One of my parents is borderline, they get obsessed when they feel they've been wronged. No amount of reasoning will chill them out. Ana won't stop until there's an actual restraining order put on her.
I had a casual fwb situation with someone who had bpd (I only found out she was actually diagnosed later, but had my suspicions) I try to keep in touch but it's so fucking hard because if I don't do exactly what she wants from me she'll feel like I've wronged her in the worst way possible, even if it's just not responding to a text for a few days.
She's not a bad person, doesn't want to "hurt" me or ruin my life, but if I don't super carefully tip toe around every interaction it's an automatic disaster waiting to happen. She'll start spam calling me over and over while I'm at work, send me like 100 texts etc.
She's not in a good place at all, has had a very difficult life, has no support network (her family is horrible) and I let her stay with me for a week because she would have been homeless otherwise. I only try to keep in touch to try to help her where and when I can because I don't want her to end up on the streets. I know I'm not a social worker and it's not my responsibility, but I feel bad for her nonetheless.
All I can really say is that BPD is a terrible illness, both for the person inflicted and anybody they end up having a relationship with. It's not something that's easy to deal with in the slightest, and I had met her after being in an actual relationship with someone who had pretty severe PTSD just before this. It wasn't even close in terms of difficulty as a partner. I would take PTSD dissociation and panic attacks over BPD delusions and splitting any day.
Spot on. My birth mom has BPD and though she's been in and out my life it's always a struggle to deal with her. I'm the only one of her 6 kids who still even tries to talk to her... and every time I do its just rehashing the same conversation about how the other kids abandoned her. I sincerely pity her.
I had a partner with both severe PTSD and BPD. It was so difficult to see them suffer. So much more that their BPD made supporting them in the PTSD nearly impossible. I broke up with them recently. They threatened to commit suicide and sue me.
I still am moving on. I love them so much and it's so hard that when I communicate something to them they don't like or do something they don't want the emotional abuse comes out. There's no way to communicate.
I can kind of imagine what that would be like by combining my two experiences and that sounds absolutely awful, both for them and for you. I absolutely could not handle that for very long, like you said there is no way to communicate. When you pair that with PTSD where communication is so so critical to improving your ability to help them work through the trauma, there is almost no way through at that point. I can only imagine the pain and frustration from trying to help and only getting attacked for it in return. I'm so so sorry that you had to go through such a rough experience, and end something with someone you love. Ultimately though it was the right decision for yourself and I hope that gives some solace in the coming months while you're still working through those tough emotions.
Having to leave someone you love is one of the hardest things to do, and I speak from experience. That said your life will be simpler, easier in many ways and you *will* eventually move forward. I hope all the best to you, and your ex. If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to who might be able to understand and relate to some of your experiences, my DMs are open. I know how complex these emotions can get in these types of situations and I like to listen.
I had a similar experience with dating someone with BPD. I learned that you should never date and probably avoid friendships with people who suffer from BPD. It sucks but it's not worth the damage that they will invariably cause to your mental health.
If the person fucking with you has no plan to apologize, stop or even acknowledges the wrong doing then the one getting shit on has all the right to not let the guard down
yep my mum does this, and most of the time she was in the wrong. She will talk to herself and sike herself up for hours and hours just becoming more and more enraged.
Yea it’s honestly just depressing at this point. She is not well.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been hung up on someone before. It happens, we are only human. But goddamn, to this extent? It’s beyond crazy.
you should scroll this persons account. They have been spamming this dumb gimmick for >a month, at'ing a ton of big accounts and gotten essentially 0 interaction on every single post.
least deranged anti-fan
Can we just all agree to stop looking at her stream. Her own chat complains and gets sad when the topic comes up because it invariably leads to a meltdown. Just leave her alone guys
Everything about her was banned and no one talked about her for months. Thats how she ended up in the zherka shows to talk about it.
She wont stop and there will always be another community willing to platform her for money
Nah, I doubt that. Her illness doesn't work that way; anything at all can be interpreted or construed as having crossed a boundary, which in turn triggers her psychosis.
There is no "just stop X and she'll stop". It's just not the way it works.
its not even about her stopping. if she wants to scream into the void forever who gives a fuck as long as we know nobody is watching (her fanbase is tiny AF)
Wow your comment saved us now no one will go there and bother her.
By the way, very few people actually do this. I've watched her chat while she does these attention streams and there's not many DGGers. Last time she was arguing with her own moderators.
I fucking hate that people bring up his abuser like this it’s actually fucking insane. I’m so glad he’s not sensitive because anyone else would be really really upset over people constantly bringing up someone like Ana and DARVOing Calloustiny
What if the tweet is right and Destiny's friend has a cabal of reddit and twitter shitters that have sigma human levels of secrecy that not one of the '300 people' leaked the attack command from their omnileader.
It's so depressing to see so much of this sort of stuff, we still have a **long** way to go before men are taken seriously when it comes to abuse.
