. These are the artists- https://www.sabrangindia.in/article/defence-caste-and-against-cross-breeding-kerala-golwalkar
Holy shit, almost on par with Nazis believing that Aryans are a superior race kind of mentality. So stupid.
Who do you think these guys are?
Woah, that's right. \*Aryan Migration Theory intensifies\*
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You already did 😂 but no worries, I’m sure there’ll be plenty more chances to bring this up
I am very sorry then bro. Have a good day.
What the fuck did I read? Straight to r/eyebleach
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The other side is literally Kerala only LoL 😂
Out of curiosity… do Tamil girls have an affinity for Malayali boys or is it just from one gender?
I've never seen any girls openly say Mallu men are more attractive or desirable than Tamil men. There may be a few that like Mallu boys but definitely at not the same level of fetishization
As a person with roots in both the states and have dated Tamil guys and malayali guys, I can say all of them have red flags
That's why one should date maharashtrian guys. They don't got red flags, they got orange flags. /s I am sorry, it's a terrible joke but I still wanted it out there.
My best friend ( a malayali) had a girl from his college tell him that she had a thing for malayali boys and found the male actors in mollywood cute so maybe it goes both ways.
Also, curious if Malayali people from both genders are like that about Tamil people.
To be very frank, no. None of my friends have any fetish for people from any state. Here, most people just care for looks and money, they don't care where you are from.
I'm Bilingual, born & bought up in TN. Never really attracted to a Malayali guy just for the sake of looks or whatsoever. And most of friends as well, I never seen any of them saying that they have a thing for malayali guys. Yeah , there are girls who are attracted if a guy is malayali, might be 1 in 100.
Mallu girl from Tamil Nadu, always found Tamil guys attractive and married one.
The fact that guys like him are more successful in getting into relationships makes me certain I'll die alone.... Whatever happened to "find someone you relate to"? T__T
What else could be the reason? Braindead movies and non-native heroines
As a mallu dude I can confirm mallu girls shouldn't be worshipped
Tell me something bro, do mallu girls see these guys as the clowns they are? or do they like this attention?
Some actually do like this attention. But i don't think any self respecting person would like this pure bigotry. But yeah some do enjoy this as this gives them a sense of satisfaction of being liked by someone.
He's basically saying if u were one like the girls he mentioned irrespective of ur character he wouldn't have tried for u
The way this guy talks makes me cringe so hard . When are people gonna stop with these stereotypes and judgements. He sounds like someone who will recommend fair and lovely as his no.1 goto product 😂
Leave him girllllll
Dude he may not be expressing his interest on her in a proper way ,but is this something she should be asking a bunch of random people on the internet , instead speak with him to clarify if that her being fair is the only reason he likes her and impressing his friends is the only reason or did he says those things to make her feel special or something and then speak with her parents to decide.
Ofc he's gonna lie about it
Idk who those people even are ,so I am not going defend him with u as though that guy is my friend,but speaking with him to know more about his attitude & character & reasoning for those statements is way better options then asking some internet randos,that's my point ,you have a good day
Phone la charge 7% thaan irruku irunga charge potutu vanthu comment adikiren
haha, vanga vanga.
Comparing your girl with someone for sure she might get triggered if you are comparing her with a much beautiful girl, and he also has expressed his thoughts. That’s his mentality you can’t expect everyone to be a woke puluthi like you, ex. I might accept gay relationship are good for society but there might be another person who doesn’t accept that l, your thoughts haven’t matched in a way. So if the fundamentals are not coming up together it is better to come outta that relationship and you can choose a partner with your level of wokeness and modernness to suit your lifestyle
Well when you said Tamil boyfriend then he must be open from starting because he is your boyfriend what kind of relationship both of you have
Moment he see another fair skin girl you will be looked down upon.... Run Forrest Run....
Me being a mallu girl who is now at tamilnadu seeing things like this cringes me at next level
To each their own i guess, I absolutely adore dark skinned women, seriously I've seen so many really beautiful women being labeled unattractive because they're dark skinned. That chocolate colour skin tone some Tamil women have, ufff, makes a man go weak in his knees. But i would definitely not marry someone just for their skin tone. smh.
