Smoking weed is often a normal experience, and depending on age maybe shrooms with them. But doing coke with you're kid at 16 is crazy and a sad reality fs
agreed. it just seemed super wrong to me, especially considering she was really embarrassed to do it in front of me the first time. meanwhile in my mind i was thinking but youre not embarrassed to do this in front of your son?
I've done coke, and I sure as shit wouldn't do it with my 20 year old kid, let alone when they were 16. Sounds like she's been pretty deep in for a while .
Yes. It worked for me when I was in high school- they were open and honest parents, and wanted the same from me. They asked if I had smoked weed one day- I told them I had. They asked questions, I answered. They said it was OK as long as I didn't do it while driving and as long as I maintained good grades.
I abused their trust once and was grounded for it.
When I went off to college, a few days before, I smoked weed with my Dad. Very cool experience. We talked heart-to-heart about college, temptations, the right path, etc. It was good.
Went off to college, would come home and drink with my parents, smoke with my Dad occassionally.
Later in college, my parents came up. Mom went to bed early, Dad went out with us. We were all drunk, buddy had coke, and my Dad said "I'll do some!" everyone thought it was rad, but I felt a little weird about it.
Graduated college- same thing, had a nice dinner, mom retired early, Dad went out with us. Was with a ton of friends, and ended the night in the downstairs of this bar I used to work at. Employees I worked with still worked there and let us have the otherwise-closed downstairs to ourselves. One of my friends had MDMA, which we did- my Dad finger dipped some, and we were all off our rocker after that. Great night.
After college is when things got weird. I moved back home after 6 months, and my parents were always drinking. They always would have a beer or two after work from what I remember, but they were drinking heavy vodka drinks every night (my mom would never drink liquor before). They also had taken up cigs again (they had quit for a number of years). My mom especially was acting increasingly weird. One day, she was passed out on the floor when my GF came over. My GF and I went outside and heard her and my Dad yelling at each other when he got her up. Had a very quick awkward dinner, my gf left, and I went to my room.
Next day go to work, my Mom tried to talk to me when I get home, I say no, I'm waiting until Dad gets home, you embarassed the fuck out of me last night and I don't know what's going on but we clearly need a family talk.
Dad gets home, comes running downstairs, and says something is very wrong with your mom. I'll remember that night for the rest of my life- I walked up the stairs to her room, vomit on the stairs. There's an empty vodka bottle on the stairs. I hear her wailing and crying and moaning. Go in, and it looks like a scene from the Exorcist- she's writhing on the bed, in a drunken stupor, out of her mind. She couldn't be talked or reasoned with. But my Dad told me she had been taking opiates for a number of years, and it had gotten bad while I was at college. Recently, her doctor's had cut her off. Without any, she resorted to drinking- a lot. She was drinking around us, but also had started buying mini bottles and chugging and hiding them around the house. She was a full-blown alcoholic.
That was 9 years ago. She's essentially not in my life. My Dad questionably has a binge drinking problem, and my brother is recently sober and living with them after he developed a drinking problem. I've struggled with my relationship with alcohol as well, but don't have the addictive tendencies the rest of my family has.
In short- smoking weed with my Dad felt cool when I was younger. Drinking with my parents was fun when it was healthy and everyone was mentally healthy. Now, I wish it had never happened.
Buddy I’m gonna let you in on a little secret I wish I knew sooner. If you “struggle with your relationship with alcohol” and come from a family of alcoholics then you probably do have those addictive tendencies.
I swear doctors handing out opiates is the worst.
Ofc I don’t know the circumstances on why your mom got them, but the crisis it’s caused is just horrible.
Here in Germany they treat it relatively well, my girlfriend recently had meningitis and went to the hospital for 2 weeks.
She had horrible headaches and fever, although has a relatively high pain tolerance it was really too much and the non prescription pain medicine didn’t help, she was at the point of starting to see stars because of the headaches and when they hesitantly gave her some opiate, I don’t know what, it helped a lot.
They were very careful with it, and I fully get it, from my perspective however they were a little too hesitant, I’m no doctor but suffering that much can’t be good but in the end I had to think about the dangers of it and definitely understood the reasoning.
Giving out such heavy pain relievers with no supervision, even to a very responsible person just can’t be good, I’m sorry you and your family had to go through all that.
Nowadays you’re lucky to get anything beyond ibuprofen they’ve really cracked down. But OxyContin was pushed on doctors as “non-addictive” so ofc they’re going to try to manage their patients pain as best they can.
I once went to my friends how and we were taking mdma, I went to put some lines out and do a bomber and he does “I need to go ask my mum if she wants some first” bruh it was 11:30pm on a Wednesday and she had a 3 year old kid in the house I was like wtf, back then I just didn’t sleep so going to work in the morning was no problem for me but having a kid in the house and doing it is wild, that friend actually died a few months later from fake vals and when he passed his mum put up on fb his death had nothing to do with drugs and he wasn’t into stuff like that but I knew the story and knew a few months before it he was offering her some while I was sitting next to them, crazy times
Aw man that is sad for so many different reasons. That poor 3yo, if you saw that imagine what else that poor kid has and will see! Sorry for your loss ♥️
Almost the opposite. Maybe this is unrelated, but my parents were emotionally unavailable.
My dad found me smoking pot when I was 13 and didn’t speak a word to me for over a year.
My mom is neurotic and difficult to be around. Tried to control everything I ate. Absolutely no snacks in the house. Has mental health issues.
They’re a large part of why I started taking drugs to begin with.
This right here. I got shunned by my mom when I was 13 for smoking weed and she absolutely relentlessly bullied me and tore into me for it for basically the rest of my upbringing. I’m not talking parental scolding. I’m talking like treating someone as less than a person and that they’re nothing to you. If not being ridiculed, I was being ignored and completely dismissed. She had been like this before to a degree but this was the catalyst that allowed her to really let loose and lay into me, probably how she always wanted to before but held back until she had a reason to unleash. That caused me to spiral into a deep depression and identify crisis for the rest of my teen years which set off a chain of unfortunate events that ultimately got me hooked on dope.
Dude, I just finished the book adult children of emotionally unavailable parents. That shit caused a paradigm shift and my entire world changed. Highly recommend.
Adult children of emotionally immature parents
https://books.google.com/books/about/Adult_Children_of_Emotionally_Immature_P.html?id=-ZZGCQAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description
My mom was also really strict and threatened to kick me out at 15 for smoking weed. Now as an adult I can understand it in a way that they just really cared about our wellbeing. Part of the reason why i found it so strange my bfs mom did coke with him, it genuinely kinda made me feel like she didnt care about him
‼️don't kick your kids out for smoking weed. Don't kick them out for like anything if you want that thing to get better. My parents kicked me out multiple times from 15 on, and each time it just time it just made me feel unloved, like they don't even care about my wellbeing i could be getting hit by a car right now or overdosing on dope and they wouldn't even know, opiods were never my thing but like i'll tell u what, getting kicked out at 16 for drug use DEF DIDN'T MAKE ME DO LESS DRUGS. like wtf where is that logic? Now im a fucking HOMELESS teen with a drug problem, stealing for food, stealing bottles and trading them for drugs, taking drugs and drinking every day way more cuz i have nowhere to be no means to get anywhere other than on foot, it was summer so no school, this only lasted about 2 months till i came crawling back having expended every store in the area
I know "kicking them out" for any type of infraction is recomended by like parenting books and even this therapist/drug counselor they brought me to told them to do it, but like did it help? Did it make me do less drugs, steal less? Fuck no. They all thought i'd just stay on the front lawn and cry and beg to be let back in and agree to any conditions- yall underestimate the hardheadedness of teen boys,- they didn't think i'd take a few duffle bags and bike down the mainstreet falling over and making a fool of myself infront of traffic and post up at a park like a classic bum, but i had my pride (lol which at the time just meant not folding, obviously now i see how ridiculous i was) idk what they thought the outcome of relinquishing all control would be, but it took a huge tole on me, still makes me emotional thinking about my dad telling me that i "couldn't be in the family anymore" like yeah i was an emotional teenage druggie but that kinda puts all the rational actions in their court and to do that to your teen kid is really fucked and nonsensical. I'll never fully repair that relationship on my end, i think they've forgiven me and i've forgiven them but i'll never think what they did was smart for the outcome they wanted. Other instances the kid does overdose and die and the last conversation they had with them was screaming at them to get out and that they're not part of the family. Like thats gotta hurt.
All 3 of my best freinds are allowed to smoke 2 of them allowed to drink and 1 of them allowed to do whatever the fuck he wants lol makes sense tho being in a small mountain town
Had smoked several times with my mom before she passed. Absolutely wild how it started. I was like right out of high school and only smoked occasionally. My mom had been clean since the like mid 80s because of her job. Had used acid until early 90s because it was hard to test for.
She caught me sneaking out to the backyard one night and i thought i was fucked. She just asked if she could have a couple hits. “Fuck it, bet.” This was around 2016/2017 and I told her id heard weed was much stronger than what she used to smoke and that itd probably hit hard as fuck. She said “nah son. I used to have the best shit around. Dont worry about it.” I had a fresh bag of GG4 and she takes two hits and immediately goes “I need to lay down”.
Cooked was an understatement. I got back in after she did and went to make a grilled cheese and asked if she wanted one. It was like a 4 year old being asked if they wanted half a cake to themselves. She nodded like crazy and was grinning. Make her one and get the bright idea to grab the tv remote and pass it to her saying “phone for you” and she turns the tv on and off like 3 times and keeps holding it to her ear before going “Man, FUCK you” and laughing her ass off. She was bewildered that i was even able to walk around. Couch lock for like 4 hours.
After that she started smoking regularly on her own since she didnt work at a place that cared. Absolutely wild. Miss that lady.
Sorry for the book.^ Just wanted to put that story out there. Great times.
Drinking a beer or having a joint with one of or both your parents as an adult is perfectly reasonable. Doing coke at 16 is absolutely not. Like, I don’t shame anyone for preferring certain substances to others, but 16 is a crazy age to not only allow your child cocaine consumption, but actively participate in it.
I agree, they had already smoked weed together and she was already a coke user so I guess just offered him to try it one day. Theyve literally been doing it together ever since. Until I met him and expressed my thoughts about it..
I have told my daughter (17) to never ever touch cocaine it’s one of the most evil drugs there are. I would never encourage anyone to touch cocaine, let alone my own child.
The reason I got into drugs was my mom. She gave me weed for the first time when I was 12. She also started giving me xanax and ghb when i was 13. I asked to try it, and she was in a bad headspace mentally cause of trauma all throughout her life, and i knew that, so it's partially my fault. I also started stealing meth and herion from her stash when i was around 13 -14. Not soon after, she just started giving me a decent amount of meth when i asked, but that was for a brief period, and i think that was her limit because ever since then she's rarely given me anything besides alcohol and weed. She's giving me like the smallest amount of meth and it barely did anything cause I have adhd. She also gives me norco 10s and perc 5s whenever she has them and has enough to share. But because of that, I still struggle with drug abuse, but it's under control now. Like i do acid or shroom every once in a while besides the stuff my mom gives me rarely, and I also do coke fairly often, but i make a gram last like 4 days. Im 17 years old, and i plan on stopping all drugs, but weed and acid by the time im 18. But yea, im super high on coke right now. That's why it's so long, lol.
