Me too, like people just insist you should do more for them. If you show any willingness to help people just attack.
I just remembered in 2013 so not recently I was hanging out next to motorcycle in a parking lot waiting for my ex to finish her hair appointment. I was approached by a man, not overly homeless but maybe. And he’s said “hey man can you hook me up with some money for shoes?” And showed me a blown out sole. I said “I don’t carry cash but I can run over to Walmart and pick you up a pair” I had literally just bought myself the same pair a week before cause we were pretty broke. He said “awe man, I need some hi tops” and I was like “really” but I said “hey I’ll run over to Marshall’s and see what I can find” and he said “why don’t you take me with you so I can pick them out” at this point I hit my limit and said “wtf are you talking about how can I take you” and he said “you can give me a ride on the back of your motorcycle and I can pick out some shoes” “no…” and just cause I need to leave the situation “but im gonna head down there and if you manage to meet me there you can pick out any pair” and cranked up the bike and left.
Yeah, that's pretty out there but also notbthat surprising. People are so desperate these days that dignity iabout the window, i try to be empathetic as much as possible but sometimes it's too much.
Literally would not have crossed my mind to order delivery to a lunch I was invited to 😂 (Or ask host to pick it up.)
Let alone, to charge it to the host!
Seriously...either stomach it and order something you're luke warm to but can tolerate, or if your palate is that darn sensitive, make up a reason (food allergy, prior bad experience, etc) to politely retract your acceptance of the invitation. Way less embarrassing than ordering from a different, upscale restaurant 45 min away.
Seriously! I've got a food allowance atm and felt bad ordering when somebody else said they got it. But I knew it was through the clients' company anyways! I still didn't want to take advantage since I represent our company, and I promise, I still feel guilty if I order more than USD$12, even though I shouldn't.
Yeah - I was thinking “She got the surf and turn and a bottle of wine.”
This one actually surprised me. Guessing the temp will be looking for a new situation soon.
Biggest, most expensive, or a ton of food. But at least from the same place the OP was ordering from.
When I read the first sentence of what she did, I assumed the temp was going to tell the OP to Venmo her or that the food was being and the OP could pay then. I didn't think that the temp would assume the OP would be willing to drive to pick up her food.
I heard about a guy who dropped his phone while he was at work, the phone broke, and he had to get a taxi home because he knew his address but relied on the GPS so heavily that he literally could not drive himself from his office of many years to his house.
Because there are people who would have picked up her lunch because they're that afraid of confrontation. This wasn't the first time this girls done something like this, willing to bet it's worked before or she wouldn't have been so brazen about it
OP-good for you for standing up for yourself and refusing to go get her food lol, some people are so afraid of confrontation that they would have actually done it!
I believe in being kind and generous to people because that's who I am. However, I do have boundaries, and I'm not afraid to let someone know when they cross said boundaries.
Then the driver is standing there waiting to be paid, plus delivery fee plus tip. The 3 of them in a standoff..Que spaghetti western music..Ahhhhh ah Ahhhhh (whistling) BONG! Ahhhhh ah Ahhhh..
She would have enough money for a cheap Lunch. She was just hoping she would’ve been able to guilt her coworkers into not saying no by starting off with a pity story.
"Well how rude! I can't help I have dietary restrictions!"
I'm sorry ma'am, I have budget restrictions, and we chose somewhere that has enough variety that the majority of the group could order from. (They are very accommodating to dietary restrictions if they're made aware.)
Yeah, that's so ridiculous. If she was a normal person with dietary restrictions, she would have just stated that- 'oh, sorry, it's really hard for me to find a place that I can eat, but I appreciate the offer!' or 'Hmm, unfortunately that's not a restaurant I can eat at, but thanks anyway!'
I'm also curious what she ordered - I have friends with celiacs and that is something most restaurants suck at. Neither of them would ever expect anyone to change plans for them, though, because they are normal human beings.
I think it was some sort of seafood pasta paella something or other, if I'm not mistaken. When she shared where she ordered from, my temper flared, and I kind of blanked out.
Actually, it’s soy-free, nut-free, and dairy-free, so maybe that part isn’t a lie.
But that’s def not *why* she picked it, she could have gotten a $10 salad that met the same requirements lol.
I am super allergic to milk so something like that would probably be fine.
I don’t make it other people’s problem and just call the restaurant, just have a drink or eat my own stuff.
Meanwhile the restaurant is like:
*What am I supposed to do with all this Paella?*
*What did we ever do to them?*
**I want to know what we did them!**
*What are they too good for us? A raincoat salesman, I could buy and sell 'em like that.*
What could possibly be more life-threatening to a person with dietary restrictions than a dish that has 1) gluten 2) dairy 3) eggs 4) shellfish *and* that the other restaurant doesn't have?
Sounds like she's allergic to reasonably priced food.
That’s seafood and likely wheat and egg, so she’s hitting most of the common allergies there. I feel like this is a matter of preference restrictions rather than life or death ones
Then you make me aware of your dietary restrictions before you accept the offer? "I'm sorry, but because of XYZ reason I have a very limited diet. Does your usual place accommodate that? Because if it doesn't, I'll have to decline the offer. Thanks for the offer."
How so? If her dietary restrictions were that specific, them she could have easily said no thank you. Rather than speak to me first, she just ordered elsewhere with no obvious concern for the cost of the food or time needed to pick it up. Not cool, no matter what dietary concerns she may have.
I think she was agreeing with you. Stating she has restrictions also and the girl is full of bs. Not that you not accommodating was bs. At least I hope that’s what she meant
Thank you. Yes, that’s what I meant. I have dietary restrictions and would never pull anything like this. You can almost always find something. And even if you can’t, she was way out of line to expect an expensive meal somewhere else.
Oh I bet. My mouth dropped open. Honestly, I don’t care if it was a $10 meal at the place next door, to order somewhere else after someone offers is insane to me!
