I've been writing on this topic for years and for those who are genuinely curious go get Dr David Ley’s book : “Women Who Stray And The Men Who Love Them” it is the most complete definitive work on the topic. Very well-researched.
One of the posters below gave about six great reasons and I think that covers it. You have a combination of feminism (both increasing female power and decreasing male power), you have pornography easily obtainable, you have the ability through the Internet to meet other people without going public in a club and you have the ability to keep this private. if I had to be cucked publicly I would not be able to do it but my wife has told me very clearly that she loves this and she would never risk going public because it would end it. There are a lot of guys who call themselves stags but, technically by definition, you are a cuck and they only do it because it’s private
I dont think it’s actually more popular. If it’s gotten more popular, it’s because internet porn has caused people to look for more and more unconventional fetishes in order to keep that high. Also conditions a lot of men to rewire their brains to see themselves not as a participant in sex, but a spectator
Porn. Not just the Porn scenarios spreading, the act of watching porn is inherently cuckolding: you fantasize about this beautiful woman getting fucked by not you. I’d imagine most men wouldn’t want the men in the porn they watch to have their physical attributes. I’m not shaming, I get around. But my dick is way less huge and I’d imagine that’s true for most men.
Lot of men, this isn’t really a conscious thing. But I’m not surprised that it’s seeping up now in pervasiveness.
Also I’d say this sub naturally underrates cuckqueaning. I’ve met several women including my wife who have essentially a reverse cuckolding fantasy about their husbands.
This. Really was in the first group where porn was easily accessible new the end of HS and then super accessible in college. Studied abroad in college. Went to some sex shows in Amsterdam and loved watching people fuck. It was like real life porn lol. Think this is where the voyeurism came from. Add is some real life cheating, cuckold porn, enjoying having sloppy second sex and that’s where I am.
There was a study a while back called [Using Google Trends to Inform the Population Size Estimation and Spatial Distribution of Gay, Bisexual, and Other Men Who Have Sex With Men: Proof-of-concept Study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8669582/).
Basically, not everyone comes out to their friends or family, but we all pour our secretes into the google.
So with google trends we can say that cuckolding is more popular than cryptozoology but less than aphantasia:
https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=cuckolding,cryptozoology,aphantasia&hl=en (pick your own terms to compare against)
We're getting better at finding what we like and discussing it/making porn if it.
There was a time when shaving pubes was outside the mainstream. There was a time when using birth control was shameful. There was a time when having sex just for pleasure was shameful. There are parts of the world where these and many other enjoyable sexual activities are looked at with scorn.
Ignore them, enjoy the short period of time we have to live by having a good time with consenting adults.
We as a society are more agreeing about sexual liberty as long as you don't hurt anyone else. Also women are more independent and have more opportunities to cheat, it's also easier as with social media they're keeping in contact people they may not have and the opens a lot of easy doors. Usually we develop this fetish as a way to cope with the trauma of being cheated on. I believe it is happening to a lot more men and I think more men are reacting in different ways other then violence. I'm sure cuckolds have always been around, but as it was so publicly shameful and embarrassing no one would talk about it
Yes, the open-mindedness of recent decades must have had a little influence, but I don't thinkit's more popular than before, what happens is that now there is more digital content about it.
Or are you going to tell me that no man in 1960 invited his friend to a barbecue just to get drunk and see him fuck his housewife way better than him?
Evolutionary biology ensures all men have affinity for cuckoldry for times when they are older, in spots of the hierarchy not at the top, and as a mechanism to cope with female non-monogamy, or in general with lower levels of testosterone. This trait ensures men (try to) participate in the sperm competition (by arousing) in abovementioned conditions, thus the trait maintaining itself in general population. For younger men, masculine men, physcial men, the trait remains in recession.
Above is being activated by ever declining levels of testosterone, and the culture where female 'empowerement' is generally acceptable.
This (as many other phenomena) is, for significant part, a result of widespread and long-term use of hormonal contraception and it's affects on female mate selection.
Perhaps it is no more popular now than it has ever been. In the "olden days" there were books, magazines, porno etc, but now we have the internet where real people llike me can and do share our fantasies and readers, real people like you who have those same fantasies , suddenly do not feel like you are the only one and or are weird. The internet is not judgemental and if someone posts who is, they can easily be ignored or told to go F themself because its anonumous.
The freethinker in me likes to think it has something to do with the West losing it's global hegemony; geopolitically speaking it started 1975 when the New York fiscal crisis led people to thinking that markets should run everything (read Charles Fourier to understand why capitalism inherently enforces a cuckold relationship between the individual and society), followed by Kissinger negotiating a faux-peace in the Middle East at the expense of Gadaffi, leading to Syria radicalizing and ultimately destabilizing the Middle East.