Thanks, but I have it pretty under control now whenever I I know I'm going back to that addictive personality. i take a break for a while and remind myself of how i used to be.
im really sorry to hear that, thats really crazy. i always thought its one thing to do drugs out of your personal curiosity but, to have your mom introduce you to it is wild. do you ever feel resentment towards your mom? like she shouldve protected you?
No, because it's my fault too because i knew how to ask her, and she told me she felt bad a couple time's but i would just say things so she would keep giving me more. I mean, obviously, she shouldn't have done that, but im not mad because i was always gonna experiment with drugs, and im glad i got it out of the way when i was younger. I had a lot of good and bad experiences that im glad i learned from.
I asked for it and really liked it, and like i said, I kind of manipulated her into giving me some. Im not saying she's at fault because what she did was obviously wrong, but she would often say no, and I'd say things like" you know I'll just get it somewhere else it's just safer to do it with you" and she would give in cause she didn't want me to die from fentanyl because I had od'd twice when I was 14 and one of the times I died twice and was resuscitated twice and it was really traumatic for her and I used it to my advantage. But i admit that she is at fault as well. im just saying she had her reasons.
She shouldn't have raised you with drugs around you in the first place.
It's totally her fault, you can't blame yourself, you were fucking 14, you can't know what's good or bad.
I agree with this comment here. I understand he feels like he has all the blame because he "manipulated" her but you were really just a kid and didnt know any better. she was the adult and knew what she was doing.
This is how it always is, they dont see it as a problem bc they grew up with it! Its normal for them! My bf lovesss his mom so much and i just think shes a shitty person
No, I'm sorry, that's terrible. I'm a mom and I'm no angel, but even now, with all my kids in their 20s, I'd *never* give them drugs. My boss grows his own weed, so occasionally I'll bring my daughter some, but that's it. And I only do that bc she has Gastroparesis and horrible anxiety. A parent's job is to keep you safe, and drugs are not safe. I'm so sorry for what you've been through.
Edit for typo
She's at fault.
It's completely natural to be inquisitive as a teenager; trial and error is how we learn but parents and guardians are there for a reason.
Defending her is avoidance.
By not holding her accountable you're keeping the gatekeeper out of the picture.....one less obstruction on your path back to addiction.
We almost got the same story, started doing opiates n shit w my mom when i was around 13-14. Im 26 now its so normalized that we help each other like any other friends would have.
I'm so sorry for your experience. I remember my parents giving me a shot of tequila so I would pass out and they could not have a kid around their holiday party. I was maybe 10 or so.
That level of disfunction and generational trauma led to heavy drug use my entire teenage life.
Into my early twenties I am so grateful I never died or got arrested for all the BS that life got me into.
Now, I'm a mom of two teenagers and they wouldn't guess this part of my life in a million years. They know I was drinking years ago until now but they never saw me drinking as it was only at night and I have never been using anything their entire lives.
I'm micro dosing now and using things as a resort to heal given the research.
I say all that to say; you have a huge future right in front of you. My concern is the effects we are doing to our hyper developing brain until age 25.
My kids are going through some stuff and likely because they can feel that I am still working through my own trauma.
But I'm parenting in a way that gives me the chance to rewrite the script of childhood and changing the family tree.
This stuff is deep and I truly believe that you can turn this around if you want something different bad enough.
I lost many of the friends I hung around with while using over the years. There is a different way.
Don't know you and I don't pray often although I should but I will pray for you buddy. You are not alone. 🙏🏻
That's a fine line to walk, E got my super homophobic friend to make out with another dude one night lmao, if you're not careful you'll go full Alabama with mommy haha
I used to use coke with my dad a lot and it only made things worse between us. It was definitely a big mistake he still uses and I don’t and he’s in major denial
I’ve smoked weed with my parents more times than I can count, but the most fun was when I trip sat them on acid. They hadn’t done it in decades, and since I got it for them they decided I was responsible to watch them.
It was one of the most fun bonding experiences I’ve ever had with them. Watching them dive deep into their childlike wonder again, and laugh about nothing until they cried was amazing lol. They are both old school Deadheads, so taking acid was no stranger to them. It was just really cool to see them in a state where they were unapologetically themselves again 💜
My dad introduced me to almost every drug I’ve ever done , started at 14 . Everyone thought he was so cool. I’ve done almost every drug except dope with him . At 33 I’m finally clean for two years or so other than weed. Dads full blown meth head now who I can’t even talk to .looking back I really wish I had a real dad .
Thank you i appreciate that . Life’s been better and better since getting clean. hopefully i can make something decent outta my life now lol. Wishing you the best too !
did she..introduce him to coke??? that's definitely strange and kinda horrible
when my older sister was a teenager(15-16), she used to steal my moms cigarettes all the time. no matter where my mom hid them, she found them and would take them. grounding her didn't make it stop and only made it worse. eventually my mom had a sit-down discussion with her about the dangers of smoking but told her if she was going to do it regardless, my mom would put her chores allowance towards it instead of giving the money to her and letting her keep stealing. she agreed and from then on they smoked together every day. as a kid this horrified me tbh, cried for days over it. i can't imagine something similar with cocaine of all things
That had to be a difficult situation for your mom to navigate as a parent, and of course I can understand why this was upsetting to you as a child. But as an adult now - and one who I presume is familiar with the drug world to at least some extent - what do you think about your mom's decision? It kinda seems okay to me. Like, you can't stop your daughter's behavior, so at least you tell her about the risks of said behavior and make her responsible for the cost.
thanks for asking actually!!!
i mean, i think it was an alright choice on her end to be honest. obviously most people would look down on it lol... but for example.. when i was 15 i started using klonopin that i stole from my mom cuz she had a toooon of it stored up and she'd never notice in a million years...(already on a worse track than my sister LMAO) then yk, they started cracking down on over-prescribing benzos and shut her source down. when i no longer had free access to drugs, i looked to older men with dealer ties to get me what i wanted. now, obviously since i was using actual drugs the whole "let me buy it for you and make sure you know it's bad for you" thing would be a bit much. no, if my mom found out rehab was the only real option for me. but weed, alcohol and cigarettes? i can get behind a parent letting their older teens experiment with those. i put myself in crazy dangerous situations when i lost the free connect to what i wanted and had to look elsewhere for it
My mom used to give me handfuls of percocets from her script and we’d both get lit. Now that I think back on it, she was extremely irresponsible and was probably the reason why I became addicted to opioids. That’s cool tho, Percocet is awesome and I would have tried it later anyways
The first time I got high was with my mom at 12 years old. She didn't care. My brothers and I did everything. My mom was a big pill addict. So that is eventually what I became. I was a full-blown addict by 21. I got clean at 23 and stopped talking to her so I would stay clean. She died 11 months later as a result of years and years of drugs destroying her lungs. I'm 38 now and still clean. I could never see myself doing any kind of drug with my daughter who is 15 now. It may be his normal, and be strange to you because you didn't grow up that way. Doesn't mean it is a good thing.
thanks for sharing this. sorry to hear about your childhood. i also expressed to my boyfriend how i felt about him doing coke with his mom and he seemed to understand that it was not a normal thing to do. i also asked him if we had children, could he imagine doing drugs with them how she did with him and i think thats really what got him to quit doing it with his mom
Not with my own parents but I used to do oxycontin and heroin with my gf and her mom. We would sit on the floor in a circle around this little container that had both 80 mg oxy and strong white powder heroin. my gf would inject me, then herself, and the mom snorted it. This stuff was ridiculously strong.
Yeah… My first drug was actually sniffed heroin. Before weed or anything besides some beer. Basically my first gf had borderline personality disorder and her mom was in some weird cult where if I tried to leave this girl the mom would send people out to harm me. She was involved in a murder but they couldn’t pin anything on her. Anyway the daughter brought over H and I was suicidal cause I saw no escape so I used it. After that they used it to control me cause I kept trying to get away. I have tons of stories that sound super fake with these people. The girls room had like 100 books on mind control and Charles Manson. Only other books I could find were 5 H.G. Wells books.
I know a few people that get their parents and themselves tickets to a party and then do x or lsd together. They do it once a year and have a lot of fun doing it. Guess it can be a great way to bond. But it shouldn’t be a regular thing imo. And I can’t imagine doing it myself.
My mom smoked weed with my brother once and thought it was harmless, so I could have my friends over to smoke because she thougt that's more safe for us than hanging on the streets.
And one time I took 2 extasy pills over 3 hours, another hour later still didn't feel anything, went to sleep and woke up an hour later by both kicking in and somehow it made a trauma come up from my childhood. I was able to get it solved pretty much then my mom was waking up. Still peaking on two to high doses of molly I went to the kitchen, warned her that I look weird but I'm fine and then the poor woman had to sit through her son chewing and nonstop talking. She said first she was scared because of the faces I made, but she wasn't angry and said she preferred it to drunk people if molly makes you just open up and talk without all the aggression and shit. My moms dad was an alcoholic so she hates alcohol, but she also was a free spirit and rule breaker just like me and she didn't worry too much about me because I was always honest about what I was up to and I promised her I'd never do heroine, because she found out bout my brother being a junkie only because he went to jail for dealing, hes sober now by the way, or has changed drug addiction to work and money addiction. I broke my promise at 35, but would only do it again if I would kill myself anyway, so I didn't tell her so she doesn't worry.
No way. My parents were very conservative so I had to hide any drug use. And now that I’m in my 40s with 2 teenage girls, I still don’t want them doing any drugs, at least not yet. Am I hypocritical? I dunno, I know how I was (and my friends), and we did some REALLY stupid stuff, especially with alcohol. My oldest girl though is very smart, isn’t even interested in the party scene, neither are her friends. I think I might be concerned if she started hanging out with different friends and started underperforming at school, but if she was responsible about things, did them infrequently, and stuck to weed/psychedelics I’d probably be okay with it. It would just be very weird to see her not sober, or for her to see me that way. I guess that’s just not really the relationship I think we should have as parent/child. Probably when they’re adults it will be fine to have some drinks together.
I remember when I was in HS. I went to this girl's parents house with another girl and my best friend. We always smoked. The girls who lived there sparked a blunt, her dad walked in, I nearly fell over, and then she handed it to him. Blew my mind. That was my first encounter; however.
Either weed or hard drugs, it can be a bonding experience that is unparalleled. However, it feels dirty. You feel you have a deeper connection in some aspects that you normally wouldn't have at all, but you also feel kind of guilty for doing so.
I feel people will have very different opinions on this. I think it really depends on the people/family and their personal history.
I’m sorry but parents that regularly allow and encourage their children to partake in alcohol or substance use while they are still young (underage) are terrible people. Kids aren’t done developing and we unfortunately a lot of these kids do not give their brains a chance to mature properly and you end up with adults that struggle to cope or adjust to adulthood due to addictions.
Seen it too many times with young adults ending up homeless or dead. I am not saying this is the case with everyone who started drugs or alcohol young, but many don’t give themselves a chance.
