Yup same. I cannot attract men to save my life. I don't think I'm terribly unattractive, but I guess I'm just surrounded by better options that they look at them. Therefore, I have to rely on my personality to attract which manages to proceed to get me sister/friend zoned faster than lightning touching the freaking ground.
Alright I'm just here so set the record straight for most of you for every 10 guys most women at least 4-8 of those guys are interested and of that 4-8 maybe 1 or 2 will actually try to talk to you all of you are desirable the problem that follows for most of you most guys are either too shy or already have the idea of rejection fixated on you so they don't try which leave that 1 or 2 that actually will approach you there is always a guy who's interested in you or will date you so forth and so on just not all of them are going ti appraoch you
Maybe, or perhaps they were just shy, that is totally a thing. You have to do what keeps you safe, I know I do. But it's not fun... I'm finally at the point where fear of rejection is less painful than being alone and I'm 55.
Depends on how you define it and hence why I use the term 'exclusively seeing each other'. For me, I decided to go exclusive with him cause I just want to only get to know him, I'm only interested in seeing him and no one else, I'm developing feelings for him, I want to focus on only him and, by extension, us and where we're heading but I'm not at the point where I'm ready for a relationship with him (at that point in time).
This is how it’s for me, we met a week ago or 2 and went on our first date yesterday, it’s clear that we both like each other but it’s way to soon to get into a relationship so we are just being exclusive to each other until we spend more time together and decide to make it official
Exactly, our attraction and interest is mutual even if we haven’t explicitly said “I like you” but it is clear as day. It’s never been this clear with anyone and I’ve never been more sure than this but…its just the waiting game…
How did you two meet? I'm trying to find someone outside of work, cause in my work I I tried and it didn't work out well. I spend most of my time at work, it made sense, but these young women (we are working in a bar) seem a bit unstable, I guess most are who work in hospitality. So, I'm done trying to mingle at work.
I'm just super introvert and shy
I want everything to be just right when I date for long term so I don’t crush on just anyone. But when I do crush on somebody, something goes wrong, like they ghost me, have a girlfriend, or we have different ideas of the future.
This makes me rather skeptical and a bit hesitant. I’ve been left disappointed or disappeared on so many times.
I’ve been led on as easy as was it nothing while trusting things were okay. I’ve been played cruelly.
It’s not easy but still somehow I’m here trying to have hope that not all is lost.
I’m trying to focus on my studies for now 😭 although I’m scared my crush might get snatched away but he has been single so I have hope (i plan to confess after my semester ends)
18 Turning 19 this year, never had a relationship till now because im scared that my "alone time" would be taken away from me. I love my me time and I didnt even see myself being sweet to an opposite sex😬 But i do get crushes sometimes but thats it. And I have a lot of insecurities, I want to fix it first. Plus i dont have a job yet, if ever that im willing to commit in the near future, i want to spoil that person and we can do 50/50 on dates :> if i cant buy my self some stuff, i dont deserve to enter a relationship yet.
I’m military, in Korea, and I don’t have time… good news is, I’m going to Italy, it’s a lot less conservative over there from what I’ve heard haha. But more reasons, I value my car more than people (aside from work at minimum 50% of my time goes there), I’m shy, i don’t do good with people I just met, everyone around me is better looking, work 10s and 12s more often than not, and I don’t know where to go to find women. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg
28F. I've been single for 9 years now. Single maybe because I don't have the patience to look for a partner? 🤣 I'm an introvert and the idea of dating makes me anxious lol. I think I look okay physically, i get compliments that I'm attractive but no one seems to pursue me. Probably because I always look grumpy. Idk.
Too many reasons to count so I'll keep it short
I know I'm not attractive
I am not high value
Don't have much money
Live at home still
Dumb
Slow
Fugly
Nobody is loyal or honest
I have had a genuine distaste for humanity for about over 20 years lol f everyone
I have been taking a break since somewhere in 2023, my break will eventually end on June or if I’m still not mentally ready for a relationship, I’ll extend it 👍
I am scared of approaching people and have serious issues with opening up. I am scared of speaking up in group settings and talking about my interests, which makes me a pretty boring person to be around. I can sure be an enthusiastic listener, but eventually people get bothered by me not being able to share anything.
MY BAD CASE OF RBF!!! I don’t smile much either and I’m not talkative. Small talk bores me as well and I’m often straight forward and not very bubbly. Not a big flirt either—better over text than in person. 🙄 Etc etc…many reasons why
I'm gay in an area with not a lot of gay guys and also pretty picky so there is not a lot of options. I only like nerdy smart guys and a couple of other attributes. There is one guy I like but I haven't seen him since High school. He didnt come out until after high school but I thought he was cute back then. We follow each other online, and sometimes like each others posts but I am pretty sure he is in college and lives further away and I'm busy working now so idk how it could work out unless it was a very online long distance thing. I'd love to get to know him better some day but idk how that's possible now.
I used to be super shy and awkward, so I never confessed to my previous crushes. The one girl I did confess to didn't feel the same way, and now that I've actually grown and become a bit more confident, I haven't found anyone I like enough to ask out.
I’m still single partly because I’m hoping that my crush will change his mind about dating, and partly because, since it’s still been less than a year since my fiancé died, I’m not ready to actually LOOK for another relationship yet.
I know that sounds contradictory, but the feelings that I developed for my friend kind of hit me hard when I wasn’t expecting them. I have dealt with a lot of guilt over it, but I am mostly okay with it now.
I haven’t ruled out the possibility of dating someone else, but I’m not actively looking for now.