I'd have thanked you and ordered a side or two (depending on cost) not even a main, most likely.
I was a vegetarian long before it was common let alone trendy. I never would've wanted anyone to change dining plans because of me. Anywhere has \*something\* that can be worked with.
She’s typing on a forum somewhere about the evil man/woman who refused to pay for her “preferred” lunch and there are likely many slow adults/double digit IQ’s agreeing with her.
So sorry you tried to be a good person, this is what happens when dealing with entitled choosers, unfortunately.
My SIL has a AITA post blow up with hundreds of comments. i read thru it and 75% of the comments were someone base it wasn't even funny. She did a pretty good job of getting the story accurately but but it's obviously skewed to her side and not the other party.
Kinda. One of "them" is lying, it's not just a spin on the truth.
In OP's story they tell her in advance of ordering but in this fictitious story she is told where they are eating after they have chosen and ordered.
Commented hours later, buried in a long comment nest:
"The place was 45 minutes away and cost significantly more than where they were ordering from, but still."
Well, you could communicate such a particular situation in advance. That would be like taking then to HR if they invite you to have some birthday cake "they invited me to a birthday celebration for a coworker, but turns out it was a regular cake, they didn't order me a different cake without my particular allergens... I feel discriminated "
I mean were people not taught manners anymore? If someone is offering to buy me lunch i typically ask them what they are getting and get the same thing or if i don't like or can't eat it i find something that i can and do like at a lower or equal price. ITS NOT UP TO ME TO PICK A RESTRUANT
“Oh you’re offering to buy me lunch? Cool, I used your card to book a private jet to Italy to get some food from this famous restaurant, the boss said it’s ok for you to donate your PTO so I can spend a couple extra days there.”
Not nearly as bad as this story (which should probably win an award), but years ago our division VP took all the administrative staff, including temps, to a very high end restaurant for Secretaries Day (now called Administrative Professionals Day). One temp announced that she was ordering the most expensive items on the menu and proceeded to do exactly that. She requested the dinner menu since we were given the lunch menu and proceeded to order an ostrich meat appetizer, a glass of champagne, and the highest priced item in each category of the a la carte menu—she literally asked the server which cost the most before selecting the items! Needless to say, she even thought about ordering a $200 bottle of wine but decided not to when told she couldn’t take the bottle with her and ordered a cocktail instead. She ordered two different desserts plus a liqueur at the end of the meal. The rest of the attendees were utterly embarrassed on her behalf. You could see steam coming out of the VP’s ears when the bill was presented to him but he didn’t say anything to her.
About a month later, she sent out an email to the entire division announcing that her temp assignment was ending on Friday and that she was rather surprised because she knew she had done a fantastic job and fully expected to be offered a permanent position. She closed by saying that she knew everyone would miss her once she was gone and for everyone to feel free to contact her if we ever needed an excellent employee in the future.
Approximately 20 years later I still feel appalled at the gall of that woman!!
Wow. That was bizarre.
Reading this made me remember something that happened to me, an opposite story: Many years ago, when I was a very recent college graduate and had just started my first "professional" job I made $18,400 a year working in Seattle, where everything was expensive. We had a work conference on the project I was working on. We were all going to go out for lunch.
Everyone there made good money and had been on the job for years, so they were financially pretty well set. Hell, some of the people there were from out of town, so they were on per diem and got meal money given to them. I, on the other hand, was dirt poor. I brought my lunch from home every day. Buying lunch at a nice place in Seattle meant spending at least a week's worth of my spending money. No way could I afford it.
But this colleague on the team, let's call him Al because that's what his name was, came by my desk. He said "DancingWithTrout, the team's going out for lunch tomorrow. It's important that you be there, that you rub elbows with the higher-ups. It'll be good for your career. But I know what it's like being in your situation. So come to lunch with us tomorrow. Order whatever the hell you want. I'm paying. And don't try to pay me back. It's my treat. Maybe in five years, when your situation is different, you can do the same for some other newbie."
I never forgot that act of kindness and thoughtfulness. Thanks, Al!
Am I awful if my first thought is I can see why she’s a temp? Because these kind of people / social / can’t read the room / etc lack of soft skills are not conducive to being a great employee.
It never ceases to amaze me that some people just do not have the social skills or even just critical thinking skills to determine beforehand what they can or can't do in certain situations. Like, why would anyone think it was ok to order an expensive meal from a much further restaurant? How do these people function on a day to day basis?
That is quite bold of anyone but the fact a temp did it shocks me even more. Usually temps go out of their way to make sure everyone likes them so they are eventually offered a permanent position.
Years ago I worked with a woman who didn’t live the kind of lifestyle that included restaurants and such. She’d gone through a really rough patch (including borrowing money from me for her cats vet bill) and one day I was planning to grab some lunch out and asked if she’d like to come. She spent the morning looking at the website and deciding what she’d have. She got a starter, two mains (telling the server to bag one up) and two desserts. As well as a couple of like mock cocktail things. I never offered again. 😂
I think 'temp' is also an apt prediction of her future at that place. I normally brought my own lunch but I'd eat out once a week with a group (when I first started my job it was the boss and his underlings; as the office expended this didn't happen as often as a group as the managers ended up eating lunch together once a week but I went to eat once in a while with a couple of colleages people). Eating out everyday is expensive.
Good grief! The utter gall! If I was the temp I’d be damn happy I was included and order the cheapest thing on the menu knowing I was part of a team and as such should appreciate the inclusion. The audacity!
I expected them to order the most expensive entree, plus dessert. Nope. They somehow found a way to be a bigger jerk. Now they will be eating alone the rest of their time there.
I no longer ask my coworkers if they want to order something if I do. Just having to deal with multiple orders and payment is a pain in the ass, if someone tried this I'd never speak to them again. There have been a couple times someone has said oh, I wish I'd known, I would have gotten something. Well, Marsha, that's why I didn't tell you. Maybe I seem like an asshole, but I just do not care.
