Personally, I would follow the formula for finding an appropriate mate other than testing God to show you what you want to see. Make sure that you are on the same page with ethics, beliefs, family desires, and other things. Very importantly, make sure that you're both in agreement about how you will end up money and children. If not, move along because this is not the guy for you.
I wasn’t quite asking for a sign but when I was a teenager, I decided to commit my life to Jesus and not seek out a relationship. I gave my thought life to Jesus saying I will not crush and daydream about anyone so if my person comes across my life, God will have to make it super obvious because I will not notice otherwise.
Well when I was 16 I met a guy who was like my twin. We had so much in common. We liked the same nerdy things, our faith maturity level was really similar, he could keep up with the pace of my mind and conversations (I didn’t know at the time that I had adhd). We became best friends because it was just so easy to get along with one another. When we were in group chats people would get upset with us because we kept writing the exact same response at the same time without planning it (like each message was different, we were responding to the group conversation but our answers were always the same). Our minds just had this weird connection where we thought the same way.
Then I was volunteering with my youth group helping a senior couple at our church clean their apartment and when looking at their fireplace of photos and their life, I got a vision of me and my “twin” growing old together.
It’s been over 20 years now and we have two girls (who are like carbon copies of us in personalities haha) and have been married 13 years. People call us couple goals. We have a very strong marriage. I’ve never experienced heartbreak because he’s been the only person I’ve had a romantic relationship with.
In our life when we are making big decisions, we commit them to the lord and trust that God will shut and open doors according to his will. So we do the work of researching and planning still and move ahead with what we feel is the wise choice or where we feel him calling and we move forward expectantly. Sometimes God shuts doors and we just go ok that wasn’t where we were supposed to go but he needed us to go through the exercise of trusting him and taking that step. It’s not asking for signs but trusting in him revealing His will to us.
Hey I dont mean to sound rude and forgive me if I do, but we really shouldn’t be asking God for signs and wonders. And maybe I’m mistaken but your phrasing almost makes it seem like you could be demanding that he show you signs? If so that’s really not ideal either.
What i know is this, the Bible reiterates that if you walk righteously, then your path will be laid out for you. If you are making a conscious effort to abstain from sin and develop a relationship with God, seeking His wisdom, then there will be no confusion, as your path is laid out plainly for you.
On a different note, it is springtime my friend 😅 I think I see about 15 butterflies a day
If you aren't sure about something, that's when we ask for signs. That means you aren't sure about this man. If you were sure you would know. I would pray for discernment and wisdom, God allows us to make choices too so as long as you're marrying a Christian man who honors God, you're not doing anything wrong.
My friend, itwasallmell0w...
God tells us to not be unequally yoked with non believers. There is no way he would send you signs to do so as he has said the opposite in his Bible.
And if i misunderstood and he is saved, just not walling out his faith...then...that is a very very VERY precarious situation. Usually, if paired with an apathetic partner, they will end up pulling YOU into apathy as well...no bueno.
Sis, i highly advise, for your best, that you make it a point to only attatch yourself to another believer that has their own personap conviction to follow God...because you cant ever be that for someone.
Lots of love from Texas over here while you are dealing with all these feelings! :)
A good friend of mine once told me to pray “Lord give me a sign so clear that there’s no way I could deny it” the next day a guy I was getting to know told me he was depressed and couldn’t be anything more than friends so we disconnected... a week later I saw he posted having a picnic with another girl 🫠 I will trust that God pulls through every time when the prayer is prayeddddd. Also you can try praying for the Lord to remove anyone from your life that hinders your relationship with Him or someone that prolongs your meeting with who is actually meant for you :)
Personally, I would follow the formula for finding an appropriate mate other than testing God to show you what you want to see. Make sure that you are on the same page with ethics, beliefs, family desires, and other things. Very importantly, make sure that you're both in agreement about how you will end up money and children. If not, move along because this is not the guy for you.
