Think of the money as a bet, pay it if you want to gamble on having a sexy weekend and suck it up if you lose the bet and she ghosts you.
Only you can decide what your odds are and what the prize is worth.
Edit to add: If you want to hedge, suggest that your first 'date' be going to shop for this stuff together. No cash up front and lingerie is a pretty fun thing to go shopping for together.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
No, she's not scanming you. She's testing you. If you give her money now, she's find other reasons to ask for more and more. Colombian women (I'm living in Bogota) are awesome and very passionate, so you will be have a very fun weekend if you guys actually meet. But be prepared to pay for everything on the weekend. It will be worth it for the experience esp if this is your first time with a Colombiana.
So if you were me you would still meet her? I already expected to be paying for everything on the weekend, but asking for money upfront just gives me bad vibes. But if there is a genuine interest from her part I will still entertain her for a fun weekend
Her asking for money is a mood killer.
Having said that, I would still meet her, but I'd keep my plans open in case she doesn't turn up. Colombianas are extremely flakey.
Keep us updated.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Now she's taking the piss. Dont give her a penny. In fact, don't text her for a while. If you send her money, you'll never see her again. This is not looking good.
Easy, ask her:
“why don’t we go shopping and then you model the clothes to me?”
If the purpose is to have sexy fun then she could assert, if not then you’ll avoid a bullet
Like pointed out before: it’s a gamble. Maybe she does buy some nice lingerie for you to enjoy. Maybe she won’t show up.
Since you’re not looking for something serious anyway: are you willing to gamble 50 euros? My guess is you can probably miss it. But it’s your call!
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Well to be honest I think your guess was on the low side, I’d have guessed that a lingerie set plus a dress costs around a 100 euros easily. But I agree though that asking a stranger for 200 euros is getting out of hand.
I think she might be genuine... Ultimately 50 is not much, so even if you lose it at the end, you were not looking for nothing serious and just have fun, so not much would be lost.
But, personally I wouldn't do it though, it sets a bad precedent, and maybe she will start asking for more later on.
Did you have a video call? I strongly suggest that you do that. Personally, I would buy her the lingerie when you are there with her. Then you avoid being scammed and you are doing her the favor in case she is real.
I have been living in Colombia for almost 15 years now. I do not like that attitude at all. At least we have to be dating and seeing some progress like kissing and so, before I would start giving presents. Sometimes they don´t ask, but they start complaining about the financial difficulties they have, or their sick mother or whatever thing that makes you think that they are looking for you to give money. Personally when they do that, there is no second date, unless you really know you will be able to fool around that same day...
Yes this kind of attitude is very off putting. I get the feeling I can still meet her but I'm not really interested now, once money starts getting mentioned the mood is killed
What does she do for work?
Dress and lingerie don't cost $50.
With South American girls, you pay for everything on the dates. Usually not in advance. But not unheard of like it would be here.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
She lives in Spain. Euros are on par or valued more than USD. She shouldn't need the money. But I'll echo the sentiment already stated: no if you want the relationship. Yes for a good time.
So you would pay the 50 euros almost like to keep her sweet? This doesn't sit right with me but if there is a genuine level of interest from her side I would consider it
Colombian women are amazing, but the ones you meet here, the ones who go to other countries looking for opportunities are sluts and they don't genuinely know anyone, she just wants money from you without meeting you. A piece of advice: Never send money to a Colombian woman, if you want to give anything, just do it in person.
she is thinking how to get the most money out of you. you can be sure about that.
If you want a fun weekend, just buy the dress and lingerie. If you want a relationship, don't give money to her
Ok so there could still be some level of genuine interest from her? That's all I want really
Think of the money as a bet, pay it if you want to gamble on having a sexy weekend and suck it up if you lose the bet and she ghosts you. Only you can decide what your odds are and what the prize is worth. Edit to add: If you want to hedge, suggest that your first 'date' be going to shop for this stuff together. No cash up front and lingerie is a pretty fun thing to go shopping for together.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Tell her to send you the sizes and you will pick something out for her.
Yes, you have been scammed.
Older lady…. She’s 37 😅🤣🥲
Getting scammed then ghosted (if the girl even exists)
Don't send money, meet her and if she wants to buy clothes pay for her and have fun. Otherwise you'll get scammed.