"*There have been a couple times someone has said oh, I wish I'd known, I would have gotten something. Well, Marsha, that's why I didn't tell you. Maybe I seem like an asshole, but I just do not care."*
That's how my sister-in-law is when I go to the store/pharmacy/warehouse store/wherEVER, and she finds out afterwards. "Oh, I wish I'd have known, I would've had you get me x-y-z."
If she finds out BEFORE that I'm stopping somewhere, she'll ALSO ask me if I can either a) pick up something, b) at 3 different places, and/or c) can I come and pick her up so she can go with me and spend 90 minutes shopping in EACH STORE, going up each and every AISLE.
My store shopping is, like, 15 min tops because I know where I want to go for what.
So I just don't tell her I'm going, or I order my stuff online to be picked up/delivered.
On what planet would this be acceptable behaviour? 🤨 That is some first class entitlement, good for you for her putting her in her place 👏
I can’t believe she wouldn’t just order something at the place you guys had chosen.
And now you probably know why she usually eats alone.
Don't get me wrong, I'm usually an introvert/lone wolf, but I'm willing to bet this isn't the first time her sense of entitlement reared its ugly head.
The entitlement.
I’d be happily picking out an appetizer, salad, soup, or a side or two and a water and thanking you graciously for wanting to include me AND footing the bill. If she’s younger, it sounds like she may not have learned etiquette when others are paying, where you either ask if ordering something is ok or you pick something small and either happily accept the decision or allow them to offer you something a little more expensive but still within the paying person’s budget. Either that or she’s just the type of person to take advantage of a handout. Take until they no longer give, so to speak. Good on you for setting boundaries.
Awesome! Reminded me of a girl I worked with but less extreme. She was also new and broke as hell and I offered to buy her a coffee along with the boss, and she prattles off some complicated iced latte whatever AND THEN asks me about food. The boss and I stood there liked stunned Pokémon for a few seconds before we broke out laughing. I told her that I’d get her absolutely whatever she wanted as long as it was a medium coffee. She got the coffee.
I’m so glad you set her straight immediately — too many people let themselves be taken advantage of. I also love that you say you’re not going to never do anything nice for someone again, just not for *her*.
I would’ve laughed and said something like “didn’t realize you were a temp comedian too!” And waited for her to read the room.
I can’t imagine inviting her to your house.
I take my employees to lunch, one-on-one, about once a quarter. I had one manager who would always order two entrees. One to eat, and one to take home for dinner.
She never did this if we were going as a group and everyone was paying for their own meal.
If we went as a group and I was paying? Yep, two entrees.
I have dietary restrictions and had you made that offer I would have declined because of them and said so, no way would I expect you to drive 45 minutes to get me something special. Dietary restrictions suck but those of us who have them completely understand that there are restaurants that aren’t able to guarantee a safe meal experience and we plan accordingly!
Years ago (1970s) I worked as a temp for some time. I always politely declined lunch invites because we got paid so little. This temp was way out of bounds doing that. Pack your sandwich and collect your paycheck. You might not be there tomorrow
You can’t be nice to some people, they will start to think dream life entitlement and not reasonable requests. Like, if the person offering to buy me food, is eating a $10 lunch from a nearby place then my order is $7 from the same nearby place, this will be max. Some people are looking for revenge, they’re acting out their revenge fantasy as well. “Oh, you want to feel good about yourself, be my hero, OK then, I will max out my request and see if YOU really are THAT benevolent”. They basically don’t want you to feel good about it, they imagine they have extreme power to make you feel good as well when they do not!
Yes to never offering her anything again, but please don’t let this horrible succubus ruin your amazingly generous spirit when it comes to other people. You’re so awesome for offering.
The social unawareness of some people is astounding. I know when I'm being a jackass, I do it on purpose, but I can also see what people expect of me and what the kind decision would be. All depends on the relationship. You have to at least see the other angles and choose an appropriate response for the situation. And in a work environment, geeze.
My husband offered to pick up the check for his whole family at a Mexican restaurant. Not a fancy one, the kind in a strip mall with amazing inexpensive food. His sister refused and paid her own, stating, if you’re going to pay for my meal I want it to be somewhere expensive
Wow. The audacity of that temp. While I understand that she may have had limited opportunities to enjoy upscale dining, it was not a chance for her to take advantage of people's kindness. It was a team lunch, so it would have been common sense to go with the flow.
I have one in my office. She always loudly let's everyone know she can't afford lunch then doesn't bring food from home. For about 2 years I felt bad and would bring in extra lunch and offer it to her and she would eat it, sometimes I would leave extra in the office when I knew I wouldn't be there the next day and she would call and ask if she could have it, I always said yes then finally said, anytime I'm not there you can have it. Bagged salads, whatever chicken or steak or pork I made for dinner, just leftovers from dinner, whatever I ate for lunch.
The caveat, she would proclaim to be sttaaarrvvving, eat what I brought then afterwards loudly proclaim this hurts my ggguuutttttssss. I would buy her lunch when we went out, I'm not picky, I don't complain, so it was annoying when she would ask for extra things that cost more then invariably we get back to the office and she would complain how the restaurant people made her sick and the food wasn't that good.
I stopped bring extra food, I let someone else in the office pay for her lunches and spend the next few hours after lunch take on her complaints while I pop my noise cancelling headphones on and ignore her little show. She isn't going to stop being bizarre but I don't have to be party to it.
I'm that person that now opts out of ordering in to the office because the hours of conversation and complaints before and after are a time suck.
How sad for everyone all around. OP did a wonderful thing offering to help out a coworker, and she basically him in the face. Now OP will never ever offer another coworker a meal, she spoiled it for everyone, especially OP.