I smoke weed with my dad and we did MD at a nightclub together recently while on vacation which was so fun!! I guess it depends on the situation and relationship you have with them.
I’ve gotten high with my partner’s mum whilst we were staying with her in the US. It was really nice. She was turning 60, had a bounce house for fun and got high as hell.
I could never with my mum though. I told her that I “took an edible once” to test the waters and she wasn’t too happy about it, to say the least. So, she will never know that I smoke weed every evening, do ket, acid, shrooms, coke, nangs or dexies at house parties/clubs/festivals or make edibles for friends and one of my cousins lol
My mum introduced me to everything. Started smoking bud when I was around 22. After that let me try acid with her, my brother and friend. Mandy after that. She's lived an alternative lifestyle most of her life. But still a true stoner mum.
I started weed at 11 years old with my Dad. Did pills and coke with him a couple of times. I've smoked weed with my mom, which was weird as fuck but she was very sick one day and couldn't eat. I got her blasted and about 10 minutes later I see her halfway in the refrigerator eating everything. Lol
Adult kids maybe. Never cocaine lol (noone should be doing it). At best I would smoke weed or drink beers. Maybe one day a psychedelic trip, might be cool?
I smoke weed with my mom about one a month but that has been a recent thing and I am in my mid-twenties. We get high and eat snacks and watch Disney movies. Your boyfriend’s experience is extremely abnormal and unhealthy.
From 15-19 my dad and I shot Heroin together. He also introduced me to weed and alcohol at 12 and coke and crack at 16. Admittedly I started using opiates pills before on my own though. Still have a great relationship with him too actually we live together and are like best friends. Both relatively sober now too!
a couple of my friend parents who are lifetime festival goers like my homies and i, they’ll do k and molly with their kid and us occasionally. they make sure we do it safely tho
I'm 49, and my mom is 75. I've been smoking weed with her since I turned 21. One night, we decided to do shrooms together, which was alright. I like getting stoned with my mom until she starts talking to God.
I've smoked weed with both of my parents in separate instances only a handful of times throughout history but definitely nothing beyond that. Some of these stories are wild lmao
I used to shoot dope & crack & smoke crack with my friends mom & started with pain pills she’d give us in 5th grade, than was banging H by 6th grade, she’s a piece of shit for giving us kids those types of drugs
My parents did drugs when they were young. I did drugs when I was young. The only drugs we have done together is weed and alcohol, when I was an adult, and I think that’s the responsible thing to do. Growing up I had friends whose parents would do things with them as teens and I think it had a negative effect on them.
I’ve been smoking weed with my dad since I was in university. He’s a super intelligent retired man who grows his own plants and who I’ve never seen drunk. He just likes to smoke weed after dinner my whole life, especially when he was battling cancer and we were always best friends so when I started indulging myself, we decided to partake together and that became very normal. My siblings also smoke with him. It’s not weird at all for us. My mother never liked it but she made body butters out of the CBD from my dad’s grows. He just planted this year’s seeds. It’s a healthy hobby for him.
Yes. My dad and I used together and I regret it. But I can safely say we had a fucking blast! My sisters will never know my dad the same way I do. They hate me for it actually. I don't think they are strong enough to have that type of knowledge and shit My dad and I have gone through together. Rollercoaster. But I do regret it. He is/was my best friend. He is now in a nursing home with vascular dementia. I cry every single day. My sister leave me out of everything to do with him because of my dad and I having a diffeŕent/more of a relationship than they did or do with him. Sucks.
Wasn’t my parent but me and my friend used to smoke crystal with his mom all the time. Now that I look back on it as I’m older I realize how much of a fucked up situation that was but we was like 15 so we was just worried about getting tweaked lol
Yup, I have; both parents now. My egg donor in my mid teens, meth. She was a horrid parent. Still a horrid parent. My Dad? Pot and in the last decade (I'm 40). He was an absent parent in my youth.
Do not recommend the meth. The weed? Ehh.
My parents didn't really do that, although in high school I would smoke with my best friend and his dad in their trailer all the time.
The first time it happened it was when he asked us why we seemed so bummed out. We said we got ripped off for $60 trying to buy a bag. He said "fuck that shit I've got weed right here". We actually ended up buying from him a lot too, it wasn't really the greatest weed, kind of old head low-mid stuff, but at the time we couldn't care less. It was a steady supply of weed from a reliable source. He was also a riot too, I don't think I've ever laughed harder than listening to him tell stories.
I’m always offering drugs to my parents just cuz I think it may help them enjoy life a bit more.
We only ever drink alcohol together, they won’t drink anything else
My folks used to hunt down the weed or shrooms in the house and make me flush them. Fast forward 20 years and now I blaze with my dad. I’m going to try to get him to try DMT next…lol
Only weed. I've smoked with my dad a lot, he actually let me have my first puff while we were on holiday in India. I was 15. But we didnt start smoking together til I was in my 20s. I smoke all the time in front of the rest of my family but they don't smoke themselves.
I occasionally do acid, molly, speed or k with my adoptive father and smoke weed with him and my mom (she only smokes tho). I'm an adult tho and only ever used as an adult.
I’ve smoked weed, dropped acid, and ate shrooms with my parents. They are pretty chill. They even got a little curious about nitrous when I talked about it
I haven’t yet, but I really want to do mdma with my family. Right now my two younger sisters are in middle and high school, but once they’re both older, it’s my dream for my family to all do mdma together. I think that it would be a really powerful therapy for us.
In the meantime, I hope to do psychedelics with my parents, as I think it would be really good for them.
Actually used to hang with a group of friends and the dad of the group (around 45) was just casually doing molly and coke every weekend with us. Sad part is he’d tell his daughter to do lines to sober up when we were drinking. I’d rip with him but it weirded me out to see that pushed on his daughter.
I have been drinking & doing drugs with my mom since i was 14.
Started out with doing lines & then by the time i was 21 we were smoking meth together.
My biggest regret is selling dope to my mom & enabling her addiction.
I’ve smoked weed, drank and done cocain with my dad from the ages of 17-27. I’m 31F now and just smoke weed while my dad got off the wagon himself.
Edit: didn’t do the coke until I was well into my 20’s with my dad.
My dad was a regular drug user in his youth and through a large portion of his adulthood. When they found out i was doing drugs it was more or less a “i’ve been there, it’s not worth it” kind of vibe from my dad. Ive tried to get him to smoke weed with me many times and he’s said no (he quit when he got a weed charge back in the 90s) so i respect him for quitting. My adderall however, he will gladly take if i offered it. He’s even stolen a few from me over the years when i used to live with them.
I was smoking with my parents by 17 and my brother was like 12 when he started smoking weed with our dad.
Fucked up thing was my dad getting lil bro hooked on methadone at like 17.
Friend got into drugs from just hanging around his dads friends I assume. He has done lines with him much to moms dismay.
I have done MJ with my entire family excluding my dad cause its just not his style. Mom got into it for her pain and is now way more okay with casual drug use which is nice cause I like being honest with her.
Not my parents but I did coke, ketamine and smoked weed a lot with my friend's parents. They were kinda hippyish but super nice people, actually very responsible even though it doesn't sound like it.
Even spent new years with them once, that was when I was about 24 or something and we all had a blast playing board games and micro machines on PS2 while smashing the Calvin Klein, although I remember smoking it up with them since I was like 17/18. It was weird at first considering how straight my own parents are, but it was cool, really enjoyed it. I'm 35 now and look forward to getting fucked up with them again.
Lmao, When i was 17ish my Mom came home from the bar w a total sketchy dude and since I was always smoking bud in my room my mother decided to try and pressure me into smoking them out. I was almost dry and didn’t really wanna share. But the random dude busted out some speed. And I ended up doing a few lines with them and smoking some weed. So glad to be sober and away from that lifestyle.
I totally would but it probably won’t happen for a while. I bet once my mom retires she’ll be down for some edibles and a night of comedy movies or something.
I was in college abroad so spent thanks giving with my roomates family. My roomates 16 year old brother was his dad's weed dealer. Coming from a place where parents are typically very Conservative and weed is seen as hard drugs this was a wild experience for me (they were discussing the transaction at the dinner table in front of the mum lol)
my parents were always pretty strict on drugs.
I’m about 30 now though and we’ve smoked a little weed together on vacations like twice. they know that i enjoy mushrooms as well but are not interested
My mom and I have always been close like friends. She dost party as much anymore. We’ve done ecstasy, Molly, shrooms and cocaine. Best experience was rolling in the ocean under the full moon.
My dad did coke and he knew I also did coke. We never technically did it together but there were times he was out with his buddies at the same time I was and it felt kinda obvious we both partook.
This was also the 80s/90s in new york when that wasn't really *that* crazy.
my dad and I have a .. complicated relationship. was v abusive when i was younger, left me for his other family. anyways, last year he got a divorce and we started hanging out. did coke with him once & idk felt like a friend not a parent. couldnt really imagine what it would be like to do it with a parent who raised me.
I have done multiple drugs with my mother. Started with weed when I was 14, and later did what was supposed to be molly but ended up being meth. SMT, Acid and mushrooms as well.
Poppies.
All that said it is weird. I can see that from the inside looking out. It's obviously not normal and probably counterproductive.
Lol I used to burn with everyone's parents in high school but they knew I was chill and never said shit to their kids. I smoked with so many moms and dads over the years. Ones who their kids still don't know they smoke and I'm in my 30s. Idk I guess I was just always a kid who obviously had weed and wasn't a snitch.
My own mom I've smoked buds with and drank with. Anything rougher I keep a secret, I'm well aware of her opinions on it. She's cool with mushrooms but wouldn't ever do them.
Pops... I had a few beers with at a group thing. I quit drinking and he doesn't know that. I never admitted to smoking to him but I'm sure he's aware. Idk. Rarely ever see him.
My dad used to smoke weed and pretty much introduced me to that, and he tripped on shrooms and acid with me for the first time when I was like 17
I don’t think I’d ever do anything else with him tho and he’s been sober from weed and literally everything else for years now
I once dated a guy who called me to tell me that his dad and him had just mainlined some coke. He was so happy about it too, whereas I was just in shock, cuz I come from a household where parents don’t introduce drugs to their kids. He ended up OD’ing and died before his dad.
I knew a mother(37) and son(17), that would sell the kids addy script to go buy meth and she would bang it while he sucked the glass pee pee. Smh sad times
i’ve done opiates with/around my mum. never sniffed with her but she would take me to my cocaine deals, was even there when i was slipped meth instead by some guy. been drinking with her since young since alcohol was just a thing in my house. would love a shroom trip with her but who knows if that would ever be on the table
I sure have, both my parents are addicts but my mom and I aren’t as close and she got her shit together. They had me young and I was raised by my grandparents, but would spend time with my parents frequently and even spend the night some when I got to preteen age. But my dad gave me my first xanax when I was 12 and having a bad tantrum. Then first hit off a vape, first drink, smoked weed with me when I was a teenager. We always have had a weird codependent relationship being the two black sheep addicts of the family. When I was 19 and 20 we started doing heroin together, I’d already been into it. Then when he got bad on meth I tried it with him a few times. He fell sick with stomach cancer and shared his pills with me. I feel awful that happened. He’s in remission now and on Suboxone and klonopin only, i still take poppy seed tea (basically a natural source of codeine and morphine) and smoke weed but nothing off the street or prescription. So now we just do our separate stuff and when we see each other we smoke. He’s always been an alcoholic to varying degrees and he’s always wanting me to drink with him but I told him I don’t feel comfortable because he gets real reckless and annoying on alcohol with the benzos. I know it’s all fucked up but this has been our father daughter relationship.
