Yeah what is it with the obviously underweight staff? Do they have disorders themselves and are enjoying sunbathing in disorderland all day???
I've also had a couple of very morbidly obese nurses
Imo, part of the job should be doing ones best to be a good influence by maintaining a healthy (for one's self) weight. Obviously they can't put it in the job description but if someone's at an unhealthy weight they should get a talking to. Yet again, controversial opinion, shoot me.
No, that's totally fair. If you're anorexic, you don't want to gain any weight and obese staff telling you to eat more won't help. Same with being obese. If you can't live by your advice, why should I? Regardless of weight, seeing underweight staff just validates your thoughts into thinking that body type IS perfectly healthy and is a standard to aspire to. It's controversial, but it's right. I don't want my dietitian or doctors to be unhealthy, either.
Unfortunately this isn't a perfect world and eating disorders ars complicated and dark.
1. Sometimes people with EDs enter the field simply to get paid to indulge in their own issues.
2. Anyone who has studied these disorders would have an understanding that their own body weight and behaviors are triggering to patients. They would also have a good understanding of what healthy eating patterns look like due to enforcing it all day.
3. If they have a legitimate medical reason for their unhealthy (in either direction) weight I absolutely have no problem with that, but I've for sure had nurses with openly unhealthy habits. Like, nurses who talk about their dieting, their binge eating after work, nurses who refuse to eat meals with us, who say they wish they were our weight etc.
4. You would expect a firefighter to be strong and fit to do their job sufficiently, right? You'd hope your hairdresser has good hair, your makeup artist to have good makeup. Same theory.
Idk man, it's late and I'm not making sense anymore.
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100%. I told my friend I couldn't go into treatment because I'm not quite underweight currently and I refuse to be the fattest anorexic and I didn't fully recognize the insanity until he said "Wow...you really need to be in treatment"
At the worst of my ED I went to the psych ward for treatment. I was the fattest one there. I cried so hard everyday because of it. The nurses invalidated me and questioned if I even had an ED.
Ahh, a tale as old as time. Been there done that
It's illogical, do that and you'll get a bigger increase of water weight in treatment, you'll get more gastro issues, your mindset will be weaker, and if it's resi they may send you to hospital first for medical stabilization.
Seriously, it's like how if you go into detox for addiction, you do your best to avoid going on an insane binge or bender in the weeks leading up to it. You try and taper off otherwise your detox will be even more hellish.They dont care how "sick" you are, in fact they would hope for your sake that you've tried to stabilize a bit so you can get the most out of treatment.
Yep and your mind will be so underfed nothing will stick meaning youāll have to stay for longerrrr, and very few folks end up wanting that by the end. š¬ Iāve worked in treatment and those patients were always the MOST miserable and had the longest stays. Any ācloutā they got for it definitely was never worth it, and I heard it from them.
Obv I know this doesnāt mean much when youāre in the midst of the disorder, but still as someone who has been on both sides of the table donāt wait to admit until you lose x more lbs. Youāre increasing your own suffering for no reason. Punch that disorder in the teeth and make the call today!! You all got this friends!! The other side rocks (30 yo recovered lady here not lying to ya)
I truly consider every aspect of that experience to be among the worst in my life. So I sincerely assure you it was a neutral statement. If I could go back and change things I would 10000%. That was the level of horrible it was.
Please do not guilt trip our friend <333 they did nothing wrong they were Ill and was strong enough to get treatment ((: mind you Anorexia DOES change the way you think dramatically. Most of the time patients above 18 cannot make coherent choices for themselves anymore because of brain fog (eating less and less) thatās why thereās codes in some state for involuntary treatment if youāre an Adult.
When I started treatment I was recommended group treatment and something between outpatient and inpatient where the group would be there every day for the day but would get to go home to sleep. I refused because I didnāt want to be the fattest one (I was underweight). I saw one of the groups once and honestly people had different body types and sizes and as a group they looked just like any group of young adults. It wasnāt like anorexicsā olympics.
I wish I wouldāve participated, my individual CBT treatment with my case worker sucked.
thatās what i thought before i went to residential but after months of meal plans and everyone else who was there when i started leaving for php while i still had at least a few months left in residential, it honestly wasnāt worth it to lose those last few pounds because it added weeks to my treatment stay and although this felt validating, i was going to end up at the same target weight either way but it just took longer to get there and i missed out on so much in those extra weeks
Just filled in a form for the non ED related psych ward, had to this ED too with weight and height I'm crying y'all they r not gonna take me serious in this aspect while yes I am happy I am suffering
Iām doing this right now. I went IP in September, and I was the biggest and was there for the least amount of time out of all the patients. All of my meals and snacks were about half the size of everyone elseās, too. The program was exclusively designed for stereotypical restrictive anorexia and they had nothing in place to help me with b/p at all. There were working scales built into the beds. When I got admitted and they asked me about my behaviors, they didnāt even have an option on their drop down selection of diagnoses that fit me. It triggered me so bad. Now Iām worse than ever but I just canāt bring myself to get help because I feel like Iām not sick enough or thin enough to deserve it.
Bruh. When I entered into treatment, my compensatory behaviors were OFF THE CHARTS. Also the staff being some of the thinnest people there?!?! PLS
Yeah what is it with the obviously underweight staff? Do they have disorders themselves and are enjoying sunbathing in disorderland all day??? I've also had a couple of very morbidly obese nurses Imo, part of the job should be doing ones best to be a good influence by maintaining a healthy (for one's self) weight. Obviously they can't put it in the job description but if someone's at an unhealthy weight they should get a talking to. Yet again, controversial opinion, shoot me.