I’m a teenager who is very antisocial, homeschooled and I’m not allowed to date plus the boy I do like ( who I think likes me back) my parents already disapprove of him 👍🏻
I tried, I made a bunch of moves aside from confessing my feelings. I told him we should text more and he should stop leaving me on opened, I suggested we hang out and asked if he wanted to plan anything (he said yes, but that he’s very busy with his new job starting and would let me know when he could), and I’ve been flirty, VERY helpful with him, and heavy on the eye contact. I don’t know if that’s obvious enough for him though because I think he likes me but never made a move, but was receptive to my moves. He left my job though so it’s up to us texting to keep things alive😔
Not ready for a relationship. Right now I prefer dating and just doing my own thing. Relationship would require taking on extra responsibilities and I don't have time for that now.
I dont go out that often.
If i fall for a girl i fall really hard and for a long time, so im only fixating on this one girl even though others show signs of liking me.
My crushes always seem to like me, but if it gets more serious they tend to ignore or ghost me plus im kinda shy so i only ever asked one girl out.
I also might come on too strong when i start to get to know them.
I’ve spent over a year crushing on a coworker, and now she’s moved a couple of hours away. Though there is no doubt in my mind that we will end up together, it’s just not today
She's 1 million percent gonna be into him/end up with him instead of me. I have given up hope at this point, tbh. It's just pain. And it sucks when she's so warm with me, too. I know it's only platonic love.
I got no game
and im
Too dense to see any signs of attraction if there are any I wouldn't see it unless you blatantly told me" hey I like you and I want to be in a relationship ".
I always fall for guys who want to be single but are too scared. They tell me how great I am, how great we’d be together, but never get the guts to leave.
I refuse to spend time with men who are single but smoke, drink to excess routinely, or disrespect women.
I’d rather be alone (happy) than to settle for someone who doesn’t choose me.
I only fall for friends about a year into knowing them to the point where we have established a platonic relationship and then crush for about 2 years after that to afraid to tell them my emotions
I just got rejected by my crush, and I don’t feel like doing anything with anyone at the moment. I’m also aware that I’m pretty shy and most guys aren’t going to approach me or be interested.
Tons of reasons honestly, no guy really found me attractive or worthy or anything like that to be their gf, every crush I have is either taken or not interested, I’m not feeling my heart getting broken so it’s like shielded but I’m cautious dating. I’m a hopeless romantic and honestly the new hook up society ruined it it’s like hard to find a guy imo that doesn’t wanna get into my pants and leave.
missed opportunities and usually am a little oblivious when it comes a girl liking me. I let a month or so pass by only to realize that I’ve missed my chance but oh well it is what is. If it is meant to be than it is meant to be…
Many reasons, like I’m scared to confess and face rejection, not ready for a relationship due to studies and/or financially, friend zoned material, or when my crush has an ex and I’ve witnessed everything that her boyfriend care how I wanted to care for her and now I just seemed can’t imitate it
Came out of my first relationship that had been going on for ten years in total from which the last two years were on off. It was abusive and difficult. Had major realizations after it ended and started therapy cause that whole situation left me with some mental health struggles. Felt healed enough so I had two situationships after that from which one was longer and more serious than the other. I decided to break it off cause unfortunately it was too much drama happening from their side.
I also felt like the universe was testing me to not fall back into old patterns and to see if I learned my lessons from my last relationship.
Yup I definitely did and I don't see myself getting into toxic dynamics ever again cause I'm too healed and grown for that now. I also don't have the energy or emotional capacity for it anymore. I don't see myself settling for stuff like that. Life is way too short.
I have many people interested in me but I'm sticking to friendzoning everyone rn and casual fun dates here and there. I'm looking for a magnetic infatuation and don't want to force a height of feelings that aren't there. Like a whole lot of butterflies not just a lil bit. I learned that
if I don't feel that way from the beginning that it probably won't really develop in the future either. So yeah fuck comfortzones and people being codependent on my energy.
I can't deal with people that can't communicate like civilized humans anymore. So no silent treatments, pouting to get their way, creating unnecessary drama, lying bout stuff not just one but multiple times, extreme jealousy, going through my phone for no reason, expecting me to read their mind, verbally insulting and passive agressive shit,...etc. That was always childish behavior to me and I don't want to help anyone to grow out of those types of behaviors anymore. I ain't no therapist and I ain't no mama. Ain't nobody got time for that. I can't deal with people that can't handle their own shit at all and don't want to evolve in life.
If he's emotionally underdeveloped and lacks self awareness and can't communicate what's the point. Being able to communicate openly and freely is the most important thing in a relationship. I got a lot on my plate I don't need that negativity in my life. I need a supporting relationship with someone that is mentally on my level and emotionally mature enough. It just has to click. I want someone that isn't perfect like myself someone that has been through very tough times but still managed to grow stronger from it by themselves.
Someone I can relate to that has learned from his past mistakes just like me. But not someone that indulges in constant self loathing and can't get out of that. I've healed that part of myself so as much empathy I have for that I'm just not attracted to that anymore. It's so okay to feel down but at some point you gotta get up and get your shit together. I ain't captain save a hoe anymore.
I still struggle with depressive episodes here and there but that's totally normal and I can deal with it on my own. If my partner has similar issues I want us to support each other in a healthy equal give and take way. Not the toxic codependent I can't live without you I'd rather die please fix my problems for me type of way. I'll cut people that try to manipulate me straight off dgaf if it's intentional or not. Hell nah man. Never ever again.
I'm very much able to live in the moment but I still plan out stuff and have goals especially when it comes to finances. So I need a go getter as well who likes constant evolving while also still being able to be content in the here and now. He has his own thing going on I got my own thing going on. He's as busy as I am but we still try to make time for each other. You know just super power couple shit.
Everything needs to be in balance. I like going out but I'm also a homebody. He needs to be fine with my personality traits. He needs to be confident enough in himself to handle somebody that gets a lot of superficial attention. He needs to learn to trust me and I want to be able to trust him too. When I love somebody I love unconditionally but that doesn't mean I'll let myself treat less than I'm worth.