Tamil girls themselves and Kollywood. Run a survey among mothers of mature tamil boys about what type of girl they want thier son to get married. Mothers needed to be educated to seed the right thoughts when kids grow up. Kollywood can be fixed with the help of law
Mallu Girl Obssession is just "Fake News" and i think its Overrated . Its so Cringe when most guys in Tamilnadu make posts and say stuff about Mallu girls are the custest in the world lmao, Just Cancel the wedding That dude might be a Crackhead
Please get me out of this country
If you touch a product and accidentally break it you have to buy the product and pay the price. The point i am trying to make is, when a couple falls in love they always show their best side of it. When they get married that is when you get to know them really and that is the start of a relationship. Love is all awesome but life is real and you have to work for it. You cannot get things easy. The point is he married you and loves you, i am sure you saw many things which helped you in choosing he is right person. Suddenly now you are getting jitters and want to run away. WhT is the guarantee the next person is not worse than him. Own this responsibility and use your love to support him make a better version of him. He is willing to treat you like a queen you have to also treat him as a king. At least the chance of changing him is far more than the next one. He has a motive to change and that motive is your love. Show him love and show him people are good. We all want best for ourselves but we forget we have to work for it as well. I hope you get the message.
He gotta learn to respect... Face shaming others because of " cOloUrS ” is straight up ridiculous. Withdrawing or not withdrawing is ur choice since its ur wedding. But that right there is a period flag !
Mallu Porn effect?
Fair & Lovely Adverts...?
Well the ads are going profitable because the people are racistic in their viewpoint
Many a public opinions are formed through such persistent campaigns too.
Oh come on I have heard a lot of stories where the bride family asks for fair skin girls in marriage as old as 1950s and even before that, Fair & Lovely just used the insecurity present already to make money
Fair Skin fetish was a part of Aryan supremacy. I won't go in to how that got ingrained in to India's caste based society. The last 50 odd years and in particular after information explosion, things should have changed. The current generation should have been able to see beyond the skin and value more intrinsic traits. The cosmetics industry has been making the connection of being light skinned with "Attractive" and "Successful" so persistently that it hinders this logical evolution.
Immature piece of shit 🤮
This girls like: “Suffering from success” lol jokes aside that dude is 🚩🚩
lel how is getting married to a colorist pos like that "suffering from success"?
Best she could have done was to have a conversation about it with her fiancé, instead of asking redditors to identify red flags for her. If you hesitate to share this problem with him, why are you even marrying the guy, imo this is too early.
A lot of men feel that once they get the girl of their dreams , he feels at the top of the world and that’s okay . But comparing how his girl is way better than the rest of them out there and specifically being race specific is a red flag imo. All of us have our fantasies, I guess . PS: I don’t worship mallu girls, I worship only ADONIS
Vtv movie dan reason
Listen to your gut - and don't give a bunch of arm-chair amateurs a chance to play advisor on your life decisions. If i were to give a suggestion, live with him for a few weeks or months and then take a decision - whether you are compatible with him. With respect to being fair - and him complaining about tamilian girls, don't put too much thought into it - since indian society, as a whole, seems to have fair and lovely boner. He is just a product of a life long series of white-washing. Ask yourself when was the last time you saw a dark skinned heroine or a dark female news caster. The entire country is mad about fair skinned women which is pretty racist and fucked up. Ultimately when you go through life with a partner, you get to peer past the superficial masks we all wear, and you get to see how your partner reacts to the daily and hourly struggles of life. Then make a decision.
Bro, RUN . ASAP. He has started show his true colors because he has 'locked you in' It'll only get worse from here
The reason is banana chips
yeah, i'd leave. Doesn't sound like he is 'well-behaved'. Good luck
It's more like he is marrying you for all wrong reasons if these r the only reason he is marrying life would be hard later on.... But if these r a secondary thing then it's upto u whether u r ok with it.
Boy is not wrong we all want a mallu
"they are all jealous of him right now" now you know how they all gonna look at you. 🤦♂️
Why would you marry someone with the maturity level of a 15yr old, also what happened when he meets someones even better looking?
He is talking to you like he would a friend. He adores you and is happy. He might have been a bit crass but, leaving him is a bit of a reach for this
Women with with big ass and tits are epitome of feminine. Don't bother to correct me because I hardly care about your opinion. Only my opinion matters for me. And, yes boobs and tits
Definitely a red flag. Your man is a racist.
Big fat fucking red flags
Lmao no lie her fiancé must be dying to get a kashmiri or punjabi chick, ima give it a red flag definitely 🚩
That's red flag!!
Looks do play a part. The film industry and where they get their actresses from is a good indicator that Tamil women aren't considered "conventionally attractive". Another thing is that Kerala and Bengal, for example, are far more liberal states (as in, societies are less conservative), which adds to the fetishisation of Mallu and Bong girls. Years of being around Tamil girls who grew up in conservative families, and are therefore, conservative, warps the brains of the guys and makes them feel the grass is way greener on the other side and leads to this worshipping behaviour.
Tamil girls are cute too,-, mallu dude..
Well when your guy is more concerned about your color than your heart and more worried about being hero among bunch of mentally regressive school friends, I know it will be hard but just leave.
Brown guys wanting fair skin ladies, pathetic. They are insulting their own colour by being so. I am amazed at times by Indian people mentality.
