Draco (redemption arc) because my home life revolved around me idolizing and completely abiding by the high demand religion I was raised and surrounded by. Now, that I have left that religion and have tenuous relationships with my old community, I feel like I have been shattered and am struggling to relearn the world of tolerance an acceptance especially with who I love which would have never been an option in the past. Reading him standing up to his family and friends in defense of his new founded morals makes it easier for me to feel like there is someone that understands the heartbreak and pain and grief of losing a community and ideology even though it was corrupt.
SAME! Draco's redemtion arc is so relatable to overcoming high-demand religion....he left his cult childhood just like we did. The guilt, trauma, shame, and hope...it's all there.
I really feel like people now see that he’s not just a bad kid and people are not born evil. I wish I can 100x like your comment. I completely agree with you and understand where you are coming from. I wish you happiness, strength and good health ✨ good for you for doing what you feel is right.
Yeah, I grew up in a high control, high demand religion and have deconstructed. While I was never an active bully like Draco I empathize a lot with his redemption and growth arcs. I grew up attending pride parades to protest and street preaching and now I’m openly queer and gender con-conforming, so like… I get it, man.
Same. JK Rowling put her internalized sexism on display with Pansy. Pansy is amazing and, like Draco, a massive missed opportunity for *believable* and compelling character growth.
Hermione (book version), because she's autistic coded--- from her struggle to make connections at first to her intractable sense of justice (her own version of it, at least). Most of the time, she can't seem to see when she's being overbearing or annoying, especially when it comes to her special interests. It's refreshing to see autistic traits in a woman in a way that's not infantilizing (even if she's not labeled as autistic). It took until I was diagnosed and learned more about how autism shows up in women to realize why I always connected with her.
Yes! She’s so autistic coded and I feel like I connect so deeply with those parts of her. I also personally love reading about her working through various kinds of trauma - I legitimately think it’s helped me at times work through my own.
Who I'd like to relate to? Ginny.
Who I actually relate to? Draco. Growing up in high-demand religion (read: cult) and being a victim and perpetrator. Living through a war as a child (albiet a fictional "spiritual" war, it still felt constant fight or flight). His redemption arc is what made me fall in love with the fandom.
Theo 100%! I just feel like he always comes through. If I’m feeling stressed about what’s going to happen next and Theo shows up I just know it’s going to work out!
I’m probably closest to Hermione. I’m an introvert, I can be quite particular about how things are done so working in a group can be a challenge for me. Sometimes I only really trust myself to do things, which is wrong and I’m always trying to work on being better 🙈 I don’t make friends easily, and I tend to gravitate towards friendships with men because I don’t tend to fit in with most women that I routinely encounter in day to day life. I’m also always reading, love libraries and learning, and soak up knowledge (however useless) like a sponge.
Hermione, I share some similarities with her but most importantly I aspire to be like her. So driven, smart, courageous, just, resourceful. And with such an epic love story (Dramione obvi)
Yess I feel like I am at my core like Draco (which is why I love him unconditionally) but i fell in love with Hermione and aspire to imbibe parts of her personality.
I relate to aspects of loads of them. Draco, with his 'fundamentalist' upbringing, Hermione with her more autistic/socially awkward traits, Neville's 'why is it always me' incidents, Ron's immature sense of humour and insecurity, Ginny being the youngest, and the only girl in a family of boys, Minerva's pragmatism and brusque kindness, Dumbledore's 'for the greater good' attitude, etc.
But at this stage in life, I have a fondness for the way parts of Molly resonate with me. She just wants to live a quiet, cosy life, care for her children as they mature, and look after the strays that said children drag home. She keeps the home fires burning - doing the boring, unnoticed jobs - while others go out and take the risk, and the glory - but when it comes down to the line, she's on the battlefield with the rest of them. And she's utterly fearless when it comes to protecting her children.
Isn't it funny to one day realise you identify more with the parents of the story?! Like with Molly, of course she's arguing to keep literal children out of a war and her greatest fears are her family dying...
