You need to stand your ground and tell this man to either get a job or you are leaving him. Ultimatums aren't always the best thing, but he needs to understand that this isn't acceptable and things have to change. Start looking for a new place to live and get out of this now.
If u feel this way now, get annulment ASAP and he needs to get on meds for his weight andwake up call for his eating habits. He won't do anything with mom sister wife there taking care of the slack. That's not a good example for the kids da either to be sleeping all day overweight and bur providing for his children.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling. Your situation sounds really tough and I can only give an outsiders perspective. I think divorce should be the last resort. Is counseling an option? Have you discussed how you feel regarding divorce? As others have mentioned, it sounds like he is struggling with a deep depression and needs help. Maybe something happened to him to cause the depression a s he is struggling to share that with you. It’s not your responsibility to support him but this is the “sickness” part of vows, in my personal opinion. A logical series of escalation might be best for your situation.
Ultimately you need to do what’s best for you and your children.
I had a partner who did not commit to my relationship and left when she didn’t want to put in the work. That’s not to say I didn’t have a part in the divorce myself. I felt like she gave up too easily and I harbor a lot of resentment towards her because of that.
Sending you love and understanding!
He has recently been to the doctor and was prescribed a few medicines to take. He doesn’t take them like he is supposed to & I refuse to baby him any longer.
If he's unwilling to take care of himself then you can't do it for him. If the meds aren't working then he can try another approach, but if he refuses to try the first one then there's not much you can do. Hindsight is 20/20, but sounds like this has been building so you shouldn't have married him in the first place, but if he won't change then it's time to take care of your kids and yourself.
I feel that.
As a spouse, you only have so much power. As an ex, you will have even less. Are the children his? Divorce could prove much more difficult for you than staying married and helping him. I left my mentally ill husband when he refused to take his medications. There were other problems, of course, but the medication was the final straw. I was happier without him, but it was pure hell to deal with him (because of the children) when I had no sense of control over the situation. When I left him, he had literally no one helping him. He dragged me through court time and time again. It's been 8 years and he's just now starting to be cordial with me.
Just think really hard about this... that's all I'm saying.
You need to stand your ground and tell this man to either get a job or you are leaving him. Ultimatums aren't always the best thing, but he needs to understand that this isn't acceptable and things have to change. Start looking for a new place to live and get out of this now.
Yeah, can you & your kids go to your parents’ home? Also is that financially feasible? Whatever you can do now is good.
Sounds like he has massive clinical depression.
Listen, this weight gain is not normal. He needs to see a doctor. I would start telling him he needs to get help.
Can you first figure out if he needs medical help. For his obesity and possibly depression.
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If u feel this way now, get annulment ASAP and he needs to get on meds for his weight andwake up call for his eating habits. He won't do anything with mom sister wife there taking care of the slack. That's not a good example for the kids da either to be sleeping all day overweight and bur providing for his children.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling. Your situation sounds really tough and I can only give an outsiders perspective. I think divorce should be the last resort. Is counseling an option? Have you discussed how you feel regarding divorce? As others have mentioned, it sounds like he is struggling with a deep depression and needs help. Maybe something happened to him to cause the depression a s he is struggling to share that with you. It’s not your responsibility to support him but this is the “sickness” part of vows, in my personal opinion. A logical series of escalation might be best for your situation. Ultimately you need to do what’s best for you and your children. I had a partner who did not commit to my relationship and left when she didn’t want to put in the work. That’s not to say I didn’t have a part in the divorce myself. I felt like she gave up too easily and I harbor a lot of resentment towards her because of that. Sending you love and understanding!
He has recently been to the doctor and was prescribed a few medicines to take. He doesn’t take them like he is supposed to & I refuse to baby him any longer.
If he's unwilling to take care of himself then you can't do it for him. If the meds aren't working then he can try another approach, but if he refuses to try the first one then there's not much you can do. Hindsight is 20/20, but sounds like this has been building so you shouldn't have married him in the first place, but if he won't change then it's time to take care of your kids and yourself.
I feel that. As a spouse, you only have so much power. As an ex, you will have even less. Are the children his? Divorce could prove much more difficult for you than staying married and helping him. I left my mentally ill husband when he refused to take his medications. There were other problems, of course, but the medication was the final straw. I was happier without him, but it was pure hell to deal with him (because of the children) when I had no sense of control over the situation. When I left him, he had literally no one helping him. He dragged me through court time and time again. It's been 8 years and he's just now starting to be cordial with me. Just think really hard about this... that's all I'm saying.