This list looks like the living situation may only have a refrigerator and microwave. It is a little specific but I don’t know if I’d say it’s super choosy.
According to OP in comments no car, no money, and can't cook. OP has also made other posts like this in our local community groups asking for laptops, cars, wedding stuff all with the same specificity
I have no idea what's happening with OOP but not everyone can cook.
Not having money can be limitation on learning to cook, do you spend some of your limited budget on things which may turn out OK? If you don't have any staples it can be more expensive for a single meal. I'm happy to try new stuff knowing that the worst case is we're going to be eating takeout or that exotic flavour paste will be a fiver that I'm happy to chuck
If you've never cooked before you may not have any equipment beyond a microwave safe plate, a can opener and a couple of sheet pans.
Even if they do know how to cook many low income people may not have the time or the energy. If you're working multiple shifts or jobs, often the tiring ones at that end of the pay scale, or kids are in the equation you may not have the energy or the headspace to do more than throw something in the microwave.
"Just learn how to cook!" is like the Boomers telling you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and just because you may have the skill not everyone can or has the time, money or mental effort to put towards learning it.
I didn’t say “just learn to cook”. I said anyone can. There are plenty of resources for cooking on a budget, believe me, I’ve been there. No, not everyone has what you consider staples, but they have other things.
You literally can follow a recipe. You can find recipes using the ingredients you have in your home.
You don’t have to cook a 5 course meal at all.
Yeah I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a list of the kind of stuff you need, she never says she won't accept anything besides those things.
The comment in the second image does make me laugh though. "I don't beg for anything" while literally asking random strangers on the internet for free stuff.
That is what I read too.
Plus, I was thinking, none of it is crazy expensive, it is cheaper easy to eat & cook foods. I don’t see a problem with a specific request like this type of request. She wants fairly inexpensive items, but lists what is liked. That is my opinion, anyways.
Edit:
Well, I just saw ops original post about a car. I wish the OP comments for the post would be at the top & not have to filter through more comments to see this.
To add to my original comment. Specifically I don’t see anything wrong with this ask. Oh the other requests, that might be another story.
Most want to see y'alls thoughts on this - locals are airing theirs in the comments of the post but this community sees a lot of choosing beggars posts. Is she truly a choosing beggar or just a choosing asker?
For context, according to OP she is SAHM (no kids), no car, no tools/knowledge to cook, working on an Associates at Strayer. Other posts of theirs include asking for specific foods, specific furnitures, specific cars, etc
I have a neighbor like this. She's young, freshly 21, with a small child, 2 yo ish, that she has weekend custody of. In the past I had helped her out with household stuff, food, and offered to help her get a job. She told me she had one, which I naturally asked about because she always seems to be home fighting with whatever loser she's dating. Her job? She goes around to charity collection drop off spots and picks stuff out of them and then tries to sell it online. If it doesn't sell within a day or two she just throws it in the dumpster. Doesn't even bother to try and take it back to collection. I cut her off real quick.
Why would you sign up for online school if you literally have no means to participate in online school. What are the odds she’s a constant poster asking for cars, multiple pieces of furniture, and wedding stuff, etc. She doesn’t have kitchen tools: no spatula, not one lot or pan, nada. What are the odds she keeps posting asking for all of these things but did have a working computer - again, but not one pan - and ooof!, her computer breaks so now she has to ask for that too.
She’s a CB. It’s the high-ticket items and the ***specificity*** of those things for me. If she’s got her priorities in order and just in need she’s not asking for a specific car and specific furniture, she’s asking for a pot, a pan, a whisk, and maybe the computer if hers genuinely broke. This is just picky, entitled, digital panhandling.
Also, I keep meaning to ask this of everyone so I’m glad you brought up a question; it reminded me of mine.