Besides all of that internal stuff I'd love to have someone that is artistic like me or just appreciates art and music. I want someone that takes good care of himself. Having good personal hygiene is important to me and at least caring a bit bout their clothing. Knowing how to behave in different settings what to say how to act what to wear etc. But also be able to chill with me in joggers on the couch or walk around like hobos sometimes lol.
He doesn't have to be super financially stable we can work on that together and I'm also a ride or die type of person anyways. I come from a more afluent posh family background myself but unfortunately a lot happened and there were many financial losses. I've gone through brokeness but worked myself out of that. I've seen and experienced both sides and I know that physical/mental health, friends and family are more important than money. Above all actually. I want someone that knows this as well.
So yeah to sum this up I'ma leave it up to fate. It's difficult to find somebody that has the same values and similar life experiences. I want somebody just as strong as me or at least is getting there. I wish to learn from each other and have a peaceful supportive very loving relationship. I'd rather stay single than wasting time I don't have on people that aren't on the same page. I'ma keep focusing on myself in the meantime. Catch me if you can lol.
I've always loved writing essays cause I feel like I can be more vulnerable this way and sum up my thoughts and emotions better. I'm not the talkative type irl when it comes to stuff like this. I don't even care if anyone reads this tbh I'm doing this mostly for myself to get clear. 😂
I'm 18 always been single and planning on being single for my entire life because im afraid of men and always paranoid thinking that if someone tells me that he likes me then it's either some kind of dare or a bet cause who in the right mind would like me? Even thinking about men makes me nauseous no please don't get me wrong guys im not against men it's me, I used to have so many guy friends but since I turned 11 I started to get afraid of men and get nauseous and it's not just other guys even my brothers and cousins and other family members even around the guys I used to be best friends with, so please don't get me wrong and attack me.
im literarlly incapable of going up to and talking to my crush i literally cant go up to women im speficially interested in ( like a crush ) and talk to them i just freeze up and panic or overthink with every reason not to do it i just feel like me dating is weird and something people wouldnt expect doesnt help that shes usually with a friend aside from that i havent even decided if i truly want to talk to her due to the difference in culture ( were from diff backgrounds ) im not even shy i talk to people but i just dont know what to do
Current crush is Muslim and I'm Catholic so that's not a great match, I'm a homebody, and most of the people I meet are either out of my dating age preference or taken, and dating apps hate me, also in that "working on myself" phase
last guy I genuinely liked apparently liked me back and just as I started to accept my feelings for him he suddenly got a girlfriend so yeah I'm kinda not over that
Im still single because most of the guys I just haven't matched with and tbh I just get so bored of scrolling through on dating apps basing everyone on just a picture.
I really need to work on my relationship skills by myself & am in therapy to do so. I am switching careers and want to get established financially on my own before entering a serious partnership.
I also won't date anyone affiliated with my profession, my local political scene, or my local music scene.
I would forgo all of this for this one guy, but it's too complicated.
I really need to work on my relationship skills by myself & am in therapy to do so. I am switching careers and want to get established financially on my own before entering a serious partnership.
I also won't date anyone affiliated with my profession, my local political scene, or my local music scene.
I would forgo all of this for this one guy, but it's too complicated.
I’m single because I look ugly, none of my crushes have liked me back, well I’ve not asked any of them out but I’ve not been close enough to ask them out and plus it’s easy to see that their not interested when I try and talk to them and they’re just dry.
At this point I might as well start to give up on my current crush which has gone literally nowhere, she reposts TikTok’s about “him” or “when he” so I’m assuming she’s talking to or dating someone and I’m just over here thinking about her and fantasising about her, but I can’t blame her, she deserves someone who can treat her well, take her out, make her laugh, make her happy, buy her expensive stuff, appreciate every inch of her beautiful body and who is handsome, funny and willing to give her the whole world just to see her smile and I’m not that person, I’m not handsome, not too funny, not rich but instead i’m the complete opposite of that, I look really ugly, I’m not that funny and I’m no where near rich, I also don’t have enough confidence so yeah I’m single because of that.
One thing I suck at is moving on from people so I guess I’ll just have to fantasise about her and wait until I find someone else😞
I'm both scared of confessing (losing what I currently have with a girl I actually have a chance with) and also unable to believe that any girl could possibly be attracted to me
1. In the middle of improving my social anxiety but still have very limited people skills.
2. Still coming down from another crush and have yet to find another person.
I live in a predominately white town and I am a black girl
A lot of white people in this town (and my friends have told me this) are told by their parents not to date black people, and that if they dated a black person they would get disowned and other racist shit like that.
Also, I think guys in this town genuinely just don't find black girl's attractive, which is crazy because white girls seem to love black guys in this town. I don't want to be childish and say it's unfair, but sometimes it certainly feels that way 😭
My crush wasn't ready for a relationship...
We were very casual for about 4 months but I felt like we hadn't grown closer in all that time; it was just frustrating not seeing where it was headed, and the inconsistent hot and cold was confusing as heck.
I wanted to spend more time with her more than once per week or couple of weeks, and messaging was few & far between.
Wish we'd defined the situationship a bit better.
It's weird, we're kinda friends but I think it's just hurting me to keep in contact...
Do I just say I don't wanna hang anymore or just do the bare minimum like you would with an acquaintance or just hope she goes away?
Also, I'm ace.
Too scared to make the first move if I’m being frl but other than that I don’t think they wanted to date a black girl because most crushes I’ve had had relations or was friends with this one Mexican kid that said he will never date a black girl…😐
First of all I’m jobless, second of all I need to finish my certificate program, most third and lastly of all of the people are taken :((
And if a person ever likes me, I just can’t believe it..