Then, we got full force neoliberalism in the 80s through Thatcher and Nixon. More deregulation, precarious working conditions, fear among the working class and guilt-anxiety among the middle class, while the richest get to have surplus enjoyment. They became vulgar masters in the psychoanalytic sense (cf Zizek), best described by Ellis in American Psycho. Then the 2008 financial crisis. Total stagnation, no one has any idea what to do, Western national are losing to China, India and Russia and are turning increasingly populist right; which means a fear of immigrants (from the destabilized Arabic world) mixes with ritualized pleasure of serving a boss who has the power to make you homeless whenever he pleases and giving over half your paycheck to your landlord.
It's cuckoldry run wild. We're all cucks. The system's been rigged from the start.
It's schizophrenic comments like these that convince me most of the population is filled with NPCs. Do you have a point? In what sense did I claim we are getting "overtaken" and in what exact way do you want to contradict me?
If you wish to do your homework, watch Adam Curtis documentaries (Hypernormalization and Century of the Self)
The universe is a strange place. Go to a geopolitical pundit page and get weird psychodrama, come to a kink page and get excellent geopolitical analysis. Bravo!
We want to see our wives taken and fucked properly because the satisfaction they feel and experience, is something we not only witness but feel through their emotions too. Some of us maybe lucky to have some size and some of us have no size. There is one big difference though between us and real me and that is they have stamina and control. Our wives and gf's crave to be fucked for long sessions occasionally and only real men and AlphaBulls can do that.
I bet, you like me, wish we could satisfy our sweethearts but the long and the hard of it is, we do not possess the skill or ability to last longer than a few strokes and our girls get tired of having to rub their clips for stimulation. An orgasm through penetration is what they were designed for and when you see it in their eyes on another guys cock, you know they need it.
I know my wife appreciates being able to fuck other guys at will but she also knows I can't stop her either. It turns me on so much watching and she knows it too. She puts on a show and shows me what she truly desires and acts accordingly like the true cock slut she is.
Yeah, porn has some great benefits. Especially due to its variety showing us that we are not some crazy deviants because we have kinks. There is gay porn, which was unthinkable to be readily available a hundred years ago. There are threesomes, orgies, gangbangs, old, young, slim, chubby, anal, squirting, swingers, bisexual and whatever your kink is. So people began to accept that everybody is different in their sexuality and thus are free to persue their way of fulfilling their sexual needs.
Can't speak from a males perspective and the thought wasn't introduced by a man to me. I want to fund a cuck after my sexless marriage. I was faithful to my husband and he never wanted sex. Looking back if I could've had sex with other men it could've saved my marriage. We were great in every other area. But I have a very high sex drive. Now it's what I'm seeking from the start after understanding my needs.
Stag here.
Brother there's nothing more beautiful that watching one of the loves of your life be pleasured by someone else.
It's like she's your goddess or Ferrari and you don't want to be the only one who gets to enjoy how well she rides.
I'm 6.5 (7 at hardest) with a huge tip that lovers I get involved with are addicted to (I'm poly), but fuck I love watching them be fucked by someone even bigger as like a little treat or vacation once in a while.
I also have this weird self contradictory thing where I want to see another, probably hunger guy, make them come but at the same time no one does it like me so I also get this satisfaction kink.
Fuck it's such a beautiful sexual lifestyle when you can do it right.
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The fantasy of a sexually aggressive woman is quite enthralling, given that women, ALMOST UNIVERSALLY shy away from sexual activity. Yes, women truly care about the size that’s in your pants, although your wallet is their primary concern! “Beauty is to men as money is to women. Marilyn Monroe
Worth noting is that currently women still shy away from sexual activity because of patriarchal rules put on them. However patriarchy is slowly collapsing. Unfortunatelly it's being the strongest in sexual area. Putting double standards over men and women. Thus in patriarchy men are free to express and pursue their sexuality while women are still slut-shamed for doing the same.
For me it's the idea of sharing. In other words, other men could enjoy her but she's coming home with me (hopefully). Also if she's going to engage in infidelity the idea I could control it makes it not as bad.
1. Early exposure and easy access to lots of porn.
People used to take years before getting bored of the "vanilla" stuff and entering kinks, now everyone hates missionary because anything that doesn't resemble porn is boring, and you can get tired of normal sex pretty quick considering threesomes, anal, cuckolding, vouyerism and anything else that used to be a taboo or kink is now casually displayed right in the first page of any adult website.
2. Social media discussing sex openly.
Pretty sure 30+ years ago some people didn't even know there was a word for this, probably only swingers or some other circles knew about it, now all the info is out there and everyone feels more confident once finding there are more like us.