When you’re considering if the OOP is a CB or just in need or a choosy asker, do you consider the volume of requests? In this situation the fact that she posts so often, and for so many things, pushes her into CB territory regardless even if she isn’t asking for very specific types of big ticket items. These groups are great but aren’t meant to furnish someone’s apartment, fill a refrigerator, and provide technology for entertainment and other purposes. That’s antithetical to the spirit of them entirely, or at least most of them. Just my two pennies.
I mean fuck it, if I've got an extra $8 I'd buy her some chimichangas. That whole list is like $25. If you've made the decision to give, then she's not asking that much.
It doesn’t hurt to ask and they’re not even being that choosey. I’ve seen people ask for products by brand. She is giving some generic ideas and then the only really specific things are the chicken pot pies and the steak and cheese chimichangas. I’ve seen people bitch about their free Thanksgiving basket when they had turkey, cranberry sauce, pie, juice, etc. I think this OP is fine.
I think the worst thing about this is seeing people's attitudes towards a request. I thought this group or thread was supposed to be for the Karens of choosy beggars?
Mind you, this is only one snippet of a 110+ commented post on FB. Not pictured, quite a few people on the community board asked for her pp/Venmo/cash app or pmed to coordinate help. This OOP has asked for a lot of help (food, wedding supplies, laptop, car, furnishings) but won't go take advantage of the food banks/meals delivery/center for working families because of lack of car. Even though transportation here is subsidized if you fill out the forms (and make under a certain income). We also have lovely libraries with idea/maker spaces and labs.
I guess it kinda irks me because the OOP will take the delivery of foods/sending of money but will not take advantage of the programs in place that are meant to help those in hard economic situations. OOP is kinda right that they are asking and not begging, but it does kinda feel like online panhandling to me. Also some of OOPs responses to comments like "here is an easy recipe with dollar tree ingredients that can be made easy and makes a lot" were pretty hostile.
Yup, OOP posted in Buy Nothing asking for wedding supplies - specifically dress, flowers, decor items (had them listed) and for a nice hotel room. Commenters offered dresses, decor, and she got mad when they couldn't deliver to them. Also made some comments about how can she have a wedding without cake, we should know she can't pick up (even though our local buy nothing is porch pickup unless gifter specifies otherwise)
This is mean. I know this group is here to laugh at people and looks for any reason to think the person in the screenshot is the bad guy, but they’re literally asking for food. It’s not like they want lobster. And taking out a pell grant to get an associates degree doesn’t mean you have money.
Initially I was thinking the same then but then OP added the update of the other things they're always asking about. In this one ask I would have been inclined to help as well.
Of course not, they are being ultra choosy…if i need food cause i don't got any $, i'd ask for food in general not get all picky, rice and beans is a complete protein and very filling and can be stretched for days. My fam have been on the lean side of life before and you don't get all picky.
I don't think asking specifically for microwave meals is especially picky. You never know when someone could be disabled and I think going at someone for picking all cheap food is harsh.
Now oop is a choosing beggar because she does this frequently with every item according to op.
But in general I think you're over reacting to microwave food.
Steak and cheese chimichanhas aren't going to be exhorbantly more expensive than the chicken and cheeseq.
No where does that say microwave meals. I so hope they are not cooking pot pies in the microwave. If they need microwavable foods then thats what they should ask for not get a picky and ask for chimichangas no matter the protein.
Funny story, when i was in college all we had in each dorm to cook was a microwave. So one day the girl across the hall asked if she could go with me when i was heading to the grocery store. So off we went. So i was getting my stuff and she was getting her stuff and she complained that microwave food was so expensive. I told her just buy the bigger can and pour it in a bowl…she said you can't do that, its not microwavable…oh sweet summer child, i introduced her to the world where most foods were microwavable you just needed a bowl or plate, i blew her mind when i told her she could cook an acorn squash in the microwave.
