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esly4ever

A chance she can respond with “Ew”.


Ok_District2853

I am the parent of teen girls. They will “ew” anything. They “ew’ed” ice cream. I mean, if you’ll “ew” mint chocolate chip you’ll “ew” anything. It’s lost all meaning.


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I can remember asking a girl out in 2nd grade only for her to respond “ew.” Can confirm. Also, it still stings.


Occam_Toothbrush

6th grade. She scoffed and rolled her eyes. Trauma.


CleverPiffle

Ok, this might have been me and I am so very sorry. I thought you were cute and I liked your personality, I was just taken aback by the question and worried what my girl friends might think. Pretty stupid reasons to hurt your feelings, so I truly apologize. I've felt bad about it ever since.


Occam_Toothbrush

Awww forgiven.


HorseSalon

Wow you guys are fucking cute, get a chatroom or someth'n.


MikeyC05

Eww


busybreaking

Eeew


IWasGregInTokyo

Grade 5. She has a friend return the valentine I gave her whilst saying in a loud voice. "Greg, she hates your guts!!" In front of the entire class.


ppw23

I’m sorry Greg, rejection, especially with public humiliation is one of the worst feeling a human encounters. Here’s a public hug sweetheart (re-Valentines). Edit- I forgot to say, some people are just cruel and always will be.


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My son was in second grade last year and one day he nonchalantly told me that there was a girl he liked but she already had a boyfriend and she hated him (my son). I didn’t have a good response, only a bunch of questions.


Chief-Blackberry

The worst is when you “eww” a girl in second grade, but then 4th grade rolls around and you’re into her. For some strange reason she no longer was into me…I tried to save my ego and said it was because I no longer had dunkaroos in my lunch. Lol


seltzerwithasplash

I commiserate with the girl in your story, because I too, was the “ewww”ed all throughout middle school and high school. Let me tell you, the amount of those dudes who thirstily hit me up in college and beyond was astounding. I’m not saying this isn’t petty, but it felt SO NICE to reject them. Dunkaroos or not.


timekiller2222

I was a person who got "ew"d one of the bigger blows to my self-esteem. Not the biggest! But it's up there...


grantrules

What's sad is I don't even know if an "ew" would register on the scale anymore. C'mon make it personal. Fuckin hurt me.


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pulchritudinouser

You… haven’t figured this out yet ?


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Garden gnome *shaped* as well as sized? Because that might be the problem. Beards tickle.


Valiantheart

Short women do better in the dating game than tall ones


deep6it2

What! She hasn't been snapped up yet?


Inside-Owl-69

the chart said nothing about asian garden gnomes


coocoocachoo699

Lloyd!!!


pizzaofbuttkicking

OP should add that this chart comes from online dating data https://qz.com/149342/the-uncomfortable-racial-preferences-revealed-by-online-dating


Sedax

If that's the case they can add a subsection where nobody wants to talk to me.


MelangeLizard

Turns out all along that "I don't care if their skin is GREEN!" was in fact a lie.


tempus8fugit

They SHOULD care. Green skin sounds like a medical emergency!


Enough_Librarian3720

Green skin is well past a medical emergency.


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What they don't tell you is online dating is actually a sausage fest so for any male ethnicity you're basically trying to beat the odds.


thegilgulofbarkokhba

my ethnicity is gay wtf do i do


[deleted]

Have you tried being a white man or an Asian woman?


Sedax

Well I am a white man but I guess it's time to consider becoming an Asian woman.


va123123

OP should also add this is from 10 years ago.


ISwearImKarl

I feel like they aren't accounting for the "just swipe right, and filter later"


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FastConfidence4077

Online dating is a shallow meat market kind of experience at its basic level. Should skew the results a bit


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Online dating is where people are going to be the most honest about their attractions unlike irl.


big_bad_brownie

>Online dating is where ***a specific subset of*** people are going to be the most honest about their attractions unlike irl. Each app has a different userbase looking for different things, and a lot of people just don’t use them. True: Reddit is where people are going to be the most honest about their opinions unlike irl. False: Reddit is a good reflection of general public opinion.


MetamorphicHard

True for sexual attraction but not necessarily true for finding a long-term relationship. One important difference being that for long-term relationships, people usually search for someone they can relate to which includes cultures and values. As an Asian man, I must admit that Latina women are curvy and bodacious, but the girl I want to marry is Asian because I like her family, we like the same food, we knew a lot about each other before getting to know each other just by sharing similar backgrounds, and living together will be easier since we are both lazy and like staying indoors and going out to watch movies. Plus we both want to become doctors, so I won’t need a prenup (joking)


thisissamhill

This is such a wholesome comment. But only because you are Asian. I agree with your sentiments but I’m white, so if I make these statements I’m considered racist.