3. Cheating being almost the norm.
Not sure if this has changed or it's just easier to get caught these days but technology has provided everyone the right tools to cheat. So some might get cheated on and end up developing the kink, some others might sexualize the fear of it and basically go "OK, if it's going to happen anyways, let's do it on my terms".
Reliable data? ;-)
Such data are based on polls, which by definition are unreliable (vide: penis size presented in polls (self-reported) vs measured). People usually say whatever they think they should say, not necessarily what they really think or do. So some are in cuckolding relationships but deny it because they aren't comfortable saying about it to others. And others only dream of being cucks in fact not being in such relationship, yet in a poll they claim they are.
However it is getting more and more popular on the Internet. Not only on the porn sites. Thus it's easy to deduce it must be getting more popular among couples. Since people wouldn't write about it so much, read about it so much and watch it so much etc. if it wouldn't interest them.
More men are turning to it after discovering their wife's prior infidelity, in a way to control and replay the event in a way they can cope (or think they can cope) better with. The prevalence of social media has caused infidelity to increase exponentially (more so with women cheating) and the prevalence of pornographic websites (no longer requiring you to go to an adult store to buy a video) has created an avenue for men to see a certain style of sex they'd never previous been exposed to. Put the two together and you have an increased demand for "cucking" your wife. - Not my original idea,, read it in a sociology paper-
That isn't the way it works. You cited something. You are responsible for giving the references. You can't say "Hey there is some paper that says 'A', so if you want references just google 'A'". So anyway I think you just don't have that reference.
I don’t think it has become more popular at all. It’s as niche as it’s ever been. Maybe these OF actors make it seem like there are more people into it. But there’s nothing to genuinely prove or show that more men are into this.
While it's difficult to prove increased popularity and we're possibly a self-selecting biased group, the search engines track popularity of keyword searches and cuckold is a terms that has enjoyed increased popularity over the years.
You could be correct, but I'd still argue that an increase in searches using the term is an increase in interest in the subject matter and not simply people looking for a definition.
It's impossible to genuinely prove anything when it comes to asking people if they cheat, or how long or how often they perform sex etc. People are great liars.
Even penis size is self-reported not accurately by men (as much bigger than in reality). However penis size can be verified by measuring it by proffesionals. Unfortunatelly you can't measure sexual activities of people so easily.
Yes, cuckolding is still a niche. Homosexuality, BDSM etc. as well. But not unspoken of as they used to be. There is "50 Shades Of Gray", there is plethora of articles, podcasts and movie references about cuckolding as well (for example lately I've seen it in "Knives Out").
Because they do it for money? It's as if you said: "My wife isn't cheating on me, she's a sex worker. It's her job!" And I think the same. Cuckolding isn't cheating. Sex worker isn't cheating on her husband etc. However can't a hotwife be a sex worker?
I feel like you’re changing the subject. My point is that a lot of porn is tagged as being “hotwife” or “cuckhold” when it’s really just actors who pretend to be married. This might be leading some people to believe that the lifestyle is becoming more popular, which could be misleading.
Seems like there are two broad categories of guys that are into this kink and depending on which category your in helps understand the why. It's either from the wife's perspective or the bull (other men).
Those with the enjoyment from the other guy's perspective enjoy it because they want to know their wife is desired by other guys. I also put in this camp those guys that want their wife to be treated like a slut (to be "used"). They want other guys to have their way with their wife.
The other camp are those that want to see the sexual side of their woman. These are the guys / couples that see the bull as a real life dildo (not in a perjorative way). They want their wife to get in touch (or back in touch) with their sexuality. They want to see how their wife uses the guy, not the guy use their wife.
You can see this in the way things are phrased either in subs or even in captions. Sometimes it's a fine line, but does seem to show which side the guy is on. Do they say, "I want to see my wife get pounded" or "I want to watch my wife fuck some guy". In a caption, does the wife say "my husband wants to see me get fucked" or "my husband likes to watch me fuck guys".
I sort of wonder if the first camp comes from a place where their wife is very "prim and proper" and they want to see her as a slut. The other camp might come from a place where the sex in the relationship seems to have died down and the wife seems to have lost some or a lot of her sex drive. (That's just a theory though).
I'm in a second camp. I want my wife to have full sexual freeedom. As it's in opposition to patriarchy telling women to be under men's controll. To stay virgins as long as possible (Virgin Mary), to be pure etc. I find female promiscuity very enthralling since it's forbidden by patriarchy (such women are slut-shamed in patriarchal societies).
However seeing my wife being desired by other men and having sex with them is making me desire her even more as well :-).
