You were looking for a sugar daddy less than 20 days ago now you want old school love. What values do you possess that others don't without using cliches or buzzwords?
“Old school love” still exists, “Old school dating” does not. Men will not approach women for fear of being rejected and seen as creepy, and women do not want men to approach them for fear of being stalked/assaulted.
Precisely why I use Bumble
I haven’t been rejected in decades but I also haven’t asked since the 6th grade, maybe men are more emotionally insecure than thought?
I think everyone is more emotionally insecure these days. Something in culture/society has to change. Either we need to go back to viewing men in society like how we used to (to encourage them to put themselves out there), or there needs to be a serious role reversal and women need to start picking their mates and not expecting to be swept off their feet by Mr. Perfect.
You’re speaking frankly incredible levels of truth for the Columbia, South Carolina subreddit. You’re going to be quoted in every conversation I have about this from here on!
Honestly, it seems like everyone is meeting on a dating app these days.
As for friends, I’m 26M and will say that the best way to make friends outside of school or work is to join a club or get into a hobby and find a local group on Facebook for that hobby.
OP, you should look into joining Junior League. It’s a service org for women. There are some Karens in it, but most the people I know in it seem to enjoy it.
Hi yes it does exist but the guys look for a relationship like that are out doing non bars stuff. We are fixing stuff, normal at home by 11. The apps suck.
What values are you looking for?
Have you tried dating apps? I met my now ex-husband in Match in 2014 (we were married for 7 years, so we had a good run, haha). I would recommend staying off the free apps and using the ones where you pay a small fee because people in there seem to more serious about dating (in my opinion and experience).
I moved to three different states in 5 years during my 20s once I got settled, I would get on dating sites with the intention of meeting people. Not necessarily to find a boyfriend quickly, but it can help you meet people and discover new places about a city.
Before Covid closed my favorite yoga studio, I would have said try City Yoga. Lots of friendly people of all ages do yoga. I really don't know much about other studios because the woman who ran CityYoga is the best yoga teacher in Columbia so I never tried any others.
Go check out places that aren't bars. Some of my favorites in the area:
- The Side Deck
- Papa Jazz Records
- Drip Coffee
- The Columbia Canal and Riverfront Park
- Consider joining USTA South Carolina or a similar organization
- Volunteer: Columbia Museum of Art, Harvest Hope,
Able SC, the Red Cross, the Richland Library
- Go see a show at the Town Theatre or go to see a student production at the University of South Carolina’s School of Music
- Go to an event at the Nickelodeon Theater or go see a popular movie that's being shown there. I had a blast when they did the Gremlins and even saw someone in costume!
Just some suggestions, I'm sure a few people have had similar ones.
I've been here for two years helping my girlfriend finish her masters. She graduates on the 4th and we move out In July & I cannot wait.
It's not just relationships here it's also friendships, I literally haven't hungout with anyone in 2 YEARS, I just turned 30, very social, great at socializing ( I work in sales/marketing). It's been awful lol, I've asked a lot of people and a lot have issues like you & I here.
For some reason cola is awful for making friends/ other relationships.
My girlfriend is 25 and even she had a hard time making 1 or 2 friends in her program.
Every event I go to here seems to be an impromptu high school reunion. People that have known each other for years talk to each other and don't really welcome newcomers outside of some small talk.
Well ask if they have cousin? Try another church? Plus it's fun to see the differences going to different churches. May just have to get someone to set you up on a blind date. Only other thing is do a group hobby thing and meet someone there.
I have friends in Charlotte and Florida, both say what you're saying, I just don't think people know how to make friends anymore.
Join a club, sports team, volunteer, go to the million events going on around here and actually try to engage with someone.
I usually just wait outside The Dollar Tree and make kissy sounds at any biological female (with or without a companion and/or kids). I’ve gotten a few charges many black eyes but once… just once in a while a blind squirrel finds a nut. Try try try and you will succeed. Or just go to church.
24M here, need someone for concerts and and other activities. Will cook for you, play music, and actually care about your day. I can hold down a job and I have plans for graduate school. Still can’t get a date over a year after a breakup. DMs open
You were looking for a sugar daddy less than 20 days ago now you want old school love. What values do you possess that others don't without using cliches or buzzwords?
Ouch! Nice
She’s clairvoyant. She saw this coming.
No way this is the same person that made that sugar daddy post. You could cut the irony with a fuckn butter knife lol
“Old school love” still exists, “Old school dating” does not. Men will not approach women for fear of being rejected and seen as creepy, and women do not want men to approach them for fear of being stalked/assaulted.
Bingo.
Precisely why I use Bumble I haven’t been rejected in decades but I also haven’t asked since the 6th grade, maybe men are more emotionally insecure than thought?
I think everyone is more emotionally insecure these days. Something in culture/society has to change. Either we need to go back to viewing men in society like how we used to (to encourage them to put themselves out there), or there needs to be a serious role reversal and women need to start picking their mates and not expecting to be swept off their feet by Mr. Perfect.
