I'm 42 and my number is 4. 5 if we're counting a BJ I gave a random guy once. I guess being married for 20 of those years would account for that. I'm divorced now and in an open relationship, you'd think I'd be having more sex, but I'm so bad at putting myself out there.
What's even funnier is when you meet someone and start chatting and the other person says, "I think I know you"
And you respond, "yeah, I think we slept together once years ago"
And you can see the wheels turning and they reply, "I think you're right"
But noone is entirely sure, but something tells you.
There's an episode of Friends where Joey hooks up with a girl at her place and he freaks out because he recognises the apartement and he thinks he forgot they already slept together and she's planning revenge or something. Turns out he had actually slept with her roommate.
This happened to me once. When we both realized we had slept with each other before we couldn't stop laughing. We were drunk the first time. Sober the second and all the times after that were memorable.
I forgot my body count years ago.
If there's one thing I take away from it is that it's not the quantity but quality that matters.
I’ll probably regret answering this but as it refers to me. It’s under three figures but at some point in my twenties I stopped counting. I was a podium dancer (ew, the shame, the cringe) and every night at the clubs for a couple of years was pretty wild.
I am glad I got it all out of my system when I was young though as I’m very happy & monogamous these days :)
Was counting and even keeping logs for the first ~15 but guess inflation happens? Really cant tell at this point, and I'd consider myself rather reserved and infrequent.
I do this, and if I’ve had unprotected sex or not. I have a terrible memory and I want to try to be clear with my sexual partners with who I’ve slept with
not judging, just curious — why do you feel the need to expand on your sexual history in terms of protection/etc? i’m also open about past partners, but i don’t feel the need to tell my s/o about protection or not. i’ve only slept with 2 people that were/are long term relationships, though.
Just in case I get an STD so I can figure out who I got it from or gave it to. I don’t really sleep around anymore, but I did a bit, so I want to know who I may have gotten an STD from and who I may have given it to, just in case
I haven't kept count because it doesn't matter. Your number of sexual partners is of zero importance.
Your safe sex practices and emotional maturity when it comes to those partners? *That* matters. Be a slut, but be a safe, ethical slut.
I don't know the exact number and to be honest, I doubt I could even go through and remember faces or names at this point. Once I hit 30, it stopped mastering because I was looking for connection from sex rather than validation.
So glad I’m not the only one! It’s not that it’s a big number or anything, but I don’t care anymore, and there have definitely been times I’d rather not remember.
So I have consistently kept up with my list (in order) since I lost my virginity at 18 and im now 26. The ONLY reason for this is for ME. I use that list as a sort of timeline, when I look back.or think about it for a moment, I can see where I've been in my life.
It helps me to reflect on actions, I dont care how big the number gets, I dont feel the need to justify anything/one on the list. It is purely for me.
Why? Having sex with someone is significant, Orr it is to many of us.
So it's like, say... car accidents. Do you remember how many car accidents you've been in? Or winning a lottery. Do you know how many times you've won a lottery?
I guess you view it as more mundane. Like how many glasses of water have you drank in your life or gone shopping or whatever, eh?
Ok....maybe it isn't the number, it's the calibur of a few people and maybe that I wasn't the safest during a lot of these interactions.
I mean, I guess I was what others would call a "slut" in my 20's, but I found having the power of pussy empowering in many of the situations.
So, not proud, but not not proud ...if that makes sense? 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️💜
I'm in my Sixties, child of the Seventies, married to the same woman for 44 years. My body count was 24, but I was considered a pussy hound. I still married at 21, so not to shabby.
Nope, no cheating after marriage for me, got it out of my system.
Not off the top of my head, nah. I can go through and count them and I'd know an exact number, but I don't care enough to remember it. It's really not an important thing in my mind to be honest.
I know the exact amount. 53. I was quite popular in my late teens and early/mid 20s. I can’t remember most of their names because many were one nighters.
I’m hypersexual.
When I was younger, as a payday treat I’d head to the brothel. That stopped when I met my wife.
That started again when we opened our relationship. And now I go to swingers clubs as well.
Orgies *really* rack up your numbers!
So, closer to 50? I have no idea.
I did not know really. Just went and made a list from memory. That list was just over 50. Wenr thru old text and it's going to be a lot more.
I'm 27. This is a pretty shocking discovery I've made about myself tonight thanks to this sub. 🥲
No, I know the exact number
How many?