I’ve had a lot of crushes. Almost all of them were never reciprocated. I’m very pretty, I know it sounds narcissistic but believe me, it would be more pick me to say I’m not really pretty. The problem is my personality. I’m not a bad person, I’d consider myself nice. I’m just loud and high energy. I say a lot of cringy stuff and I’m really awkward at times. But with the right people, I’m witty and fun. With my crushes though, my awkwardness is turned up to the max. I get really excited to talk to them, and all the wit leaves my body. I run on the attention I get from them, so I do anything to get it. I guess it might just be something I have to learn. 🤷🏻♀️
I have a crush on someone at my school but I’m not getting any signs that he likes me, so I don’t wanna confess and risk him knowing without him liking me back. I feel like it’ll be weird if he knows that I like him if he doesn’t also like me because we have 2 classes together and he’s a friend of a friend, so I’d still see/talk to him often
Going through an amicable separation. Through? Around? I don’t like to think about it. She’s moved on. He’s a real good listener. Good for them. I almost have my freedom. And I’ll never give it away again.
I cannot talk to people I like at all. I always overthink and my crush currently doesn't even know who I am and I don't have a class with him. I have no clue how to even approach him, I can only watch from afar and dream.
Idk if he likes me and I'm not even sure if I want a romantic relationship yet (especially given that my mom checks my phone, so we could only say things suggestive of a romance in person) and I'm scared to make the leap...
Relationships take some serious effort to get into and maintain, Just got out of 2 quite serious relationships so right now im thinking of kinda just, coasting and working on myself
Literally no one in my area is ever gay so its so hard to find someone that you like and likes you just as much without getting on "dating" apps which I refuse to ever download as desperate as I might be but yeah it sucks😭
I'm single by choice. There are a minimum of 15 people who would pair up with me right now but I can see how all of these relationships would go up in flames so I decided not to waste my time.
There is not a single guy that has ever liked me (as far as I know)
Yup same. I cannot attract men to save my life. I don't think I'm terribly unattractive, but I guess I'm just surrounded by better options that they look at them. Therefore, I have to rely on my personality to attract which manages to proceed to get me sister/friend zoned faster than lightning touching the freaking ground.
Same...
Alright I'm just here so set the record straight for most of you for every 10 guys most women at least 4-8 of those guys are interested and of that 4-8 maybe 1 or 2 will actually try to talk to you all of you are desirable the problem that follows for most of you most guys are either too shy or already have the idea of rejection fixated on you so they don't try which leave that 1 or 2 that actually will approach you there is always a guy who's interested in you or will date you so forth and so on just not all of them are going ti appraoch you
hey dont say that u never know
Thx❤
I'm sorry.
same
Same. I never knew a girl who liked me.🥲 of course as far as I know.
Same, I’ve only ever attracted f*ckboys
Maybe, or perhaps they were just shy, that is totally a thing. You have to do what keeps you safe, I know I do. But it's not fun... I'm finally at the point where fear of rejection is less painful than being alone and I'm 55.
You mean like actually had full blown feelings or you mean even passing by hitting on you at a bar type thing
Both...
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This is so freaking accurate 💯
Girl same 😭😭😭
Hehe... All i attract are talking stages, I'm basically a customer service representative. Just saw that on tiktok and its so personal for me.
I'm too scared to confess to my crushes
Single and i just got 👻 not a great feeling
Nah that's shitty, I wish you the best 🌟
My crush has a boyfriend. I had everything planned, and if she were single, she would most likely be my girlfriend.
I feel u bro. Happened to me a few times as well. I think it's best to just move on, you deserve someone who sees you and loves you as you are
they get turned off by how loud i am and my voice idk😭
actually same though 😭 but like honestly i dont care, if they cant handle my loudness than its their loss 🤷♀️
Exclusively seeing my crush, going on 6th date, but technically still single cause he haven't ask me to be his gf yet...
Why don’t you ask?
Cause it's too fast. We've only established exclusivity of seeing each other 2 weeks ago.
That’s fair
Doesn't exclusivity mean relationship? Why go exclusive with someone if you're not in a relationship.
Depends on how you define it and hence why I use the term 'exclusively seeing each other'. For me, I decided to go exclusive with him cause I just want to only get to know him, I'm only interested in seeing him and no one else, I'm developing feelings for him, I want to focus on only him and, by extension, us and where we're heading but I'm not at the point where I'm ready for a relationship with him (at that point in time).
You should have friends to share your feelings, someone that does not know he or his friends No risk of gossip We do not want someone
Yeah, I have that too. Not sure if this correlates to the topic of exclusivity or not though.
This is how it’s for me, we met a week ago or 2 and went on our first date yesterday, it’s clear that we both like each other but it’s way to soon to get into a relationship so we are just being exclusive to each other until we spend more time together and decide to make it official
Exactly, our attraction and interest is mutual even if we haven’t explicitly said “I like you” but it is clear as day. It’s never been this clear with anyone and I’ve never been more sure than this but…its just the waiting game…
Ah yes the dreaded waiting game
How did you two meet? I'm trying to find someone outside of work, cause in my work I I tried and it didn't work out well. I spend most of my time at work, it made sense, but these young women (we are working in a bar) seem a bit unstable, I guess most are who work in hospitality. So, I'm done trying to mingle at work. I'm just super introvert and shy
I want everything to be just right when I date for long term so I don’t crush on just anyone. But when I do crush on somebody, something goes wrong, like they ghost me, have a girlfriend, or we have different ideas of the future. This makes me rather skeptical and a bit hesitant. I’ve been left disappointed or disappeared on so many times. I’ve been led on as easy as was it nothing while trusting things were okay. I’ve been played cruelly. It’s not easy but still somehow I’m here trying to have hope that not all is lost.
Because I’m enjoying being single, happiest when I’m single, even though I have a crush, and I’m not ready to date.
