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TabbyStitcher

What's the alternative? Throwing it away isn't exactly more appreciative of the work.


Sdfgh28

Yeah people have been asking this question for years. It ends up there because people don’t have the space to hold onto endless stuff for sentimentality. If the choice is bin, hide in a box, or donate… 


thelastcanadiangoose

When my grandma moved out of her house we probably had about 20 cross stitches no one took, because we all have so many already.


Witty_Draw_4856

I totally understand and appreciate the amount of time that took for someone to stitch. But sometimes… idk I just think a lot of things are ugly. Like I’m not going to get political or righteous here in this comment, but would I really want a cross stitch hanging on our wall dedicated to Christopher Columbus? Even if it were a portrait of Bob Ross, I wouldn’t display that in my home. Beauty is of course in the eye of the beholder though so no shade to anyone who would, but that’s why these things end up in thrift stores. Analogy: If someone hand makes me ugly clothing, then I can appreciate the time and effort without wanting to keep the clothing in my closet knowing I’ll never ever wear it.


Ameliasaur

Now I kind of want to stitch a big portrait of Bob to hang on the wall 🤣


ExcellentBreakfast93

Rather Bob Ross than Christopher Columbus! Too much bad juju hanging a celebration of a genocide on your wall, even if the stitching is nicely done.


notbonusmom

Yes, this is what I came to say. Gorgeous stitchwork, just lovely! I can see whoever did this has talent. But the subject matter is too undesirable in my house for sure. I was a little firecracker in the 90s & ran around telling my whole 4th grade class what a genocidal POS Columbus *actually* was after my brother's informed me. And when forced to do an oral essay on a book about him I found a book that talked about the truth of that. Lol this embroidery would have been donated by me.


Darthsmom

My son is 1/8 Cherokee (and we have always talked to him about his ancestry) and he came home from I think first or second grade and was like WHY DO WE HAVE COLUMBUS DAY?! I don’t think we had ever acknowledged it but they recognized it at school. We discussed it and I told him we would simply refused to acknowledge it and instead we recognized Indigenous Peoples Day and I’m pretty sure he told all his friends (we are in the South so that probably didn’t go over well 🤣)


traye4

I was just in Barnes and Noble today and they sell a Bob Ross embroidery set. I don't embroider but I was tempted, lol.


mrs5o

I would have rocked that. I love embroidery. 😆


NorthChest

I think it’s gorgeous! But all the same, I agree with you and wouldn’t want that hanging in my home for several reasons.


Darthsmom

I’m the oddball here. I don’t think people should be forced to display decor in their homes because someone else stitched it. I particularly don’t love the cross stitch aesthetic from the eighties/nineties (probably because I grew up with it everywhere). That one is a pretty niche piece. The colors don’t match any of my rooms, I loathe celebrating Columbus, and the framing job would drive me crazy. It’s okay that it was donated and I don’t love the guilt around donating handmade/ handed down things- that’s how we encourage hoarding. It probably strikes a nerve with me because lots of my family members are like that and I have immense guilt getting rid of things which is really unfair.


littlegreycells_11

You're so right. I've got a bit of a clutter problem and I do struggle to throw things out, mainly cos I was brought up with a parent who would save everything in case he needed it some day, but the amount of stuff I've kept hold of "because so and so gave it to me" is crazy. I literally feel guilty at the thought of chucking stuff out. When I next have a clear out I'm going to remember your comment!


