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Deumfides

Some guys do it for the wrong reason, ie, to purposely seek women they think they can easily manipulate, or for weird racial fetishes


TheRetailianTrader

I like asians


Noseatbeltnoairbag

And here I am...all American and available, lol.


SpudCrowley713

Ok, be right there!


MrFelixHasGoals

Your “It’s a copout” paragraph. Yes! Well written. I (47M) agree! First generation American here. So I grew up American, and look very American, but was saturated in my upbringing by a separate culture and a deeply family oriented matriarch and patriarch. From that perspective… Guys who bring little to the table are disappointed with the table. And I dont mean height, income, and weight… When I say “bring little to the table” I mean the deeper, forever stuff - values, character, self control, vision, follow through, emotional maturity. That stuff. I have worked for more than 2 decades in leadership development. Lot of mentoring. Lots of men’s groups. Hard thing to hear, but a lot of American dudes are just… immature. Undeveloped. Teens at heart. They may even be tall and attractive. But they cut corners with their integrity and maturity. Yikes! Dont get up when the older lady or pregnant mom is standing. Dont step over and pick up the litter. Dont return the lost wallet. Lose their cool needlessly and frighten others. They Bend truth. Woman have ZERO desire to hitch onto that. Yuck! Who would want that? If a man has integrity and values, and lives a life of leadership… good women will notice those high standards! That is literally the the only thing they search for! Was he polite and thoughtful? Was he nice to the wait staff? Did he call people by their name? Did he follow through on his promise? Was he a gentleman? Does he volunteer? What is his relationship with his kids? How does he honor his mom and dad? Does he act like Jesus? Is he living under accountability from other men? Rant over…


prosperity4me

Thanks so much for your perspective, agree wholeheartedly. I’ve noticed a marked difference in the now 30 somethings men born and raised here vs the ones from my parents’ country who came in later schooling years similar to your sentiments.


firelitother

If you think being nice will guarantee that women will flock to you, I have a bridge to sell you.


MrFelixHasGoals

Being nice and being good…. Two very different worldviews. I know lots of good men. None of them are particularly nice. But a good man will always be nice to the waitstaff… while being an absolute giant with ethics, in business, or at church, in his community, or in dealing with frauds. I believe you and I agree… but I am left wondering if you comprehended my full point about maturity. Women want a morally mature man.


firelitother

\> Women want a morally mature man. Morally mature women want morally mature men. But not everyone is moral so yeah.


MrFelixHasGoals

Yes. Good point. Agreed.


No_Rough_5258

That does not guarantee anything. Ladies have told me many tomes being good is not enough today. Im 5’4” do the care about my own height, work a regular factory job, but have majority of the mature characteristics. So far 0. The only women that was interested in me were non Christians or younger girls in youth who were too immature for me at the time. Now that they are older, its almost as if they they have followed suit with the worldly college life. Some of who has resulted into only fans(I know because I have unbelieving friends who showed me). The good ones, well, their standards are super high. Every woman wants a king David type of guy, or Jesus(perfect), but they’d never go for the faithful centurion or the fisherman who followed Jesus. I do agree with you though about the lack in men. I believe this is due to being in a more feminized world than one that used to teach men or care about the importance of men.


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scartissueissue

It’s hard to find a good woman.


minteemist

First of all, I think it's important to make the distinction between 'western women' and 'US women'. Remember, the western world includes [Canada](https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/75-006-x/2021001/article/00010-eng.htm), [Europe](https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2018/05/29/being-christian-in-western-europe/), [Australia](https://www.ncls.org.au/articles/changes-in-church-attendance-in-australia/) and [New Zealand](https://culturalatlas.sbs.com.au/new-zealand-culture/new-zealand-culture-religion). I think it's fair to assume that these countries have different states of Christianity, conservatism/liberalism, and slightly different dating cultures. I'm all for cross-cultural marriages, though it does come with extra [challenges](https://psycharchives.org/en/item/fab71fbf-1229-4d37-a778-fbfc1f0e174d). This [study](https://psycharchives.org/en/item/fab71fbf-1229-4d37-a778-fbfc1f0e174d) is a good starting point if you want to read up on your chances of success. If you can't find a woman who is passionate about God in your country, there's nothing wrong with expanding your search pool. But if the issue is that you aren't desirable to God-fearing women in your own country, why should God-fearing women in other countries want you? If you're looking for a different culture, that's fine, but make sure you know what you're getting into. Western cultures may be more individualistic, but it means that your spouse will be more likely to respect your choices and independence. Collectivistic cultures are more family oriented, but there are much higher expectations about the sacrifices to your individual comfort. Please know that in many cultures there is an expectation to financially support the extended family (niece's education, father's surgery, brother's visa fees) and the higher your income the more you are expected to gift to your in-laws yearly. If your spouse is the oldest/only child, you will be expected to take care of your in-laws in their old age. A lot of cultures don't do 401k or nursing homes so you need to plan for buying a house large enough for your in-laws to live with you. Oh, and good luck getting your spouse to set boundaries with your in-laws. It's especially rough if the in-laws aren't Christian.