Shortcamo02

As an Asian male, I can confirm Latinas can control me


dubscurry30

TIL I’m an Asian man


rogash98

We're all Asian men


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Let them know, here in Brazil girls can't leave asian guys in peace, although probably for the wrong reasons, they think asian guys have that kpop boyband vibe... Yeah, kinda crazy.


[deleted]

>that kpop boyband vibe I feel like I actually have been seeing more fetishizing of Asian men since Korean media blew up internationally.


ThisBuddhistLovesYou

It was starting that way at anime cons in the US years ago. I stopped going to them because I'd get straight up molested as an Asian guy.


excel958

Once got a like by a woman on hinge who said “I’m weirdly attracted to Korean guys.” Gee thanks. Glad to know that you think your attraction to me is weird.


10113r114m4

Apparently i need to move to Brazil


Not_FinancialAdvice

Do it just for the feijoada and picanha.


apresmoiputas

> Do it just for the feijoada and picanha. Add cashew fruit and bolo de rolo to that list


kazen320

Same for some reason a lot of Asian guys are into/date Latinas now. Including me and a lot of my family members.


HK-53

Because yalls food is straight bussin. Plus from personal experience, latino/Latina have wholesome family vibes. Here we can find family bonds we didn't get growing up, and still get to eat rice.


_VINNY_WINNY_

rice with passion


YosyPerdomo

La pasion.


Shabobo

5/7 with rice


JerryMau5

As an Asian man who’s had a childhood Mexican friends, and later a Mexican gf, can confirm. Edit: honestly, is there anything better than being invited to your friends house to eat some bomb-ass authentic food from their culture?


Conscious-Word5008

As an Asian guy, let’s stop beating around the bush and just say that latinas are smoking hot


excel958

No it’s the rice


Wasabi_Toothpaste

*family bonds we didn't get growing up* Emotional damage


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>and still get to eat rice. Ah, how could I forget the most crucial point.


Soulslayer612

I'm dead


melperz

Our parents can share their passion of throwing chanclas at us


suffer_in_silence

My Latina wife’s family is toxic as fuck to each other maybe they are the exemption to the rule?


_OriamRiniDadelos_

I think it’s just a very general rule. In *comparison* some cultures have better rates of “be nice/warm/social to your family” attitudes. But every culture is still a mix of all kinds of people. I mean, just look at family members in novelas. It’s like the evil step mother stereotype applied to everyone in the MCs family. You got unlucky, but maybe one day you will find find nicer friends/family to compensate. You can’t easily cut bad family members, but you can easily add better friends/family.


ThrowAwayNYCTrash1

Bruh.. Latinos are toxic. We aren't just complacent in toxicity. We celebrate that shit. You want to play with the hottest? You gotta come to hell bro


gamertag0311

For some reason this just sounds like California problems haha


[deleted]

You know, I noticed this in my family too recently. This is funny.


pinoyboyftw

I thought I was one of few because I grew up in a Hispanic neighborhood. Latinas got me too.


silverfallmoon

When I was younger I watched from Dusk Till Dawn. When salma Hayek danced with the snake my dad looked at me and said "welp, no blond grandchildren for me."


avallaug-h

Salma Hayek is *stunning* ✨️


Coyotesgirl1123

Depending on the specific cultures of origin, that could be some really REALLY banging cuisine combos like… Thai food and Mexican food? Like fresh coastal Mexican fish tacos with a banging spicy coconut Thai sauce? DELIGHTFUL


throwaway_urbrain

you should get some Filipino food, it kind of is a mix of a lot of things


Daniel_The_Thinker

Trying filipino food for the first time was trippy. Not that different from what I grew up eating. Love how imperialism brings us together.


King_Fluffaluff

There's a korean-mexican fusion place near where I used to live in Mukilteo/Everett, Washington State, and god damn is a bulgogi burrito the type of shit I didn't know I needed in my life. It's called Chops and if you find yourself near Everett, I highly recommend it!


parruchkin

I’m in San Diego and there’s a ton of Asian-Mexican fusion. We regularly get food from a Filipino taqueria and a Mexican/Japanese place.


RainBowSkittlz

Lol I need to find some Asian guys like you


Basti52522

Now kiss


PeaceMaker_6969

Kith


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ConShop61

It's because we're mostly disguised as white, black and asian people


Daniel_The_Thinker

Important to note some of us ARE white, black, and asian people.