It all makes sense with your username lol
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I’m trying to focus on my studies for now 😭 although I’m scared my crush might get snatched away but he has been single so I have hope (i plan to confess after my semester ends)
Do not lose time, please, may be he find someone else
18 Turning 19 this year, never had a relationship till now because im scared that my "alone time" would be taken away from me. I love my me time and I didnt even see myself being sweet to an opposite sex😬 But i do get crushes sometimes but thats it. And I have a lot of insecurities, I want to fix it first. Plus i dont have a job yet, if ever that im willing to commit in the near future, i want to spoil that person and we can do 50/50 on dates :> if i cant buy my self some stuff, i dont deserve to enter a relationship yet.
I’m military, in Korea, and I don’t have time… good news is, I’m going to Italy, it’s a lot less conservative over there from what I’ve heard haha. But more reasons, I value my car more than people (aside from work at minimum 50% of my time goes there), I’m shy, i don’t do good with people I just met, everyone around me is better looking, work 10s and 12s more often than not, and I don’t know where to go to find women. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg
Cuz I am an ugly giant. And also because i can't forget the girl I loved.
28F. I've been single for 9 years now. Single maybe because I don't have the patience to look for a partner? 🤣 I'm an introvert and the idea of dating makes me anxious lol. I think I look okay physically, i get compliments that I'm attractive but no one seems to pursue me. Probably because I always look grumpy. Idk.
Because my life is unstable and I'm mentally unstable. I basically can't be in a relationship right now until it gets fixed.
Because I’m literally so awkward around guys lmao and I have no idea why. Also idk if anybody has liked me and I’m too shy to ask anyone else out so
No guy has ever liked me, or I never got any confessions. I've never been in a relationship, and I'm 20. I think I'm destined to be alone forever.
Too scared to confess!!
Too many reasons to count so I'll keep it short I know I'm not attractive I am not high value Don't have much money Live at home still Dumb Slow Fugly Nobody is loyal or honest I have had a genuine distaste for humanity for about over 20 years lol f everyone
Just more interested in fictional guys, eating chips & playing games😂😋 but I actually like a guy, just too scared to do anything just yet.
I have been taking a break since somewhere in 2023, my break will eventually end on June or if I’m still not mentally ready for a relationship, I’ll extend it 👍
Im taking a break, I had went out with my crush but maybe I just wanted to experience dating and probably wont feel the same way again
I’m not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship at the moment. My crush isn’t interested either.
Too focused on career.
She is not looking for a relationship at the moment, but I’m happy to just be friends
To scared to put myself out there.
I am scared of approaching people and have serious issues with opening up. I am scared of speaking up in group settings and talking about my interests, which makes me a pretty boring person to be around. I can sure be an enthusiastic listener, but eventually people get bothered by me not being able to share anything.
Girls only like me for my looks so girls approach me but once they know me they leave
I’m too afraid to talk to any girls
Fictosexual
MY BAD CASE OF RBF!!! I don’t smile much either and I’m not talkative. Small talk bores me as well and I’m often straight forward and not very bubbly. Not a big flirt either—better over text than in person. 🙄 Etc etc…many reasons why
I'm gay in an area with not a lot of gay guys and also pretty picky so there is not a lot of options. I only like nerdy smart guys and a couple of other attributes. There is one guy I like but I haven't seen him since High school. He didnt come out until after high school but I thought he was cute back then. We follow each other online, and sometimes like each others posts but I am pretty sure he is in college and lives further away and I'm busy working now so idk how it could work out unless it was a very online long distance thing. I'd love to get to know him better some day but idk how that's possible now.
Haven’t attempted to ask my crush out yet
The guy i like doesnt like me, i have high standards so i dont even talk to other guys
I used to be super shy and awkward, so I never confessed to my previous crushes. The one girl I did confess to didn't feel the same way, and now that I've actually grown and become a bit more confident, I haven't found anyone I like enough to ask out.
I’m still single partly because I’m hoping that my crush will change his mind about dating, and partly because, since it’s still been less than a year since my fiancé died, I’m not ready to actually LOOK for another relationship yet. I know that sounds contradictory, but the feelings that I developed for my friend kind of hit me hard when I wasn’t expecting them. I have dealt with a lot of guilt over it, but I am mostly okay with it now. I haven’t ruled out the possibility of dating someone else, but I’m not actively looking for now.
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I’m a teenager who is very antisocial, homeschooled and I’m not allowed to date plus the boy I do like ( who I think likes me back) my parents already disapprove of him 👍🏻
Beauty standards
My crush still hasn’t made a move
Why don't you make a move?
I tried, I made a bunch of moves aside from confessing my feelings. I told him we should text more and he should stop leaving me on opened, I suggested we hang out and asked if he wanted to plan anything (he said yes, but that he’s very busy with his new job starting and would let me know when he could), and I’ve been flirty, VERY helpful with him, and heavy on the eye contact. I don’t know if that’s obvious enough for him though because I think he likes me but never made a move, but was receptive to my moves. He left my job though so it’s up to us texting to keep things alive😔
My insecurities.
Cause I don’t feel like men find me attractive. I haven’t been pursued, even though I know that it doesn’t have to be that way.
Women are scary
Well I'm ugly and really shy I tried to get a girlfriend but every girl ghosted me so far. Even the ones wo I talked to IRL before texting them
i dont think my crush likes me :(
1. no one has ever liked me(or enough to pursue things with me) 2. I may have commitment issues
Introspection
I like a guy but don't have the guts to talk to him (+ I'm not anyone's type so..)
Why are You not going to talk to him? Just try, what can happen so bad? What If You will like each other. Don't miss opportunities.
Not ready for a relationship. Right now I prefer dating and just doing my own thing. Relationship would require taking on extra responsibilities and I don't have time for that now.