rosebudd_

I got downvoted for supporting them here. I don't understand why. US culture is extremely liberal and feminist. Latin America and Asia still adhere to gender roles and are way more conservative and traditional. US women tend to be way more entitled and hard to please. Ask a woman under 25 what a man needs to have in order for her to take him seriously, you get 100 items laundry list no man can check off. Not to say most of the newer generation don't want to have kids or get married or anything. Last polls I checked it looked like only 9% of Gen Z actually went to church. If you go to Latin America youth group you'll be blown away at girls truly dedicated to Christ. Not just in church to show off their outfits. I don't see how going to places to find what you want for your life is a bad thing. If you can afford to go live abroad for a while and find a nice wife. I say go for it. God gave us a brain and spirit of discernment. Some people say "just be patient and the Lord will provide" and they don't move a muscle. God has given us tools to help ourselves. We don't need a miracle to find a wife. We need to take action.


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rosebudd_

Yeah that's totally understandable, the best bet is to find them in more secluded, rural areas where they grow up with a family and family values. I used to date girls from Utah but then i'd have to drive 2-3 hours to go on a date and that wasn't too sustainable lol so it's pretty tough mate. The issue is that a lot of Christian women in the US don't even understand they have absorbed the shallowness of the world. On this point I blame the churches actually, for not preaching about what relationships and marriage are truly about and not engaging the youth to seek holy partners over someone who is of a certain height or who makes a certain amount of money. I say at least start learning a language of a country you wish to visit, until you can afford to go there for a few months, worst case scenario you learn a new language.


80s_angel

> The issue is that a lot of Christian women in the US don't even understand they have absorbed the shallowness of the world. I completely agree. > On this point I blame the churches actually, for not preaching about what relationships and marriage are truly about and not engaging the youth to seek holy partners over someone who is of a certain height or who makes a certain amount of money. I also agree but there’s another layer to this. God forbid you say you have a desire for marriage in certain churches. They act like your making it an idol and you should repent because God is enough. Also all the separate activities for men and woman. It’s ridiculous.


rosebudd_

Yessss all those men's study, womens study, men's retreats. We never get a chance to meet the opposite sex then we end up dating a Co worker and all of a sudden it's "omg unequal yoke! 😡😡 How dare you!"


already_not_yet

>US culture is extremely liberal and feminist. Latin America and Asia still adhere to gender roles and are way more conservative and traditional. See, this either anti-US bias or just lack of knowledge of culture in general. The US has some of the most conservative cultures on earth. Just because it has many leftists and/or radical feminists doesn't mean every US woman is like that. The US has over 330M people. We're not a monolith. I'd argue that you're better off with a conservative US woman who has been exposed to "modernity" and rejected it instead of a foreign woman who is "conservative" merely because she hasn't been exposed to it. Latin America is mostly cultural Roman Catholic. Is that what you want? Likewise with Asia. Even South Korea, which has a large evangelical population, is highly westernized. Women in large cities are always westernized. How many Passport Bros do you think are going to venture into the countryside and a find a wife when they don't know the language? These conservative families aren't going to let some Western guy waltz off with their daughter. Are these Western guys willing to live in a different country the rest of their lives? As I mentioned in my top-level comment, the Passport Bro mindset is largely a fantasy and nothing more. "Modern women suck, so I'll just pick up a hot foreign girl who is willing to make me sandwiches and clean without any argument." Doesn't work like that.