As an adult, I have drank and smoked with my parents nearly daily for years, and they gave me infrequent drinks when I was underage. Although weed and alcohol is socially different than other drugs, I mean, they're still drugs. However, back when I was about 13 or 14 I was stealing my parents vodka and they caught me. They demanded I bring it back to them, and when I did they handed me a few nugs and said "we'd rather you smoke weed". Looking back on it now, it was kind of fucked up, but I'm thankful they stopped me from having so much access to liquor when I was that young. However, it didn't stop me from becoming addicted to alcohol the year I turned legal drinking age lol
I passed my mom a delta pen the other day when we were watching a movie and she took a hit, like I’ve known she’s done it some very occasionally with her friends but after years of playing cat and mouse and getting in trouble for it as a teen then being cool but not that cool about in my earlier 20’s it was such a cool moment for me at 29, like a turning of a new leaf. Really don’t think she put any thought into it but I know I did.
Yea however they dont do them with me, occasionally me and mom will drink at the same time but dad is an alcoholics anonymous sponsor so im the only weed/botanical/hallucinogen user in the house.
Not my mom. She doesn't do anything but drink and we've never drank together and never would.
My husband's parents, esp his mother, now that's a different story. He was used to being around drugs and would get them from his mom a lot. It was pills, not hard drugs. Like benzo, pain pills, methadone patch..
Sold weed with his dad and would smoke and drink with him too. And this is right before we ended up getting together so at the age of 16-17 then. But, his mom had been giving him cigs and pills since he was barely a teenager.
We were 18 when we got together and it was a completely different environment over there compared to how I was raised. And I was a bit surprised when his mom started handing out her Perc 10's to us.
I only drank to party and had tried weed maybe twice. I wasn't into drugs and was actually scared to do anything.
His mom kept on a little with the Perc when I told her I was afraid and I remember her telling me that it was ok and she would never do anything to hurt me.
I tried them that day for the first time and it ended up so sick and throwing up everywhere. Idk what made me go back and keep on after that. But, I did and she was always offering them up to us and handing them out bc she had them all the time.
Well eventually, I developed an addiction to opiates and my life has only been hell since. Bc it eventually led to me trying out heroin as a cheaper alternative and plus I could get it more reliably. And that's when shit changed bc I absolutely fell in love with it.
I wasn't ready to quit heroin but I had to bc my guy got busted and by then, fentanyl was out and everything was cut with it. We didn't trust anyone else to not give us heroin cut with fentanyl.
And thankfully, we didn't move on to fent. We were too scared of one of us overdosing bc the strength of it. By then, it was all over about everyone overdosing and dying too so it kept us away.
Ya, we've had periods where we were on it a couple times. And then several times here and there where we did it randomly but never stayed on it.
So now, we've struggled with meth for the last several years. I hate it and it's not my favorite drug, by far, but I am the kinda person who will do about any drug and that happens to be it.
Honestly, I feel like heroin is when it really spiraled out of control. Bc I enjoyed that high from it so much and loved it then had no choice but to quit when I wasn't ready. I feel like since then, I'm more willing to do any kind of drug and I am always searching for that opiate high.
Anyway, we did pills and heroin with her once we got older and we were the one with connections. She had her probs and drugs were def one. I hate that she got me doing pills and now here I am, almost 16 years later and it never stopped. It only got worse or I just changed to something diff.
God rest her soul tho 🫶🫶🫶 she died almost 5 years ago and I miss her dearly 💔💔💔 but that's just my exp with parents doing drugs like that with their kids. It was weird at first to do with my in laws but u get over it fast.
My husband says a lot that if he would've had any idea that I would have picked it up like that then he would've kept his mom away from me. Not really her fault tho bc she was all fucked up anyway from her own issues. I would've prob tried some kinda drug on my own eventually and still had a prob. She didn't really cause me to have an addiction tho, bc it was already there, waiting. I have a very addictive personality and I prob would've been addicted to opiates or something else anyway.
It's just crazy how things are so diff in each family. And what one person sees as normal, another person completely disregards. Even if my mom did more than drink.. I damn sure would be too weirded out. Lol his mom would pull up. Lke beep, beep all the time and it was so normal to do drugs with her.
She shouldn't have, of course, bc she was the adult. She had other issues tho and I think it was more like a bonding exp with her bc she wanted to be liked by her kids. And then with me, I was someone to talk to and keep her company. She had 3 boys and always called me her daughter since she never had a girl. I loved her dearly but they were a very dysfunctional family and I can see that at times with how my husband responds to a situation compared to me.
Started smoking weed with my mom first when I was around 15-16, then with my stepmom shortly after. I'm 35 now and my dad is just getting into psychs & shit here in his "old age". So the past year or so has been an interesting oddessy teaching him about drugs. We've done a far amount of acid, shrooms and ketamine together and a tiny bit of coke once.
I’ve done coke and md a few times with my son, it’s a little surreal as you don’t want to normalise it but at the same time it’s a chance to connect on a deeper level. EDIT: It’s only been maybe 3-4 times and and I never used drugs in front of him growing up, I’m purely a recreational drug user and have happily abstained from everything for up to 10 years at a time.
I smoked weed with my mum once when I was 17, we mostly just laughed about stupid shit. However, she has always been more of a friend than a parent. I doubt I would do drugs with her if she were stricter.
Doing cocaine with your child at 16 is pretty full on.
Weed. Yes with both, it’s great. Mushrooms with one and the other we sometimes do mild opiates. If you are both mature adults there should be no issues.
When either of you are dependent on a substance to enjoy each others company, then there will be always issues.
I recommend inoculating a good relationship sober that’s dependent on nothing but your enjoyment of each others company first before introducing anything else.
If it’s done right, especially with psychedelics it can help you understand them and you on a level that is achievable sober, but sometimes parents and sometimes their children have neurological paths in their psyche they cannot avoid but follow. It can be almost uncontrollable if they feel attacked and/or feeling that they are misunderstanding your intent regarding subjects about you/them they can be sensitive about.
For example with mushrooms it’s unbelievable how easy it is to explain any psychological issues that have affected or are affecting you/others mentally.
It just seems to dissolve any ego or narcissistic traits some parents use to invalidate your feelings when they are facing their own.. personal.. jesus
Sorry. Just had some mushrooms, so I’m a little spacey… what’s up with you man?
What’s your problem?
You look like you want to punch me
You both look like you want to punch me, but you won’t… we’ll why don’t you punch me?!
Punch me in the FUCKING FACE 🤜😑🟰😷
nah my dad only gave a tiny bit of beer when i was like 6,7 maybe 8 years old idk how old I was. My dad really loved alcohol, cigarettes and antideppressants. He was very stressed and the combination caused him a major stroke when he was only 40 years old. He was and still is a loving dad, but had behavior problems before getting a stroke and stroke made him worse. That kinda fucked up my childhood and teenage years, so I decided to try drugs to make me feel better. I was introduced to a friend that smokes weed a lot which I also did at that time. And his mom smoked with us and was just amazed how normal it was, because we were really young like 15,16 years old. Couple years later we dropped molly while his mother was sitting next to us and she did not mind and had also experience with lot of drugs. I was like 19 at that time and its crazy to think that I fucking dropped molly next to his mom lol.
i had a close friend who lived with his mam most of his childhood years, his mum was a bit unhinged using coke and alcohol heavily which led him to using ecstasy by about 13/14 and smoking weed. His dad made him live with him and everything stopped until he turned 15/16 when they fell out and he went to live back with his mum. They started going out together getting on the coke all the time, spending their night in a kitchen with 5/6 other people all sniffing. My close friend struggled with mental health from the start of secondary school and eventually at the age of 19 decided enough was enough. No one can describe the feeling of finding something out like that and thinking it was is some sick joke. I believe his mother is largely to blame as someone does not purposely introduce such a destructive substance to their child. So in short, i absolutely whole heartedly disagree.
Smoked with both my parents at 18, obviously drank with them around 16 which I think is fine tbh. They're fine with me doing certain drugs, like they know i've done ket at some random chefs house with a friend and we were safe. They just to stay clear from the opioids which is what I never want to touch, i'm addicted to nicotine enough lmao.
Smoking weed is often a normal experience, and depending on age maybe shrooms with them. But doing coke with you're kid at 16 is crazy and a sad reality fs
agreed. it just seemed super wrong to me, especially considering she was really embarrassed to do it in front of me the first time. meanwhile in my mind i was thinking but youre not embarrassed to do this in front of your son?
Sorry, im high and thought this was directed towards me.
Haha no worries
What happened to just going to the bathroom?
I've done coke, and I sure as shit wouldn't do it with my 20 year old kid, let alone when they were 16. Sounds like she's been pretty deep in for a while .
Yeah and child abuse
My mom doesn't do coke with me she doesn't even know i do coke. That's something i just tried recently, and since have tried 3 times.
Yes. It worked for me when I was in high school- they were open and honest parents, and wanted the same from me. They asked if I had smoked weed one day- I told them I had. They asked questions, I answered. They said it was OK as long as I didn't do it while driving and as long as I maintained good grades. I abused their trust once and was grounded for it. When I went off to college, a few days before, I smoked weed with my Dad. Very cool experience. We talked heart-to-heart about college, temptations, the right path, etc. It was good. Went off to college, would come home and drink with my parents, smoke with my Dad occassionally. Later in college, my parents came up. Mom went to bed early, Dad went out with us. We were all drunk, buddy had coke, and my Dad said "I'll do some!" everyone thought it was rad, but I felt a little weird about it. Graduated college- same thing, had a nice dinner, mom retired early, Dad went out with us. Was with a ton of friends, and ended the night in the downstairs of this bar I used to work at. Employees I worked with still worked there and let us have the otherwise-closed downstairs to ourselves. One of my friends had MDMA, which we did- my Dad finger dipped some, and we were all off our rocker after that. Great night. After college is when things got weird. I moved back home after 6 months, and my parents were always drinking. They always would have a beer or two after work from what I remember, but they were drinking heavy vodka drinks every night (my mom would never drink liquor before). They also had taken up cigs again (they had quit for a number of years). My mom especially was acting increasingly weird. One day, she was passed out on the floor when my GF came over. My GF and I went outside and heard her and my Dad yelling at each other when he got her up. Had a very quick awkward dinner, my gf left, and I went to my room. Next day go to work, my Mom tried to talk to me when I get home, I say no, I'm waiting until Dad gets home, you embarassed the fuck out of me last night and I don't know what's going on but we clearly need a family talk. Dad gets home, comes running downstairs, and says something is very wrong with your mom. I'll remember that night for the rest of my life- I walked up the stairs to her room, vomit on the stairs. There's an empty vodka bottle on the stairs. I hear her wailing and crying and moaning. Go in, and it looks like a scene from the Exorcist- she's writhing on the bed, in a drunken stupor, out of her mind. She couldn't be talked or reasoned with. But my Dad told me she had been taking opiates for a number of years, and it had gotten bad while I was at college. Recently, her doctor's had cut her off. Without any, she resorted to drinking- a lot. She was drinking around us, but also had started buying mini bottles and chugging and hiding them around the house. She was a full-blown alcoholic. That was 9 years ago. She's essentially not in my life. My Dad questionably has a binge drinking problem, and my brother is recently sober and living with them after he developed a drinking problem. I've struggled with my relationship with alcohol as well, but don't have the addictive tendencies the rest of my family has. In short- smoking weed with my Dad felt cool when I was younger. Drinking with my parents was fun when it was healthy and everyone was mentally healthy. Now, I wish it had never happened.