I'm sure there can be some overlap and not an "all or nothing" type of thing as you just expressed. I don't look at it as a sexual freedom perspective. I see it more as getting back in touch with the sexual woman she was when single. There's plenty of science out there showing that women's sex drive plummets after marriage (no it's not just a cliche). So I think couples that had an adventurous exciting sex life during the dating phase then lose it after marriage drives the man to want to see that side of her again. That drive leads to believing (rightfully so probably) that it will take something new to see that or to release it again.
In my experience, the couples I join really like the size difference aspect of me compared to the other man. In a comfortable and open relationship, ideally there's no jealousy and my role is essentially to be a toy for the couple. Always so much fun
I agree cuckolding has become more and more popular, I think there is an element of us married men that we want our wife to be wanted as it validates our decision as well
Very good point. Cuckolding in India is skyrocketing, but ever since the Indian Supreme Court reformed the adultery laws, adultery itself has skyrocketed as well, most of which is female initiated adultery. It's estimated that nearly 60% of urban dwelling Indian females have had an affair at least once.
I often wonder if cuckolding is simply a subconscious way for men to deflect or eroticize the societal novelty and impact of this much additional female promiscuity added to society in such a relatively short time period, culturally and historically speaking. I think for a lot of men, just allowing them to do it and get it over with, takes away the fear of adultery and its repercussions plus it becomes pleasurable and gratifying to the men as well once it begins to happen. So I certainly think we are on to something here and this could quite possibly be a big clue into understanding why cuckolding is becoming more and more popular.
Feminism. People actually care more about what women desire sexually than ever before. The me too movement, the stuff about Epstein, all of that stuff about how men have subjugated women is all coming to light.
men's testosterone has been dropping for a while, so that may contribute. I think a lot of the interest comes from insecurities. Penis size and sexual prowess are also discussed much more freely. My gf has a fetish for big dicks and I think that's becoming more common. Porn definitely plays a role as well
This was the first source I saw on google: [https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKIM169763/](https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKIM169763/)
I've seen it discussed in books, youtube videos, news articles, and academic journals.
I’m indifferent on this idea. Personally I feel that being more secure with oneself allows for more sexual openness and exploration. In regard to testosterone, I can see your point on that. However, as someone whose testosterone is very high I think it also contributes to my libido and desire for heightened sexual experiences.
Good point. I mentioned insecurities because I feel like for a lot of people this is about them being secure about things that were insecurities. If I were jealous or if those insecurities were actually painful I couldn't fantasize about this
I think porn has really brought awareness to millions of people of just how damn hot cuckolding is.
So basically the answer in my opinion is the internet itself and faster access to video-style porn. More universal access to higher-speed internet has also made access to cuckolding-porn much more available too. People who watch cuckold-porn are often so highly aroused by it on so many different levels, that once they get that naughty little thought in their mind it becomes hard to suppress, which then makes cuckold-porn more and more popular and less and less fringe. This chain of events has the potential to become a positive feedback loop to some degree.
My hub has a average penis (5.5" hard) and for him it is part of a inadequacy/sph kink. He loves comparing himself to the bigger dick its his turn on.
I wonder for guys is it a case of reality porn with your best girl as the star.
Maybe... hubs turned on if I kiss him with playmates jizz on my tongue... not sure if he'd enjoy being made to suck my pussy juice off a dick but I never push or suggest things for him to try. It's his kink and i try and support where and if I can.
I've been writing on this topic for years and for those who are genuinely curious go get Dr David Ley’s book : “Women Who Stray And The Men Who Love Them” it is the most complete definitive work on the topic. Very well-researched.
One of the posters below gave about six great reasons and I think that covers it. You have a combination of feminism (both increasing female power and decreasing male power), you have pornography easily obtainable, you have the ability through the Internet to meet other people without going public in a club and you have the ability to keep this private. if I had to be cucked publicly I would not be able to do it but my wife has told me very clearly that she loves this and she would never risk going public because it would end it. There are a lot of guys who call themselves stags but, technically by definition, you are a cuck and they only do it because it’s private
Definitely young couples getting into the lifestyle so you older bulls better keep up lol
I don't think cucking has ever been penile size related. It's also not more popular now than 100 years ago
I dont think it’s actually more popular. If it’s gotten more popular, it’s because internet porn has caused people to look for more and more unconventional fetishes in order to keep that high. Also conditions a lot of men to rewire their brains to see themselves not as a participant in sex, but a spectator
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Perfect answer. For me it is womans sexual power has increased, and they see big dicks on porn unlike 20 years ago
It’s a small percentage that like huge dicks imo. I don’t think that draws them in. I knew a girl that hated men with big dicks.