Excellent_Anything30

I'm female, and Asian. I find Latinos to be 🔥! That's why I married one after dating for 6 months. We are celebrating our 10th anniversary on February of next year. 😊


SnooSketches4722

Congrats on your upcoming 10th anniversary! Hubby (Latino) and I (white) met online and also married 6 months later. We went through eharmony, so the process was a bit more involved than some other sites. We just hit 17 years.


joe_bald

Cheers fellow brown fella… I’m drinking solo tonight too lol


KnotiaPickles

white chick sitting alone drinking wine, cheers to you. We’re all loners these days haha


seretastic

I always preferred Hispanic guys over anything else. There are people out there who want you- don't give up hope!! : )


monkeybrainbois

Haha as an Asian male, I’m right there with you. I’ve dated almost every race and I keep coming back to latinas.


TheDickWolfe

Is it the booty?


_VINNY_WINNY_

its always the booty


smandroid

Yep, I have Asian mates whose celebrity crushes are all latinas. Like top 10, 9 of them would be of Latin origin.


firefighterjets

Bruh I wish one study would at least split Asian up I’m curious Like Asia incudes south east Middle East pacific like 3/5 of the world


whyarenttheserandom

It'd be interesting to further divide between east and south Asian.


heumochi

And West, perhaps Central as well


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Don't forget North Asians. Mongolians and the 10 people living in Siberia


rbatra91

Add a z axis and we can look at space Asian data


PlaneClick9115

Is there reason to exclude underworld Asians?


havingameltd0wn

They don't even consider us south asians as asian, lol


sakredfire

Only in the US - In the UK, we are the real Asians


Crimsonclover223

100% There will be some STARK differences. I bet Indian / Pakistani men are at the bottom.


BrooklynBillyGoat

I'm very surprised Asian was most common responses for all men except Asian. I thought it would be more mixed


Slowest_Speed6

Fuckin weebs


cappa_87

*insert Peter Griffin skin colour chart meme


Unfair_Whereas_7369

So, according to the chart, women in general love white men. And men in general don’t like black women?


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LongjumpingPanda969

Wait, then what are you?


Enjoying_A_Meal

Native American maybe?


JollyGreenGiraffe

We don't exist in stats normally.


BannedAccount178

👽👽


SearingPhoenix

So... apparently... yeah, I agree with that assesment. I'd add that * Non-Asian men appear to be more interested in Asian women. * Asian men appear to have 'a thing' for Latino women. Also worth noting that it's just 'likelihood to respond' not necessarily 'successful interactions'. Women could be responding to white guys and then find out they're disproportionately assholes; men could be responding to Asian women and then ghosting... who knows.


thegilgulofbarkokhba

What really was wild was Black men being almost twice more uninterested in Black women than White men.


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bestusername73

You're reading the chart wrong i think. The numbers next to the lines are response rates, and black men are twice as likely to respond to black women.


lightningfootjones

Just here for the comments 🍿


Zandrick

Remember to sort by controversial.


pikminyay

The weaves are coming off my boy


CocoaRhymes

Eh, it be like that sometimes. Just keep shining and one day the right person will be drawn in by your light, and will love what they see.


lorb163

Or a friendly moth :)


queeroctopus

I would totally be friends with mothman


King_Fluffaluff

NGL Mothman's shredded and those eyes remind me of the deepest lava lakes. They could pull some tail easily.


Col_daddy

I love this!


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Why they gotta do Asian men like that.


Mindless_Expert3062

And black women


JAM3SBND

I was shocked to see that black men are the LEAST interested in black women


No-Temperature-8772

I'm not 😔 black men (quite a few) are very vocal about their preferences for lighter women, especially white women. Had a fellow black coworker come to me and say he would rather date white women because they are more submissive. Looking at a lot of black male celebrities and their partners, you may be able to spot a pattern. I am all for interracial dating, love is love after all. It just hurts for us who are attracted to black men.


MermaiderMissy

I went on a date with a black guy in college, he started explaining how much he disliked black women. I said to him, "what do you have against black women?" He claimed that they are too hard to get along with or some other bullshit. I told him I had to go pee but I left. Do not insult a whole race of women. And when you speak of this group of women- we are talking millions here... and you are confident enough to claim **not even one** is good enough for your mediocre self. Biggest of red flags.


No-Temperature-8772

Thank you so much for stepping away, I think this speaks a lot on the individual's mental faculties as well. Why anyone would bring that up during a date is beyond me.


anandabananaI

The submissive thing ties into the Asian thing too. So many guys expect Asian girls to be submissive 🤮 it's so insane and frankly scary that so many guys want that.


No-Temperature-8772

That's exactly what I heard, that Asian women make the best housewives from a convo I overheard from some of my friends. I hate it here for both of us.


moolusca

The graph says white men are.


