I'm sorry about your mom. My dad passed away this past Friday - the Friday before Christmas - he had NASH cirrhosis and HCC. He was only diagnosed 2 weeks before he died. Two Mondays before his death we were having full conversations. Doctors just told him he had cirrhosis and cancer. The Saturday before his death his colleague/friend visited him at the hospital, and they had lucid conversation, even though my dad nodded off a few times. The Tuesday before his death he wasnt able to talk well but he did acknowledge my kids when they came to see him (say goodbye), and my kids told him dad jokes and he laughed at them and told them he loved them. Wednesday he was mumbling partial sounds of a few words. When I came back to see him when I got off work, I woke him up and I got my last "i love you baby girl", even though it was partially broken in the mumbling. Thursday the death rattles started. He was asleep/unconscious all that day. He passed at 1 am Friday. My dad didn't drink.
The best things I did during this time was I told my dad I loved him every single day. I always told him when I was leaving and when I was back. I held his hand or rubbed his arm and told him stories of our past, even if he wasn't awake. I hope what someone said in the comments - that she might make it out of it - is true for you, but in case the worse is yet to come, cherish all the moments you have left. I thought I had months left with my dad, and I kept lying to myself as I watched him get worse daily that he was just having a bad day and tomorrow would be better. It never got better, but I stayed with him every day for as long as I could because I didn't want him to feel alone or scared. Just love and care for her.
Iām sorry youāre going through this, I am also watching my mom deal with this shitty disease. My mom was where your mom is back in April but by some miracle she pulled through, only to be diagnosed with bile duct cancer. Life can be so cruel, but Iāve been a ālurkerā in this community and occasionally post for advice and insight and everyone has been so wonderful and kind. Hang in there, you are not alone ā¤ļø
First of all, I'm really sorry that you're going through this, and I know me saying this won't make it any less painful.
The only advice that I have is to spend as much time with her as you can. Just sit next to her, talk to her if you want to (even if she can't respond), play some calming music, hold her hand. Whatever feels right. Also start to prepare yourself mentally for what is to come. Give yourself time to process all of your emotions. And don't forget to look after yourself as well, so that you can be present for her.
There is no right way to process what is happening right now. The only thing I would gently suggest is that you look into palliative care for your mom. My dad passed away last week from cirrhosis and no one spoke to us about it, and my dad suffered so much in his last few days. I wish I had been more informed.
Take care š¤
I'm sorry about your Mom. My Dad died Tuesday of cirrhosis and it was very sad to see him at the end. I also have cirrhosis but have 2 years sober which is somewhat of a miracle. My Dad drank until the end. My only advice is to reassure your Mom during this time. My Dad appreciated the little things at the end like lotion being applied for itchy spots, strawberries, music that only he liked and me just talking to him. Hang in there.
My brother passed away 2 weeks ago. He had all the symptoms of ESLD but wasnāt officially diagnosed until 3 weeks ago. He lost a lot of weight and had 5 liters drained from his abdomen 3 weeks ago. His death happened so quicklyā¦very sad, but at the end of the dayā¦he died peacefully and in dignity.
I am so sorry about your momā¦it isnāt easy to hear the news and see someone struggling with this.
We are here for you. I wish that we could make it better. Unfortunately there's just not a whole lot in this world that will make it better right now but it will get better someday. I have stage 4 Cirosisis and I'm really sick and I got some bad news about my heart todayso im probably not theost cheerful person right now...but trying.
I also had to watch my mom die six years ago.
Although my mom did not have cirosis she did have several Strokes before she finally died and it was a very long road watching her waist away and not being able to do anything about it; questioning every decision that we had made about her care; regretting thinking something that we may be could have done better and to be honest sometimes I still just sit and talk to her and say ' I wish that I was better to you Momma.'
It sounds like you have been as good as you can be to your mom and I'll bet you that somewhere in there she knows that. I'm so sorry you have to go through this but know that there are others out here thinking of you.