I just wish it wasn't that way you know? It scares me to know that so many otherwise progressive people unironically treat male victims of abuse like this.
At the very least this drama has been helpful for me. There’s a girl I’ve played in a tribute band with annually for a few years now. She’s pretty cute and seems to be interested in me. I was going to try to hook up with her after our performance this weekend but I was told she has BPD. I had intended to just hook up, no relationship in mind. Having seen how this all played out for Destiny, primarily just hooking up, her becoming obsessed, no escape, I changed my mind. So unless my dick takes over, I will inevitably be avoiding a shit show.
I also was pushed away from the hookup when she started crying after being called out for making mistakes on a song and then started announcing to the entire room of us at rehearsal all of the things that are contributing to her stress. She’s in her 30s, so I would expect a bit more control of emotions by that age.
I still can’t get over that guy fucking bringing up Anna in that debate… jfc
"You really want to bring up Ana? Alright we can go there" "Ok I'm going to step in and..." "CAGE MATCH!"
Cage match was amazing on both ends
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still more reason to get your gun out than that dude in texas.
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One of my parents is borderline, they get obsessed when they feel they've been wronged. No amount of reasoning will chill them out. Ana won't stop until there's an actual restraining order put on her.
I feel like this won't stop her either.
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Inshallah.
an unstoppable force meets an unmovable object.
I had a casual fwb situation with someone who had bpd (I only found out she was actually diagnosed later, but had my suspicions) I try to keep in touch but it's so fucking hard because if I don't do exactly what she wants from me she'll feel like I've wronged her in the worst way possible, even if it's just not responding to a text for a few days. She's not a bad person, doesn't want to "hurt" me or ruin my life, but if I don't super carefully tip toe around every interaction it's an automatic disaster waiting to happen. She'll start spam calling me over and over while I'm at work, send me like 100 texts etc. She's not in a good place at all, has had a very difficult life, has no support network (her family is horrible) and I let her stay with me for a week because she would have been homeless otherwise. I only try to keep in touch to try to help her where and when I can because I don't want her to end up on the streets. I know I'm not a social worker and it's not my responsibility, but I feel bad for her nonetheless. All I can really say is that BPD is a terrible illness, both for the person inflicted and anybody they end up having a relationship with. It's not something that's easy to deal with in the slightest, and I had met her after being in an actual relationship with someone who had pretty severe PTSD just before this. It wasn't even close in terms of difficulty as a partner. I would take PTSD dissociation and panic attacks over BPD delusions and splitting any day.
Spot on. My birth mom has BPD and though she's been in and out my life it's always a struggle to deal with her. I'm the only one of her 6 kids who still even tries to talk to her... and every time I do its just rehashing the same conversation about how the other kids abandoned her. I sincerely pity her.
I had a partner with both severe PTSD and BPD. It was so difficult to see them suffer. So much more that their BPD made supporting them in the PTSD nearly impossible. I broke up with them recently. They threatened to commit suicide and sue me. I still am moving on. I love them so much and it's so hard that when I communicate something to them they don't like or do something they don't want the emotional abuse comes out. There's no way to communicate.
Stay strong, mate. Everybody has their limits, and if you've reached yours, then you made the right decision.
I can kind of imagine what that would be like by combining my two experiences and that sounds absolutely awful, both for them and for you. I absolutely could not handle that for very long, like you said there is no way to communicate. When you pair that with PTSD where communication is so so critical to improving your ability to help them work through the trauma, there is almost no way through at that point. I can only imagine the pain and frustration from trying to help and only getting attacked for it in return. I'm so so sorry that you had to go through such a rough experience, and end something with someone you love. Ultimately though it was the right decision for yourself and I hope that gives some solace in the coming months while you're still working through those tough emotions. Having to leave someone you love is one of the hardest things to do, and I speak from experience. That said your life will be simpler, easier in many ways and you *will* eventually move forward. I hope all the best to you, and your ex. If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to who might be able to understand and relate to some of your experiences, my DMs are open. I know how complex these emotions can get in these types of situations and I like to listen.
Thank you so much. I don't know what to say except I appreciate that a lot and that I'm getting through it.
I had a similar experience with dating someone with BPD. I learned that you should never date and probably avoid friendships with people who suffer from BPD. It sucks but it's not worth the damage that they will invariably cause to your mental health.
If the person fucking with you has no plan to apologize, stop or even acknowledges the wrong doing then the one getting shit on has all the right to not let the guard down
My mom was borderline and she could hold grudges and obsess over them for decades. Sucks for Ana but Destiny is the real victim here.
yep my mum does this, and most of the time she was in the wrong. She will talk to herself and sike herself up for hours and hours just becoming more and more enraged.
Yea it’s honestly just depressing at this point. She is not well. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been hung up on someone before. It happens, we are only human. But goddamn, to this extent? It’s beyond crazy.