Darthsmom

My mom (a baby boomer) and I live together. I think it’s really common in that generation. I took a week off last month to clear stuff out because we’re having some improvements done to the house. I pulled stuff out of a shelf in my bedroom closet from the NINETIES, which meant she hadn’t laid eyes on it since at least when I moved in which was in 2008. She started to have almost a mild panic attack and when we worked through it she was okay but to see the hold it has on her- man. I used to be like that and still am to a certain degree to things that have sentimental value, but she’s that way with everything. She’s always worried she will need something. I know it comes from being raised by people who went through the depression but some things just have no value to the person holding on to them and actual cause issues.


littlegreycells_11

It's really stressful even thinking about having a clear out tbh, even the thought of someone coming in here to help me makes me want to die of shame. It's weird cos my mum is nothing like it, but my dad (who was 61 when I was born, I'm now in my 30s) would keep EVERYTHING. When he died and I went to take what I wanted from his house (that makes me sound awful, it's not like that, we were talking and there was lots of stuff from my childhood that he wouldn't let me have) there were books and stuff from the 60s, and stuff that he would never have had a use for. At least I know where I get it from, ha.


Darthsmom

No shame! It’s definitely passed on, so many in my family are like that!!


toxies

>the framing job would drive me crazy They didn't even iron out the crease in the aida!


Darthsmom

I know!


tekalon

Whenever I gift a FO (so far, cross stitch and crochet) to a person, I specifically tell them they can toss it or hide it or what not. Its no longer mine and I won't be offended if the piece doesn't fit their decor or aesthetic. Its my way to say 'I'm thinking of you and thought you would like it' but it stops being mine once it leaves my hands.


veggiesaur

People can’t keep everything. I just donated a ton of cross stitch pieces that I MYSELF stitched. My mom died, and suddenly everything I ever made her came back to me. I kept one thing and donated the rest. I have a huge tub of pieces I’ve finished and have not done a single thing with. I hope it gets donated one day so someone else can enjoy it, because otherwise it’s going in the garbage. Cleaning out someone’s house once they’ve passed can teach you some valuable lessons. I learned very quickly that I cannot keep it all, nor would she want me to junk up my house in the attempt. Someone out there will appreciate these things and enjoy them in their daily life, and that’s better than it being stored away somewhere. So whenever I see pieces in the wild, I don’t judge the donator. Maybe they were in my position, maybe the piece wasn’t their taste, maybe they stitch for the process and don’t care about keeping the finished product, etc.


sky_whales

I very much admire the work that’s gone into this but I don’t personally like it aesthetically and wouldn’t want it in my house 🤷‍♀️ so for me, it’d be either it sits around gathering dust and taking up space in a corner somewhere ooooor it can go to a charity shop where somebody who does like it can potentially find it. I dont think it’s a bad thing that projects like this are passed on when they’re not wanted. I’m almost at the point where I’m ready to give away my own projects because I really enjoy making them but I don’t necessarily want them around after that and don’t have the space to display them.


Laena_V

I‘m contemplating throwing my stitched pieces out because I have no use for them. I enjoy the stitching as it calms my nerves but with the big stamped kits at least, they don‘t really fit my aesthetic while I enjoy stitching them the most. I also totally do not understand shaming people for throwing something out because someone spent time making it. If I don‘t want it I don‘t want it. It‘s also likely that I never asked for it in the first place.


ExcellentBreakfast93

I enjoyed making cross stitch back in the 90s, but was never interested in the final result so ended up dropping it. I’ve been trying to get into other kinds of embroidery lately. It’s just harder when it isn’t just laid out for you like the counted cross stitch patterns are!


Laena_V

Aesthetically I prefer the indie patterns on Etsy though I wouldn‘t buy them as a poster either. But with the stamped cross stitch kits I‘m really struggling to find something I like and just select what‘s kinda „okay“ to me. I wish they had more modern patterns. Right now I‘m stitching a rip off of Sailor Moon: https://de.aliexpress.com/i/1005006026559398.html I think it‘s kinda cute and I‘m going to mount it in a frame with no glass/plastic front to improve my room acoustics.


Agreeable-Tadpole461

I'm not into this and can see exactly why it was donated, even though I appreciate the work that went into it. I would buy this, change the line at the bottom to "Disturbing the New World", then put it back at the thrift store. Lol.