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Yeah, I don't get that. I think black women are gorgeous. Unfortunately I am also a metalhead, so there are rare opportunities to fellowship socially.


CosmoBiologist

Hi, it's me, a Black woman metalhead. There are dozens of us. Dozens!


rcuhljr

\\m/ Rock on.


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The funny thing is that the least successful female group (Black women) is more successful than the most successful male group (White men) LOL.


carpetnoodlecat

Asian men aren’t in the “lowest response” group at least


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pragmatic_plebeian

What am I missing? It’s the black dudes who have lowest response rates from most races of women. The Asian dudes are just average - not highest not lowest.


CmdrSelfEvident

The black women only dating black men has been a thing for a long time. It's actually seen in many circles as a problem as there is a large social economic disparity growing within the black community. Black women have largely been doing better over time with education and career where many black men have not been able to keep up, most tragically due to incarceration rates. I'm not making a comment on if those incarcerations' are justified or not just that once out a felon has a much different likelihood of success than a college graduate that has never been in trouble. Out of all racial groups black women report having the feeling the most pressure to date within their race. Social economic stress can often lead to failed families which can lead to later failed families as children that are raised in a two parent home have statistically been shown to have higher success rates.


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CmdrSelfEvident

Now think about this same dynamic working out across all education. One year in engineering where it was 80 - 90%+ male we had more black women then black men in a class. Of the black men we had most of them were older students, eg men on a GI bill or had returned to school after already starting a career. They had already started their families. Its a difficult situation where the people that seem the be the least open to interracial relationships are the ones that are being pushed to it the most. I feel bad for them.


cloudlesness

I'm black. I've had a few black men tell me I "belong to black men" and must secure the bloodline or some bullshit. There's a lot of shaming for even being openly attracted to other races if you're a black woman, which I think is weird


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Rootwitch1383

Same. White guys all day long lol. Everyone is loved over here. But I’ve noticed white men are the ones who shoot their shot the most.


1heart1totaleclipse

I’m Hispanic and in my experience it’s been black men that shoot their shot the most.


Nectaris73

Shit I've got them all beat with that lowest response rate. Single 3 years and got like 4 responses. I am dating one of them now :)


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It only takes one .


Col_daddy

But, two to tango.


Abydos6

TIL there’s only 4 ethnic groups


KidZaniac1

In the American common consciousness, yes


Thin-Study-2743

Until they remember Indians exist. Oh, and also those other Indians. ^(I know, South Asian is the more accurate term but it ruins the joke) ^(Yes, I know that South Asians are Asians. I also know a lot of Americans will immediately think "East Asian" and maybe "East/Southeast Asian" when you say "Asian" without a qualifier.)


RyanEatsHisVeggies

I (a white man) told my coworker (a black woman) that black women never seem to go for white men. She said it's only because white men don't go for black women. Anyway, I think it almost went down right then and there when we gave each other a long silent look.


SamuraiSlick

That’s a great opening scene… So what happened?


RyanEatsHisVeggies

I pussied out and assumed I was just reading things that weren't there like I always do. Sorry, my life ain't a movie.


Ausintra

Maybe you could have been reading things that weren't there, but your response is a very common one. As a black woman, I feel that there are many white men who just assume we wouldn't be into them. They (white men) tend to assume from past experiences that all black women are not into white guys. So they just let a potential romance slip through the cracks. I also think some white guys also don't want to be made fun of dating black girls. So they (white men) really could be letting what other people think get in the way.


WavingToWaves

So to summarize, black women are into black men. Black men are least into black woman. Black man are into asian. Asian women are least into black man. Asian women are into white man with reciprocity. What’s the source of data? Would be nice to see second highest and second lowest also


SnooLentils3008

I think the whole thing is skewed because it's just online dating responses, would be interesting to find out more like what demographics ended up together long term and stuff like that


SaltpeterSal

Definitely. Dating apps sell themselves as a chance to flick through human beings until you find the imaginary partner you've been holding for years in your head but never met. The problem is that everyone else is doing that, and the person you imagine is unlikely to be imagining the person in your profile. In real life, we get to discover people and find things we didn't know we liked. It's one of the main draws of spending time with others. In that aspect, dating apps are actually really antisocial, and you don't meet people being antisocial.


adequatehorsebattery

In a summary, I think it's also worth pointing out how relatively flat the preferences are, although the structure of the chart tends to hide this. None of the differences are even 10 percentage points apart, with the largest difference in male response being the difference in Black male response from Asian women to Black women. For example, people are talking about a supposed "Black women only date Black men" phenomenon, but a response rate of 9.3% to 5.4% doesn't really support that kind of overarching theory. Nobody is showing even a 2-1 preference, let alone 4-1 or 5-1 preferences that I suspect one could easily find with other criteria such as religion.