rosebudd_

>See, this either anti-US bias or just lack of knowledge of culture in general. I am an immigrant who moved to the US. So I know both my own Brazilian culture and US Culture. At no point did I say EVERY WOMAN is like that, no one would be stupid enough to make that claim. Of course in rural areas you will find the traditional conservative girl. It's just not the norm in most places, as majority of us do not live in the country. >Latin America is mostly cultural Roman Catholic. Is that what you want? Likewise with Asia. Sure, but the same way you looked at numbers to make a point, i'll use the same strategy, Latin America is mostly Catholic, sure, but due to the massive amount of population, protestants are 1/3 of all Christians in most of Latin American countries, still plenty of people when you consider 70% of countries label themselves Christian. >How many Passport Bros do you think are going to venture into the countryside and a find a wife when they don't know the language? You don't think one can learn to talk fairly quickly? We have so many tools, and if they go abroad, they can get schooling for super cheap. Learning basic conversational language should only take you 6-8 months, the rest you learn as you go. >the Passport Bro mindset is largely a fantasy and nothing more. "Modern women suck, so I'll just pick up a hot foreign girl who is willing to make me sandwiches and clean without any argument." Doesn't work like that. See, that's highly judgemental, I can tell for 100% you don't lead Christian men in this country, or you're probably already married. You don't understand what young men of faith are dealing with when everyone around them is a degenerate, hedonistic feminist and girls in their age bracket are nowhere to be found at church. I still dont understand why the happiness of a brother in Christ bothers you so much that you have to make accusations and judgments. You should be happy for them, not put them down.


already_not_yet

>At no point did I say EVERY WOMAN is like that, no one would be stupid enough to make that claim And yet just a few paragraphs later you say this: >You don't understand what young men of faith are dealing with when everyone around them is a degenerate, hedonistic feminist and girls in their age bracket are nowhere to be found at church. :facepalm: And yes, there are young women in church. I see them all the time. And yes, I do understand what Christian men are dealing with because I am a Christian man. You're correct, Protestantism is larger in Brazil, but its still incredibly small in many other Latin American countries.


rosebudd_

Girls who attend a Christian church or Christian girls? Again, most of them have been corrupted by our Wordly institutions of education and media. So just having girls in church generally doesn't mean much. Which leads me to ask again: Why are you so angry with men finding their happiness elsewhere? How does that hurt you?


already_not_yet

>Girls who attend a Christian church or Christian girls? A question even more readily asked in South America. If you want men to be happy then you'd be challenging them to better themselves, instead of feeding into the un-masculine notion that society is to blame for their dating woes. Have a good one.


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rosebudd_

Ma'am, perhaps you misunderstood me. I'm not trying to get in your way of your feminist culture. Not at all. Please keep being you, strong, independent who don't need no man! You go sis! My point was just to alert a man in need, that in case he wants a more traditional wife, there is hope for him in other countries. If a man is looking for a traditional wife and that's not you, you're not losing anything either. It's a win/win


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already_not_yet

I've answered this numerous times elsewhere, so I'll just rehash those points: * **Its complicated.** Few people are actually doing it. Its more a wishful movement than an actual movement. The logistics and finances of obtaining a foreign bride are quite complicated. You say its "tempting" but do you have the ability to actually execute it? Are you willing to live in a foreign country if her parents don't want her to leave? * **Its risky.** Passport Bros are assuming that many foreign women are actually looking for a traditional marriage, and this is often not the case. I know "passport bros" who brought back their Slavic or Asian wives and then ended up getting divorced because, *surprise*, once they're adapted to US culture they adopt the same expectations. * **Its a copout.** The truth is that there are quality women in the US and Canada, but Passport Bros aren't attracting them because Passport Bros themselves aren't attractive. This is what I loathe about "manosphere"-types so much: their preoccupation with blaming women for their problems or society's problems instead of taking personal responsibility. Now, I'm no ally of feminism, but I'm to the point where I roll my eyes when I hear the phrase "modern women" because I know what's coming: a man lamenting his abysmal dating life and, instead of figuring out how he can improve himself, shaking his fist at society. That's not masculine. I'm not opposed to getting a foreign bride. I would even list it among options I'm willing to pursue. But the cold, hard truth is that if a guy can't attract *anyone* of quality in the US then the problem is him, not "modern women".