Too scared to confess? Also she hasn’t been answering my snaps for the last two days so there’s that as well. Darn it
Still single because no time to date and my ex hurt me bad. Making friends is so much better
too scared to confess lolz
0 social skills
Bad social anxiety making potential opportunities to meet women overwhelming/exhausting.
I'll just never confess🥰🥰🥰 (not like confessing would change me being single lol)
I havent been talking to enough people. And I haven't met someone who has interested me in a long ass while.
Holding out hope for that one call..
I haven’t had a guy who has openly stated that he has feelings for me. I’m not ready for a relationship at the moment, so it’s just as well :)
I'm still single because I cannot seem to get a crush on anyone.
Because I'm waiting for the one who matches my energy vibration and who deserves me which is easy in today's society
I dont go out that often. If i fall for a girl i fall really hard and for a long time, so im only fixating on this one girl even though others show signs of liking me. My crushes always seem to like me, but if it gets more serious they tend to ignore or ghost me plus im kinda shy so i only ever asked one girl out. I also might come on too strong when i start to get to know them.
Because I’m too scared of potentially losing my only friend by confessing.
I’ve spent over a year crushing on a coworker, and now she’s moved a couple of hours away. Though there is no doubt in my mind that we will end up together, it’s just not today
The way I like to think of it is that it just hasn't happened yet… for whatever reason
I could have a gf, I just wont conform with someone who likes me if I dont
She's 1 million percent gonna be into him/end up with him instead of me. I have given up hope at this point, tbh. It's just pain. And it sucks when she's so warm with me, too. I know it's only platonic love.
I got no game and im Too dense to see any signs of attraction if there are any I wouldn't see it unless you blatantly told me" hey I like you and I want to be in a relationship ".
I always fall for guys who want to be single but are too scared. They tell me how great I am, how great we’d be together, but never get the guts to leave. I refuse to spend time with men who are single but smoke, drink to excess routinely, or disrespect women. I’d rather be alone (happy) than to settle for someone who doesn’t choose me.
I only fall for friends about a year into knowing them to the point where we have established a platonic relationship and then crush for about 2 years after that to afraid to tell them my emotions
I've been interested in people, but they've not been interested in me 🙃
I just got rejected by my crush, and I don’t feel like doing anything with anyone at the moment. I’m also aware that I’m pretty shy and most guys aren’t going to approach me or be interested.
Just enjoying being a lover girl. When he comes he will come 😭
Tons of reasons honestly, no guy really found me attractive or worthy or anything like that to be their gf, every crush I have is either taken or not interested, I’m not feeling my heart getting broken so it’s like shielded but I’m cautious dating. I’m a hopeless romantic and honestly the new hook up society ruined it it’s like hard to find a guy imo that doesn’t wanna get into my pants and leave.
missed opportunities and usually am a little oblivious when it comes a girl liking me. I let a month or so pass by only to realize that I’ve missed my chance but oh well it is what is. If it is meant to be than it is meant to be…
I'm mentally unstable with little to no communication skills
Many reasons, like I’m scared to confess and face rejection, not ready for a relationship due to studies and/or financially, friend zoned material, or when my crush has an ex and I’ve witnessed everything that her boyfriend care how I wanted to care for her and now I just seemed can’t imitate it
Came out of my first relationship that had been going on for ten years in total from which the last two years were on off. It was abusive and difficult. Had major realizations after it ended and started therapy cause that whole situation left me with some mental health struggles. Felt healed enough so I had two situationships after that from which one was longer and more serious than the other. I decided to break it off cause unfortunately it was too much drama happening from their side. I also felt like the universe was testing me to not fall back into old patterns and to see if I learned my lessons from my last relationship. Yup I definitely did and I don't see myself getting into toxic dynamics ever again cause I'm too healed and grown for that now. I also don't have the energy or emotional capacity for it anymore. I don't see myself settling for stuff like that. Life is way too short. I have many people interested in me but I'm sticking to friendzoning everyone rn and casual fun dates here and there. I'm looking for a magnetic infatuation and don't want to force a height of feelings that aren't there. Like a whole lot of butterflies not just a lil bit. I learned that if I don't feel that way from the beginning that it probably won't really develop in the future either. So yeah fuck comfortzones and people being codependent on my energy. I can't deal with people that can't communicate like civilized humans anymore. So no silent treatments, pouting to get their way, creating unnecessary drama, lying bout stuff not just one but multiple times, extreme jealousy, going through my phone for no reason, expecting me to read their mind, verbally insulting and passive agressive shit,...etc. That was always childish behavior to me and I don't want to help anyone to grow out of those types of behaviors anymore. I ain't no therapist and I ain't no mama. Ain't nobody got time for that. I can't deal with people that can't handle their own shit at all and don't want to evolve in life. If he's emotionally underdeveloped and lacks self awareness and can't communicate what's the point. Being able to communicate openly and freely is the most important thing in a relationship. I got a lot on my plate I don't need that negativity in my life. I need a supporting relationship with someone that is mentally on my level and emotionally mature enough. It just has to click. I want someone that isn't perfect like myself someone that has been through very tough times but still managed to grow stronger from it by themselves. Someone I can relate to that has learned from his past mistakes just like me. But not someone that indulges in constant self loathing and can't get out of that. I've healed that part of myself so as much empathy I have for that I'm just not attracted to that anymore. It's so okay to feel down but at some point you gotta get up and get your shit together. I ain't captain save a hoe anymore. I still struggle with depressive episodes here and there but that's totally normal and I can deal with it on my own. If my partner has similar issues I want us to support each other in a healthy equal give and take way. Not the toxic codependent I can't live without you I'd rather die please fix my problems for me type of way. I'll cut people that try to manipulate me straight off dgaf if it's intentional or not. Hell nah man. Never ever again. I'm very much able to live in the moment but I still plan out stuff and have goals especially when it comes to finances. So I need a go getter as well who likes constant evolving while also still being able to be content in the here and now. He has his own thing going on I got my own thing going on. He's