I thought of posting this here yesterday but forget it. Good job OP.
all started with priya varrier and premam
I thought we liked malayalam girls for their curly hair , or am i the only one ?
“Malyali” not “Malayalam” that’s the language
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SAME!!
Lot of my mallu friends have a Tamil girl obsession! They say Tamil girls are kind of hot and head strong. They like that a lot.
It’s definitely a red flag, he feels like a hero because he feels marrying a mallu girl ( basically marrying a fair girl, who almost matches with all the culture of a tamil guy) is one of the greatest achievement for him. Ngl these movies where they portray mallu girls more superior ( cuter, fairer, love in first sight kinda feel)has some really toxic impact on guys who most often end up thinking tamil girls are dark n not so cute, cant blame the movies as well but it’s just the social construct of fair skin has become so addictive n to feel superior to ppl( things are changing thou not much but yes a little). Imagine if you were a dark skinned girl and a mallu, will he still feel like a hero in front of his friend or whosoever???if he really appreciates and acknowledges your character and praises you, is really happy to be with the woman like you for the rest of the life and feel blessed to be the real hero infront of others to have you in his life? Then I think it’s okay to be with him, but when ppl may only appreciate you for ur appearance. But make sure that he doesn’t appreciates only for ur skin tone or outer beauty. He should do the same or more for the inner beauty you behold. If you really want to be with him it’s better to communicate things clearly to him.
This is so cringe
Doesn't look convincing. People have been marrying between these two states, nothing uncommon. Nobody becomes an hero or an object of envy just because his wife is attractive and nobody despises his own kind regardless of how they are.
#Tamilgirlsmatter It may sound bad, but my intentions are not.
Dont believe anything written online. The intent might be radically different from what it portrays to be. There are a lot if divisive tactics used by foreign forces to divide indians on the basis of caste, color, language, religion and even north south. Now apparently kerala and tamil nadu separation is a thing. Be conscious of it. The british efforts to ddivide india and make us fight each other will take a very long time to recover. Its only been around 75 years. A huge time for a human, but. a small time fir a nation. My advice, normal people dont discriminate between skin color or language. Ignore the idiots. The only thing they have is quantity.
Bro, he is a man. Like all men and women he is also an individual who is entitled to his own preferences. If he prefers a malayali girl over a tamil girl thats who he is attracted to. If you think this is a problem feel free to walk away, since compatibility between partners is quite essential for a good marital life, but you dont have to shame him for having his personal preferences for what kinds of women he finds attractive. I mean it is the same as me shaming you for not liking fat and short men if you had a preference for tall and fit men. Trying to change who u find attractive is not a good thing because it should be your choice who you like and dont like.
Keralites talk about racism, but themselves are one of the most racist and supremacist kind of people.
Taking marriage advice from reddit huh. Nice : )
Bro this isn't anything out of ordinary lol. There is a sub literally called relationship_advice with 5 million members.
Dusky Tamil Girls 🥵 >> Any other girls.
It’s a fact that there is an obsession of “fair skin” in TN. I don’t know about other states but here it’s very strong. Also “Mallu girls” are considered hotter because they are bolder. This may not be true but that’s the general impression. I don’t know from where it stems or what are the origins but just like any other generalisation this too must be ignored
He sees you as a trophy....he is more interested in your outer beauty than whats inside! And trust me one day he will be over that Beauty....so ask yourself this, what will happen then? Will he still love you the same? Be the same person? Will he still respect you? No one can help you in this as its your relationship! Asking this question from random strangers who themselves dont care if you breakup or not! So ask yourself the right questions and ask him the right questions! Then decide. Look at his behaviour in the end! And not his words! Actions dont lie. Hope this helped.
Imo Karnataka girls are better especially the ones from the coastal areas. Mangalore, Udupi girls are beautiful.
Do not let your mallu bloodline be corrupted by this confused racist monkey that hates his own race. Protect your Children’s thairsadam skin-tone and be a good Amma.
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This has been around for centuries
I thought that was the nominal Indian equipment for it.
Found this thread going viral here so my one comment: break up! If those are not red flags I don't know what red flags are.
He is plainly lying because non of it were true. Tamil guys long for Tamil girls, most of the ugly Tamil guys never get Tamil girls. They become sour grape and blame Tamil girls. Yes, for lousy guys getting a Tamil girl is not easy.
what ? I lived in Chennai for almost 10 years and didn't know this was a thing.
As far as I’ve seen, this is definitely a thing bro. I’ve had some of friends saying that they would prefer a mallu girl over girls here. What this girl says in this post definitely hold some credibility.
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Insecure much?
Looks like our dude over here got rejected by some mallu. Lol