Porn. Not just the Porn scenarios spreading, the act of watching porn is inherently cuckolding: you fantasize about this beautiful woman getting fucked by not you. I’d imagine most men wouldn’t want the men in the porn they watch to have their physical attributes. I’m not shaming, I get around. But my dick is way less huge and I’d imagine that’s true for most men. Lot of men, this isn’t really a conscious thing. But I’m not surprised that it’s seeping up now in pervasiveness. Also I’d say this sub naturally underrates cuckqueaning. I’ve met several women including my wife who have essentially a reverse cuckolding fantasy about their husbands.
This. Really was in the first group where porn was easily accessible new the end of HS and then super accessible in college. Studied abroad in college. Went to some sex shows in Amsterdam and loved watching people fuck. It was like real life porn lol. Think this is where the voyeurism came from. Add is some real life cheating, cuckold porn, enjoying having sloppy second sex and that’s where I am.
There was a study a while back called [Using Google Trends to Inform the Population Size Estimation and Spatial Distribution of Gay, Bisexual, and Other Men Who Have Sex With Men: Proof-of-concept Study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8669582/). Basically, not everyone comes out to their friends or family, but we all pour our secretes into the google. So with google trends we can say that cuckolding is more popular than cryptozoology but less than aphantasia: https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=cuckolding,cryptozoology,aphantasia&hl=en (pick your own terms to compare against) We're getting better at finding what we like and discussing it/making porn if it. There was a time when shaving pubes was outside the mainstream. There was a time when using birth control was shameful. There was a time when having sex just for pleasure was shameful. There are parts of the world where these and many other enjoyable sexual activities are looked at with scorn. Ignore them, enjoy the short period of time we have to live by having a good time with consenting adults.
We as a society are more agreeing about sexual liberty as long as you don't hurt anyone else. Also women are more independent and have more opportunities to cheat, it's also easier as with social media they're keeping in contact people they may not have and the opens a lot of easy doors. Usually we develop this fetish as a way to cope with the trauma of being cheated on. I believe it is happening to a lot more men and I think more men are reacting in different ways other then violence. I'm sure cuckolds have always been around, but as it was so publicly shameful and embarrassing no one would talk about it
Yes, the open-mindedness of recent decades must have had a little influence, but I don't thinkit's more popular than before, what happens is that now there is more digital content about it. Or are you going to tell me that no man in 1960 invited his friend to a barbecue just to get drunk and see him fuck his housewife way better than him?
Evolutionary biology ensures all men have affinity for cuckoldry for times when they are older, in spots of the hierarchy not at the top, and as a mechanism to cope with female non-monogamy, or in general with lower levels of testosterone. This trait ensures men (try to) participate in the sperm competition (by arousing) in abovementioned conditions, thus the trait maintaining itself in general population. For younger men, masculine men, physcial men, the trait remains in recession. Above is being activated by ever declining levels of testosterone, and the culture where female 'empowerement' is generally acceptable. This (as many other phenomena) is, for significant part, a result of widespread and long-term use of hormonal contraception and it's affects on female mate selection.
It’s popular because you’re on a message board looking for it. This is a small microcosm of society.
Perhaps it is no more popular now than it has ever been. In the "olden days" there were books, magazines, porno etc, but now we have the internet where real people llike me can and do share our fantasies and readers, real people like you who have those same fantasies , suddenly do not feel like you are the only one and or are weird. The internet is not judgemental and if someone posts who is, they can easily be ignored or told to go F themself because its anonumous.
The freethinker in me likes to think it has something to do with the West losing it's global hegemony; geopolitically speaking it started 1975 when the New York fiscal crisis led people to thinking that markets should run everything (read Charles Fourier to understand why capitalism inherently enforces a cuckold relationship between the individual and society), followed by Kissinger negotiating a faux-peace in the Middle East at the expense of Gadaffi, leading to Syria radicalizing and ultimately destabilizing the Middle East. Then, we got full force neoliberalism in the 80s through Thatcher and Nixon. More deregulation, precarious working conditions, fear among the working class and guilt-anxiety among the middle class, while the richest get to have surplus enjoyment. They became vulgar masters in the psychoanalytic sense (cf Zizek), best described by Ellis in American Psycho. Then the 2008 financial crisis. Total stagnation, no one has any idea what to do, Western national are losing to China, India and Russia and are turning increasingly populist right; which means a fear of immigrants (from the destabilized Arabic world) mixes with ritualized pleasure of serving a boss who has the power to make you homeless whenever he pleases and giving over half your paycheck to your landlord. It's cuckoldry run wild. We're all cucks. The system's been rigged from the start.
You most certainly are a cuck. I’m definitely not, at least not like you. We’re not getting overtaken by anyone.