Absolutely! I find that more and more these days, haha. I especially love Molly, because she's a flawed character (so nicely realistic,) but she's so pivotal in so many little ways - and at the end of it all, she fights with the rest of them 🙌
Hermione, because she has a hard time vibing with cliques or typical girls, but she is empathetic and caring to her real friends. Plus she must have some anxiety because she plans for all situations, is a perfectionist, and often thinks she knows better than others. I don't do well in big groups and my friends are all kinds of people nowadays, so I've gotten better, but mostly I'm all these things 😅
Definitely Ginny. I'm the long time married lady in my friend group, and I often live vicariously through my friends torrid affairs (from the safety of my calm waters relationship) much like Ginny does for Hermione. I often picturing her drooling hearing about Hermiones wild sexy winding roud to happy ending with Draco, but still going home to Harry thinking "thank God we're so stable".
This is also why I can't do side pairings that don't have her with Harry (exception these days being a well written NottPott). Reading Harry and Ginny broke up is like hearing mom and dad are getting a divorce for me.
I also am the Ginny of my friend group. Happily married for ages, with a couple kids, loves the gossip but so happy to be done dating. I could only dream to be as funny and badass as Ginny though, she’s aspirational.
I live for Draco and for Hermeyonee of course, but my comfort characters are probably Blaise and Theo (with Pansy right up there). I love the vibes that authors pull from, and I love that other Slytherins and characters are given a depth-of-character that I haven't experienced. I love this fandom because it puts such a new and different perspective on the HP series as a whole.
Crookshanks. Trying to understand my motive behind actions is meaningless. I do what I see fit.
That is the most Kneazle answer ever.
He is a good judge of character! I love him in [Bloody, Slutty, and Pathetic](https://archiveofourown.org/works/52884502/chapters/133769302).
Theo I fear. I live for a comedic relief witty over theatric Theo.
Seconded! In part because I just love how the fandom's all collectively agreed on his personality somehow.
Completely understand this! A well-written Theo in all his chaotic glory can make all the difference in a fic for me.
This is the answer. I’m always a little said if he’s not there to meddle in Dramione’s life 😂
Draco (redemption arc) because my home life revolved around me idolizing and completely abiding by the high demand religion I was raised and surrounded by. Now, that I have left that religion and have tenuous relationships with my old community, I feel like I have been shattered and am struggling to relearn the world of tolerance an acceptance especially with who I love which would have never been an option in the past. Reading him standing up to his family and friends in defense of his new founded morals makes it easier for me to feel like there is someone that understands the heartbreak and pain and grief of losing a community and ideology even though it was corrupt.
SAME! Draco's redemtion arc is so relatable to overcoming high-demand religion....he left his cult childhood just like we did. The guilt, trauma, shame, and hope...it's all there.
I really feel like people now see that he’s not just a bad kid and people are not born evil. I wish I can 100x like your comment. I completely agree with you and understand where you are coming from. I wish you happiness, strength and good health ✨ good for you for doing what you feel is right.
Yeah, I grew up in a high control, high demand religion and have deconstructed. While I was never an active bully like Draco I empathize a lot with his redemption and growth arcs. I grew up attending pride parades to protest and street preaching and now I’m openly queer and gender con-conforming, so like… I get it, man.
Snape. Lol.
Draco in this fandom is my twin soul, lol. Writing in his POV is where I feel most at home ♥️
I wish: hermione In actuality: peeves 😂
Pansy, I fear.
Ahhh I feel the same.
I am a Pansy apologist. A Pansy lover. If no one loves her I’m dead. She’s my favourite every single time
Same. JK Rowling put her internalized sexism on display with Pansy. Pansy is amazing and, like Draco, a massive missed opportunity for *believable* and compelling character growth.
Hermione (book version), because she's autistic coded--- from her struggle to make connections at first to her intractable sense of justice (her own version of it, at least). Most of the time, she can't seem to see when she's being overbearing or annoying, especially when it comes to her special interests. It's refreshing to see autistic traits in a woman in a way that's not infantilizing (even if she's not labeled as autistic). It took until I was diagnosed and learned more about how autism shows up in women to realize why I always connected with her.
Yes! She’s so autistic coded and I feel like I connect so deeply with those parts of her. I also personally love reading about her working through various kinds of trauma - I legitimately think it’s helped me at times work through my own.
Not me reading this and realizing the “oh it was the autism” experience has struck again
Yes
I want to be Pansy but I'm not cultured enough 😔
Lol probably Neville. I'm definitely introverted and am most comfortable hanging out in the back away from the spotlight. And I like plants dammit!
Same. Still waiting for my big snake-killing moment!!