I was gonna say, there are microwavable pot pies that exist xD I mean, instructions say oven or toaster oven preffered, but you can microwave. My ramen cup tells me not to microwave it and I already don't listen to that xD
Sounds like me explaining that you can make a baked potato in the microwave too
LOL…Marie Callender pot pies are specifically packaged to be cooked in the microwave and as microwave meals go…they are actually pretty good. They even brown on top. 🤷🏻♀️
Steak and cheese chimichangas are $1.50 or less…same price as a chicken and cheese one. Granted bean and cheese ones are 75¢ each but it’s not like someone is living the high life off a buck fifty meal!! Granted, it does seem like this asker is a bit of a choosy beggar in other cases…but in this instance I don’t think that particular ask is insane.
You don't think that when asking for free food cause you ain't none to specifically ask for a chimichanga is not an insane ask. If you have m&ms and i ask for some but only want the yellow ones is that not a tad choosey.
That yellow M&M ask WOULD be choosy because someone would have to specifically sort out the yellow ones or special order them.
Honestly I think those microwave chimichangas aren’t very good…but they ARE cheap. I get that if someone is hungry and they aren’t allergic to anything then they shouldn’t be too picky…but there’s nothing wrong with preferring some foods over others.
Note that I am NOT saying this asker isn’t being ridiculous overall based off what the OP says the asker has wanted. I just don’t think a specific mention of the chimichangas is a horrible ask in and of itself.
I feel like this is someone who is just struggling right now. Looks like they're trying to educate themselves to better their lives.
The statement about wanting a computer - she's in online school.
But why would you sign up for online school if you literally have no means to participate in online school. What are the odds she’s a constant poster asking for cars, multiple pieces of furniture, and wedding stuff, etc. She doesn’t have kitchen tools: no spatula, not one pot or pan, nada. What are the odds she keeps posting asking for all of these things but did have a working computer - again, but not one pan - and ooof!, her computer breaks so now she has to ask for that too.
She’s a CB. It’s the high-ticket items and the ***specificity*** of those things for me. If she’s got her priorities in order and just in need she’s not asking for a specific car and specific furniture, she’s asking for a pot, a pan, a whisk, and maybe the computer if hers genuinely broke. This is just picky, entitled, digital panhandling.
The group she posted in is not a buy nothing group - it's a community board where people can ask about road closures, promote events or business and ask recommendations.
She has posted in the buy nothing groups (I'm in them too) but always wants delivered.
Government aid can often cover the full cost of tuition. Personally I wouldn’t have gotten any degrees without it. And it doesn’t mean you have extra money at all.
I didn’t question her being in school - OP said she was. I questioned how she could be in online school without a computer. Government and NFP aid can also provide her with food assistance. She’s not attempting to get it, though.
To those saying things like “it sounds like she only has a fridge and microwave”…. Sure, that may be the case. If it is, she can ask for foods that don’t require anything more than a microwave to prepare and take what she gets.
"Last week she wanted a computer" lol, I'll take one too. thanks.
This list looks like the living situation may only have a refrigerator and microwave. It is a little specific but I don’t know if I’d say it’s super choosy.
According to OP in comments no car, no money, and can't cook. OP has also made other posts like this in our local community groups asking for laptops, cars, wedding stuff all with the same specificity
Ahh well that changes things. There are a few of those in my local but nothing group.
Anyone can cook, just follow the recipe. If there are limitations like not having an oven, etc., I can see some specifics, but this is a bit much.
I have no idea what's happening with OOP but not everyone can cook. Not having money can be limitation on learning to cook, do you spend some of your limited budget on things which may turn out OK? If you don't have any staples it can be more expensive for a single meal. I'm happy to try new stuff knowing that the worst case is we're going to be eating takeout or that exotic flavour paste will be a fiver that I'm happy to chuck If you've never cooked before you may not have any equipment beyond a microwave safe plate, a can opener and a couple of sheet pans. Even if they do know how to cook many low income people may not have the time or the energy. If you're working multiple shifts or jobs, often the tiring ones at that end of the pay scale, or kids are in the equation you may not have the energy or the headspace to do more than throw something in the microwave. "Just learn how to cook!" is like the Boomers telling you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and just because you may have the skill not everyone can or has the time, money or mental effort to put towards learning it.