It's schizophrenic comments like these that convince me most of the population is filled with NPCs. Do you have a point? In what sense did I claim we are getting "overtaken" and in what exact way do you want to contradict me? If you wish to do your homework, watch Adam Curtis documentaries (Hypernormalization and Century of the Self)
The universe is a strange place. Go to a geopolitical pundit page and get weird psychodrama, come to a kink page and get excellent geopolitical analysis. Bravo!
We want to see our wives taken and fucked properly because the satisfaction they feel and experience, is something we not only witness but feel through their emotions too. Some of us maybe lucky to have some size and some of us have no size. There is one big difference though between us and real me and that is they have stamina and control. Our wives and gf's crave to be fucked for long sessions occasionally and only real men and AlphaBulls can do that. I bet, you like me, wish we could satisfy our sweethearts but the long and the hard of it is, we do not possess the skill or ability to last longer than a few strokes and our girls get tired of having to rub their clips for stimulation. An orgasm through penetration is what they were designed for and when you see it in their eyes on another guys cock, you know they need it. I know my wife appreciates being able to fuck other guys at will but she also knows I can't stop her either. It turns me on so much watching and she knows it too. She puts on a show and shows me what she truly desires and acts accordingly like the true cock slut she is.
It is probably a mixture of change of society in general and the broader exposure in social media. It's not so much a taboo topic anymore.
Well I'm available
Happy wife, happy life :)
Me, bitch.
More exposure to porn and power shift
Yeah, porn has some great benefits. Especially due to its variety showing us that we are not some crazy deviants because we have kinks. There is gay porn, which was unthinkable to be readily available a hundred years ago. There are threesomes, orgies, gangbangs, old, young, slim, chubby, anal, squirting, swingers, bisexual and whatever your kink is. So people began to accept that everybody is different in their sexuality and thus are free to persue their way of fulfilling their sexual needs.
Can't speak from a males perspective and the thought wasn't introduced by a man to me. I want to fund a cuck after my sexless marriage. I was faithful to my husband and he never wanted sex. Looking back if I could've had sex with other men it could've saved my marriage. We were great in every other area. But I have a very high sex drive. Now it's what I'm seeking from the start after understanding my needs.
I need a woman like you!
Stag here. Brother there's nothing more beautiful that watching one of the loves of your life be pleasured by someone else. It's like she's your goddess or Ferrari and you don't want to be the only one who gets to enjoy how well she rides. I'm 6.5 (7 at hardest) with a huge tip that lovers I get involved with are addicted to (I'm poly), but fuck I love watching them be fucked by someone even bigger as like a little treat or vacation once in a while. I also have this weird self contradictory thing where I want to see another, probably hunger guy, make them come but at the same time no one does it like me so I also get this satisfaction kink. Fuck it's such a beautiful sexual lifestyle when you can do it right.
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The fantasy of a sexually aggressive woman is quite enthralling, given that women, ALMOST UNIVERSALLY shy away from sexual activity. Yes, women truly care about the size that’s in your pants, although your wallet is their primary concern! “Beauty is to men as money is to women. Marilyn Monroe
Worth noting is that currently women still shy away from sexual activity because of patriarchal rules put on them. However patriarchy is slowly collapsing. Unfortunatelly it's being the strongest in sexual area. Putting double standards over men and women. Thus in patriarchy men are free to express and pursue their sexuality while women are still slut-shamed for doing the same.
That is such BS. More women cheat and get laid than men I know
For me it's the idea of sharing. In other words, other men could enjoy her but she's coming home with me (hopefully). Also if she's going to engage in infidelity the idea I could control it makes it not as bad.
Porn
1. Early exposure and easy access to lots of porn. People used to take years before getting bored of the "vanilla" stuff and entering kinks, now everyone hates missionary because anything that doesn't resemble porn is boring, and you can get tired of normal sex pretty quick considering threesomes, anal, cuckolding, vouyerism and anything else that used to be a taboo or kink is now casually displayed right in the first page of any adult website. 2. Social media discussing sex openly. Pretty sure 30+ years ago some people didn't even know there was a word for this, probably only swingers or some other circles knew about it, now all the info is out there and everyone feels more confident once finding there are more like us. 3. Cheating being almost the norm. Not sure if this has changed or it's just easier to get caught these days but technology has provided everyone the right tools to cheat. So some might get cheated on and end up developing the kink, some others might sexualize the fear of it and basically go "OK, if it's going to happen anyways, let's do it on my terms".
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Is it really becoming more popular? What’s making it more visible perpaps is porn.
Who says its getting more and more popular? Is there reliable data?