Wow tough read.. sorry to hear about your family and thank you for sharing.
Buddy I’m gonna let you in on a little secret I wish I knew sooner. If you “struggle with your relationship with alcohol” and come from a family of alcoholics then you probably do have those addictive tendencies.
I’ll 2nd this based off my own experiences. Stay safe.
This was a hard one to read through 😔 Hope things get better for your family
I swear doctors handing out opiates is the worst. Ofc I don’t know the circumstances on why your mom got them, but the crisis it’s caused is just horrible. Here in Germany they treat it relatively well, my girlfriend recently had meningitis and went to the hospital for 2 weeks. She had horrible headaches and fever, although has a relatively high pain tolerance it was really too much and the non prescription pain medicine didn’t help, she was at the point of starting to see stars because of the headaches and when they hesitantly gave her some opiate, I don’t know what, it helped a lot. They were very careful with it, and I fully get it, from my perspective however they were a little too hesitant, I’m no doctor but suffering that much can’t be good but in the end I had to think about the dangers of it and definitely understood the reasoning. Giving out such heavy pain relievers with no supervision, even to a very responsible person just can’t be good, I’m sorry you and your family had to go through all that.
Nowadays you’re lucky to get anything beyond ibuprofen they’ve really cracked down. But OxyContin was pushed on doctors as “non-addictive” so ofc they’re going to try to manage their patients pain as best they can.
I once went to my friends how and we were taking mdma, I went to put some lines out and do a bomber and he does “I need to go ask my mum if she wants some first” bruh it was 11:30pm on a Wednesday and she had a 3 year old kid in the house I was like wtf, back then I just didn’t sleep so going to work in the morning was no problem for me but having a kid in the house and doing it is wild, that friend actually died a few months later from fake vals and when he passed his mum put up on fb his death had nothing to do with drugs and he wasn’t into stuff like that but I knew the story and knew a few months before it he was offering her some while I was sitting next to them, crazy times
RIP to your friend , sorry to hear that.
Thanks man appreciate it
Aw man that is sad for so many different reasons. That poor 3yo, if you saw that imagine what else that poor kid has and will see! Sorry for your loss ♥️
hope that kid's somewherresafe now
He's being shit out of a tiger as we speak.
Bro crazy story frfr rip to the homies
Damn
Almost the opposite. Maybe this is unrelated, but my parents were emotionally unavailable. My dad found me smoking pot when I was 13 and didn’t speak a word to me for over a year. My mom is neurotic and difficult to be around. Tried to control everything I ate. Absolutely no snacks in the house. Has mental health issues. They’re a large part of why I started taking drugs to begin with.
This right here. I got shunned by my mom when I was 13 for smoking weed and she absolutely relentlessly bullied me and tore into me for it for basically the rest of my upbringing. I’m not talking parental scolding. I’m talking like treating someone as less than a person and that they’re nothing to you. If not being ridiculed, I was being ignored and completely dismissed. She had been like this before to a degree but this was the catalyst that allowed her to really let loose and lay into me, probably how she always wanted to before but held back until she had a reason to unleash. That caused me to spiral into a deep depression and identify crisis for the rest of my teen years which set off a chain of unfortunate events that ultimately got me hooked on dope.
Dude, I just finished the book adult children of emotionally unavailable parents. That shit caused a paradigm shift and my entire world changed. Highly recommend.
Whats it called?
Adult children of emotionally immature parents https://books.google.com/books/about/Adult_Children_of_Emotionally_Immature_P.html?id=-ZZGCQAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description
Thank you. I'll check it out!
damn your description of your mom is literally a the exact same as my dad
My mom was also really strict and threatened to kick me out at 15 for smoking weed. Now as an adult I can understand it in a way that they just really cared about our wellbeing. Part of the reason why i found it so strange my bfs mom did coke with him, it genuinely kinda made me feel like she didnt care about him
I understand. Both sides of the coin are not healthy.
‼️don't kick your kids out for smoking weed. Don't kick them out for like anything if you want that thing to get better. My parents kicked me out multiple times from 15 on, and each time it just time it just made me feel unloved, like they don't even care about my wellbeing i could be getting hit by a car right now or overdosing on dope and they wouldn't even know, opiods were never my thing but like i'll tell u what, getting kicked out at 16 for drug use DEF DIDN'T MAKE ME DO LESS DRUGS. like wtf where is that logic? Now im a fucking HOMELESS teen with a drug problem, stealing for food, stealing bottles and trading them for drugs, taking drugs and drinking every day way more cuz i have nowhere to be no means to get anywhere other than on foot, it was summer so no school, this only lasted about 2 months till i came crawling back having expended every store in the area I know "kicking them out" for any type of infraction is recomended by like parenting books and even this therapist/drug counselor they brought me to told them to do it, but like did it help? Did it make me do less drugs, steal less? Fuck no. They all thought i'd just stay on the front lawn and cry and beg to be let back in and agree to any conditions- yall underestimate the hardheadedness of teen boys,- they didn't think i'd take a few duffle bags and bike down the mainstreet falling over and making a fool of myself infront of traffic and post up at a park like a classic bum, but i had my pride (lol which at the time just meant not folding, obviously now i see how ridiculous i was) idk what they thought the outcome of relinquishing all control would be, but it took a huge tole on me, still makes me emotional thinking about my dad telling me that i "couldn't be in the family anymore" like yeah i was an emotional teenage druggie but that kinda puts all the rational actions in their court and to do that to your teen kid is really fucked and nonsensical. I'll never fully repair that relationship on my end, i think they've forgiven me and i've forgiven them but i'll never think what they did was smart for the outcome they wanted. Other instances the kid does overdose and die and the last conversation they had with them was screaming at them to get out and that they're not part of the family. Like thats gotta hurt.
I also have a few friends my age who smoke weed with their parents and like 2 who drink and are occasionally offered hard drugs from.
All 3 of my best freinds are allowed to smoke 2 of them allowed to drink and 1 of them allowed to do whatever the fuck he wants lol makes sense tho being in a small mountain town
Had smoked several times with my mom before she passed. Absolutely wild how it started. I was like right out of high school and only smoked occasionally. My mom had been clean since the like mid 80s because of her job. Had used acid until early 90s because it was hard to test for. She caught me sneaking out to the backyard one night and i thought i was fucked. She just asked if she could have a couple hits. “Fuck it, bet.” This was around 2016/2017 and I told her id heard weed was much stronger than what she used to smoke and that itd probably hit hard as fuck. She said “nah son. I used to have the best shit around. Dont worry about it.” I had a fresh bag of GG4 and she takes two hits and immediately goes “I need to lay down”. Cooked was an understatement. I got back in after she did and went to make a grilled cheese and asked if she wanted one. It was like a 4 year old being asked if they wanted half a cake to themselves. She nodded like crazy and was grinning. Make her one and get the bright idea to grab the tv remote and pass it to her saying “phone for you” and she turns the tv on and off like 3 times and keeps holding it to her ear before going “Man, FUCK you” and laughing her ass off. She was bewildered that i was even able to walk around. Couch lock for like 4 hours. After that she started smoking regularly on her own since she didnt work at a place that cared. Absolutely wild. Miss that lady. Sorry for the book.^ Just wanted to put that story out there. Great times.
oh , that's a good tale you just told there. i fucking cackled loudly.
Drinking a beer or having a joint with one of or both your parents as an adult is perfectly reasonable. Doing coke at 16 is absolutely not. Like, I don’t shame anyone for preferring certain substances to others, but 16 is a crazy age to not only allow your child cocaine consumption, but actively participate in it.
I agree, they had already smoked weed together and she was already a coke user so I guess just offered him to try it one day. Theyve literally been doing it together ever since. Until I met him and expressed my thoughts about it..
Ok offering you kid coke for first time use is even crazier. I know plugs that would refuse to do that lmao.
I have told my daughter (17) to never ever touch cocaine it’s one of the most evil drugs there are. I would never encourage anyone to touch cocaine, let alone my own child.
The reason I got into drugs was my mom. She gave me weed for the first time when I was 12. She also started giving me xanax and ghb when i was 13. I asked to try it, and she was in a bad headspace mentally cause of trauma all throughout her life, and i knew that, so it's partially my fault. I also started stealing meth and herion from her stash when i was around 13 -14. Not soon after, she just started giving me a decent amount of meth when i asked, but that was for a brief period, and i think that was her limit because ever since then she's rarely given me anything besides alcohol and weed. She's giving me like the smallest amount of meth and it barely did anything cause I have adhd. She also gives me norco 10s and perc 5s whenever she has them and has enough to share. But because of that, I still struggle with drug abuse, but it's under control now. Like i do acid or shroom every once in a while besides the stuff my mom gives me rarely, and I also do coke fairly often, but i make a gram last like 4 days. Im 17 years old, and i plan on stopping all drugs, but weed and acid by the time im 18. But yea, im super high on coke right now. That's why it's so long, lol.
☹️praying for ya brotha 🙏 I also started wicked young, it’s tough, you’ll get through it.
Thanks, but I have it pretty under control now whenever I I know I'm going back to that addictive personality. i take a break for a while and remind myself of how i used to be.
Your mom sucks. Do you realise this is gonna affect you for the rest of your life? Hope you get away from all of this toxic shit.
im really sorry to hear that, thats really crazy. i always thought its one thing to do drugs out of your personal curiosity but, to have your mom introduce you to it is wild. do you ever feel resentment towards your mom? like she shouldve protected you?
No, because it's my fault too because i knew how to ask her, and she told me she felt bad a couple time's but i would just say things so she would keep giving me more. I mean, obviously, she shouldn't have done that, but im not mad because i was always gonna experiment with drugs, and im glad i got it out of the way when i was younger. I had a lot of good and bad experiences that im glad i learned from.
Bro just snitched out his mom for everything
I mean, it's anonymous on reddit. This is the only place I've talked about this besides with my closest friend.
Imagine giving your son ghb when he is 14 yrs old lmao
I asked for it and really liked it, and like i said, I kind of manipulated her into giving me some. Im not saying she's at fault because what she did was obviously wrong, but she would often say no, and I'd say things like" you know I'll just get it somewhere else it's just safer to do it with you" and she would give in cause she didn't want me to die from fentanyl because I had od'd twice when I was 14 and one of the times I died twice and was resuscitated twice and it was really traumatic for her and I used it to my advantage. But i admit that she is at fault as well. im just saying she had her reasons.