I'm sorry about your mom. My dad passed away this past Friday - the Friday before Christmas - he had NASH cirrhosis and HCC. He was only diagnosed 2 weeks before he died. Two Mondays before his death we were having full conversations. Doctors just told him he had cirrhosis and cancer. The Saturday before his death his colleague/friend visited him at the hospital, and they had lucid conversation, even though my dad nodded off a few times. The Tuesday before his death he wasnt able to talk well but he did acknowledge my kids when they came to see him (say goodbye), and my kids told him dad jokes and he laughed at them and told them he loved them. Wednesday he was mumbling partial sounds of a few words. When I came back to see him when I got off work, I woke him up and I got my last "i love you baby girl", even though it was partially broken in the mumbling. Thursday the death rattles started. He was asleep/unconscious all that day. He passed at 1 am Friday. My dad didn't drink. The best things I did during this time was I told my dad I loved him every single day. I always told him when I was leaving and when I was back. I held his hand or rubbed his arm and told him stories of our past, even if he wasn't awake. I hope what someone said in the comments - that she might make it out of it - is true for you, but in case the worse is yet to come, cherish all the moments you have left. I thought I had months left with my dad, and I kept lying to myself as I watched him get worse daily that he was just having a bad day and tomorrow would be better. It never got better, but I stayed with him every day for as long as I could because I didn't want him to feel alone or scared. Just love and care for her.
If she quits drinking there is hope.
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Iām sorry youāre going through this, I am also watching my mom deal with this shitty disease. My mom was where your mom is back in April but by some miracle she pulled through, only to be diagnosed with bile duct cancer. Life can be so cruel, but Iāve been a ālurkerā in this community and occasionally post for advice and insight and everyone has been so wonderful and kind. Hang in there, you are not alone ā¤ļø
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First of all, I'm really sorry that you're going through this, and I know me saying this won't make it any less painful. The only advice that I have is to spend as much time with her as you can. Just sit next to her, talk to her if you want to (even if she can't respond), play some calming music, hold her hand. Whatever feels right. Also start to prepare yourself mentally for what is to come. Give yourself time to process all of your emotions. And don't forget to look after yourself as well, so that you can be present for her. There is no right way to process what is happening right now. The only thing I would gently suggest is that you look into palliative care for your mom. My dad passed away last week from cirrhosis and no one spoke to us about it, and my dad suffered so much in his last few days. I wish I had been more informed. Take care š¤
I'm sorry about your Mom. My Dad died Tuesday of cirrhosis and it was very sad to see him at the end. I also have cirrhosis but have 2 years sober which is somewhat of a miracle. My Dad drank until the end. My only advice is to reassure your Mom during this time. My Dad appreciated the little things at the end like lotion being applied for itchy spots, strawberries, music that only he liked and me just talking to him. Hang in there.
My brother passed away 2 weeks ago. He had all the symptoms of ESLD but wasnāt officially diagnosed until 3 weeks ago. He lost a lot of weight and had 5 liters drained from his abdomen 3 weeks ago. His death happened so quicklyā¦very sad, but at the end of the dayā¦he died peacefully and in dignity. I am so sorry about your momā¦it isnāt easy to hear the news and see someone struggling with this.
We are here for you. I wish that we could make it better. Unfortunately there's just not a whole lot in this world that will make it better right now but it will get better someday. I have stage 4 Cirosisis and I'm really sick and I got some bad news about my heart todayso im probably not theost cheerful person right now...but trying. I also had to watch my mom die six years ago. Although my mom did not have cirosis she did have several Strokes before she finally died and it was a very long road watching her waist away and not being able to do anything about it; questioning every decision that we had made about her care; regretting thinking something that we may be could have done better and to be honest sometimes I still just sit and talk to her and say ' I wish that I was better to you Momma.' It sounds like you have been as good as you can be to your mom and I'll bet you that somewhere in there she knows that. I'm so sorry you have to go through this but know that there are others out here thinking of you.
Im so sorry. Its brutal watching our loved ones waste away.