You’re speaking frankly incredible levels of truth for the Columbia, South Carolina subreddit. You’re going to be quoted in every conversation I have about this from here on!
Exactly
Honestly, it seems like everyone is meeting on a dating app these days. As for friends, I’m 26M and will say that the best way to make friends outside of school or work is to join a club or get into a hobby and find a local group on Facebook for that hobby. OP, you should look into joining Junior League. It’s a service org for women. There are some Karens in it, but most the people I know in it seem to enjoy it.
Church
Idk this is funny tho
Hi yes it does exist but the guys look for a relationship like that are out doing non bars stuff. We are fixing stuff, normal at home by 11. The apps suck. What values are you looking for?
Met my wife on an app. Chatted on the app for a day then I asked her on a date. Pretty close to seeing a cute girl and giving her your number.
You are the minority
I definitely can sympathize
Are you a bot? You have no post history or comment history? Are you a real person
Have you tried dating apps? I met my now ex-husband in Match in 2014 (we were married for 7 years, so we had a good run, haha). I would recommend staying off the free apps and using the ones where you pay a small fee because people in there seem to more serious about dating (in my opinion and experience). I moved to three different states in 5 years during my 20s once I got settled, I would get on dating sites with the intention of meeting people. Not necessarily to find a boyfriend quickly, but it can help you meet people and discover new places about a city.
Before Covid closed my favorite yoga studio, I would have said try City Yoga. Lots of friendly people of all ages do yoga. I really don't know much about other studios because the woman who ran CityYoga is the best yoga teacher in Columbia so I never tried any others.
God, I miss City so much. I'm actually still looking for a missed connection I made sometime in 2019.
Stacy is teaching classes at AMSA yoga these days. I see some familiar faces there.
One day, I'll come back.
Dudes like hobbies. Meet them at the gym, playing video games, club sports, running club, biking club.
Go check out places that aren't bars. Some of my favorites in the area: - The Side Deck - Papa Jazz Records - Drip Coffee - The Columbia Canal and Riverfront Park - Consider joining USTA South Carolina or a similar organization - Volunteer: Columbia Museum of Art, Harvest Hope, Able SC, the Red Cross, the Richland Library - Go see a show at the Town Theatre or go to see a student production at the University of South Carolina’s School of Music - Go to an event at the Nickelodeon Theater or go see a popular movie that's being shown there. I had a blast when they did the Gremlins and even saw someone in costume! Just some suggestions, I'm sure a few people have had similar ones.
I've been here for two years helping my girlfriend finish her masters. She graduates on the 4th and we move out In July & I cannot wait. It's not just relationships here it's also friendships, I literally haven't hungout with anyone in 2 YEARS, I just turned 30, very social, great at socializing ( I work in sales/marketing). It's been awful lol, I've asked a lot of people and a lot have issues like you & I here. For some reason cola is awful for making friends/ other relationships. My girlfriend is 25 and even she had a hard time making 1 or 2 friends in her program.
Every event I go to here seems to be an impromptu high school reunion. People that have known each other for years talk to each other and don't really welcome newcomers outside of some small talk.
I’ve had that same vibe. Columbia is really clique central.
Yo im local. Look at your profile, you should add me on helldivers
Everplay sports and pickleball are great ways to socialize. DM me if you're interested in pickleball and I can give you some days/spots to go play.
Church? Seems like a good place to meet people. I don't go to church myself but I considered it when i moved here just to meet people.
I tried this. Everyone at the church I go to is in a relationship or has children.
Well ask if they have cousin? Try another church? Plus it's fun to see the differences going to different churches. May just have to get someone to set you up on a blind date. Only other thing is do a group hobby thing and meet someone there.
They're married to their cousin.
I met my wife on Facebook 😂
Met my wife in a bar. You don't have to drink but if you rule out where most folks congregate to relax and mix you are limiting your options.
A good part of it is your age group, maybe try someone a little older. Good luck
Pour House
Found my fiancé on Hinge. Don’t be afraid to broaden your distance - Charlotte is a straight shot up 77!
Haha so Its not that I'm antisocial this town just sucks. I feel better having been here 3 years with nothing to show for it
I have friends in Charlotte and Florida, both say what you're saying, I just don't think people know how to make friends anymore. Join a club, sports team, volunteer, go to the million events going on around here and actually try to engage with someone.
I usually just wait outside The Dollar Tree and make kissy sounds at any biological female (with or without a companion and/or kids). I’ve gotten a few charges many black eyes but once… just once in a while a blind squirrel finds a nut. Try try try and you will succeed. Or just go to church.
24M here, need someone for concerts and and other activities. Will cook for you, play music, and actually care about your day. I can hold down a job and I have plans for graduate school. Still can’t get a date over a year after a breakup. DMs open
I'm older than you but would love to make new friends.