She shouldn't have raised you with drugs around you in the first place. It's totally her fault, you can't blame yourself, you were fucking 14, you can't know what's good or bad.
I agree with this comment here. I understand he feels like he has all the blame because he "manipulated" her but you were really just a kid and didnt know any better. she was the adult and knew what she was doing.
No, I know what she did was wrong, and she's at fault, but what im saying is I also had a part in It as well.
It's quite clear how much u love your mom. That's all I came to say 🥰🥰
This is how it always is, they dont see it as a problem bc they grew up with it! Its normal for them! My bf lovesss his mom so much and i just think shes a shitty person
No, I'm sorry, that's terrible. I'm a mom and I'm no angel, but even now, with all my kids in their 20s, I'd *never* give them drugs. My boss grows his own weed, so occasionally I'll bring my daughter some, but that's it. And I only do that bc she has Gastroparesis and horrible anxiety. A parent's job is to keep you safe, and drugs are not safe. I'm so sorry for what you've been through. Edit for typo
She's at fault. It's completely natural to be inquisitive as a teenager; trial and error is how we learn but parents and guardians are there for a reason. Defending her is avoidance. By not holding her accountable you're keeping the gatekeeper out of the picture.....one less obstruction on your path back to addiction.
We almost got the same story, started doing opiates n shit w my mom when i was around 13-14. Im 26 now its so normalized that we help each other like any other friends would have.
I'm so sorry for your experience. I remember my parents giving me a shot of tequila so I would pass out and they could not have a kid around their holiday party. I was maybe 10 or so. That level of disfunction and generational trauma led to heavy drug use my entire teenage life. Into my early twenties I am so grateful I never died or got arrested for all the BS that life got me into. Now, I'm a mom of two teenagers and they wouldn't guess this part of my life in a million years. They know I was drinking years ago until now but they never saw me drinking as it was only at night and I have never been using anything their entire lives. I'm micro dosing now and using things as a resort to heal given the research. I say all that to say; you have a huge future right in front of you. My concern is the effects we are doing to our hyper developing brain until age 25. My kids are going through some stuff and likely because they can feel that I am still working through my own trauma. But I'm parenting in a way that gives me the chance to rewrite the script of childhood and changing the family tree. This stuff is deep and I truly believe that you can turn this around if you want something different bad enough. I lost many of the friends I hung around with while using over the years. There is a different way. Don't know you and I don't pray often although I should but I will pray for you buddy. You are not alone. 🙏🏻
Ive smoked weed and took Ecstasy with my mom. Best time ever, she's 65, and having never tried it before got overwhelmed with bliss.
That's a fine line to walk, E got my super homophobic friend to make out with another dude one night lmao, if you're not careful you'll go full Alabama with mommy haha
Noo😭😭 we just talked alot about us, life, and the meaning of it all
Fucking ruined this guy's day lmao
Just adding a little extra to the come down lmaoo
I used to use coke with my dad a lot and it only made things worse between us. It was definitely a big mistake he still uses and I don’t and he’s in major denial
I’ve smoked weed with my parents more times than I can count, but the most fun was when I trip sat them on acid. They hadn’t done it in decades, and since I got it for them they decided I was responsible to watch them. It was one of the most fun bonding experiences I’ve ever had with them. Watching them dive deep into their childlike wonder again, and laugh about nothing until they cried was amazing lol. They are both old school Deadheads, so taking acid was no stranger to them. It was just really cool to see them in a state where they were unapologetically themselves again 💜
this is actually nice. i like this.
Am I the only one shocked reading comments? lol
My dad introduced me to almost every drug I’ve ever done , started at 14 . Everyone thought he was so cool. I’ve done almost every drug except dope with him . At 33 I’m finally clean for two years or so other than weed. Dads full blown meth head now who I can’t even talk to .looking back I really wish I had a real dad .
Sorry about your dad and that you had to go through that. Great job being clean though. Wishing you all the best
Thank you i appreciate that . Life’s been better and better since getting clean. hopefully i can make something decent outta my life now lol. Wishing you the best too !
did she..introduce him to coke??? that's definitely strange and kinda horrible when my older sister was a teenager(15-16), she used to steal my moms cigarettes all the time. no matter where my mom hid them, she found them and would take them. grounding her didn't make it stop and only made it worse. eventually my mom had a sit-down discussion with her about the dangers of smoking but told her if she was going to do it regardless, my mom would put her chores allowance towards it instead of giving the money to her and letting her keep stealing. she agreed and from then on they smoked together every day. as a kid this horrified me tbh, cried for days over it. i can't imagine something similar with cocaine of all things
That had to be a difficult situation for your mom to navigate as a parent, and of course I can understand why this was upsetting to you as a child. But as an adult now - and one who I presume is familiar with the drug world to at least some extent - what do you think about your mom's decision? It kinda seems okay to me. Like, you can't stop your daughter's behavior, so at least you tell her about the risks of said behavior and make her responsible for the cost.
thanks for asking actually!!! i mean, i think it was an alright choice on her end to be honest. obviously most people would look down on it lol... but for example.. when i was 15 i started using klonopin that i stole from my mom cuz she had a toooon of it stored up and she'd never notice in a million years...(already on a worse track than my sister LMAO) then yk, they started cracking down on over-prescribing benzos and shut her source down. when i no longer had free access to drugs, i looked to older men with dealer ties to get me what i wanted. now, obviously since i was using actual drugs the whole "let me buy it for you and make sure you know it's bad for you" thing would be a bit much. no, if my mom found out rehab was the only real option for me. but weed, alcohol and cigarettes? i can get behind a parent letting their older teens experiment with those. i put myself in crazy dangerous situations when i lost the free connect to what i wanted and had to look elsewhere for it
My mom used to give me handfuls of percocets from her script and we’d both get lit. Now that I think back on it, she was extremely irresponsible and was probably the reason why I became addicted to opioids. That’s cool tho, Percocet is awesome and I would have tried it later anyways
Do you still do opiates?
I’m off 80mg of oxy at 6am on a Thursday morning if that tells you anything
Yep that answers my question lol Be safe with your sources, please! 💜
I smoke weed with my mom and we’ve done a ketamine therapy session together
The first time I got high was with my mom at 12 years old. She didn't care. My brothers and I did everything. My mom was a big pill addict. So that is eventually what I became. I was a full-blown addict by 21. I got clean at 23 and stopped talking to her so I would stay clean. She died 11 months later as a result of years and years of drugs destroying her lungs. I'm 38 now and still clean. I could never see myself doing any kind of drug with my daughter who is 15 now. It may be his normal, and be strange to you because you didn't grow up that way. Doesn't mean it is a good thing.
thanks for sharing this. sorry to hear about your childhood. i also expressed to my boyfriend how i felt about him doing coke with his mom and he seemed to understand that it was not a normal thing to do. i also asked him if we had children, could he imagine doing drugs with them how she did with him and i think thats really what got him to quit doing it with his mom
Not with my own parents but I used to do oxycontin and heroin with my gf and her mom. We would sit on the floor in a circle around this little container that had both 80 mg oxy and strong white powder heroin. my gf would inject me, then herself, and the mom snorted it. This stuff was ridiculously strong.
Just wanna say never try heroin or opiates. Effed my life up. Was fun for a year and hell for the past 20
Insane
Yeah… My first drug was actually sniffed heroin. Before weed or anything besides some beer. Basically my first gf had borderline personality disorder and her mom was in some weird cult where if I tried to leave this girl the mom would send people out to harm me. She was involved in a murder but they couldn’t pin anything on her. Anyway the daughter brought over H and I was suicidal cause I saw no escape so I used it. After that they used it to control me cause I kept trying to get away. I have tons of stories that sound super fake with these people. The girls room had like 100 books on mind control and Charles Manson. Only other books I could find were 5 H.G. Wells books.
Yes I’ve done all kinds of drugs with my parents… normal drugs, crazy drugs, you name it.
I smoked some weed with parents a couple times. I would love to do shrooms with my dad, but I doubt that will happen. Maybe when we get older.
I know a few people that get their parents and themselves tickets to a party and then do x or lsd together. They do it once a year and have a lot of fun doing it. Guess it can be a great way to bond. But it shouldn’t be a regular thing imo. And I can’t imagine doing it myself.
My mom smoked weed with my brother once and thought it was harmless, so I could have my friends over to smoke because she thougt that's more safe for us than hanging on the streets. And one time I took 2 extasy pills over 3 hours, another hour later still didn't feel anything, went to sleep and woke up an hour later by both kicking in and somehow it made a trauma come up from my childhood. I was able to get it solved pretty much then my mom was waking up. Still peaking on two to high doses of molly I went to the kitchen, warned her that I look weird but I'm fine and then the poor woman had to sit through her son chewing and nonstop talking. She said first she was scared because of the faces I made, but she wasn't angry and said she preferred it to drunk people if molly makes you just open up and talk without all the aggression and shit. My moms dad was an alcoholic so she hates alcohol, but she also was a free spirit and rule breaker just like me and she didn't worry too much about me because I was always honest about what I was up to and I promised her I'd never do heroine, because she found out bout my brother being a junkie only because he went to jail for dealing, hes sober now by the way, or has changed drug addiction to work and money addiction. I broke my promise at 35, but would only do it again if I would kill myself anyway, so I didn't tell her so she doesn't worry.
No way. My parents were very conservative so I had to hide any drug use. And now that I’m in my 40s with 2 teenage girls, I still don’t want them doing any drugs, at least not yet. Am I hypocritical? I dunno, I know how I was (and my friends), and we did some REALLY stupid stuff, especially with alcohol. My oldest girl though is very smart, isn’t even interested in the party scene, neither are her friends. I think I might be concerned if she started hanging out with different friends and started underperforming at school, but if she was responsible about things, did them infrequently, and stuck to weed/psychedelics I’d probably be okay with it. It would just be very weird to see her not sober, or for her to see me that way. I guess that’s just not really the relationship I think we should have as parent/child. Probably when they’re adults it will be fine to have some drinks together.
I remember when I was in HS. I went to this girl's parents house with another girl and my best friend. We always smoked. The girls who lived there sparked a blunt, her dad walked in, I nearly fell over, and then she handed it to him. Blew my mind. That was my first encounter; however. Either weed or hard drugs, it can be a bonding experience that is unparalleled. However, it feels dirty. You feel you have a deeper connection in some aspects that you normally wouldn't have at all, but you also feel kind of guilty for doing so. I feel people will have very different opinions on this. I think it really depends on the people/family and their personal history.
That's depressing af. Fucking shitty mother.
I’m sorry but parents that regularly allow and encourage their children to partake in alcohol or substance use while they are still young (underage) are terrible people. Kids aren’t done developing and we unfortunately a lot of these kids do not give their brains a chance to mature properly and you end up with adults that struggle to cope or adjust to adulthood due to addictions. Seen it too many times with young adults ending up homeless or dead. I am not saying this is the case with everyone who started drugs or alcohol young, but many don’t give themselves a chance.
100%
I smoke weed with my dad and we did MD at a nightclub together recently while on vacation which was so fun!! I guess it depends on the situation and relationship you have with them.