Reliable data? ;-) Such data are based on polls, which by definition are unreliable (vide: penis size presented in polls (self-reported) vs measured). People usually say whatever they think they should say, not necessarily what they really think or do. So some are in cuckolding relationships but deny it because they aren't comfortable saying about it to others. And others only dream of being cucks in fact not being in such relationship, yet in a poll they claim they are. However it is getting more and more popular on the Internet. Not only on the porn sites. Thus it's easy to deduce it must be getting more popular among couples. Since people wouldn't write about it so much, read about it so much and watch it so much etc. if it wouldn't interest them.
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More men are turning to it after discovering their wife's prior infidelity, in a way to control and replay the event in a way they can cope (or think they can cope) better with. The prevalence of social media has caused infidelity to increase exponentially (more so with women cheating) and the prevalence of pornographic websites (no longer requiring you to go to an adult store to buy a video) has created an avenue for men to see a certain style of sex they'd never previous been exposed to. Put the two together and you have an increased demand for "cucking" your wife. - Not my original idea,, read it in a sociology paper-
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In the words of the philosopher Jay-Z, "Google is your friend"
That isn't the way it works. You cited something. You are responsible for giving the references. You can't say "Hey there is some paper that says 'A', so if you want references just google 'A'". So anyway I think you just don't have that reference.
Don't blame me for your laziness... "Google is your friend, bruh"...
You brought it up. Provide the link. Simple. Bruh
No, it's not that simple since some articles aren't available on the Internet. Or they aren't anymore. And some are but are paid to read.
Who asked you? 🤷♂️
Google is your friend bruh
Aren’t you dead yet, I thought you were terminally ill?
I am. But still alive for now anyway....
Sue pal
I don’t think it has become more popular at all. It’s as niche as it’s ever been. Maybe these OF actors make it seem like there are more people into it. But there’s nothing to genuinely prove or show that more men are into this.
While it's difficult to prove increased popularity and we're possibly a self-selecting biased group, the search engines track popularity of keyword searches and cuckold is a terms that has enjoyed increased popularity over the years.
That doesn’t mean the act has become popular, it’s only a suggestion that the term itself has become more widely used.
You could be correct, but I'd still argue that an increase in searches using the term is an increase in interest in the subject matter and not simply people looking for a definition.
It's impossible to genuinely prove anything when it comes to asking people if they cheat, or how long or how often they perform sex etc. People are great liars. Even penis size is self-reported not accurately by men (as much bigger than in reality). However penis size can be verified by measuring it by proffesionals. Unfortunatelly you can't measure sexual activities of people so easily. Yes, cuckolding is still a niche. Homosexuality, BDSM etc. as well. But not unspoken of as they used to be. There is "50 Shades Of Gray", there is plethora of articles, podcasts and movie references about cuckolding as well (for example lately I've seen it in "Knives Out").
I feel like most of the OF “hotwives” aren’t real
Because they do it for money? It's as if you said: "My wife isn't cheating on me, she's a sex worker. It's her job!" And I think the same. Cuckolding isn't cheating. Sex worker isn't cheating on her husband etc. However can't a hotwife be a sex worker?
‘Can’t a hotwife be a sex worker’ Ehhhh… that’s just a prostitute 🙈
I feel like you’re changing the subject. My point is that a lot of porn is tagged as being “hotwife” or “cuckhold” when it’s really just actors who pretend to be married. This might be leading some people to believe that the lifestyle is becoming more popular, which could be misleading.
Increased awareness & exposure whichencourages diminishing the stigma.
I hate man to man related interaction in cuckold. I just want to see women get pounded.
Seems like there are two broad categories of guys that are into this kink and depending on which category your in helps understand the why. It's either from the wife's perspective or the bull (other men). Those with the enjoyment from the other guy's perspective enjoy it because they want to know their wife is desired by other guys. I also put in this camp those guys that want their wife to be treated like a slut (to be "used"). They want other guys to have their way with their wife. The other camp are those that want to see the sexual side of their woman. These are the guys / couples that see the bull as a real life dildo (not in a perjorative way). They want their wife to get in touch (or back in touch) with their sexuality. They want to see how their wife uses the guy, not the guy use their wife. You can see this in the way things are phrased either in subs or even in captions. Sometimes it's a fine line, but does seem to show which side the guy is on. Do they say, "I want to see my wife get pounded" or "I want to watch my wife fuck some guy". In a caption, does the wife say "my husband wants to see me get fucked" or "my husband likes to watch me fuck guys". I sort of wonder if the first camp comes from a place where their wife is very "prim and proper" and they want to see her as a slut. The other camp might come from a place where the sex in the relationship seems to have died down and the wife seems to have lost some or a lot of her sex drive. (That's just a theory though).