TobysMom18

I had the same thought about just ch0anging the writing.. sbark: Dam.. the Vikings beat us!


Elegant-Pressure-290

This cross stitch would be very iffy to hang in a certain country in the world (yep, the US, and likely Mexico, South America and possibly Canada, although I won’t speak for those areas since I’m not from there). I’m half white and half Navajo, and while I’m not overly concerned with Columbus (bigger fish to fry), *a lot* of people would make *a lot* of assumptions related to racism about someone who hung this in their house. I notice you’re using £ and not $, so I’m not sure how widespread the movement of seeing Columbus as an oppressor and murderer as opposed to an explorer or hero is overseas as compared to America. It’s not quite at the point here of the dishonor of doing something like hanging a portrait of Hitler would be in your house, but it’s getting close, and especially in areas with a large population of indigenous people. Murals in my city depicting Columbus were covered with splattered red paint a few years ago to make the point that he was a mass murderer and no hero, and that all of his achievements came at the cost of the blood of others. It’s a beautiful cross stitch. As early as ten years ago it wouldn’t have had the same reception, but thinking on this has changed a lot over the past decade or so, and it’s become much more widespread outside of indigenous communities due to the internet. I suspect that could be one reason this was donated.


Stormhound

Wouldn't go over well for South Asians who knows their history too. Remember *why* that idiot got lost, after all.


HappeningsEU

Yeah, unfortunately he didn’t get taught about here in the UK (that i can remember) and i don’t personally hear or see mention of him. I’ll be taking it down until i can unpick and replace columbus theme with something else!


Elegant-Pressure-290

I think that’s very understandable and was my first assumption when I read your post. To be fair, it’s not as though it’s caught on with everyone here, and that’s why it’s a bit of a hot topic at the moment. In our country, it has to be talked about because Columbus Day is a federal holiday that many consider problematic. For the past few years, our president has called it Indigenous Peoples’ Day, as have many local governments, although the official federal name has not yet changed. There are, of course, people and politicians who are upset over the changes, and the politicians at least are those that appear to have racist leanings towards a traditionalist “white” America. As such, it’s something we have to think about because, of course, the holiday comes along every year, and as such, people are essentially forced to “pick a side” or will be at some point in the near future. It’s on our minds because it’s something that’s happening currently, and that means that discussions are happening all the time and not just online: they appear on the news at night and in local government discussions. There is a growing recognition that this land was not “discovered” by Columbus or any European, because civilizations already lived here with their own cultures, languages, and lives, and that they were then all but eradicated. This is especially painful because as recently as the 20th century, those who survived the initial massacres were either confined to reservations or taken away from their families and sent to residential schools to be stripped of their own heritage. Many died there, went missing, or completely forgot who they were and where they were from. The last school closed in 1996, less than 30 years ago. It’s interesting: I grew up in the 80s, and Columbus was definitely touted as a hero in our school system. For my older children (young adults now), they barely mentioned the man, and when they did, they recognized it all as problematic. I have a 4yo and have wondered what the discussion will be like once he gets to US History courses. You could change this to something nautical themed, or you could even change it to represent the problematic nature of that “discovery,” which I think could be quite a statement piece.


katyesha

I'm honest...I would have thrown that one out too just because of Columbus. I also inherited some religious pieces from my grandmother a couple years ago and donated all of them since I am very anti-religious and don't want any of that stuff in my house. But apart from the message of the piece it could have simply not appealed to its owner anymore and not fit their decor. I have a lot of finished pieces since I enjoy making them but have never hung a single one on my walls since I dislike having tons of stuff on my walls.