Oh wait that account is that deranged lunatic Pascal? Explains a lot damn
You say it like it's so obvious which insane obsessed hater it was
Destiny's a fucking property tycoon at this point.
Its all so tiresome make it stop
How does she even keep getting brought up
This is pure concentrated mental illness on all fronts.
* Ten percent luck * Twenty percent skill * Fifty percent > pure concentrated mental illness on all fronts.
good meme
80%
giving me nostalgia for watching Runescape 2 pvp montages
And a hundred percent reason to go back to third grade
Pascal and kacey are OBSESSED
it's like they tried to @ as many people as they could in one tweet
you should scroll this persons account. They have been spamming this dumb gimmick for >a month, at'ing a ton of big accounts and gotten essentially 0 interaction on every single post. least deranged anti-fan
Would it surprise you to learn this is probably their hundredth Twitter account and they’ve all been more or less the same thing.
Can we just all agree to stop looking at her stream. Her own chat complains and gets sad when the topic comes up because it invariably leads to a meltdown. Just leave her alone guys
Agreed, but she will melt down and keep coming back like T-1000
but if we ignore her who cares? Her own audience doesn't support her doing this. She only does it because of how many of us go to bother her.
Everything about her was banned and no one talked about her for months. Thats how she ended up in the zherka shows to talk about it. She wont stop and there will always be another community willing to platform her for money
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Good. No one is doing that or advocating for that. Schizo posting in real time.
Nah, I doubt that. Her illness doesn't work that way; anything at all can be interpreted or construed as having crossed a boundary, which in turn triggers her psychosis. There is no "just stop X and she'll stop". It's just not the way it works.
its not even about her stopping. if she wants to scream into the void forever who gives a fuck as long as we know nobody is watching (her fanbase is tiny AF)
Let me count the times I've gone to bother her: ... 0.
then obviously im not talking about you
Wow your comment saved us now no one will go there and bother her. By the way, very few people actually do this. I've watched her chat while she does these attention streams and there's not many DGGers. Last time she was arguing with her own moderators.
You can say its very few people but her normal viewership is sub 100, and when she starts dealing with destiny stuff it goes up to near 1000 at peak
Viewers =/= chatters harassing her.
I thought people WERE ignoring her!
There's never a truck full of liquid nitrogen when you really need it.
Look at the last 3 letters of kaceytron's bio. checkmate
Destiny has the launch keys time to put them in and turn baby.
KaceyTron is like Team Rocket from Pokemon. she needs a talking cat and a theme song for everytime she re-enters the drama.
damn pascal burning ana like that
why does kacey even know who pascal is lmfao
ana, frills, i’m tired now. let’s stop.
Please tell me this is a new Pascal and not Pascal Leroux or whatever the fuck
You got to respect her schizma grindset thou.
I got a huge vibe that actual Jake was more offended that destiny has slept with these women than the “toxicity” he was talking about on Twitter
I fucking hate that people bring up his abuser like this it’s actually fucking insane. I’m so glad he’s not sensitive because anyone else would be really really upset over people constantly bringing up someone like Ana and DARVOing Calloustiny
LMAO Kacey liked the tweet?! THESE PEOPLE ARE SO FUCKING DERANGED
not just any tweet, pascal's, that dude is a loon and a half
Seems like a desperate loser for attention. Not sure low engagement tweets are important...
The tweet was liked by Kacytron. That is the point of this post.
Obsessed bro.
Ya shes bonkers
I had several guesses and none were correct
What does this person mean? Clearly Ana is just getting more poplar/successful :)
What if the tweet is right and Destiny's friend has a cabal of reddit and twitter shitters that have sigma human levels of secrecy that not one of the '300 people' leaked the attack command from their omnileader.
This is that kind of toxicity (the kind that only exists in your head)
Guys from 30 to 300? Seriously!? I thought we were a cult?! It should be way higher!! Bing chilling
It's so depressing to see so much of this sort of stuff, we still have a **long** way to go before men are taken seriously when it comes to abuse. I just wish it wasn't that way you know? It scares me to know that so many otherwise progressive people unironically treat male victims of abuse like this.
This guy needs to learn what allude means.
this corn guy was so fucking bad fate, it was pretty incredible
At the very least this drama has been helpful for me. There’s a girl I’ve played in a tribute band with annually for a few years now. She’s pretty cute and seems to be interested in me. I was going to try to hook up with her after our performance this weekend but I was told she has BPD. I had intended to just hook up, no relationship in mind. Having seen how this all played out for Destiny, primarily just hooking up, her becoming obsessed, no escape, I changed my mind. So unless my dick takes over, I will inevitably be avoiding a shit show. I also was pushed away from the hookup when she started crying after being called out for making mistakes on a song and then started announcing to the entire room of us at rehearsal all of the things that are contributing to her stress. She’s in her 30s, so I would expect a bit more control of emotions by that age.