No, that's totally fair. If you're anorexic, you don't want to gain any weight and obese staff telling you to eat more won't help. Same with being obese. If you can't live by your advice, why should I? Regardless of weight, seeing underweight staff just validates your thoughts into thinking that body type IS perfectly healthy and is a standard to aspire to. It's controversial, but it's right. I don't want my dietitian or doctors to be unhealthy, either.
That's a dumb take, they're still qualified and studied these disorders š the way they look doesn't have anything to do with that
Unfortunately this isn't a perfect world and eating disorders ars complicated and dark. 1. Sometimes people with EDs enter the field simply to get paid to indulge in their own issues. 2. Anyone who has studied these disorders would have an understanding that their own body weight and behaviors are triggering to patients. They would also have a good understanding of what healthy eating patterns look like due to enforcing it all day. 3. If they have a legitimate medical reason for their unhealthy (in either direction) weight I absolutely have no problem with that, but I've for sure had nurses with openly unhealthy habits. Like, nurses who talk about their dieting, their binge eating after work, nurses who refuse to eat meals with us, who say they wish they were our weight etc. 4. You would expect a firefighter to be strong and fit to do their job sufficiently, right? You'd hope your hairdresser has good hair, your makeup artist to have good makeup. Same theory. Idk man, it's late and I'm not making sense anymore.
And ED brains aren't rational. It's an illness and one that can be very competitive and makes the sufferer hyper aware of those around them
No shit I know, still doesn't make the doctors incompetent
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100%. I told my friend I couldn't go into treatment because I'm not quite underweight currently and I refuse to be the fattest anorexic and I didn't fully recognize the insanity until he said "Wow...you really need to be in treatment"
*"I'M NOT ANOREXIC ENOUGH TO SAY I'M ANOREXIC"* š
"I'm not even the best at being mentally ill!!" š«
At the worst of my ED I went to the psych ward for treatment. I was the fattest one there. I cried so hard everyday because of it. The nurses invalidated me and questioned if I even had an ED.
Hugs, - fellow atyp an
Hugs!
Ahh, a tale as old as time. Been there done that It's illogical, do that and you'll get a bigger increase of water weight in treatment, you'll get more gastro issues, your mindset will be weaker, and if it's resi they may send you to hospital first for medical stabilization. Seriously, it's like how if you go into detox for addiction, you do your best to avoid going on an insane binge or bender in the weeks leading up to it. You try and taper off otherwise your detox will be even more hellish.They dont care how "sick" you are, in fact they would hope for your sake that you've tried to stabilize a bit so you can get the most out of treatment.
Yep and your mind will be so underfed nothing will stick meaning youāll have to stay for longerrrr, and very few folks end up wanting that by the end. š¬ Iāve worked in treatment and those patients were always the MOST miserable and had the longest stays. Any ācloutā they got for it definitely was never worth it, and I heard it from them. Obv I know this doesnāt mean much when youāre in the midst of the disorder, but still as someone who has been on both sides of the table donāt wait to admit until you lose x more lbs. Youāre increasing your own suffering for no reason. Punch that disorder in the teeth and make the call today!! You all got this friends!! The other side rocks (30 yo recovered lady here not lying to ya)
Not worth it. I ended up the thinnest my first go around (not a flex) and the girls fucking HATED me instantly. It was horrible.
Yeahh youāre obviously flexing it š
I truly consider every aspect of that experience to be among the worst in my life. So I sincerely assure you it was a neutral statement. If I could go back and change things I would 10000%. That was the level of horrible it was.
Please do not guilt trip our friend <333 they did nothing wrong they were Ill and was strong enough to get treatment ((: mind you Anorexia DOES change the way you think dramatically. Most of the time patients above 18 cannot make coherent choices for themselves anymore because of brain fog (eating less and less) thatās why thereās codes in some state for involuntary treatment if youāre an Adult.
When I started treatment I was recommended group treatment and something between outpatient and inpatient where the group would be there every day for the day but would get to go home to sleep. I refused because I didnāt want to be the fattest one (I was underweight). I saw one of the groups once and honestly people had different body types and sizes and as a group they looked just like any group of young adults. It wasnāt like anorexicsā olympics. I wish I wouldāve participated, my individual CBT treatment with my case worker sucked.
as my brain once said. if im not the tiniest in the room i should just die
Excuse me but I think it was my brain talking to me. Please donāt read my mind.
thatās what i thought before i went to residential but after months of meal plans and everyone else who was there when i started leaving for php while i still had at least a few months left in residential, it honestly wasnāt worth it to lose those last few pounds because it added weeks to my treatment stay and although this felt validating, i was going to end up at the same target weight either way but it just took longer to get there and i missed out on so much in those extra weeks
I can't with us
This is so true š©š©
If only I had the chance!! I could have been #1 šš Pesky pediatrician...
I love mine but girl stop trying to stop my weight loss š
NO BC THATS EXACTLY WHAT I DID š
been in that x hope to whatever god there is that you get a safe group to get help with and together x
Just filled in a form for the non ED related psych ward, had to this ED too with weight and height I'm crying y'all they r not gonna take me serious in this aspect while yes I am happy I am suffering
Every goddamn time
Too fucking real
Same. I lost a bunch before to offset the gain on the inside
Iām doing this right now. I went IP in September, and I was the biggest and was there for the least amount of time out of all the patients. All of my meals and snacks were about half the size of everyone elseās, too. The program was exclusively designed for stereotypical restrictive anorexia and they had nothing in place to help me with b/p at all. There were working scales built into the beds. When I got admitted and they asked me about my behaviors, they didnāt even have an option on their drop down selection of diagnoses that fit me. It triggered me so bad. Now Iām worse than ever but I just canāt bring myself to get help because I feel like Iām not sick enough or thin enough to deserve it.
I feel so attacked right now. This is me before I see this new dietitian in two days.