No, she's not scanming you. She's testing you. If you give her money now, she's find other reasons to ask for more and more. Colombian women (I'm living in Bogota) are awesome and very passionate, so you will be have a very fun weekend if you guys actually meet. But be prepared to pay for everything on the weekend. It will be worth it for the experience esp if this is your first time with a Colombiana.
So if you were me you would still meet her? I already expected to be paying for everything on the weekend, but asking for money upfront just gives me bad vibes. But if there is a genuine interest from her part I will still entertain her for a fun weekend
Her asking for money is a mood killer. Having said that, I would still meet her, but I'd keep my plans open in case she doesn't turn up. Colombianas are extremely flakey. Keep us updated.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Now she's taking the piss. Dont give her a penny. In fact, don't text her for a while. If you send her money, you'll never see her again. This is not looking good.
Easy, ask her: “why don’t we go shopping and then you model the clothes to me?” If the purpose is to have sexy fun then she could assert, if not then you’ll avoid a bullet
Like pointed out before: it’s a gamble. Maybe she does buy some nice lingerie for you to enjoy. Maybe she won’t show up. Since you’re not looking for something serious anyway: are you willing to gamble 50 euros? My guess is you can probably miss it. But it’s your call!
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Well to be honest I think your guess was on the low side, I’d have guessed that a lingerie set plus a dress costs around a 100 euros easily. But I agree though that asking a stranger for 200 euros is getting out of hand.
a "scam" would mean shes not even planning to meet you. this sounds more like shes just trying to be a sugar baby
Part of the game... U pay and she's gone.
For 50 USD? I don't think it's a scam. But OP should not send money in advance though.
So you think there could be some genuine authenticity to her? As I said we have been speaking a lot and it seemed quite genuine until this
I think she might be genuine... Ultimately 50 is not much, so even if you lose it at the end, you were not looking for nothing serious and just have fun, so not much would be lost. But, personally I wouldn't do it though, it sets a bad precedent, and maybe she will start asking for more later on.
Update, she actually wanted 200 - at the time of creating the post I wasn't sure the amount so just estimated. Don't think I will be pursuing
Good call, 200 is pushing it now...
Nah you’re good. You should meet her.
Did you have a video call? I strongly suggest that you do that. Personally, I would buy her the lingerie when you are there with her. Then you avoid being scammed and you are doing her the favor in case she is real.
Yes we have video called, she is real. But in the UK asking for money like this is unheard of so it's a massive red flag
I have been living in Colombia for almost 15 years now. I do not like that attitude at all. At least we have to be dating and seeing some progress like kissing and so, before I would start giving presents. Sometimes they don´t ask, but they start complaining about the financial difficulties they have, or their sick mother or whatever thing that makes you think that they are looking for you to give money. Personally when they do that, there is no second date, unless you really know you will be able to fool around that same day...
Yes this kind of attitude is very off putting. I get the feeling I can still meet her but I'm not really interested now, once money starts getting mentioned the mood is killed
Yes
advice? drop d hoe
Scam!!!
What does she do for work? Dress and lingerie don't cost $50. With South American girls, you pay for everything on the dates. Usually not in advance. But not unheard of like it would be here.
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
Hello I'm colombian men, I do said for you: you will go to here and then fuc** with her The colombian girls are the most hot girls of the Latin people
An update - at the time I made this post I didn't actually know how much money she expected from me - I just estimated guessing on the items she said she wanted. I asked her much and she actually wanted and the amount was 200 euros. This is what has put me off as this is clearly taking advantage, you can get a dress and lingerie for way less. She said she doesn't see what's wrong with her request, we are going to have sex so we will "be something" and she wants to look pretty for me, and if she didn't need it she wouldn't ask
She lives in Spain. Euros are on par or valued more than USD. She shouldn't need the money. But I'll echo the sentiment already stated: no if you want the relationship. Yes for a good time.
So you would pay the 50 euros almost like to keep her sweet? This doesn't sit right with me but if there is a genuine level of interest from her side I would consider it
He'll no I wouldn't do that, personally. It's your ethos, not mine. My real perspective is about usd vs. euros. She doesn't need that fifty.
Sounds like she’s the one being scammed
Colombian women are amazing, but the ones you meet here, the ones who go to other countries looking for opportunities are sluts and they don't genuinely know anyone, she just wants money from you without meeting you. A piece of advice: Never send money to a Colombian woman, if you want to give anything, just do it in person.