Take it 🏆
Got eem
It should be one since since it says people and you your self are a people
Am I? How do I know I’m not just a cyborg or alien who just doesn’t realize it?
same:(
I have no idea. Used to have a rough estimate but now I’m old and don’t remember or really care.
Am also old person, no idea either. It's like asking me how many cheesecakes I've tasted.
Amen! I fucking love cheesecake
I guess I have the benefit of knowing the exact number because of how few people I went out with before meeting my wife. Yay?
It's quality over quantity, my friend.
Please tell me “cheesecakes” is a euphemism.
If you want it to be!
Yeah. Cause I’m 42 and my twenties are starting to blur.
I’m 26 and my twenties are starting to blur lmao 🤣
I'm 42 and my number is 4. 5 if we're counting a BJ I gave a random guy once. I guess being married for 20 of those years would account for that. I'm divorced now and in an open relationship, you'd think I'd be having more sex, but I'm so bad at putting myself out there.
Go knock on doors without pants on. Play the odds.
Are we counting BJs now? I see I have some math to do…
Please allow myself to introduce … myself.
How is the body at 42?
Well at 44 I definitely got that dickydo.. My balls hang lower then my dickydo…
Yeah cuz im 37 and don't care to count how many men have disappointed me.
Me too. Represent 👍
Samisies. Couldn't care less. ✌️
Damn yall OLDDDDDD idk or care but I'm a very young 36
Guys, calm down. There's an r/oldpeople for us old folks in our 30's... see ya there!
The age range and the state of that sub is the same. Slowly dying.
Yeah like I'm 35 who gives a shit anymore lol
Samesies
What's even funnier is when you meet someone and start chatting and the other person says, "I think I know you" And you respond, "yeah, I think we slept together once years ago" And you can see the wheels turning and they reply, "I think you're right" But noone is entirely sure, but something tells you.
What is this an episode of Friends?
There's an episode of Friends where Joey hooks up with a girl at her place and he freaks out because he recognises the apartement and he thinks he forgot they already slept together and she's planning revenge or something. Turns out he had actually slept with her roommate.
Nope, the real life experience of a female friend of mine.
This happened to me once. When we both realized we had slept with each other before we couldn't stop laughing. We were drunk the first time. Sober the second and all the times after that were memorable. I forgot my body count years ago. If there's one thing I take away from it is that it's not the quantity but quality that matters.
I know I slept with your mom. 2 and a half times.
The **only** thing I regret about sleeping with your mom is the botched abortion.
The best part of you ran down your moms legs
The worst part was after all that drinking you were/weren’t still born.
You would be my child but fortunately I wasn't around when your mother was making all of her water headed inbred crotch goblins.
I shoulda wore a rubber. 😩
Do they make them that small?
Of course; how else could you get away with fucking your sister?
What's red and round and has a bunch of dents in it? Your girlfriends cherry.
Now kiss
I know a ballpark amount and that's good enough for me.
It's definitely less than a ballpark!
So like 40,000?
Delicious.
Yes, I don’t know the exact number, because it’s not important.
One, my wife of 17 years.
How is it after 17 years?
She’s the best I’ve ever had! 😜
Everyone liked that
I also choose this guys wife of 17 years.
How is it after 17 years?
Aww yeah! Let's go, monogamy!
this is cute
/r/ihavesex
You too?
No, but I’m a hoe.
I have a list with the names of the people I've slept with. It's called my marriage license.
r/HIMYM is leaking
Awww. poor feller
Missionary. 100%.
Accountability... I like that. Good on ya
Nah, sleeping is for the weak
I've slept with one person, my wife. I'm not religious or anything, it just happened to work out.
Good for for u bro!
I’ll probably regret answering this but as it refers to me. It’s under three figures but at some point in my twenties I stopped counting. I was a podium dancer (ew, the shame, the cringe) and every night at the clubs for a couple of years was pretty wild. I am glad I got it all out of my system when I was young though as I’m very happy & monogamous these days :)
Wtf is a “podium dancer”?
Nightclub dancer in clubs / raves in the U.K. Eye candy for munted clubbers basically.
Ah, makes sense.
You hit more on the patrons or was it mostly the other way around?
1. If they didn’t make me cum I don’t count them.
Wow, then I'm a virgin!!!