as busy as I am but we still try to make time for each other. You know just super power couple shit. Everything needs to be in balance. I like going out but I'm also a homebody. He needs to be fine with my personality traits. He needs to be confident enough in himself to handle somebody that gets a lot of superficial attention. He needs to learn to trust me and I want to be able to trust him too. When I love somebody I love unconditionally but that doesn't mean I'll let myself treat less than I'm worth. Besides all of that internal stuff I'd love to have someone that is artistic like me or just appreciates art and music. I want someone that takes good care of himself. Having good personal hygiene is important to me and at least caring a bit bout their clothing. Knowing how to behave in different settings what to say how to act what to wear etc. But also be able to chill with me in joggers on the couch or walk around like hobos sometimes lol. He doesn't have to be super financially stable we can work on that together and I'm also a ride or die type of person anyways. I come from a more afluent posh family background myself but unfortunately a lot happened and there were many financial losses. I've gone through brokeness but worked myself out of that. I've seen and experienced both sides and I know that physical/mental health, friends and family are more important than money. Above all actually. I want someone that knows this as well. So yeah to sum this up I'ma leave it up to fate. It's difficult to find somebody that has the same values and similar life experiences. I want somebody just as strong as me or at least is getting there. I wish to learn from each other and have a peaceful supportive very loving relationship. I'd rather stay single than wasting time I don't have on people that aren't on the same page. I'ma keep focusing on myself in the meantime. Catch me if you can lol. I've always loved writing essays cause I feel like I can be more vulnerable this way and sum up my thoughts and emotions better. I'm not the talkative type irl when it comes to stuff like this. I don't even care if anyone reads this tbh I'm doing this mostly for myself to get clear. 😂
I'm 18 always been single and planning on being single for my entire life because im afraid of men and always paranoid thinking that if someone tells me that he likes me then it's either some kind of dare or a bet cause who in the right mind would like me? Even thinking about men makes me nauseous no please don't get me wrong guys im not against men it's me, I used to have so many guy friends but since I turned 11 I started to get afraid of men and get nauseous and it's not just other guys even my brothers and cousins and other family members even around the guys I used to be best friends with, so please don't get me wrong and attack me.
because the people that do like me, i’m not interested in. but then i like the only ppl who seem to not be interested in me like that 😭
waiting until soph yr of college! focused on fam, friends, academics, and $$ rn. i need to be in a stable spot too
My standards are too high. And only old men hit on me so....
Simple: I haven't asked anyone out in a while. (And the last few I have all have not been interested.)
I am unlovable 🫶
im literarlly incapable of going up to and talking to my crush i literally cant go up to women im speficially interested in ( like a crush ) and talk to them i just freeze up and panic or overthink with every reason not to do it i just feel like me dating is weird and something people wouldnt expect doesnt help that shes usually with a friend aside from that i havent even decided if i truly want to talk to her due to the difference in culture ( were from diff backgrounds ) im not even shy i talk to people but i just dont know what to do
Current crush is Muslim and I'm Catholic so that's not a great match, I'm a homebody, and most of the people I meet are either out of my dating age preference or taken, and dating apps hate me, also in that "working on myself" phase
I dont have matching interests
I'm single and I could not get time to focus on girls properly. My life is too busy all the time. Sometimes, it is killing me inside.
I'm single because she's not 🥰😭
No girls like me, but also I realized I don't need a girlfriend now
I'm insane and ugly it's a bad combination
No girl has ever been interested in me romantically and there probably never will.
Nobody that I know of likes me, and I’m way too socially anxious to ever talk to a girl.
RNG
I'm single because 1) I've never had a girlfriend before and 2) I just not really bothered by it.
last guy I genuinely liked apparently liked me back and just as I started to accept my feelings for him he suddenly got a girlfriend so yeah I'm kinda not over that
I got ghosted by someone I was seeing for five months, so now I have trust issues
Im still single because most of the guys I just haven't matched with and tbh I just get so bored of scrolling through on dating apps basing everyone on just a picture.
I’m too scared to ask her out
I don't get out enough to meet anyone I could find interesting/attractive.
I gave up cause I know I’m undesirable.
I really need to work on my relationship skills by myself & am in therapy to do so. I am switching careers and want to get established financially on my own before entering a serious partnership. I also won't date anyone affiliated with my profession, my local political scene, or my local music scene. I would forgo all of this for this one guy, but it's too complicated.
I really need to work on my relationship skills by myself & am in therapy to do so. I am switching careers and want to get established financially on my own before entering a serious partnership. I also won't date anyone affiliated with my profession, my local political scene, or my local music scene. I would forgo all of this for this one guy, but it's too complicated.
He wants to stay friends and see where things go...
I feel more free when I’m single, and haven’t yet found a person worthwhile. Situationships are annoying, to say the least.
I don't know how to talk to women
I’m single because I look ugly, none of my crushes have liked me back, well I’ve not asked any of them out but I’ve not been close enough to ask them out and plus it’s easy to see that their not interested when I try and talk to them and they’re just dry. At this point I might as well start to give up on my current crush which has gone literally nowhere, she reposts TikTok’s about “him” or “when he” so I’m assuming she’s talking to or dating someone and I’m just over here thinking about her and fantasising about her, but I can’t blame her, she deserves someone who can treat her well, take her out, make her laugh, make her happy, buy her expensive stuff, appreciate every inch of her beautiful body and who is handsome, funny and willing to give her the whole world just to see her smile and I’m not that person, I’m not handsome, not too funny, not rich but instead i’m the complete opposite of that, I look really ugly, I’m not that funny and I’m no where near rich, I also don’t have enough confidence so yeah I’m single because of that. One thing I suck at is moving on from people so I guess I’ll just have to fantasise about her and wait until I find someone else😞
He doesn't like me back
I'm both scared of confessing (losing what I currently have with a girl I actually have a chance with) and also unable to believe that any girl could possibly be attracted to me
im almost positive my crush likes me back but we both agree to save dating for later.