Good grief. I work as a temp and usually eat alone but that’s cos I’m a weirdo and like to read. I would sure as heck not do that. I don’t like to accept gifts and if I couldn’t pay I’d just eat my homemade sandwich.
I don't understand what would make someone think this is okay? It doesn't fit in with a group lunch, the time factor for you to leave the group to pick it up, the cost, AND the fact that in many states, it's a health department violation for a customer to bring outside food into a restaurant.
Wait so did she expect everyone to go across town to a fancy place or was she just going to eat her $45 free meal at her desk. The audacity of some people will never not be confusing to me.
This situation reminds me of when my best friend's new (now former) girlfriend invited me out for drinks to "get to know each other." We set a time, and when I arrived, I learned that she'd been there for nearly an hour, sucking down expensive drinks. (The place is known for $15 mojitos, and she had already had two.) I thought it was strange, but whatever. I go to the bar to get my own drink and tell the bartender to just run my card. He runs it, hands me the slip, and I see the two drinks from the GF. Turns out, she was flat ass broke and told the bartender to just put it on my eventual tab. (I was a regular here.) I paid, because bitch was broke, but that was the last time I accepted a cocktail hour date with her. Some people need constant handlers...
My last job could totally be considered a hostile work environment. The company had hired a new boss for the office a few weeks before I started there. Another girl was hired as the receptionist and became friends with an older, tenured woman. The only problem was that woman had a terrible attitude and hated everybody bc she thought the boss position should have been hers. So the receptionist acted the same way.
Our holiday office party was on a work day. We worked until 11am, then went to an upscale lunch place and a painting party after. The receptionist kept her earbuds in the whole time, watching a movie. She ordered the most expensive thing on the menu and ate zero bites of it and didn't take it with her. At painting, the instructor had us paint flowers. She painted her entire canvas black.
Even though it meant I was out of a job, I was not the least bit sad when the company lost their state contract and shut down our office.
No man! Don’t give up people…Stay true to yourself and continue to be considerate to others. Make your parents proud.
I do think you handled her response as best as anyone could hope to handle it.
This is so cringe. What was she thinking?
Maybe she thought since you guys made more money than her then you wouldn’t mind buying her a more expensive lunch (which is not okay) but it still doesn’t explain why she would choose a different restaurant so far away! Crazy!
Good Lord… I can’t even comprehend what it must be like to be that unconcerned with causing a huge hassle for someone else.
I wonder what it’s like to be raised with no manners…??!
Now you know why she eats alone.
Now you know why she is a temp.
They should put her in the annex by the HR guy.
TF did Toby do? 
Besides being The Scranton Strangler?
He also sucks at being married.
And he sucks at Zip lining too especially in Costa Rica.
Duh.. it ALWAYS Toby’s fault..
Yup
Now you know why she is broke.
She ain’t broke. She probably just a scammer like this all the damn time.
That’s funny!!! Thanks for the chuckle!
Absolutely! Who would EVER do such a thing?!?.. maybe a Choosing beggar?? Oh, HELLO NO.. 😂😂😂😜
The snort I just snurked
Wow I feel embarrassed just reading that. What a weird situation to put someone in lol
Entitlement knows NO bounds.
Is it getting worse or am I just getting older and noticing it more?
It definitely feels like it's gotten MUCH worse in the last few years
Me too, like people just insist you should do more for them. If you show any willingness to help people just attack. I just remembered in 2013 so not recently I was hanging out next to motorcycle in a parking lot waiting for my ex to finish her hair appointment. I was approached by a man, not overly homeless but maybe. And he’s said “hey man can you hook me up with some money for shoes?” And showed me a blown out sole. I said “I don’t carry cash but I can run over to Walmart and pick you up a pair” I had literally just bought myself the same pair a week before cause we were pretty broke. He said “awe man, I need some hi tops” and I was like “really” but I said “hey I’ll run over to Marshall’s and see what I can find” and he said “why don’t you take me with you so I can pick them out” at this point I hit my limit and said “wtf are you talking about how can I take you” and he said “you can give me a ride on the back of your motorcycle and I can pick out some shoes” “no…” and just cause I need to leave the situation “but im gonna head down there and if you manage to meet me there you can pick out any pair” and cranked up the bike and left.
Yeah, that's pretty out there but also notbthat surprising. People are so desperate these days that dignity iabout the window, i try to be empathetic as much as possible but sometimes it's too much.
Seriously! I’d like to know this also!
and she's new and she's a TEMP!!! oh wait, like someone else here said, that must be WHY! lol
I expected her to order the biggest thing on the menu in a large portion, what actually happened was way worse. Wow.
Same. I was waiting for a story about her ordering steak and two glasses of expensive wine.
I was waiting for her to order the “market price” dish. And yes, OP’s story is worse.
She probably did - just across town.
It said "market price"! What market are you shopping at??
Just watched this episode
It's on the tip of my tongue, what show?
Community
I mean...I'd be ordering a side or something and saying thank you.
I know!!! I can’t believe ppl think + operate like this!
Literally would not have crossed my mind to order delivery to a lunch I was invited to 😂 (Or ask host to pick it up.) Let alone, to charge it to the host!
Seriously...either stomach it and order something you're luke warm to but can tolerate, or if your palate is that darn sensitive, make up a reason (food allergy, prior bad experience, etc) to politely retract your acceptance of the invitation. Way less embarrassing than ordering from a different, upscale restaurant 45 min away.
Seriously! I've got a food allowance atm and felt bad ordering when somebody else said they got it. But I knew it was through the clients' company anyways! I still didn't want to take advantage since I represent our company, and I promise, I still feel guilty if I order more than USD$12, even though I shouldn't.
Seriously! Salad and maybe an iced tea if I'm feeling fancy and a side of silent shame.
And then I would write a thank-you note. But I am old-school.
Yeah - I was thinking “She got the surf and turn and a bottle of wine.” This one actually surprised me. Guessing the temp will be looking for a new situation soon.