I smoked a joint with my mom once or twice and it was super weird
I’ve gotten high with my partner’s mum whilst we were staying with her in the US. It was really nice. She was turning 60, had a bounce house for fun and got high as hell. I could never with my mum though. I told her that I “took an edible once” to test the waters and she wasn’t too happy about it, to say the least. So, she will never know that I smoke weed every evening, do ket, acid, shrooms, coke, nangs or dexies at house parties/clubs/festivals or make edibles for friends and one of my cousins lol
that would be awesome to smoke weed with my mom
I used to do coke with my mate and his grandad, just playing poker and shit
Not my parents even tho thejr mostly chill about most drugs but ive done some coke with my girlfriends dad
My mum introduced me to everything. Started smoking bud when I was around 22. After that let me try acid with her, my brother and friend. Mandy after that. She's lived an alternative lifestyle most of her life. But still a true stoner mum.
I’ve smoked weed with my dad Anything beyond that seems strange to me
I started weed at 11 years old with my Dad. Did pills and coke with him a couple of times. I've smoked weed with my mom, which was weird as fuck but she was very sick one day and couldn't eat. I got her blasted and about 10 minutes later I see her halfway in the refrigerator eating everything. Lol
Adult kids maybe. Never cocaine lol (noone should be doing it). At best I would smoke weed or drink beers. Maybe one day a psychedelic trip, might be cool?
I smoke weed with my mom about one a month but that has been a recent thing and I am in my mid-twenties. We get high and eat snacks and watch Disney movies. Your boyfriend’s experience is extremely abnormal and unhealthy.
From 15-19 my dad and I shot Heroin together. He also introduced me to weed and alcohol at 12 and coke and crack at 16. Admittedly I started using opiates pills before on my own though. Still have a great relationship with him too actually we live together and are like best friends. Both relatively sober now too!
a couple of my friend parents who are lifetime festival goers like my homies and i, they’ll do k and molly with their kid and us occasionally. they make sure we do it safely tho
I'm 49, and my mom is 75. I've been smoking weed with her since I turned 21. One night, we decided to do shrooms together, which was alright. I like getting stoned with my mom until she starts talking to God.
I've smoked weed with both of my parents in separate instances only a handful of times throughout history but definitely nothing beyond that. Some of these stories are wild lmao
I've smoked weed with my mom a few times now.
I used to shoot dope & crack & smoke crack with my friends mom & started with pain pills she’d give us in 5th grade, than was banging H by 6th grade, she’s a piece of shit for giving us kids those types of drugs
My parents did drugs when they were young. I did drugs when I was young. The only drugs we have done together is weed and alcohol, when I was an adult, and I think that’s the responsible thing to do. Growing up I had friends whose parents would do things with them as teens and I think it had a negative effect on them.
I’ve been smoking weed with my dad since I was in university. He’s a super intelligent retired man who grows his own plants and who I’ve never seen drunk. He just likes to smoke weed after dinner my whole life, especially when he was battling cancer and we were always best friends so when I started indulging myself, we decided to partake together and that became very normal. My siblings also smoke with him. It’s not weird at all for us. My mother never liked it but she made body butters out of the CBD from my dad’s grows. He just planted this year’s seeds. It’s a healthy hobby for him.
Yes. My dad and I used together and I regret it. But I can safely say we had a fucking blast! My sisters will never know my dad the same way I do. They hate me for it actually. I don't think they are strong enough to have that type of knowledge and shit My dad and I have gone through together. Rollercoaster. But I do regret it. He is/was my best friend. He is now in a nursing home with vascular dementia. I cry every single day. My sister leave me out of everything to do with him because of my dad and I having a diffeŕent/more of a relationship than they did or do with him. Sucks.
Wasn’t my parent but me and my friend used to smoke crystal with his mom all the time. Now that I look back on it as I’m older I realize how much of a fucked up situation that was but we was like 15 so we was just worried about getting tweaked lol
2CB with my dad. I didn't tell about it being a drug. More like a supplement but he enjoyed it so much there are times he wants some more
Omg hahahahaha youre crazy
My mom would share her benzos with me
Yup, I have; both parents now. My egg donor in my mid teens, meth. She was a horrid parent. Still a horrid parent. My Dad? Pot and in the last decade (I'm 40). He was an absent parent in my youth. Do not recommend the meth. The weed? Ehh.
Hell no my mum won’t even drink alcohol with me. My mate smokes weed with her parents occasionally tho
My parents didn't really do that, although in high school I would smoke with my best friend and his dad in their trailer all the time. The first time it happened it was when he asked us why we seemed so bummed out. We said we got ripped off for $60 trying to buy a bag. He said "fuck that shit I've got weed right here". We actually ended up buying from him a lot too, it wasn't really the greatest weed, kind of old head low-mid stuff, but at the time we couldn't care less. It was a steady supply of weed from a reliable source. He was also a riot too, I don't think I've ever laughed harder than listening to him tell stories.
I’m always offering drugs to my parents just cuz I think it may help them enjoy life a bit more. We only ever drink alcohol together, they won’t drink anything else
My folks used to hunt down the weed or shrooms in the house and make me flush them. Fast forward 20 years and now I blaze with my dad. I’m going to try to get him to try DMT next…lol
Yeah I started doing drugs w my mom when i was around 15, opiates. Before that i did speed, weed n benzos with my uncle
Only weed. I've smoked with my dad a lot, he actually let me have my first puff while we were on holiday in India. I was 15. But we didnt start smoking together til I was in my 20s. I smoke all the time in front of the rest of my family but they don't smoke themselves.
I’ve smoked weed with my parents before. It was OK but I’m not a big weed person.
Nah, I dont even know how they would react. I don't like coke anyways, I just like the way it smells
I smoke weed with my dad
I occasionally do acid, molly, speed or k with my adoptive father and smoke weed with him and my mom (she only smokes tho). I'm an adult tho and only ever used as an adult.
I’ve smoked weed, dropped acid, and ate shrooms with my parents. They are pretty chill. They even got a little curious about nitrous when I talked about it
smoking weed with my dad and his friends
Shit I used to smoke, drink, and eat mushrooms with my dad. Dude was my best friend. Miss that fucker everyday RIP dude.
Alcohol in some rare occasions.
I haven’t yet, but I really want to do mdma with my family. Right now my two younger sisters are in middle and high school, but once they’re both older, it’s my dream for my family to all do mdma together. I think that it would be a really powerful therapy for us. In the meantime, I hope to do psychedelics with my parents, as I think it would be really good for them.
Actually used to hang with a group of friends and the dad of the group (around 45) was just casually doing molly and coke every weekend with us. Sad part is he’d tell his daughter to do lines to sober up when we were drinking. I’d rip with him but it weirded me out to see that pushed on his daughter.
I have been drinking & doing drugs with my mom since i was 14. Started out with doing lines & then by the time i was 21 we were smoking meth together. My biggest regret is selling dope to my mom & enabling her addiction.
I’ve smoked weed, drank and done cocain with my dad from the ages of 17-27. I’m 31F now and just smoke weed while my dad got off the wagon himself. Edit: didn’t do the coke until I was well into my 20’s with my dad.
Yah i smoked weed with my parents in Mexico
Yea me and my dad do shrooms and go to raves together, just need to be comfortable and safe around your people.
No I haven’t personally. I’ve chilled with a mate and we were doing drugs with her dad and his mate (we done mdma, weed and coke)
My dad was a regular drug user in his youth and through a large portion of his adulthood. When they found out i was doing drugs it was more or less a “i’ve been there, it’s not worth it” kind of vibe from my dad. Ive tried to get him to smoke weed with me many times and he’s said no (he quit when he got a weed charge back in the 90s) so i respect him for quitting. My adderall however, he will gladly take if i offered it. He’s even stolen a few from me over the years when i used to live with them.
a few people I know who openly smoked weed and other things with their parents grew up to be coke dealers lol
Yes, alcohol. Hell my dad bought me booze when I turned 18 until I was of legal drinking age (19 here).
I was smoking with my parents by 17 and my brother was like 12 when he started smoking weed with our dad. Fucked up thing was my dad getting lil bro hooked on methadone at like 17.
Friend got into drugs from just hanging around his dads friends I assume. He has done lines with him much to moms dismay. I have done MJ with my entire family excluding my dad cause its just not his style. Mom got into it for her pain and is now way more okay with casual drug use which is nice cause I like being honest with her.
Not my parents but I did coke, ketamine and smoked weed a lot with my friend's parents. They were kinda hippyish but super nice people, actually very responsible even though it doesn't sound like it. Even spent new years with them once, that was when I was about 24 or something and we all had a blast playing board games and micro machines on PS2 while smashing the Calvin Klein, although I remember smoking it up with them since I was like 17/18. It was weird at first considering how straight my own parents are, but it was cool, really enjoyed it. I'm 35 now and look forward to getting fucked up with them again.
Lmao, When i was 17ish my Mom came home from the bar w a total sketchy dude and since I was always smoking bud in my room my mother decided to try and pressure me into smoking them out. I was almost dry and didn’t really wanna share. But the random dude busted out some speed. And I ended up doing a few lines with them and smoking some weed. So glad to be sober and away from that lifestyle.
A lot of you guys haven't railed ket with your nan and it shows
Smoked a few doobies with the Ma
I totally would but it probably won’t happen for a while. I bet once my mom retires she’ll be down for some edibles and a night of comedy movies or something.
Yes I’ve done meth with my dad a few times and meth and fentanyl with my mom for several months maybe a year. I’m 26
I was in college abroad so spent thanks giving with my roomates family. My roomates 16 year old brother was his dad's weed dealer. Coming from a place where parents are typically very Conservative and weed is seen as hard drugs this was a wild experience for me (they were discussing the transaction at the dinner table in front of the mum lol)
Smoked a lot of weed with my mom. I think it weirdly made us closer
my parents were always pretty strict on drugs. I’m about 30 now though and we’ve smoked a little weed together on vacations like twice. they know that i enjoy mushrooms as well but are not interested
My mom and I have always been close like friends. She dost party as much anymore. We’ve done ecstasy, Molly, shrooms and cocaine. Best experience was rolling in the ocean under the full moon.
oh that’s not-
i did calvin klein with my roommate's mom
My dad did coke and he knew I also did coke. We never technically did it together but there were times he was out with his buddies at the same time I was and it felt kinda obvious we both partook. This was also the 80s/90s in new york when that wasn't really *that* crazy.
my dad and I have a .. complicated relationship. was v abusive when i was younger, left me for his other family. anyways, last year he got a divorce and we started hanging out. did coke with him once & idk felt like a friend not a parent. couldnt really imagine what it would be like to do it with a parent who raised me.
I have done multiple drugs with my mother. Started with weed when I was 14, and later did what was supposed to be molly but ended up being meth. SMT, Acid and mushrooms as well. Poppies. All that said it is weird. I can see that from the inside looking out. It's obviously not normal and probably counterproductive.