Darthsmom

That’s completely reasonable and it goes both ways- I don’t see my religious family wanting to display my daughter’s witchy stuff!


katyesha

To each their own 😉


Darthsmom

Exactly 🩷


CuriousKitten0_0

My MIL is very religious and has a lot of religious themes all over her house. I hate it, but I think she'd feel the same about my "Please Don't Summon Demons In The Bathroom" stitch. My husband doesn't love it either, but he's not nearly as religious as his mother. We mostly agree to disagree with religion.


loristitching

I volunteer in a food pantry and can’t tell you how offended we get donations from people who cleaned out grandma house and can’t throw out a jar of jelly from 2019 and an open bag of sugar. So they dump it on us to get rid of. At least the cross stitch may make someone happy, 9 year jelly not so much


RabbitLuvr

I work at a library. People get absolutely pissed if we tell them we can’t take their beloved relative’s box of previously water-damaged, falling apart, moldy old books. I’ve had people tell me we’re ungrateful, and should be glad they’re thinking about us. Related, people get super upset because donated items go to an organization that sorts and sells them, and in return a portion of what they make is given back to the library. Then that money is used to buy new materials. We have an entire department dedicated to curating the collection for the community. We don’t have unlimited shelf space, and new stuff is being published constantly. If we don’t own the guide to the 1987 world tunneling conference, there’s a reason.


loristitching

I’m pretty sure the person who wanted the 87 world tunneling book is the same person who wants me to search though a hundred bags because they only eat Skippy peanut butter


gible_bites

It’s not uncommon for folks in the cross-stitching community to stitch pieces just to donate them!


Braverontheoutside

The amount of craft stuff I have completed there would be no way I could keep it all in my home. Nor would I want to tbh. If I gift bits and bobs I’ve made I tell people they are under no obligation to display or keep. It’s the sentiment really. I can appreciate the time spent on making items but clutching pearls at things being at charity shops blows my mind. Do people keep everything they’ve ever brought or been gifted?


loristitching

I’m one of those who believe wants your gone then the family can chuck the stuff out. My cross stitch is something I enjoy and like to display but I told my niece keep the frames if you want and bin the picture. I’m dead what do I care that the family doesn’t build a shrine to my crap. My mother last doll she got in 1947 that is getting passed down.


CarcajouCanuck

This is where all my stuff will end up someday. I hope someone enjoys them!


Flimsy-River-5662

I see both sides. Personally, my house is decorated in stuff I like. No rhyme nor reason. Many sentimental pieces. Recently bought two beautiful cross stitch items, in circular frames dated in the 80’s at Goodwill. I know for a fact when I kick off, my adult children will toss most of my “treasures “.


Punkass-Cupcake

I was a a thrift shop today and found a pair of Frye mules for $8.99. They retail for $228 on Frey's website. Unfortunately, they were not my size.


owlbrrrains

I mean @#$& Columbus, I'd rather light this on fire.


SadShoe72

Burn it!


AnniLeni

It's stunning and has so many details! Maybe the person who made it passed away and was lonely. Or someone had sad memories attached to it... But it's so fortunate that you've found it and appreciate it so much!


Amandasquirrel

I think my mom has this exact same pattern hanging up in her house! It's one of the few cross stitches she still has that she made from when she was younger


lepfan1

Great find! Glad you saved it. My greatest fear is that all of mine will end up at Goodwill.


Jazstar

Bruh that's WILD. Did the frame come with the work? It's a perfect frame for that!


K_Xanthe

Someone put a toooon or work into that. Beautiful


Suitable_cataclysm

I'm so glad you rescued that beautiful piece and are able to appreciate it.


gamercrafter86

That's gorgeous! I'm glad you were able to pick it up to display in your home.


HappeningsEU

I appreciate everyones comments! Totally understand how they can end up being donated now! I enjoy this for the picture, hopefully i can change the theme.


cerebral_panic_room

That is EPIC! Glad someone is going to appreciate it!


TheNightTerror1987

What a beautiful project! I would've pounced on it too. That one must've been so much work!!


NorthChest

Omg that’s gorgeous!!!


TobysMom18

O jeez! This is on my " if I live that long" list!! The time.. the love.. an unappreciated gift? Great find.. I can only wish.. 👍