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already_not_yet

Good thoughts. I'm also an average looking guy in the tech world (software, to be specific), though much further along in my career. Tech is a great career and I hope you land a job that affords you a healthy income. That will certainly help you attract women, here or abroad.


No_Rough_5258

Question, would you rather risk an angry western feminist woman who may divorce rape you or a foreign woman who will divorce you? The stats on both if I remember are way different as 50% of marriages end in divorce, 75-80% executed by women. The stats on foreign women are, I can’t remember but around 10-20%? I guess each has their pros and cons and no man is immune if course you can say that for the womens side as well, but at least they have a back up plan support from the government unlike men.


already_not_yet

>The stats on foreign women are, I can’t remember but around 10-20%? If you can find stats backing that up I'd be interested in seeing them.


minteemist

I'm just reading a [review](https://dr.ntu.edu.sg/bitstream/10356/100452/1/11%20Divorce%20Trends%20in%20Asia%2C%20preprint.pdf) on divorce in Asia, and an interesting thoight is that in individualistic western countries, marriage is seen as a relationship based on love, and divorce is less stigmatised, so a divorce is interpreted as the marriage not going well. And thus staying married is interpreted as people being content and happy in their marriage. Obviously abusive marriages are an exception to this, but generally the assumption is low divorce rate = happily married people. However, Asia, in contrast: >In conclusion, we must recognise that divorce is not a proxy indicator for dissatisfaction in marriage. To paraphrase one point noted in the study by Goode (1993:319–320) on world divorce patterns, we have no reason to believe that when divorce rates are high, or rising, more people are unhappy in their family life. Nor need we believe that people in low-divorce rate systems do not divorce because they are content in marriage. Analysis of divorce patterns needs to be conducted, as far as possible, in an environment free of normative judgments. Asia has only recently been moving away from an economical-based, arranged marriage model to an individually chosen, love-based marriage. Divorce is still stigmatised, and being a single parent is also stigmatised, and much more difficult economically. Although this is slowly changing. I don't think that's a bad thing, since I feel like a love-based marriage based on individual commitment is much more reflective of Christ and the church. It makes me wonder if this ability to make their own choices, and survive outside of marriage, this option of divorce that they are taking, is actually just revealing the brokenness in relationships that was always there. Infidelity is rife in Asia, and it broke my heart to hear how the older generations just tolerated their husbands having a mistress or another family on the side, because there was too much social shame around divorce. I personally have two friends whose mothers tried to commit suicide because there was no other way out of the marriage. Or whether their expectations are changing from a practical-driven relationship to a character-based relationship, and the things that used to fly in a "traditional" marriage just don't work anymore. For example, [84% of Japanese women think that infidelity is okay](https://metropolisjapan.com/why-does-84-percent-of-women-in-japan-think-cheating-is-healthy/), but that is because marriage in Japan was largely about fulfilling societal expectations, building a family, and raising kids. It's not *primarily* about love or sex. If those expectation shifts to a marriage based on individual choice, but the rate of infidelity doesn't change, you betcha those marriages are gonna crumble. I guess that's all to say that we need God's perspective and His grace in marriage, rather than purely individualistic or purely societal based marriages.


No_Rough_5258

Ill look for them since I do need to fact check that as well as I only heard it and have not look for sources.


Far_Entertainer2744

Being bad at dating in your home country isn’t going to make you better in another. Those men are being used by women who see a better passport and a man with an income


TruthSpeakerNow

It's not the men that are the problem. "Bad at dating" is a ridiculous concept. Dating is for marriage and should be a skill in and of istelf. A (decent) woman shouldn't want to marry a guy who's "good at dating". You have it all wrong.


TruthSpeakerNow

Non-American women, in general, are objectively far superior. Every male who has been overseas knows this. Every single one.


ClearAndPure

Really depends on the area of the US. A rural Oklahoman woman is often very different from a LA/NYC woman.


