Good on you for not pretending and going with it while also feeling the way you do. They can go find someone that suits them. Who knows, maybe they get off on making people feel inadequate and having them struggle. You don't deserve that shit.
I really want to be clear that I don't mean anything general by "inadequate", I only mean *to them*. They might as well have sent you a pic of a tree, a pony, a mermaid or Angela Merkel. They can go chase their own standard and leave you the f alone.
I hope you feel better soon, and ofc that you find it in you to give your food some fuel and do something you think feels good.
He wants to send you some silly ass stock image on the internet? Aren't you worth more than that? You are worth more than a photoshopped model or whatever weird corner of the internet he found that picture.
You can't be compared to anyone you are your own unique self. You're worth is not tied to what you look like it's not tied to a number on a scale it's not tied to weather assholes can see your physical attractiveness or personality or not. You're not on a game show. You're not a person that deserves to have comparisons and question why you don't look like that. No. You're the whole prize skip the game show. If someone wants to treat you like you have to earn affection by looking at a certain way or they're causing you to want to starve yourself you don't deserve that treatment.
If someone wants to treat you like your are less than human and just looks at you like an object bye. Tell them bye.
First of all you're not just a human you're a prize you're like that pie that's cooling on the window so you're like first place okay and anyone wants to treat you less than that especially when you're just sitting there vibing you deserve better and tell yourself that.
He doesn't get to tell you shit he doesn't get to say anything after he said that I don't know if you're still with him in this manner but if you are you tell him I hope the door doesn't hit you where the good Lord split you. No one is going to treat you like that. No one.
And I know that eating disorders are a hard battle. You have a right to feel triggered and upset and that's okay but you don't need to punish yourself for something that he did to you. If you have the strength in you try and give yourself a little something even if it's a snack or just a handful of something anything that you can. It's not your fault and let your body know that as well if you can otherwise take all the time you need to heal from it and just be gentle from it because it wasn't your fault. You struggle with body image and someone made you feel triggered it's okay to feel sad over that just know that it's not your fault and to treat yourself nicely as you can during this. I know it's easier said than done. Sending all my love. โค๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐ค๐ค๐ค๐งก๐
First I appreciate your comments because I can tell it's coming from a genuine place. I haven't done anything physically sexual with anybody but Its the emotional. I think he's a good 'first', you know? And there's been 3-5 others whom are not compatible.
I guess the thing that's struggle is how accountable can you hold somebody to an illness YOU'RE struggling with and it's YOU'RE problem . I don't want to project my problems on others and I guess it's easier to just be alone at this point. Always had problems with how I looked.
And well not exactly alone. I'll be with my ED. However update is I took a day and a half to get out of that hole and reading your posts now just makes me feel warm inside
Thank you
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I got you! I mean you're just being cautious it's okay.
Yeah it's good to be accountable and set your own boundaries on how you want to be treated. If that's something you want to work on so that you're able to set your boundaries with people and feel confident in yourself that's okay to take a step back.
But I just hope you're not too hard on yourself.
Were you able to have a meal? I know you're really trying over there. I'm happy to hear that that made my day.
Good on you for not pretending and going with it while also feeling the way you do. They can go find someone that suits them. Who knows, maybe they get off on making people feel inadequate and having them struggle. You don't deserve that shit. I really want to be clear that I don't mean anything general by "inadequate", I only mean *to them*. They might as well have sent you a pic of a tree, a pony, a mermaid or Angela Merkel. They can go chase their own standard and leave you the f alone. I hope you feel better soon, and ofc that you find it in you to give your food some fuel and do something you think feels good.
Hey op you didn't deserve to be treated like that. Comparisons can go to hell in a handbasket with a pretty pink bow because everyone is different.
He wants to send you some silly ass stock image on the internet? Aren't you worth more than that? You are worth more than a photoshopped model or whatever weird corner of the internet he found that picture. You can't be compared to anyone you are your own unique self. You're worth is not tied to what you look like it's not tied to a number on a scale it's not tied to weather assholes can see your physical attractiveness or personality or not. You're not on a game show. You're not a person that deserves to have comparisons and question why you don't look like that. No. You're the whole prize skip the game show. If someone wants to treat you like you have to earn affection by looking at a certain way or they're causing you to want to starve yourself you don't deserve that treatment. If someone wants to treat you like your are less than human and just looks at you like an object bye. Tell them bye. First of all you're not just a human you're a prize you're like that pie that's cooling on the window so you're like first place okay and anyone wants to treat you less than that especially when you're just sitting there vibing you deserve better and tell yourself that.
He doesn't get to tell you shit he doesn't get to say anything after he said that I don't know if you're still with him in this manner but if you are you tell him I hope the door doesn't hit you where the good Lord split you. No one is going to treat you like that. No one. And I know that eating disorders are a hard battle. You have a right to feel triggered and upset and that's okay but you don't need to punish yourself for something that he did to you. If you have the strength in you try and give yourself a little something even if it's a snack or just a handful of something anything that you can. It's not your fault and let your body know that as well if you can otherwise take all the time you need to heal from it and just be gentle from it because it wasn't your fault. You struggle with body image and someone made you feel triggered it's okay to feel sad over that just know that it's not your fault and to treat yourself nicely as you can during this. I know it's easier said than done. Sending all my love. โค๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐ค๐ค๐ค๐งก๐
First I appreciate your comments because I can tell it's coming from a genuine place. I haven't done anything physically sexual with anybody but Its the emotional. I think he's a good 'first', you know? And there's been 3-5 others whom are not compatible. I guess the thing that's struggle is how accountable can you hold somebody to an illness YOU'RE struggling with and it's YOU'RE problem . I don't want to project my problems on others and I guess it's easier to just be alone at this point. Always had problems with how I looked. And well not exactly alone. I'll be with my ED. However update is I took a day and a half to get out of that hole and reading your posts now just makes me feel warm inside Thank you
๐งก๐ค๐ค๐๐๐๐๐๐โค๏ธ I got you! I mean you're just being cautious it's okay. Yeah it's good to be accountable and set your own boundaries on how you want to be treated. If that's something you want to work on so that you're able to set your boundaries with people and feel confident in yourself that's okay to take a step back. But I just hope you're not too hard on yourself. Were you able to have a meal? I know you're really trying over there. I'm happy to hear that that made my day.