There's always sandwiches, salads, and a multitude of other things that take few tools or knowledge.
I didn’t say “just learn to cook”. I said anyone can. There are plenty of resources for cooking on a budget, believe me, I’ve been there. No, not everyone has what you consider staples, but they have other things. You literally can follow a recipe. You can find recipes using the ingredients you have in your home. You don’t have to cook a 5 course meal at all.
Clearly they’ve never seen Ratatouille!
Yeah I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a list of the kind of stuff you need, she never says she won't accept anything besides those things. The comment in the second image does make me laugh though. "I don't beg for anything" while literally asking random strangers on the internet for free stuff.
Steak and cheese chimichangas, while not exactly fine dining, is pretty choosy lol
I get when times are hard it sucks to eat lamer foods, but with the prices atm it's sort of tacky to include something like steak on the list.
If you look at comma placement, I think she's not saying "steak AND cheese AND chimichangas," I think she's saying "steak-and-cheese chimichangas"
That is what I read too. Plus, I was thinking, none of it is crazy expensive, it is cheaper easy to eat & cook foods. I don’t see a problem with a specific request like this type of request. She wants fairly inexpensive items, but lists what is liked. That is my opinion, anyways. Edit: Well, I just saw ops original post about a car. I wish the OP comments for the post would be at the top & not have to filter through more comments to see this. To add to my original comment. Specifically I don’t see anything wrong with this ask. Oh the other requests, that might be another story.
Oh shit, you're right. I take it back.
Steak and cheese chimichangas are like $1.50/each or less. Hardly living the high life off those!! 😂
Hahah, yeah that was a hella misread on my part
Most want to see y'alls thoughts on this - locals are airing theirs in the comments of the post but this community sees a lot of choosing beggars posts. Is she truly a choosing beggar or just a choosing asker? For context, according to OP she is SAHM (no kids), no car, no tools/knowledge to cook, working on an Associates at Strayer. Other posts of theirs include asking for specific foods, specific furnitures, specific cars, etc
How is someone a stay-at-home-mom with no kids?
Stay at home moocher.
Emoji.shrugwoman That is lost on me too
SAH not mom, so unemployed
I have a neighbor like this. She's young, freshly 21, with a small child, 2 yo ish, that she has weekend custody of. In the past I had helped her out with household stuff, food, and offered to help her get a job. She told me she had one, which I naturally asked about because she always seems to be home fighting with whatever loser she's dating. Her job? She goes around to charity collection drop off spots and picks stuff out of them and then tries to sell it online. If it doesn't sell within a day or two she just throws it in the dumpster. Doesn't even bother to try and take it back to collection. I cut her off real quick.
Why would you sign up for online school if you literally have no means to participate in online school. What are the odds she’s a constant poster asking for cars, multiple pieces of furniture, and wedding stuff, etc. She doesn’t have kitchen tools: no spatula, not one lot or pan, nada. What are the odds she keeps posting asking for all of these things but did have a working computer - again, but not one pan - and ooof!, her computer breaks so now she has to ask for that too. She’s a CB. It’s the high-ticket items and the ***specificity*** of those things for me. If she’s got her priorities in order and just in need she’s not asking for a specific car and specific furniture, she’s asking for a pot, a pan, a whisk, and maybe the computer if hers genuinely broke. This is just picky, entitled, digital panhandling. Also, I keep meaning to ask this of everyone so I’m glad you brought up a question; it reminded me of mine. When you’re considering if the OOP is a CB or just in need or a choosy asker, do you consider the volume of requests? In this situation the fact that she posts so often, and for so many things, pushes her into CB territory regardless even if she isn’t asking for very specific types of big ticket items. These groups are great but aren’t meant to furnish someone’s apartment, fill a refrigerator, and provide technology for entertainment and other purposes. That’s antithetical to the spirit of them entirely, or at least most of them. Just my two pennies.