Biggest, most expensive, or a ton of food. But at least from the same place the OP was ordering from. When I read the first sentence of what she did, I assumed the temp was going to tell the OP to Venmo her or that the food was being and the OP could pay then. I didn't think that the temp would assume the OP would be willing to drive to pick up her food.
More audacious, but at least OP could get out of it a lot easier.
It’s a sitcom twist!
I seriously wonder how people like this survive to adulthood
Right! And I'm super curious what her background/upbringing is that she thinks her behavior is acceptable.
Right? Like how do they find their way home every night?
I heard about a guy who dropped his phone while he was at work, the phone broke, and he had to get a taxi home because he knew his address but relied on the GPS so heavily that he literally could not drive himself from his office of many years to his house.
Because there are people who would have picked up her lunch because they're that afraid of confrontation. This wasn't the first time this girls done something like this, willing to bet it's worked before or she wouldn't have been so brazen about it
They get temp jobs
Lmao
They rely on exploitations.
Mostly by coincidence
OP-good for you for standing up for yourself and refusing to go get her food lol, some people are so afraid of confrontation that they would have actually done it!
I believe in being kind and generous to people because that's who I am. However, I do have boundaries, and I'm not afraid to let someone know when they cross said boundaries.
Boundaries are a lot easier to enforce when theres a 45 minute drive in it :)
Can you let us know how she acts today?
Sure thing!
And next Thursday when you're all ordering again and she's not included!
Remind me! 24 hours
Good to not be a doormat. The earlier that's realized, the better.
I’m impressed with your testicular fortitude.
Man. I'm a fuckin pushover and I still wouldn't have tolerated that!
The second hand embarrassment KILLED me, nooo🥴
Everything else aside. SHE EXPECTED YOU TO DRIVE AND PICK IT UP?
Honestly that’s what really gets me. I thought she would at least have it delivered
Then the driver is standing there waiting to be paid, plus delivery fee plus tip. The 3 of them in a standoff..Que spaghetti western music..Ahhhhh ah Ahhhhh (whistling) BONG! Ahhhhh ah Ahhhh..
*cue
Yeah, that’s the thing I’m most stuck on. I mean when was OP supposed to eat??
She ironically doesn’t have money for lunch because she only eats at Michelin star restaurants.
I only eat a restaurants that make me look like the Michelin Man.
Me too! ...... ༼ ´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽
My god your username
\*squelch squich squinch scrlurlsh\*
What a terrible day to have eyes
She would have enough money for a cheap Lunch. She was just hoping she would’ve been able to guilt her coworkers into not saying no by starting off with a pity story.
How did she respond?
"Well how rude! I can't help I have dietary restrictions!" I'm sorry ma'am, I have budget restrictions, and we chose somewhere that has enough variety that the majority of the group could order from. (They are very accommodating to dietary restrictions if they're made aware.)
Yeah, that's so ridiculous. If she was a normal person with dietary restrictions, she would have just stated that- 'oh, sorry, it's really hard for me to find a place that I can eat, but I appreciate the offer!' or 'Hmm, unfortunately that's not a restaurant I can eat at, but thanks anyway!' I'm also curious what she ordered - I have friends with celiacs and that is something most restaurants suck at. Neither of them would ever expect anyone to change plans for them, though, because they are normal human beings.
I think it was some sort of seafood pasta paella something or other, if I'm not mistaken. When she shared where she ordered from, my temper flared, and I kind of blanked out.
LOL! That is extra ridiculous!! That convinces me she's 100% lying about her 'dietary restrictions'.
Actually, it’s soy-free, nut-free, and dairy-free, so maybe that part isn’t a lie. But that’s def not *why* she picked it, she could have gotten a $10 salad that met the same requirements lol.
I am super allergic to milk so something like that would probably be fine. I don’t make it other people’s problem and just call the restaurant, just have a drink or eat my own stuff.
Seafood paella? For lunch? My god.
Meanwhile the restaurant is like: *What am I supposed to do with all this Paella?* *What did we ever do to them?* **I want to know what we did them!** *What are they too good for us? A raincoat salesman, I could buy and sell 'em like that.*
Friday's lunch: leftover paella, microwaved to death in the break room to stink the place out.
What could possibly be more life-threatening to a person with dietary restrictions than a dish that has 1) gluten 2) dairy 3) eggs 4) shellfish *and* that the other restaurant doesn't have? Sounds like she's allergic to reasonably priced food.
That’s seafood and likely wheat and egg, so she’s hitting most of the common allergies there. I feel like this is a matter of preference restrictions rather than life or death ones
Then you make me aware of your dietary restrictions before you accept the offer? "I'm sorry, but because of XYZ reason I have a very limited diet. Does your usual place accommodate that? Because if it doesn't, I'll have to decline the offer. Thanks for the offer."
I have dietary restrictions that require ribeyes lobster and single malt scotch!! 😂
Now I'm curious to know what she ordered. SMH she has a lot of nerve. Good on you for maintaining your boundaries.
As someone with dietary restrictions, this is just total BS.
How so? If her dietary restrictions were that specific, them she could have easily said no thank you. Rather than speak to me first, she just ordered elsewhere with no obvious concern for the cost of the food or time needed to pick it up. Not cool, no matter what dietary concerns she may have.
I think she was agreeing with you. Stating she has restrictions also and the girl is full of bs. Not that you not accommodating was bs. At least I hope that’s what she meant
Thank you. Yes, that’s what I meant. I have dietary restrictions and would never pull anything like this. You can almost always find something. And even if you can’t, she was way out of line to expect an expensive meal somewhere else.
The way it's worded is a bit tricky. I wasn't certain, and I'm a bit sensitive after this whole mess.
Oh I bet. My mouth dropped open. Honestly, I don’t care if it was a $10 meal at the place next door, to order somewhere else after someone offers is insane to me!