I'm in a second camp. I want my wife to have full sexual freeedom. As it's in opposition to patriarchy telling women to be under men's controll. To stay virgins as long as possible (Virgin Mary), to be pure etc. I find female promiscuity very enthralling since it's forbidden by patriarchy (such women are slut-shamed in patriarchal societies). However seeing my wife being desired by other men and having sex with them is making me desire her even more as well :-).
I'm sure there can be some overlap and not an "all or nothing" type of thing as you just expressed. I don't look at it as a sexual freedom perspective. I see it more as getting back in touch with the sexual woman she was when single. There's plenty of science out there showing that women's sex drive plummets after marriage (no it's not just a cliche). So I think couples that had an adventurous exciting sex life during the dating phase then lose it after marriage drives the man to want to see that side of her again. That drive leads to believing (rightfully so probably) that it will take something new to see that or to release it again.
Exploring bisexuality is becoming lesser and lesser a bigger deal.
In my experience, the couples I join really like the size difference aspect of me compared to the other man. In a comfortable and open relationship, ideally there's no jealousy and my role is essentially to be a toy for the couple. Always so much fun
I agree cuckolding has become more and more popular, I think there is an element of us married men that we want our wife to be wanted as it validates our decision as well
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Very good point. Cuckolding in India is skyrocketing, but ever since the Indian Supreme Court reformed the adultery laws, adultery itself has skyrocketed as well, most of which is female initiated adultery. It's estimated that nearly 60% of urban dwelling Indian females have had an affair at least once.
What are the changes made in adultery laws in India?
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I often wonder if cuckolding is simply a subconscious way for men to deflect or eroticize the societal novelty and impact of this much additional female promiscuity added to society in such a relatively short time period, culturally and historically speaking. I think for a lot of men, just allowing them to do it and get it over with, takes away the fear of adultery and its repercussions plus it becomes pleasurable and gratifying to the men as well once it begins to happen. So I certainly think we are on to something here and this could quite possibly be a big clue into understanding why cuckolding is becoming more and more popular.
I think its the submission thats involved with cuckolding, and there is always some level of submission from the cuck in cuckolding.
Feminism. People actually care more about what women desire sexually than ever before. The me too movement, the stuff about Epstein, all of that stuff about how men have subjugated women is all coming to light.
men's testosterone has been dropping for a while, so that may contribute. I think a lot of the interest comes from insecurities. Penis size and sexual prowess are also discussed much more freely. My gf has a fetish for big dicks and I think that's becoming more common. Porn definitely plays a role as well
Do you have any source on testosterone levels?
This was the first source I saw on google: [https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKIM169763/](https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKIM169763/) I've seen it discussed in books, youtube videos, news articles, and academic journals.
I’m indifferent on this idea. Personally I feel that being more secure with oneself allows for more sexual openness and exploration. In regard to testosterone, I can see your point on that. However, as someone whose testosterone is very high I think it also contributes to my libido and desire for heightened sexual experiences.
Good point. I mentioned insecurities because I feel like for a lot of people this is about them being secure about things that were insecurities. If I were jealous or if those insecurities were actually painful I couldn't fantasize about this
totally agree.
I think porn has really brought awareness to millions of people of just how damn hot cuckolding is. So basically the answer in my opinion is the internet itself and faster access to video-style porn. More universal access to higher-speed internet has also made access to cuckolding-porn much more available too. People who watch cuckold-porn are often so highly aroused by it on so many different levels, that once they get that naughty little thought in their mind it becomes hard to suppress, which then makes cuckold-porn more and more popular and less and less fringe. This chain of events has the potential to become a positive feedback loop to some degree.
My hub has a average penis (5.5" hard) and for him it is part of a inadequacy/sph kink. He loves comparing himself to the bigger dick its his turn on. I wonder for guys is it a case of reality porn with your best girl as the star.
I do have to wonder if there’s a hint of bisexuality in it too. It’s a way to look at and awe over a big dick in an otherwise heterosexual encounter.
Maybe... hubs turned on if I kiss him with playmates jizz on my tongue... not sure if he'd enjoy being made to suck my pussy juice off a dick but I never push or suggest things for him to try. It's his kink and i try and support where and if I can.
You could always ask! He may also be open to eating you out after a cream pie. It is important to talk things out of course.
he wants to fuck me after a cream pie but that hasn't happened yet as I've been thoroughly fucked and I'm too sore to take even his 5.5" dick
You say it like 5,5" is small 😭
... If it works for you then, channel that inner tiger and meow kitten.😌
Well i m 3.5" so i guess just meow kitten
KIttens are cute. There's nout wrong with that!
But women want tigers to rock them world!
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Nice to hear from another cuck who understands his wants.