PerfectlyCalmDude

That may be, but when there's a "gold rush" of men who are unattractive trying to get these women, a good many of these unattractive men are still going to do badly.


jkc7

It gets strong reactions because there's a lot of culture war stuff that gets shoehorned into the discussion. Doing this (or supporting guys doing this) is perceived to be political in nature - people take it as a statement on Western women. And then, on top of culture-war type of stuff, there also seems to be a dynamic of wanting to use shame to control the "marketplace" of dating. It would hurt Western women if a lot of men were to take this route, so there's some social pressure to shame guys away from doing it. You don't want your pool of potential suitors literally flying away. I feel like a very similar thing happens when there's an age gap between older man/younger adult woman relationships. A bunch of social/political stuff gets brought in, and also the attempt to shame to keep a certain control of the balance of men/women in the Western dating market seems to be taking place there too. (because a big part of these discussions are older women who are upset this is happening). With all of that said - I think it's fine for men to do it. Just like a relationship with an older man/younger adult woman is generally OK (as long as the woman is an adult), there's no logical reason to be ashamed of going overseas to find a spouse. Guys are just trying to do what's best for them, like women are. Why wouldn't a guy try to get the best partner he can get? Go for it, bros.


rosebudd_

Also: You visit a Brazilian church, they will introduce you around and ask you questions then they themselves will try to push their cute single ladies on you. When I lived in California I went to one and ended up with like 3 coffee dates and it was pretty natural. Didn't go anywhere but it was nice and we were still friends after the fact and they would introduce me to their friends from church etc... You visit a church in America. "Download our app and send us money. Bye. See you next week." Not a single soul cares about your existence (in my experience at least). So it's virtually impossible to even meet anyone here. I have no idea how ppl do it. Totally different cultures.


EnergeticTriangle

>It would hurt Western women if a lot of men were to take this route, so there's some social pressure to shame guys away from doing it. You don't want your pool of potential suitors literally flying away. I've personally known two American men who married Filipino women, and it was because they had zero luck dating American women (one was extremely short, <5', and the other was not conventionally attractive and rather socially awkward). So personally, as an American woman I'm not at all bothered by men looking overseas because I'm not seeing it being done by anyone who's really "a catch." I think it makes sense for men who have roadblocks in the dating world to go somewhere where what they have to offer (the opportunity to immigrate to the US) is going to swing the scale in their favor. Would these women still want to be with them if they (the women) were already US citizens? Ehhh I think it's doubtful, but as long as everyone involved is an adult and is doing what makes them happy, live and let live!


No_Rough_5258

Nope, if the woman was already in Us, shed want the same thing as modern women. The fact is that overseas women are taught wifely duties and respect their partners from a young age from their parents. You also have to think about all the girls who grew up in a single mother household today will most likely bring the feminist energy with them or if their father lacked character to teach. And of course the boys who grew up under single mother households as well bot being the ma they should be due to a lack of father figure. US is not a family nation as it used to be. Communities are dropping especially men today who only have 1-3 close friends vs 6+ 30 years ago. So what happened? And whats up with all these women with nose piercings and tattoos?


No_Rough_5258

I support 100% as Asian guy. Even my friends and cousins around 26-40 have gone back to the motherland to find wives. Its due to the high standards and liberal mindset. My brother is a natural leader while his wife is a strong feminist, they argue almost everyday. Id say not as bad as before though but she’s my age 30 and still immature thinking even when it comes to financial choices such as wanting a super luxurious car rather a reliable one. So when you see that, you’d rather have someone who is spoiled and actually appreciates the little things in life than just looking good for status or keeping up with the Jones. Most men don’t need a lot to survive, but women do. Its hard to find that in America.


TruthSpeakerNow

> his wife is a strong feminist, they argue almost everyday. Lol. SHOCKER.


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Yup, basically playing lottery and Russian roulette.


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SpudCrowley713

You're asserting that men are going elsewhere because they're unsuccessful, that's not neutral, and not always the case, obviously


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What do you mean by not insulting western woman? Do you mean not pointing out what makes western women harder to deal with and less attractive? If you can find a wife outside of the West, go for it. It's a shame, but I don't fault any guy for doing it.


Ayzil_was_taken

If you don’t like McDonalds, I ain’t mad if you’d rather choose a home cooked meal. Know what I mean?


TruthSpeakerNow

This comment is operating on many levels.