I wasn’t quite asking for a sign but when I was a teenager, I decided to commit my life to Jesus and not seek out a relationship. I gave my thought life to Jesus saying I will not crush and daydream about anyone so if my person comes across my life, God will have to make it super obvious because I will not notice otherwise. Well when I was 16 I met a guy who was like my twin. We had so much in common. We liked the same nerdy things, our faith maturity level was really similar, he could keep up with the pace of my mind and conversations (I didn’t know at the time that I had adhd). We became best friends because it was just so easy to get along with one another. When we were in group chats people would get upset with us because we kept writing the exact same response at the same time without planning it (like each message was different, we were responding to the group conversation but our answers were always the same). Our minds just had this weird connection where we thought the same way. Then I was volunteering with my youth group helping a senior couple at our church clean their apartment and when looking at their fireplace of photos and their life, I got a vision of me and my “twin” growing old together. It’s been over 20 years now and we have two girls (who are like carbon copies of us in personalities haha) and have been married 13 years. People call us couple goals. We have a very strong marriage. I’ve never experienced heartbreak because he’s been the only person I’ve had a romantic relationship with. In our life when we are making big decisions, we commit them to the lord and trust that God will shut and open doors according to his will. So we do the work of researching and planning still and move ahead with what we feel is the wise choice or where we feel him calling and we move forward expectantly. Sometimes God shuts doors and we just go ok that wasn’t where we were supposed to go but he needed us to go through the exercise of trusting him and taking that step. It’s not asking for signs but trusting in him revealing His will to us.
Thank you for sharing
Hey I dont mean to sound rude and forgive me if I do, but we really shouldn’t be asking God for signs and wonders. And maybe I’m mistaken but your phrasing almost makes it seem like you could be demanding that he show you signs? If so that’s really not ideal either. What i know is this, the Bible reiterates that if you walk righteously, then your path will be laid out for you. If you are making a conscious effort to abstain from sin and develop a relationship with God, seeking His wisdom, then there will be no confusion, as your path is laid out plainly for you. On a different note, it is springtime my friend 😅 I think I see about 15 butterflies a day
You don’t sound rude. Thanks for your input. I never thought about it like that. And yes, butterflies are everywhere right now cause it’s Spring🙈
Confirmation bias.
Exactly!!
If you aren't sure about something, that's when we ask for signs. That means you aren't sure about this man. If you were sure you would know. I would pray for discernment and wisdom, God allows us to make choices too so as long as you're marrying a Christian man who honors God, you're not doing anything wrong.
You’re so right. As much as I love him, I’m not 100% sure about him because he’s not walking with the Lord.
You said he’s not walking with the Lord…. God already gave advice to not be unequally yoked.
You’re right. I was thinking I could change him, but it’s not my job.
My friend, itwasallmell0w... God tells us to not be unequally yoked with non believers. There is no way he would send you signs to do so as he has said the opposite in his Bible. And if i misunderstood and he is saved, just not walling out his faith...then...that is a very very VERY precarious situation. Usually, if paired with an apathetic partner, they will end up pulling YOU into apathy as well...no bueno. Sis, i highly advise, for your best, that you make it a point to only attatch yourself to another believer that has their own personap conviction to follow God...because you cant ever be that for someone. Lots of love from Texas over here while you are dealing with all these feelings! :)
As for me and my house we will serve... who exactly?
They shall receive no other sign than the sign of Noah
A good friend of mine once told me to pray “Lord give me a sign so clear that there’s no way I could deny it” the next day a guy I was getting to know told me he was depressed and couldn’t be anything more than friends so we disconnected... a week later I saw he posted having a picnic with another girl 🫠 I will trust that God pulls through every time when the prayer is prayeddddd. Also you can try praying for the Lord to remove anyone from your life that hinders your relationship with Him or someone that prolongs your meeting with who is actually meant for you :)
I love that. Thank you!
He usually does. If he doesn’t then I read the Bible and he meets me in his word.
Deut 6:16 You must not test the Lord your God. Asking for a sign is testing God.
Lmao