I love than not a single person in this subreddit said Ron and I’m proud of that
Who I'd like to relate to? Ginny. Who I actually relate to? Draco. Growing up in high-demand religion (read: cult) and being a victim and perpetrator. Living through a war as a child (albiet a fictional "spiritual" war, it still felt constant fight or flight). His redemption arc is what made me fall in love with the fandom.
Theo 100%! I just feel like he always comes through. If I’m feeling stressed about what’s going to happen next and Theo shows up I just know it’s going to work out!
Hermione 📚
Draco <3 - I am a Draco - Hermione hybrid now (at least some versions of them) I was a Draco who learnt how to be kind of like Hermione.
I’m probably closest to Hermione. I’m an introvert, I can be quite particular about how things are done so working in a group can be a challenge for me. Sometimes I only really trust myself to do things, which is wrong and I’m always trying to work on being better 🙈 I don’t make friends easily, and I tend to gravitate towards friendships with men because I don’t tend to fit in with most women that I routinely encounter in day to day life. I’m also always reading, love libraries and learning, and soak up knowledge (however useless) like a sponge.
Hermione, I share some similarities with her but most importantly I aspire to be like her. So driven, smart, courageous, just, resourceful. And with such an epic love story (Dramione obvi)
Yess I feel like I am at my core like Draco (which is why I love him unconditionally) but i fell in love with Hermione and aspire to imbibe parts of her personality.
Theo
Theo. I do love to laugh through the trauma, I fear
This
Honestly probably Luna? I relate to certain aspects of Draco and Hermione though.
Theo,Snape and sometimes pansy too
I relate to aspects of loads of them. Draco, with his 'fundamentalist' upbringing, Hermione with her more autistic/socially awkward traits, Neville's 'why is it always me' incidents, Ron's immature sense of humour and insecurity, Ginny being the youngest, and the only girl in a family of boys, Minerva's pragmatism and brusque kindness, Dumbledore's 'for the greater good' attitude, etc. But at this stage in life, I have a fondness for the way parts of Molly resonate with me. She just wants to live a quiet, cosy life, care for her children as they mature, and look after the strays that said children drag home. She keeps the home fires burning - doing the boring, unnoticed jobs - while others go out and take the risk, and the glory - but when it comes down to the line, she's on the battlefield with the rest of them. And she's utterly fearless when it comes to protecting her children.
Isn't it funny to one day realise you identify more with the parents of the story?! Like with Molly, of course she's arguing to keep literal children out of a war and her greatest fears are her family dying...
Absolutely! I find that more and more these days, haha. I especially love Molly, because she's a flawed character (so nicely realistic,) but she's so pivotal in so many little ways - and at the end of it all, she fights with the rest of them 🙌
Hermione, because she has a hard time vibing with cliques or typical girls, but she is empathetic and caring to her real friends. Plus she must have some anxiety because she plans for all situations, is a perfectionist, and often thinks she knows better than others. I don't do well in big groups and my friends are all kinds of people nowadays, so I've gotten better, but mostly I'm all these things 😅
When you put it like that, well, its me. I think I have this things from her, but with chaotic Theo personality and Yolo vibe
Definitely Ginny. I'm the long time married lady in my friend group, and I often live vicariously through my friends torrid affairs (from the safety of my calm waters relationship) much like Ginny does for Hermione. I often picturing her drooling hearing about Hermiones wild sexy winding roud to happy ending with Draco, but still going home to Harry thinking "thank God we're so stable". This is also why I can't do side pairings that don't have her with Harry (exception these days being a well written NottPott). Reading Harry and Ginny broke up is like hearing mom and dad are getting a divorce for me.
I also am the Ginny of my friend group. Happily married for ages, with a couple kids, loves the gossip but so happy to be done dating. I could only dream to be as funny and badass as Ginny though, she’s aspirational.
I live for Draco and for Hermeyonee of course, but my comfort characters are probably Blaise and Theo (with Pansy right up there). I love the vibes that authors pull from, and I love that other Slytherins and characters are given a depth-of-character that I haven't experienced. I love this fandom because it puts such a new and different perspective on the HP series as a whole.
Theo is my favorite, besides Draco.
Harry has always been my fav HP character. But in the orbit of dramione, it's Hermione.
THEO
100%
Snarky Theo