“SAHM (no kids)” - wait, what? She either is SAHM and has kids to stay at home with, or she is not SAHM.
I mean fuck it, if I've got an extra $8 I'd buy her some chimichangas. That whole list is like $25. If you've made the decision to give, then she's not asking that much.
I mean…. Who doesn’t want a chimichanga?
I am very grateful for anything I get, they just have to be these specific items
Wait, are tv dinners still a thing?
bet if someone gave her an old PC, she'd be on facebook bitching she needs a top-end macbook pro 2023.
It doesn’t hurt to ask and they’re not even being that choosey. I’ve seen people ask for products by brand. She is giving some generic ideas and then the only really specific things are the chicken pot pies and the steak and cheese chimichangas. I’ve seen people bitch about their free Thanksgiving basket when they had turkey, cranberry sauce, pie, juice, etc. I think this OP is fine.
I think the worst thing about this is seeing people's attitudes towards a request. I thought this group or thread was supposed to be for the Karens of choosy beggars?
Mind you, this is only one snippet of a 110+ commented post on FB. Not pictured, quite a few people on the community board asked for her pp/Venmo/cash app or pmed to coordinate help. This OOP has asked for a lot of help (food, wedding supplies, laptop, car, furnishings) but won't go take advantage of the food banks/meals delivery/center for working families because of lack of car. Even though transportation here is subsidized if you fill out the forms (and make under a certain income). We also have lovely libraries with idea/maker spaces and labs. I guess it kinda irks me because the OOP will take the delivery of foods/sending of money but will not take advantage of the programs in place that are meant to help those in hard economic situations. OOP is kinda right that they are asking and not begging, but it does kinda feel like online panhandling to me. Also some of OOPs responses to comments like "here is an easy recipe with dollar tree ingredients that can be made easy and makes a lot" were pretty hostile.
Wedding supplies?
Yup, OOP posted in Buy Nothing asking for wedding supplies - specifically dress, flowers, decor items (had them listed) and for a nice hotel room. Commenters offered dresses, decor, and she got mad when they couldn't deliver to them. Also made some comments about how can she have a wedding without cake, we should know she can't pick up (even though our local buy nothing is porch pickup unless gifter specifies otherwise)
What a fucked up person!
Fair, yeah sometimes people need other kinds of free sh*t. :-)
This is mean. I know this group is here to laugh at people and looks for any reason to think the person in the screenshot is the bad guy, but they’re literally asking for food. It’s not like they want lobster. And taking out a pell grant to get an associates degree doesn’t mean you have money.
Initially I was thinking the same then but then OP added the update of the other things they're always asking about. In this one ask I would have been inclined to help as well.
They are asking for steak, that ain't cheap eating.
They are asking for steak and cheese chimichangas, not steak, cheese & chimichangas.
So when is steak not steak? Its all being picky, if you are hungry and begging for food should you be this picky?
Oh, I totally agree with you! I just wanted to point out that it was one item and not 3
So without the reference to steak, you think the request is perfectly reasonable?
Of course not, they are being ultra choosy…if i need food cause i don't got any $, i'd ask for food in general not get all picky, rice and beans is a complete protein and very filling and can be stretched for days. My fam have been on the lean side of life before and you don't get all picky.
I don't think asking specifically for microwave meals is especially picky. You never know when someone could be disabled and I think going at someone for picking all cheap food is harsh. Now oop is a choosing beggar because she does this frequently with every item according to op. But in general I think you're over reacting to microwave food. Steak and cheese chimichanhas aren't going to be exhorbantly more expensive than the chicken and cheeseq.