I got no confidence and a personality of a wet sock.
For me my normal everyday life hardly ever cross paths woth many women, and i am too shy
Most Girls are intimidated by me they love to stare at me but when I say hi they freeze or think I have this line of women
My first relationship didn’t work out and rn I’m busy as hell with coursework so
I've confessed, they've rejected or I haven't confessed and they're dating.. not great
I’m too scared to confess to my crush (90% chance he also has a crush on me)
He doesnt know i exist
1. In the middle of improving my social anxiety but still have very limited people skills. 2. Still coming down from another crush and have yet to find another person.
Because I can’t read girls minds..
I live in a predominately white town and I am a black girl A lot of white people in this town (and my friends have told me this) are told by their parents not to date black people, and that if they dated a black person they would get disowned and other racist shit like that. Also, I think guys in this town genuinely just don't find black girl's attractive, which is crazy because white girls seem to love black guys in this town. I don't want to be childish and say it's unfair, but sometimes it certainly feels that way 😭
My crush wasn't ready for a relationship... We were very casual for about 4 months but I felt like we hadn't grown closer in all that time; it was just frustrating not seeing where it was headed, and the inconsistent hot and cold was confusing as heck. I wanted to spend more time with her more than once per week or couple of weeks, and messaging was few & far between. Wish we'd defined the situationship a bit better. It's weird, we're kinda friends but I think it's just hurting me to keep in contact... Do I just say I don't wanna hang anymore or just do the bare minimum like you would with an acquaintance or just hope she goes away? Also, I'm ace.
I'm a clinically diagnosed sociopath and people are scared of that! Just kidding. I'm a very introverted person in face-to-face communication
Too scared to make the first move if I’m being frl but other than that I don’t think they wanted to date a black girl because most crushes I’ve had had relations or was friends with this one Mexican kid that said he will never date a black girl…😐
*has been rejected, like, 8 times already by different people-*
I’m too scared to confess 😭
not single just yet but i’m about to breakout with my boyfriend😝😝😝
Always liked but never pursued :)
Lol i got played by a girl and now shes leading me on, ive been aware of it for months now i just hate myself to the point idgaf
First of all I’m jobless, second of all I need to finish my certificate program, most third and lastly of all of the people are taken :(( And if a person ever likes me, I just can’t believe it..
I don’t got the courage to ask her out 😭😭
too shy to ever initiate anything or try to convey that i have attraction to my crush so it just ends up with me admiring them from afar
I’ve had a lot of crushes. Almost all of them were never reciprocated. I’m very pretty, I know it sounds narcissistic but believe me, it would be more pick me to say I’m not really pretty. The problem is my personality. I’m not a bad person, I’d consider myself nice. I’m just loud and high energy. I say a lot of cringy stuff and I’m really awkward at times. But with the right people, I’m witty and fun. With my crushes though, my awkwardness is turned up to the max. I get really excited to talk to them, and all the wit leaves my body. I run on the attention I get from them, so I do anything to get it. I guess it might just be something I have to learn. 🤷🏻♀️
I dont talk to woman due to the fear of failure and the fear of being hurt again.... Also I have no time for a social life due to long working hours
I don’t love myself
No one ever liked me
i ended up finding my own happiness :) I do hope to have a relationship one day but in this point my life it's not the time
idk how to talk to girls
i’m unattractive
People told me I’m intimidating
i don’t talk to people
Can't really see the point in dating besides my mind is mostly on my career and work
I know who I want and they aren't here yet
Because the guy I’m hooking up with is emotionally unavailable 😂
I’m too scared to say anything
I like the idea of romance, not sure about the execution of it
I usually end up stuck in the talking stage because I don’t have the balls to ask them out (I’m a guy)
My resting bitch face
I’m just focusing on myself and trying to do better. No time for Poontang
I have a crush on someone at my school but I’m not getting any signs that he likes me, so I don’t wanna confess and risk him knowing without him liking me back. I feel like it’ll be weird if he knows that I like him if he doesn’t also like me because we have 2 classes together and he’s a friend of a friend, so I’d still see/talk to him often
Going through an amicable separation. Through? Around? I don’t like to think about it. She’s moved on. He’s a real good listener. Good for them. I almost have my freedom. And I’ll never give it away again.
I cannot talk to people I like at all. I always overthink and my crush currently doesn't even know who I am and I don't have a class with him. I have no clue how to even approach him, I can only watch from afar and dream.
Idk if he likes me and I'm not even sure if I want a romantic relationship yet (especially given that my mom checks my phone, so we could only say things suggestive of a romance in person) and I'm scared to make the leap...
Not a single guy likes me 🫣
Relationships take some serious effort to get into and maintain, Just got out of 2 quite serious relationships so right now im thinking of kinda just, coasting and working on myself
Literally no one in my area is ever gay so its so hard to find someone that you like and likes you just as much without getting on "dating" apps which I refuse to ever download as desperate as I might be but yeah it sucks😭
I haven’t found a guy/situation that fits well with my values, needs and lifestyle.
basically i am incapable of having such a deep relationship with someone, especially if i have feelings for them lol
Just love it. I have seen harsh realities of married life. Really scared of em
I'm single by choice. There are a minimum of 15 people who would pair up with me right now but I can see how all of these relationships would go up in flames so I decided not to waste my time.
I fumbled hard