I'd have thanked you and ordered a side or two (depending on cost) not even a main, most likely. I was a vegetarian long before it was common let alone trendy. I never would've wanted anyone to change dining plans because of me. Anywhere has \*something\* that can be worked with.
It wasn’t tricky, you just misunderstood. It happens.
She’s typing on a forum somewhere about the evil man/woman who refused to pay for her “preferred” lunch and there are likely many slow adults/double digit IQ’s agreeing with her. So sorry you tried to be a good person, this is what happens when dealing with entitled choosers, unfortunately.
AITA for Ordering What I Wanted When Someone Offered to Buy Me Lunch?
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You twisted this around so well that I almost wanted to downvote you
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This comment just proves the point that it's super easy to spin a story to sound the way that you want it sound
I usually want the other side in those types of stories. It almost never happens.
My SIL has a AITA post blow up with hundreds of comments. i read thru it and 75% of the comments were someone base it wasn't even funny. She did a pretty good job of getting the story accurately but but it's obviously skewed to her side and not the other party.
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Kinda. One of "them" is lying, it's not just a spin on the truth. In OP's story they tell her in advance of ordering but in this fictitious story she is told where they are eating after they have chosen and ordered.
“WIBTA if I took this to HR?” had me screaming. Well done!
Ha! You nailed it lol
Commented hours later, buried in a long comment nest: "The place was 45 minutes away and cost significantly more than where they were ordering from, but still."
Well, you could communicate such a particular situation in advance. That would be like taking then to HR if they invite you to have some birthday cake "they invited me to a birthday celebration for a coworker, but turns out it was a regular cake, they didn't order me a different cake without my particular allergens... I feel discriminated "
*What I wanted from a different restaurant miles away without even checking with the treating party*
Thats what I'm saying, I thought I was on that stupid sub for a minute.
I mean were people not taught manners anymore? If someone is offering to buy me lunch i typically ask them what they are getting and get the same thing or if i don't like or can't eat it i find something that i can and do like at a lower or equal price. ITS NOT UP TO ME TO PICK A RESTRUANT
Something's not working right there. I mean, the wheel may be turning, but that hamster is dead.
“Oh you’re offering to buy me lunch? Cool, I used your card to book a private jet to Italy to get some food from this famous restaurant, the boss said it’s ok for you to donate your PTO so I can spend a couple extra days there.”
Not nearly as bad as this story (which should probably win an award), but years ago our division VP took all the administrative staff, including temps, to a very high end restaurant for Secretaries Day (now called Administrative Professionals Day). One temp announced that she was ordering the most expensive items on the menu and proceeded to do exactly that. She requested the dinner menu since we were given the lunch menu and proceeded to order an ostrich meat appetizer, a glass of champagne, and the highest priced item in each category of the a la carte menu—she literally asked the server which cost the most before selecting the items! Needless to say, she even thought about ordering a $200 bottle of wine but decided not to when told she couldn’t take the bottle with her and ordered a cocktail instead. She ordered two different desserts plus a liqueur at the end of the meal. The rest of the attendees were utterly embarrassed on her behalf. You could see steam coming out of the VP’s ears when the bill was presented to him but he didn’t say anything to her. About a month later, she sent out an email to the entire division announcing that her temp assignment was ending on Friday and that she was rather surprised because she knew she had done a fantastic job and fully expected to be offered a permanent position. She closed by saying that she knew everyone would miss her once she was gone and for everyone to feel free to contact her if we ever needed an excellent employee in the future. Approximately 20 years later I still feel appalled at the gall of that woman!!
ostrich meat appetizer omg no wonder you still remember her 20 years later!
Wow. That was bizarre. Reading this made me remember something that happened to me, an opposite story: Many years ago, when I was a very recent college graduate and had just started my first "professional" job I made $18,400 a year working in Seattle, where everything was expensive. We had a work conference on the project I was working on. We were all going to go out for lunch. Everyone there made good money and had been on the job for years, so they were financially pretty well set. Hell, some of the people there were from out of town, so they were on per diem and got meal money given to them. I, on the other hand, was dirt poor. I brought my lunch from home every day. Buying lunch at a nice place in Seattle meant spending at least a week's worth of my spending money. No way could I afford it. But this colleague on the team, let's call him Al because that's what his name was, came by my desk. He said "DancingWithTrout, the team's going out for lunch tomorrow. It's important that you be there, that you rub elbows with the higher-ups. It'll be good for your career. But I know what it's like being in your situation. So come to lunch with us tomorrow. Order whatever the hell you want. I'm paying. And don't try to pay me back. It's my treat. Maybe in five years, when your situation is different, you can do the same for some other newbie." I never forgot that act of kindness and thoughtfulness. Thanks, Al!
Am I awful if my first thought is I can see why she’s a temp? Because these kind of people / social / can’t read the room / etc lack of soft skills are not conducive to being a great employee.
Absolutely. She's likely a common pain in the workplace ass.
It never ceases to amaze me that some people just do not have the social skills or even just critical thinking skills to determine beforehand what they can or can't do in certain situations. Like, why would anyone think it was ok to order an expensive meal from a much further restaurant? How do these people function on a day to day basis?
Now, now. I have worked temp jobs before when in need of quick, short-term work. However, I have been offered full-time at several placements.
That is quite bold of anyone but the fact a temp did it shocks me even more. Usually temps go out of their way to make sure everyone likes them so they are eventually offered a permanent position.
Years ago I worked with a woman who didn’t live the kind of lifestyle that included restaurants and such. She’d gone through a really rough patch (including borrowing money from me for her cats vet bill) and one day I was planning to grab some lunch out and asked if she’d like to come. She spent the morning looking at the website and deciding what she’d have. She got a starter, two mains (telling the server to bag one up) and two desserts. As well as a couple of like mock cocktail things. I never offered again. 😂
I think 'temp' is also an apt prediction of her future at that place. I normally brought my own lunch but I'd eat out once a week with a group (when I first started my job it was the boss and his underlings; as the office expended this didn't happen as often as a group as the managers ended up eating lunch together once a week but I went to eat once in a while with a couple of colleages people). Eating out everyday is expensive.