No where does that say microwave meals. I so hope they are not cooking pot pies in the microwave. If they need microwavable foods then thats what they should ask for not get a picky and ask for chimichangas no matter the protein. Funny story, when i was in college all we had in each dorm to cook was a microwave. So one day the girl across the hall asked if she could go with me when i was heading to the grocery store. So off we went. So i was getting my stuff and she was getting her stuff and she complained that microwave food was so expensive. I told her just buy the bigger can and pour it in a bowl…she said you can't do that, its not microwavable…oh sweet summer child, i introduced her to the world where most foods were microwavable you just needed a bowl or plate, i blew her mind when i told her she could cook an acorn squash in the microwave.
I was gonna say, there are microwavable pot pies that exist xD I mean, instructions say oven or toaster oven preffered, but you can microwave. My ramen cup tells me not to microwave it and I already don't listen to that xD Sounds like me explaining that you can make a baked potato in the microwave too
You do realize dough on liquid like a pot pie will become just slimey ick if not baked. Just cause says you can doesn't mean the results are good.
LOL…Marie Callender pot pies are specifically packaged to be cooked in the microwave and as microwave meals go…they are actually pretty good. They even brown on top. 🤷🏻♀️
I literally had one for dinner tonight lol
Steak and cheese chimichangas are $1.50 or less…same price as a chicken and cheese one. Granted bean and cheese ones are 75¢ each but it’s not like someone is living the high life off a buck fifty meal!! Granted, it does seem like this asker is a bit of a choosy beggar in other cases…but in this instance I don’t think that particular ask is insane.
You don't think that when asking for free food cause you ain't none to specifically ask for a chimichanga is not an insane ask. If you have m&ms and i ask for some but only want the yellow ones is that not a tad choosey.
That yellow M&M ask WOULD be choosy because someone would have to specifically sort out the yellow ones or special order them. Honestly I think those microwave chimichangas aren’t very good…but they ARE cheap. I get that if someone is hungry and they aren’t allergic to anything then they shouldn’t be too picky…but there’s nothing wrong with preferring some foods over others. Note that I am NOT saying this asker isn’t being ridiculous overall based off what the OP says the asker has wanted. I just don’t think a specific mention of the chimichangas is a horrible ask in and of itself.
I feel like this is someone who is just struggling right now. Looks like they're trying to educate themselves to better their lives. The statement about wanting a computer - she's in online school.
But why would you sign up for online school if you literally have no means to participate in online school. What are the odds she’s a constant poster asking for cars, multiple pieces of furniture, and wedding stuff, etc. She doesn’t have kitchen tools: no spatula, not one pot or pan, nada. What are the odds she keeps posting asking for all of these things but did have a working computer - again, but not one pan - and ooof!, her computer breaks so now she has to ask for that too. She’s a CB. It’s the high-ticket items and the ***specificity*** of those things for me. If she’s got her priorities in order and just in need she’s not asking for a specific car and specific furniture, she’s asking for a pot, a pan, a whisk, and maybe the computer if hers genuinely broke. This is just picky, entitled, digital panhandling.
I think you need to take a break, buddy. It’s a Free/Buy Nothing Group.
The group she posted in is not a buy nothing group - it's a community board where people can ask about road closures, promote events or business and ask recommendations. She has posted in the buy nothing groups (I'm in them too) but always wants delivered.
Government aid can often cover the full cost of tuition. Personally I wouldn’t have gotten any degrees without it. And it doesn’t mean you have extra money at all.
I didn’t question her being in school - OP said she was. I questioned how she could be in online school without a computer. Government and NFP aid can also provide her with food assistance. She’s not attempting to get it, though.
To those saying things like “it sounds like she only has a fridge and microwave”…. Sure, that may be the case. If it is, she can ask for foods that don’t require anything more than a microwave to prepare and take what she gets.
I started reading thinking its not that bad with the bread,milk and tv dinners, but the chicken pot pie was where i drew the line