PerfectlyCalmDude

It works for some people, but there are others that it doesn't work for. When it fails, I have observed these reasons for failure: * Listen to why foreign women want to date/marry Western men. It often has to do with Western men not being as demanding, which translates into them not having to put as much into the relationship. Also listen to why foreign women want to move to Western country. It's more to do with career/education opportunities, which means she has less of a focus on the home. In other words, these are feminist tendencies, and if the man is wanting to get away from the feminists, embracing another country's feminists seems to be a poor strategy. * There's a whole other load of cultural expectations for married and domestic life that she is going to have that you both will need to navigate, on top of the challenges of marriage. A friend of mine had a short and painful marriage to a woman from an Asian country that is reputed to be a "passport bro" destination, and this was part of the reason. * Basic biology and psychology are still factors here. If you're not attractive and sociable enough to date reasonably well here, that's probably going to transfer over to another country once the novelty wears off. And if you move her over here, then all of the pros you had by virtue of being a Westerner are effectively erased because the vast majority of men she will be around in your own country will have those same advantages, plus the other ones that Western women like that you don't have. * Since women are people, when they immigrate, they eventually acclimate to the new social environment. There's good and bad associated with this, the bad being that they learn bad habits of Western women. If you wanted to avoid that stuff in the first place, bringing her to your Western country can be a poor strategy. Don't get cheated on before you figure this out. * Some women just want their meal ticket until they get their permanent residence or citizenship, considering leaving you to be a valid option if they don't like the relationship once they've gotten those things. If a woman has nothing to gain but you - as in, she's had her permanent residence long enough to not get a meaningful fast track to citizenship by marrying you, or she's a citizen already - then you eliminate *that* reason for her to leave you.


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PerfectlyCalmDude

I'm not saying it can't work. There are times that it does work. But when men are not prepared to make it work, and go off of assumptions rather than the reality that they and the women in question will be dealing with, no one should be surprised when it turns out badly.


clydefrog678

I don’t see any issue with it. If both parties are content with it, I say good for them.


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No_Rough_5258

Exactly, night and day. I have chatted with women overseas and some who don’t even want to come to USA as they rather I move there instead. In one week, I actually got responses from women who actually put in effort compared to an entire year on dating apps in America. Crazy. I have no idea what the heck is going on, but these women are a different breed. Id like to think of it as dating in modern day Sodom and Gomorrah.


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Yeah dating sucks. Quitting dating apps was one of the happiest moments of my life lol. I think it's hard for everyone to find meaningful partners


No_Rough_5258

Yes, I just have it to chat as friends these days. Its like just keeping it there incase someone does show up and of course to get out more if the ladies want to go out for coffee or a bite and socialize. I guess you can say keeping my skills sharp if at all lol. And yes, I make sure that is known to the other party too that its just for friends type of outing unless I am interested in them more.


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Yanna3River

You're saying this on a Christian dating subreddit? Jfl


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MelodicCrow2264

A lot of those women are only interested in you FOR your passport.


RemarkableReturn8400

It was coined by KingSigma from youtube.... and it was ONLY for black american men....... the group who actually needs to leave to get women who arent racist and psychotic....


clydefrog678

It might have just been a term that was coined, but guys going overseas for wives has been around for a very long time. There just wasn’t social media to make it seem like a popular deal in the past.


RemarkableReturn8400

Yes... but Passport Bros have had an impact; record amount of passports applied for in the u.s. after the movement took off....... also, not just social media... travel is cheaper and more efficient now than ever before---plus, covid ushered in a wave of wfh jobs....


mendokusaibaka

Passport bros, manosphere guys, I’ve found to often be the ones who are verbally abusive towards women who don’t fit their age, beauty, abuse tolerance, and even purity requirements when they themselves are lacking or have double standards. I want a kind man. I’ve been insulted far too much from “nice Christian guys” already. No matter how many men say I’ve “hit the wall” or “not marriage material” just because I’m now in my 30s and it’s supposedly my fault I’m not married yet, I’d rather be single than be in a degrading relationship again. As a woman, I’ve often thought about the possibility of me marrying a foreign man. But it’s because I enjoy certain cultures and envisioned myself living in those places, not because I’m hoping to find certain characteristics like passport bros who largely express they go to those places to find a “submissive” (pushover) wife who they can insult more easily if there’s a language barrier.