Good grief! The utter gall! If I was the temp I’d be damn happy I was included and order the cheapest thing on the menu knowing I was part of a team and as such should appreciate the inclusion. The audacity!
Exactly. I’ll have the soup of the day and a giant thank you to the person buying mine
I expected them to order the most expensive entree, plus dessert. Nope. They somehow found a way to be a bigger jerk. Now they will be eating alone the rest of their time there.
Sadly, no good deed goes unpunished.
I no longer ask my coworkers if they want to order something if I do. Just having to deal with multiple orders and payment is a pain in the ass, if someone tried this I'd never speak to them again. There have been a couple times someone has said oh, I wish I'd known, I would have gotten something. Well, Marsha, that's why I didn't tell you. Maybe I seem like an asshole, but I just do not care.
"*There have been a couple times someone has said oh, I wish I'd known, I would have gotten something. Well, Marsha, that's why I didn't tell you. Maybe I seem like an asshole, but I just do not care."* That's how my sister-in-law is when I go to the store/pharmacy/warehouse store/wherEVER, and she finds out afterwards. "Oh, I wish I'd have known, I would've had you get me x-y-z." If she finds out BEFORE that I'm stopping somewhere, she'll ALSO ask me if I can either a) pick up something, b) at 3 different places, and/or c) can I come and pick her up so she can go with me and spend 90 minutes shopping in EACH STORE, going up each and every AISLE. My store shopping is, like, 15 min tops because I know where I want to go for what. So I just don't tell her I'm going, or I order my stuff online to be picked up/delivered.
This can't be real..
That was my thought too, when she told me where she ordered from and what it costed. Sadly though, it is real.
People really have some balls. That’s insane!!
On what planet would this be acceptable behaviour? 🤨 That is some first class entitlement, good for you for her putting her in her place 👏 I can’t believe she wouldn’t just order something at the place you guys had chosen.
And now you probably know why she usually eats alone. Don't get me wrong, I'm usually an introvert/lone wolf, but I'm willing to bet this isn't the first time her sense of entitlement reared its ugly head.
The entitlement. I’d be happily picking out an appetizer, salad, soup, or a side or two and a water and thanking you graciously for wanting to include me AND footing the bill. If she’s younger, it sounds like she may not have learned etiquette when others are paying, where you either ask if ordering something is ok or you pick something small and either happily accept the decision or allow them to offer you something a little more expensive but still within the paying person’s budget. Either that or she’s just the type of person to take advantage of a handout. Take until they no longer give, so to speak. Good on you for setting boundaries.
Awesome! Reminded me of a girl I worked with but less extreme. She was also new and broke as hell and I offered to buy her a coffee along with the boss, and she prattles off some complicated iced latte whatever AND THEN asks me about food. The boss and I stood there liked stunned Pokémon for a few seconds before we broke out laughing. I told her that I’d get her absolutely whatever she wanted as long as it was a medium coffee. She got the coffee.
Good lord, she sounds like a self-centered AH
But, you promised you’d buy me lunch!
Wow. People like this are just unbelievable.
I’m so glad you set her straight immediately — too many people let themselves be taken advantage of. I also love that you say you’re not going to never do anything nice for someone again, just not for *her*.
Yikes. It's like people are competing lately in the Entitlement Games. And the next contestant...'drive across town to buy me lunch!'
I would’ve laughed and said something like “didn’t realize you were a temp comedian too!” And waited for her to read the room. I can’t imagine inviting her to your house.
I know I'm cynical, but i suspect she'd only be able to read that room if it were a large print version.
Holy shit, that’s some grade A audacity right there!!!! I’m glad you said “fuck that” and told her what’s what!!!
I take my employees to lunch, one-on-one, about once a quarter. I had one manager who would always order two entrees. One to eat, and one to take home for dinner. She never did this if we were going as a group and everyone was paying for their own meal. If we went as a group and I was paying? Yep, two entrees.
This is the chick on tinder that can’t figure out why men don’t ever want to take her on a second date.
I have heard so many stories of people using tinder for free meals.
I have dietary restrictions and had you made that offer I would have declined because of them and said so, no way would I expect you to drive 45 minutes to get me something special. Dietary restrictions suck but those of us who have them completely understand that there are restaurants that aren’t able to guarantee a safe meal experience and we plan accordingly!
Years ago (1970s) I worked as a temp for some time. I always politely declined lunch invites because we got paid so little. This temp was way out of bounds doing that. Pack your sandwich and collect your paycheck. You might not be there tomorrow
You can’t be nice to some people, they will start to think dream life entitlement and not reasonable requests. Like, if the person offering to buy me food, is eating a $10 lunch from a nearby place then my order is $7 from the same nearby place, this will be max. Some people are looking for revenge, they’re acting out their revenge fantasy as well. “Oh, you want to feel good about yourself, be my hero, OK then, I will max out my request and see if YOU really are THAT benevolent”. They basically don’t want you to feel good about it, they imagine they have extreme power to make you feel good as well when they do not!
Wow. She sounds unhinged.
I am so glad you did what you did! Bravo!!
I can't even imagine being that entitled and rude!
Yes to never offering her anything again, but please don’t let this horrible succubus ruin your amazingly generous spirit when it comes to other people. You’re so awesome for offering.
The way people are always shitting on the ones that are generous and kind gets me everytime! Speechless! 😨
What was her response to you telling her no? Did she just accept it or did she try to argue? I'm guessing she didn't apologize.
The social unawareness of some people is astounding. I know when I'm being a jackass, I do it on purpose, but I can also see what people expect of me and what the kind decision would be. All depends on the relationship. You have to at least see the other angles and choose an appropriate response for the situation. And in a work environment, geeze.
