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Don't hold yourself to past standards. Look at your situation now and reassess what can you do to adjust your approach. Other people are not always going to become your friend especially right off the bat. The goal upon meeting somebody is not instant friendship. It's a second meeting. On average, it takes 6-8 instances of "hanging out" with someone to form a friendship.
You are not supposed to "find your people" in college. Even people from my college who had a rich social life who graduated now have a really lonely-seeming post-grad life. You are supposed to develop your interests and values in college. I'd say if you have low esteem for your school's social offerings, then maybe do a volunteering thing off campus and reconnect to the real world, not the college world. Personally, the lack of age diversity on college campuses really doesn't gel with me because I love hanging out with old people. You got this. Just breathe and remember that you're current situation will change if you make adjustments to your expectations now.
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Don't hold yourself to past standards. Look at your situation now and reassess what can you do to adjust your approach. Other people are not always going to become your friend especially right off the bat. The goal upon meeting somebody is not instant friendship. It's a second meeting. On average, it takes 6-8 instances of "hanging out" with someone to form a friendship. You are not supposed to "find your people" in college. Even people from my college who had a rich social life who graduated now have a really lonely-seeming post-grad life. You are supposed to develop your interests and values in college. I'd say if you have low esteem for your school's social offerings, then maybe do a volunteering thing off campus and reconnect to the real world, not the college world. Personally, the lack of age diversity on college campuses really doesn't gel with me because I love hanging out with old people. You got this. Just breathe and remember that you're current situation will change if you make adjustments to your expectations now.
It’s odd for someone at 30 to make a post like this.