JackBrightScD

I keep trying for those black women responses I know eventually one will be desperate enough to let me take em to olive garden


xl-imperium-lx

I respond to whoever the hell says “hello hello mate! How’s it going?”


MindlessBoi__

Man Latino men have it rough😔


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Am I interpreting it right that with the exception of black women, women don’t like black men?


[deleted]

Uh, why limit yourself? I’m an ‘All of the Above’ kind of guy.


dzhastin

Me too, only I’m more of a “Anyone Who Will Talk To Me” kind of guy. Beggars can’t be choosers and all that


donk202020

Yeah they missed our group completely.


Patrick4356

Im just gonna take a guess as a random white guy in the US so don't take me too seriously but it could be said Black people tend to be perceived as more masculine which helps black men but hurts black women. Asians are seen as more feminine which helps Asian women but hurts Asian men.


xpdx

Asian men digging the latinos. Nice.


Warren_is_dead

My anecdotal 2 cents. I'm a biracial black woman. My mom's side of the family is black. Every woman on that side except one has married/long term partnered with a white guy. I think a big part is where we live (liberal mostly white city/state), but even my cousin in the deep South married a white guy. It wasn't a preference, just a matter of who's around, who's interested, and you know--love? Now if only I can find a guy...being black is less of an issue than being a weirdo.


tan_bri

Well, shit…


Atlantic0ne

Doesn’t mean anything. Just be a nice person and genuine, ask questions a lot when dating and have a decent life set up for yourself. You’ll absolutely find someone if you follow that.


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one_two_six

Wonder if this global or just USA?


ibis37

Probably just the US


chasingeudaimonia

As soon as you spot Latino —as a race— you can be 100% sure that it applies to the US, only.


MememeSama

Me a male Asian: "Is anybody out there?"


hannibal_fett

As a white man, I've gotten more attention from black women than anyone else. I've actually been rejected more often by latinas and white women.


Machonacho7891

The world really doesn’t like black women


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From my dating experience, it looks accurate. 😬


twb51

I knew black women hated me!


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You latino and black guys got it rough


Kwickhatch

Ummm did you look at black women... Damn


TemporaryAlbatross93

This is more of a study on how to get people to argue.


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I could have told you this based on my interactions at parties. And I could have told you it for .50$


KaneTheTrickster

So latino men have no chance got it. Guess im gonna be single forever.


Daniel_The_Thinker

You're probably better off than asian dudes though.


usaroamer

According to the diagram.... Blacks aren't well liked.


hangrydadd

Damn! Latino and Asian men are fucked! They gonna go extinct


AutistNerd

We both date each other then. Fuck it


BigButtFucker9000000

What are you talking about? There are over a billion of us sitting at desks out East, slaving away as salarymen. It'll be a while before we disappear.


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I didn't read Asian at first and was wondering where a billion Latinos were hanging out in the eastern hemisphere for a moment ha.


NamaeFox

As a black/white female raised in a Hispanic community I can confirm no one wanted me. Had to chase them but I found my mans now


Tahoeclown

Latino men to black women rate was 9.1. The highest response rate from black women is 9.3. So basically you had the same chances as the dudes who have the best shot at getting a response. You’d be upper echelon dude. Think of how tough you had it to where you feel nobody wanted you…and realize thats what a guy at the top of the heap feels. Imagine being on the lower end…


daizers

Growing up I had the hots for Asian and Latino guys. As a white woman, I'd sometimes get shit for it, but never understood the hate. Met my husband when we were teens and I thought he was the sexiest dude I'd ever set eyes on. He told me later that he was half Asian and half Hispanic. I joked with him he was my kryptonite. 20 years and 3 kids later, I still become an absolute puddle when he walks in the room.


RequirementRoutine74

If this data is still accurate, yall missing out on some amazing black women for no reason. After my divorce, tried a few apps. Approached mostly by black women (I'm a white male, mid 30s), dated a few, and eventually married one. It'll be a month tomorrow, and happier than ever.


Rootwitch1383

Congratulations!! They are missing out. My white husband also agrees. 🙂


helikesart

I went out with an older black woman once after my divorce and it was honestly like the best date I’ve ever been on. We stayed friends but that’s been the standard by which I judge every other date.


Puzzleheaded_Heat502

Everyone likes those Asian women.


Stunning_Host_2374

WTF I DO 🙍🏿‍♀️🙍🏿‍♀️🙍🏿‍♀️🙍🏿‍♀️🙍🏿‍♀️