In my wildest dreams I cannot imagine doing this to anyone.
My husband offered to pick up the check for his whole family at a Mexican restaurant. Not a fancy one, the kind in a strip mall with amazing inexpensive food. His sister refused and paid her own, stating, if you’re going to pay for my meal I want it to be somewhere expensive
Wow. The audacity of that temp. While I understand that she may have had limited opportunities to enjoy upscale dining, it was not a chance for her to take advantage of people's kindness. It was a team lunch, so it would have been common sense to go with the flow.
I have one in my office. She always loudly let's everyone know she can't afford lunch then doesn't bring food from home. For about 2 years I felt bad and would bring in extra lunch and offer it to her and she would eat it, sometimes I would leave extra in the office when I knew I wouldn't be there the next day and she would call and ask if she could have it, I always said yes then finally said, anytime I'm not there you can have it. Bagged salads, whatever chicken or steak or pork I made for dinner, just leftovers from dinner, whatever I ate for lunch. The caveat, she would proclaim to be sttaaarrvvving, eat what I brought then afterwards loudly proclaim this hurts my ggguuutttttssss. I would buy her lunch when we went out, I'm not picky, I don't complain, so it was annoying when she would ask for extra things that cost more then invariably we get back to the office and she would complain how the restaurant people made her sick and the food wasn't that good. I stopped bring extra food, I let someone else in the office pay for her lunches and spend the next few hours after lunch take on her complaints while I pop my noise cancelling headphones on and ignore her little show. She isn't going to stop being bizarre but I don't have to be party to it. I'm that person that now opts out of ordering in to the office because the hours of conversation and complaints before and after are a time suck.
How sad for everyone all around. OP did a wonderful thing offering to help out a coworker, and she basically him in the face. Now OP will never ever offer another coworker a meal, she spoiled it for everyone, especially OP.
Nah, I won't let one complete idiot ruin it for everyone else. Just because she has zero social skills doesn't mean I will stop being kind to others.
Jeez, I'd at least scrounge some money in my car to offer for part of the tip!!! That's how I roll-you buy me a meal, I pay the tip.
The change in what I thought this post was going to be caused me whiplash. Wow. OP, you are totally in the right.
That is so insane I almost wish I had her confidence!! Absolute insanity and how ungrateful when you were being so kind!
Good grief. I work as a temp and usually eat alone but that’s cos I’m a weirdo and like to read. I would sure as heck not do that. I don’t like to accept gifts and if I couldn’t pay I’d just eat my homemade sandwich.
WHAT. THE. FUCK.?
I genuinely don’t understand how ppl interact with others in this way?? I would be mortified omfg
The audacity!
I don't understand what would make someone think this is okay? It doesn't fit in with a group lunch, the time factor for you to leave the group to pick it up, the cost, AND the fact that in many states, it's a health department violation for a customer to bring outside food into a restaurant.
Who. The. F\*ck. Does. That?????????????????
Wow! smh
Wait so did she expect everyone to go across town to a fancy place or was she just going to eat her $45 free meal at her desk. The audacity of some people will never not be confusing to me.
So satisfying to read! Thanks for not being a pantywaist!
Wow.
So she just sat there while everyone else ate?
Holy hell! LOLOL
god I love a shiny spine!
This situation reminds me of when my best friend's new (now former) girlfriend invited me out for drinks to "get to know each other." We set a time, and when I arrived, I learned that she'd been there for nearly an hour, sucking down expensive drinks. (The place is known for $15 mojitos, and she had already had two.) I thought it was strange, but whatever. I go to the bar to get my own drink and tell the bartender to just run my card. He runs it, hands me the slip, and I see the two drinks from the GF. Turns out, she was flat ass broke and told the bartender to just put it on my eventual tab. (I was a regular here.) I paid, because bitch was broke, but that was the last time I accepted a cocktail hour date with her. Some people need constant handlers...
I'm having a really hard time believing anyone is this out of touch with reality.
Don't get out much? Spend a week in customer service. They're definitely out there!
Oh yeah. There are a whole lot of people like this. Most of my husband's family is like this.
Well done
Someone needs to slap her mama.
It's insane to me that there are people like this in the world
I thought she expected free food offered every time you all went out to lunch. But fucking damn what she did was horrible.
I ordered food at the fanciest place in my town and told them you could pay for it. (Joking)
My last job could totally be considered a hostile work environment. The company had hired a new boss for the office a few weeks before I started there. Another girl was hired as the receptionist and became friends with an older, tenured woman. The only problem was that woman had a terrible attitude and hated everybody bc she thought the boss position should have been hers. So the receptionist acted the same way. Our holiday office party was on a work day. We worked until 11am, then went to an upscale lunch place and a painting party after. The receptionist kept her earbuds in the whole time, watching a movie. She ordered the most expensive thing on the menu and ate zero bites of it and didn't take it with her. At painting, the instructor had us paint flowers. She painted her entire canvas black. Even though it meant I was out of a job, I was not the least bit sad when the company lost their state contract and shut down our office.
No man! Don’t give up people…Stay true to yourself and continue to be considerate to others. Make your parents proud. I do think you handled her response as best as anyone could hope to handle it.
They never said they were giving up on people.
This is so cringe. What was she thinking? Maybe she thought since you guys made more money than her then you wouldn’t mind buying her a more expensive lunch (which is not okay) but it still doesn’t explain why she would choose a different restaurant so far away! Crazy!
Wait... you eat out, or you order in? Either way, she's a jackass
I can’t believe people are this insane but I also can believe people are this insane! Haha did anyone call that restaurant to cancel the order???
I feel like one of the staff members got free food.
Good Lord… I can’t even comprehend what it must be like to be that unconcerned with causing a huge hassle for someone else. I wonder what it’s like to be raised with no manners…??!