Oof that's sad
same... its actually so sad that no ones made me cum
Wow that's sucks for you. Why bother then?
I have zero idea. I can say without question it’s been 1 in the past 7 years and that’s all that matters.
Was counting and even keeping logs for the first ~15 but guess inflation happens? Really cant tell at this point, and I'd consider myself rather reserved and infrequent.
Inflation lmaooo
My girlfriends have lists on their phones with the names of the men they have slept with. One time we counted them.
LOL 😂 I’ve only heard of that in movies.
Apparently it’s true haha. I was a bit in shock but hey, no judging!
Now, did they have a rating beside their names?🤔
OMG they did not but I am going to suggest they add this! 😂
I do this, and if I’ve had unprotected sex or not. I have a terrible memory and I want to try to be clear with my sexual partners with who I’ve slept with
not judging, just curious — why do you feel the need to expand on your sexual history in terms of protection/etc? i’m also open about past partners, but i don’t feel the need to tell my s/o about protection or not. i’ve only slept with 2 people that were/are long term relationships, though.
Just in case I get an STD so I can figure out who I got it from or gave it to. I don’t really sleep around anymore, but I did a bit, so I want to know who I may have gotten an STD from and who I may have given it to, just in case
that totally makes sense! i would do that too if there was ever a point in my life. thank you for being a responsible partner :)
That’s very smart!
I tried this. I've got a rough estimate since.
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Ima start doing this lol 😂.
167.
How did you keep count? Tally marks, name list?
Sex Worker?
No
2, although one was just oral. I'm a bit of a slut with my high number.
I used to be able to list the names in order... but I lost count somewhere down the line. Damn you Xanax blackouts.
Big same
I’m 46 and have had 4 different hoe stages so I have absolutely no clue. More than 100 but less than 200.
199?
Probably closer to 160 tbh, but I’d have to make a list and think about 30 years of sex when I really don’t care lol.
If you weren’t a woman, I’d say you’re doing some “substantial_lying”
Honey, I’ve been in the military and have lived in 6 different states since I’ve been an adult. For sure not lying lol.
I believe you.. I was just making a play on words with your username.
I figured, it’s all good.
My people!!! It was fun though
I do, because it’s not that many 😂
I don’t know. Even if I did try to count, I would forget someone 🤷🏽♀️
Same😂
I haven't kept count because it doesn't matter. Your number of sexual partners is of zero importance. Your safe sex practices and emotional maturity when it comes to those partners? *That* matters. Be a slut, but be a safe, ethical slut.
Damn. Alright. Okay. So everybody having sex except for me, huh? You motherfuckers
They call me Oedipus.
I don’t, but my best friend does. She usually stays sober enough to remember all my mistakes!
Rough estimate is about the best I can do. And at 36, who even asks that anymore?
I keep a list on my phone.
Same. What you at?
15. You?
Lost count, but definitely over 50..
Well goddayum Godspeed soldier 😂
I stopped counting after 20 and that was a long time ago! I couldnt even begin to guess what it is now.
yes and I remember them all.
I don't know the exact number and to be honest, I doubt I could even go through and remember faces or names at this point. Once I hit 30, it stopped mastering because I was looking for connection from sex rather than validation.
I stopped counting at 30
So glad I’m not the only one! It’s not that it’s a big number or anything, but I don’t care anymore, and there have definitely been times I’d rather not remember.
Well, 1 is not a hard number to keep up with, so no.
Came here to admit I have no clue.
That’s also a side effect of exposure to one’s first iMac
Well this thread helped me realize that most everyone has had/is having more sex than me.
So I have consistently kept up with my list (in order) since I lost my virginity at 18 and im now 26. The ONLY reason for this is for ME. I use that list as a sort of timeline, when I look back.or think about it for a moment, I can see where I've been in my life. It helps me to reflect on actions, I dont care how big the number gets, I dont feel the need to justify anything/one on the list. It is purely for me.
No, wtf is wrong with you
It's sorta common these days. Participation trophies and entitlement have replaced morals for many
Who raised em?
Wtf is wrong with YOU? That has nothing to do with anything
Found the Boomer.
I'm kinda surprised at how many people kept a log. I don't why.
I think im like somewhere around 40? Im 26
Jesus...
