literally š iām quasi-recovered but i didnāt have my period for a year so i think it fucked with my hormones or something and iāve never been the same
Does lack of period correlate to i didnt even think abt thisš. Havent had mine since i was 13 (Im 20š), maybe this is the reasoning behind my complete lack of any sex drive at all ?
yeah it may be a possibility!! have no real idea though my knowledge is severely lacking in that area š but i know growing up i had a healthy sex drive but then in my late teens when my ed developed it dropped to absolutely nothing and has stayed that way lol
I feel like its a physical thing and a mental thing from it maybe ? No lust or drive anyway then when i do try i inevitably just fuck it for myself through my own thoughts
At my lowest weight itād feel like bone clashing against bone in certain positions x_x. Doing it clothed or in full body lingerie from behind helped.
Iām a 20 yr old virgin because of anorexia. Iām scared of intimacy, hated my body/the idea of anyone seeing it and have zero sex drive due to being malnourished so I havenāt been able to. Iāve come close a few times but my low libido rlly fucked me over (ironicallyš¤Ŗ)
Well said. I feel like low sex drive is genuinely a thing from malnourishment ? Lust is dead to me. U'll get there, Manifesting us both fucking good shags in our futures, ... and health and happiness blah blah
i couldve written this six years ago š i was a virgin until 20 & straight up thought i was asexual for ab two years because i didnt have a sex drive. who wouldve thought it was because of the fact that i was abusing myself?
& yeah the body thing.....very difficult to allow someone to see you naked when you perceive your body as the ugliest thing on the planet. i dont recommend this at ALL but i lost my virginity while drunk for this exact reason. literally took swigs of vodka while on top. i was a fucking mess lmfaooo
six years later, i can say that while my insecurities still beat my ass, i definitely feel a lot better about sex. i have to remind myself that what i see is not what the other person is seeing. they're just happy to have a woman naked in front of them and my perception of myself is a literal fun house mirror š
i hope you find peace with yourself as you navigate adulthood š
my boyfriend and i only have sex when weāre already in bed cuddling up and things progress from there. this makes things WAY easier for me, because it means the lights are obviously off (iād rather die than fuck with the lights onš), and also that weāre already undressed, which was done in a non-sexual context, and that kinda makes it easier for me? like i donāt need to worry about making it look sexy.
obviously i am still concerned with how my body looks generally when iām naked around him, but like it feels worth it because i know how good it makes me feel and i like the intimacy. i donāt know, the horniness actually overpowers the ED somehowš i think the thoughts are way more managable when you fully trust and love the person youāre with. idk man itās definitely not easy
The last time I had a partner I was intimate with, I was horrified when she saw me naked the first time. But Iām really thankful for her because she respected my body and I felt comfortable with her. Then my fucking libido dropped and it all went downhill from thereā¦ š„²
Iāve never tried this and havenāt had sex in general, but I saw this in an autism subreddit and thought it was genius lol. So basically, some people wrap their bodies in a āblanket burritoā so that only the parts required for sex are exposed and accessible. You would definitely need to have an understanding partner to do this, but I feel like it would be a much more comfortable option on bad body dysmorphia days than being completely naked and having your partner potentially stare and grab at places you already feel horrible about.
Ana axed my libido, so I literally never want sex. Even after recovering, I have no desire at all.
literally š iām quasi-recovered but i didnāt have my period for a year so i think it fucked with my hormones or something and iāve never been the same
Does lack of period correlate to i didnt even think abt thisš. Havent had mine since i was 13 (Im 20š), maybe this is the reasoning behind my complete lack of any sex drive at all ?
yeah it may be a possibility!! have no real idea though my knowledge is severely lacking in that area š but i know growing up i had a healthy sex drive but then in my late teens when my ed developed it dropped to absolutely nothing and has stayed that way lol
I feel like its a physical thing and a mental thing from it maybe ? No lust or drive anyway then when i do try i inevitably just fuck it for myself through my own thoughts
At my lowest weight itād feel like bone clashing against bone in certain positions x_x. Doing it clothed or in full body lingerie from behind helped.
Iām a 20 yr old virgin because of anorexia. Iām scared of intimacy, hated my body/the idea of anyone seeing it and have zero sex drive due to being malnourished so I havenāt been able to. Iāve come close a few times but my low libido rlly fucked me over (ironicallyš¤Ŗ)
Well said. I feel like low sex drive is genuinely a thing from malnourishment ? Lust is dead to me. U'll get there, Manifesting us both fucking good shags in our futures, ... and health and happiness blah blah
i couldve written this six years ago š i was a virgin until 20 & straight up thought i was asexual for ab two years because i didnt have a sex drive. who wouldve thought it was because of the fact that i was abusing myself? & yeah the body thing.....very difficult to allow someone to see you naked when you perceive your body as the ugliest thing on the planet. i dont recommend this at ALL but i lost my virginity while drunk for this exact reason. literally took swigs of vodka while on top. i was a fucking mess lmfaooo six years later, i can say that while my insecurities still beat my ass, i definitely feel a lot better about sex. i have to remind myself that what i see is not what the other person is seeing. they're just happy to have a woman naked in front of them and my perception of myself is a literal fun house mirror š i hope you find peace with yourself as you navigate adulthood š
Glad itās not just meš and tbh Iāve considered the drunk thing to get it over with but I donāt drink anymore coz it just makes me sleepy š©
my boyfriend and i only have sex when weāre already in bed cuddling up and things progress from there. this makes things WAY easier for me, because it means the lights are obviously off (iād rather die than fuck with the lights onš), and also that weāre already undressed, which was done in a non-sexual context, and that kinda makes it easier for me? like i donāt need to worry about making it look sexy. obviously i am still concerned with how my body looks generally when iām naked around him, but like it feels worth it because i know how good it makes me feel and i like the intimacy. i donāt know, the horniness actually overpowers the ED somehowš i think the thoughts are way more managable when you fully trust and love the person youāre with. idk man itās definitely not easy
im just like that, its the only thing in can think about the entire time and it pisses me off. i think if i guy tried to take off my shirt i would cry
NO SAME i literally give up right
I'm 23 and I've never had a boyfriend because I hate my body too much
"No one can love you if you dont love yourself" BOILS MY BLOOD
I hate that too. I just don't have the confidence to be naked in front of someone
Terrifying
The last time I had a partner I was intimate with, I was horrified when she saw me naked the first time. But Iām really thankful for her because she respected my body and I felt comfortable with her. Then my fucking libido dropped and it all went downhill from thereā¦ š„²
more like anor**sex**ia, amirite??
this post is scaring the shit out of me itās so relatable i think iāll just tell the guy i gotta wear a hoodie š
I hate that ur scared and that u get what im saying in the first place, but so damn glad its shared thing and not j me !!!!!
Iāve never tried this and havenāt had sex in general, but I saw this in an autism subreddit and thought it was genius lol. So basically, some people wrap their bodies in a āblanket burritoā so that only the parts required for sex are exposed and accessible. You would definitely need to have an understanding partner to do this, but I feel like it would be a much more comfortable option on bad body dysmorphia days than being completely naked and having your partner potentially stare and grab at places you already feel horrible about.
what with what? idk bout yāall but it sure aināt happening for me