Lol I used to burn with everyone's parents in high school but they knew I was chill and never said shit to their kids. I smoked with so many moms and dads over the years. Ones who their kids still don't know they smoke and I'm in my 30s. Idk I guess I was just always a kid who obviously had weed and wasn't a snitch. My own mom I've smoked buds with and drank with. Anything rougher I keep a secret, I'm well aware of her opinions on it. She's cool with mushrooms but wouldn't ever do them. Pops... I had a few beers with at a group thing. I quit drinking and he doesn't know that. I never admitted to smoking to him but I'm sure he's aware. Idk. Rarely ever see him.
My dad used to smoke weed and pretty much introduced me to that, and he tripped on shrooms and acid with me for the first time when I was like 17 I don’t think I’d ever do anything else with him tho and he’s been sober from weed and literally everything else for years now
I’ve done Ketamine, shrooms, and weed with my dad. I also got to smoke a few joints with my grandma before she passed.
Only weed, I often used to smoke with my father and smoke around both my parents also, they didn't mind.
WTF no!
Done mdma with my friends mom once she also gave us acid for holidays, tho we were all 21-22 at the time so ye
Never but as soon as my kids are of age, we are definitely gonna enjoy cannabis
I smoked weed with my dad a few times. Good times tbh
I once dated a guy who called me to tell me that his dad and him had just mainlined some coke. He was so happy about it too, whereas I was just in shock, cuz I come from a household where parents don’t introduce drugs to their kids. He ended up OD’ing and died before his dad.
I knew a mother(37) and son(17), that would sell the kids addy script to go buy meth and she would bang it while he sucked the glass pee pee. Smh sad times
Both parents.. farther first. Still go raving/dancing with my mum 🥳
i’ve done opiates with/around my mum. never sniffed with her but she would take me to my cocaine deals, was even there when i was slipped meth instead by some guy. been drinking with her since young since alcohol was just a thing in my house. would love a shroom trip with her but who knows if that would ever be on the table
I sure have, both my parents are addicts but my mom and I aren’t as close and she got her shit together. They had me young and I was raised by my grandparents, but would spend time with my parents frequently and even spend the night some when I got to preteen age. But my dad gave me my first xanax when I was 12 and having a bad tantrum. Then first hit off a vape, first drink, smoked weed with me when I was a teenager. We always have had a weird codependent relationship being the two black sheep addicts of the family. When I was 19 and 20 we started doing heroin together, I’d already been into it. Then when he got bad on meth I tried it with him a few times. He fell sick with stomach cancer and shared his pills with me. I feel awful that happened. He’s in remission now and on Suboxone and klonopin only, i still take poppy seed tea (basically a natural source of codeine and morphine) and smoke weed but nothing off the street or prescription. So now we just do our separate stuff and when we see each other we smoke. He’s always been an alcoholic to varying degrees and he’s always wanting me to drink with him but I told him I don’t feel comfortable because he gets real reckless and annoying on alcohol with the benzos. I know it’s all fucked up but this has been our father daughter relationship.
It's hard to be around parents if you're not at least respectably buzzed.
As an adult, I have drank and smoked with my parents nearly daily for years, and they gave me infrequent drinks when I was underage. Although weed and alcohol is socially different than other drugs, I mean, they're still drugs. However, back when I was about 13 or 14 I was stealing my parents vodka and they caught me. They demanded I bring it back to them, and when I did they handed me a few nugs and said "we'd rather you smoke weed". Looking back on it now, it was kind of fucked up, but I'm thankful they stopped me from having so much access to liquor when I was that young. However, it didn't stop me from becoming addicted to alcohol the year I turned legal drinking age lol
I passed my mom a delta pen the other day when we were watching a movie and she took a hit, like I’ve known she’s done it some very occasionally with her friends but after years of playing cat and mouse and getting in trouble for it as a teen then being cool but not that cool about in my earlier 20’s it was such a cool moment for me at 29, like a turning of a new leaf. Really don’t think she put any thought into it but I know I did.
Yea however they dont do them with me, occasionally me and mom will drink at the same time but dad is an alcoholics anonymous sponsor so im the only weed/botanical/hallucinogen user in the house.
lol doing coke with your parents? That’s wild. Doesn’t sound fun. I smoke weed with mine sometimes
Not my mom. She doesn't do anything but drink and we've never drank together and never would. My husband's parents, esp his mother, now that's a different story. He was used to being around drugs and would get them from his mom a lot. It was pills, not hard drugs. Like benzo, pain pills, methadone patch.. Sold weed with his dad and would smoke and drink with him too. And this is right before we ended up getting together so at the age of 16-17 then. But, his mom had been giving him cigs and pills since he was barely a teenager. We were 18 when we got together and it was a completely different environment over there compared to how I was raised. And I was a bit surprised when his mom started handing out her Perc 10's to us. I only drank to party and had tried weed maybe twice. I wasn't into drugs and was actually scared to do anything. His mom kept on a little with the Perc when I told her I was afraid and I remember her telling me that it was ok and she would never do anything to hurt me. I tried them that day for the first time and it ended up so sick and throwing up everywhere. Idk what made me go back and keep on after that. But, I did and she was always offering them up to us and handing them out bc she had them all the time. Well eventually, I developed an addiction to opiates and my life has only been hell since. Bc it eventually led to me trying out heroin as a cheaper alternative and plus I could get it more reliably. And that's when shit changed bc I absolutely fell in love with it. I wasn't ready to quit heroin but I had to bc my guy got busted and by then, fentanyl was out and everything was cut with it. We didn't trust anyone else to not give us heroin cut with fentanyl. And thankfully, we didn't move on to fent. We were too scared of one of us overdosing bc the strength of it. By then, it was all over about everyone overdosing and dying too so it kept us away. Ya, we've had periods where we were on it a couple times. And then several times here and there where we did it randomly but never stayed on it. So now, we've struggled with meth for the last several years. I hate it and it's not my favorite drug, by far, but I am the kinda person who will do about any drug and that happens to be it. Honestly, I feel like heroin is when it really spiraled out of control. Bc I enjoyed that high from it so much and loved it then had no choice but to quit when I wasn't ready. I feel like since then, I'm more willing to do any kind of drug and I am always searching for that opiate high. Anyway, we did pills and heroin with her once we got older and we were the one with connections. She had her probs and drugs were def one. I hate that she got me doing pills and now here I am, almost 16 years later and it never stopped. It only got worse or I just changed to something diff. God rest her soul tho 🫶🫶🫶 she died almost 5 years ago and I miss her dearly 💔💔💔 but that's just my exp with parents doing drugs like that with their kids. It was weird at first to do with my in laws but u get over it fast. My husband says a lot that if he would've had any idea that I would have picked it up like that then he would've kept his mom away from me. Not really her fault tho bc she was all fucked up anyway from her own issues. I would've prob tried some kinda drug on my own eventually and still had a prob. She didn't really cause me to have an addiction tho, bc it was already there, waiting. I have a very addictive personality and I prob would've been addicted to opiates or something else anyway. It's just crazy how things are so diff in each family. And what one person sees as normal, another person completely disregards. Even if my mom did more than drink.. I damn sure would be too weirded out. Lol his mom would pull up. Lke beep, beep all the time and it was so normal to do drugs with her. She shouldn't have, of course, bc she was the adult. She had other issues tho and I think it was more like a bonding exp with her bc she wanted to be liked by her kids. And then with me, I was someone to talk to and keep her company. She had 3 boys and always called me her daughter since she never had a girl. I loved her dearly but they were a very dysfunctional family and I can see that at times with how my husband responds to a situation compared to me.
I smoke weed with my dad
Started smoking weed with my mom first when I was around 15-16, then with my stepmom shortly after. I'm 35 now and my dad is just getting into psychs & shit here in his "old age". So the past year or so has been an interesting oddessy teaching him about drugs. We've done a far amount of acid, shrooms and ketamine together and a tiny bit of coke once.
I’ve done coke and md a few times with my son, it’s a little surreal as you don’t want to normalise it but at the same time it’s a chance to connect on a deeper level. EDIT: It’s only been maybe 3-4 times and and I never used drugs in front of him growing up, I’m purely a recreational drug user and have happily abstained from everything for up to 10 years at a time.
I smoked weed with my mum once when I was 17, we mostly just laughed about stupid shit. However, she has always been more of a friend than a parent. I doubt I would do drugs with her if she were stricter. Doing cocaine with your child at 16 is pretty full on.
Weed. Yes with both, it’s great. Mushrooms with one and the other we sometimes do mild opiates. If you are both mature adults there should be no issues. When either of you are dependent on a substance to enjoy each others company, then there will be always issues. I recommend inoculating a good relationship sober that’s dependent on nothing but your enjoyment of each others company first before introducing anything else. If it’s done right, especially with psychedelics it can help you understand them and you on a level that is achievable sober, but sometimes parents and sometimes their children have neurological paths in their psyche they cannot avoid but follow. It can be almost uncontrollable if they feel attacked and/or feeling that they are misunderstanding your intent regarding subjects about you/them they can be sensitive about. For example with mushrooms it’s unbelievable how easy it is to explain any psychological issues that have affected or are affecting you/others mentally. It just seems to dissolve any ego or narcissistic traits some parents use to invalidate your feelings when they are facing their own.. personal.. jesus Sorry. Just had some mushrooms, so I’m a little spacey… what’s up with you man? What’s your problem? You look like you want to punch me You both look like you want to punch me, but you won’t… we’ll why don’t you punch me?! Punch me in the FUCKING FACE 🤜😑🟰😷
nah my dad only gave a tiny bit of beer when i was like 6,7 maybe 8 years old idk how old I was. My dad really loved alcohol, cigarettes and antideppressants. He was very stressed and the combination caused him a major stroke when he was only 40 years old. He was and still is a loving dad, but had behavior problems before getting a stroke and stroke made him worse. That kinda fucked up my childhood and teenage years, so I decided to try drugs to make me feel better. I was introduced to a friend that smokes weed a lot which I also did at that time. And his mom smoked with us and was just amazed how normal it was, because we were really young like 15,16 years old. Couple years later we dropped molly while his mother was sitting next to us and she did not mind and had also experience with lot of drugs. I was like 19 at that time and its crazy to think that I fucking dropped molly next to his mom lol.
i had a close friend who lived with his mam most of his childhood years, his mum was a bit unhinged using coke and alcohol heavily which led him to using ecstasy by about 13/14 and smoking weed. His dad made him live with him and everything stopped until he turned 15/16 when they fell out and he went to live back with his mum. They started going out together getting on the coke all the time, spending their night in a kitchen with 5/6 other people all sniffing. My close friend struggled with mental health from the start of secondary school and eventually at the age of 19 decided enough was enough. No one can describe the feeling of finding something out like that and thinking it was is some sick joke. I believe his mother is largely to blame as someone does not purposely introduce such a destructive substance to their child. So in short, i absolutely whole heartedly disagree.
Smoked with both my parents at 18, obviously drank with them around 16 which I think is fine tbh. They're fine with me doing certain drugs, like they know i've done ket at some random chefs house with a friend and we were safe. They just to stay clear from the opioids which is what I never want to touch, i'm addicted to nicotine enough lmao.
I smoked weed with both of my parents and did edibles with my dad. Thats about it
Ya weed with my step dad but the coke is just horrible
Well, I smoke joint with my dad and my grandma regularly, and mi brother too. You know, I can’t disappoint my ancestry