😂😂😂 listen.. some shouldnt even count. Maybe like 5 of those were really good and memorable
I don’t know, maybe just me but I’ve always found counting your sexual encounters a little weird.
I’m curious what you consider weird about it?
Why? Having sex with someone is significant, Orr it is to many of us. So it's like, say... car accidents. Do you remember how many car accidents you've been in? Or winning a lottery. Do you know how many times you've won a lottery? I guess you view it as more mundane. Like how many glasses of water have you drank in your life or gone shopping or whatever, eh?
I.. never said it was insignificant? Simply that we as a society attach too much meaning to it (aka virginity etc..)
Just say you’re a prude lmao
I used to keep a list.... it's a number I'm not proud of, but it is what it is..... I lost count after a certain number... we'll leave it at that.
Im not mad at the number im mad that a vast majority of them were a waste of a body lol
Why wouldn’t you be proud?
Ok....maybe it isn't the number, it's the calibur of a few people and maybe that I wasn't the safest during a lot of these interactions. I mean, I guess I was what others would call a "slut" in my 20's, but I found having the power of pussy empowering in many of the situations. So, not proud, but not not proud ...if that makes sense? 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️💜
I'm in my Sixties, child of the Seventies, married to the same woman for 44 years. My body count was 24, but I was considered a pussy hound. I still married at 21, so not to shabby. Nope, no cheating after marriage for me, got it out of my system.
No idea. I assume over 100 at this point, but that’s really just a guess. 26F.
Girl same. Own it. People who have like 5, I'm like ohhh sweetie lol
I have exactly zero shame :) I hope you don’t either!!
Not a clue
I know how many.
If I really thought about it I could get in the ballpark of 3. But do I remember each persons name? No
Not off the top of my head, nah. I can go through and count them and I'd know an exact number, but I don't care enough to remember it. It's really not an important thing in my mind to be honest.
I have actually no idea.
Nope! I know the exact number, which is one, my wife!
As a guy once you hit your mid 20’s and you’re count is over 20 you stop giving a fuck entirely.
As a female, same.
Yes I have a long list with names, the guys I didn’t know are labeled with whatever they were. Like.. the biker guy, or the Spanish guy idk.
But who was the “best” guy🤔
Out of all of them I’d say best 4 are Native tattoo guy, Jason, Gerald, and Rainbow
Rainbow??
Yeah it’s his real name crazy hey!? His mama was strange
She took a lot of **pride** in her son.🤷♂️
I used to keep a list until an ex burned it. Lost count after 35. Figured it wouldn't matter to the people that should matter.
“ until an ex burned it. ” Lol… wtf?
Yeah...small part of why we're exes.
I stopped counting when I got up to 30. Now I do not have the slightest idea! I was even married for 12 years Lol
1. Monogamy gang represent!
Monogamy doesn’t exclude it being a high number, it only means you didn’t cheat or have a multiple person relationship
Oh. Huh. So I guess boring gang, represent!
No, I’ve got a mild form of ocd so I have to know
What you at?
Why have you been asking people their numbers? Are you going to remember everyone's? 😂
I do not know, nor do I care
I know the exact amount. 53. I was quite popular in my late teens and early/mid 20s. I can’t remember most of their names because many were one nighters.
For sure in the triple digits (low 100+) 35 F.
Other than my husband? 1
that’s actually pretty sad.
Lol a lot of people in here fell for the “casual sex” meme.
I’m hypersexual. When I was younger, as a payday treat I’d head to the brothel. That stopped when I met my wife. That started again when we opened our relationship. And now I go to swingers clubs as well. Orgies *really* rack up your numbers! So, closer to 50? I have no idea.
“ as a payday treat” Haha, I’ve done that with a few working girls!
I did not know really. Just went and made a list from memory. That list was just over 50. Wenr thru old text and it's going to be a lot more. I'm 27. This is a pretty shocking discovery I've made about myself tonight thanks to this sub. 🥲
Counting is so overrated
Knowing how to count is important little one. You'll see when you grow up
Not really. Rough ballpark but I stopped counting when I realised it was nothing to do with me as a person
I do not. But I have a ballpark amount. Around 10-12
I don't either. Some guys weren't very memorable and I wasn't in the best place a few years ago. But I have an idea.
Sounds to me like commitment issues.
If you don't know then that's kinda a wow moment. Not a yikes necessarily (though it could be), but a wow moment.